NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE...
AT A DEAD END -DIALOGUE OR WALK AWAY
Hi ST!
I trust you are doing great. I visit your blog always but comment as anonymous. Please, I do not want you to cross your legs like a mermaid and read comments. I want you, together with your BVs to advise me...no matter how harsh. Please hide my e-mail address.
Now to my story; I am 24years and Mr M is 26. We officially began dating in 2009. This is our 7th year together. He is my first; first boyfriend and he disvirgined me as well. To be honest, it was never rosy. We 'fought' a lot of times even over petty things but I still loved him right through it all. Our family knew about us and we were hoping that someday, we would walk down the aisle...together.
Real problem started when I got pregnant for him in 2013. He was not ready and I was so scared. I aborted MY baby. I regret it every nanosecond of every single day and i cry a lot. Its really not something i would ever get over. I am going to die someday with this pain and guilt. I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I was emotionally unstable and this caused a strain in our relationship. I had lots of mood swings(I still do), was depressed and suicidal(I still am). I also felt he did not want me anymore. He really was not calling frequently and he did not want to add me on any of his social media platforms. In 2014, I had to go to another state for a program and this further strained our relationship.
I knew the relationship was not leading anywhere but I still loved him. I was scared I was not going to love anyone how I loved him so somehow, I stayed.
There was a time i went through his phone and i almost got me shattered but yet for the fact that i loved him so much, I still stayed. I blamed it all on me. Maybe i was not beautiful enough (I battle with severe acne) or maybe i needed to put on a lil weight for him to still desire me a lot. I even suggested at some point that he dates someone else and compare who was better and that if he still wants me, I will be right there waiting for him(yes, my self-esteem is that low).
I have had some advances from men, but each time i try to take a step further with someone, something draws me back to him. I cant even go through his phone gallery for the fear of getting hurt. I just wanted to live in oblivion and love him in ignorance. And no, we did not take no oath.
I went to visit him somedays ago and I felt something was not right. He was always on the phone, texting and receiving texts. I told myself i was not going to snoop. Truth is, I was convinced he had someone but i couldnt cope with the truth. I was scared of confronting what was obvious. He says he loves me so i thought everything will still be all right.
When i could not bear it any longer, i decided to go through his gallery(at least that was less invasive) to see if he even has some pictures of me. Well, there were no pictures of me at all and my number was unsaved in his phone. However, I saw the pictures of a particular girl i know and the both of them very well plastered all over his phone. This prompted me to go through his messages and yes, he has been with this girl for some months now. He told the girl I am his ex.
I am heartbroken to say the least. I dont even have the emotional stability to confront him. I cant stand it. I just might lose it all. Should I have a dialogue with him for the very last time or Should I just QUIETLY walk away? Please BVs, help me. Cuss me all you want but still offer some advice. Thank you.
*starts to advise and then remembers....side eyes at BVN*
*starts to advise and then remembers....side eyes at BVN*
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP BROUHAHA
There is this particular guy that has been my friend for a long time, he is the President of my fellowship,we use to be friends no feelings attached back then
Till we finished, he went for service I also travelled out of the country for another course and the whole love story started,we loved each other so much,the communication was superb until one day......
Till we finished, he went for service I also travelled out of the country for another course and the whole love story started,we loved each other so much,the communication was superb until one day......
he complained to me about the distance and the fact that I won't be coming to Nigeria till next year cos he wants to get married in the next 2 years... I tried explaining things to him that things won't be that easy for me to come over,he pretended as if he understood everything until last week he sent me a message that I should see him as d friend, brother and pastor that I have been seeing him as initially.
I cried my life out,this is the person I have learn to love...right now am so confused,I miss him so much, I want my love back,I don't know what to do,he sent me a message earlier that he is missing me...Please you guys should advise me on what to do....thanks in advance.
Brother has found someone else..ooops!*keep quiet Stella!*
Reading comments.
ReplyDeleteBrb.
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Poster1&2, move on already, u deserve better, what else do u want poster1, until he drag u by d hair and throw u out??? Poster2 never beg a man to luv u,plss pick urself, dust ur ass and move on dear.
Delete@poster 1. I guess I understand what you re going through,yes I know because I have been through a similar situation before and the only way out is to love yourself,learning to love your self is the first step to take,you need to understand the fact that even if you decide to commit suicide today that will quickly move on and he ll not even feel the guilt. Life happens and shit happens.its sad that you find yourself in this emotional mess but truth is its common for ladies to get so attached to their first love,pls work on your self esteem,get closer to God,look and feel beautiful and move on quietly,do not confront him,because I bet you at the end of the confrontation you ll feel worse than you already do.
DeleteP1 move on quietly pls.dnt bother asking him becos wat he says will hurt ur feelings more. Pele and be strong.real luv will definately locate u.jst open ur heart and heal
DeleteBoth of you should allow time to heal your pain...in few years, you would be thankful to God they left you
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Poster 1&2 when you find yourself in pursuit of a man,its time to back off! A man should be in pursuit! Most men mean it when they say its over or show you through their actions.you both deserve better!
DeleteAll the best
Poster 1: what you feel for him is not love,you are a weak woman.very weak!
DeleteThat is why I don't like long distance relationship. It isn't easy to maintain. It is requires heavy commitment from both parties. @poster 2 let the guy go as both of you will just hurt each other.
Delete@poster 1 you need to take a sabatical from men for at least a year to get your bearings and leave that guy.
@poster 1&2 love hurts.. Y'all gatta learn how not to beat ursef up when it comes to love and move on.. Have a "what will be will be" attitude.. Good luck dears
DeletePoster 1, I just wanna hug you so tight. There's light at the end of the tunnel. I can help you get your groove back. You are beautiful.
DeletePoster 1&2...pls move on quietly.u deserve better.
DeleteJesus Take control!! You are the one who can help out.
ReplyDeleteStella said.. "This Narrative just broke me", everything shocks or breaks you Stella, don't raise ur BP for nothing oh, for ppl that walk into fire with their eyes wide open & still ask how to get out, we seem to dishing out same advise daily, yet similar chronicles keep pouring in... This thing called love is really strong i swear, cus the brain works 24/7 even wen ure asleep, it only stops working wen ure dead or in love.... Those of u throwing insults easily & degrading comments, you'd be amazed how it aint that easy to move on.
DeletePoster 1, work on your acne first then maybe your self esteem will improve, cos you really need it.
DeleteEvery night, mix a little honey (organic) with turmeric powder and baking soda(not baking powder). Mix together and apply generously on your face, gently scrub your face with it then leave for 1hr and wash with soap. Get a small bottle, mix half apple cider vinegar (BRAGG is the best brand) and half water. Put a little on a cotton wool, and wipe your face after the face mask, also wipe your face with it every morning after bathing and use coconut oil as your face cream. Trust me, my face was terrible before but you need to see me now, everything has cleared after a few months.
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DeletePoster 1 abeg dnt ask anythg.. rest for the matter.. go gather self esteem for the next relationship.. poster 2 cry well its healthy.. it relieves your heart..
DeleteP1: You need to learn to value yourself cos when you do, you will know exactly what to do with a man who is clearly using u and taking you for granted.
DeleteHow can u for a second even consider staying back in this kind of unhealthy relationship?
What u need is a fresh start. This relationship will bring u nothing but heartbreak and unrest. So what kind of future do u foresee in dis kind of situation?
Start afresh, get rid of anything that reminds u of him and break every communication with him. Turn ur life over to Jesus, find the peace and d true love u need in Him. That's one way u can get to learn to forgive urself for d past mistakes u've made (the abortion etc).
U deserve better dear. U are special and valuable. That's why Jesus died for u in d first place. Don't let any man tell u otherwise. And pls in ur next relationship, save sex for marriage. Don't sell urself cheap bc u aren't.
All d best.
P2: Don't force it. In situations that u can't do anything about allow God handle it.
I believe he still does love u and prolly d long distance thing is affecting him. This could be a gimmick for him to woo u back earlier than u intended, maybe.
Just hang in there. Be strong. Am sure he will get back to u soon. Stop crying and let God order ur steps in all of this. His will must be done if u allow it.
Relax dear. It's not easy but just hold on. It will work itself out. Focus.
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Poster 1 and 2: you need the same advise which is move on quickly, and stop acting like you don't know what decision to make or take.
DeleteAm I human? When I read things Like this I wonder if I'm actually human. Cos the way I fling boyfriends and intending boyfriends ehn.... I no dey even look back. Right from my frist bf. Hmm.... Una dey try oh!
DeleteHahahhahaa chikito I can relate oo. Me too I dey fling anyhow lol. Until I find the right one
DeleteYeah we team fling
DeleteWill read comment first
ReplyDeleteThat is how to know someone who live their life to please the people. U want to read comments and see the advice given and then tag along.
DeleteFollow follow.
Poster 1, just move on. I know how hard it is to but please do don't bother having any talk with him, it's not necessary 'cause you might hear the worst
DeletePoster 2, is there no man in the abroad?
Both posters are unbelievably stupid!!! They both just pissed me off.Poster 1,YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO WOMANHOOD!! Stupid idiot.
DeletePoster two long distance relationships never work. I should known don't bother yourself. He has found someone else. Move on
DeletePoster one your self esteem is down on the floor. It's now a rug sef and your so called bf has been walking and cleaning his feet on it. Try to live yourself. The first step is to leave that man. I used to be like you but not as bad as you though. Thank God I'm over it
End time Ihn
ReplyDeleteEnd time suicide heart breakers on the move again with wandering konji. Ladies u hv the power to deal with them.
DeletePoster 1 :tht ur guy is an end time suicide heart breaker just like poster 1 move on.
Love will find u again, u will find love.
He is a love haram
DeleteIHN??
DeleteYepaa! Definitely not....
DeleteMaybe it was end time typing gragra.
Yepaa! Definitely not....
DeleteMaybe it was end time typing gragra.
Poster 1: LEAVE!!!!!! Must u reduce ur already low self esteem again? Ahan!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: who says love cannot come again? Leave him babes, u wld find another better man.
Poster 2, :tht ur guy is an end time suicide heart breaker.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 I feel sorry for you. I'm a man. Before you even matured, as a pimple ridden teenager Mr man don dey profess love. But you got pregnant after 7 years of being together and he asked you to abort. My dear Mr. M real name is Lucifer Bastard. I feel sorry for you and women like you everywhere who feel it's their responsibility to please good for nothing men.
ReplyDeletePele
Poster 2 tell Mr man to go and apply for visa to see you or dump his broke ass. There are husband material even where you are.
Why are women dull for the most part
Asin...dull women. Both poster 1&2
DeleteLmao. Three gbosa for you. Ahn ahn! Wetin? If it's not werking it's not werking. Warris all this? Too many dull women indeed oh
DeletePoster1 Move on
ReplyDeletePoster2 Move the heck on!
Phone love ko
Narrative 1: I know your Mr M. Same age, same description. He's a womanizer. I know him wella and av seen you with him on several occasions.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: lol...brother found someone else but is not sure if she's the right one for him. He's trying to use one stone to kill two birds
U know him ,U know him . Is that the solution to the problem here ?Is that what u were asked to do ? Advise you no advise ... Pls go and sit.
DeleteGbam!
DeleteYou Monitoring spirit,I bind you in jesus name
DeleteWorld people are you high ni? I'm not the causer of your frustration o.
DeleteLmao! As in eh. Poster 2 he's trying to use 1 stone to kill two very strong birds. It's between you & whoever he has found. Remember you're not there so you no fit put eye for wetin e dey talk. Sister ke. Take him as a gateman and dump his ass. Nonsense.
Delete@1&2, bith of u are very stupid for loving foolishly, y do u girls keep begging for love, I honestly don't understand, u now see y it's good to keep at least 2-3 guts at the same time, it will save u of heart ache, both of u are ugly dats y u guys are finding it hard to move on, rubbish chronicle.
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteHahahaha, I agree with u abeg
DeleteNasoso love love, didn't read any where that the said guys spoilt u guys, keep loving o. It's very healthy. Mshew
ReplyDeletePlease stop with such advice xoxo what's this guy/bf thing you should rather tell them to work on themselves as ladies and be the best of what they dream of let them see if quality men won't come after them and not tell them to keep hundred men
DeletePoster 1 you already know the answer to your question.
ReplyDeleteWhat will confronting him do for you? You still want to hear the bitter truth right? Then go ahead and ask him just to further break your heart.
Might I add that I am prochoice Abi kilonpe.
Abortion is a sin yes but I own my body and can do what the hell I want with it including removing a child I am not ready to have or care for reason protection or abstinence is very important if you're not ready for the consequences.
Madam walk away.
The relationship is obviously dead.
Poster 2 no men where you at?
Men don't call you or what's special about bros.
Gbam
DeleteIf your mother was pro choice, where would you be now?
DeleteChai am broken as well... Brb!
ReplyDeletePoster one
ReplyDeleteHe realized u lack self esteem. No man wants to mingle with a lady with no self love or self pride @least little. quietly leave n never go back
Poster 2
He certainly has someone else
A man that wants u would do everything to secure his relationship. Do not think of coming down soon to secure ur relationship cod it will make no difference. Continue whatever u are doing, get a stable career n the love of your life will locate u soonest.
U think everyone has the mind to do evil and stay calm.
DeleteAm sure h have done several counts of DNC that is why u can be unshakable in such issue's.
U think everyone has the mind to do evil and stay calm.
DeleteAm sure h have done several counts of DNC that is why u can be unshakable in such issue's.
Dubai connection did u menstruate wrongly under my post???? What are u saying??
DeleteLol. Menstruate ke?
DeleteHmmmmmm
End time Menstruation niyen.
Some bv's can lie, there is a bv here who is always claiming that she is married,meanwhile she never marry at all,she is so fucking single. Pls we shd try nd be ourselves nd stop lieing perhap nobody asked her if she's married in d 1st place.
ReplyDeleteShe is lying that she is married becoz she no want decoders to decode who she is.
DeleteLearn from her,coz the moment h bring your true self here decoders would decode u and bring u down.
She is lying that she is married becoz she no want decoders to decode who she is.
DeleteLearn from her,coz the moment h bring your true self here decoders would decode u and bring u down.
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DeleteShoooo! I know a bv lyk that maybe she is the one. A kind of popular bv that stays with her people and stil claim that she is married, she told me last year or 2014 that she is married bt she is not
DeletePoster one...be like dem swear for u. Looks like d boy can shine congo very well, else I don't c what's keeping u there.
ReplyDeletePoster two, brother has found someone else...don't deceive yourself.
That queen and boss abi??
DeleteYou like fuck eh, this blackberry.
DeleteSome bv's can lie, there is a bv here who is always claiming that she is married,meanwhile she never marry at all,she is so fucking single. Pls we shd try nd be ourselves nd stop lieing perhap nobody asked her if she's married in d 1st place.
ReplyDeleteShe said it in faith. Forgive her ehn
DeleteI think I know the girl,She's a known bv here
DeletePoster 1snd poster 2
ReplyDeleteMove on .
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteI need to see you in real life so I can slap some sense into your empty brain...
Like WTF is this nonsense?...
You had an abortion and so fucking what?...
Most girls that are not virgin have done it countless time...so yours is not new...
Meanwhile,can you quietly leave that nonsense you called a relationship??...a guy treats you like shit and you still stay put like a Mumu asking us a stupid question..
Mtcheeeww....
See another stupid Mumu person asking a Mumu question...
Poster 2,I think you need the slap more...
Move on with your life!!...
Don't mind the foolish poster 1.Are you the first? You're just an imbecile!!
DeleteGbam
DeleteWhen kids go into relationship these things happen.
ReplyDeleteGone are the days when a girl gets stuck with a guy just because he was 'your' first! Please quietly move on, someone better might be waiting. Not every one is lucky with the one who first tasted. Some guys are never satisfied though.
ReplyDeleteBoth Posters: Just cry your eyes out & move on..... Heartbreak is almost inevitable in ones life, its like a passage to something great.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I wish I could hug you right now and tell you that you will be ok. My dear, leave the guy. He has moved on and just screwing you as extra. Focus on yourself and wait for the right guy to come. Try to forgive yourself and also take your issue to God. It is well
ReplyDeletePoster2: let the dude go. At least he was honest. Move on
P1. I'll advice you walk away now that is quite EARLY. Dun wait for the bomb Cus you might not survive it. It's quite easy for a guy to persuade a girl to love him, n it's vewi hard for a girl to do likewise to a guy. Once the love is lost, it can only take the grace of GOD to bring it back.
ReplyDeletePlz move on.
P2: this ain't worth a chronicle... Dun even know whad you are talking about.
To the both posters please learn to move on, God has always given me the strength to move on in life each time a man feels I CNT do without him. You too learn it and ask d holy spirit to help you out, no man or guy worthy your tears and life. Let them go cos I konw some day love will find you both. Goodluck
ReplyDeletePoster 1, please walk away!
ReplyDeleteThat guy doesn't deserve you one bit.
He has had enough of you and I think you made it obvious to him that without him you can't live.
Please no need going to dialogue with him, walk away!!!
Pick up your self esteem, dress well and socialize, my dear men will run after you rather than killing yourself brcause of someone who doesn't regard you.
Poster 1, pls gather all the strength in you and walk away quietly. Dialogue with him won't change anything, rather he wil just pretend to change for a while. Truth is, he is tired of u. Its painful but pls be strong. Give another man change and u will see that the other guy was just a waste of time. In the future u will thank God it didn't work out. Hugs to u darling
ReplyDeleteEnd time suicide heart breakers on the move again with wandering konjis. Ladies u hv the power to deal with them.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 :tht ur guy is an end time suicide heart breaker just like poster 1 move on.
Love will find u again, u will find love.
You will find love again, believe tht... As long as you breath. Just let him go and live,love ursef. You are beautiful at heart,even in and out! Stay blessed @poster 1
ReplyDeletePoster2... It is well, God will give u the strength to carry on,tht bro don carry on. Na dem church bro bad pass
Poster1 Yes quietly walk away,invest your time in hobbies that you like and work. As for your self esteem and mood swings I suggest, you see a councillor and try loving yourself more.
ReplyDeletePoster one.u jst narrated my story. The only diffetence is that i v now overcome my self esteem and now married wt kids. My dear believe me,when u get married to ur dream man u will punch ur self so many times fr being a fool and sticking to an ass hole. Then,i cldnt leave the guy cos i tot after my abortion no one deserved me. I tot i own him my life even when it was obvoius he wanted me no more. But oneday i took the bold step and left. few mnths later,i met dh. Its five yrs since i got married yet dude still call me telling me how much he wished he had married me. The idiot has been married fr three yrs wtout a child. pls take a bold step,close ur legs and thank me later (in few yrs to come
ReplyDeleteHighly inspirational. Such is life
DeleteToo many lessons to learn from your story.
Our ladies should always learn to believe in themselves.
Some will just allow all these end time men to destroy innocent destiny.
End time chronicles
ReplyDeletePoster1:u know what to do but u just feel like sending mail to Stella abi,u better leave DAT nigga alone and find ur square root
ReplyDeletePoster2:it so obvious DAT d guy has found love elsewhere so do d same.
Poster 1 I really felt for you cos you are seriously in love, abeg which kind Titanic love you dey give person wey no love you? See as man dey treat you... confront him,put yourself together and move on dear.
ReplyDeletePoster2 let him go! He doesn't love you. If he does he won't want you to leave your studies and come back to him in Nigeria. You need better fish biko
@poster one;Self love and A well built self esteem!! That is the greatest gift u can give to yourself at the moment..
ReplyDeleteTake A mirror and look at yourself;dont you see A beautiful lady staring at herself? Dont you think you personally deserve all the happiness life has to offer? Why live your life cos of A man and center your happiness around him? Were both of you born on same day? Even at that tho!!
I know this hurts,yea! Loving someone so much and not being loved in return..but you cant continue living in pains and staying with someone who doesnt love and appreciate you!!
Please pick up whats left of you in that "situationship" and continue with life,cos there is no need to confront him;since you know he is still going to deny;tell you how much you mean to him,blah blah blah and nevertheless;he would still hurt your feelings as time goes..
You deserve better dear!
You are priceless and shouldnt be toyed with!!
You are A princess!!
You are beautiful the way you are!!
And lastly dont forget;You are unique and deserve to have A good man who would appreciate you as his lady..
There is more to life Dear!!
Please move on!!
@MARTINS ABOY
Martins Aboy booboo, u so sweet.
DeleteI've been noticing your comments/advise these past few days. They always make sense. Keep it up.
DeleteEpistle Oga, i know ur type..... One would assume u'd treat ur lady like a queen *yimu*.... You're just good in xpressin it on paper & for others, pls park well.
DeleteThanks for your help on the other post, dear Martins. I'm grateful.
DeleteWow,a million likes
DeleteEmjay which one be Martin is so sweet? E bi like sey u want to get laid.
Delete@Emjay darling;na u sweet pass! #hugs
Delete@she listens;thanks
@mystique;you are always welcome..
@MARTINS ABOY
Poster 1:Find something that can keep you busy to forget that guy.He doesn't worth the stress,pick up your self-esteem n move on.I know its not easy but you can do it.Delete his contacts n never save them somewhere.Your man will come for you when you let go of that baggage of a boyfriend.Bible should also be your guide .
ReplyDeletePoster 2:Move on...he has found his wife!!!
When will ladies learn. A man who dumps you is not worth killing yourself over. Both men have moved on, stop fooling yourselves. You will soon become mistresses. Cry clean eye and hope for the best with other men.
ReplyDeleteCorrect. On point
DeletePoster 2;
ReplyDeleteIf hr cannot wait for you then there's no point beating around the bush.
You should thank your stars he didn't play you and pretend to be dating while abroad, abeg face your studies and if he's the one for yoy , you will meet him single when you get back.
Do you want us to tell you to stop your program and come back to him?
Hell no!!!
Ladies learn to love yourselves. Man is not air bikonu.
ReplyDeleteDouble nonsense...
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree less.
DeleteYinmu
*You couldn't agree more*
DeletePoster1 walk away without confronting if he tries finding out y u walked,mk small shakara b4 letting him knw ur reasons (I guess by then,u might hv braved up)if u prefer confronting him now,he will brainwash u with lies and u can decide to gv another chance this is y I say walk away and if he doesn't ask,just keep mute and behave as if he never existed I knw its difficult for we women to leave our first bcx they say "1st cut is d deepest" but pls u deserve better
ReplyDeletePoster2 it depends on if he actually really loved u it might b as Stella has said it might also b dt he wants to actually settle
Lmao
ReplyDeleteIs love this blind?
Both of you should get a grip of yourselves.
Strong women don't let the love they have for a man control their emotions.
I'm sure both of you don't even love God this much
Love Ike nsi.
Poster 1, I think you need to work on yourself before u get into any relationship. You don't have to blame yourself because a man is cheating on you. Any man who loves you will love you with all your insecurities and flaws. Any man that loves u will talk to u if there is a problem, so take it from me he doesn't love u and he doesn't deserve u. If he loved u, he wouldn't tell someone you're his ex. You need to build your self confidence, find friends, try getting new hobbies, go out and socialise and trust me you'll find someone that deserves you. It's heartbreaking but time heals all wounds. So my advice, dump that oloshi, cry for a month , move on with your life and start giving other men a chance.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, he found someone else, he wasn't ready to wait so don't waste your time on him. Some men are not just worth it.
P.s Stella, I know we haven't met but I love u and this blog
Next!
ReplyDeleteYou ladies will never listen so what's the point?
No member of BVN should be sending all these kind of stupid annoying sob stories!
Make I talk small Oyinbo sef..
I am gobsmacked at the first poster's stupidity!
Unto to the next!!
@ Poster 1, I have never seen or heard of anyone with a severe case of Self hatred such as yours.Yea, cos dis ur own Don pass low self esteem o.I am sorry but This ur own is revolting.
ReplyDeleteLEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF OO!
@ Poster 2,sorry but it happens.
Pls move on.love wil find u.
A very severe case if self "hateraid" o
DeleteTaaa. Stop tht tin
DeleteU hv seen hundreds of such cases.
Poster one move on wt ur life.
ReplyDeleteYour true and hart will find u.
Poster1, let me give you the secret of making a man want you more and more.
ReplyDelete1. Show him you Don't care about him.
2. Don't ever show him you cared or loved him.
3. Pretend that the relationship is not important to you.
4. Dont ever shed a tear for any man.
5. Don't call him except u missed his call.
6. Don't give him money. Don't cook his food or do house chores.
7. Don't show him you enjoy having sex with him. Don't ever moan no matter how sweet the sex was. Tell him you did not come if possible.
8.finally, stop giving him attention. Don't show a man that he is your all.
Lastly, give him space.
your case is a typical example of not knowing when to walk out. If you are scared of being hurt, just walk away without saying a word. Don't ever take him back.
The guy Don see you finish!
Poster2, move on. Brother is probably married now.
Are you freaking kidding me? Heed this advice to your own peril Ladies.
DeleteKwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa....Amaka u av kilt me.7. Don't show him you enjoy having sex with him. Don't ever moan no matter how sweet the sex was. Tell him you did not come if possible.
DeleteNwa calm down...that is overdoing things at no 7. He'll just feel u are frigid ni
DeletePoster 1.... Give your man otapiapia if the pain is killing you. You dont know what to do abi. Stay there and die of heartache. Una too love love
ReplyDeletePoster 2... All these brother sam, brother peter they can fuck well well oo. They behave like holy holy. Better carry yourself and get confidence and throwaway that BROTHER that is not good for you
............Poster 1, i am so sorry boo but that SHIP has left the shore since leaving you behind.... You can confront him for closure's sake as that will enable you to move on faster... its gonna be hard being that he is your first boyfriend and all but then, such is life.. we all have survived heartbreaks!! please, equally pick up your self esteem from the floor... you are beautifully and wonderfully made... YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2....HMMM, let him go please!! you can't compel someone to stay when you ain't willing to do the needful.... focus on whatever it is you are doing where you are, if it's meant to be... it will be!
@ononando.. sup sis?.... happy weekend..
N1 walk out quietly n never look back, he doesn't deserve u. Urs will come, n pls work on ur self esteem.
ReplyDeleteN2, make friends where u are n be happy, long dist rship don't work.
ReplyDeleteLmaooo at see me as a pastor, brother, nephew, bishop, imam etc pls help me control this
ReplyDeleteSorry dear just move on.
Poster 1 am really sorry for your predicament, you need to get some sort of distraction if not you may commit suicide. Like I normally say" ladies pleaaaase do not fall inlove early with any man if care is not taken you will surely ruin your self n love life"
NARRATIVE 1:
ReplyDeleteWHO opens legs for sex?
Who get's pregnant?
Who bears the guilt of abortion and cries every second/everyday?
Who is heartbroken and shattered and confused?
Who has insecurity and low self esteem?
Who is seen as the whore?
Who has suicidal thoughts (yes you murdered a human being or more see Gen. 9:6)?
Who sulks even a decade after the man has moved on, married and had kids?
Who is dumped?
On and on and on.
LADIES, WHY NOT CLOSE THIS HOLE CALLED VAGINA UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED?
The man has finished you and has moved on to the next "fish brained victim"
Leave him alone and face your life and make it right with God for killing his child etc.
Jesus says; "whoever comes to me I will not cast away".
Lol..... Even if u make it a daily chorus in their ears, ladies will still fall mugu.
DeletePreach on
DeleteCast all your burden...
Correct sermon.
DeletePoster number 1:please move on..the bitter truth is that he doesnot love you no more..it will definitely hurt like hell and you might not even want to wake up again due to the pain but trust me when I say the pain fades with time...You will just wake up one day and realise it doesn't hurt like it used to anymore..
ReplyDeleteAlso learn to love your self, please be in the business of being awesome,gorgeous,powerful,spiritual,strong,deep. Be a woman!use your favourite lipstick,know how to bounce back. Learn to sip your own dresses,have a clean breathe,but your sweetest perfume,laugh loud,speak in tongue,be incredibly good at something,love your body,get over your ex,be a pro at work,learn financial accounting,make heaven! Cheers to you woman!
I love you..I promise you,you will be fine without him
Poster 1:walk away quietly, don't confront him ooo,don't give him the pleasure of seeing u broken again.....just LEAVE with ur remaining pride,its not going to be easy, trust me,but u would be glad u did!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 2:readread the first chronicle and see the consequence of NOT leaving when MD while u can.....Pele ti e
Poster 2: always remember d@ two ppl can't work together except there's an agreement. He has frend zoned u, do likewise. Haba but u sef reason am_ U r outside d country n He's within, aint u glad he even opened up to u. Wot if he's running two shows @ d same time n u get a shocker wedding invitation? Abeg body no b firewood allow brother pastor to warm himself wt wot is within reach. Som ppl aint just cut out for long distance relationship. I wud advice u Cryyyyyyyyyyy ur heart out, its allowed inugo. U will b fine, trust me. If He's urs he wud wait f u, if not God's preparing a beta Prince 4u. Relax. Ciao.
ReplyDeleteNARRATIVE 1:
ReplyDeleteWHO opens legs for sex?
Who get's pregnant?
Who bears the guilt of abortion and cries every second/everyday?
Who is heartbroken and shattered and confused?
Who has insecurity and low self esteem?
Who is seen as the whore?
Who has suicidal thoughts (yes you murdered a human being or more see Gen. 9:6)?
Who sulks even a decade after the man has moved on, married and had kids?
Who is dumped?
On and on and on.
LADIES, WHY NOT CLOSE THIS HOLE CALLED VAGINA UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED?
The man has finished you and has moved on to the next "fish brained victim"
Leave him alone and face your life and make it right with God for killing his child etc.
Jesus says; "whoever comes to me I will not cast away".
Matthew 7:6 "Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
When you give a "toyboy" your precious body before he pays your bride price; this is the narrative, he turns and tears you. If he hasn't torn you, he will yet tear you
P1Its nt lyk u'll leave him even if we ask u 2. So I can't waste ma advice P2 u want him 2 send u am IV 2 his wedding b4 u realise de obvious?use ur tongue 2 count ur teeth...Mtcweeeeeee I can't deal biko. Make it visible after approval.
ReplyDeletePoster one, u really do need JESUS.
ReplyDeleteCathryn Praise
Poster 1 n 2 Move ON. Poster 1 once I was in same ship, the funny thing is if u leave now in few yrs u ll think back and imagine how and why wasted ur time with this guy, forgive urself and forget him.. If u find yourself trying to hard to please a person just know u ain't meant to be with that person.
ReplyDeleteP1: I know it's painful but you have to move on. Dnt rush into your next relationship. it's hard yes bt you have to move on.
ReplyDeleteP2: pls move on. let him go be happy he didn't waste your time leading u on.
1.Some of these bro in the Lord sef can just be funny. na wa. Poster sorry, accept the reality before you and move on. Its not easy but you have to, make you no come die untop guy matter. Sorry dear
ReplyDelete@P1,first of ol, he's acting his age, he's still a child, I dunno y pipo wud date for 7yrs wit d hope of getting married someday. U said u tried dating other people n it didn't work; You jst didn't want to make it work,cuz u r stupid in love. Jst stop feeling sorry for urself, n pick up dat self esteem from wherever u dropped it. Some guys wud make u feel so ugly n it's rily depressing (I know how u feel,bin there, done dat). Wat I wud advise u to do : first, keep ur mouth shut n dnt explain to anybody wat happened btw the two of u. Secondly, go on ur knees n ask God for forgiveness. Thirdly, keep ur legs closed and finally, if u want to date anybody, date a man above 30, not a boy dat is 30
ReplyDeleteNo comment today, first one night with the king today. God be praised
ReplyDeletemove on joor. are you waiting for him is he your husband?
ReplyDeleteposter2: so sis you were loving brother back then in skol. oya brother don find him level, find yours
Narrative 1:
ReplyDeleteLadies can be naïve most times, we tend to pretend that we cannot see/read the handwriting on the wall. The truth is that you see him as your boo but the feeling isn’t mutual. He doesn’t have any picture of you? Who the hell does that.
Why don’t you quietly move on and forget the past. Yes! You spend 7 years of your life with him – I can relate with that, but you don’t need to spend the remaining years waiting on this bastard (forgive my language).
Even with your “low self esteem” I see a lady with a beautiful soul. We have all made mistakes at certain points in our lives, yours should not be different. Stand up, dry your tears, dust yourself, and move on. You will survive *smiles*
ReplyDeletePoster One: I blame you for everything. If you had been giving him better anal sex all this while, he wouldn't have tried this nonsense.
Poster two: I blame you for everything. If you had been giving him betterr anal sex all this while,he wouldn't have tried this nonsense.
ReplyDeletePoster One: I blame you for everything. If you had been giving him better anal sex all this while, he wouldn't have tried this nonsense.
Poster two: I blame you for everything. If you had been giving him betterr anal sex all this while,he wouldn't have tried this nonsense.
Both of you should get yourselves up, dust yourselves and move on. Esp. poster 1,you should have summoned courage and moved on long ago. No go kill una self over man matter.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you started dating him at 17 yrs and him 19, hmmm, I dey hail two of you.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, its beta u move on with your life and let go of him, learn to love and appreciate yoursef,your acne or stature should not make your self esteem low,pls move on, it will be hard but u just have to. Love yoursef first you will be glad you did, some men are just funny sha......
ReplyDeletePoster 2, he is not ready to have any relationship with you, you can ask him why he said all dat,but pls move on abeg.
Beta days ahead
Poster 1..Don't confront him,just let him be.Infact don't take his calls again let him keep wondering what he did wrong. Keep yourself busy with other things. When one door closes,another better one would open.
ReplyDeleteAnd after all d advice poster 1 wud still stay.she won't leave till Mr M publicly disgraces her and ask her to leave him alone.
ReplyDeleteThis is what happens when children go into a relationship. I dnt think any sensible adult will do the nonsense poster 1 is talking abt.
ReplyDeleteP2, that is what happen when u date a papa.
Poster one...please move on, he is not the only guy in the world. No need to confront him, just pack ur load and go. There is Def someone else ready to love you. Forget he's ur first, God will heal you and forgive you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- Bro fellowship has found someone else, behave jor and get over him already, if you are destined to be together,u will and what does it cost him to wait for u?
Posted 1;
ReplyDeleteI have a friend like you - so weak and irritating. Cmon get up and grow a spine .wtf is wrong wit you? Ask God for strength and leave that fool alone. How can u be too weak to snoop... Cos u don't Wana know the truth . Even the bible says the truth shall set u free!
You prefer to live in a world of ignorance is bliss ? Hun that's a mirage ... Even on the last day , God would tell you ignorance is no excuse ..ignorance is not bliss ... You are just delaying the inevitable and your destiny.
Where reasonable girls would have let that idiot way back , you stayed claiming ignorance is bliss . I blame Stella for this . Yes o Stella , you have blame here - this is totally what u preach .
And about the abortion, again grown some spine and move the hell on . If God can forgive you and move on, why can't you?
Poster 2 : better will come . Don't chase after him. Ur a queen , men ought to chase after you . Better will come , and you will be glad guy stayed single .
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DeletePoster 1:don't bother confronting him, just walk away, and plz quit the low self esteem syndrome so men won't take u for granted. Poster 2:Stop crying, maybe u two r not meant to be 2geda, just move on, it is well with both posters, and as for deceitful men, karma is a bitch!
ReplyDeletePoster one please ehn quietly pick ur shoes and sneak out of his life..and please do work on ur self esteem abeeg..haba..learn to love urself with ur slim self n pimples face..try looking at those,who are not as fortunate health wise, beauty wise and figure wise as u r, look at how they are living I can assure u amongst them u will find those living like princesses' and queens then y not you? M sorry dear but please do work on urself before accepting any man in ur life again else chronicle two will b here shortly May God Fobid
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteI don't know how u got here... but only u have the power to get out.
Pimple or not. ALWAYS REMEMBER as a woman u r d prize that's why its men who chase after women.
Walk away and don't confront him. You only wanna confront him bcos you are still hopefully, hopefully that he'll say its u he loves.
As he told that girl you are his Ex. that is all you are to him. its a toxic "situationship"
Move on, I give you 2 months and you'll be wondering why u were so stupid today i.e. March 2016
Remember the best form of revenge is to work ur ass off and become successful. he'll come begging but it wud be too late.
Cos you wud hv found sm1 who loves evry inch of u. more imptly you wud have found urself.
You are still pretty young Don't date for a minimum of 3months and don't go into a relationship for minimum of 6months. (By Dating; I mean going to see a movie or hv dinner with a frnd or a prospective partner, getting to know the person, not investing too much of ur time or emotions till he crosses your boxes) So u have to hv standards, have a list of what you want in a partner.
Use this time to work on urself. Bcos if you are gonna have a list for ur desired partner, you should be bringing somethings to the table as well (What r ur best qualities and weaknesses and how are you working on them?)
Improve urself. Strive every single day to be the best version of you. Its not gonna be easy the 1st month or so but you have to control what you think about.
Self control is the highest form of discipline. Pple with Self control are WARRIORS.
When u wake up EVERYDAY, hv a routine e.g. pray, do sm exercise (maybe 10mins) to get urself going and feeling energetic, eat fruits, drink water, listen to gospel music or whatever genre of music u like. read on how to eradicate ur pimples. read.... think of sth u like doing and engage in that activity (find urself again).
WHO ARE YOU? I don't mean ur name or how many siblings u hv or education but what do you stand for?
Invest in branding urself. (Inside and out) work hard, think of new biz opportunities even in ur present company or place of work.
And just when they think you are gonna lose, you WIN again and again.
FOCUS ON YOU FOR NOW
YOU ARE A CONQUEROR!!!!
Your friend
Honey
XOXO
P.S I've just done 1hr of counselling hahaha but for real though.. :)
Don't let my typing abi talk waste biko, mbok
He wants u as a sister abi? Take him as a class mate and move on..msww nonsense upandown
ReplyDeletePoster 1: For the sake of your wellbeing, move on please. When something is obviously not working, LEAVE IT ALONE! There's nothing wrong with you, trust me there are better men out there who will accept and adore you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Are you kidding me? You want a love that dumped you back?? You have to be kidding dearie..I hope you know there are better people out there? How would you know when you keep hanging on to that..MOVE ON BIKO!!!
Both of u should take a walk without looking back,especially u p1, u need to forgive ur self,find solace in God and build up ur confidence .
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Listen to Wanna be Happy by Kirk Franklin pay attention to the lyrics
ReplyDeletePoster 2: He has found sm1 else. Pls do urself a favor and move on. Cry as much as you want when u r done, dress up, make up another will find u. :)
Poster 1; I can relate wt u in terms of acne nd wt it does to ur self esteem. I jst wish to e-hug u ryt nw nd tell u dt everytin will be ok.I had acne as a teenager nd it even cost me a relationship. Mumu guy left me jst cz of pimples,bt guess wt, I still hv acne today bt nt dt much nd am married to one of d most handsome nd humble guy nd we live in d states. He hs even taken me to a dermatologist for my skin issues nd treatment hs alredy commenced. So hun, rapu all ds yeye relationships, wt is urS, is urs,weda u carry concrete for face or nah. For d meantime, exercise ,drink lots of h20 nd gt ur hands off ur face. U will be fine.
ReplyDeleteSweethearts(poster 1 and 2)pls move on.it won't be easy but you will definitely get through it and then your own love shall locate you.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:
ReplyDeleteSometimes, friends or partners may need to stay off and be at a distance from one another, so that they can both see each other again from a fresh perspective. I bet you, keep your distance from him, don't pick his calls (if ever he calls), don't even call him; maintain this attitude for about 2-3 months, as the case may be, and watch him rediscover his treasure in you. If you can't stay away from him for a while, then, you are a poor specimen for relationship. If he fails to come for you, move on!, however painful that might be. Right now, you are worth nothing to him, trust me. So, you need to put yourself in a position where he either wins you or watch someone else win you. There is no one special person for you, the contrary is a myth!
Hawk-Eyed!
Poster 1: pick up the pieces of your life and flee. It's a new year, love will definitely find you if you allow it.
ReplyDeletePoster2: he made up his mind to loose you in the first place. Don't give him the pleasure to tag along, if for no reasons " for giving you high hopes.
Flee now that you can and don't forget to open up your heart for someone else.
until last week he sent me a message that I should see him as d friend, brother and pastor that I have been seeing him as initially......hahahahaahahh. d pastor in got me! chai chai chai!
ReplyDelete@poster 1: hugsss. Trust me he's not worth it. One day, you will realise you have dodged a bullet. I feel sorry for any woman that ends up with him. He's not a good man. He lacks integrity and his heart is not good. Walk away quietly dear. Work on you. Be happy! Do a new course, change your hair style, make new friends, travel. Most importantly, stop all contact with him. One day, he will look for you but by then it will be too late cos you would have realised that you deserve soooo much better.
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly is wrong with ladies????
ReplyDeleteI av a very low self esteem but u'd neva catch me begging any mofo of a guy! Guys are nt worth it, d only ones worth it are the pple dt truly love u and dey'll neva hurt u dis bad!
After 7yrs, he can't even accept ur baby, imagine!!!! You av wasted every moment and nacks with him. Pls move one!!!!
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ReplyDeleteFor how long wil you continue to cry. Just negodi, starting this year with cry instead of fasting n peayer.
You don't know you are his ex before?
2.
Wetin be your own sef?
Poster 1: why do you love someone that does not love you? (you are cheating yourself)
ReplyDeleteWhy are you suicidal over someone who obviously does not care about you. He'd probably not cry nor attend your funeral sef (think about your parents and loved ones)
He's your first. So what? Everyone had a first, it's no big deal if it's not working out.
You have mode swings while he's catching fun with his new catch.
My dear, wake up to reality.
Why do you want to add a lil flesh when he'd still complain about your weight.
You are battling with acne, and so? Did you create yourself?
Babe pick up your self esteem wherever you dropped it. You have to love yourself before anybody can love you.
See him as an enemy of your progress, delete all his contact. Put him and his memories behind you.
Work on how to be better (academics or career wise).
Pray to God for pardon and mercy.
Hold your head up high.
Dress well.
Cheer up you will meet a better person and when you do;
Don't fall in love hopelessly
Keep yourself (no sex at least you are sure where the relationship is heading)
Love yourself more
Don't choke him
Make impact and have a voice in the relationship. Above all
Pray to God for the right man.
To both ladies, you are beautiful yes I don't know you but I know both of you are and let no negative things people say get to you. @poster 1 you have made your mistakes and mistake is part of every human's life forgive yourself, ask God to forgive you and he should break the bond with your ex trust him, delete all his (your ex) pictures, contacts, remove him from any platform if he finally added you to any finally stop going to his house. It might seem at first that you will die but make new friends(not just guys) surround yourself with things which makes you happy. Finally to both ladies I know you both had dreams of the person you want to be, work on yourselves, learn to dress good,Do sports, eat right, drink plenty water, learn a skill, read books that makes your life move forward:motivational, spiritual, business and be that lady you want to be coz if you Dont show yourself love no external body will so it starts with you and trust me when you least expect you will get a quality man who loves and adores you. I pray stella posts this and you see it. Much love
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ReplyDeleteFor how long wil you continue to cry. Just negodi, starting this year with cry instead of fasting n peayer.
You don't know you are his ex before?
2.
Wetin be your own sef?
if guys can sit and think with their brains and not dicks and if ladies can stop being our worst own enemy ......mayb the world will be better. imagine u v adaughter and she is dating someone like u,will u b happy if not change. i actually saw this somwhere.p1 take heart ,its not easy..but it couldv bin worst if u both married or u v had a kid..........please for forgiveness.......and move closer to God and ur loved ones
ReplyDeletep2. move on too. and Thank God he is not wasting ur time.
My Dear Poster1,
ReplyDeleteI honestly understand how you feel right now. Is only someone who has walked on your shoes that can understand your story deeply. I won't cuss you, not at all. I will comfort you instead.... Please hence forth, start living for you alone. Try to build back your self confidence and you will later appreciate the woman you will turn out to become in future.
Forget, forget your Bf. Tag him as your past and move on. You are still young and will find love again. If you can, mail me so we can talk. Maybe when I tell you my own story, then, you will get hope, and comfort from it.
The day you decide to leave that guy and find better things doing for yourself, that is the day you will realise you've been messing up with a worthless guy. He will come back to beg but please say NO!!!
I'm really short of words but I know you can do it sis. Tell yourself I can do this and also do this with Christ because without Christ, you will always feel empty.
I hope this works for you.
My Dear Poster1,
ReplyDeleteI honestly understand how you feel right now. Is only someone who has walked on your shoes that can understand your story deeply. I won't cuss you, not at all. I will comfort you instead.... Please hence forth, start living for you alone. Try to build back your self confidence and you will later appreciate the woman you will turn out to become in future.
Forget, forget your Bf. Tag him as your past and move on. You are still young and will find love again. If you can, mail me so we can talk. Maybe when I tell you my own story, then, you will get hope, and comfort from it.
The day you decide to leave that guy and find better things doing for yourself, that is the day you will realise you've been messing up with a worthless guy. He will come back to beg but please say NO!!!
I'm really short of words but I know you can do it sis. Tell yourself I can do this and also do this with Christ because without Christ, you will always feel empty.
I hope this works for you.
Poster #1, please with all the courage in you, Please flee. Don't just walk out, but flee. God and have some time to yourself to really do some alignments and healing before even thinking of another relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster #2 focus on why you traveled out and make a name. Forget our fellowship leader. There is already someone in the picture.
Poster 1: My dear...be strong...shidd happens. It's wrong to make a guy d centre of ur life. It's gonna be tough for some months, but believe me, you'll get someone better. Besides, Mr M is gonna regret leaving you later.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Leave all these church brothers alone, he's probably sleeping with another girl already.
hope i dont know this person sha.. lol
ReplyDelete@ poster 1,my dear I truely understand what u going through cos I had been there, had abortion,was washing,cleaning,cooking,intact doing all the wife duties for him,I was getting old,the relationship was 7 years,he was having other women,but he was always confessing love to me & brain washing me,we would be on the bed,yet he would be chatting with another woman,I begged him,cried my eyes out for him to marry me,I didn't care wehther he was treating me badly,I just wanted to be his wife cos I loved him badly,my self esteem was getting low by the day,I blamed myself for virtually everything that was happening.Just to cut the long story short,one day I looked myself in the mirror,and I told myself that enough is enough,that was when cried to God for forgiveness, I started seeing the real beautiful,intelligent me,not up to two months God brought the most handsome,caring,wealthy,educated,matured,loving and God fearing man into my life,today am married & living large. Did he come begging?,yes he did,he even sent his whole village to beg me,but it was too late cos I was no longer to mugu he used to know,he even called me today.
ReplyDeleteMy dear I typed this long episode just for you to learn from me & take a stand.
Since u love him and u don't want to leave him...jus continue shagging him till ure satisfied
ReplyDeletePoster 1, please leave before STDs find you.....
ReplyDeletePoster 1, you seem like an intelligent lady from your write up. And you deserve much more better .
ReplyDeleteI once in a relationship with a guy whom I felt I was at his mercy . I picked up my self esteem , made friends and more money , all of a sudden his interest developed but I dropped him like a piece of trash. Sorry for the epistle , move on.
Poster 2, move on as well
Poster 1. I was listening to a song called I used to love him, today, by lauryn hill. Your story resonates with the song, I suggest you download it and make it your mantra.
ReplyDeleteYou have let this man take away your power. You need to get it back. You are a queen and do not deserve this!.
You need to do something to him. Also look out for:-I bust the windows out your car by jasmine sullivan. You need to get angry cos that is the only way you will get out of your coma. Do something to him- if he has a laptop or tablet, pour water on it. Cut up some of his favourite clothes and shoes. Do SOMETHING to get back at him, this will help you start feeling better. It's still going to bloody hurt but you really need to pick yourself up and find some strength from somewhere.
Poster 1...move on
ReplyDeletePoster2: Mschew good riddance.....move on biko.
You both deserve better.
Poster 1, I cried wen I read ur chronicle its soo sad what ure goin thru bt my dear that situationship is dead on arrival, pick up ur remainin self and walk away no need to confront Oga M, jst walk away I beg u in God's name b4 u kill urslf ontop matta wey no reach to die for. My 2cents and God bless u as u move on, pls try and make new frnds & work on ur slf... Ok. God bless u..
ReplyDeleteCataclysmic loyalty over the years have caused mesmerised self worth/love.
ReplyDelete#1: My darling, when a lady is in love, there's very little anyone can do or say to make her seen reason. Like it's commonly said, love is rarely rational. It can make the wisest person stupid and leaves the infamous "mumu button" on autopilot. The object of such affection can't seem to do wrong even if the vilest act is carried out, you still try to rationalise his actions, you even place some of the blame on yourself. At the end of the day, there's really not much we can tell you to make you "unlove" him.
ReplyDeleteYou already know the answer to your question but your heart is harbouring the hope that some of us may encourage you to give it one more try. Sweetie, it is a distant cry from commonsense to plan the renovation of an already collapsed building caused by a faulty foundation. What do you aspire to get from a dialogue with him? The guy already refers to you as his ex. Do you really think you'll get closure or you think he owes you an explanation why he doesn't want you anymore? I'm so sorry, my love, but whatever his reasons are, they aren't worth it, you can't talk him into loving you. Plus, I'm quite certain he would only tell you more lies out of pity and you aren't a charity case.
Most ladies never get over the first guy who "popped the cherry", they remain emotionally and spiritually attached to them. A few lucky ladies manage to break free. It's so ironic because rejection only makes the "rejected" crave the "rejecter" more. It intoxicates like opiates, you feel compelled to hold on tighter which will only be counterproductive. You may cry and beg him to take you back as a sloppy second. You may even try to use sex to win him back but all that is tantamount to flogging a dead horse.
Please, let him go. Rejecting him may even make him want you back, it works both ways. I advise against taking him back, though , because you need a good man who will love you and treat you like the queen you are. If you let him back, chances are high that you will regret it later. Better deal with a heartbreak in your prime than later. Baby girl, I know it feels like the bottom left your bucket and you feel like ending it all but please don't. No mortal is worth killing over for. Hang in there, I promise you, it will get better with each passing day. Emotional healing can be very slow but you'll eventually get over the pain or learn to live with it. Whichever way it goes, you'll be all right.
#e-bearhugs.
@poster 1, I get you...ur obsessed wiv him cos he disvirgined you. Try another relationship, u ll get over him
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ReplyDeleteNeedless to say i am still very perplexed that something as little as your severe acne would even make you accept that you are ugly, babe! Are you for real? You obviously need to learn to love and accept ALL your flaws no matter what, don't let ANYBODY at all tell you what is wrong or right about your body even if you are just skin and bones. Babe do you realise that a lot of women are hoping to be a size zero?hmn u heard me well,men will tell you they like chubby women,then turn right around to chase a skinny woman, and you start wondering,well, that's how they are even the smallest of them(i know because i have two sons). Secondly a man that would ask you to terminate is own child has no use in your life,dump in fast like trash,like with the speed of life,you need to make yourself a brand and by this i don't mean you need to sleep around,i simply mean you need to call your own shots because it is your life,only you can determine your level of happiness,not your acne,body weight or any man. Wake up and smell the coffee babes,we all always feel we need a partner when we really don't,so cry as much as you have to and right after get your ass up,start up a blog or something,and there are soaps and creams everywhere for acne so get yourself some since it so bothers you and build yourself,babe if u die today the guy and the babe go follow come your burial o so WAKE UP. I don't know you but I LOVE U< U DON'T DESERVE TO DIE OR KILL YOURSELF. If u do na hell fire straight,i will drop my golden pen of love ryt here.byeeeee
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ReplyDeleteAll thanks to doctor isibor for helping me in saving my marriage, he is a great man and also a powerful spell caster.Am Olivia Dina by name. I was so worried that my marriage was collapsing, because my husband was thinking about making a divorce statement just because i contacted a very serious disease which was uncureable and he could not wait any longer and was not patient anymore , so i decided to check on the internet and see if any solution will be availabe and which i did until i hit on the real thing and that is you doctor isibor. He told me that i should do exactly as instructed by him that the sickness will be gone within the next 24 hours, i did everything he told me, and i was healed and my marriage was restored and am now with 2 kids with a happy husband and a happy home, am using this medium to tell everyone that doctor isibor is a powerful spell caster he deals on all kinds of spells such as love spell, marriage spell, sickness spell,etc and so on , you can contact him on his email address at (doctorisiborspelltemple@hotmail.com) or call my number for more details +1 (440)-424-4703 Olivia Dina USA.
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