Shou,na wah oooooo...
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CELIBACY BROUHAHA AND LOVE WITHOUT SEX?
I started visiting your blog mid this year, but i dont comment. You are doing such a good job on here i must say.
Took me a while to put this together and send but then i need your red pen and BVs advice in my life.
I'm a 24 year old girl, introvert, nice,friendly, good looking, good dress sense, to say i'm generous to a fault but i dont have a love life.
I'm about rounding up my masters in one of the universities in the uk.
2years ago, i met this 31year good looking guy(Mr X),single and we connected in no time, he met me as a virgin. i have been in several relationships way back in Uni in Nigeria, but most of them broke up with me because of my celibacy issue, i wasnt bothered then because oh well i was way younger and wasnt just ready for that.
So Mr X came into my life @ 22, and i got disvirgined, guess what Stella? After having sex with him about 6times in 7months, i got pregnant. My God! What for??? i'm an orphan, wasnt ready for that,Mr X wanted me to keep it, but he wasnt financially strong enough so i decided to get rid of the baby and promised never to have sex again till marriage. Mr X broke up with me because of that, he wanted sex but i made up my mind already.
I met several guys after Mr X, but they left on this my celibacy issue.
Stella, i'm 24 now with not even a toaster, yes i admit i hardly go anywhere. But i'm depressed. My best friend has sex with her boyfriend almost every time, she has never gotten pregnant and they are growing stronger(5years).
And i'm just here, Ms Celibacy, Nobody wants me.i'm confused. i'm not ready to have a child, i want to Love and be Loved back.i dont even want condoms because i feel if God wan catch you, you go get belle even with condom.
My thoughts right now Stella.... Do you think i will find Love??? Do you think guys of now will love me even without sex. Help please.
Dont insult me please.
*Sigh*...You are still young,keep your legs closed and trust me,love will find you.giving a man s3x in exchange for love never works out.
I dont know how to advice you to go about dating without sex cos relationships have been polluted with s3x and even supposed Christian brothers ask for s3x as well more than anyone else.
Forget that your best friend is having s3x,tie your legs together and continue pretending to be a mermaid..LOVE WILL COME AT GODS TIME.
Depressed?find something to occupy your mind...get involved with community service,charity work,volunteer aid......
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE CONSEQUENCES OF GREED....
Madam Stella i am typing and crying at the same time..greed and desperation led me to this mess..
I was 21 years old when I met Mike, then 46 years...I was going somewhere when he stopped me on the road , from there we exchanged numbers..
Mike was a married man without children at 46,he was handsome and rich,the wife had left him then because of little issue,she spent 8 months and came back,but by then i was in with Mike.He spoiled me silly,he was begging me to get pregnant for him BUT after3 months of trying,nothing happened,I decided to try out with my young boy and I took in immediately.I told Mike that i was pregnant for him,he was so happy,he rented a flat for me, bought me a car and I was banned from going outside to avoid someone convincing me of aborting it or miscarrying it...
After 9 months I had my baby boy,Mike was extremely very happy.I was just living like a queen, just demanding anything from Mike,money or whatever i would receive it immediately...
After one year,Mike asked for more children...I slept with my boyfriend again and I took in ..I had another baby boy...none of my parents know where I am,not even my sisters.
I slept with my boy friend again and I took In and had a baby boy again Making it 3 boys and I didn't let my young boy friend know what am up to..
Just last year,Mikes wife found out about me, the house was too hot for them and he sent her packing and even collected the dowry back immediately.he got married to me in April this year.. (The biggest mistake I made)..from that April till now I have not known peace of mind and i am regretting my evil actions,my desperate to belong and i don't know how to confess...even the real father of these children don't know about them...I hardly sleep...I Am 29 years now while Mike is 54years and Suffering from High blood pressure...
Don't know how to break the news to him and i am willing to end this marriage...I need advice please...you can curse me out because I deserve it
Stella please help me to edit this write up before publishing it..God bless you I am ****** by name and this is my picture attached for your eyes only.
*Edited
OMG...you are so beautiful oooooh.JESUS!...is the pic that of a mermaid?wow!Wish i can show others...how did a beautiful woman like you get into this mess?Chei.
Now down to business....what caused the quarell between him and his ex wife?she probably refused to allow another man get her pregnant.
I think your husband knows already that he cant father Children.he knows the three boys are not biologically his and if you try to disgrace him by confessing and taking away those kids,i fear for what might happen.
He has high blood pressure?probably from the guilty conscience eating him up.
Dont worry yourself,confess if its what will free you but trust me that you wont shock him with your news.
If you loved this man you would keep this secret,i think you are looking for a way out cos you dont love him,never have and you feel trapped.
Hmmmmm?
ReplyDeleteOmg!!!!!
DeleteI can't believe what am reading here ohhh
From the poster
To the bvn members comment
Chiaaa
I have read this story before somewhere but can't recall where. Old story
DeleteTrapped in the closet ,stay there,if you tell that man anything you it will kill him faster than ebola.Let that secret die with you.
DeletePoster 1 :
DeleteI am in a relationship without sex and I am thoroughly enjoying my life and my boo.
I know there are still remnants who follow God's ways.
When God gives you a man , he gives you one after his own heart
Don't compromise just to keep a man.
Ask God to give you yours ....and he would come.
Don't worry boo , you would be fine.
Your love is coming.
Poster 2 : hmm...very deep issues.
I pray you ask God what to do and listen to your spirit
I wish you the best
Poster 1 you're too young for this biko. Free your mind and enjoy your life, love will find you.
DeletePoster 2, this is deep. First ask God for forgiveness.
I'm sure your husband knows he's not fertile. You think he has not gone for tests with his wife?
I guess you're scared of what might happen when he dies.
Beg God forgiveness and just follow your heart. It's not easy but follow what your heart tells you.
Poster 1, I married my husband after dating him for 10 years without sex.it wasn't easy but it was worth it. We have 3 kids now.Pls don't stop being you.love will come when you least expect it.
DeletePoster 2, I don't know what to say to you. You are a cold hearted person.may yourpunishment be that unhappy marriage. Do what you feel like. Your husband and you will deserve whatever comes out of it.
Wow wow wow. Wow at that third story. Wow
DeleteStella own na "close ur legs lyk a mermaid" evrytym. Na so e easy, ni? Abi u, Stella, u no open leg b4 u marry, ni? *sideeyes*
DeletePoster 2, don't spill.. keep the secret pls....
DeletePoster 1, my dear, u are still very young.... chill u will have a great guy
Poster 1, date me . I am a cool boy not a man. Love will find you.l
DeletePoster two, I wasn't believing the story, felt twas made up. But honestly just don't tell him but a free conscience is better than guilt. I'm sure you've saved enough so maybe tell him and see what's up. The dude can harm you o, haaa nawa. This is serious sha.
DeleteDitto.....
ReplyDeleteJust negodu!
ReplyDeleteBrb.
******LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*****
Poster1, look for someone who is celibate to date, its not easy for u to date someone sexually active, and expect him to be celibate like u, it's rare.
DeletePoster2, this story doesn't add up biko, u slept with ur boyfrnd got preggy, 45yrs boo rented an apartment for u and spoiled u silly bla bla bla, then u went back and got prggy, and again? So ur boyfrnd was so dumb not to know??? Like seriously???
Em jay!!!!
DeleteAre you reading what am readying????
My mouth is widely opened see comment
Imagine them telling poster 1 to close her legs like mermaid while poster 2 should take her secret to the grave
Ewooooo!
Just negodu!
ReplyDeleteBrb.
******LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*****
Chronicles 2: only God and his host of angels can fix this.
DeleteChoiiii. Poster two i dont even know what to tell u. Chaiii. God have mercy. Even if u dont confess what will u tell ur God at the last day? Abeg its complicated i dnt know what to say.
ReplyDeleteDidn't know you've put to bed. Congrats dear.
DeleteThanks LAFRESH. I did about 3days ago
DeleteYou've put to bed?! Congrats!! I hope it was a girl this time?! Me sef I want I girl when I marry lol. With my son, I know boys are not easy at all
DeleteCongrats sexiest mum. Just reading that you have put to bed. Thank God for safe delivery.
DeleteMistletoe
xxx trinity na boyoo. I pray the next one will be a girl cos training boys no easy but God knows the best. Its not easy at all. Thanks dear
DeleteCongrats @sexiest; hope you and baby are good
DeleteCongrats Sexiest mother. You mean 3days ago. Waoh you are really strong.
DeleteCongratulations @Sexiest mama
DeleteThanks odus, fresh dew, cakebyluci, mistletoe. I appreciate. We re fineoo. God is good.
DeleteCongratulations @ sexiest mum.
DeleteCongrats Sexiest mother,God bless baby, but Shuu take am easy nah,u don dey think of d next one just nananana?lolls.
DeleteSherry's Daughter
Hmm...chronicles of life
ReplyDeleteChronicles no dey end?
ReplyDeleteChronicles of blog visitors....BRB
ReplyDeleteKaira Smith is in the house
Enter your comment...God solve it
ReplyDeletePoster one u mumu o!
ReplyDeleteThat ur friend is using a condom while u r doing 'flesh to flesh.
Which kind naive babe u be?
Taaaaaa! Go fuck n use protection! Celibacy my arse!
Poster two chill, if ur story is true o!
Let sleeping dogs lie!
Ur husband knows he ain't d father hence d HBP...confess n he'll kill u like rat.
Gbam gbam.truth
DeleteLMAO @ur poster1 advice.
DeleteI really don't know what to say to poster 2.Don't be too sure about your smallie not knowing o. I pray shit don't hit the fan soon, but whenever it does,don't cry "woof" o. How come your family doesn't know where you are? Did you cut them off? My family is what I live for, my siblings are my best friends, and just speaking to them calms me. Goidluck o, I gat nothing to say.
Lol @flesh to flesh.
DeleteWhich type of advice are you giving ?
DeleteYour heart is seared!
God help you
Na wa o.
ReplyDeleteFor those men that impregnate women who are not their wives, shey una dey see narrative 2. Una well don oooo!!!!!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you are the reason why that man and his wife are no longer together. You saddled him with another man's children so you can belong and milk him dry. Ifele megbuo gi! Shame on you! You never see anything. God cannot be mocked. You went to reap where you did not sow. With your itchy pee-pee. Kontinue. Jisike. You aint seen nothing yet.
Go and sleep idiot. Post2) please don't confess nada?
DeleteBrownsugar who are u to judge? Go and sleep abeg
DeleteWhy una dey sleep under my comment?
DeletePoster 1, shuo? Use condom na. Me I can't be in a relationship without sex o. That thing is too sweet biko.
ReplyDeleteBye!
Poster2, mumu. You sent your picture to Stella for what exactly? Will seeing your picture wipe away your stupidity? Airhead!
Sex is overrated and sex outside marriage is sin. Don't give in to the devil and honour God with your body.
DeletePoster 2, I don't know why I don't feel pity for you. Just confess and have your peace
God Bless You Mrs diamond,many of these sexually active girls have many regrets but they will never say it.
DeleteDon't mind them, they will be shouting sex this, sex that n na them go they lie flat on top bed doing nothing while the man nacks his life away #abegi empty barrel makes d loudest noise.
DeleteAnon20.45, so boys/ men who are sexually active outside or within marriage really have no shame at all...* so, pls does that not make them brutes cos at least the girls or women still feel shame.
DeletePoster 1: don't worry your pretty little head over nothing. You will find love. You will find someone who will respect and love you for who you are and what you stand for. Your friend sleeps with her boyfriend, so what? You aren't the same. Hang in there, honey.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: this story sounds like it was made up. If not, madam, do whatever gives you rest of mind. But remember, actions have consequences. Goodluck!
Jesus!!!!!, wat did I jus read up dere?
ReplyDeletePoster 2, all I have to say is "u get mind" haba!!!.
Poster1 don't worry love will surely come but u need to have a social life abeg go out, church, movies etc get busy with ur life.
ReplyDeletePoster2. U have nothing to confess I am sure of dis 100% your husband is aware that he can't father a child. My uncle did same thing with d wife and also a man in our street did same too. So don't worry you have nothing to confess. Enjoy life and be happy
Poster 1,you're young,don't rush into anything. God makes all things beautiful in his own time. Poster 2,na God catch you. The love of money is the root of all evil.
ReplyDeleteN2, enjoy your reward. When you were scheming did you come here to ask us what to do? Did you seek advice from anybody? You had the heart to do it 3 times without flinching. Abeg shift. You started it,now end it. It's a story you wrote for yourself. Figure it out.
ReplyDeleteJust negodu
ReplyDelete@Poster 1, wait till your Mr. Right find you, soon he will locate you.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, how did you usually hide yourself for like 9months that your bf didn't know you're pregnant? Where were you staying that your parents didn't know that you're a Baby Making Machine for a man?
Stella, she will surely be beautiful and hot, because she has all what she needs @ her will, you indeed want to belong and here you're. All the same, don't kill that man now, let him die before you show your boys who their real father is.
*Larry was here*
Poster two is a fabricated story.
DeleteHoly mary.........@p2 u get mind ooooh...
ReplyDeleteThe chronicles has landed!
ReplyDelete2, you are a very selfish and heartless thing. Your family doesn't even know where you are? Smh.
ReplyDeleteHnmmm. N0 2 you're in a strong fix. No point blaming you cos it won't change what has been done. Hope he won't die of high bp after confessing to him. Your children won't know who their real dad is and your boyfriend won't know his 3 kids! Na wa o.
ReplyDeleteConfess if that's what will give you peace of mind but be prepared for the worse.
1. Don't worry, yours will come. Just believe.
Poster 2..ntorrrr..so you want to have peace after breaking another woman's home?..where have you ever seen a situation where the wicked have a happy ending. My dear your woes have not begun..this is just the beginning. The wife's prayer is really working against you. Confess your sins and seek forgiveness from whom you have wronged. This should serve as a big lesson for potential husband snatchers.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you dont have a problem. The devil is playing tricks with your mind. Do not sucummb. Find something else to keep you busy and continue pretending to be a mermaid. Trust me..love will find you.
Poster 1,abeggi with this tying LIke a mermaid. Its getting old.let's stop pretending it's easy Esp once u are no longer a virgin.there are very few men that will remain celibate so keep looking .i must test my goods before buying, I won't come here and deceive myself.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Meeeeen this is deep,the man obviously knows he can't have kids and is playing along. Since u are there remain there,uve gotten all u wanted.now u know money will never buy u peace of mind.and u and I know u won't rest till u confess
P2:there are some secrete dat are better taken to d grave. If u confess,not only will u loose d respect of ur husband,relative and friends,but ur sons too. Ask God for forgiveness,and assume dat u adopted those kids for ur husband. Let me ask u this,if u confess and ur husband throws u out,are u taking those boys to ur BF house and can he cater for dem.
ReplyDeleteI also suspects he knws,but trying to cover his shame in an ignorance mode.
Are you for real??????
DeleteMy mouth is wide open and hanging.
DeleteLocate the wife and apologized. Open up to her. She is the first person you ve wronged beside God.
Invite your boyfriend over and involve him in this.
Keep the children aside.
Go with your parents and the party involved to return the diary n make amends.
I ve been in a relationship were the man knows he is sterile and wanted me to get pregnant outside when we are married.
I stylishly ended the courtship.
Yours is a deep one. Your man truly know his status, I bet you. Abeg return the children to their biological father.
Agree with your Pastor for wisdom. Peace.
Where is queen of this blog. You can see money is not all. Keep deceiving women with your poverty stinking illussioned mentality. Ashawo kobo-kobo
Meanwhile, I had just setup a software to identity all the anonymous, known BVNs with new IDs, BVNs real identities and known bloggers coming here to buy our ideas.
Yansh opening loading soon.
Happy boxing day.
Enjoy ur holidays.
Kill fowl! Chop rice
Poster two. Keep ur mouth shut!! Carry your cross o for the sake of those children. Where do u want to go now?
DeleteLa sweet what did you just say ,that man will kill her ,kill the children ,kill the boyfriend and kill himself ,some secrets are better left secret for peace to reign
DeleteLA sweet GO AND DIE! Pretender
DeleteAnonymous 17:02..am sure you ate the poster or maybe you are in the same predicament. Guilty conscience is killing you that is why you are replying under comments. You never chi chom chin
Delete1] Forget men for now, focus on ur education and ur future. The right man will definitely come at the appointed time.
ReplyDeleteAnd that crap you wrote about not caring about condom sef, no even try am oo. Too mang diseases here and there..
2] Sorry for you oo! Ndi b'anyi si na nke onye metere, o were ishi ya buru!
Meaning... What you sow is what you shall reap! Ntoor gi there
Rubbish..
@ narrative 2. Stella U can sabi 2 exaggerate sometimes wit dis ur redness pen ehhn. See as U take fly in2 conclusion on d lady matter. Young lady, wat has happened has happened. Just make peace wit d man's firsr wife cos ur desperate greeedy lying wretched scruffy lifestyle has destroyed someone's home. Ur such a witch leadn triple lives. Tufiakwa! *spits on d ground beside ur feet*
ReplyDeleteAda
Wonders shall never end. Poster 2 I thought it was something that happened only in movies. I don't know what to advice u. Poster 1 I'm in the same predicament. I'm 25 and still a virgin. All guys seem to run away as soon as I talk about celibacy. I don't even know what to do anymore but I trust that God will bring me an understanding man. My elder sister recently got engaged to her man and she is still a virgin. They r getting married in January. She had to wait for a long time but she finally met the right one so trust me when I say that we too have hope. God is a faithful God. Try to focus on building yourself, u r young focus on building ur empire and trust me very soon u will meet the right one.
ReplyDeleteNana Mansa if u are God' fearing, pretty, of good character and "class A" virgin pls contact me on "Plus TwoThreeFour EightOneEightOneFiveSixNineThreeOneThree.
DeleteAnd GOD will never disappoint you!
DeleteI married as a Virgin too, and I can tell you my husband practically worships the ground I walk. We clocked 7years recently and it feels like we are courting...and all the memes are unending. Oh yes marital blows come(big ones o), but it makes us stronger. Woh! If I continue to talk about my marriage,Stella will not post it cos she will be jealous.
Continue to tie your legs. You never know, someone who will walk you straight to the altar might be reading this. Don't allow the perverts on this blog discourage or spite you. It is worth it....
***I am tito***
Stella pls post my comment o. U hav had enuf jollof rice already by now.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1
ReplyDeleteThere is something ABOUT ABORTIONS which I'd like us to see. When one kills (or encourages the killing of; see Prov. 6:16-17) innocent children, the consequences are three. 1. You deny yourself the joy of having a home (remember the Hebrew midwives who spared babies against Pharaoh's advice to kill them; God rewarded them with families; Ex.1) 2. You risk "sudden death" in the hands of another fellow/accidents etc. remember Gen.9:6 and thirdly, you deny yourself eternal life! What a life! God isn't going to call you to glory if you do not repent. Jesus said; come to me all you that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest; that's Matt. 11:28. If you do not repent, you'd keep on laboring for the Serpent. But if you repent and make Jesus your Lord today and begin to read your scriptures; you'd find peace and the above three lots will not be yours. God bless you.
B: THE ABORTIONIST:
A colleague of mine who owns and runs a hospital does "abortions of all kinds". I had always wondered that in spite of being a well trained specialist, he seemed to have settled on just aborting kids and it gave him so much money. No matter how much we (his colleagues) warned him to "reform his practice", he did not take heed. Once he was travelling with his wife and two kids on an interstate highway, he suddenly began to scream; "look at that kid crossing the highway, imagine that kid . . .!" His wife who was seated on the front passenger seat told him that she couldn't see any kid, His kids behind said same (the man NEVER had any psychological issues in life and was NEVER on any addictive substance). next he matched on the breaks and the car flipped severally. He woke up after a few days in a hospital and when he asked about his family, was told that they were all dead; he began to weep. He wanted to get up and found that he was limbless.
Exodus 1:15 The king of Egypt said to the Hebrew midwives, whose names were Shiphrah and Puah, 16“When you are helping the Hebrew women during childbirth on the delivery stool, if you see that the baby is a boy, kill him; but if it is a girl, let her live.” 17The midwives, however, feared God and did not do what the king of Egypt had told them to do; they let the boys live. 18Then the king of Egypt summoned the midwives and asked them, “Why have you done this? Why have you let the boys live?”
19The midwives answered Pharaoh, “Hebrew women are not like Egyptian women; they are vigorous and give birth before the midwives arrive.”
20So God was kind to the midwives and the people increased and became even more numerous. 21And because the midwives feared God, he gave them families of their own. NIV
Lady Igo or her P.A
DeleteHmmm fear women
ReplyDeleteStella, your candid advice to the 2nd poster is the realest I've ever read from you! Dear Poster, your hubby knows he's impotent and needed someone who would play away games and give him kids. You chose this, live with it .
ReplyDeletePoster one:
ReplyDeleteYou believe in celibacy before marriage, therefore, don't let the fact that others are comfortably practicing pre- marital sex, sway you.
They all left, because they are not the ones for you.
Simple.
Poster two:
It's also possible that your husband doesn't know that the children aren't his.
You did a horrible, horrible thing, really.
So,now, assuming he doesn't know, he'll go to the great beyond, thinking that he has three heirs to carry on his name.
What you did is irrevocable.
Unfortunately, the truth must come out some day.
It always does.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Serious advice from stella
ReplyDelete@1, ur Toto go soon rotten, bloody hypocrite.
ReplyDelete@2, take ur secret to d grave, why do u want to kill ur husband, but u get mind sha, no be only men sabi keep secret.
P1, how does your best friend having sex and not getting pregnant affect your own situation? stop comparing your life to that of others. you are young, this is the time to focus on building your career.
ReplyDeleteP2, I really dunno what to say...it is well with you
POSTER 1:
ReplyDeleteI WILL NOT BE TIRED OF TELLING YOUNG GIRLS THIS TRUTH; "CLOSE YOUR LEGS". OPENING IT WILL NOT MAKE A MAN TO LOVE YOU OR MARRY YOU. I MARRIED AT 28; A VIRGIN; BEST DECISION OF MY LIFE. YOU DON'T LEAVE OFF ALL TO DISCUSS AND TRASH OUT IN COURTSHIP AND BEGIN TO HAVE SEX; YOU WILL SIMPLY GET THE MAN ADDICTED TO IT AND YOU (THE LADIES) END UP WITH THE SHORT END OF THE STICK.
EVEN A DOOR HAS HING AND KEYS AND IS USUALLY LOCKED ALL NIGHT. THERE IS TIME TO OPEN YOUR LEGS; AND THAT IS IN MARRIAGE!
POSTER 1:
ReplyDeleteI WILL NOT BE TIRED OF TELLING YOUNG GIRLS THIS TRUTH; "CLOSE YOUR LEGS". OPENING IT WILL NOT MAKE A MAN TO LOVE YOU OR MARRY YOU. I MARRIED AT 28; A VIRGIN; BEST DECISION OF MY LIFE. LOTS OF PEACE IN MY MARRIAGE, LOTS OF TRUST AND LOVE. YOU DON'T LEAVE OFF ALL TO DISCUSS AND TRASH OUT IN COURTSHIP AND BEGIN TO HAVE SEX; YOU WILL SIMPLY GET THE MAN ADDICTED TO IT AND YOU (THE LADIES) END UP WITH THE SHORT END OF THE STICK.
EVEN A DOOR HAS HING AND KEYS AND IS USUALLY LOCKED ALL NIGHT. THERE IS TIME TO OPEN YOUR LEGS; AND THAT IS IN MARRIAGE!
Serious advice from stella. You go fear stella and avice
ReplyDeleteSerious advice from stella. You go fear stella and advice
ReplyDeleteYou better shut your mouth and live the life you've made for yourself. Confess gini? You will end up committing suicide if your secret ever comes to light. That young boyfriend isnt interested in wifing you or raising children with you else he would have asked you since all these years of chopping raw kpomo. Your hubby is most probably sterile and your secret is just one reason he stills feel like a man. Dont kill the poor man biko and get a hold of yourself! Do not confess! See yourself as a person donating children to a man who isnt blessed to have any naturally. Mind you, if you are stupid enough to spill, you will forever be branded a slut.
ReplyDeleteBut she is a slut na..she destroyed another woman's home and she must pay for her greed. Poster am sorry for you. You will know no peace till you seek forgiveness. The devil have not started showing you fire yet.
DeletePoster 1,get close to God and let him bring the right man your path.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, hmmm restitution alone will give you peace. Turn to God and repent genuinely for breaking that marriage and watch God give you peace.
Serious advice from stella. You go fear stella and advice. Stella, biko no dey give dis kind advice for 2016 ooo.
ReplyDeleteMeaning?
ReplyDeleteTalk to your self joor
Meaning?
ReplyDeleteTalk to your self joor
Poster 2. See where longer throat has landed you. I'm laughing so hard. Carry your cross. Oh yes he knows he can't father children. He used you.
ReplyDeletePoster1:you will definitely find love,if being celibate is what u want,pray for strength from God and he will send the right man to u,good luck cheers
ReplyDeletePoster2:Hian,u get mind ooh,but no need confessing biko,the deed has been done already,just save enough money,and prepare for the worst,but don't confess anything, He already has high bp,don't kill him before his time,but pray to God for forgiveness,and stay away from that ur bf,good luck.
Just strolling by, will be back for comments
ReplyDeletePoster 1,sigh
ReplyDeletePoster 2,sigh again
Me sef nid red pen,maybe I should send in my chronicle
Just negodu
ReplyDeleteDamn.....
ReplyDeletePoster 1:
ReplyDeleteI married my husband after 4 years of courtship without sex; we just did not go there. There were a lot to discuss;
1. Our careers; levels and who goes first for this and that degrees
2. Our finances; joint account with either to sign/taking care of our respective parents/ which relatives to admit and take up responsibility and which not to etc.
3. Our kids/ number (gender matters interference or not), discipline (he knew how to do it; my weakest point), schooling/fees etc.
4. Scriptures/prayers/fasting (fixed and did it together): Church denominational issues trashed; we should attend any but together etc.
5. Wedding; non denominational (had to bring the two families together), low key (invest the money instead of lavishing it in a day on frivolities)/ attires (no need buying an exorbitant wedding dress from UK and having it as a liability afterwards), we still reap the dividends from the savings from our wedding.
Really, we discussed a lot and we keep on discussing. We rarely had enough time each time we went out on a date. We do not remember sex and we really did not want to do it and appear hypocritical to ourselves and all. More than ten years of marital journey and with kids; I've got peace, lots of love and trust. If you tell me that you tell me that my husband was with a lady, I will laugh you to scorn. Is it not the same man who for 4 years was with me in the most secure and secluded of places and never attempted to undress me? The trust is mutual and we enjoy a very beautiful sex life. Marriage is beautiful if you plan it with God and stay resolved.
Madam never vouch for a man oh. Am talking from experience. I could swear with mu life then dat my husband wasnt cheating on me. He met me a virgin, infact didnt ask me for sex at all till wedding nyt. Didnt know he.was getting it from someone else , my best friend for that matter.
DeleteWoW, I envy you...
DeleteSpeechless @ pos 2
ReplyDeletePoster 1:
ReplyDeleteI married my husband after 4 years of courtship without sex; we just did not go there. There were a lot to discuss;
1. Our careers; levels and who goes first for this and that degrees
2. Our finances; joint account with either to sign/taking care of our respective parents/ which relatives to admit and take up responsibility and which not to etc.
3. Our kids/ number (gender matters interference or not), discipline (he knew how to do it; my weakest point), schooling/fees etc.
4. Scriptures/prayers/fasting (fixed and did it together): Church denominational issues trashed; we should attend any but together etc.
5. Wedding; non denominational (had to bring the two families together), low key (invest the money instead of lavishing it in a day on frivolities)/ attires (no need buying an exorbitant wedding dress from UK and having it as a liability afterwards), we still reap the dividends from the savings from our wedding.
Really, we discussed a lot and we keep on discussing. We rarely had enough time each time we went out on a date. We do not remember sex and we really did not want to do it and appear hypocritical to ourselves and all. More than ten years of marital journey and with kids; I've got peace, lots of love and trust. If you tell me that you tell me that my husband was with a lady, I will laugh you to scorn. Is it not the same man who for 4 years was with me in the most secure and secluded of places and never attempted to undress me? The trust is mutual and we enjoy a very beautiful sex life. Marriage is beautiful if you plan it with God and stay resolved.
Wise woman.pls tell them
DeleteWow poster 1 you need to calm down. I'm also 24 and celibate. In fact my partner encourages it. He is the best thing since microwave. Treats me with utmost respects takes care of me and doesn't ask for anything in return. So my dear don't give in to any pressure. A guy that truly loves you will encourage you to be celibate and not dissuade you! Your partner is meant to love and support you.
ReplyDeleteEncouraging u to stay celibate whilst enjoying himself....*yimu*
DeleteHaha anon please speak for yourself o!
DeletePoster 2 what have you done na?????? Omg!! Well this thing is so rampant.. I don't know what advice to give but start seeking forgiveness from God. I just hope this man won't die immediately you brk the news to him.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 don't worry yourself and don't be desperate so you won't regret. Your own man will come at the right time
Which one is tie your leg.......babe u need to hive out lash....are u that wicked or wot.....u wrfr giving that P for a purpose, please make use of it.....just be wise when gbenshing........truth they say is hard...but sex is one of the basic requirements for a relationship to thrive
ReplyDeleteWhich one is tie your leg.......babe u need to hive out lash....are u that wicked or wot.....u wrfr giving that P for a purpose, please make use of it.....just be wise when gbenshing........truth they say is hard...but sex is one of the basic requirements for a relationship to thrive
ReplyDeleteLol, henry Eze the realist! Where Av u been?
Deletewow really complicated...
ReplyDeleteNa wa o... Jst negodu
ReplyDeleteHmmmm! Na wa @ poster 2
ReplyDeletePoster:2. Confess to your children daddy and your suppose hubby and ask God for forgiveness. What you did is very unfair
ReplyDeleteEverything is not money.
Poster:1, you will find love but you have to pray and ask God to forgive you for your past mistake. God is a merciful all the time
Confess to baby daddy abi wetin I read,so dat d guy can start blackmailing her and turn her life upside,guilt is already wrecking her,talkless of adding blackmail to d list.
Delete@poster2 : you need to suffer more 4 your sins.
ReplyDeleteKarma will torture you real bad.
So u made him purse his wife 4 your own selfish reasons?
You are evil, enjoy your marriage.
@poster1 : my dear, keep your legs tied.
The right man will definitely come.
Poster 1: you'll find love. Just give it time.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: na wa o. U can tell Mike if u want to but if u dare tell your younger bf, trust me, those children are gone. Well, the ball is in your court. Think of your children too. How will you tell them that sum1 they call father is not their father?
Poster 1: sex doesn't mean automatic love. Trust me if you are patient,you would meet a guy that is willing to wait. Be patient my dear, it would even make it easier for you to know your true feelings not one clouded by the euphoria of sex..kizzes
ReplyDeleteDo not confess please. If possible, take the secret to your grave. You don keep secret finish, na now you wan confess. Bear the consequences for the sake of your kids. You need to go back to when it all started and gather the mind you left there oh. I know what you did was wrong but the deed has been done and you can't turn back the hands of time. The Mike most likely knows he's impotent. Just lay low. Ayiyor ka'm na yor
ReplyDelete@ narrator two, pls dnt tell him, telling him wld be the biggest mistake you'll ever make, he knows already am sure that he can't have kids like Stella said but I'm sure he appreciates you covered his shame for him
ReplyDeleteStella, beauty doesn't automatically translate to one having sense!
ReplyDeleteHmm. Nnkan Nbe.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, you need not worry. Your man will come and you will be glad you took that decision.
@ Poster 2, what can I say? Tell your husband the truth. Let him decide if he still wants to father the children. But for your boyfriend, He might want children. Damn! How could you do this to all the people involved?
Poster 2,
ReplyDeleteYou must carry this secret to your grave oh...don't confess anything!...
So many women are in your shoes...infact 50% of married women are in this mess and they are keeping it to them selves...
Throw that guilty conscience away and enjoy your marriage joor....
Most of them will come here and insult you but they do worse things at their closet...remember that anonymous post!...
Lastly,enjoy your marriage and don't confess!!!....
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DeleteGbam ,so many women are trapped in the closet from the days of our forefathers.
DeleteWhere did you get your 50% ratio
DeletePlease stop advising women wrongly
I know you in person and you don't do all this things you type here
You come here dishing stupid advice to people, making them loose their homes over nothing while you maintain yours with everything you have left
Please respect yourself
@poster 2 are u kidding me?how can u do such an evil thing.May God help You
ReplyDeletePoster 1,when God decides to bless you, you may beg him to stop... Please don't lose your virginity , I lost mine after years of keeping it, but do you know my punishment, everywhere I turn to I hear my friends or someone tell me of their perfect marriage and how their DH met them virgins at that point this looked different, and the other way round
ReplyDeleteThat's life, not that I regret losing my virginity, no, I can never aportion blame on anyone but myself even though I lost it in the worse manner and way, all am trying to say is whatever you do, do it whole heartedly and with diligence after all that's what you decided to do, love every bit of it and any frustration that comes in the way, see iit as a window of opportunities.
My dear, keep your virginity if that's what you decide to although your scare of pregnancy is rather too fictional and believe me a great percentage of good marriages are built on character and other factors ( will you make love everyday when you get married?) and if you make up your mind to give it up, cherish your body and treat it like your best pair of shoe, insist on condoms and even wear one yourself, if you are scared of birth control pills there are safe natural methods to avoid an unplanned pregnancy like taking fruitswith high vitc after unprotected sex...
Whatever you do, do it well and face your own lane, life is a single race, you've got to fight peer pressure
She lost d virginity at 22....she don fuck Tey tey.....no be today..lol
Delete@poster 2 are u kidding me?how can u do such an evil thing.May God help You
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely correct Stella, the man and hs ex-wife would have had all manner of fertility tests done and would have both been advised that he has the problem. Dear poster, he is fully aware that the kids are not his but has accepted them whole heartedly. Dont embarass him by confessing. If he really wanted to know he would have requeted for DNA tests on all the kids. You need to remember that in our society and culture, it does not matter how rich you are, if you are unable to produce children, you are considered less than human. To cut a long story short, you are not telling him something he doesn't already know. If you know the how prevalent infertility is amongst our men, you will be shocked. Do you know how many Naija men are sterile???
ReplyDeletePoster one- sex does not keep a man, God will give u a man who would love and cherish u don't worry ur pretty head at all
ReplyDeletePoster two- hmmmm
End time Chronicles
ReplyDeletePoster 2:
ReplyDeleteThis is a very good lesson to "THE QUEER AND BUS OF THIS BLOG" and her "disciples" of "Get pregnant and marry him if he is rich . . . blablabla". fulfillment is not all about having money. Godliness with contentment is great gain. This is how that "Bus" crashes! I know "The queer and bus" will come here to tell her to "take the guilt to the grave" . . . it is not to the grave, it is to "ill health and hell". Guilt can kill. lack of peace is the worst of all emotional tortures.
Dear, in confession and repentance is your peace. You deprived another woman of her home and that is the cause of your lack of peace. Whatever happens after your confession, the Lord will help you through it! Confess to your parents too; you will not like any of your daughters to set off with a man and be breeding babies in a cage!
Poster 2:
ReplyDeleteThis is a very good lesson to "THE QUEER AND BUS OF THIS BLOG" and her "disciples" of "Get pregnant and marry him if he is rich . . . blablabla". fulfillment is not all about having money. Godliness with contentment is great gain. This is how that "Bus" crashes! I know "The queer and bus" will come here to tell her to "take the guilt to the grave" . . . it is not to the grave, it is to "ill health and hell". Guilt can kill. lack of peace is the worst of all emotional tortures.
Dear, in confession and repentance is your peace. You deprived another woman of her home and that is the cause of your lack of peace. Whatever happens after your confession, the Lord will help you through it! Confess to your parents too; you will not like any of your daughters to set off with a man and be breeding babies in a cage!
Poster 1: look for something to occupy your time with, sex is not love as love is not only about sex
ReplyDeletePoster 2: this matter na serious issue o! But please find the courage to tell oga the truth, it won't be an easy ride at all, after the storm..you will find peace
POSTER 2:
ReplyDeleteTHANKS STELLA FOR YOUR ADVICE. Well, she should ask the man questions before "confessing". Questions like; issues with his former wife? The issue is not just "getting out" or ending the marriage. Do your parents now know where you are? You also caused them pain. Did this man pay a bride price to your dad or representative?
Tell the man about "a friend of yours" who did a similar thing and watch his reaction. When eventually you confess assure him that you are not taking the kids away from him.
And all you GUYS, PARDON, BRATS "BANGING" OTHER MEN'S WIVES OR SLEEPING WITH LADIES RANDOMLY, YOU DO NOT KNOW HOW MANY KIDS YOU HAVE; SURE?
Poster1: I am a Virgin, I have never had sex and I'm engaged to the best guy in the world.he loves me and is willing to wait.if a guy loves you he ll wait. my dear please wait,yours is coming.
ReplyDeletePoster 1.. its beta you close your leg oooo.
ReplyDeletePoster2..i dont know what to say but you shouldnt have done all you did all in d name of money.you had beta stay with the man and keep quiet rather than bringing curses upon your head
Things dey happen 4dis world
ReplyDeleteBabe 1: don't envy any gal cos she's fucking away her life, believe me, sex is overrated. Since you are not wired to be a sex freak, just continue to stick with your instinct. Let the dogs keep going since they can't get any bone from you. A real man will come along...and it will be worth the wait.
ReplyDelete@ poster1, trust me, sex doesn't guarantee love. While I was courting my hubby, he was the one who discouraged sex! We're not 'born-agains' or 'S.U' o. Lol.We wanted to concentrate on things that would strengthen our relationship, although we had both been in other relationships and had sex. We're married now -he was 34 and I was 32 at marriage and it's been really amazing. Close your legs,one who deserves and loves you for who you are will respect your celibacy.You're still young, pls engage in interesting and decent activities. Don't keep your life on hold waiting for love. The right one will find you in the right place,and you'd better be found doing the right thing. Cheerios darling, life is not that hard.
ReplyDelete@poster 2, Hmmm! You're truly in a mess, and it's a good thing you've realized your own folly by yourself. I'll advise you allow sleeping dogs lie, things are bad enough as they are already. I'm sure this man knows, he'll rather just keep quiet and cover up his shame with this lie of a life. Take the issue out of your mind, cut off ties with your younger boyfriend, concentrate on your husband and kids and pray to God that problems don't occur now or later.
ReplyDeleteI want to ask a question.... Where did this notion that relationship and sex(which is formication)must go hand in hand come out from
ReplyDeleteSex is some thing that should be sacred and be between the wife and the husband
Celibacy without the spirit if God is nothing, you become celibate because you maybe have come to the realization that formication is wrong and a sin and you done want to commit a sin anymore
You guys should not give it a tush name,let's call it with the name it was stated in the bible
Next time(to unmarried couples) when you want to "do it" you should tell your partner "let's fornicate" and see if it sits well with you
The devil have made sexual sin so cool that if you don't do it you'll look uncool...please let's change our mindsets
Remember fornication is worse because you are sinning against your body, don't you know your body is the temple of God and the holy spirit dwells in you
Please people I love you all and we are entering a new year soon,we need to shed our old life and become a new being in Christ, Remember we are one body in Christ
I tire oooo. Everything is now sex. Let's fear God oooo
DeletePoster1: u mention u best friend, do u think she would come and tell you anytime she gets pregnant?uDon't compare plz. Just try and socializ , go places and get busy.I met my dh through yahoo messenger. The right man will surely come.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: This one pass me oh. U did first, second and third dat wen gulity conscience started abi? U better hang on die and be d hard girl dat u r,, anyday he finds out u face d consequence and if he doesnt find out, den good luck to to u.
Bt u sef ow naive cn u b to b nacking without any form of protection?? even if itz nt to avoid pregnancy bt stds nko. U think ur friend doesn't use protection probably even on d pills too.
ReplyDeleteMadam that dated her hubby for 4 years without sex...I applaud u.
ReplyDeleteso una no kiss or even press breast?..*yinmu*
Hahahaha.
DeleteLmao
DeletePoster1:you don't have a problem. Poster2:I'm shocked to my marrows,what won't we do to belong and look like other people whom we barely know their stories.my dear you need God's help on this one,crave his mercy,his wisdom.He'll direct you,He's loving like that...
ReplyDeleteHm, let me start with poster 2 ashawo kobo kobo oloshi selfish dog..God will not let u escape this i tell u..how can u seprate a man from his wife of so many years n that too over a lie? Haba!! People please have conscience oo as u embark on destroying peoples lives..making him believe he has fathered 3kids where as their real father has no idea u used him as a scapegoat? As a free mumu donor? Haaa..better confess o before is too late or that scene we usually c in naija movies where thunder fires at culprits of grave sins such as urs will definitely happen to you..watch out..oloshi ashawo kobo kobo..the evil people do for money sha..u will never noe peace unless u confess..
ReplyDeleteback,to poster one..better person abeg maintain ur decision ur love will surely,find you..God will be with u Bt please we don't pray for a,next tym Bt just incase u get preggy by mistake again please keep it..myt be a blessing in disguise..God bless u oo
p1: love will find you.
ReplyDeletep2: deed has been done. dont tell him. live with it.
P1:sex won't make a man stay. I have tried that and it didn't work . Lemme say this to u, pls wait, he would come. I didn't or rather I have never had a stable relationship, to a point I thought it was a curse. Lol. Am 27 years now and I am now blessed with a man not just a man, a God-fearing and loving man. I met him 5months ago. He has never asked me for sex. He doesn't even talk about it. His peeps are wonderful people and we are already talking about marriage. I am even more exposed than he is and sometimes I wonder if am not being selfish cos half of what I have done, he has not even done quarter. To cut the long story, love will find you. Always remember, sex does not guarantee he will stay. It works for some and not all . pls sincerely abstain from it.
ReplyDeletePlease check if his tin is working, sit on it be sure it stands.*even born again brothers talk about sex, tho they don't have it before marriage
DeleteGosh am so tired of all dis dumb girls & dere annoying chronicles,u want to f....k but don't want to use condom& u don't want to get pregnant & u re also tired of celibacy coz ur best frnd has bin blasting her bf 4 5 years & they ve bin going strong. HOW I wish i wil jst see u & give u a big slap mumu abeg swerve u no get issue poster2:ur husband already knws he cant father a kid so u better take dat secret to ur grave. Shebi u where looking 4 an easy way out of life? u did sugar now is d heavy lifting face it.....
ReplyDelete.
U go fear advice
DeleteP1, don't worry love will find you. P2, anonymous post continues. I can't deal.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, heard of similar stories in Nigeria. The best is to confess by calling your husband one on one, who already knows anyway. He knows those children are not his and only playing along to hide the shame. He definitely does not trust and will never trust u because of what you did. If you settle one on one, he will pretend to love u the more and likely continue to pamper you just to save his head from shame. But remember God sees every actions and always ready to forgive.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:u are still young oooo,enjoy urlife at least u are rest assured no-one is cheating on u.2016 is so near....mr right will show up.Hakuna matata
ReplyDeletePoster 2:don't knw what to say to u......repent oooooo aijebe iya gidi lomaje
All of you saying the man knows the kids are his, just what if he doesn't know? ?
ReplyDeleteJust what if he chased the wife out of the house because she also have problems conceiving??
Just what if the man isn't the type to go for testing believing women are the only ones that should under go all that??
Because I don't think he would know and beg the girl to gather kids for him.
If you all think the man knows then why don't the wife open up to him and they discuss what happens to the future of the kids??
Why are you all scared he would die of heart attack when he hears this since you all assumed he knows??
Why do you people think he would chase her out or kill her since he knows already
Madam, go and make peace with your God, the father of your kids a, husband, parents, siblings and kids..
You would never have peace until you do all this
Your guilt will eat you up until you develop high blood pressure
There is nothing like peace of mind
It would be tough initially but with time you will whether the storm.
Nothing beats peace of mind
The prayer of the first wife is disturbing u, and u would never know Peace
ReplyDeleteShe will never know peace. Wicked girl.
Delete1. Stop disturbing yourself. God will give you the correct man just close legs dear.
ReplyDelete2. No peace for the wicked.
Pls take ur secret to ur grave
ReplyDeletePoster 1...... Never lower your standards for anyone.....there is absolutely nothing to gain from sex except the temporary satisfaction.....so if u can be celibate then go ahead with apologies to no one......trust me the one who will love u the way u are will come....
ReplyDeletePoster 2.... Happy u know u have messed up......tell him the truth....happy u know worse case scenario is divorce.....nobody deserves to be deceived or treated like that in as much as he too also betrayed his wife by cheating all this wife and refusing to disclose his "children" outside marriage.....karma sure bit both your arses......confess the truth and pray for God to help him absorb the shock.....the children deserve to know their real father and your hubby needs to know the truth......he can decide to continue loving the children like his own that is if their real father lets u keep them.....this is a hot mess but God is a merciful God....if u are truly repentant and ask for his help he will help you..as long as u keep hiding the truth u will keep living in emotional torment......let it all out and be free but be ready to bear the consequence for the rest of your life......the ball is in your court