Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

BORROWING MONEY

Good day Stella, keep up the good work.  Please I urgently need ur  advice and that of fellow bvs . During the month of July, my elder sister travelled with my mum to buy some goods needed for her shop, she called me that they were stranded and needed cash, and that she had the money just that it was in a micro-finance bank and she couldn't have access to it over there, that she definitely pay back in two days.

 I told her I didn't have money, the only cash I had with me was the money my husband has been saving with me for my business,that my husband will never forgive me if anything goes wrong with that money, she swore to pay back saying she knew how much damage that would do to my marriage. She's into biz and makes so much money from her biz..so I gave her the money, I called her for the money she said the money wasn't available , I begged her even crying on the phone,she stopped taking my calls, i called my mum she said I should stop disturbing my sister that why will my husband chase me away because of money that am I a house help then she dropped the call.. few weeks ago I had to tell my husband and out of anger he told me to leave and go get the money back, I called my parents and they said I should come back then. By God's grace I and hubby settled. 

Till today none of them have bothered to reach me and she hasn't paid me that money..my husband is so pissed with my family.. please I need suggestions  on how to get my money back, because its obvious they don't care about me or my marriage.. ‎ please keep me anonymous 

This is so annoying..what do i say?Just be careful in trying to get the money back cos it might result in physical altercation or even worse.I dont know how to collect igbese,i just walk away when any drama of paying back starts.Maybe someone else can advise you better.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

WHEN A MAN WANTS TO BREAK UP....

Hi Stels,

I am have a problem which i feel can be solved without emotions attached by our able bvs. This is because i am seriously confused and don't know who to talk to.It is a long story but please bear with me.

I have been in a relationship with a guy for over 6 years now.I am 27 years old.He was my first and we have been dating since i was in 100 level..He introduced me to his family and they accepted me as their own.He has met mine too.He is the complete package (caring,respectful,cheerful giver).

November last year,we agreed to go and see my parents for official introduction.The friday to the weekend we were to go,he received a sack letter from his office for no reason.We were devastated and decided to hold on for a while.I noticed that after that incident he stated drawing away from me.But i just kept my cool and was still trying to keep up with the relationship.

He eventually got a job in march this year in far away south east with better pay and benefit.I was indeed happy cus i felt everything was going to start moving smoothly and the wedding process will begin.But that was when everything started.

His calls to me reduced from calling everyday to calling at times once in 2 weeks.Whenever i call,he gives me attitude,even when i suggest that i come visit he refused bluntly.Citing several excuses that he is broke and doesn't have money.Even when the both of us know that it is a lie.

I summoned courage to go and visit him without him knowing after like 8 months of his exit.When i got to the state i told him i was around and he should come and get me.He was very surprised that i could come at all,a journey of over 13 hours.

When i got there i discovered some female items in the house and i confronted him about it.He told me that he is a human being and has blood flowing in his veins.I was deeply hurt cus i have made several efforts to come over but he kept turning me down.

I decided to brave up and ask him what the  future of our relationship was because i am not getting any younger and am tired of the mixed signals i keep getting.That was when i got the shocker of my life.He said that he was considering breaking up with me and that the girl with him is just a fling and nothing serious.

The main problem is that he noticed that anytime he tries to move the relationship further that something bad happens and he does not want any problems in his life.He said that i should go  and ask my mother about her family and also why is it that my family is not doing well financially.

I cried my eyes out.I was wondering where am i going to start to from.I have been forming faithful girlfriend and if i had not braved up to ask him,he wouldn't have said anything but would still keep giving me hope.I was sad.He refused to believe that it could be a coincidence.

I initiated us having sex,he refused but reluctantly gave in later.When he saw me crying he said that i shouldn't cry anymore.That we should look into next year to see how things will turn out.

Stella, i don't know what to do.I have chased away so many prospective suitors because of this guys.My family is just like the everyday average Nigerian family trying to survive.I have a job am managing, its not as if we are suffering.

I love this guy like crazy.I think about him always.I have been so sad, i cant even concentrate at the office, i don't know what the future holds for me.He did not give me a definite answer.Since i came back from the trip things have been back to normal,He calls to check on me and he was asking me to come and spend another weekend with him.

My fear is that what if something happens again if he decides to proceed with wedding plans.Because he thinks that something is wrong with my family and the funny thing is that he is just 29.How can a 29 year old think like this baffles me.What if after we get married  and something happens.I am scared but i don't have any other option apart from him at the moment.

Please Bv's what can you say about my situation.Stella please your RED ink is needed here.

Thank you.

RED INK IS FINISHED,LET ME READ COMMENTS.....wait,why did he refer to your mothers family in Particular?