STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
IN LOVE WITH THE WRONG GUY...
Good day Stella,
Please I beg you in the name of God, please post my narrative. I need advice on this issue because I am presently losing my mind.
I met a guy on a dating site around June this year.we matched each other(i am sure most of you will know the site) and we got talking.We began chatting on a regular basis and even though he didnt call me after a long time, I started liking him.I stylishly asked if he had a bae one day, but he avoided the question.I had also snooped on all his social media accounts and I didnt see a sign of any bae so i thought the coast was clear.
We finally met face to face two months later and I must say he is a very intersting person.We chatted for hours and after that day,my feelings for him grew stronger but i noticed he never really asked me deep details about myself. I did more of the asking every time.
I took the bold step another day to ask about his love life and got the shock of my life.He said he was in a serious relationship, he even sent a photo of them together.My heart was broken but I still liked him.He said he just wanted me as a friend so that we can do naughty things together.
After visiting me like three times, I decided to return the favour by visiting him at his place.He had begged me a couple of times and i refused because i knew he only wanted me for sex yet I still went. we ended up kissing and touching but no sex.
The problem I am battling with right now is my birthday was two months and he told him about it.He travelled out a week before my birthday and said he was spending just four weeks and that he wont chat with me often.
On my birthday, I didnt get any message or call from him and I saw that he was online on whatsapp.It was the following day, i got a message that he lost a relative and he wasn't in a good mood.I felt he was trying to play a fast one on me so I sent some messages some days later accusing of just wanted to sleep with me and all.
This was last month.I have been begging him since the day after I sent the messages but he doesnt respond. I have cried, sent messages, called him, but he just ignores everything I do.It is almost two months and he hasn't come back.I have had sleepless nights because of this issue.I feel he is doing it on purpose because he knows I like him.
Stella, Please don't hide your red pen.I am going to be 30 next year and I am not in any relationship at the moment.I havent been in any serious relationship all my life as guys usually want to take advantage of me because of my emotional nature.
I am at a crossroads and I am depressed at the moment.I cry over this issue almost everyday.I am beginning to think life is not fair.
Babe let him go....quietly.
Every woman at one point or the other falls in love with a man who doesnt even return that feeling.
His silence tells you to move on...just quietly walk away.dont worry love that surpasses you understanding will find you..you are just 30,some are 40 and above and they found love...It may Tarry but it will come.
I also think that you need to discipline yourself emotionally,you fall to quick.Give yourself a reason to fall in love when you meet a man..
Fall in love with yourself honey.
Just negodu!
ReplyDeleteI will read comments.
*******LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Swerry I understand perfectly wats u re facing,just zero ur mind and let him go,urs will come,I can't say today,or tomorrow,but definitely he will come,so do not let some guy take advantage of ur situation or make u fall into depression,so go and ur kneels and talk to ur creator about it,he has never fail,and ur case will not be an exception, get busy and be happy darling.
Delete*******LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Everyday u keep proving how stupid u are, I now see why being insulted daily, lemme join that Anon to finish u, cus ure disgracing women.... You gwegs, its no wonder ure single, better make good use of ur time and let a man recogniz ur good traits than waste it all on SDK, that wldnt be here 4ever... Imbecile.
DeletePoster, is ur name bimbo j*****? Seems u r referring to my boo. Hmm, he told you the truth already, we have something good going on between us. I'll advice you to move on, love will find you. Yes,he's still in florida and will be away for a year and few months. Sorry, you ll be fine.
DeleteGo and divorce your spiritual husband my dear. You cannot have a husband in the water and expect your physical relationships to work out. God help you.
DeleteAnno15:56,na lie u re d same 'anno d snub'
DeleteStop been jealous,what's ur business with her wasting her tym? We re tired of ur stupidity,twisting it to be another person,your stupidity is oozing badly,tuehhhh I spit on you mofo.
Poster you story sounds so familiar . I might know this guy. Is he in his late thirties? From Imo? . U met him when he came to Lagos? If u it's positive, I can explain to u what happened? Count urself lucky and run
DeleteI won't blame you.......u are forcing yourself 2 be in a relationship with someone that doesn't want you all because you think you are getting old and should be married or probably in a serious relationship.
DeletePlease free that guy n ask God 2 send your own man!
There is no gain in fish head,so y go 4 it.
Please don't punish yourself by wasting your time with the wrong person.
Sweetie, u are desperate, it's clear. Desperation is making u look for love in d wrong places and d result is always heart break.
DeleteLike Stella said, love will find u and when it does u will be glad u waited. It's always worth it. This man u are carousing with has been bad news from d beginning.
His intentions are clear so why would u want a man with whom u have no future, a man who made it clear he wants u (ur body) for fun. He has np respect for u.
Baby girl, guard ur body. Giving it up is giving up ur most priceless possession and when dz men have had u, they jilt u becos there is nothing else to look forward to anymore.
Preserve ur dignity for 'the' man, ur husband. Save sex for marriage and stop selling urself cheap becos u feel u are emotional. Get a grip on urself! Look! The future is beautiful and it starts now by simply deciding to make a fresh start.
Let d man go. I pray u make a fresh start with Jesus today. Get ur life organised and decide to be strong no matter what. Make up ur mind to be happy. Don't allow any man still ur joy. They aren't worth it.
Ur easy nature has caused u a lot of heart breaks. When u respect ur body, men wil respect u. Put God first and let Him lead u. It's impossible to have heartbreaks with Him. It all depends on u.
I wish u true love..
Always choose righteousness.
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Ehn ehn
Delete@ emjay- sisi sinape se oro niyen
Anon-iyawo! Pele ti e, whatz oga doing on dating site if u av somfin serious going. Ure here playing iyawo while he @ wherever playing wit nipples. So for ur mind u fink say en go marry u. Eko e re baby eko e re o
Anony 15:56 so because Emjay won another give away, u have started again. Ngwa receive Jesus Christ right now because the type of disgrace you are being to us women folk is phenomenal. Change o, for you do not know tomorrow, because we reap what we sow. Your own bullying might be physical, so pls stop. You might take it as a joke but u r hurting someone in the process which is wickedness. REPENT O!
DeleteWetin Badoo dey cause ehhhhh. ..
DeleteHaba babe, chill biko. You're desperate, dude has already told u that he's got someone and you're still expecting more from him, so dt he can use u abi? No now, channel your energy into sth else, you'll just b fine.
Delete30yrs isn't a reason to flash dis desperation inugo.
Move on desperado
ReplyDelete"Ure juz alone @ a crossroad u dnt feel @ home in ur own home" na Beyoncee sing am.
DeleteD guy is playing a mind game, hes enjoying d pleadings et al. Dis guy isnt jus into u as in he aint feeling the girl.
Abeg jus bone him n next time let d guy do the talking.
If u so into him, hed be so not into u
That guy isn't yours na,he even told you. Please move on..
DeleteFor petes sake, he's in a serious relationship and he told you that. So pray tell, why are you getting all emotionally invested?. As in he should dump his woman for you cos you are going to be 30 abi? . Face your front and pray/wait for yours biko
DeletePoster, you ve been used.. Dust yourself and move on. Pele dear
ReplyDelete@poster...How can u get a boy friend with this fish brain of yours.
DeleteHe told u he's in a serious relationship,what else do u want huh? He isn't dating u and thus isn't obligated to pick ur calls.
Haven't seen this kind of desperation.
Are u this gullible and silly? Dude told u he just wants u for naughty stuff and all yet u wan die put.
It's seems uv got a low self esteem or don't see urself as preety enough,cos I can't just wrap my head around ds desperation of urs.
U cried,begged...ontop a guy dt is taken.
D dude did well by not taking u serious and u should be lucky,he isn't interested in ur cookies. Infact u need to send him a thank u note for letting u off easy.
Please move d fuck on...no b by force
Used?
DeleteHow?
Used. Yes. He knew she was into him and lead her on. The babe has no self worth.
DeleteSince I read the chronicle,I've been looking for the right word to use..Elena thanks..Poster you're being very SILLY..move the hell on
DeleteSo good to be back o..I've missed a lot..
I wonder @dis poster,d guy didn't do anything wrong,cos he told u everything before u still went ahead.are u such an emotional wreck dat u could not get a grip of urself at dat moment and move on?or u tot ur charms will be strong enuf to upgrade u to main chick?lmao!worst still u kept crying and mailing him without him replying u!which kain wahala be dat,infact if I was a man,i wouldn't date u!so u see why dey don't stay?
DeleteU are a weakwilled,desperate lady!u need serious counselling dearie...smh
@elena. O girl ur advice make sense sha. Like seriously, girl move d fuck on. No man likes a desperate woman, they abhor it. U dey beg and plead ontop guy wen tell u straight up say I'm get girlfriend. Chick E b like say dem dey worry u for ur village o. Shuo, go find who dey worry u ehn. 30 is not 70. Trust me there are lots of choices out there. Shuo!!!!!
DeleteMake una tell am oh.
DeleteLet him go bae. A better one is cooking n 'll soon be served
ReplyDeleteYou saw fire and put ya hand inside. Now you are acting all desperate. The guy must be so disgusted. Abeg I can't deal
DeleteNawa. What is this rubbish? You are too desperate Aunty.
ReplyDeleteAt least he was truthful enough to tell you he's in a relationship. Leave him alone!
I am tempted to call you a BF Snatcher...
Go and find your own man and stop whining like a mouse caught in it's trap.
Go back to Tagged and Match another partner.
You vex oh
DeleteCalm down na
Poster, you are almost 30 and you are acting like a teenager? What sort of nonsense is this? It is actually very clear that you do not love yourself. If you did, you would never be in this mess.
DeletePlease, this young man told you from the beginning that he was involved with someone else, even went as far as sending you photos of them together. So what are you asking us now?
Did you think he will fall hopelessly in love with you just because two of you kissed and touched? Do you think life is a romance novel?
I beg you in God's name to love yourself. Take pride in yourself. Look at yourself as beautiful. Love your body, love your mind. Improve
yourself. Decide not to be treated like a doormat.
I find this your story very pathetic because I can feel the desperation oozing from your mail.
Please stop the self pity. It is glaring that the guy feels absolutely NOTHING for you.
Do not reach out to him. Block him on all social platforms. Delete every ounce of him from your phone, every picture, every message. Will it hurt? Definitely. But you will continue because you are now in the business of loving yourself more than anything else. Allow your pride to be bigger than whatever feelings you have for him.
One day, not very far from now, you will wake up and the hurt will be gone.
It probably feels impossible now but I assure you, it will pass.
Lastly, it's okay to like a guy. But let your feelings be proportionate to whatever vibe he is giving out. Trust your instincts. No matter how much you like a guy, let it be with your eyes wide open. Don't be foolish, you're too old for that.
My dear you said exactly what I was going to say. I was shocked when I saw that she is 30 years old. WOW. Thought it was a teenager. Somebody already told you he has a Gf and he just wants you for 'naughty things ' and you are saying you are liking him. At age 30. Dem swear for you? . You are begging and crying him.
DeleteHoney work on you, your self esteem is in the gutter. No one will ever love you more than you love yourself.
Forget d gee n move on dear,he doesn't have any feelings for U. He has a girl he luvs n wana concider u as a sleeping mate he calls when he needs. Ur real luv will com soon
ReplyDelete*consider
DeleteI dey hail oo ! Edo babe on point.
DeleteOh that's sad. Babe he doesn't care about you. His silence says so clearly and him even telling u he just wants sex. Try to move on. Keep yourself busy. Try to do things that won't remind you of him. Keep away from love songs and romantic movies
ReplyDeleteIf not that you said you're 30, I was expecting Stella to dash you auto-reset E-Slap. Sorry sis, move on, he said he's in a serious relationship, so what again did you want? Don't lose your self worth because age is no more on your side. Your own hubby will locate you soon. Cheers and E-hug.
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
The dating site should be Badoo right?
ReplyDeleteDo yourself a favor and move on!! Move on already!! Guys don't take girls dey meet there seriously... at least i heard so!
Stop.crying and having sleepless nights over pne murrafucker biko mshwww
Girls these days sabi annoy person ehn
I love Vector da viper,can sum1 hook me up wt him so he can gbensh me
ReplyDeleteAshana
DeleteWith pleasure I can
DeleteSend me ur details and pay my consultancy fee lobatan!!!
Awwwwww
ReplyDeleteShe's such a lover girl
Girl, grow up and be strong.
You let your emotions control you,how sad.
U are a big FOOL, common gerraraherelittlesilly.
ReplyDeleteKikikikikikikiki
DeleteBig FOOL With a capital letter
Both of you are bigger fools, what happened to constructive criticism
DeleteMtcheeeeww...
ReplyDeleteShame on you this poster for crying and begging a man for his attention...
If you are my sister,I would have finished you with my mouth...
Can't you see that this guy is married?...
You are 30 without a relationship and so fucking what?...
Must every girl be in a relationship?...
The earlier you start loving your self,the better for you...
Why don't you get a lesbo partner like Odi the silly messed up girl on this blog since you can't get yourself a man...
Good comment
DeleteQueen forget Odi joor.
DeleteBut this poster is a real desperado I swear.
Dude clearly told you from Day1 that he has a babe but you still pushed.
Biko what where you expecting?
closed heart to all relationships for life!!
ReplyDeleteLongest ID,why then did u participate in the latest S& M?
DeleteNever say never. Just trust in God and be who you were created to be.
DeleteWonderful advice from Stella.
ReplyDeleteBabe cool dowqn!!
ReplyDeleteim not goin to abuse u cos i understand where u are comin from
You should have taken a walk when the guy said he just wanted to do naughty things--that one is definitely no for keeps and would never take u serious
Guys also hate when they are being stalked ,,so the more u r begging him and crying bla bla , he's gettin more irritated
You're not in love hun.. ur just lonely thats why u think u r in love with this one.. discipline urself emotionally and move on.. HE DOENST WANT YOU
The right one is coming to u soon and will be stalking u with love and more love
ull be alright sweety..make sure u let him go
e-hugs
He told you he is into a serious relationship he even send you pix here you are telling us you are 30
ReplyDeleteWhat are your intentions ?
Babe na wah for you oh
You wan drag the guy with another girl
Are you ready for the fight
U just being desperate, the guy does not want u for anything serious y u Wan die there ni!!! He treats u like shit yet u wasting ur precious tears on him chooii biko brush up ur self esteem and a better man ll find u..
ReplyDeleteAbeg make unu try send Stella chronicles na! Cos d ones these days ehnnn... such a waste of time reading it.
ReplyDeleteWhere r d people with REAL problems?
We r here to cuss out and help, don't be shy...send in ur stories
#gbam
DeleteLol.cuss out n help indeed
DeleteHe loves you so much but he is just taking his time that's why he hasn't called!!!!!! LMAO......Please stop demeaning yourself, you need to work on your self esteem to be able to make sound relationship decisions moreover being single at 30 isn't such a horrible thing. Your prince charming is coming soonest, forget this Mr naughty things.
DeleteLADIES SHOULD MOVE ON AFTER BREAKUPS . . .
ReplyDeleteTHE MAN TOLD YOU HE WANTED TO DO "NAUGHTY THINGS" AND YOU STILL WENT FOR IT!
Quite empathize with you in your plight. What I would add here is for you young lady to "close your legs". I have counselled ladies over the years in the course of my work and I have come to discover that majority of the ladies that do not "move on" whenever a relationship does not work out are those who had given in to sexual pressures, committed abortions or gotten infections from their partners. They keep sulking even a decade after the break up whereas their male counterparts had moved on, married and had kids. This later scenario usually adds to the lady's predicament. On the other hand, those who "closed their legs" have more secure and trustworthy marriages apart from "moving on" faster. Also lady, spice your spiritual life with God's word. Learn to read your scriptures (New Testament -you can google it and read on your mobile phones or tablets) and find out what LOVE means.
1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. . .
Na wa o.. u already sound like a broken record.. aunty poster u need tht auto reset slap.. at 30 they r doin u wayo lik this.. i was expectin to hear 21. Na wa fr you o.
DeleteYou are right lady Igho.
DeleteBest advice ever @ Stella. The signs are all dre, you are in love with yourself. Guy wey gt serious babe even told you, yet you run after him. You want him to dump the main chick for you abi. I even like d guy some other idiots will play along n sleep with as many times as it takes to satisfy themselves and den dump you still. Please cultivate female friends n don't dwell so much on your self. Where you fished him out of dre are many other fishes dre. Go to sdk Dn M and add up friends. Be strong, Be wise.
ReplyDeleteMakeup artist in the house, I want to start up as a makeup artist nd I have only 20k, pls watproduct shd I buy with this 20k?
ReplyDeleteMakeup artist in the house, I want to start up as a makeup artist nd I have only 20k, pls watproduct shd I buy with this 20k?
ReplyDeleteBuy 1 carton of moju, that's enough to help u build ur make up empire
DeleteHmmm. You love him already but he wants you for naughtiness. Just move on before you get entangled. But I like his honesty, I like it when people define what they want in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteJesus is Lord.
Babe,pls move on....a better guy will come your way.
ReplyDeleteStella please tell this girls to ALWAYS include their age so we know how to advice them
DeleteFan Emmanuel
DeleteI no what you are thinking
The poster is 30 not 23
Lol
Stelz, can u c why ppl want tht Ur red pen. Onijatijati of blogspot u r on point. Gbam! Ur head is der o jare...
ReplyDeleteChoi!
ReplyDeletePoster you say you are 30?
Haba now...you should know this signs already...
Dude already told you the truth sef yet u r all over him, please move om and delete anything that has to do with that guy in your life, even if he comes back now, he's just going to come sleep with you. You sound like somone who has slept with the guy, hence the emotional trauma...*sideeyes*
Stelz, can u c why ppl want tht Ur red pen. Onijatijati of blogspot u r on point. Gbam! Ur head is der o jare...
ReplyDeleteMadam poster don't be desperate, desperation won't bring forth a good result just relax your mind and your own man will come
ReplyDeleteBabe's let go, he was honest enough to let u knw his intentions, u took it quite far cuz obviously he is not interested in entering a ship wit u. U r 30 oh Yes u need to calm down, desperation wud only give u more heartache. I wud advise u work on ur emotions u can tame urslf dearie! U shud be incharge and not d other way round, above all I wish u cud sit nd set a standard shud incase such happens next time. With regards to ds dude let go of him dear, he doesn't want a side boo. Cheers
ReplyDeleteDesperation oooo, somebody is someone's own yet u want to borrow him? He has given u all the red light and even yellow light yet u wan die on top person matter.Na ur type dey use person husband do bae just becos u think u r lonely.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing awwwish abt this post.
ReplyDeleteIts annoying to say the least
Reading this I was so convinced that u must be like 21,only to see 30years.
Madam wake up and stop desperate.
You know what is right, what u should take but u choose to ignore simply cos u ate desperate.
A man opened his mouth to tell a grown woman like u that he wants you just as a friend he can do naughty things together n u still went n slept with n came here to lie like a small pikin.
Side chic is even better than u cos at least the guy ll toast d side chic n profess love (just that its all a lie)._
Your own has no name yet.
Wake up!!!
He gave you the writings on the wall you refused to read it, he then read it to you and you also refuse to understand...
ReplyDeleteMy dear there are 1 million and one men out there let him go, be patient you will meet someone better....besides you are not busy enough.
Poster, u must an Olosho. Shameless Gwegw.
ReplyDeleteHe told you that he is a serious relationship
And u still want to die there.
Dats the problem with u shameless women.
Low self esteem.
He is a serious relationship???? The money maaaan! The money has really rumpled your brain.
DeleteMoney maker
DeleteWHY????
Money maker she must be ur mother's colleague since you know she's an olosho
DeleteMoney Maker, FOOLISH fellow? Always cussing Pple wil no word of encouragement. U bastard son of a bitch. Oloshi, Ole, Ole yahoo yahoo
DeleteI still don't understand why u're crying.
ReplyDeleteDidn't he tell you he's in a serious relationship???
You know he wants only your body and you are still foolishly crying over him.
Babe abeg receive sense .
Fool
ReplyDelete*in a
ReplyDeleteNa here u con write am
Delete@ richbee he don do nah
DeleteJust leave him alone cos he isn't meant for you,GOD will surely send ur own man to you
ReplyDeleteBabe just open your legs for him and your eyes will clear...u will then know d difference between 5 n 6.
ReplyDeleteF***ing they reset brain die
Deletehey babe....y are u giving urself headache over a guy that doesnt love u?he even told u he is in a serios relationship,,,,,,,just move on....marriage is not a child's play,u shld get into it for the right reasons and the feeling must be mutual....pls let gooooooo
ReplyDeleteDid you meet him on badoo? If yes, 98% of guys from badoo are looking for fuck buddies. He told you he has a serious relationship and you continued liking him. But I know it s easier to move on when sex is not involved abi you gave him already? Are you lying to us?Why are you crying? Is it by force? Move on abeg.. You were doing the chasing,, asking questions and all the bullshit a man is supposed to do.
ReplyDeleteWipe your tears. Allow men to chase you not the other way round. Love will find you. Kisses
You see armed robbers bus, you still de try to enter..... 2mr you go say "men are heartless". Too many teens are beginning to visit this blog.
ReplyDeleteShe is 30!!!!
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DeleteThnkx Rich..... She's even 30 sef, some ppl r just responsible for being called Aunty gwegs.. At 30 u want to stl waste time chasing shadows eh, the shadow sef de run..... The guy is even somewhat honest wit u, some terribl ones wld help u waste more yrs & dump u like hot coal.
DeleteBut the guy told you point blank that he is in a relationship and he obviously loves his chick! Please stop the desperation and love yourself.
ReplyDeleteStella, I was expecting you to give this poster that your resetting slap and top it with horse tail koboko. See as girls dey make themselves cheap. You will be 30 ; so what? Is the world going to come to an end because u will be 30? Please place some value on urself and stop pressurizing yourself over age that is just a number.
ReplyDeleteI marvel at the way girls of these days fall easily and cheaply to lies and deceit out there. @Narrator you need not be desperate bcos of age. 30 yrs is nothing to make you lose your morals to a guy who doesnt want any string attached which he himself had told you yet you decided to attach emotions. Kindly retract your emotions and move on, who knows he could be married elsewhere but feigning "was in a serious relationship". #Bewise
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ReplyDeletePoster, if you truly love him.why are you hoarding ur Toto from him?
How can he know that u love him?
And u are not a Virgin? U 've been giving others ur Toto. But the man u love,u are playing him wayo.
If i hear he hoarded the toto from him!My friend just be honest and admit you slept with him.Do you think we are kids or stupid?You didnt sleep with him yet you are crying over him and cant sleep.story for the gods.The guy ignoring you now upon all your texts,calls nd pleading means only one thing-he don sample the pussy.My advice for you is,MOVE ON AND STOP BEING DESPERATE,it will always work against you because guys can smell desperation 10 miles away.oh and another thing,stay away from other peoples' men because i'm sure if you were in the main chic's shoes and you found out another chic was poaching on your man you will rain down fire and brimstone.
DeleteEeeeya. Unrequited love can be so painful. I can imagine how you feel dearest. You'll be doing yourself a whole lot of good by forgetting about the dude.
ReplyDeleteDon't blame yourself for falling for him, it can happen to anyone. However, you need to drown those feelings. Dude is unavailable and guys like him end up messing you up emotionally. STOP CONTACTING HIM.
Don't worry much about your age. If you're meant to marry, you'll eventually get your own man. Most importantly, you need to LOVE YOURSELF more than anybody on earth. Be confident, cheerful, optimistic and put on a smile always. You'll be alright, Inugo? (You hear). Besos.
Poster do all what Stella said cos for the first time in my life I was getting ready to insult a chronicler until I got to your age. I still get small respect for my seniors even if they behave like agbayas sometimes.
ReplyDeleteGoodluck
U ve nt been in a serious r/ship all these while bcos u r alwz with the wrong person. This guy came out clean to you nd you r stil xpecting him to date u abi? Then later u wil send an chronicles dt ur bf is cheating on u. Jst leave d guy.
ReplyDeleteYou r seeing d signs now nd u dnt want to leave, dnt expect me to tell u fast nd pray lyk some dummies always do.
ReplyDeleteFast and pray for what na?
DeleteHe's in a serious relationship so what are you still waiting for,for him to dump his serious girl for you? He clearly told you he wants to play naughty with you and you are here forming love,I pity you.
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ReplyDeleteHiaaaa! Good riddance to rubbish. God will give you your own man. Don't fight for what is not yours. Let the joker go jare!!!
ReplyDeleteJUST NEGODU....Pls brace urself joor.. Take time out and find closure.. If u continue like this you will always have heartbreak and become aunty gwegz. Get so busy in ur life that there would be no room to mourn his absence....
ReplyDeleteEhyaaa... You fall so easily and that's wrong dear. Just as you're this desperate for that prince charming, so also, there are guys out there desperate for a lover. Don't worry, with time that man will turn up. Be careful not to fall mugu sha.
ReplyDeleteToo much desperation. Sister clara love yourself BIKO
ReplyDeleteAbeg stop being desperate. The moment he said he's in a serious relationship, u should av just moved on sharply. At ur age, u don't need 'just friends', u need a real man in ur life and not BF and GF stuff. U r no longer a child. Move on.
ReplyDeleteM dear more on with ur lyf, bt wait o wat were u tinking after all he tld u his in a relationship, jst an advice swthrt, wake up looking ur best every day, u'll get ur own man. 4get abt men dats wen de will come move on #shit happens
ReplyDeleteHian. Na wao some people nur even dey use their brain
ReplyDeleteM dear more on with ur lyf, bt wait o wat were u tinking after all he tld u his in a relationship, jst an advice swthrt, wake up looking ur best every day, u'll get ur own man. 4get abt men dats wen de will come move on #shit happens
ReplyDeletePoster, U made a grave mistake by denying him ur Toto. Who knows. He might even prefer u to his gf since they are not married yet.
ReplyDeleteFoolish boy
DeleteWat is his name babe
ReplyDeleteBut he told u he had a girfriend and that he just wants u guys to have fun together...i dnt get why you are crying, its either you wanna have fun with him or move on with your life... If he didnt tell you its a different thing...pick that dignity up abeg
ReplyDeleteEeyah. Sorry. Let him go since he has someone he's with. Don't worry, yours will soon come. Be patient and try to control your emotions.
ReplyDeleteYou are depressed over a man who already told you he is in a serious relationship? Babe, isn't it obvious this guy ONLY wants to have sex with you? Is it until he sleeps with you before your eyes will clear? Babe, please, you are above this bullshit. I am much older than you and I am not married yet, should I kill myself? Hell no, I'm enjoying my life and when the right man decides to see me, all well and good. Love yourself, go out, have adventure, visit fun places and trust me, you will love your life, even without a man. It is well.
ReplyDeleteYou are depressed over a man who already told you he is in a serious relationship? Babe, isn't it obvious this guy ONLY wants to have sex with you? Is it until he sleeps with you before your eyes will clear? Babe, please, you are above this bullshit. I am much older than you and I am not married yet, should I kill myself? Hell no, I'm enjoying my life and when the right man decides to see me, all well and good. Love yourself, go out, have adventure, visit fun places and trust me, you will love your life, even without a man. It is well.
ReplyDeleteWow! I like ur comment, I m also older dan her but Nver desperate.
Delete@ poster;he has told you already that he is in A serious relationship and even sent you their pics..
ReplyDeleteWhat else do you need?? Do you wanna become A side-chick or A sex doll to him??
My dear;you need to understand this,No matter how busy A man is,he would surely look for A way to talk to or perhaps be in communication with the woman he claims to be in love with..or at least send an sms!
If A man was all lovey-dovey to you initially then gradually started caring less;then one of these two must have happened;
1)He is no longer into you or
2)He has found someone or something else which could be more important to him than your very self....
There is 24 hours in A day;do you think there is A big deal in sparing 2mins out of the entire time to check on someone you care about??
That guy has moved on dear and is happy wherever he is at the moment;you ve gotta move on too..its not even an option bydway!!
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DeletePoster, let him go please to avoid another chronicle biko
ReplyDeleteWith ur state of mind and ur desperation , men will surely use and dump you. You hav to love urself b4 sumone can love u.
ReplyDeleteBeen there so I understand and can't Judge you right now. I'm with Stells on this. Also, pray and fill your mind with God's words, you will find the ultimate succor there.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, sorry for what you are facing presently but i really read desperation in your post and i want you to caution your self. Turning 30 next year does not make you as old as you think. Please get busy with your life and boost your self esteem. The right man will find you at God's appointed time. Don't let Men take advantage of you, not even at this age. SIT UP and please don't let men see you as desperate.
ReplyDeleteI think he made it clear right from time. You would have just received sense that time he told u he just wanted to kpansh and close your heart in fact stop all communications with him. Which advise do u want now? It's clear now. Just read articles on how to get over a heavy crush. Kpele. The guy has found a new girl to be naughty with. Am sorry but that's d truth. *hugs*
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ReplyDeleteThis chronicle is close to wat am going tru now,met him on a social network,like 6months ago,but we started getting close like 3months ago,its was difficult before he asked for my number,finally he called,and we clicked,but we haven't seen till now,he keep posting it,once in a while,he will just black out like,reduction in call etc.
He has finally agree for us to meet in 2weeks time,with promises of all in kisses in the world,but am so sacred,i don't want to fall into a wrong hand,i love him so much,and my instincts is telling me something isn't right,but I hardly feel this way,hardlyyy! Am so confused,i know for sure he is hiding something,few friends I shown his pix said he is a no no,has anybody been in this situation before, i need ur advises biko,help a sister.
Been in this shoes.....once in our life time we experience this, but am sure u already knw he aint in for anything serious other than satisfying his sexual urge, so weigh ur options u wana b jst a sex toy to him or something more? Ur beautiful n will find someone who'l adore u some day to make u his no. 1, until he comes don't fall so cheap for dos without good intentions for u
DeleteAwwwww.. I felt so bad reading this poster..
ReplyDeleteGuys please on behalf of the lady, easy with the cusses..
She seems like a very emotional person and won't be able to handle 'our' bad mouth here..
Madam e guys has said he is in a serious relationship why do u still hold on to him my sister why dnt u leave him and move on with your life Give yourself to God and relax God il give u e right man ur age is jus a number concentrate on God and stand by his words pls (thank you and God bless u)
ReplyDeleteMarried man + desperado
ReplyDeleteHe hav slept u countless times don't lie,his fuck is good,he is good looking and rich that's y u love him more.but sorry bae,he is taken.it happens
Reading this got me really angry, at a point I was asking myself 'how old is this lady" then boom, you m uentioned your age.. Seriously??? I think you need to build up yourself, you need trenmedious emotionalb growing to do. How can you even what to do... This guy clearly doesn't like you.. He needs a fuck buddy with no strings attached, he tries to avoid anything that will send any emotional attachment "Green Light" to you. That's why he didnt bother to ask you personal questions about yourself, that's why he didn't call you on your birthday and damn! Thats why he clearly isn't replying again anywyz.... HE DOESNT CLEARLY CARE!!!
ReplyDeleteHe has a babe he loves enough to want to marry, that babe is not you..
Look, God will give you your own husband, stop begging and crying, delete him from your contact list, it's ok to feel bad for a while but you have to move on!
Ok?
Madam the guys has said his in a serious realtionship so move on look up to God please Age is jus a number God il send someone to you my dear he has nothing to offer you my dear God il provide someone for you look up to God serve him and live e rest.for him your man will come ok my dear (move on my dear look up to God from today my dear)relax ok dnt take somoence man pls
ReplyDeleteYou bring 30 and unmarried is not a death sentence , neither Is it a reason for you to sell yourself cheap to someone that does not deserve you. Please love yourself and pray , your time will come .
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Sweets pls move on already and be glad he didn't even hide his relationship from u eventually. Get busy with your life and work on urslf. Pray to God for ur own man. Finally get that 30yrs mentality off you pls. I hate it when we sulk over a man who's not even bothered about us...God heal ur broken hrt dear.
ReplyDeleteThis thing called LOVE. Babe, fly on and don't land on him again. Better days ahead
ReplyDeletePull out of that non-relationship and find someone who actually loves u and wants to have a healthy relationship with u. Cheers.
ReplyDeletePls how do i join the singles and mingles forum
ReplyDeleteIt was as if u were writing my story,although in my own case,he lied to me dat he was not in a serious relationship only for him to turn back and say something different after we had sex,it was painful but I told him off,deleted his number and moved on,if he can cheat on her wit me,then he will cheat on me wit someone else...Babe move on he aint worth shit,The best is yet to come.
ReplyDeleteYou are one of those girls that wait till you collect isho before your brain resets. He was never yours so stop wailing.
ReplyDeleteUnderstand how it feels cos I'v once been in ur shoes. Just try to let go of him dear, @lst he said d truth, u'd feel more hurt if u both end up into something intimate n den he disappears so darl, get a hold on urself, he aint urs, urs wil come
ReplyDeleteAm sorry done really comment but these chronicles sent in are turning into child"s play. Are you out of your senses? He said he's not doing so why the thing. Your chronicle remain 1 cause he will still sleep with you and you come back shouting heartbreak. Take a walk the guy has someone.
ReplyDelete@ poster pls move on already... A better & bigger man is coming ur way.
ReplyDeleteNa wah oooo.
That man isn't into you, I advice you move on. I know his type,there is every possibility maybe a month from now, maybe if he and his girl are fighting are having issues, he will remember you. Just lookn for warm pussy to sleep with. He will give u all sorts of xcuse why he's been silent e.g I Only want to be friends for now,AND SEE WHERE FRIENDS WILL LEAD TO and you are pressuring things. DO NOT FALL FOR THIS.
ReplyDeleteI have been thru similar experience, a guy and I were talking for like 10mths, within that period we had sex, me believing relationship will come forth cos of d sex, I gave him thinking we were dating. He's neva given me commitment,saying he doesn't want a relationship now, we shld be friends 1st.
My dear iv cut him off, if you can make up ur mind in 1yr whether you want to be with me, im out.
Now im dating smone else, I don't call him, don't chat nothing. He called me abt a mnth ago still giving me story of how he needs more time. Told him I aint got time again, im dating smone else. If you are over 30 and ur talking to a guy, and he's not telling you his intentions in 3mths, kindly cut him off. Talking to a guy for 1yr or more,abeg move on. Sum ppl are planning wedding after just 6mths and you are still trying to know whether u want to date me or not in 1yr. Naaaaa
After reading this my thoughts where "what is this rubbish"...the guy already told you he's in a serious relationship and he only wants u for sex and you still dey cry and beg, is this what desperation can lead to. So becos u'll be 30 by next year now means that this is your final stop abi... In fact am so angry at u right now, where d hell is your self worth? Begging someone that already told u he wasn't going to date you...hmmm height of desperation, anyways I really don't blame u much as it takes one man to displace another...so better luck next time..
ReplyDeleteSo because you will be 30 next year that's why you are degrading yourself before a man, where is your dignity as a woman?
ReplyDeleteSome women are more than 30 and they are rocking their lives, why must your own be different?
Are you the only unmarried lady?
Biko save yourself that stress and move on, love is not by force.
Inukwa Crying and begging.....
Stop being desperate so you don't make a great mistake.
Aunty move on, I pray God gives you the right one. Don't worry this one ain't for you
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ReplyDeletePoster you are even lucky he told you he has a girlfriend,most guys would come eat punami,clean mouth and waka.abeg calm down your own would come
ReplyDeleteIf you decide to take the advice from this blog and stop contacting him, know that he will come back, DO NOT RESUME COMMUNICATION WITH HIM. This guy can not give you what you want (marriage), he will only use you to his satisfaction and dump you, leaving you in a worst state. Love yourself, know that you deserve better, and lock up your heart and use your brain.
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ReplyDeleteThese are the same people that will still advise others when they send in chronicles.
"Adults in little kids clothing". Woman, I have male friends looking for wifey. ask Stella for my email so I can hook you up with decent men who knows your worth and are ready to settle down.
Stella give am my email so I can hook up with her for further talks thanks.
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Babe... you did nothing wrong... to love is not a crime, you just met the wrong one, move on... build on yourself... irrespective of your age, a deserving man will come.... no body cares the age of a diamond
ReplyDeleteMove on already.oginidi?
ReplyDeleteMadam poster...you have slept with this guy and now you are feeling ised.Maybe u thought when u allow him sleep with u, he will change his mind about u, leave hos gfriend for u and marry you. I can see tou dn't read chronicles here and see what a lot of married women are going through in their marriages. You better use your single status to build yourself and be a proper woman because to me tou are stil a child at heart. It seems i am the only 30yrs, single and happy lady in this naija o. The moment i put my head on my bed at nights, i sleep off.....do u want to know how i do that? I am head iver heels in love with myself! Better love yourself more and give God chance in your life. Stop seeing your status as single at 30 as a curse biko.
ReplyDeleteIt's a pity but just dust yourself up and try again. I agree with Stella and do as she adviced
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ReplyDeleteI am in love with a wrong guy who ignores every form of communication between us.
ReplyDeleteMen are reali hardened. They are built that way. Babe,u did nothing wrong to fall in love,am hapi u didn't have sex with him. I equally didn't have sex with this guy am in love with.
This chronicle is getting me pissed which is unlike me.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, are you expecting the dude to leave his girlfriend for you?
What about her, does she not have a heart?
Put yourself in her shoes, how will you feel if the situation was reversed and you discovered the truth?
Your a very wicked lady.
I do not feel sorry for you at all in any way, shape of form.
Go and get your own single man and stop trying to cause pain to a fellow lady like yourself.
Heartless thing... as a mature lady, I expected you to thank him for his honesty and walk away when he told you he is in a serious relationship.
Not to try and snatch him. RUBBISH.
If you like you can cry blood ... your still very wicked.
Babe leave him n move on. At least he told u he has a woman in his life... or are you praying for them to break up?... my dear urs will come
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ReplyDeleteBiko where is bloglord???
De man don chop ur pomo him done run abeg find anoda person
ReplyDeleteDesperate and no common sense
ReplyDeleteIt's only you that can love you completely.
ReplyDeleteThat love you are seeking is within you only.
Others have their own issues, so if you seek love from others you wIill always end up disappointed. Time and time again.
Learn to love you. Be self sufficient.
It's only you that can love you completely.
ReplyDeleteThat love you are seeking is within you only.
Others have their own issues, so if you seek love from others you wIill always end up disappointed. Time and time again.
Learn to love you. Be self sufficient.
For those of you saying the guy did nothing wrong, yes he did. He went on a dating website, lead her on, and after making her fall for him, told her his true intentions. He should not be on a dating website at all if he has a serious relationship going on. Lady, next time, guard your heart.
ReplyDeleteMy darling, why are you crying over what you never had? He was never yours, my angel, and he made it quite obvious but you refused to see the "mene mene tekel upharsin" highlighted in Neon red. He wanted a friend with benefits but you wanted the benefits of a friend.
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Men are less complex emotionally, they are usually upfront with their desires through their actions or inactions but we, ladies, who are already emotionally complex, ignore the actions or signals which are quite obvious. Our hearts often dethrone our heads, as a result we keep lying to ourselves and always have fairytale-ish excuses for all the wrong moves the object of our affections makes, even when they behave like punks as a reminder of their true intentions.
A guy tells you he has a serious girlfriend and even sent you pictures of both of them! As if that wasn't degrading and insulting enough, he offered you the dolesome position of his human sex doll fashioned solely to satisfy his "naughty" desires. Sweetie, you have no business being with a man who doesn't want you as his girlfriend but doesn't mind "hitting it" every now and then. Such a guy has zero regards for you because for him to make such a repugnant offer, shows he already sees you as a desperate lady with self-esteem deficiency. The only action befitting such a demeaning offer is the sight of your bum swinging from left to right as you turn around to leave with your dignity intact while being generous enough to show him the "sneak peek" of what could have been.
Honey, he isn't your boyfriend so he has no obligation to call on your birthday. Desirable? yes, mandatory? Absolutely not. You are trying too hard to sustain a phantom relationship, it's borderline stalking.
Wipe those tears, my love, you were never in a relationship. The minute you find yourself begging for a guy's attention and affection, just know he isn't worth it because a guy who's worth it would never let you beg for his affections. Allow men do what comes naturally to them...chasing, stop chasing the "chaser" and allow the "chaser" chase you. You are definitely worth chasing after, it doesn't matter if you're 30 years or 40 years, there are men out there who will gladly chase you and treat you like the royalty you are.
#e-bearhugs.
In a serious relationship but goes on a dating website.
ReplyDeleteIn a serious relationship, yet, has no qualms about seeking casual sex with strangers.
Anon that claims that the man is her partner and that you have a good thing going, really??
If I may ask if he so values his relationship with you and believes that you both have a good thing going, what the heck was he doing on a dating website and why seek casual sex with strangers.
My dear poster, thank God for you have no idea what he saved you from. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
If you have slept with him, hope you used protection if not, please make sure you go for STD screening.
This man is more like a psycopath that preys on vulnerable women.
Gather your self esteem
ReplyDeleteTrust GOD and do good