Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

Some people see but they pretend not to see the handwriting on the wall.

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

CONFUSED LOVER GIRL

Good day Stella, 

Please dont publish my email address. Thanks.

My story is a long one, will try to make it short. I am a 28yrs old single lady who has been in an abusive relationship for 3 years. When I say abusive, I mean both physically, emotionally, and psychologically. Atleast he has hit me about 3 to 4 times. I did all I could to make the relationship work, but all was to no avail.  My bf drinks to stupor, womanisez, keeps late nights, I endured and indulged him thinking he will change, but it was getting worse...I stayed all through without cheating or leaving him, I loved him more than anything else, guess he knew hence his attitude...

In between this years, he has taken me to his pple to introduce me to them as his bride to be even though he hasn't come to my house officially. At a point, I became weak and tired of the whole thing, it was my last limit, I couldn't bear any of his problems anymore, hw wasnt making effort to change, he kept changing girls, i was losing it and then i thought of giving him space. I was so sad and heartbroken...I was a shadow of myself. Then on one occasion, we decided to make up again, but this time, I had met a guy in church who showed interest and before I knew it, we bonded. 

We started talking and liking each other...He would call and treat me more than my bf ever did because at a point, my bf stopped calling and showing concern about me but this guy would do anything to make me happy. On the day my bf and I decided to make up, we hung out, while at it, my bf left me at the club to dance with a prostitute, while I was somewhere looking for him. That pissed me off and I decided to speak to him and told him all that wasn't needed since he knew I was with him. He tried to apologize, I refused and next thing he did was leave me at the club and drive off with my bag in his car. He went through my messages and read everything about me and the new guy I had met in church .At that point, he knew iv been talking to another guy. 

when I eventually got bk to his place, I got the beating of my life. I tried apologizing for flirting with another guy on phone, but I explained to him that his attitude led me to it cos I wasn't sure of my future with him anymore. Now the problem is we have been apart for the past 5 months, all of a sudden, he came back begging saying he wants me back on the condition that I leave the new guy I met in church. My response to him was that I won't be able to because the guy has been very very nice to me. And he's a very humble person who worships me. 

My problem now is i still love my bf of 3 years despite everything I went through,  should I go back to him? Will he ever change from his ways? Hes been trying to make us reconcile but i dont want to make a mistake i will regret.  He has a good job and from a good background too or should I stay with the new guy and hustle with him till he's ready? Cos he can't be ready anytime soon since he's just managing his Job which ain't paying well...I am really confused now...

I need to give my bf an answer weather i want him back or not. 

Please bvs, all I need now is advice, cos whatever decision I make now determines my future. Please help a sister, I can't think straight.

Thanks and God bless!

I am trying to understand why people in abusive relationships always look for an excuse to go back.

Let me help you think straight...

With all what you have just narrated,what would be your advice to someone who narrates such to you?

This is from SDK to you......Flee! 

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

CONFUSED VIRGIN

Good day house I've been dating my bf for 3 months,he's 32 while I'm 18 in my 2nd year and he's graduating this year but wants to do masters in order not to leave me here.mind you I'm still a Virgin!

 he's all I need In a man and our relationship is serious because he's met my mom and I've met his parents already,I actually told him I'm not ready for marriage and we should slow things down and he agreed.Heres where my twist and turn begins I don't have any male or female friend!

Hes driven them all he's blocked all my male friends on Instagram,snap chat and other medias,I don't chat with anyone except him and the only medium I could send this narrative is because I'm in class which il surely clear because he checks my phone 24/7.2weeks ago I composed this narrative and he saw it and got upset and Changed for a day but now he's back to his character again.,I don't visit nobody and nobody visits me.

I stay in his house even though he paid for a house for me but the moment I tell him I wanna go to my house,it becomes a problem,He gives me all I want and made me live above the average life my parents can afford.But Stella and Bvs my mom will not allow me marry him till I graduate and do my masters,my dad will never accept an Igbo ,an as a son inlaw as we are yorubas and on his part he's not even encouraging me with his possessiveness and insecurities...Please Bvs I don't even know if my relationship has a future.

YOU ARE 18? WHAT DA FRIGGING FRACK!!!