Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

My people, na waaah!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
DEFORMITY AND BEING SUCCESSFUL

Thanks Stella for this platform, let me go straight to the point, please hide my identity . I was born with a slight deformity on my toe nails, the last two nails are very small and equal on both legs.

 As a growing child,people always made jest of me and the tribe I come from see those nails as bad luck. Mind you, it doesn't affect the way I walk and by God's grace, I am beautiful. Some people even said I might not get married except the man does not know the meaning of my toes. but my parent always assured me that it was nothIng.

 I graduated from the university at 20,got married at 23. But right now,my life is at a standstill. Nothing is working for me. My marriage has issues,my husband's attitude towards me has changed,he behaves as if he hates me. though I have two kids. I lost my job almost 2years ago and have not been able to Secure another one. I go for aptitude tests and always come out successful but am never called back. I have no kobo to my name to start a business.  I am miserable.  No friends as they are all married and staying in different states. I stay at home in my misery all day everyday. 

 I am depressed.  I don't see suicide as an option but sometimes I wish I could just sleep and never wake up. I am a Christian, I have been praying and still trusting God. But am forced to think back, could it be that there is bad luck behind my legs? I can't even remember the last time something good happened to make me smile, but am grateful for the gift of life. Please help me share, is there anyone with my kind of toes that is successful in anything? My heart is heavy due to these events of the past years ,I can only hope for a divine intervention.  Thanks for your time.

What are you talking about?my dear your negative attitude towards life is also affecting you,I see people here with the kinda feet you just described and they are successful and happy go kinda people...now let me tell you something.I went to high school with a girl who picked up one of her leg to walk,the leg was dead and lifeless but you need to see her today.

get yourself out of that negative skin and begin to preach positive.

RIGHT NOW!...some people dont have legs and you are there complaining about toes?hisss!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

COMPLICATED HUSBAND

Thank you Stella for the good work you are doing through your blog. My name is ********** I am an ardent your blog but comment most times under anonymous ( please hide my name and email address).

Now to the reason I am writing to you. I got married four years ago to my husband. For these four years I have never been happy in my marriage. My husband lied to me about so many things which I later discovered.

The year before we met he worked as PA to one politician but lost the job before we met . I saw him and fell in love and I told myself that since he is young and educated we could build our home together . 

One year into the marriage I found out he dropped out of school and didn't have a certificate ; I found out because I kept disturbing him to get a job. We were feeding from hand to mouth cos I had no job then myself. As this was going on I could not get pregnant and I became more worried, we later went to the hospital and he was diagnosed with a very low sperm count.

 I have severally dragged him to the hospital for treatment but he stops when and where I stop. He prefers to take herbal medicine which is not helping.

He is doing nothing to find a job or even to start a business which I even promised to borrow money so as to support him in any business of his choice . He hasn't showed interest in doing business.
At the moment we feed and do other things from the little salary that I get; I buy my clothes, and other things all by myself  and it doesn't bother him.

He keeps late night and sleeps outside the house sometimes without tangible reason; he may just attend a burial and would not return home that day . Sometime ago I snooped on his phone and and found out on Whatsapp different girls that he was  begging to love and for them to love him back. From the message  he gives some of them money to make their hair. 

In fact one of the girls threatened to arrest him with police for hugging her inappropriately the day they met because according to her she is under age.  He tells the girls he is not married that he wanted to marry but it didn't work out. Some of them send their nude pictures to him. I confronted him and he said he didn't mean any of those things. He simply denied all. (note, I am not ugly and I am a size 12)

As he has no job or business  he continually begs his friends some of them are politicians for money and they dash him money sometimes.  He is not at peace with his brothers and finds fault in everyone.  

Please Stella  my story is very long but I have to stop here. Please I need your advice and that of your blog visitors on what to do in this situation. I have been so worried to the extent of developing HBP at this age; I will be 30 by 28th of this November. Please kindly post this on your blog. 

WTF!!!

I am sorry but with what you have described up there,I would walk away if it was me,if would dust my shoes and leave!...SIMPLE!

You are not me so i dont know what you would do.i cannot deal with this kind of drama that is like a tree with a thousand branches!

For fear of being accused of advising a married woman to leave her marriage,please study your immediate environment and ask yourself what you want..I AM OUT!