Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives

Is it right to blow the whistle on a whistleblower?sebi all na the same thing?

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

ENEMIES IN THE FAMILY

Good day my dearest Stella.

 I have an aunt from my mother's side who so much HATES me and why is

this so? its because I don't reveal all the secrets and happenings in

my life to her(God in heaven is my witness). She criticises me to other members of the family,painting me black to my mother's sisters which made them all despise me.

Funny enough,its not as if we(my mothers siblings)communicate as

everyone is on his/her own because I reside in the South-South. I have

faced many ordeals in my life including marrying very late! 

When i was not married,none of them ever called to show love or care and if

you've faced great challenges in life,you learn to stay on your lane because the ant that eats vegetables is inside the vegetable itself.

What made me send this chronicle is that I observed that she was so annoyed I didn't send her my husband's pix before my wedding asking why I behaved like that. All through my wedding day,she and my mother's siblings avoided me like a plague,they never came near me to say congrats or even take a photograph with me. Aren't they supposed to be happy for me considering the fact I even married late and its my joyous day?

She said i am too proud,mind you,when her daughters were celebrating their

birthday,I sent them a gift and I never knew she had me in mind.She never said am rude or disrespectful. Her problem is that am highly secretive about my life as in I don't carry her along! 

This my aunt reported me again to her own siblings aside my mother's siblings so they kind of discuss about me a lot which I later got to know and you won't believe that all those she's reporting me to,we've not seen face to face or communicated in some years. This same aunt reported me to someone @a family gathering in the east and this person revealed everything to me saying my mother's siblings said am too proud! 

I informed my mum about this and she was just crying saying she doesn't know why all her siblings just hate me FOR NO reason. Before all this unfolding events,I went to see a powerful man of God and he said somethings shall unfold in my family,don't know maybe this what he meant.Funny enough,I called this same aunt just today to say hello and I told her I and my hubby will come to

visit her,she said I shouldn't worry. 

They don't  even give me the regard of a married woman.

My question is that:Can this be spiritual? None of my mom's

siblings called me to congratulate me after my wedding,rather,I was the one that did so(the few that came). I also observe that my mom's siblings tell her weird things like better pray for the lost glory of your child,is it that

they take my name somewhere to know the outcome of my life?  Have they

seen something good about my life,hence the hatred? I am not rude or

disrespectful to anyone and I don't have a saucy behaviour-I feel like swearing to God but God is just my witness! 

What do you advise because I want to tell her a piece of my mind tomorrow,I don't want to keep grudges. Thanks

HA!!!...You want to go and tell your piece of mind to someone who says already that you are rude?please use your tongue to count your teeth and face your new life abeg you.from the times we have communicated,i see you as a soft hearted person so i understand why this is getting to you but my dear....Ignore them totally or confront them and face the consequences..I dont know which one is better.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

BLOWING THE WHISTLE ON THE WHISTLEBLOWER DURING A

CONFRONTATION

Hello Stella,hope you are doing great. Thumbs up on your work.
To get to the point. I am (or used to be ) dating a guy who used to be a very good friend of mine. He is not my mate , but we became very good friends when i was a teenager and we told each other every thing. With his other past girlfriends,he told me how he used to meet with other girls while he was still dating. Well,i didn't put that in mind.

I'm against premarital sex,but when we started dating, we started having sex. With so much guilt, i didn't want it to continue so i told him about it and we decided to take a break from the relationship but we still remained close. During this break, i met another guy who was really nice and gentle. 

We went out a couple of times till we kissed one day but the next morning, i started feeling guilty about it (because of THE BF) and cut all ties with the guy. I wanted to tell THE BF about it but i was scared so i went to seek advice from a good friend of mine who was also a friend of his (he was my friend before he became THE BF's  friend ) and he advised me to be honest. When i told THE BF what i had done,he started guilt tripping me and saying he wasnt going to talk to me for a long time. 

I was so remorseful and sad and i told my friend what he had said, he became annoyed and  told me of all the girls THE BF had been sleeping with and how he even kept videos of them stripping, twerking or masturbating for him. Most of these girls i know as his friends and some were just acquaintances of mine. 

He told me how THE BF said he loves me but the other girls are just paroles for him.

I was so disgusted and angry because i only made a little mistake while he had done this huge thing and again we have also had a cheating issue in the past and i forgave him immediately he admitted to it when i confronted him (after some ranting sha). But the issue now is, THE BF doesnt know that i know all these things and he is still acting angry about my little mistake. How do i confront him without involving his friend because he is enjoying himself making me feel bad, but has no idea of what i know.
I know i have my fair share of mistakes here but PLEASE i need your advice on what to do as i am loosing my mind with all these thoughts.
Thanks so much

P.s i choose to remain anonymous please.

There is no way you will make a confrontation without giving away the friend who blew the whistle to you...All i can ask you to do is find out from this friend if he is willing to stand by you and if he wont be angry with you if it comes out that he told you.

You need to deal with this squarely.