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BREAST ABNORMALITY
Dear Stella,
kindly hide my identity but please help me to post this. For a while now there is something I have been curious about and will want to share with my fellow blog visitors, may be someone could be facing the same challenge at the moment. Who will ever think that my challenge can be posted her for everyone to read and give advice? #sadface#
Am in my late 20s, beautiful, smart, friendly, hard working, attractive, while growing up I noticed that my left breast is growing while the right one was not growing. At first I tot it was just a thing not to worry about, but as time goes on it still did not grow to meet up the other one. My mum was worried with my elder sister that we have to visit several hospitals and was asked to go for scans which we did all kinds of scan and finally the doctors said that it was breast abnormalities, that nothing can be done about it.
Back then in secondary school i remember very well the way my mate do insult, laugh and call me that girl with one breast bigger than one, I had to start wearing bra at a very tender age just to make it not look obvious, which now resulted to making me not having big b..... I have look for a way to correct this and till now no solution, have also lost some relationships wit guys (i mean bf) each time I undress in front of them. Imagine your boo asking you if u had your breast cut off due to breast cancer. The shame I go thru each time that question is being pop up is unimaginable. I will quickly form as if am not touched by the question and give a no response.
Stella, if anyone sight at it ,they must ask me what happened to the breast, I don't feel any pain on both breast o. I feel so turn on each time you touch the both breast, at the point of playing with my bfs I find out that they always prefer the big breast than the small one. After so much cry and asking God why I came this way to this wicked world, I made up my mind to close my legs and say no to sex or guys just to avoid the question did you had breast cancer or was your breast cut off? Why is one breast bigger than one? I don tire to the answer questions.
Well, I finally met a guy that we both are serious, which I told him no sex till marriage and he agreed, we are getting married by April. My worries now is how do I tell him that one of my breast is bigger than one? Should I keep calm till after our wedding? What if I tell him now and also lose him? How do I make him see reasons that I was created like this? Each time I see him,I feel so bad and pity for him. Please fellow bvs do anyone have this same experience, is there any type of bra I can wear to make the both look the same size cos till now is still noticeable. I have never come across anyone with this kind of breast before, my mum told me that no one had it that she know of. I have also attached the picture of both breast for your own consumption.
Docs too should help a sister out, will this issue cause any fertility wahala? Will my baby be able to suck from this same breast if I give birth? The doctor I met said I should not worry but so worried at the moment. Thank you all for being patient and reading my long story, abeg make una no mind any grammatical error o.
Sorry i cannot post the breast pics here but i can describe it...both boobs look okay apart but together they are a mismatch.One is very big and one is very small but both very beautiful!
I don't have any medical advice to offer you but please open up to your would be hubby.
ReplyDeleteBut normally the left breast is a lil bit bigger than the right one. Dear don't worry ur self about it n please tell your fiancée OK.
DeleteTell the guy, there is nothing wrong with u it happens quite a lot.
DeleteIf it is affecting u psychologically and impacting on ur relationships , go get a breast implant .
Currently I have a 19 year old patient who is suffering from the same thing and now getting depressed from it, I have referred her to the plastic surgeons but we r waiting for approval to do it under the NHS cover as normally 'cosmetic surgeries' are not covered by the NHS , but if there is a clinical indication for it , they will approve it.
I guess in naija, u av to cough out the money, for now use padded bras and try to compensate when u get the money , get an implant.
But Pls open up to ur would-be hubby and let him know what options u r already considering.
All the best.
Don't make the mistake of telling the guy ooo,men can panic over unnecessary matters.....just be urself and maintain ur stand of no sex till after marriage, abi him don show u the size of his dick?
DeleteYou just have to tell d guy,coz d more u holding it back d tougher it gets,let it not be that after you've made him wait this long,finally u surprise him with such news,put yourself in his shoes and tell me. How you'd feel...first u just have to love u for who u are,that's how God created u, and if he can't accept u,then he's not meant for u.. Just tell him now,coz either ways he'll still find out..*my opinion
Delete#MissVa3lla
My dear nothing is wrong with your breast. A simple Google will give you this assurance. When I was in Uni I had an hall mate whose her 2 breast are equal. She doesn't need to show anyone before it will be noticed and guess what she is married with a kid now so please you don't have issue conceiving. You are normal
DeleteTell the guy abeg
ReplyDeleteMy honest advice... Tell the guy and if he request to view them let him have a look if he's meant for you he will accept you the way you are if not then let him go.. If you hide it from him now and he founds out after your wedding he might feel betrayed and never trust you again and may even end the marriage
DeleteYou are not handicapped only that you have different size of breast which has nothing to do with fertility so fear not
You may drop your contact under this comment or through Stella maybe I can help send a bra with inbuilt padded silicon in it
It is well with you
My dear I know how u feel... I know it's not easy but I suggest you go to a hospital and do a scan to know what's wrong... There is one of my girlfriend also she dies not have nipple on her breast and it is making her have low self esteem..
ReplyDelete.....and she refuse to read
Delete@ Miss World! ..tell your girlfriend she got inverted nipples and is capable of coming out (everted).she can encourage them to be more permanently erect by rolling the nipples between thumb and forefinger frequently, perhaps several times a day over a period of time. Also, gently pulling on the nipple when it is erect can help make the state more permanent.
DeleteShe can also buy nipple shield to use (mostly designed for pregnant women) .They consist of a circular plastic disc with a central hole. The disc exert on the tissue around the nipple and encourage the nipple to protrude through the Central hole and can be worn at any time.
All the best to her.
Hahahahahaha, Chai Richbee lol
DeleteHmmm my sister it will b better if u let ur fiance knw plss so he won't feel deceived
ReplyDeleteModupe Ozolua. Or if pepper rest, 41290, Hollywood California. You're welcome!
DeleteBut honestly I used to have a fling, ur late twenties, maybe its u sef, sweet girl, 1 breast about a size or 2 smaller than the other. Fling or not, it didn't bother me. What do u want girls with really major deformities to say? Blind, lame, bow legs, etc...in all things thank give thanks.
@ Teddy; It's 90210
DeleteSome will say village witch.
ReplyDeleteIf its not something bad medically, then worry not.
Hey ya........ Dis is sad....
ReplyDeleteThat means yours is wayyy abnormal.
ReplyDeleteThat is how it is with most, if not all women but it is not noticeable.
I can imagine one looking like a fist and the other like a pimple.
Only plastic surgery can help you.
So sorry.
Lol @fist and pimple..
DeleteSunshine,your way with words though #melikey
Pele, sometimes d left boob is bigger than d left,u won't notice in some pple, while its very obvious in some. If u have money go for breast augmentation (not enlargement)...they will know how to arrange it.
ReplyDeleteMaybe you should tell your guy now to avoid problems later.
ReplyDeleteHe might feel you brought the 'no sex before marriage' because of the problem you have and that will result in more issues.
Tell him, if he truly wants you he'll accept you the way you are.
May God see you through.
E-hugs
You and stella are not serious.
ReplyDeleteStella she sent in a pix for ur eyes alone,gud and fine...u probably shld give her d much needed advice she needs.
If u had sent d pix wv ur face showing den it's totally understandable dt stella cldnt post it;if that is d case,then I'd suggest u send anoda wvout ur face showing so we can understand d message u tryna pass.
Howbeit,no 2breast is same...one is always bigger than d other. In majority of cases,d left is always bigger than d right.
U claim to have been told it's an abnormality,well I can't say it is or isn't cos I'm not seeing a pix 2understand better
Hi lesbo nurse!
DeleteSounds similar to the Lady that gave testimony at Shiloh. Your miracle is on the way.
ReplyDeleteI will advise you to show your fiance before you go too far with marriage arrangements. You don't have to have sex. Maybe you should start saving for boob enlargement or what do you think?
ReplyDeleteEeyah, sorry poster. I used to know a girl just like you when we were growing up.
ReplyDeleteLike the doctor said, it's an abnomality that needs surgical intervention.
I don't think it has any effect on fertility; rather, a cosmetic problem that can be corrected. Pele.
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I want to see the picture of the breast first before giving an advise...
ReplyDeleteStella,release the picture mbok!...
Lekwa ha!!iji the breast eme nini?
DeleteLmao
Poster buy that transparent,fake silicon boob. Cut out one and use on the smaller boob before wearing your bra.
After everything I typed for you,"conflicting edits" came and conflicted everything.mtcheewww
can't surgery be done? more like enlarging the other. You hiding such from your man isn't cool .
ReplyDeleteNothing wey we no go read from this sdk blog Oo, seems it's a spiritual problem . People that went to shiloh brought the gist of a woman that had same problem as yours here and she was healed. So I will advice you to GO TO SHILOH next year.
ReplyDeleteBut please make sure your man is aware of this Oo before marriage.
Wats d meaning of "Nothing wey we no go read from this sdk blog" y are u being insensitive? ?? Dis ur comment oriegwu oo!!
DeleteWhy you no go Shiloh?
ReplyDeleteI don't think anything is wrong with you. I no be doctor oh. But I feel since its not causing you any pain you are ok.
Be proud of yourself. If your fiance ask you why your breast is like dat, tell him that God created you special. Tell him that he has two options and he should be grateful to God for making dat possible. If he enjoys the bigger one today, tomorrow he can enjoy the smaller one. God made you special so dat you can give your man variety.
You are one of the rare creations. You should be happy.
Try and buy silicon and add to the small one. I will put it on my moniker. When you wear your bra add the silicon to d small one.
Your head they there ojare
DeleteChop plenty kiss
I know breast are not equal but this very big and very small I've not seen before.
ReplyDeleteI read of one recently though. She said she was healed at shiloh but I no see o.
God fix it.
Sorry my dear. I know it won't be easy but you have to accept your body the way they are and the corrective measure could be surgery which I won't advice you to do. For your husband to be, pls be sincere with him and let him know now in order to avoid problems during marriage. Choose a night to tell him everything. Remove even your cloth and show him. If he loves you, he will accept you the way you are but if he doesn't love you enough to accept you the way you are, it is better he walks now, than when you are married. Use the size of the big breast and get a bra, when you wear it, add some foam or cloth to the small one in order to measure up with the size of the big one. Most women in Nigeria whose breast were cut off do what I just wrote above and you won't even know. Some two breasts were cut off and they add things to them when they put on a bra. Well done dear and take care.
ReplyDeleteEyah,there was dis gal in my hostel then wit d same problem,did u go to FGGC kabba,dnt worry dear u will b Fyn,just pick up d courage to inform ur would be husband,if he is meant for u he will accept you or dnt u trust his luv for you?.try to challenge d depth of his luv for you,dnt deceive him by hidin d truth.
ReplyDeleteOne of my breast is slightly bigger than the other
ReplyDeleteI use to feel ashamed of it n wont allow any man see them n not only that ooh coupled with dis my small ass
Met my boo n he changed my mentality, he doesn't care about the breast stuff or small ass
He even prefer them tall n slim of cos wt my striking face lol n did I tell u dt he is one of the best.
Please poster let him know about your condition n watch his reaction, the worst thing that can happen is to take a secret into your marriage.
Cripple, deaf, ugly etc do marry n enjoy it to the fullest so ur case is just a minor one
I pray ur boo will understand n cherish u more
Yes o. That's the spirit. I have a dota who has a deformity that can be corrected with a series of surgeries, which does not even guarantee 100% success. She's 6. What I'm doing now is teaching her to love herself and how to handle herself when she gets rude comments. She's a pro and I'm proud of her. I won't stop looking for options for correction but I'm loading her with tonnes of self confidence.
DeleteSave money for an enlargement. But most importantly let ur dude know plz. Do not fret.
ReplyDeleteI really do not think you should keep this a secret from your MAN
ReplyDeleteIf he finds out after marriage" hmmmmmm" Am not sure you will like the outcome
PLEASE DO NOT BASE YOUR MARRAIGE ON LIES
btw
There is nothing wrong with you
God will make you boobs equal in the eyes of your husband
Darling you are beautiful just the way you are. Don't let anyone ever try to tell you differently.
ReplyDeleteSo God made you a bit differently from how he made the rest, just goes to show you He is God!
No,it will not affect fertility, breastfeeding etc. Yes, you should tell your man.
Will he leave you once you tell him? Well, would you leave him if you found out he had a toy whistle on place of a trumpet?
What ever answer you give is the answer you deserve.
Osaro. P. Agbonkhuluemien
Attend Deeper Life retreat between 24 to 27 this month. You can fast and pray about it before attending, God did it for someone at this year's shiloh, he will do yours, just believe. Good luck
ReplyDeleteThey are both small but beautiful!sounds more like an advertisement than a solicitation for help...my candid advise let him c it
ReplyDeleteAndy can have breast enlargement surgery done
Dear, no two breast are equal.And to think of the way you discribed it,seems the small one is obvious.While the breast is budding during puberty it appears most time that one grows more than the other and thats normal.But for it to be obvious the way you discribed it maybe an imbalance in your homonal function.(oestrogen).Since we didnt see the picture of the breast,cant really say much.Mayb you use silicon on the small breast.You can also go on a gentle breast massage on the small breast.like twice or trice a day on your own.Meanwhile you need to tell your boo before hand.Its well.
ReplyDeleteAttend Deeper Life retreat between 24 to 27 this month. Pray and fast about it before attending. God did it for someone at this year's shiloh, he would do yours. Just believe. Good luck
ReplyDeleteSorry poster. Please tell your fiance now so you don't complicate issues in future. I believe in God and miracles, He did it for a lady at Shiloh, yours won't be different if you believe. No need to wait till Shiloh to get your miracles, attend wednesday communion service and participate in taking the communion. It works.
ReplyDeleteAttend Deeper Life retreat between 24 to 27 this month. Pray and fast about it before attending. God did it for someone at this year's shiloh, he would do yours. Just believe. Good luck
ReplyDeleteEyah,I feel for you but I think cosmetic surgery can correct it and please don't hide d truth from your husband to be.
ReplyDeletePlease tell him ..do no lay the foundation of your home and marriage on lies..I knw its easier said than done but please summon up courage to show him
ReplyDeleteMy breast are very small I can't go out without BRA
ReplyDeleteI wear two foam bra to make them look very big
Am scared of doing surgery so am managing my small breast
And I have a man who makes me comfortable with my small breast
So poster do not take any secret to your matrimonial home....any man that loves you won't be concern about you BOOBS
Really dunno what to say coz sum1 has seen a girl of 27 with no breast, no vagina, no ovaries.
ReplyDeleteSo what qualified her to be a girl?
Delete@poster, hiding your true self to ur supposed hubby may spell doom. Tell him and let him respond or react. I f he truly loves you, he will not run away. I also have a feeling that the breast may size up during pregnancy
ReplyDeleteHi dear sorry abt ur plight...I once read dt massaging ones boobs with olive oil makes it bigger; maybe u shud try dat out, keep massaging d smaller one every night...till dey rhyme hopefully
ReplyDeleteU can also, pray n fast abt it...dats where d greatest solution to every problem lies...Gdlk dear
Pls don't be discouraged, my mom has dis same issue, bt she birthed 5 children only wit one breast, so dear, get a foam bra dats is d size of d bigger one ad use. Den don't forget to tell ur boo d problem. A broken relationship is better den a broken marriage. Tanx, tank me later
ReplyDeleteHow about cosmetic surgery possible
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you.....
ReplyDeleteHow about cosmetic surgery? Possible? If not then let him know
ReplyDelete@Poster!..It's perfectly normal for one to breast to be larger than the other (yours is just obvious), some breast grow more quickly than the other. But they 'll even up over time. There is nothing much can done on uneven breasts. A good bra will help make any differences between breast less obvious.
ReplyDeleteDo tell him and don't forget that no matter how small a breast is, can still secrete milk for baby after delivery.
All the best.
Accept it like that and tell your man. You can start a conversation like asking him ''Honey, do you have any secret you want to share with me?" then you tell him your breast issue. Its better he knows now so you will know your stand before marriage. there was a woman I used to know back in the 90s who had this same problem. One breast was very small, she used to put foam in the smaller one under the bra to make them look equal. She had 5kids for her husband and she is still alive, healthy.
ReplyDeleteU pple jst be mentioning cosmetic surgery like it's 1 naira! !
ReplyDeletePoster pls tell ur husby to be..if ur union is meant to be it will stand....be self confident also.... I read wat Queen Amy said and all I can deduce is dat THERE IS HOPE FOR U!!
U pple jst be mentioning cosmetic surgery like it's 1 naira! !
ReplyDeletePoster pls tell ur husby to be..if ur union is meant to be it will stand....be self confident also.... I read wat Queen Amy said and all I can deduce is dat THERE IS HOPE FOR U!!
Hmmmmm.....seems I was the one that sent in this. But guess what dear,I am married to the most amazing man on earth. Though I dnt see yours,but mine is really obvious too. My dear,just learn to love yourself regardless. E-hugs
ReplyDeletedear poster accept yourself the way you are....try. please don't hide this from your man, a man that truly loves you will your breast the way they are. some people are born without breasts, some without legs some lose theirs through accident , some goes blind all these u cannot compare to your breast's problem and don't ever again question God for creating you like that . tell your man, if he was yours he will never walk away. what if ,on your wedding night he finds out about it and you are thrown into depression when you should be enjoying honeymoon. him finding out on his own after the wedding ceremony.....I pray u don't send in chronicle of unhappy marriage cos he will be ' madly in angry with you ' for pretending all along. *Senemoletto####
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your wonderful advise. I now have the liver to talk to my man.
ReplyDeleteI know your case is quite different from mine.but had a quite small breast that were likE south and north apart n also insisted on no sex before marriage bt on a particular occasion before I got married had to intentionally pull off my clothes infront of DH,he didn't say anytin but when we finally got marrieD wE sometimes laugh ova my small breast and I use good bra so u dnt even get to notice the sizE that much.
ReplyDeletejst lyk ur guy avin a one_inched d!ck. he wud neva let u kw bfr marriage..
ReplyDeletePlease open up to him, don't feel bad the way you are created, God knows all
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