NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
COPING WITH AN UNROMANTIC BOO
Good day stella, how are you and the family. Please I'll be very grateful if you can post my story.
Let me go straight to point.. I've been dating this man for almost a year now..since we met we talk everyday, both chat and call.. he spends most of his free time with me, hence we see frequently,he is always there for me.we talk about every Lil thing.. he cares about me a lot and shows me everyday.. here's my problem;
1. He is not romantic; he calls me by name not a pet name (i call him sweetie always) , he finds it difficult to say romantic stuff to me.. but hey I can cope with that, his actions speaks louder than words.. since he shows me how special I am everyday I guess I can cope with him not saying it.. Because from day one. He told me he is not good with words.
2. The main problem; he likes to fight alot!! The slightest thing I say he turns it into fight, and would keep malice with me for days till I apologise even if am not at fault .. and am tired.. am the woman am suppose to be the one with drama not him besides am 24 and his 36 shouldn't he be the one acting matured?!!
At times I beg that I don't wanna fight I send messages, and call but he ignores for days.. and I don't know how to deal with a dramatic man.. and it hurts me so much.. please how do I make him stop? Yesterday we were having a normal conversation then he got upset.. and I was trying to calm him down and he said I should "quit the innocence crap" simply cos i don't wanna fight?!! It's getting too much.
Please how do I make him stop? I know it's easy for people to say dump him.. but that's the only problem I have with him other than that he is a very good man ( note; even when he is fighting me he doesn't insult me or get aggressive NEVER).. I think he does the malice thing because he knows it bothers me.. how do I make him see as adults we can have normal misunderstanding and sort it out and doesn't have to result to malice EVERY TIME! .
I am cooking and blogging so no time to give advice abeg...BV's abeg help me ohh
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CONFUSED AND STUCK BETWEEN TWO MEN
Hi Stella, hope you're doing great? Kudos to you, I visit your blog every single time, great work you're doing. Sorry my story is a bit long, I apologize in advance. I never really thought I will be coming here to share my story. I'm in my early 20s, doing well, from a very comfortable and loving home. I'd like to be incognito.
I'm dating someone but I'm in Love with another. I met my boyfriend through my parents. Both parents are very close friends. His dad told my dad how frustrated he was finding a good gf so he asked mine to talk to me about him and see if we would like each other. My dad said "it's not by force, if you don't get along then end it but you can only try first". We got talking and eventually I liked him, we finally met and he asked me out and I said yes.
We were okay even though he wasn't my type of guy at all, the relationship was boring, we don't play with each other or talk about deep stuff as normal couples do. He doesn't know how to make me happy without buying me something, I like money and all but it doesn't bring me genuine happiness. I love love (Miss emotional).
I'm a very outspoken person and I hate keeping things in mind knowing its destroying me inside, we got talking and I told him things I don't like then he said he'd change and I told him I will tell him the rest later so he wouldn't feel bad but he kept begging me to say it, then all of a sudden he screamed at me and threw something on the wall and told me to get the fuck out of his house. I was so shocked, I started crying and I left. As I was going he was begging but I needed to clear my head so I told him later then on the road he screamed to hell with you. He apologized later and promised not to never do it again and I forgave him.
Weeks passed and I saw my bf again, we got talking about issues cause nothing changed but before I knew it, he screamed so much that I should get out of his house when I went closer to meet him, he pushed me away to the wall and walked out. I mean we were smiling and talking but then the anger came out of nowhere. I said it was over this time. Went home, two weeks passed, he apologized and I'm a big believer of not giving up easily on people and trying to help no matter what. My mum and pastor told me to forgive him and be patient so I did.
Weeks passed again and we were arguing through the phone about how he forgets things I tell him so easily and he said "Omo to hell with you". I never expected it, see someone that promised a million times. I didn't break up with him cause we're not in the same town together, so I played it cool after he apologized severally. I decided to give him the very last chance cause someone told me people never really change , they can only pretend for a while and when he acts up again I will finally end it. The love I have for him has diminished in a way. My bf always says he has never been this way to his exes, it's just me. Why just me? Please mind you, I'm not here to bad mouth him, he has good parts too. I have my flaws too but I watch what I say or do to people I love so I don't hurt them as it should be.
Meanwhile there's this other guy, I've fallen in love with, he has been there and been my comfort. Funny thing is he never wants to hear or talk badly about my bf when I'm complaining. He might listen but he never responds, never. He totally understands me, he's funny, loving, caring, pushes me to do good , encourages me and makes me happy without buying me anything. I've fallen in love with his flaws too. A lot of things I want to say about him but let me stop here. I want to be with him but I don't want to end things with my bf because of a guy. He's not pestering me but I'm tired of this relationship I'm in. I'm not genuinely happy, I'm a very emotional person and I've never double dated, I don't intend to start.
PS: not had coitus(***) with any of them. Do you think he might change? Do you think I should be patient? Am I complaining a lot about what is required of him to do? I'm seeing him tomorrow and I want to know if I should end things when I do. I feel he might take my kindness for weakness and take me for granted. I want to help my bf and be there for him about whatever is going on but I don't even know what's making him an angry bird. I'm happy on my own but I deserve to be happy in a relationship.
So my fellow BVs please say something tangible, Stella please use your pen whether blue, red or green. I appreciate any thought coming from you. Thanks and God bless you.
HIAN.....Sweety i will come back and advice you in the comment section if i remember you hear?I dey busy now and besides too much asking of my pen has finished all,na only pink remain
And again… hmmm
ReplyDeletePoster 1:if you're ready to keep begging and asking for forgiveness then stay with him
DeletePoster 2: that 'omo to hell with u' cracked me up
Your guy is losing it gradually
Biko leave him and face the new guy
He would start getting violent with u in no time
Stelz, wetin b dis nah? U no dey cook 4 Nite ni? Abegi advice joor....yinmu
DeleteMen of nowadays seems to have the same problem and act the same way. I'm not saying women are perfect but there's this particular way they behave that is so much alike. Mine calls me twice in 2weeks and blame it on work cos he's a banker,anyways,writing chronicles isn't needed cos I already know that when men act like this,they are not in love with the lady concerned. So,i'm looking up to God for a better person. If he likes,let him not call for the next one month,jesus is on the throne,i can't die, I have final exams to write. Ok,bye.
DeleteNarrative one, you don't need an advice from ur write up.
DeletePoster2 - you are a nag. Do you think you don't have faults? Always complaining about the guy's issues. How won't he react in anger when he is always feeling attacked by you? Change abeg.
DeleteBoth of you should leave (in bvs voices). After leaving them, join the growing list of ladies in SnM.
DeletePoster2: You erred the moment you started talking about your bf wt the other guy. Y are ladies this foolish? And when you end end up with the other guy, you will have another male padi that you will explain stuffs to. They dont learn!
Poster 1, Is his name Pere A? If it's him, he's very married.
DeletePoster, I have heard of a girl who her parents hooked up to a family friend to marry. The story goes like this, the girl used to be a drug addict, she was from a wealthy home until the drugs got her mad...while they hooked her up with the guy in question, they give her injections and drugs to keep her calm for their meetings, the guy assumed she was a good girl since they always met at her house with family around. Na so this guy enter one chance marry a kolomental girl, after she don marry, them just abandon her with her hubby, the guy so regrets everything. So poster don't be fooled by family runs, now u know he has an anger issh, are you sure it ain't more???? Pack ur load o! He that has ears let him hear
DeleteWill read comments.
ReplyDelete*******LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Poster 2...Your boyfriend is Bipolar
DeleteSo true that's why he acts that way
DeletePoster 1- ignore him next time. If he doesn't swallow his pride then face ya front. You don't want a man who can't swallow his pride in certain occasions. The true teSt of how much the toughest man loves you is when you know that youre the only who can make him swallow his pride. Let everyone around attest to that. You should be the one person who can calm him down when he's raving mad. You should be the one everyone wants to talk to to get to him when he's in a mood. Stop begging him. STOP! I'm talking from experience. I used be the one begging my over possesive bf for things that weren't true. He would insult me I would beg. He would accuse me of sleeping with my next door neighbour, cos that one came to my house to ask for soup as a bachelor. Na me go still beg. When I beg he would call me a good girl and send me any designer shoe or bag I've been eyeing, within the next few days.
DeleteBut I got tired of being accused of things I didn't do. Cos I was really innocent. So I stopped begging. After some weeks he started trying to reach out to my younger sis to get to me. And sending her pocket money. The way I warned her ehn, she sent the message. You know why? I had inner peace. And I wasn't ready to trade it yea, i started spending my salary and savings more than I used to, but trust me such relationships would drain u and there are some people only God can fix.
Hope ny epistle helped? Xx
Poster 2 - na real angry bird. That part got me.
DeleteNne, in my early 20s I over considered ppl. Always trying to make them happy even when I wasn't. Honey, ion know where they at as K type. As u get older you will cherish ya peace of mind and happiness more than anything in this whole wife world. No one is worth it. No man is worth it.
Good thing you haven't had sex with any of them. You smart *in DJ Khaled's voice*
Note the ffg points: if bf 1 was a good catch, his dad won't be hunting gf for him. He would have been able to hold one down. Forget that nonsense about it being only you. Tell him chikito said he's lying. All his exes saw what u are seeing and they ran. Guess what? He needs anger management lessons. He's a potential wife beater. He also doesn't have manners, that's why he doesn't say much to you because it would be obvious if he did. What else? Guy 2 seems mature, buy do not compare him to ur bf yet.
One thing is if you ain't happy you ain't. And ur happiness isn't worth any thing. Simple
Well said....
DeleteRefill your pen.oh
ReplyDeletePoster 1&2 has got same issh going on with them..getting involved with a short temper man iis as getting close to a retard or been friend with an unstable person.*one min you see them smile and the. Next min you're scaredd of what they might do*.you can't change them if you wanna be with them,you can only condole and adjust to their ways*life is all about choice but as for me am not cut up with a bad temper man..naaaaa
DeleteStella you didnt post my hello cover beti why na?
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you are dating a sissy and he acts that way because he knows you love him more than he loves you.
ReplyDeleteTake a little break on showering him with love and attention, he'd sit up.
Poster 2 I don't even understand your point.
May the peace of the Lord see you through it.
Hian
Kilode?
DeleteMy dear if he ignores u nd u know u did nothing wrong, just call. Him or send him an sms telling him his attitude is really pissing u off. If he still continues acting up my dear DO NOT beg him just ignore him. His brains will reset. Na so I take reset my bf's own.Bcos when u start pleading and begging d will start acting like WILL SMITH
DeleteI don faint! Kikikikikimikikikiki@ peace of God be with poster2.
DeletePoster2 I think ur too young for dis mess! Just take a long break from both guys and face ur career!
Poster1 take a vacation from ya bobo!
Wait poster2 he threw sumtin @ u? Biko send ut obituary if u must continue d relationship with d dude! We await ur chtonicles
My dears, help me. Same story but married to him. Presently hasn't talked to me for a week bc he told me to do something and I ddnt do it quickly. I was very tired. And I don't beg him when he is like that bc it's hard to understand. Please advise.
Delete@poster 1: End time boo
ReplyDelete@poster 2: End time situationships
Shuuuuu?
DeleteEnd time bae
DeleteEnd time relationship
@ Trillion easy on this end time thing.
One trillion
DeleteYou know what?
I understand
Too many emotionally unstable
And sadly selfish folks out there walking round looking normal but little by little the internal mess seeps out
Poster two, sleep with both of them and u will make a quick n sane decision.
ReplyDeleteLol
Poster one if u can't stay, quit.
Ewo!!!!!!!!!
DeleteLe kwa ha!!!!!!
Ndi Akuna-okwu
Exactly.Have anal sex with thee both of them and then stick with the one who does it better.Thank me later
DeleteTara
DeleteNonsense advice
Biko why is it that men of nowadays seem to have the same problem? The women of nowadays read chronicles and don't find anything meaningful out of it?These two chronicles are the same person shout get out, to he'll with u, all no be crase dey worry them? Yet u r forming not giving up on ppl so easily.This is why chronicle of mad husbands never end.Una ekare oo
ReplyDeleteLmao @ forming not giving up, I tire oh. Poster 2, I think u shud take a break and ask urself what u want,, if twas me I wud take a walk. Pple don't change easily oh, Your dad already told u it isn't by force.
DeleteEhen poster 1, u sef stop begging him and making his head swell, o gini di? He knows you'll always say Sorry even when you're not wrong. Abeg
DeletePoster 2, try to convey your feelings to him. Have a heart to heart talk with him, makes things better. Some guys are just not into romance but rship is all about compromise. Since it means alot to you, he might listen and change a lil.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, keep forgiving until the new guy gets himself a girlfriend inu?
Poster 1: quarrel with him too. Show him that u can quarrel too. Simple!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: madam, it's not working btw you and the guy so leave him. You've given it a try and its not working. Simple
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteContinue dating him if he is rich biko...
My man is not romantic but he is the best thing that has ever happend to me...
Since he dosent beat you and all that,keep loving him jare....
Poster 2,
Hian...
See how you are stressing yourself with an ordinary boyfriend...
Abeg dump this nigga!...
And u forget to add dat ur Oga has mouth odour n yet u don't currr. Hehehe. I luv Queen oooh
DeletePoster one I tink ur going out with my ex. Lol. Talk to him about d malice aspect nd see if he wld change.
ReplyDeleteD romantic aspect my fiance is like that , I know he loves me deeply bt he kals me by my name, dosent know hw to be all lovey dovey bt ve come to terms with that. As least hes wonderful.in all.other aspects.
Poster 2 . Mmmh nne is dat same anger dey wld use to beat u black nd blue. Nd still beg. Just give urself space from both of them, take time to urself so u dnt cloud ur judgement.
Your ex seem to be my ex too.. lol sicko guys... getting angry for no reason and wants you to fix it all by yourself..
DeleteChronicles of lover girls abi chronicle of loveth them ,stella red ink have finished ,
ReplyDeleteMy martini russo on ice let me read comments
Brb to read.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, l guess you are hoping for a miracle to make him change.And this is just the "honeymoon" period.
ReplyDeleteU women are all the same. U will see fire and jump inside. Due ur desperation and low self esteem.
I will be waiting for ur Chronicle in d future,about : my husband doesn't make love to me.He keep malice for months.he querell over nothing. Bla bla bla
Mm u try oo...lol waiting for future chronicles
DeleteMoney maker you just described my home. Poster 1 pls quit that relationship. I am begging you as a friend and sister. You will see hell and shake hands with the devil constantly if u decide to continue. It will be worse if you marry that guy. You can't change him, he will change when he realizes he has a bad behavior.
DeleteDear poster one, this is my chronicle. I am 35yyears old with 2 cute kids, a good job and loving parents. My hubby beat d living day light out of me while we dated, I still stayed, married him. Thru all my pregnancies he has beaten me. Just last week because I came back late from work (bank) he beat me. Called me names b4 my neighbours. Only God knew how I felt. Told me I shd get d hell out of his home. I will my dear but not so soon. At my age I receive beating from a hubby who shares my bossom and I his loins. Tufia! Please leave dt bipolar vermin. It's only a matter of time b4 he hits u. He seems mentally unstable. Leave while u can. I am leaving him. Searching for a divorce lawyer asap.
DeleteIncreased drug use over time (even recreationally)
DeletePornography
Abuse in diverse forms
Lack of quality father figures
Ignorance of the importance of raising GODLY children
END TIME (24hours &overtime work by Satan to kill , steal and destroy lives and destinies )
Has ensured that generations of men now and sadly in the future don't , can't or may not be able to comprehend what a good man should be
Baby mamas ignorantly contributing to the moral mess by cheating their children of the opportunity to learn from genuinely good father figures
Women need to know and prayerfully carefully select a man who will be good to them and their children now and in the future
Quality sex is a bonus not a number 1 yardstick because it beclouds sight
the poster who hasn't slept with the boyfriend can more easily disengage herself and walk away than if the man beats , harasses the woman but is "wonderful in bed"
Sex is not food
Male /Female close your legs
Signs of the Endtime
correspond with 2Tim3:1-5
P2
ReplyDeleteThey don't force love!...maybe u should read again what d bible described love as.abeg don't bother ooh a broken relationship is beta Dan marriage. Dis 1 will break ur neck one day cos it's obvious his village witches r working overtime on his matter.
P1
My dear ur case no nid jamb qstns. If he starts his african magic try ignoring him too for days n weeks if possible. Press pause on d am always begging n getting to look uche face. Na u de encourage dat rubbish.
Make una receive sense mbok!
No 1. There is compatability issues starring at you. Nevertheless, talk about your concern with him - from a friendly point please.
ReplyDeleteNo. 2. Make up your mind. It's in your court.
Read this Incredible Story Now! I Should Be Dead By Now
Lol poster 2 are u show ur boo doesnt have some form of kolomental, this one d dad is even helping him find a gf. Hmmm
ReplyDeleteTo be honest I ve left a guy for another and I regretted it,not because I wanted d 1st one back but cos it affected d new one.
He didn't want to give it his all cos he felt I ll just Liv him once a better option dangles in front of me n babe u don't want that.
You are not happy right, end the relationship but don't date d other guy.
Even if u must date him,give it time so he doesn't feel u left d other becos of him.
Poster 1 sorry o,malice keeper boo is d worst lol, ur self esteem is gradually going down d drain cos u ll soon be so used to apologizing n begging, since u don't want to dump him,
U have to woman up,
Bring ur malice keeping A game n ignore him too no matter how difficult it might be.
If u can't keep Urself from calling him,delete his no till he calls then u save it back.
When he sees that u have pride too he ll have to decide if d relationship is worth fighting for.
Whatever happens, its better u take a stand now than regret later
You just made sense for the first time, keep eating whatever you ate today
DeleteDelete his number until he calls.. thats exactly what I do too. . Altho when I call a number regularly it sticks.. and if I really wannna recall it I just have to think.. but I can be so lazy.. I dont even av the strength to think..
DeleteVery good advice for Poster 1&2
Deletenarrative 1 nd 2.... Okay.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2: Your boyfriend is on drugs; the sign you described are too obvious to be ignored! Congrats for closing you legs and please keep closing it. It will be so easy to let go that guy; that was why a lot of girls left but he would lie about it. Do not marry because of parental pressure and sympathy. If you marry that guy with "fits of rage", he will beat you to death when the time is ripe. Keep your legs closed and watch and pray concerning the "new guy".
ReplyDeleteHe may not be on drugs, well except drugs for medical condition. He may be bipolar
Deleteposter 2 don't fool yourself.....that guy is violent and they always blame others for their bad ass behavior.....run run run and don't look back...end the relationship but please do it in an open place i.e at a restaurant, eatery etc so even if he gets angry he wont beat you.....do not let your parents bully you into remaining in that relationship.....run fast NOW
ReplyDeletePoster2 u are in a situation-ship not relationship
ReplyDeletePoster one I hate men who keep malice!! I don't so I can't date a guy who's doing it. Fine he's not romantic. He shows u he cares with actions but the malice part???!!! Nah!! Imagin what will happen if u guys marry. Then ur kids will grow up with that
ReplyDeletePoster two forget that ur bf. You sound like you complain a lot though. Or maybe I'm wrong. But yea forget the guy. Soon he'll start hitting. He shouts on you for no reason, soon he will be hitting you for no reason.
Smh men wahala.... I have my own too sef
Me too. I honestly can't stand people who keep malice cos I don't know how to.
DeleteSee the kind of nonsense guys some girls are putting up with and we wonder whwhy chronicles would never end .
I can see that posters 1 and 2 don't like themselves.
Poster 1... you dont want to LEAVE HIM. MANAGE HIM. my mind na fuel i mind dey so. who know where they dont queue to buy fuel oooo.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2... This is like coming to American film. Go with your flame ooo
@Poster 2: Your boyfriend is on drugs; the sign you described are too obvious to be ignored! If you have worked in counselling people, you will know them from miles off. Congrats for closing you legs and please keep closing it. It will be so easy to let go that guy; that was why a lot of girls left but he would lie about it. Do not marry because of parental pressure and sympathy. If you marry that guy with "fits of rage", he will beat you to death when the time is ripe. Keep your legs closed and watch and pray concerning the "new guy".
ReplyDeleteI'm very optimistic that you'd be able to move on and find closure since you haven't opened legs.
Poster 2... the grass is not always greener on the other side. Abeg fuck the 2guys, make u know the one wey sweet pass, then choose that one
ReplyDeleteEwu Sudan!
DeletePoster one:
ReplyDeleteYou dey dull o.
Since you love this guy, why don't you try giving him a dose of his medicine.
Pick a fight with him intentionally, then ignore him for a week.
It won't be easy as you're not that kind of person, but it's not impossible.
If he loves you too, it's enough to reset his brain and will be an opportunity for him to understand that his actions are really hurtful.
Untop of the fact that he's unromantic, he still keeps malice like a teenage girl.
Not like after the drama, he'll cuddle up to do and apologise sweetly.
Mtchewww
Poster two :
Incognito? Afi CIA agent naaa....lol
What kind of psychotic guy are you dating?
Little wonder he couldn't keep a girl, and needed dear daddy's help.
Good gf indeed!
In my opinion, find your way out of his life.
He's an aggressive, uncouth and violent time bomb, waiting to explode.
Abi you wan give am hundred second chances?
Just keep away from both of them first, that's if you really like this other guy.
Make sure he's what you really want, to avoid jumping from frying pan to fire.
Some guys know how to act all saintly to make a girl drawn to them.
Just make sure he's not one of them.
Matters of the heart though.
* smh *
#WhiteDiamondOut
To you*
Delete#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 1....I could have sworn I wrote that chronicle. He is so unromantic to the soul. The only time he calls me endearing names is when we are in public. He has successfully driven all of my friends both males and females, gets angry over every petty thing and does the malice thing proficiently. Money isn't truly everything because I don tire.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, your problem is a combination of both narratives. You better leave before it's too late
DeleteYou have described my husband to the T. I regret having a long distance relationship because if I had spent more time with him I would never have married him. Now we have a son and as much as I want to leave sometimes I have too much to consider. I know if push comes to shove I might just leave eventually. I am a shadow of myself in this marriage. He's only happy when I'm cut off from everyone, all my friends are kept far, and if I even do anything nice for an outsider then it's as if I'm taking out of the nice things I should be doing only for him. Then the shouting starts and malice will follow for the next one week. Chai I've suffered . To think that he recently went back to get his masters and I'm the one paying all our bills, you'll think he will see my efforts and calm down but no, until I give my blood then it's not good enough. Abeg poster 1, count your teeth with your tongue and run. They never get better, it only gets worse.
DeleteI'm even more pained because I wasn't in a hurry to get married, I fell for him and when he proposed I was like why not. Abeg, enough of my stories, maybe na me go send chronicles next. God dey.
You are not alone BV sister. Am in similar situation
DeleteFather thank you! I left that relationship. @Morayo I can relate to the part that your blood isn't enough to make him happy. Jeez! Women are going through a lot. So sorry to hear about your situation.
DeleteBoth of you need to get out of that relationship and move on... second poster; I wonder what you are waiting for. .. till he beats u or what?
ReplyDeleteFirst poster- i can't deal with guys that holds grudge.... its too annoying and how long are you planning to continue apologising for
Poster 1: Have you tried teaching him to be romantic? Tell him thats what you need the most from him & see if he adjusts. Maybe he doesnt know how to be romantic & has never been told.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: This guy will not change. Did u say he hit something on the wall?! The next time might be you he'll hit on d wall. He has a short temper obviously. When it comes to matters of the heart, think of yourself first.
Thanks
Hmmmmmmm!!!!!!!All will be well.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, if there was one thing i hate is malice...Pray for him,love conquers much..
ReplyDeleteLol... maybe malice is his own way of COOLING OFF..
Poster 2..... there is this Saturday laugh pics that read. I don't tell niggas my type anymore because that is what they would transform into for 6 months tops.......... then afterwards you.see Lucifer.
The guy u claim yo like might just be acting. You tell him your bf does this,he trys as much as he could not to do it. He begins to seem perfect to you n soon you are in love..
Am speaking from experience.
Just be careful... if there was one thing i know is dont jump from relationship to relationship..it is not cool.
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Thx...u hv given d best advice. The grass is greener on d oda side wen u stop watering urs!
DeleteAgreed!
DeleteHis anger problem is sending good girls away from him, let parents enroll him for anger manGement course then good girl will stay.
ReplyDeleteDon't be a victim walk while it's easier
Plus what pastors and mothers will cause ehh they no go fit handle, seeing a pit and pushing people into it
My dear! Pastors and fanily members matchmaking since 1900!!
DeleteEvery body that has come to match make me with their sons through my parents, I send them back politely. If your son is so amazing he should be married or engaged or even making the move himself as sharp guy who knows what he wants. Hian! The annoying one is one 42 year old family friend that drives one shocking electric water colorish blue 2000 camry and acts like a sad monk (apologies to all who may find that offensive) now came and met my parents that he has been eyeing me. For the first time my parents stood by me. And told him point blank to go nd find his mate. Person wey sabi me since I be small pikin, say he has always loved me. My mother asked him if he has been waiting for me over 20 years abi he is using baby eye to look at me and doesn't see that we aren't on the same level AT ALL. Lol. My dad told him point blank : My friend stop this joke.
when I came back home and my siblings told me I told them that my parents did the right thing cos if I met him in that house saying that nonsense, what I would have told him would be worse.
After bringing 3 women to claim he is getting married soon, he finally realised he has fallen in love with me. E no wan talk wetin chase all of them away. Mscheew! Still carry bible quote on top. Rabbesh!
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DeleteChikito be cracking me up LMAO
Hello Stella, my first time commenting on your blog.
ReplyDeleteThe first story: I would like to encourage the lady to give her man some space, he seems a tab bit immature and emotionally controlling; keeping malice like that. If left unchecked, it could escalate into real emotional abuse which then links to psychological abuse. Abuse is not only physical you know. Give him space, tell him that you are there for him and love him but the emotional torture is unbearable, etc etc.. All the best.
The second story almost left me speechless, especially the shouting at her and the mom and pastor part. Leave that boy alone; yes he is a boy, free him full stop.
First time commenting?
DeleteCongratulations! You are now a bona-fide Member of BVs
You've said it all.
DeleteOnly if they will hear
DeleteHmmmmmmn POSTER 2
ReplyDeleteAre you sure the reason his dad had to look for a gf for him is not because of this his attitude?
Are you sure he is mentally stable? I feel he is someone with a lot of skoin skoin.. A guy that shouts at you and curses you at will is not someone you should force yourself on.. I personally cannot take it. I think you should give this second guy a chance and gradually fade away from this your present bf's life (You know the way guys usually do). Reduce your call, affection, attention gradually till it all fades away. Cause if you break up now, his whole family, pastor, your family etc go dey beg you and they are not in the relationship with you o.. If you say the second guy is all he is, then give him a chance na.
POSTER 1
What exactly do you want? He keeps malice with you at will and you have to apologise even when he is at fault...so if you do not apologise he refuses to talk to you forever until you talk to him first...Please where is the love? You dey use yourself beg am ni? People like that are just manipulators and bullies. .. If that is what you want to live with for the rest of your life then by all means...Y not?....I don't know what you want us to tell you that will change him o...a bit you want us to tell you stuffs like pray for him, love him more, always be the bigger person...story...your eyes are clear now, better make the right choice before you turn to chronicle customer..
Poster 1 are you sure its not my husband that you are talking about? the man dey keep malice for Africa! does he stay in abuja and does he have a 7 letter name starting with C and ending with S? if he is the one then know say my prayer against all you side chics don dey work better find another man to avoid stories that touch cos this your chronicle make me dey suspect say na my hubby. He's been acting really weird lately then all of a sudden last night he came back a different person and we even had very raunchy sex! which has not happened in a week. Back to the poster if its not my hubby you are talking about then I'd advice you to pretend you don't even know he is keeping malice with you, talk to him like nothing happened it will make him feel silly and when he starts talking and feels like the issue is forgotten then gently bring back the issue and try to resolve it in a calm manner. Works all the time with DH. Stella make i no find this comment o cos it took me time to type with my fixed nails.
ReplyDeleteIs your Husband's name Collins???
DeleteThe one that drives a red Camry? That man has been on my neck since May this year. Don't waste your time praying against any side chick. Just come and carry your husband. I no want! If I must chop frog (i.e date a married man), atleast lemme eat a fat one like Dangote or Daura Dullard
Member of BV. I never knew you ate ds funny. Henceforth I will look out for your comments. Tuale!
DeleteMBV I don laff tire so tey my Belle don pain me. Haaaaaaaaa! SDK BVS o! I don well by force
DeleteLmao@ member of BV. Make them dey pray for side chics when they go an marry men with wandering penis. My dear, pray all u want. If u marry ashawo, you don enter be that. The side chics would be running you people will be praying and your husband would still be chasing them. Heheh
DeleteLove you MBV! Perfect answer. I hope it's the same loser. Instead of u women to make better choices & pray for ur husbands to keep their eyes on only you, u are there praying against side chics. Nobody wants ur raggedy men please!! They will chase girls so desperately and the sharper babes will chop & clean mouth. Be acting like u are married to correct men. *hiss* I'm pissed.
DeleteI'm hear to read comments, I realized recently that i'm not qualified to give advices for now .
ReplyDeleteYour ink comments made me laugh.
Poster 2: if you are not happy where you are.
ReplyDeleteMove....... You are not a tree.
@poster1 : all men are not romantic!
ReplyDeleteThe important thing is that he is taking good care of you n always there when you need him.
@poster2 : your chronicle is too long, learn to summarise!
I don't know where you pick your own men from tho for you to say men are not romantic my husband is and I know most men I've met are romantic pls pray you meet the right one.
DeletePoster 2= If he has rage dat comes out d smallest issues one day he will hurt you for no reason, walk away for ur sanity nd if u happen to find love with ur new friend take ur time before going into a new relationship, just be friends with him and watch how he turns out truely....Guide ur heart i
ReplyDeletePoster1= Ur bf is doing d malice to make u feel indebted for his love, threaten to kick him away n he will stop d sillyness
ReplyDeleteI can't escape this life that I'm living
I'm in the mix I'm in love with two women
That's word to moms
I got two honeys on my arms and I don't want to let none of them go
Is it even possible to live 2 people at the same time? Equally?!
DeleteNo 1 did. He remember ya birthday? If he forgot run from him
ReplyDeleteHear! Hear!! People like you are the reason why men refer to Ladies as having FISH BRAIN ( Ubulu AZU)
DeleteSo if he remembers her birthday and frustrates life out of her, she should stay abi?
Bwuhahahhahahahahhaha
Stella pls go nd refill ur ink
ReplyDeletePoster 1 and 2:u re so confuse dat u dont no wat u want pls u two shld grow ur bf re childish
Poster 2,u are a confused fellow.
ReplyDeleteWhy are telling us that u never gave them ur something to colabo?
But can you swear that other men something never enter deep inside many many times b4?
Shut up
DeleteSHUT UP
SHUT THE H**L UP!!
Anu ofia
Poster 2, RUN
ReplyDeleteRUN
Continue RUNNING
RUN
Please don't stop RUNNING
Your BF is a time bomb waiting to explode
She una dey cee una life; Stella pen ma don tire for una tori, sotee all the beta pen don pack up. Una no dey hear word. Upon all the sorry stories wey una dey read here daily, una go still bring already treated case wrapped in a new wrapper. Una well done o, confused & desperated ladies in d house. Namsense!
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella abeg dem dey sell red pen for market na
ReplyDeleteP1... That guy is very immature!! I can't live with someone that keeps malice, it irritates the shit out of me.. Ur offended?? Say it as it is and move on!!
ReplyDeleteP2... Babe all that matters is ur happiness. Do what makes u happy babe. Don't waste ur time trying to make an unwilling person change. He obviously has a problem controlling his temper. It starts from yelling angrily, to throwing things and then hitting... Do what makes you happy, you've got just one life!!
Poster one ...I wish I can advice u face to face.cos I can imagine wat u feel I r going thru.pls knw it that a perfect person is not real and a real person is not perfect.definately there must be a way out of the situation try not to use harsh words on him when u guys talk example.instead of saying you are lieing you can say u knw u r not saying the truth that is using the right choice of words.also pray abt it cos every locked door has a key.try to listen more when u pple talk so that way u will learn more abt him.am tempted to say u hv little or no problem.thanks
ReplyDeleteWill read comments both the good, the bad and ugly
ReplyDeletePoster 2 biko go back to Rita Dominic post, it's 4 u..
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Continue running untill you meet Jesus
ReplyDeleteREAD HOW I MET HIM, LOL
So stella cos she asked for your red,blue,or green pen,u just kukuma bring pink come out,hian.
DeletePoster. 2- see your boyfriend has. Anger issues and that's why the father asked for help.
Poster 2: Leave the first guy and also stop telling the second one u're in love with stuffs about your first bf. Come on babe, use ur no 6. When u start complaining abt ur first guy to him, don't u think he would wanna use that to work on himself just to win u over?
ReplyDeletePoster1,u both are not compatible,Malice is an emotional abuse nd can also lead to physical abuse,dis r signs alrdy if u are feeling lik dis before marriage when u are in it Ehn u wil bring more chronicles here cos ur life wil crumble,av a tok with him,no changes my dear run for ur life,u nid ur happiness,take ur stand now else u wil regret it. Poster2: take a walk from Dt relationship don't let ur parent put u in trouble of ur life,anger is nt a thing 2 endure run b4 he wil start hitting u nd don't date d oda guy now,cos he's only good 2 u now cos of d issues with ur bf,he acting lik a saint cos he wants u.tak a Lil break stil,den start dating again wit ur legs closed ur own rightful man wil com.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, is the guy Igbo? They usually have bad temper and can keep malice for Africa, I don't know Yoruba guys to do that.
ReplyDeleteOne Igbo guy I dated for a couple of mnths, every argument we have. he will keep malice with me, nothing less than 1mth. I will call he wont pick, I will bb, read no response. He continued like dat always waiting for me to beg.
The last one I said enuf is enuf. he didn't talk to me almost 2mths, by then iv met smone else. He now came back, waiting for apology as usual, saying I need to understand him.
I just said thank you boo,but I have another boo.
I cant take all dat emotional torture abeg.
My dear pls move on to someone else.
I can swear this guy na Igbo guy, I don go back to my tribe abeg.
Anon 16:25,the guy is yoruba.
DeleteDo not mind anon 16:25. Hian! Just because you dated one igbo guy with issues, so all igbo men should bear the brunt your myopic views?Pls grow up!
DeleteHow is this a function of tribe? Abeg shift! Poster don't mind her. Don't judge anyone by tribe.
DeleteWhoz dis 1?
DeleteMy ex was n is yoruba ondo 4dat matter.I never see who beat am to kip malice 4 d world. If I hear say I beg..ogun kii u der. Tribalistic sombori
My ex Is from edo. Can keep malice over the most insignificant issue. Has nothing to do with tribe
Delete@poster 1 he loves drama huh? Well give him drama. Act and behave d way he does. He gets angry over notin, you try and get angry over notin too, if he keeps malice, keep malice with him too.he will notice sometin Is wrong and he will adjust. @poster 2 biko leave dat guy coz very soon some blows and hard punches will come. We won't be there to console u wen it happens. Ur happiness is paramount.
ReplyDeleteThank u! Give him drama. Lol
DeleteP1, that's just his personality, his ego level is raised to power million. There are people like that, unromantic but very nice. They see themselves as this *I am the man* kind of thing and pet ferl pet bames or proffessing love always is not a sign of comittment especially the igbos and edo, but absolutely means no harm. If you love him you have to flow with him like that. P2, that guy will hit you one day and apologise, then upgrade ti inflicting injuried. This is how babes see the tell signs and still enter into it like that just for the man to become worse and you start stories that touch the bones. You have seen it all, please leave the first guy alone
ReplyDeletePoster 1 and 2: Get this into your respective skulls you CANNOT change a FULL-GROWN adult. if you cannot tolerate his character/condone him, exit the relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, yours is definitely worse, he has temper issues. He's only deceiving you with the fact that he was not like that with his ex-girlfriends. Once he marries you, he will turn you to a punching bag MARK MY WORDS. If you like follow you Mom and Pastor's unrealistic advice, you are the one who wears the shoes.
Anyways, I do not know tomorrow, do you?
Poster 1: that guy is toxic. It's your choice to either stay with a toxic person or pack your load and RUN!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: you know what you want so stop looking for validation. If we have to make a decision for you in this case then you shouldn't be dating in the first place
P1, your relationship must not be thesame as your friend's one. Not everybody is romantic. If you love him, continue but if you know you can't deal, retrace your steps. The only one I'm not sure of is that malice thing. Why should a mam keep malice sef? Last word, if the fight get physical, fly away.
ReplyDeleteP2, a father is looking for a girlfriend for his matured son and you and your family think you are perfect for him. I hope when his push become slap, they will be there to put cold compress on your face o. He obviously does not love you but can not disagree with his dad hence he decided to play along and frustrate you to a point that you will open your mouth to say you don't want him anymore.
Poster 1: Ignore him or learn to start paying him back in his own coin
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Thats how it starts. Next step na slap, then he'll graduate to punches. Mayb your eye will clear soon
Poster1 u are dating a matured baby boy. Pray for him
ReplyDeletePoster2. Pray to God to take away his anger or u follow ur instinct or better still ask The Holy Spirit for directions.
Sweet heart poster 1 one of the proof that a man loves you is for him to always bow and take the fall even when it's clearly your fault. Having som1 you have to beg all the time is no beans and keeps malice for Africa my dear by now you should know how emotionally draining malice keeping can be. It won't be easy it's not a good place to be if you find yourself in be wise. Poster2 that relationship is not looking good. He appears to be the violent type. I'd suggest you walk cos 90% he might get worse
ReplyDeleteTell her oh! @ advice to poster 1
DeleteAll these small children Chronicles dey vex me. Poster 2, face your books. Poster 1 Do whatever you want.
ReplyDeletePoster one,,,
ReplyDeleteIs only those ladies who are so boring to stay with can notice a man
who are not romantics,cos any woman who are romantics and active in character have a free
mind and reasoning with an open heart without what she may gains alone
can move a man head to his romantics levels and the man will flyover into the romantics
world,,
Poster 2,,
your problems are ur problem cos you are the problemss here,,
when ever a woman has 2guys in mind is always like that,,you love money and he gave u gifts but the other guy dont have any money or gifts for you but he makes you
happy,,and you never mention the reasons your boyfriend is shouting at you here,,
or are you dating a mad man?who always shout at every body in the street?when you
have used your own self to divide ur heart and coming here to seek help?
ask your self this question,,,what do you really want in a relationship with a man?
from swiss
I remember one lady i dated who dont know how to cook,,,she dont know how to
ReplyDeletekeep a house clean,,she is not even good in bed,she can demand alots of money
from me,she dont like me with friends and always boring to having a chat with
and can eat and finish the food i cook,still she told me one day on phone that i am not romantis
Hahahhahahahaha dis cracked me up
DeleteShe was just dere eating all ur food and demanding loads of money...she no be better person...lolz
Work on ur grammar though...it's a turn on for most ladies.
I remember one lady i dated who dont know how to cook,,,she dont know how to
ReplyDeletekeep a house clean,,she is not even good in bed,she can demand alots of money
from me,she dont like me with friends and always boring to having a chat with
and can eat and finish the food i cook,still she told me one day on phone that i am not romantis
1 and 2- if you cannot stand them, walk. Bf this gf that. Chronicles ndea sef
ReplyDeletePoster one... Why do I feel like you're reading out my story? Everything is exact except the age. Only that I dumped his silly ass early last year, can't deal with so much drama. Or could it be same guy? Though mine was 31, abi did he lie about his age? Abeg drop that guy like a bad habit
ReplyDeletePoster 2!..your BF is mentally unstable. Run! The family know about it.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I like ur openess with ur other bf about the first. Am always like that o! That was the way I was with my hubby and I later married him. Please leave the angry bird and give this other one a try. He looks like a nice one. Its good to be honest so as not to mislead anyone.
ReplyDeleteBe careful so you don't fall into the hands of a smarter crook who learnt from the mistakes of the first one
DeleteBe careful so you don't fall into the hands of a smarter crook who learnt from the mistakes of the first one
DeletePoster 2 pls leave ur boyfriend alone, I c him becoming physically abusive.clearly he's a violent person and no woman shd b in a violent relationship
ReplyDeletePoster 1, dats sounds like my soon to be ex hubby. Though he was kinda romantic. And he's yoruba too.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, there's fire on the mountain(what do u do) RUN RUN RUN RUN
Poster 1, dats sounds like my soon to be ex hubby. Though he was kinda romantic. And he's yoruba too.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, there's fire on the mountain(what do u do) RUN RUN RUN RUN