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WHEN 'AGE-DIFFERENCE CREEPS INTO A RELATIONSHIP...

Hi Stells...please keep up the good work. I am  25 and am dating a 36 year old man. We met early this year (march) and we got talking and after two months we started dating. Please BVs be very patient with me as you take your time to read.

He is a cool, handsome, well mannered, attentive man, extremely mature,caring and he's got a good job that pays him really well. Everything was going on fine and all, he was really all over me, anything to make me comfortable and very happy he was ready to do and provide. Always at my beck and call, we see every weekend even sometimes during the week, to spoil me was his goal and we both agreed sex was not going to be involved and it wasn't.

 He charges me to be a better person, achieve my goals and sometimes I feel he wants to mould me to become what he excepts me to be, he could also be bossy and in control. 

He calls me like 20 times in a day not caring that we both at work and we chat  constantly. He started rushing me about marriage and all that he would not mind getting married to me this year but I was worried because everything was happening too fast, I had to tell him to calm down and lets get to know ourselves more and then next year we can talk about marriage and he said he had heard that it would take it one step at a time. 

He introduced me to his whole family and they were all too happy that he is finally getting married and they loved me very much but he kept procrastinating on when to meet my mum whereas he was the one who instigated it.

Fast-forward to August, I started noticing a slight withdrawal, started giving me less attention, telling me he was busy at work and too tired to come see me at weekends as he would like to rest but I didnt give it much thought and I played the understanding girlfriend. 

After two months of not seeing him but talking was constant but not as constant, then I began to become so furious and asked him what the problem was because I didn't signup for this kind of relationship and the next thing I heard from him was that he wanted us to end the relationship because it was not working due to us underestimating the age difference.

 I was too devastated and heartbroken.

I cried and asked him why and all he could say was that we were not communicating on same level and the age difference was a factor. 

He then came to apologize again and told me he was the problem and that he is rushing things too much, that we should take it one step at a time but the relationship has never been the same ever since then.

I get to be extremely careful in my interaction with him  because I do not know what I will do and say that would spoil everything.     

Please note that respecting him is not the problem because I do a lot and he says it himself that I am respectful and too mature for my age.

I am in dare need of mature advice on this dear BVs and Sweet stella, what would you advice me if I were to be your sister or friend???God bless you all as you drop your worthwhile advices.

Not too sure but it seems he met someone older thus the age talk.Stop stressing yourself and concentrate on something else.Note that if his new affair is not going right he will come back to tell you stories,apologise,sleep with you and then go back to her when things are okay.I am not sure of what i am saying but your story has the profile of a lover that has moved on but still has your address in case his new lover hurts him.
Move on!