Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

So long an interesting Chronicle!!!

 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

LETTING AN EX LOVER WALK BACK INTO YOUR LIFE.

Stella, I am tired of thinking through this process alone, so your red pen and fellow bv's advice should help me round up my thoughts mode..

This is my story.....

 I met this girl in my first year, she was very beautiful and very innocent, It took her time to say yes to dating me but she finally agreed, so we started from 100level and we grew so strong that we were the envy of all around us. I met her a virgin and it took almost a year before she gave it up for me. As at when we where in 3rd year I knew in my mind and soul that she was meant for me and we would def end up together..it was my first serious relationship and she made me serious and loyal. 

She was morally upright, so to say cause when girls misbehave by sleeping around or doing runs, her remarks are always against it and I could always see such things irritated her big time, she had this ego which says she can never do such things or cheat, and I never close marked her. Though am not from a very rich home but coupled with my small business skills, I tried to give her the best while in school so that yahoo boys or other material things don't fancy her, the truth is I was the best, you all will cuss me out if I tell you just part of my sacrifices to satisfy her materially, I was happy doing this you know cause I felt nothing was too much for who you love, and am this guy with a soft and gentle heart but due to my dapper looks, I be looking like a player or heart breaker and many people thought I would disappoint the girl, but I didn't..

Fast froward to the real problem. We dated with love, intimacy for 4.5years and time to graduate came, then I had extra but she didn't, so she went for service far away , still gave her the necessary support and showed her love till she left, she came back in December, met me in school and we were still so good and I was happy cause I gave her a very big present that I know she wanted, she went back to her ppa in January then I started noticing some little distance.

 when I eventually spoke to her, she opened up her self that shes started seeing a corper and that they been gbenshing and that shes in love with the guy, I never imagined it, my world came crumbling what killed me most was when I told her I forgave her and its ok, she said she doesn't think she can stop loving the guy, and kept on seeing the guy, this time it was our other school colleagues there that were now giving me their romance gist, it was the worst period of my life and my extra exams were close, I lost weight, went on drugs and the trauma was just too much.

 everybody told me to move on and not kill myself, i had to go home for treatments and care. But I will still call her to beg her to retrace her steps and she would say she loves me and loves him too, there was even a time she agreed to stop seeing the guy and I had small hope, just to receive info that she still sleeps in his house consequently, I just had to let go when on my sick bed my mom told me she was disappointed and was really crying that I let a girl do this to me and asked if I would be this sick should I loose her (my mom). karma was so fast that her suppose new found love had a fiance abroad that went for masters and that I guess ended that affair. In the period of she breaking my heart she lost her mum, I went for the burial cause the woman was so good to me while we dated and was totally against what she was doing, infact all her siblings were against her..

I later managed to finish my exams, got posted to NYSC, she tried to reach out to me before I left for camp and I reached her but I was still damn hurt and nothing came out of it though I knew I still love her gaaaan..

Went for service and everything ceased no reaching out what so ever, I thought I would be wayward in my service year but I didn't even gbensh neither was my mind open to any girl talk less a relationship, i just reserved myself. When I was about rounding up some months ago, she reached out to me again, and this time she just had another failed relationship cause the guy is all this MOG believers and he has been told shes not good for him, thereby ending the affair/dumping her well after gbenshing her..

Now she feels she wants me back that its me she truly loves and made for bla bla bla...this January will make it 2years since her initial fuck up. Tho am still single and really love this girl, but  i feel would she have wanted me back if her doctor copper didn't have a fiance or if the other guy went ahead with their relationship? As a part of me wants her, a part feels have been used and about to be re-used cause nothing really new/changed about her and the presents I gave are the ones she still using/has... 

Have finished service now and might be travelling for further studies, but this thoughts of taking her back or not for a relationship is killing me..please Stella and bv's, help me reset my brain..

Thank you..

Your narrative makes it look like she is back because her flings with the two other guys ended..you might be right!

My pen advice?Everybody needs another chance at love...Give her one last chance and dump her as soon as you are sure she is going ''a-gbenshing' again.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

LAZY HUSBAND

Dear Stella,

Please I wish to remain anonymous. This is not a chronicle per se but I will like to get feedback or advice from other married BVs, including you.

I have been married for over 10 years. After marriage

I lived with hubby a couple of years in Nigeria before we relocated abroad. My issue is that since we moved abroad i have increasingly noticed how lazy my husband is particularly with helping around the house and the kids. we have four kids all below the age of 12. even the stuff that men should do such as simple repairs in the house, mowing the lawn, washing the car, etc is always an uphill task to get him to do it. Above all he expects me to cater to all his personal needs particularly with feeding which he looovvveees to do! I believe he has always been like this but of course back in Nigeria I didn't notice because we had people helping out in the house.

He also sleeps a lot when he is not working. He does have a good job which occupies him as well as gives him time to be home too but he spends 90% of the time at home sleeping. to cut a long story short, I am beginning to resent him because most of the time i feel so used and unappreciated. I cater to the kids including ensuring they attend extracurricular activities, keep the homefront as it should be whilst also doing a postgraduate programme. to say the least, I am constantly overwhelmed and frustrated....

Please i want to know if other married BVs face similar experience with their hubbys. Maybe if i realise its not my portion alone, i may not resent him and learn to manage it better. 

Thanks Stella...Btw...well done on the great job you are doing!

Ardent BV.

Imagine the Nonsense!..You spoilt him so deal with it.