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Hello BVs and Aunty Stella,

I’m regretting right now. Shakara has killed me. There was this guy I met late last year on Instagram. We started talking when he liked all my pictures and slid into my DM. He actually asked for my Facebook first, and then Skype, before I gave him my number. When we met, he was about rounding up his PhD degree in the UK and plans to come and serve (NYSC) in Nigeria. 

He’s 28 BTW. Aunty Stella, I blame all these wahala on my previous relationships and my evil friend. I’m 23 and I have had 6 boyfriends in the past. None of them seem to be patient, especially, after eating the cookies. So, in my life I have never had any relationship that has gone beyond 4 months. In short, I really haven’t had any serious relationship.  This made me review my life and I promised that if a guy doesn’t toast me for six months or say it at least five times, I would keep saying no even if I like him. I’m regretting this decision now.

I so much know this guy in discussion likes me and means well for me but he has only asked me 3 times in four months. As I was waiting for the complete count, the calls started reducing. The text messages were no longer forthcoming. A stupid close friend of mine knows this guy was toasting me. She asked me if I liked him and because my counts were personal I said no. My friend is 25. Now, the guy toasted her only once and she said yes. They are now planning introduction for January 2016.

 I confronted her and asked her why she didn’t tell me the guy toasted her and she said it was none of my business. This is someone I tell everything that happens between me and any guy. I confronted the guy too and he said he wasn’t sure I liked him. This is someone I’m friendly to on the phone anytime he calls.

I cried for 8 hours and I fell sick for a week when I realized how far they have gone. I just couldn’t contain it. The loss made me fail my professional exams while my friend passed hers. In fact, I almost lost my part time job because I was always moody. Tears just flowed freely anytime I remember his voice on the phone.

This is a friend I have known for 16 years from the days of children church and primary school. We went to the same secondary school and I left in SSS1 to join another school. After that, we went to the same jamb lesson and then pre-degree and finally university together. Even though, I didn’t tell her the truth and knew there’s a lot of marriage pressures on her, I still felt betrayed. I feel she should have said no whether I like the guy or not. At least, I won’t date anybody that has toasted her before. Most of her former toasters have tried to hook me up and all they got is no. I can’t believe she did this to me.

I’m so much in love with this guy. He’s so cool and calm. He’s equally smart. I’m not sure I would find someone like him again. I haven’t been lucky with guys all my life. I wished I have told my friend I love him. I wish I said yes the first time. I wish I had taken him more serious especially when he said his plan was to marry me.

Now, the two of them are begging me to attend the event and help with preparations. In fact, my friend’s mum called me to come and support her with the shopping needed for the introduction. 

Should I help them? 

Can I still convince him that I love him? 

What should I do? I’m silently dying in pain.

When a man loves a woman...HE WILL WAIT UNTIL HE WINS HER OVER!

That guy was never yours,let him go and because you are still in love with him,I would advise you stay out of their lives before you begin to think of revenge or nacking him.

Dont take part in the wedding preparations and dont attend.

Just stay away from them until you heal and dont say Yes immediately to any guy that asks you.

Take this E-hug,you will be fine darling...