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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

Help -  Controlling And Vain Boo!

Dear Stella, thank you for this platform. I am sending this so I can get an all encompassing advice that will enable me make the right decision. Please matured men and ladies with experience help me out....

My boo is a fantastic person, he can do anything for me. He makes me a priority in his life. He is independent, ambitious and self driven. He cooks for me (even late at night), does my laundry, fixes my car, buys fuel etc. He is not too buoyant but he can pay small bills and can spend for me to look good.

We are dating because we want to get married next year. Well I sent this in because we’ve been having some issues lately, we almost mutually broke up but somehow we both feel we share some common values hence we can work things out. People say relationship is hard work. But this hard work ehn! 

The issue I have with him is that he has high expectations of me.  My major concern is that he has an idea of how his girl should like. He wants me to pay extreme attention to my looks. He wants my brow to be nicely carved like the NIKE logo. He wants me to look hotter than his female friends. 

He loves me wearing foundation, liquid eyeliner and mascara every day, recently he asked if I wouldn’t mind wearing contact lens that he will pay for me to get one(Blue). He also wants me to wear a particular kind of hairstyle, bodycon dress, jeans and sporty shoes. Some days ago he showed me a picture of a lady with a smooth facial skin and wants me to work at getting that skin texture. Also showed me a hairstyle he loved on a lady made with Funmi extension and offered to pay for me to wear that.

He wants me to be extremely polished and act like I’m from a British royal family. The way I carry myself, the way I sit down, the way I talk should speak “class”.  I think he has a crush on Khloe Kardashian, oh yes! He keeps up with the Kardashians. Chinwetalu Agu will say ASAMPATA!

He likes big butts and boobs. It freaks him a lot. He objects to me losing weight if it’s going to affect the size of my butt. He likes my Idi araba as he fondly calls it. 

Another issue I have is that he is always making emphasis with his ex. How he lived his life for her because she was a “YES” woman. How much she was responsive to him and he changed her life for good. Although she is married now, but whenever he is talking he makes reference to her. I asked why he didn’t marry her if she was all that, he said she took the love for granted and started disrespecting him. Recently she sent him a ping and said she misses him.  I Just Negodu!

My challenge now is that, are these issues critical enough for me to do away with someone who makes me a priority in his life? I keep asking myself if I will be able to keep up with his standards later in life. Even though I’m making effort to look extremely good now, I’m going to get pregnant someday. I might not be able to look so good all the time, I don’t know what my sensitivities will be when I’m pregnant. 

Will he be able to cope? Also when I’m pregnant will he be able to stay away from sex, since he is a sexually active person? Although at the moment there is no trace of him cheating, he leaves his phone with me but I don’t snoop.

I know some people will say after all I listed I have no business being with him but he is a rare being. You don’t always get a man who can love you selflessly. I spoke to him about all these and he said he can only be one man to one woman and that woman has to be on point. He can’t manage anything less.

These are the major concerns on my mind, hindering me from being wholly committed, which is making him furious. Please mature minds kindly advice.

Thank you. 

I pray God will use someone here to open my eyes to what I am not seeing.

Thank you Stells for posting.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO.

NOVICE IN RELATIONSHIP MATTERS NEEDS ADVICE.

Hello Stella, thanks for the great job and work that you are

doing, touching people lives positively. I have been an ardent fan of

your blog.  I am a girl of 23 years old. I have this guy who we have

dated for more than a year, at first when the relationship started, he

was caring and loving but along the line, he started forming busy, he

rarely calls, visits or text me. Even when I try to reach him, he

sounds cold telling me that he is busy, sometimes he would promise me

that he would come and see me or call back only for him not to call

back or even keep to our date. 

I would even go to his house unaware but when I reach he would start behaving somehow. All this issues started when he joined a pentecostal church

 (HOUSE ON THE ROCK). 

I complained to his friends but they also said that his new behaviour

has affected them as well. He doesn't have time too for them. After

about 3 months I decided to let him be. All this while, there was this

guy I met in Uyo where I travelled to sometime back. This guy has been

disturbing me for months......

 My birthday was just around the corner. I told my boyfriend and this toaster with other people because I wanted to celebrate but My Birthday

reached and my boyfriend didn't attend neither did he call or text me.

Meanwhile all this while this Toaster has been showing me love and

care and to be truthful I have started falling for him. He really

tried for me on my birthday, helped and supported me. 

I decided to give him a chance because I was heartbroken but Right now my boyfriend has been begging me, begging my Friends, and all the people that know me. I am confused.  Stella please I need your red pen and BVS

advice. Please take note that I am a novice in relationship matters.

This is about my third relationship.

YOU NEED MY PEN?
You can have two!

If you are having s3x with this supposed boyfriend,he is probably back for more!
Tie your legs together.....