Crazy world with crazy people doing crazy things!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
LOOPHOLES
Good day Stella, I have a serious issue that I want BVs to advise me on. Its the longest story ever...
I have been in a relationship with my gal for 4yrs and few months now. When we began dating, I spoilt her with my own little money in my little way, I bought her Jamb, Post Utme etc. She just finished her OND this year.
Her twin sister told me that my gal was a virgin then and I didn't bother to demand sex from her for 3yrs of our relationship even though she visited me 3times during that 3yrs, yet I never had sex with her.
So when I saw she was cheating(she never knew I had her facebook password) I decided to have sex with her, to avoid being a "one chance" maga.
When I ate her apple, low and behold, she wasn't even a Virgin at all, then she started crying, apologising that she wanted to test my love by pretending to be a virgin. I couldn't bear the lie and pretence so we broke up for over 8months and she apologised and asked for a come back for serious relationship, I forgave her permanently and we came back.
We became best of friends again, I went to see her mum, she also went to see mine (we are fatherless) and we have started preparing for marriage. The main problem I have with her is....
1. We rarely have sex, she told me she hates sex, but me I love sex(no pretence). I told her I will never commit adultery, that she should be ready for sex whenever the duty calls.
2. She is not deeply into me emotionally, she isn't romantic, she is short tempered and I also possess those qualities too. But she is so good in chores, apology and quietness which I love her for.
3. I want to get married next year, she said I don't have anything yet, asking where i am rushing to. Whereas she knows I am 30yrs, she is 25, I have 3 plots of land.
Lastly she came to my place ,spent a night and left the next morning and we didn't enter the place. I went to withdraw 22K, 20K for infinix fone and 2k for her transport back home. We got to the shop and she was pointing at bigger and more expensive fones. I told her my budget, she just looked round and said let's go.
I thought we were going to another shop, but no, she said we should go to park, and when we got there, she said I shouldn't give her the money. I was so furious and then I told her that's not how to do things that I will just leave her now, she said I should go, so I just paid the driver her T-fare and left with my other 20K.
She started calling and I told her never to call me again, she called her sister that I left her stranded at the park. They have been disturbing me with calls, not so sure I can cope with her character in the future. Please dear BVs advise me as your blood brother.
Hmm this girl is not ready to be serious with you,she just wants to milk the little that you have..Please let her go and stop letting come back to beg and confuse you every time.
I dont think two short tempered people will make a good couple oh...be warned!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
A RELATIONSHIP FULL OF MALICE AND APOLOGIES
Hi Stella,
A huge fan of your blog......
I've been in a relationship with a man for a year.. all was rosy and like a fairy tale till I said I love you..though he has said it too but from then He stopped being romantic.. he got too comfortable in the relationship,I shower him with romance, I'm very caring and loving towards him and because of that I feel he now takes advantage of me.
Whenever there's a problem in the relationship he doesn't talk about it he ignores it, I feel like he feels I need him more than he needs me, he keeps malice with me A LOT.
When his feelings are hurt ( which is all the time) he keeps malice till I apologise and pet him.. when my feelings are hurt he'll find a way to turn it around and make him the victim and keep malice with me after hurting me he'll still be waiting for me to apologise and pet him.and I can't take it anymore..
So recently he hurt me and I decided to give him a taste of his own drama, we fought and I've not spoken to him for days, he has made no attempt to contact me and I've vowed not to contact him till he apologises..
The problem is his birthday is in fast approaching...
Should I break my silence and wish him a happy birthday and send him his gift? (Wouldn't that make him keep taking advantage of me) Or should I totally ignore it? Maybe he'll learn how hurtful it is when he ignores me?
Ps. On my birthday he gave me gifts, cakes, romantic dinner..he made it so special for me that's before he changed.
Please Stell use your red pen. Thanks.
Isnt there a way you can give him his gift without making contact?like sending it to him via courier?
Dont settle for less than you deserve cos you will get even less than you settled for...If he ends up marrying you,you already know what you are going in for .....A LIFETIME OF MALICE AND YOU BECOMING AN OFFICIAL APOLOGISER.
If you both decide to settle this one and come back together,have a talk with him and do a soul search on what you really want.
Good luck.
hmmmm
ReplyDeleteJoblesshousewife
P1 she doesn't love you. She's just using you.
DeleteP2 you are in an unhealthy relationship. My mum would always say 'never show a man how much you love him'. Send him a gift like stella said and ignore him, if he wins this one he will never change.
Poster 1 & 2 follow Stelz advice.
DeleteShiloh 2015 mode activated.
@Hetty moore I know she is in Love with me for real. I even sent her a break up sms the nxt day, na there her siblings and my bro begin call say she refused to eat for 3days now and she has been moody, sad and quiet. That I shd pls talk to her and calm her down. She love me, she is even seeing me as her husband already, all her family members and mine are even waiting for us to fix date for intro. she is expecting me to ask her "the big question". But am just being careful cos there are some characters I can't cope with in marriage and I can cancel a wedding a day to the ceremony if the gal fuck me up. My gal fuck up don dey too many, she knows if she try nonsense again, I go jst quit cos I have bear enough of her fuck up
DeleteYou be better maga inlove with you ,you be loyal maga ,better wake up and know the difference between love and lust,i will give reasons why
DeleteThat your girl likes sex ,not with you
Is either your sex bores her or you she isnt enjoying sex with you ,you will be surprse she loves sex more than you.,omo i tire to type
FIX THEM JESUS
ReplyDeletePoster2:don't send any gift biko! Show him that you mean business.wtf
DeleteJust Negodu!
ReplyDelete*******LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS******
Poster1, nor vex ohhh, are u frm Edo, benin to be precise??? Lolzzzzz, u cracked me up with the way you write, enter the place and all that...
DeleteThat gurl does not have an iota of luv for you, she is using you, you better u let her go,
Poster2, hahahahahahahaha, I like today's chronicles,this should be in sunday's laff, poster bonnnnn him joor, forget gift, he knowns u must come arud, especially bcos his birthday is arud d corner, if una settle u giann gift jare, meanwhile use ur tongue to count ur teeth, cos frm wat u ve said so far, he isn't a "marriage material" ohhh.
#myopinion.
****LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS****
Am poster one, thank u so much Stella. @Em Jay yes o, I be confirmed Edo guy. I wished this was posted earlier ehn, I for follow all una advise wella, but seriously, MALE BVS shd find time to always advise peeps here also cos u may have been in same shoe at some point in time and u scaled through.
DeleteFor those saying am a broke ass nigga, pls am trying my best, am a graduate, will be 30 next year, the land I have is in 3 different states, one in Agbor park in Benin City, one in Lagos and the third one in Sango in Ogun state. Even planning to buy a car, start building and marry nxt year.
As par whether she love me, she love me and I swear the gal can die for me, she love me sooooo much, na me no come too love her as such. She jst have that bad attitude and I never knew her so well cos it has been distance relatnshp from day 1. Yes she cheated, I accepted her cos I am not a saint either. My only issh is she can kill person with apology but to do the right thing is a no no. For the money N22,000. I don chop am finish since 3days ago, no time for rubbish. If she just fuck me up again, I go break up permanently cos am not ready to only endure marriage, I go enjoy my marriage too o.
For her hot character, she is actually cooling down for Jesus cos me I no ready to cool down o and so many people, debtors, senior colleagues, choir members, etc have made me become strong and hot tempered unlike b4 when I used to be a cold, born again and gentle christian. Thanks all for ur contribution. So SDK BVs chronicles are for real o.
LOL to both posters...
ReplyDeletePoster 1, she's not serious yet and she doesn't want to get married yet and as such is as if you are forcing her to marry u.
DeletePoster 2, if you know u can give him the silent treatment, try it n send his gift to him without saying a word...
Poster two he needs to learn this lesson now or else it goes on forever he will leave the house for days when you quarrel of you marry. Send his gifts text him happy birthday and ignore him.
ReplyDeletePoster one keep walking
Poster two,follow this advice.
DeleteSherry's Daughter
Poster1; That babe to send u. She's dancing to both ur blues. Soon u'd dance to her raggae. Pls bone her. Now use d 'Sitdown look' approach follow her wit d leg she giv u. By d way, u must not chop. The one she giv u, beleful wit dt one. Also NO vex she deciv u unto 'chasis'. It's over.
DeletePoster2: hehhehehehe this just reminds me of university days. I fell head over my very high heels afta he died &resurected for me. U shud know men by practical (experience) or theory. KEY: if u can log out, he wil think 2ce &get off his high horse. Everyman get him emotional pride. If he comms around, let him work for ur trust &love back. If u think u owe him, waybil d gift, wit short written note. Don't even send sms, bcos from typing HBD, u'd rememba fun times, &hurts &b decivd u r meant to be than u'd text -i love u-. Pls NO!
Another foolish girlie love wud ring in ur head, 'see d end', den u'd com &b going &u guys wud shag. If u finaly go c him, dt. Wud b satisfying ur emotional hunger of being loved back. But just get ready to find strent wen it happens again.
Chronicle chronicle chronicle..
ReplyDeleteGod help the posters..
Jehovah fix every of der problem.
Poster 1.....pls look for a mature girl biko cos that ur babes is very childish nd a gold digger.......poster 2; I had dis same issue nd decided to receive brain ,my dear I didn't knw this my pretender boyfriend loved me piecesly ,I boned his ,I stopped calling ,I stopped replying his bbm chats nd Whatsapp .....his family had to call for a meeting . my dear, don't send him a bday gift try not to wish him as well . you re not stew rice ,you are jollof rice .
Delete@ poster 2, please send him a birthday message very early on his birthday,just a normal prayer message, remember to put your name,pretending as if he doesn't ve ur number again.its either, he loves you and just having attitudes or he's fed up of you and always want to use this as d slightest opportunity to quit. Dnt send gifts, just make sure ur text message Is d first he ll receive. Dats all.
DeleteMen with their ego sha!!!
Narrative 1... Thank your stars and find a better girl. she isn't into you.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2.... Negodu
Poster one, u r a maga! Lol
ReplyDeleteOfficial maga!
Make she chop u small abeg hahahahahaa, shey u don chop her punna.. hahhaaa...
Every man is a maga!
DeleteOh yeah?
DeleteEnd time relatiinships
ReplyDeletePoster 1 is a maga. Her excuse for not being a virgin is ridiculous. If you believe her, it means you sef no get head.
DeletePoster 2 don't send any birthday gift or birthday wishes so that he will realise that you are really not happy. It can make him change for the better or help you become wise enough to dump him
Poster2:
DeleteNB: pls do NOT put his pix on any of ur Messengers. Years ago in school, I had an ish wit a guy on 13th Feb. He boned me.
Me sef boned him. On 14th Feb, He must ve seen or heard dt parcels got to me. Twas @night he cald to c mee &gave me a gift. Stil I acepted &bone.
If afta all d boning, he does not show u his love in anyway, just cry on ur pilllow &MOVE ON. Don't imagine drinking Dettol o cos he'd stil rock his life witout u. Just b strong. Divert ur thots &exert ursef somoda way.
Don't ever regrets. If u score ursef good, den any man who looses u is a Looser.
*relationships
ReplyDeleteWhereas she knows I am 30yrs, she is 25, I have 3 plots of land..................so hilarious. p1. leave
ReplyDeletep2. leave.
@Poster 1, if you can't cope with her characters, abeg free the girl. The love is one sided, if you finally settle down with her, she married you out of no choice and pity, she doesn't love you as you do.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, send the gift to him through someone, text him and wish him well. But make sure he apologize to you, because he will use that opportunity to want to come back and never apologize. What you can't take when you become rich, please reject it while you're still poor. If he's behaving like this while courting, I fear how bad his character will become after marriage, abeg marriage na eye opener o.
*Larry was here*
Poster1: Get serious with yourself
ReplyDeletePoster2: you need some sense. You want to waste your ttime and become old meat. You re not in any relationship.
I tire
ReplyDeletePoster1: back off
Poster2: ignore him! Send. Someone to deliver his gifts, no calls from u! Even if he calls to talk, don't give in. Untill he apologize! Pele na baby husband! Go and read mor on types of husbands and wife
FYI, 3plots of land for village no be 1plot for city oh.... That aside, she don see ur pocket finish, so if she says ure not ready, she means u cnt cope with her marital demands, she no ready, if u think ure ready.
ReplyDeleteI don't wana sound proud o @White Prints, the plots of land: one in Lagos, one in Benin, one in Sango. The Benin and Lagos well secured and located in a good place, people already living everywhere there, opposite and beside the land, light already there since adam, I can start living there too, just that am not even based there. Am ready for marriage cos ama 1st born boy and gat no excuse to tell mum and siblings abt the delay cos they know I can even take care of a family of 6 right now.
Deletethelma enemuwe said
ReplyDeletePoster1 ....pls keep walking, ure already seeing the red signs, don't ignore it....
Poster 2...let wisdom guard you
*faithful bv enemuwe thelma*
just negodu. brb
ReplyDeletePoster 1 : asides the land , do u have a steady source of income ? How come u can afford just 20k for phone? Isn't it ur mates buying iPhone 6s for their women ? Stay there and be dulling . Nonsense
DeleteGuy u over try to bring 20k for fone just like dt.
DeleteA man shudd plan.
If u buy her iPhone6 now, means u wud b buyin every new xpennsive products.
Life is sweet but cud b hard & sweet and also hardly sweet. Gifts xpensive n outrageous in price does not mean love. #plan
Poster 1-
ReplyDeleteToo many redflags already.
Your relationship has a bleak future.
End it.
Poster 2- your boyfriend is a big baby with selfish emotions.
Ignore him to reset his emotions. If he wants to get lost from there, let him go.
How long will you continue to beg him regardless of who is wrong?
What annoying ego he's got.
Namsense.
Ps- as per his birthday, send a cake or whatever to him. Don't show up or call him.
Well said..
DeletePoster 1, let her go.
Poster 2, ignore him and very well too.
Inukwa
Poster 1 that your babe is not contented with u, she would also look out, what's wrong with managing the little u have to offer till things get better, if she isn't ready to change pls forget her.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 don't contact him, keep avoiding him till he apologizies, u can't keep begging a man, free him pls.
Poster 1, she s not ready for marriage (with you).she wants to settle for an already made man probably she has a frnd whose man is very well made and she s comparing you both.she s holding on to you till she finds a man that can gv her his ATM to spend as she wish.the condition you can take her back is if she s TRULY ready for marriage(of course after a series of secret tests to b sure she s not pretending). For now,gv her a break if she WL come to your level of thinking but bros e, the way you used some slangs in your chronicle sounds somehow immature.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,stop apologising.let him grow up a bit and if he doesn't, don't look back.he WL make u emotionally reckless wen u marry him. Don't even send a gift sef,let him know u too can keep malice
Exactly @ p2
DeletePoster 2: my dear just ex him out of your mind. That relationship isn't healthy. But before then, prove to him you are a bigger person. Wish him a happy birthday, give him his gift and bounce. Wishing you all the best
DeleteThanks o, its her ex that spoilt her with love, money, care and all. Me I love ladies who are always appreciative of every little favour done to them. I mean how can a guy, ur own bf, wey no chop ur apple, still use church mind give u N22,00 and u dey do some shakara, I soffry shuck-in my money o, send give my elder sis, pay church bills and enjoy myself. Na devil make her lose the cash and phone I swear!!!
DeleteHaba poster 1my bf has not 'chopped my apple' but he bought me a brand new rose gold iphone6s. Oh he has spent more than a million Naira on me
Deletepost 1 nigga forget the girl since you don achieve 3pts and she dey fuck up
ReplyDeletepost 2 go with Stella red ink
#GODWIN™
Narrative 2if na me I will not send anything n I won't feel bad... Narrative 1 get the fuck off that relationship.
ReplyDelete1. She's not ready to settle down yet. Not matured enough and yes 2 quick-tempered people don't blend in marriage.
ReplyDelete2. If you can cope with his attitude, then carry on but if not, pray to God to give you a man that will love your imperfection.
Kornicle
ReplyDelete@p0ster1 run
ReplyDelete@p0ster2 keep running dnt st0p
Poster2 sounds like myself n hubby. My dear, if u end up getting married, ur life will be full of regrets. They re. Scumbags! They don't knowthe worth of good ladies till they miss them! Biko, use d money for d cake n buy clothes or shoes! Ignore him, sharp!
ReplyDeletePele babes, I feel ur pain. You're not alone. I've decided to get myself a guy that'll make me feel like d passionate woman I used to be since he's hell-bent on not changing. Guy just wants to extinguish d woman in me,i no go gree.
Deleteposter 1. your gf isn't ready for what you are ready for. both of u are not driving on the same direction. that babe is not what you think,how can someone deceive you for 3years being a fake virgin. chei i cant imagine doing that, i believe she was truly a virgin when u met her but gave it to someone else so she had to change the story so u wouldn't feel bad she cheated on you. please go and get someone who is ready to plan life with you and help you manage your resources. poster 2, please do as aunt Stella has said. no need seeing him
ReplyDeleteOfficial Apologiser..Stella you get mouth!!
ReplyDeletePoster1 you too have your own fault,I'm sure its the way and manner you told her you have just 20k that got her angry,work on your temper too.
Poster2 your guy is suffering from see finish syndrome.
Poster 1: forget that girl! She just wants to milk u dry. The worst thing ever is having an immature drama queen as a wife. If she doesn't change and you marry her... There will never be peace in your home. She will always nag and not be content with anything you give her so kindly just put the relationship on ice until you've figure out what you really want - call her and hash things out like adults.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: in all honesty.... I think it's a case of see finish you're dealing with. That's men for you. Once they get to know that you love them more, they will start acting up. Men enjoy the case, the excitement of the unknown so i think you should take Stella's advice - send the gift via courier because he made your birthday special so return the favour.... But do not text or call him first, then on his birthday send him a text message. Don't do anything else beyond that. You have to be smart about this situation. Play it cool, let him chase you. If you guys are truly meant to me.. He will miss you and come back to you.. If not.. Then you'll have to tell yourself the truth and simply move on.
Good luck to both of you.. God bless you
Breanna Mag God bless u,you said it as it is. It is called see finish am in this situation right now, love this guy die but is always messing up and I will be the one to beg him. This time I have given him till end of this year to come round if not by next year will join the Johnny Walker team ( yes there is a toaster by the side but I love my BF more).Stellastic you also spoke to me if we reconcile this time which I pray we do because I miss him, na serious talk ooo, because no time for bullcrap again.
DeleteAnonymous... Click my name and send me an email let's chat lol. My dear stay strong.... These men can be very horrible sometimes but you must stay strong and stand your ground... Especially if you want to marry him. He must change now or he will be worse later.
DeleteI wish you all the best darling, stay strong you hear? God bless you Hun
Poster 2, your boyfriend behaves like me husband, i've got one word for you 4get dat relationship if not you ll definitely live a life of regret just like I am doing now. Be wise.
ReplyDeleteThe two posts are a beauty parade of the ugly!
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1: ISN'T A "LOOPHOLE" IT IS A "MANHOLE"! TWO SHORT FUSED PEOPLE living in a house is boko haram explosives! And to "open legs" and "eat the apple" and pretending to be "preparing for marriage" is to deceive oneself that NEPA'S transformer is an upholstery love seat! "The Nama" can't go to Sokoto with this broken legs. For if the foundation be destroyed, what can the "righteous do". Marriage is a righteous venture!
POSTER 2: is desperate and have lost her pride as a lady. The moment you do (yes "open legs" )are involved here. Close your legs and your mouth and your phones and move on girl!
Poster 1- you are her Miguel and you'll remain so if you allow it. Another man whom she loves (who you might even be better than) is waiting somewhere. She has been cheating on u with him. You her just her spare tyre ATM .. The day the other one dumps her,she will accept ur proposal. Please let her go
ReplyDeletePoster 1: e be like say u get money to waste. Ur babe is 25 and still thinking like a child? Mtchewww
ReplyDeletePoster 2: abeg ignore jare. If possible turn of your fones for a month. Hehehehe. Just send a gift and don't come in contact with him
POSTER 2: moving on . . .
ReplyDeleteWhat I would add here is for you young lady to "close your legs". I have counselled ladies over the years in the course of my work and I have come to discover that majority of the ladies that do not "move on" whenever a relationship does not work out are those who had given in to sexual pressures, committed abortions or gotten infections from their partners. They keep sulking even a decade after the break up whereas their male counterparts had moved on, married and had kids. This later scenario usually adds to the lady's predicament. On the other hand, those who "closed their legs" have more secure and trustworthy marriages apart from "moving on" faster. Also lady, spice your spiritual life with God's word. Learn to read your scriptures (New Testament -you can google it and read on your mobile phones or tablets) and find out what LOVE means.
1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. . .
YOUR "TOY FRIEND" is proud and seeking his own. He is TOYING WITH YOUR LIFE AND WHAT ABOUT YOU? YOU HAVE OPENED LEGS! CLOSE IT AND RECOVER YOUR DIGNITY AND MOVE ON!
Whether I open leg or close am for d man, dat one no dey affect me. I dey move on sharply, no dulling. I go think d mata max 1 week n forget d cow. On to d next one!
DeleteLady IGO!!,you've been missed.
DeleteSherry's Daughter
Poster 1, your girl is so childish, remember, maturity is the key to every relationship, shine your eyes ooooo
ReplyDeletePoster 2, abeg, stick to your word and deliver his gift through Dhl, don't fall into this trap oooo, the guy ain't loyal
Poster 2: If there is no one to get his gift over,please go to his house,drop the gift,greet him and turn around. Don't beg or talk to him,don't even look back to know what he does with the gift.just leave......... Make sure you send his gift over.
ReplyDeleteWhich kind go his house, drop gift n talk to him on top. That means she is back to square one nah. Going all the way to his house? That is the ultimate reconciliation nah. If she can't courier, she shld send it thro a friend or something.
DeleteEnter your comment...It is well!
ReplyDeletePoster 1, just let her go. The love is one sided.
ReplyDeletePoster1 you deserve more than that your girlfriend.... at 25, any sensible last that has a vision should be able to take care of herself and here is an ingrate rejecting a mouth watering gift of #20,000.
ReplyDeleteMy man wise up ooo, her family ppl even sound like bad ppl.
Poster2... Don't settle for less than you bargained for initially at all because you may end up regretting.
A man that beefs his gf or wife is the definition if immaturity.
Thanks bv for sending in your Chronicles
I hope I helped
Lol u must be new here
DeleteLol @thanks bv for sending in your chronicle. Newbie alert....
DeletePoster 2,why even send him gifts? Just break up with him already.
ReplyDelete@poster 1,let her go.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,please leave her because she don't love you as you do
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ReplyDeleteLa Sweet thanks, is Love that made us date till today. Our relationship has so many sad stories and events, that's why am scared of putting a ring on it. From fake virgin/pretence, to too much financial demands, to bad attitudes, to temperaments. Yet I forgave all but can she change such behaviour? Ur guess is as good as mine.
DeleteHmmmm! Mostimes love is not really enough dear. You will need attitudes. Weigh the options. I am yet to be convinced she truly understand the "deep" meaning of love. d virginity story though
DeletePoster1, u r being used! Poster 2, send him a gift but don't call him!!!!
ReplyDeleteStories!!!!!!! Abeg I'm tired!
ReplyDeleteI thought dey said husband is scarce, don't know y dis life is like this! There are thousands of gals trying to get a serious guy as bf dem no see.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1- The lady in question is only after what you can offer her. If she finds someone who can give her more, she will take a long walk away from you. Take your stand, be the man and do the right thing for you. If she's not ready to manage till you're better off financially, let her go and find someone who will be better for you.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2- Send your gift without making contacts. You know what you want from a relationship. Its obviously not apologising when he's wrong. In all, do what you know is best for you.
Poster one 1. That girl doesnt like you one bit. she is just there for the cash! and am sure her twin sister knows about it. Just leave them and move on with your life. You will find someone that loves you. From your write up, you dont even seem short tempered to me. you really tolerated o, cos most guys wont take back a cheating gf. Good
ReplyDeleteluck to you.
Poster2, just be the bigger person.Give him one last chance (atleast becos of his birthday) Call him a day or two to his birthday, pour out your mind, tell him how hurt u really feel and how he needs to stop that nasty attitude. He just has ego problems. He will apologiZe and u guys will make up and u can make his birthday special as u want.
But after this, if he tries it again, DO NOT CALL HIM. After 2 weeks of no contact, delete his nos and block him and move the hell on girl. You are amazing and you will find someone dying for your love. Goodluck.
Exactly it seems u know me, I don't go angry easily unless am seriously provoked. I am very quiet, free, understanding, faithful to one partner, nice, God-fearing, forgiving, good in bed, respectful, non-smoker, not a womaniser, don't drink alcohol, a very cheerful giver, a good husband in the making, heavenly minded, etc. I took her back cos I have never been so lucky with gals in my life, but now am scared of marriage cos I will Never ever divorce with my future wife in Jesus name. But how do I go abt this, is the big question.
DeletePoster one 1. That girl doesnt like you one bit. she is just there for the cash! and am sure her twin sister knows about it. Just leave them and move on with your life. You will find someone that loves you. From your write up, you dont even seem short tempered to me. you really tolerated o, cos most guys wont take back a cheating gf. Good
ReplyDeleteluck to you.
Poster2, just be the bigger person.Give him one last chance (atleast becos of his birthday) Call him a day or two to his birthday, pour out your mind, tell him how hurt u really feel and how he needs to stop that nasty attitude. He just has ego problems. He will apologiZe and u guys will make up and u can make his birthday special as u want.
But after this, if he tries it again, DO NOT CALL HIM. After 2 weeks of no contact, delete his nos and block him and move the hell on girl. You are amazing and you will find someone dying for your love. Goodluck.
@poster1,your girlfriend is not ready to be your help mate or settle down.I think she's still out to have fun.The choice is yours if you want to still be with her.
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment...@poster1, that ur babe is not into you at all, she taking u as a maga abeg break up fast girls are evrywre.
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@poster2 hmmmmmm well I think ur bf is a big baby try and talk to him to grow up abeg.
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ReplyDeleteI couldn't even finish reading the number one chronicle. Man, you are nothing but a fool. You are not a man but a woman with penis. I keep saying that there is a dearth of men these days. Parents have failed their children and children have failed themselves. You are already in a deeeeep hole and you should be prepared for the hole to get deeper. That's all the advice you need
ReplyDeletePoster1. It seems she is not yet ready for marriage, or she doesn't wanna settle down with u. Why not find out from her what she really wants, cox it looks like u are forcing her to marry u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: If u end up with this man, that means u will be begging and petting him for the rest of ur life even when he hurts u. As for his birthday gift, look for a way of sending it across to him.
Stella, I love the advice you gave both posters. simple ans straight to the point
ReplyDeletePoster one, as a brother my advise is this. Sell one plot of land and use the proceeds to build a house on 1 of the other two you have left. Use your N20k to enjoy your weekend and please while at it, find yourself a new woman. That you want to marry that "tin" does not make you her atm card or "elected mugu". Use your brain, tell her you forgive her but you can't marry her anymore.
ReplyDeletePoster one..
ReplyDeleteShe is not that into you.
Poster two...
If you really want to send a strong message, you have the perfect avenue, ignore his birthday. No gift no message. That is if he doesn't call before his birthday.
Poster two, no one is in the relationship with you and no one would be in the marriage with you if he eventually marries you. Why not take your decision based on what you know about him and what you want in your life. Whatever decision is a risk that has no guarantee of success or failure. Sticking with him is a risk and leaving him is a risk so take a decision and stand by your decision no matter how it turns out. That way you will not hurt at the end of the day
ReplyDeletePoster 1.... seems you dey live for village. How much is the 3 plots of lands you have. Just know that you dont have money and your girl get ojukokoro.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.... Desperation is written all over you. I dont know why you girls think men is cover clothes for you. Just be yourself and leave the MOFO.
Give me the gift i need am.
Poster one
ReplyDeleteTo avoid being a "one chance" maga??? Really???
Well,most women are erractic..we change our minds all the time. We act out,we sulk.i don't believe she is greedy,i think she just saw other fab phones and lost control.lol
All these things does not make her a bad wife to be.
If you have fallen out of love with her,kindly let her know.
From your chronicle,you need to read more,learn from people filled with wisdom...gather a wealth of experience..I will not even tell you to wait for a while,i know men that got married at 30 and old married couples come to them for advice.Prepare your mind first!
Your story is too jumbled abeg.headache ooooh.
Poster two
Go online,order things for him and give them his address.
This is the time to define and reshape your relationship.
How long will you keep begging?
If you are hoping to settle with this fella,all those things he swept under the carpet has to be brought out and treated!
Some men wanna break up with you,they don't know how to be ruthless about it,they let you do the breaking up(weasels). So let's have a waiting game and see what happens.
All the best!
For me no order anything cos its d the warm thoughts that really counts.noy the gifting.and I wouldn't want him to think for a second that u tot of him....u get? Proud somebori.
DeletePOSTER 1:
ReplyDeleteYou both possessed dislike qualities. Anger itself is danger. So being with another angry person is like adding fuel to fire. You should look for someone to compliment you. Your other half. My hubby loved keeping to himself when we met, had anger/ communication issues, doesn’t talk much but what attracted me to him were my opposite attributes. He always wanted me to come around to make him laugh, he used to miss my noise if he doesn’t see me in a day and I had to read books on how to handle anger crises by a spouse. He also complimented my own lapses #impatience. Today, he gets worried if I keep to myself. I had complimented him. I frustrate his effort on getting angry, I gradually thought him on checking up on me, I make him talk to me instead of keeping to himself( off course by offering him friendship) and today my “likes” had repel his “dislikes” while love was established. This was all possible with love. In your case, you are both danger. Where there is no romance, it means you both avoids intimacy. The attributes she possesses in which you admired cannot sustain Marriage in a long term. Hmmmm! Sexless marriage? You can’t survive it if you love sex. Again, the girl is not into you as you are to her. Every one in love will do anything possible to be with the one the love. The feelings is not mutual. I am sorry, if it hurts. I hardly discourage love cos I love love and I love to love but your case is a NO for muo.
POSTER 2:
I see immaturity. Go for a man who loves, adores values and respect you. Love is a 2-way thing dear.
U speak so maturely God bless u!! I learn a lot from ur comment always.yeah!
DeleteThanks dear
DeletePoster one:- no offense intended but you don't know what you want yet.....you strike me as someone who is confused
ReplyDeleteFirst off,you said you caught her cheating on Facebook and decided to be eat her apple so you won't be a maga then found out she wasn't a virgin...who else sees the contradiction in that??
Secondly, you decided to eat her apple because you in your stupidity still thought she's a virgin...so if she had still been a virgin,you would have left her alone after the "apple eating"???
As for the girl,she doesn't love you or maybe she isn't just ready for marriage
In short, all offense intended; you both are like kids and please don't get married to her.....thank you
Poster two:- you gave no details of how he hurt you neither did you give details of how you hurt him back so I am at a loss on what to tell you but what I will say is that if you truly really like him,then forget about drama and make him happy on his birthday..... #kizzez
Baba says "I have three plots of land"😂 In lekki or owerri ?
ReplyDeletePoster 1: You know what to do, stop wasting blogspace
ReplyDeletePoster 2: This is your opportunity o! Go shopping, buy him nice stuff, send a cake to his office etc. Put his pic as your dp. But dont call him. See if he doesnt call to say thank u. Them you'll know whether you are dating a craze man
Poster 1,leave that girl already.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,I really can't deal with a guy who keeps malice.So childish and petty.Please,keep on ignoring him.Look for a way to send his gift across to him but don't send it personally.He doesn't even deserve any gift from you.
Both posters should locate each other and date one another. But I don't think the girl will wantu start afresh with the dude.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,You might have slept with her but you're still a Maga. Leave her and find someone who'll appreciate you. She doesn't love you kra (That's one bit). She's just using your head. Leave her, leave her, leave her. Forget that you people have done micro introduction. Run for your life o. Tor.
Poster two. Don't o, he doesn't love you. Just move on. It will never stop. Please please and please if you love your self, just leave. Don't give him nada, you're angry at him. My mind tells me you'll still give him the gift. You should be the one to be apologized to always except you know you actually did wrong. Please let that silence break you people up. Live goes on.
I have zero tolerance for people who think another person can't live without them. Mschew.
Both of u should leave that rship but poster one honestly I can't date u u were mean u would hv given her d 22k and tell her to settle her phone issues that is not ur problem again
ReplyDeletePoster1 free the gal abeg cos this look like one chance since u said u guys are not emotionally connected, u guys might just end up resenting each other if u marry.
ReplyDeletePoster2 u can look for a way to send the gift but don't settle for less than you deserve..
Poster 1- you haven't seen or met your wife yet.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- kontinue,if you love yourself,you will leave the poisonous situationship and move ahead to something/something that truly deserves you.
@poster1 : you have 3 plots of lands?
ReplyDeleteYou love sex?
Your look is just too local
Lmao! I don't like that poster one wahali
DeleteIn d flesh, 2 of you should leave your partners. In d spirit, just pray and ask God for divine direction.
ReplyDelete@poster2 : he is acting like because you have shown him too much love.....learn 2 give your man space, don't make him feel that you need him more.
ReplyDeletePlease just send him a birthday text n don't buy him any gift yet....wait till you guys start talking.
@poster2 : he is acting like because you have shown him too much love.....learn 2 give your man space, don't make him feel that you need him more.
ReplyDeletePlease just send him a birthday text n don't buy him any gift yet....wait till you guys start talking.
P1, the babe is not in love with you, obviously. P2, send him the gift and a message and let it end there
ReplyDeletePoster 1,leave the girl alone please. She isn't contented with what you have.. Focus on building your self and get someone who is contented with what you are ready to offer
ReplyDeletePoster 2, please let me give you an advice that worked for me. My then boyfriend now hubby kept malice that way. He will not discuss relationship problems but keep malice until you apologize
When I got tired, during one of the fights, I left his house and as usual he didn't call me to apologize even though he was wrong from all angles
I decided to play his kinder game and didn't call him. Normally I would call him after 3-4 days which he was expecting but it didn't happen. 2 weeks past and I didn't click him neither did he..
Finally he called me after a month and 10 days and I didn't pick up. Because I needed to show him I could act out more than him. He called, sent messages and all sorts. Came looking for me but I already instructed the security of to ever tell him I was home. This went on for another 3 weeks before I finally picked his call..
Since then he never did that again.
Now I'm marriage he knows better than to keep malice with me because he knows I do it better than him. Now he's the one always begging over small or big issues. Not like I don't beg O but not like before..
Learn to control your men before marriage because in marriage they would be exactly the same they were in relationship or even worse..
Send his birthday gift for him thru delivery services. Send him a text message wishing him happy birthday but do not call him so he knows how serious you are
Correct woman!i love you already. I am even going through something similar with le boo. Although i was wrong initially and i tried calling to apologise only for him to tell me that its over. I said ok na and i fashied his side. And now he's been calling me but i aint pickin nigga. I intend to make him call for at least 3 days b4 i even consider answering because these men are always pushing to see what they can get away with. Not with me sha because i love my happiness too much to let any man depress me. Awon alakoba
DeleteMy dear *cleans sweat* once you start begging be ready to continue begging.
DeletePoster 1 - you're being taken for a mugu - she doesn't love you and she also wouldn't marry you.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 - you've fallen for a narcissist. Read about dating a man with narcissistic traits and you'll understand your boyfriend. Dating them is a constant roller coaster that never stops spinning.
Poster 1 your girlfriend is not ready for a relationship, she is only out to milk you dry.
ReplyDeletePlease ignore her completely and channel your energy into meeting a better person that will lead to marriage.
Anya di ya n'ego.
Poster 2 is this what you really want in a man? You are seeing the signs already, count your teeth with your tongue.
I will ignore him and pretend to have forgotten.
Poster No.1 cracked my ribs ooo, what planet are you from biko. Jamb, Post Ume etc, Infinix phone and T.Fare. God punish poverty. I think she advised you well, No need of rushing to settle down @ d age of 30 with empty pocket or do you want to increase association of beggars here? End time posting.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha!
DeleteHey babe, not everyone is rich, am from a humble background but now we are ok, I saw myself through schl, I work and now I live in a flat, with a good pay, 3plots of land with 2 in 2state capitals, if I date u, u sef go enjoy too cos am a Godly guy. Abeg calm down 1st o. Ur guy get land for Lagos?
DeleteNice one Aunty Stella, your red biro have given them the best advice.
ReplyDeleteOne of the few times Stella have made sense on chronicles..lol..Posters..go with everything Stella wrote...
ReplyDeletePoster 2 -Send the gift without making contact just as Stella said.
ReplyDeletewhen he calls or texts to say thank you, tell him hes welcome and end conversation. If he tries to contact you the next subtly add that the fight still continues that you only wanted to let him enjoy his birthday.
However, if he doesn't contact you after all the showering,bother not. You can't be begging a man all the time. It never works you're a woman and you will definitely be drained soonest.
Poster 1...run as fast as ur legs can carry u
ReplyDeletePoster 2...run as fast as ur legs can carry u
My 2 cents
exactly
ReplyDeletesend the gift via courier if u must sent
gosh how I hate men like that
hmm
I was very stubborn during my dating days o
who born u that I will be calling and apologising
poster correct it now o
it will be worse in marriage
thank God for the hubby God gave
that one won't even allow me to show my talent at ignoring people when we have misunderstanding
next thing he will start talking to me like nothing happened
poster 1: that girl will soon dump u after eating your little money
I guess your way out of her league in the kind of man she wants as hubby
but sorry for her. she too is way out of the league of those rich men she dreams about
inukwa OND at her age
am sure she's one local girl sef waiting for a rich prince
she just wants to keep u by her side while waiting
biko dump her
God fix these two Narrators mbok pls
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Poster 2, You don't need our advise since you are in love with this man. Courier his birthday gift and send him just HBD text. His pride is out of this world.
ReplyDeleteP1 Please move on,she is not and has never been in love with you.that's the reason why she uses her sister to talk to you.She's not proud of you at all.
ReplyDeleteP2 Biko send him gift n cake through fast food vendor,before he is turn you to minister for reconciliation for things you never do in the future. My one cent....opinion. ..
Before he turns you to Minister For Reconciliation,I meant.
DeletePoster 1: you sound like a really nice guy that will literally give his arm to someone he loves and cares for, so my advise for you is to weigh your options very well. This lady (from your description) sounds like someone who you have 'spoilt' over the years, which has given her reasons to believe you are her meal ticket and her mugu.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, from the beginning of your relationship, she lied her way through everything, from been a virgin to lying about testing if you loved her (b'cus that's a blatant lie) to pushing your marriage plans aside, then telling her people you left her stranded at the car park.... My dear she does not love you, she will not stay the second your savings run out.
Poster 2: I have been in this exact same situation that you are in, the only difference between us is that i didn't beg him ( I refused out rightly), sadly your boo is a subtle bully and he will keep making you feel bad till you have no self esteem left and you think without him your heart will stop beating and you will die. If you must, send his gift to him by courier service and keep it moving. Under no circumstance should you contact him first.... (Well, except you hear from the grapevine that he is terminally ill, then you call or go see him and pay your last respect). Sometimes, our pride is all we have left when we are faced with a 'see finish' situation like yours..To be honest though, i think you are in a situationship and you are dating yourself.
Gudluck to All the posters
ReplyDeleteHMMMM..@POSTER 1 ...I FEEL YOUR PAIN...
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I don't know why I laughed when I got to this part "I want to get married next year, she said I don't have anything yet, asking where i am rushing to. Whereas she knows I am 30yrs, she is 25, I have 3 plots of land".
ReplyDeleteSorry what is the three plots of land for? In ur village Abi. I don't know why you chose to fall in love with runs girl.free her like Stella said.
Poster2, this is the reason I advise girls to keep their love confession to themselves. Men capitalize on dis to do shut.
Nwa Amaka for ur mind o, 3plots of land in the village? I have over 20Acres of land in the village. She is nt a runs gal I know for sure but the inner childish behaviour is what's scaring me
DeleteShit
ReplyDelete1 - you don't need any lady that doesn't appreciate it.evnthough is 10kobo,she need to appreciate,if is easy why can't she get it by hersef. Abeg
ReplyDeletePoster 2: i was in such a stupid relationship. Infact, ur story sounds alot like mine bcos we werent talking towards his birthday. My dear, why he keeps malice like that and behaves anyhow is because he has another girlfriend and ur probably the side chick. Pls let him be and dont waste ur money to buy him anything. The fool that took advantage of me like that is still cursed till tomorrow.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: That chick doesnt love u belive me. She's just using u to pass time! When a richer dude comes, she'd dump u sharp sharp!
Poster 1: she love you not, for her to lied you left her stranded its enough that she can do worst. She want more than you can give her and she will never be understanding even in marriage, you mirth find it difficult to please her or win her when there is misunderstanding because she doesn't love you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:Just like Stella said, find a means to send the gift to him. Some men at like that they need to be taught how to say sorry when they are wrong.
Na wa! Poster 1 that girl is just out to milk u dry. Be careful
ReplyDeletePoster 2: u don't need that kind of guy in ur life o too much drama!
Poster 1 , u are in pain truly.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: she love you not, for her to lied you left her stranded its enough that she can do worst. She want more than you can give her and she will never be understanding even in marriage, you mirth find it difficult to please her or win her when there is misunderstanding because she doesn't love you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:Just like Stella said, find a means to send the gift to him. Some men at like that they need to be taught how to say sorry when they are wrong.
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ReplyDeletePoster1:send her the 20k since dats her problem now,after dat u delete her num completely frm ur phones & u try to forget all abt her entirely ...coz it's obvious she's n d relationship coz of Wat she benefits frm u. She doesn't like u enough to be committed to u & her twin sister knws poster 2:take stella's advice
ReplyDeleteSend whaaat? For what?...smh
DeletePoster1. Dey fuck the girl na no dey spend for the girl just like that. She dey use u so make u sef dey use am.
ReplyDeletePoster2 follow stella's advice
Poster 1,just forget that babe and move on its obvious she don't love you. Poster 2,don't beg the guy. Please maintain and pretend you forgot it's his birthday e go pain him very well. As malice Na I'm stock in trade make you give am back to him, if you keep begging the guy trust me when you guys are married you keep begging him. May God give you the Grace .
ReplyDeletePoster1 seriously she's just after your money nothing else.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 send the gift to him its his birthday dont be childish here and please know your worth dont be treated like shit cause of one guy imagine you've not talked to him for days and he hasnt even called r texted nah thats bad I was once in a similar relationship I dumped his ass didn't even have time to beg I hate guys like that so annoying.just send the gift via courier as stella has said and move on he aint worth it. ×anonymous lagos girl×
Poster 1...dat girl na runs girl,I'm in the university and I know what girls do,she has her eye set on what she cannot carry.don't even bother cuz its obvious she only wants money and material things.. From your tone,u were honest, so I'd advice you not too bother about the girl,if she really loves you she'll understand your situation/ status and support you
ReplyDeleteI wish you the best of luck
.poster 2 Stella is right o,u deserve more some guys are like that when they know u love them and you can do anything for them they will take advantage if he really loves you he'll give you a call and tell you he misses you even then do not settle for less than your standards.
One Love
Poster 1...dat girl na runs girl,I'm in the university and I know what girls do,she has her eye set on what she cannot carry.don't even bother cuz its obvious she only wants money and material things.. From your tone,u were honest, so I'd advice you not too bother about the girl,if she really loves you she'll understand your situation/ status and support you
ReplyDeleteI wish you the best of luck
.poster 2 Stella is right o,u deserve more some guys are like that when they know u love them and you can do anything for them they will take advantage if he really loves you he'll give you a call and tell you he misses you even then do not settle for less than your standards.
One Love
Poster 1 pls dont fall maga, another guy dey shine her congo. I bet anoda guy bought her an iphone 6 which she hides frm u cos girls do dat a lot,dats y ur infinix is too small 4 her
ReplyDeleteLol.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: sorry to say this, but she doesn't love you at all. Move on, there are plenty women looking for a decent responsible guy like you, regardless of how much you have in your account.
Poster 2: is his name Eddy Montana?! 😂😂😂 Leave him soon and go ahead with your life ooooo!!!!! If not! As Stella said, lifetime of quarrels and apologies. Not worth it oooo. Marriage is supposed to be sweet in the long run
i really do not comment on here but I av to on ds one. Poster2,i av bn in ur kind of relationship b4 and my dear d same way u kept mute since he wudnt call was wat I also dd.And we kept malice for a whole year and we were both in d same town, it was after den I broke up wit him and met a better guy.He now begs if nt all d time for us to come bk togeda as I don fine wella compared to wen we were both together and levels don change.Give him a brk I urge you dont even CALL HIM OR BUY ANY BIRTHDAY GIFTS O...IGNORE HIM AND WATCH WHAT HAPPENS.+work on being a better person yourself and find urself sm1 who wud spoil u wit love and all dt comes with it.GOODLUCK
ReplyDeleteMbok post my comment ooo stella the great
i really do not comment on here but I av to on ds one. Poster2,i av bn in ur kind of relationship b4 and my dear d same way u kept mute since he wudnt call was wat I also dd.And we kept malice for a whole year and we were both in d same town, it was after den I broke up wit him and met a better guy.He now begs if nt all d time for us to come bk togeda as I don fine wella compared to wen we were both together and levels don change.Give him a brk I urge you dont even CALL HIM OR BUY ANY BIRTHDAY GIFTS O...IGNORE HIM AND WATCH WHAT HAPPENS.+work on being a better person yourself and find urself sm1 who wud spoil u wit love and all dt comes with it.GOODLUCK
ReplyDeleteMbok post my comment ooo stella the great
P1, u r already giving excuses for her nd defending here,I think both of u are not being matured about d relationship,d girl doesn't love u, I've read pple comments nd dey r right, she doesn't love u neither is she ready to settle down, u talk say u no luv her reach as she tey luv u meanwhile na u luv am die, ur excuses for her shows dat already.
ReplyDeleteP2 : abeg free d Bobo, make e dey dere dey do Shakira like small pikin, no even reason any bday gift sef cod trust me dats exactly wat he's waiting for, if he misses u well he'll come back.