Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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  NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE.

RELATIONSHIP STATUS - COMPLICATED.

Good day Stella. I read your blog daily and I swear, i am an addict.  Please i will like you to share my story and get advice from bvs. I am currently in a relationship with a man thats 17 years older than I am. I dont mind the age difference,  love is blind they say.

He's a medical Doctor, a surgeon to be precise, he's rich, calm, quiet, he loves me and used to give me anything I ask for, gives me attention and all that.

One day, i read his chat history with his close friend and i saw where he said he plans to pop the question to me after my final exams. I am teamsnoop by the way.

It seemed like all was going well in paradise with him until recently,  he asked for a break up. I was really surprised.  I asked him what I did wrong, he told me I did nothing wrong and i am an awesome person but he wants to focus more on his work and by next year he's leaving Nigeria for good and right now i am a distraction.  He said he can't afford to be in a relationship with me or anyone else because he has a lot of exams to write and he's trying to get his "fellowship".

Before then, I noticed a slight withdrawal from him, started giving me less attention,  telling me hes on call and hes at work or hes too tired to come see me in school. At first I understood until it became an almost everyday thing. Later he changed and started coming to see me, and started giving me attention again and the next thing I heard from him is that He wants a breakup.

His best friend heard about it and went to speak to him, he told his best friend that he loves me but cant be in a relationship with me that I dont fit into his plans and he cant multi task. His friend was so disappointed in him and started avoiding him.

Later, we made up but still, no attention from him. The only time he replies my chat is when he wants to talk about sex or when i am sick. Lately, he has even started ignoring me when i am sick. This is someone that still swears to God that he loves me.

Very recently,  I thought I was pregnant,  I didnt want to tell him till I was sure. I decided to strike a conversation with him since we hadnt spoken for over two weeks, he read them and barely gave me a reply. Then I complained and he said i have started again with my nagging and blocked me.   Stella I swear I dont nag, I only talk when I see something going wrong and I make sure I talk calmly. Then I sent him a text that i am carrying his child even though I wasnt sure, Stella the next thing, he unblocked me and started bombarding my phone with calls and text begging me to forgive him and he didnt know I was pregnant. 

I respect him a lot, he's 17 years older so I dont even shout at him or anything. I did nothing to deserve this cold treatment from him. He's my second, my body count is just 2. The first time i had sex, I was raped and he's the second person. I am so confused with the different signals I get from him.

Is this how it is with all doctors?

Hmmm na wah!..Abeg love not oh by force!..if love is causing you this much stress then give it a break and face your studies!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

LIFE'S WEIRD EXPERIENCE

Dear Stella,

 Thanks for creating this platform for sharing our problems.

I dont know if i am looking for an advice, i just want the SDK family to just share if they've gone through a similar experience like mine.

When i was sixteen, a very popular catholic priest in Lagos started to chase me, there was no one I could confide in, i was young and stupid and i eventually dated him. I did not have sex with him until i was 19, and had gotten into Uni.

My parents stopped sending me money in school due to financial difficulties, he started taking care of my schooling and my upkeep. Then the beating started. This priest will beat me black and blue. He would beat me, and then rape me so many times. Kick me, stand on my head, slap me silly. He is based in Lagos and i had attended Unilag, so i was stuck in the same town with him. I tried to break up with him but he refused. He would go as far as monitoring my account to be sure that no one was giving me money. I was stuck between dropping out of school, doing runs or just sticking with my terrible situation. I told myself the devil i know is better than doing runs. 

He did so many things to me, will beat me up and then force me to sleep with his other priest friend. I'm almost tempted to say their names. If Stella is ok with it, i will include their names in the comment section. I was so miserable and felt like killing myself so many times. I finally found the courage to walk away from him by the grace of God. By God's mercies, i finished school. I'm now 26, and have Just concluded my NYSC. I have prayed to God for forgiveness so many times, i have gone for deliverance and i believe my Merciful God has forgiven me for my mistakes.

I am not a sexual person, after all i went through, i lost interest in sex or intimacy with anyone. I want to know if there is anyone who has gone through this weird experience and if you found fulfillment in life, like love and marriage. Atimes i think about everything I've been through and i wonder if i can ever be really whole again. 

I dont really care about insults, mature comments please.

Thanks Stella,

  regards, Mimi

ABAJO!

Drop names keh?Abeg code your dropping names otherwise my fone will blow up with calls and i cant deal with that right now..

ISI GINI?HIAN!