Someone who claims to know the couple came in the comment section trying to defend that the lady walked away because he was a flirt and she couldnt deal anymore....
These are true life happenings you are about to read....
THE GIST GOES.....
Stellz,
I want to share this stories so that ladies can learn. I'm sharing this cos of the story that was posted on your blog concerning the guy that shot his girlfriend after seeing her through school.
My story goes thus: An uncle to one of my friends wanted to marry a girl but she insisted on going to school first and the guy accepted. Her parents cannot afford to send her to school so, the guy took up the responsibility of sending her to school.
She got admission to study medicine and surgery and the guy is a business man. The took care of her education through house-manship till she got a job and the story now changed. During the course of her job, she met another medical doctor guy and the started dating and planning to get married. She then traveled to her home town with the medical doctor guy to meet her parents.
Her parents asked her what she intends doing with the person that sponsored her through school, her reply was "With my status as a medical doctor, I can't marry someone that doesn't have a university degree". All of a sudden, she realizes the guy doesn't have any degree and even suggested that her medical doctor boyfriend will repay every thing the other person has spent on her.
That's how the guy that sponsored her suffered partial stroke until God healed him.
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The girl involved here is my distant relation. I will use A and B as illustration for clarity purpose. I will put the girl's name as F.
F was in love with A and even talking marriage until B came around and wanted to marry her. She didn't love B but Mr B was loaded, so, she wanted to kill two birds with one stone or have her cake and eat it. So, she decided to play along with Mr B so as to extort money from him. Mr B was spending without batting an eye lid with the hope that she was going to be his wife. She traveled abroad a couple of times.
Stella, she was using the money that she was collecting from Mr B to plan her wedding to Mr A. Mr B woke up one day to the rudest shock of his life, his wife to be got married to Mr A.
Mr B didn't utter a word. He didn't harass or do anything stupid. He accepted it and walked away. You know what? She gave birth to her first child and it turned out to be an imbecile, the second one too was also an imbecile. And Mr A walked away from the marriage.
Can u imagine.not only sponsoring her education but now she wants him to sponsor her wedding. The height of greedy. Am sure they are igbos
ReplyDeletehmmmmmm, so true
DeletePeople need to realise that such arrangement hardly ends well.
DeleteWhen you're not really educated yourself and decide to sponsor a girl's education, her level changes once she graduates.
Naturally, her sponsor is no longer desirable as a spouse, as she's now a lot wiser and exposed, as oppossed to the the 'Ekaete' she initially was.
One can't really blame the ladies in this situation; neither can their sponsors be blamed for whatever course of revenge they take. They are probably deeply hurt and bitter.
People should learn to have the number of kids they can cater for, rather than waiting for one well- do illiterate to help educate their girl child.
Click my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers
Lmao
DeleteNwa Amaka, you sef.
Well, that's a possibility.
The money people. * side eyes at MM*
#WhiteDiamondOut
Most u tie marriage on a girls neck,just becos u want to help her. If u love her help her dnt tie some unreachable goal of marriage around her neck, if she loves u she will marry u....dis school for marriage issue na bad market abeg
DeleteGreed or being greedy.
DeleteWetin concern Igbo's for this matter now? Lol
Delete@nwa amaka : if u don't have any reasonable thing to say, please stfu.....
DeleteIf u. Want 2 sponsor any girl with her education, please marry her first 2 avoid stories like this.
To my fellow women and ladies pls be careful. (Big eye no good)
DeleteWow!
DeleteGreed! Greed! Greed!
The evil that men do....
Chai! I pity Mr B sha.
Karma had her address all along.
DeleteYou always can't eat your cake and have it,some people head dey very strong,you cant cheat them without paying a grave price.
greed nau haba!
DeleteDont b so sure of wat u dont know. I wonder wetin concern ibo with dis matter..
DeleteHeight of greed.
DeleteOf course u igbos will go for Nwa Amaka's head because truth is bitter. The scenario above as narrated by the poster is common amongst the Igbo.A man sends a girl to school after the girl don tear eye for school she go say she no fit marry the man again.
Delete@ Nwa Amaka are u high on cheap drugs? Wat did igbos do to you? If she is igbo does it mean Evry igbo is like dat? My friend wake up and be smart jare
Delete@ Nwa Amaka are u high on cheap drugs? Wat did igbos do to you? If she is igbo does it mean Evry igbo is like dat? My friend wake up and be smart jare
DeleteWell, karma will always find their way into their life, no matter what. I don't promise to marry anybody I know I can't settle down with, no matter how rich the person might be. Well, it's a lesson to we ladies that we believe we're smart and we can go away with it. Some people are not strong to just let go, they will always find ways to revenge.
ReplyDeleteFinally, what you know you can't eat, please don't bother to smell it.
*Larry was here*
Well said my sister
Delete"WHAT U CAN'T EAT DON'T SMELL IT"
U guys are talking nonsense abeg, he sponsored her education,but she was fucking him and probably aborted like 5 times, the girl has paid in kind abeg, if she was not giving him her body in exchange for the money wud he ve sponsored her, girls suffer with men for yrs and if the guy breaks thru he will dump her for another woman, no man can render me useless bcos he spent small money on me, them never born dat guy so ya all should chill abeg.
DeleteI dont have pity for such people. Some people think that they are smart but what i love most is that one can never reap what he or she did not sow.
ReplyDeleteMkpuru onye kuru ka oga aghoro
Serves her right.
Next post
Exactly!!!!!
DeleteMkpuru Onye kuru ka oga aghata.
Ndi anyaekwu
Most girls take advantage of men when it comes to sponsoring the their education.
DeleteIf you cannot marry the guy,then reject the offer of him sponsoring your education.
I have heard stories patterning this same issue
Must you marry a guy because he sponsored your education? What kind of exchange is that? Nigerian women really need to break out of this slavery mentality under men abeg. It is quite sad to see the kind of seemingly educated and enlightened women who have backward views like this. Isn't marriage meant to be for love and not entrapment? So why tie a girl's help with education to a clause? If he loves her, he wouldn't put a condition on that love. Besides, these men are mare cradle snatchers at best, looking for young girls to entrap. Isn't it exactly the same thing as a rich woman trying to use her money to woo a guy? I know the women supporting the rich men will also be the ones to insult rich women saying they have no shame etc. isn't what the men are doing exactly the same or even worse? When you ask a teenage girl or a 20 year old girl to marry you after you sponsor her higher education, should a teenager or young girl be thinking of marriage at that age? And even if they do, shouldn't it be with their age group and not uncle gwegs? These girls are mentally underdeveloped, they don't even know themselves yet but you want to tie them down to yourself for life, why won't they change their minds when they eventually get older and know exactly what they want? At least the rich women who try to tie guys down do that with grown, broke men, not underaged college kids. Nigerians need to get our priorities straight. Old men should leave young girls alone! If you want to help, help! You try to take advantage of their desperation and inexperience and then cry foul later....... Just Saying
DeleteBest comment so far!!!
Delete@anonymous 15:17 may GOD bless u and answer all ur prayers.u are so truthful and sensible.poverty will be far from u AMEN
DeleteMtcheeeewwww...
ReplyDeleteYour second story is forged!...
Haba!...biko stop using my brain....
So it's now a crime when girls dump a nigga that saw her through school but will celebrate and commend the men for doing the same...
Poster,men has been doing these things to the women folks and no one is crying foul...
am sure it's those omata guys and broke ass niggas that cry foul when a girl dump them after eating their money...
Na ya people dey do this shit most. When dem go born pickin full ground in their tattered village huts
DeleteI support you totally, guy dump girls everyday after using them but if a girl dumps a guy after eating his money shes called a thief.....Abeg stella free d girls joor, most times the guys deserve it, they become lords over d girls life becos of school fees, some beat maltreat n even share d girls with their friends just becos they are helping...Am so on team dump his ass if his no longer your class or ur taste
DeleteLike seriously!!!. This your comment no get sense at all. Abi na you no even get sense at all. Your brother or even your child will sponsor a lady thru school with the promise of marriage, and the lady will end up leaving them after ten years in Jesus name.
DeleteSince you don't see anything wrong in it, I wish it upon you.
Some omata guy's can go extra miles bcos of dis kind of issue.. ..
DeleteYou've said all. These things happen, if ladies open up to you and tell you what they have been through in the hands of men you will be shocked. I know some girls who were jilted by their boyfriends they have been with suffered and even sponsor them and at the end they got married to someone else but as you know 'KARMA IS REAL' and we will always play its part.
DeleteAre u a culprit? Pls stop before u bite more than u can chew!
Deleteyou sef! sometimes I wonder.
DeleteAunty is like something is wrong with your brain. See the stupid english you are rendering here, better go and find man that will pay for you to go to school, not come here and be dropping stupid grammatical errors and be claiming Queen and boss of the this blog. Better take sit \____ remove your brain from reverse and try to upgrade it small please. Rubbish ●__●
DeleteDon't mind them. Once a woman does anything bad luck must follow them but when it's a man all is well. Mscheeeeeew
DeleteAnonymous 10:44 your level of discrimination knows no bounds. Pls change o! Which Nigerian tribe or village doesn't have tattered huts? Even Lagos and Abuja have them, but you dare spew ur ignorance for all to see. God forgive you
DeleteI use to tell my DH friends, if you want to sponsor a lady in the university, marry her first, if she refuses, make sure you get her pregnant to avoid stories like this. Training somone in a medical school no be beans so after spending such amount of money, such lady will now remember that she is not in the same level with him. The kain thunder wey go fire that Lady just dey do press up.
ReplyDeleteThank you
DeleteAny girl that try that nonsense with my brother,will know the difference between fire and burning furnace
My brother will not even be stupid like that
What is d big deal in a girl dumping a guy after he sponsored her, dnt u know that marriage is a life time commitment.... Dnt guys dump girls after dating dem for several years n using dem to build their lifes....Madam abeg park well joor
DeleteDats wickedness..
DeleteEating pussy.. I don park well. Lol hahaha.
DeleteYes,get the girl pregnant 2 avoid stories
DeleteWhen she was eating the money,d guy was good 4 her abi?
KARMA
You reap what you sow
WTF...
ReplyDeleteThere's difference btw a cheerful giver n a controlling giver...I don't like people dat give n tie a condition around it...d unrealistic expectation dat all relationships must end in marriage is what makes ppl do stupid tins like dis..u don't upgrade a lady while u put ur own life on hold..I believe in helping a lady achieve her dreams but u have to keep improving urself to match her expected status...i've said it several times dat dis arrangement doesn't end well in most cases.
Delete@bitchplis- don't I love you for this? I just love you
DeleteKarma struck the girl real hard oh.
ReplyDeleteBut I think this issue should be between the man and women. They should be able reach an agreement.
It's very simple instead one person being heartbroken while the others feels she owes you no shit.
Whats d big deal in her dumping his ass cos dey aren't of d same class anymore, dont guys dump girls after several years of relationship after d girl has sacrificed alot to build him into a modern man...
DeleteMadam abeg park well joor
Hmmmmmmm.......
ReplyDeleteIt's all shades of WRONG though. I met DH while in school and I had a backlog of school fees to pay. My bill was over 200k. Within a month of meeting me, he gave me the money to offset the bill and my results were finally released. Then he proposed and I accepted... several times, I wanted to take a walk koz he wasn't really my type of guy BUT I stayed put.
Today, we are married. I have my degree. I have a good job and believe it or not, it all happened because of him
Aawwww
DeleteYou such a grateful heart.
Thank You Anonymous. Its good to be good. Even if he is not the type of man she wants, she can use her power as a woman to persuade him to go to school even if its adult education or business school rather than dumping him because of such silly excuses.
DeleteNice one..U have a good heart..
DeleteCongrats dear..
A friend of mine met her DH when the going was tough.
DeleteThe then boyfriend now DH pays her monthly allowance, foot her bills in school and her house rent.
Although on the condition that she get pregnant first. And now they are happily married.. Already has a child and expecting another.
So I believe you can't always eat your cake and have it.
What works for A might not work for B.
The best thing is to avoid all these kind of promises that might have a side effect.
Correct barney! Kudos to u ma'am!
Delete@ Anonymous, he wasn't really your type of guy bt u stayed put.....Hmmm hope u have been able to change him into your type of guy because we dont want you to send us chronicles of how u couldn't cope anymore ooo, Anyway stella is always here for chronicles that touch
DeleteThis is why it is not right to make promises ahead of a situation like this. Things happen expect there they had true love which could not be broken. I feel terrible for the man and the lady. I Can't judge!!
ReplyDeleteMaking promises is a NO NO for me. I dare not make or accept any promise I know I can't keep.
DeleteAnyways sha, every mallam to his suya...
All this people that use people and dump them. If not for any thing at least consider the extent the person can go to react when used and dumped. That alone is enough to caution you but some people will never learn. In our world now, killing is like nothing to some people even when you've done nothing wrong to them. Talk less of when you wrong them. Ladies pls enough if these stories.
ReplyDeleteMy mother will say don't smell the food if you know you won't eat it, period
ReplyDelete*word *
DeleteShe realized she can't get married to someone without a university degree, after the man sponsored her education,..Wickedness!
ReplyDelete2nd story, she does not love the man, yet she squandered his money planning marriage with another man, then started having imbecile children..The reward of her wickedness.
You will reap whatever you sow..Moral lessons from this stories.
Thank You
DeleteI don't feel for any girl in this situation,mtcheew. You can't eat your cake and have it,make your stand and position know from the beginning, don't ever think the other party is dumb and can't do anything
ReplyDeleteBetrayal to me is deadly,and wasting anyone life who betray me is very easy
People, don't bite what you can't chew.
ReplyDeleteI've heard a story of a guy his girlfriend sold food stuff to sponsor his education and he left her for an educated girl.
My neighbour then left a girl that suffered for him here, went abroad and got married to another wealthy Nigerian girl over there.
Now things are so rough for him.
It's an individual thing, it's not only girls that jilt guys.
That's the truth, we should stop generalizing things........its an individual thing.
DeleteExactly.. Some guys have done same to some ladies...
DeleteLadies n money! Always thinkin they'r smart! If u don't luv a man knw d extent of money n gifts u collect frm him to avoid stories that touch
ReplyDeleteKARMA.....is a bitch. People be good
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ReplyDeleteThank God for you.
DeleteThank God for you oh
DeleteThank God for delivering you from harm. It's hard to find those kindhearted couple. The days are evil.
DeleteThank God for sending thosing couple your way at that particular time may his name be praise forever more.
DeleteI thank God for uuuuu...He will always guide & protect His loved ones....
DeleteGod is still faithful...
Thank God oooo
DeleteThank God for your life dear!
DeletePraise God!!!
DeleteGod be praised.
DeleteThank guys.God really saved me. I wonder why my comment was removes tho.
DeleteThese stories should be a lesson to some girls that think that they are sharper than razor blade.
ReplyDeleteHonesty matters.
Hmmmmmmm, men if you want to train a lady,marry her first to avoid stories that touch.
ReplyDeleteI can assure you that Mr. B didn't just walk away.
ReplyDeleteMy advise to guys is that they should not pay any girl's school fee with the hope that she'll one day marry you. Her education is her parents' responsibility. Even if you decide to spend on her or pay her school fees, don't expect marriage in return. It just doesn't work that way.
Chukwudi yes Mr b didn't just walk away.
DeleteHmmm!!! I have somebody dat is spending on me nd I've told him times without number dat I can't marry him..... But dis guy no gree o.... Me still dey collect money she nd once I'm ready to get married I go just run away.... I would have married him though but dis guy is too obsessed..... After I don received slap like twice make I con marry person wey go turn me to punching bag.... Mbanu😆
ReplyDeleteCarry on jare...
DeleteNothing do you...
Hmnnnnn.....
DeleteI just pray u're joking
But if u mean what u just wrote
Then ur surname will soon be SORRY
You received slaps? It means you are in a form of relationship with him.
DeletePlease let him go. Every girl knows what to do to get rid of a "toaster" or boyfriend... except it is a case of extreme obsession... if it is the latter,you should be very much afraid.
Nkea aburo mata of mbanu.. If you re not ready for Comittment then end everything and stop chopping the maga money to avoid mmadu ihu mmadu ibe ya acid.
DeleteSo far you've told him and he has traces of hitting you... my sister, when time reach ball
DeleteWhy not stop eating his money..
DeleteIf u want to help sum1 help. Don't hang marriage on the persons neck and not expect things to change later
DeleteYou are receiving slap and you're still there chopping his money?! Soon it will be punches
DeleteWhy won't I collect d money..... Shey he will not pay for compensation ni? He has to compensate me for d slap nd s*x naw nd he will pay till wen I'm done wit him.....
DeleteLadies should be very careful....don't even know what to say..
ReplyDeleteNow I concur to ghanaman comment the other day. Some o! Hian! Wetin women de cause for themselves. But I don't support the idea of agreeing to terms and condition before you render assistance o! Cos we are all human. None of us came with instruction manual. We can only hope and pray. It might even be the man that will change his mind in the end leaving the woman shattered. Money spent aside o! Well, I can't just start what I can't finish. So help me God. Amen.
ReplyDeleteBless u sister! U shall continue to see far...even with ya glasses! Lolz!
DeleteHmm.... Story of the gods.
ReplyDeleteSpeechless.....
ReplyDeleteSome girls are greed & without conscience...
What a lovely story
ReplyDeleteI've said my mind that day! Any woman/man that betrays his/her lover like this deserves whatever comes to him/her.
ReplyDeleteIf after going to such lengths to prove ur self & ur intending partner fails to hold up his/her end of the deal, use the person for rituals jare. Even God sef go understand!!!
Yeye dey smell!
Ghanaman signing out!!!
I'm shocked o. People are wicked sha.
ReplyDeleteJesus is Lord.
Jesus Christ!!! Coveteousness and deceit are two terrible things.Godliness with contentment is great gain.
ReplyDeleteFor what now?na you be her papa?abeg guys should stop paying school fees for girls oo until you wife her I won't encourage anybody I know to do that to avoid stories that touch.
ReplyDeleteFor what now?na you be her papa?abeg guys should stop paying school fees for girls oo until you wife her I won't encourage anybody I know to do that to avoid stories that touch.
ReplyDeletePeople have been dumping people since 1901.
ReplyDeleteWhat of women that trained a man in the university? What of men that dump a woman who committed several abortions for him ?
We all do silly things, thank God we live under the grace of God.
XOXO MYSTERY
So true
DeleteI tire, there are no guarantees in life and life is a risk. Infact, life is not fair.
DeletePeople fall in and out of love and heaven will not fall.Nobody should be forced into marriage against their wish or because one person sponsored the other's education.
Must she stay with you till she breathes her last because you sent her to school even if you batter her, sleep with everything around etc.
Marriage should be between 2 willing and excited partners.I will rather have a man dump me than marry me out of pity and later treat me like a piece of rag irrespective of what i have done for her.Yea, i know it hurts.
My cousin travelled to the U.S and ditched his fiancee of how many years and heaven did not fall.He said he did not love her again, the sweet chic has moved on.It is his loss cuz the girl was a good girl.
Some lady i know gave all her life savings to her husband who planned to relocate to naija to start a business.He got to Naija and abandoned her for another woman,life goes on.
I agree some ladies are greedy and had it all planned ab intio.They use and look for lousy reasons to dump but that still should not make you soil your hands with blood.
Even in business, some investment go wrong so killing a human being because you were financially disposed to help them at a time and they ditched you for another is evil and unjustifiable.
People be acting stupidly without weighing the consequences of their actions.No matter the level of betrayal, i am not ready to trade off my happiness or freedom because a human being left me.Life goes on jare.
*smh* @ the second story.
ReplyDeleteServes her very right.
I guess karma fought for the man.
When I read that story yesterday, I was sad for the man. He would have just left the girl.
When life would have been done with her,she would have wished she was dead.
Some girls are just despicable. Why will someone allow a man to take care of her,whom she has no intentions of being with him, without setting the records straight.
That medical doctor will still get what's coming to her, which will defy medicine and science. Mtchewww.
As for the girl leaving the man because of his violent nature, that is another matter altogether.
But then,i'm sure she noticed it before he was done training her through school.
Why didn't she leave then?
In my opinion, ladies should stop accepting favours from men,when they know that they don't want to have anything to do with them.
It seldom turns out well.
And by the way, for those attacking Chidimma Grace,(I think) she was right.
'You can't have your cake and eat it'.
#WhiteDiamondOut
We cant really blame some of this girls for walking away, the guys sometimes turn themselves into monitoring spirits n Lords in this ladies lifes,they wont allow them do anything without collecting permission. Most times arrangements like this are suffocating, if u want to help a girl help her not condition her to marry u by fire by force.... Love is not by force, help without expecting anything in return,....am on team walk awat if d arrangement is suffocating you, cos marriage is a life time contract.
ReplyDeleteKarma is a bish
ReplyDeleteImbecile? That's a wrong word to use. A child with special needs sounds better.
ReplyDeleteImbecile is imbecile that's why you have the word itself. Special need is special need. Weigh the similarities and know the difference.
DeletePolitical correctness egwu ndi America
DeleteAs in eeh. Olori teach more
DeleteInfact eeh i don't know why people do things like this; pure wickedness or being smart. My brother is still healing from his own, after training her in school only for her to say a prophet told her she birth children for him, if not for constant pleadings from my mama, that family for smell pepper bcos he was ready to frustrate her with his navy's might.
ReplyDeleteMy dear friend sponsored her boyfriend abroad ( Canada) he got there stayed with her family and all of a sudden, she was no longer good enough, he married another girl and told her to move along and that he will pay her all he spent on her if she wants it. Evil that men do will live with them, May it not be on their children but on them alone..
Pls the girl did NOTHING WRONG by marrying whom she wants to marry. It doesnt matter if you date someone forever. adults must make the free choice of who they want to spend the rest of their lives with. IT shouldnt be a debt owed, a payment of fees paid and the like, NO. It should be the free will of both parties involved. Maturity means learning to say NO and accept NO for an answer. If any of the parties is having doubts, fear or double mindedness, then that wedding should be on hold
ReplyDeleteYou really cannot buy love. To a great extent you can try but really? Would you want an unwilling bride who gives you her body as payment for all the money you spent on her. Wont it be unfufilling knowing her heart is not with you. Pls it shouldnt be compulsory. Every adult has everyy right to walk away from a relationship for whatever reasons. Not every relationship must end in marriage. What is this about people getting married just cos they feel they owe their partners for all the years of dating. It shouldnt be that way. A relationship isnt marriage, just an avenue to find out what you really want. If at the end you dont feel completely into the other person, then you shouldn't marry. Period!
The kind of mistakes people make. Hope other ladies learn from these stories.
ReplyDeleteWen u know u will not marry him, y do u promise him in d first place. Ladies be very careful wit ur tongue
ReplyDeleteThe people who want to marry by force seem diabolical and manipulative and twisted...
Delete*I refused promising marriage to any body but simply because I told a guy I loved him, he and his friends concluded that I already made a promise and a vow to marry him where he didn't even talk of love or promise for it to be a binding agreement but alas! this has been on for almost 20yrs now and he refuses to let go...*Some people eeh!
Thelma Enemuwe said...
ReplyDeleteIts safe to say dat Mr B z a silent shooter and is behind lady F's misfortune...
*_faithful bv enemuwe thelma*
Please if you want to help somene do it because of God. some men are so wicked they can't help a woman without wanting to sleep with her even if the woman is married haba there is God o and his watching us even if his not punishing us immediately on the last day everyman for himself and the book of life will be open . If you want to help anyone do it wholeheartedly and remove your mind your reward is in heaven.
ReplyDeleteThelma Enemuwe said...
ReplyDeleteIts safe to say dat Mr B z a silent shooter and is behind lady F's misfortune...
*_faithful bv enemuwe thelma*
lies
ReplyDelete#GODWIN™
So many african magic stories on this blog. Stella take your time ooo. what is this one saying again. You cannot give birth to 2 imbeciles.
ReplyDeleteyour brother na wizard.
My own in all of this is why wnt an illiterate businessman find an illiterate woman of his type that has no interest in schooling at all?
ReplyDeleteWhere are the parents in all of this? These ladies didn't asked to be born. Your primary responsibility as a parent is to educate your child. St op allowing men to take up responsibilities that is yours. If you can't afford to send ur child to school, or well she can work, safe money by the side and do evening classes or distant learning. There is no age limit to school. If you see a guy dat wants to sponsor ur daughter by all means. Do not be an ingrate, make sure they are married traditionally or some form of introduction is done atlst. And men stop sponsoring women u never do marriage rite or introduction with. I had many married ladies when I was in university, coming from dere husbands house, some even pregnant.
ReplyDeleteThe only reasonable comment here. God bless my parents
DeleteAnon 11:55, you think you just made a sensible comment now? As you rightly said; these ladies didn't ask to be born. So the parents should force their child to marry someone old enough to be her father? And I'm sure you'll be one of the people saying "marry for love, not money" etc. is that girl even ready for marriage? Why is uncle gwegs not married at his age to be looking for someone who just finished secondary Sch to marry? Shouldn't your daughter's happiness be your utmost priority? Do you know if the man is an abuser, a chronic womanizer, diseased, hot tempered etc; and those are reasons why all women ran away from him? Because there's always a reason behind why a successful rich man is first; not yet married, and second; seeking a little girl to marry. Because many girls in your school fell victims to that and even had to study while rolling around your school premises with pregnancies doesnt make it right. Forced marriage is NEVER right in any context. The slogan "child not bride" comes to mind. Those girls were being denied of their uni/college experience where all they had to worry about is studying and exams, not ante natal care, having to sleep with dirty old husband every night, having to come home to cook and clean etc instead of relaxing and studying or doing assignments. Even just sitting down and gisting with other young girls, joking and laughing about random stuff, they get denied of the littlest things. I know some uni girls follow aristo and all but guess what? It's their choice. Some girls tow that line and many others don't, because they have that CHOICE and they can use either. Please encourage our brothers to leave these little girls alone and allow them achieve their future potential. If they want to help, let them help. Marrying someone because they paid for your education is the same as paying for service rendered; even streetwise prostitutes do that too, except for this poor girls, they would be paying for the rest of their lives before their future even begins. How unfair!. There can't be any love or fulfillment in a forced marriage. They can all put on an act at first and make everyone think all is well but after a while, the facade will come down, the cracks will start to show and all hell can break loose. Stop encouraging this disgusting practice on the girl-child, no matter what age they are, they're still someone's child, someone's daughter who has no voice yet. STOP THE CRAZINESS AND UNFAIRNESS PLEASE!
DeleteGuys dump girls everyday who have been through he'll and back for them and girls do it and it's a big deal?! Abeg.. females have learnt to give back to men what they give us. They should deal with it
ReplyDeleteWhat I do not understand is what Christian peeps mean by 'karma'. What is karma? You ALL claim to be Christians yet know/quote karma. I wonder the generation of Christians we have today.
ReplyDeleteToday's African/Nigerian ladies are TOO materialistic as well as taking young men for a ride. Pls ladies, we know that marriage is by choice so if you cannot marry a man don't spend his hard-earned cash when it's your condition for marriage.
Meanwhile, some men promise ladies marriage yet after wasting their youthful ages/beaties with unprotected s3x and abortions, he leaves for a 'better' lady. Well, if you can wedge the war, ride on.
There is seed time and surely harvest......What one sows, one reaps. I'm out.
I wonder where they see the karma too! These men are not young men, they are old uncle gwegs! I'm sure there are several single and lovely ladies in their late twenties and thirties who also need help with one thing or the other like finishing school, starting a business, getting a job etc; why don't they look for and meet those ladies and promise the same thing they are promising these underaged college girls who don't know their own minds yet. At least the older ladies know exactly what they want at that age and are not likely going to change their minds if they agree. A lot of them are already ready to settle down. Most of these men waste a lady's time while she helps and supports him, once he's made, he'll start looking for a little girl to train to his specification so he can marry. Some of the men are beasts and older ladies run away from them. They then look for young girls to trap and then cry foul later.
DeleteI totally believe there's no wrong spending on whoever you dating without any future engagements and stuff, however I wouldn't do somethings such as even date a lady whom I have to pay her fees in college or date a lady with too much family baggage, cos I know I won't be able to say no to ur demands as long as we dating, so to avoid stories stay on ur lane, I don't mind paying for a hair session, clothes and stuff, cos I believe in PMA(pussy maintainace allowance) as long as u fuck the pussy maintain it, so guys be careful choose ur lady wisely avoid people with so much baggage except unless u can bear the pain that comes after she jilts u
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