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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

WHAT WOULD YOU DO WHEN THE EX MOVES ON WITHOUT TELLING YOU? 

Hello Stellz And BVs.......

Let me cut to chase. Me and my first boyfriend (who deflowered me after 4 years into the relationship) reconnected after a very long time due to lack of communication.

 I'm married with children. 

We never made any attempt at rekindling anything but we were constantly in

touch. We got closer than we were while dating. We discussed freely

but never made time to see.

Let me take you down history a bit, he wanted us to get married but he

wasn't ready when i was and he had trouble letting go then. He kept in touch when i was newly wedded but DH was uncomfortable and told him

so. That was the reason we cut all ties.

Soooo, where were we? 

We became close again. I used to tease him about settling down and all of that. He told me a lot of things. Yeah, I know his darkest secrets, fears, ambitions and more. He's not chatty and finds it difficult to confide in people. So opening up to me is a big deal. We've always had that kinda relationship.

The bone of contention is that..a friend sent me his pre-wedding shots and I was stunned but Of course i was happy that he was finally getting settled. He  married to the lady he dated before me. 

They broke up for a long time..no he didn't cheat on me with her. I'm really burnt because I can't wrap my brain around why he didn't give me a heads-up.

I congratulated him and deleted him off my BBM and WhatsApp. It's ridiculous that i'm hurting, right? But that's exactly how I feel.

None of my anger/emotion is directed at his wife but Why did he find it difficult to inform me?

Dear BVs, is it something you would do? Knowing she's totally over you?? Should i see it as no biggie?

Yeah, don't tell me to "face my home". I've got this. Anticipated

cusses back to sender(s). Over to the brainy ones.

HUH?

Abeg Forget the man and ''face your home''.

Good that you took him off your chat applications,now he can face his wife.He probably didnt tell you cos he didnt want you to know....and if he didnt want you to know,might mean he wasnt as close to you as you thought.........and oh,all those deepest secrets might not be secrets at all.LOL

Abeg get over it jor.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

THE CONFRONTATION AND THE BEST WAY TO GO ABOUT IT

Hi Stella,I am an ardent reader of your blog and i want to say you are doing a really good job. I need your advice and that of fellow bv's as i would like to remain anonymous.

So there is this guy i've been dating for some months now whom i really really love. the issue here is i recently found out he has a girlfriend somewhere else. i havent confronted him about it yet. 

I started suspecting he was hiding something when she sent him a message and he was hiding it. i have been snooping for a while now and it confirmed he is dating her. The funny thing is he plays it so cool and acts like a saint. He usually gets angry anytime i confront him with the truth so i dont know how to go about it.

And to think that i actually fell in love with him and he is playing with my emotions just makes me sick. A part of me is just telling me he is only with me for the cookie *FYI I havent given it to him yet*.

 I dont know if he is doing it because he knows am in love with him but now when i look at him and i remember he is playing me i just want to punish him. 

Please Stella and other bv's who have been in this kind of situation i need your advice. 

please use your red pen.

Well,there are two things here..It is either you are the main chick or the side chick and whether he gets angry hearing the truth or not a confrontation is Unavoidable BECOS YOU HAVE SNOOPED.

*side eyes at #Teamsnoop*

All the best and let us know how it goes honey!