Hmmmmm......
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
BROKEN BY A BREAK UP
Good day Stella,
I have been an ardent reader of your blog, keep up the good work and more grease to your elbow.
My story goes like this,i am a lady in her late twenties, I have been in two relationships all my life ,the first when I was in University, the other one when I just graduated and it ended when I was serving. I ended the first one cos he became abusive after 4 years while the other one he broke up with me, he just woke up one morning and said he's not feeling the relationship and that we should give ourselves space, till today I don't know what happen this happened in the year 2010.
The main thing right now is I haven't dated anyone since 2010 till date ,I just done know how to date anymore cos I was broken when my ex left me, I don't even think I know how to love anymore. I have had 2 flings since then but nothing serious came out of the relationship .
I tried dating one guy I met through my best friend but the guy was just a liar as in a chronic liar and till today he's till with my N150,000. I borrowed it to him after he said his account was frozen and I later got to find out it was all lies so couldn't deal ,so I left.
My dear Stella i am confused because I don't know why I can't open my heart to anyone I participated in the second 'S n M' and majority of the guys that added me were too young so we just friends but nothing at all.
I met a guy sometime this year and he was like He wants to settle down but the guy brags too much talks about how His father knows this person, how he is related to the president etc he just sent me an invite for his wedding in December, so this got me thinking do I have a problem, am I still holding back because of my ex, abi it's a spiritual problem ( I have done deliverance ),i am so confused and sad I don't even know what to do anymore.
Thank you guys for taking out time to read my long story.
Please feel free to tell me your mind.
Hmmmm.....Some broken hearts will never mend,some memories will never fade,some tears will never dry but life goes on!
You are here lamenting and that 2010 guy who broke your heart has moved on.
Sit down and ask yourself why you are still chained to a spot.....you need closure?
No,you don't,you need to love yourself more so that when someone tries to make you feel less of who you are,it bounces back to them.If you do not love yourself,you cannot truly love anyone.
Forget those one night stands cos they add to the pain,it belittles you and makes you feel worthless.
If you must nack,wait till someone who loves you genuinely parts your thighs and then you will know what i mean..lol
This is my two cents and i dont need anyone agreeing with me.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
PASSING ON STD TO LE BOO
Good day Stella. I'm an ardent reader of your blog,been a bv for 2years now. Please i need your advice and that of your bv's on my issue.
There are two guys involved, guy A is a dude I've known for 4years during my uni days but he was abroad all the while and we started to date properly this year April when he came to Nigeria.
Guy B is a guy I met last year in my place of work. He's a nice guy, we got along well and became friends tho he was asking me out. Problem started when I began dating guy A,he gave me STD and it led to our break up.
I had to treat my self which I felt I' was free from already, 2 month after breaking up with him, I started to see guy B and we got along and he has been very nice and he's talking about marriage already with me. I snooped on his phone this night and I found out he had a discussion with his younger brother that is a Doc about having infection which has never happened to him before .
Stella I became weak and felt stupid, I know its just me he has been seeing and for him to say it has never happened before means Im his suspect of which I know I'm the one. The problem now is I feel so sad, I treated myself in a hospital and I felt I was clean already.
Stella should I confess to this guy about me being the one that infected him tho he has never confronted me before about it, or I should just lock up and be cool? Btw bvs please is there any drug or treatment I can use for this infection? I need your advice please . I'm so sad .
My dear why are you doing skin to skin?YOU DEY CRASE?
Even with all what you read and hear?S3X IS NOT FOOD ABEG!
Please you need to 'fess up so that both of you can be properly treated.It might cost you the relationship but at least you will know that you will be getting proper treatment.
If you do not tell him,you might pass it to him again and then the break up will be messy...I wonder the type of STD you gifted him.
All the best...Please ''fess up!
LOOK 'ATCHEW' ASKING FOR PRESCRIPTION WHEN YOU DIDNT TELL THE TYPE OF STD YOU HAVE.
Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteJoblesshpusewife
Please my fellow bvs what good phone can I get btw the range of 12k to 15k that browses well and how is the data charges like?
DeletePoster 1 please be patience love will surely find you ok E- hugs dear.
DeletePoster 2 practice safe sex.
Just get a blackberry bold 5or curve 8. It's between that price range. I subscribe daily, weekly or monthly
DeleteRelationship Wahala
DeletePoster 2, hmm u are the only one he's seeing n he hasn't confronted u, u need to reset ur thnkn
DeletePoster 2, hmm u are the only one he's seeing n he hasn't confronted u, u need to reset ur thnkn
DeleteYou can get Iphone6 or 6s . Ole Oshi. All those your specification on top 15k.
DeletePoster 2 Pls dnt mind Stella! Do not tell this guy o cos if he wz the one that gave it to u he will deny it. Just go n run another test n get treated. You probably reinfected ur self maybe frm ur toilet or undies. So, wut u do this tym is, 1 either change ur panties n tights or use boiled hot water n dettol to soak the undies. One full bottle of the small size of dettol will do.2, boil a full bucket of water, add the whole content of the second to the smallest size of dettol to the bucket of hot water n flush ur toilet. While u do this, make sure the toilet brush is inside the toilet. Don't lose this man cos of some stupid infection. Good men r scarce so, just keep ur secret.
DeleteMust u cuss jumy???
DeleteJumy I don't curse but u are very stupid. The person said a good phone that can browse and u r saying all this specification? Are u for real right now?
DeleteHahahaha....jumy easy na!
DeleteLol...which 1 is "fess up" again na?
DeleteSee, stella forget all these peeps forming prim and proper, the fact is that 95% of people drop regular use of condom after dating for 3months. You all can come and preach how u have dated 1 person for 3yrs and have never done skin to skin.
From this chronicle, once i ask a girl out, b4 she says yes we have to go 2 pathcare lab, shikena.
I will advise u nt 2 tell him anything except he asks u and then tell him you were properly treated and as such cant be responsible.
See, in as much as its even good ur conscience pricks u, am sure he would have confronted you if he has been seeing just u. So just go to a teaching hosp and see a gynae and then get treated again.
In fact, go and get tested and if you still have d std, tell ur bf you are feeling awkward and u wanna go see a dr. That way u both will get treated.
Poster 1... you dey craze! if you don't love yourself first, you will keep falling for the wrong people. Please come out from your shell. Very IMPORTANT ; please stop spending money on guys no matter the story they come up with. Una no dey learn? Start something new with your life...she'd some weight if you are on the plenty side, start going out with friends... learn how to bake, make clothes... just something new. I did same, it helped a lot and I met a few guys in the gym I registered. Hang out in good bars with friends. Try and stay cheerful.
DeletePoster 2- what's the name of the infection? Most infections are treated with broad spectrum antibiotics which is ok to an extent... but MOST times the simplest treatment is a drug that targets the particular organism. If only you say the name of the infection, I would help.
But na wa o... skin to skin is the bomb na... we all guilty of it.
DeleteChronicles!!!
ReplyDelete*******LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Idiot Emjay
DeleteMumu jealousy kill you
DeleteAnon 15:49 u're the idiot,emjay na I'm go kill you....azen
DeleteSenseless anonymous
DeleteUr blind mum.
DeletePlease, this is derailing from the narratives, but who knows a strong spiritual pastor? Please comment under this post with the persons number. Please, it's urgent. Thank you as you help a sister. God bless you and meet you in your time of need
DeleteStella please post, it's urgent
DeleteWhat has emjay done to you? Can you pls concentrate on yourself and stop hating? And for your info, I'm not a friend of emjay. I just like being anon but not to curse ppl out.
DeleteWhat kind of spiritual pastor are you looking at
DeleteAnon spiritual add me up. I can't leave my no. Here. 2BB53632. If u add me and u are not the psn i'll del u oo.
DeleteLeontief mind this daft em jay.....empty head...always coming to occupy space but can never say anything reasonable....dopemu, sugomu, mumunatu and odelicious
DeleteJust looking for new frds.....add me up 58dd8c6d....Judith
DeleteWill read comments
ReplyDeleteWe are together
DeleteBrb
ReplyDeleteNo comment abeg
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ReplyDeleteKronicles ti de
Ina zuwa
Poster 1 move on already, since 2010 for what na? For some dumb guy dat us already enjoying his life? .nawa
ReplyDeletePoster two : better listen to stella's advice wat is wrong with you people.jeez
You took the words from my mouth for poster 1.
DeletePoster 2, how can you have skin to skin when u r still treating yourself? You are a very wicked being and heartless. Now u ve given d poor guy STD.. I only hope the poor guy has not been donating "some" around too sha.
Ofcourse he has.
DeleteIs it not nigerian men? Randy paedophiles.
Theirs the rape gene embedded in their souls. Sex hungry donkeys.
Poster one there is nothing wrong with you, you have simply been meeting idiots it happened to me i stayed single till I met a great man in my thirties I am happily and calmly married now if you rush to marry any lying man you will suffer. Calm down when it's time you will not even ask questions.
ReplyDeletePoster two what is wrong with all you Nigerian women who have no love for themselves or respect for their bodies? Are you not scared of HIV? Why are you jumping around having unprotected sex? I am tired if all of this stupidity
Anon 15:05, you are very right on your advice to poster 1.I think what she needs to do is just stay on her lane, no dates nor loving.she shd love andd know more of herself and probably work on those loopholes she thinks she needs to work on.
DeleteI'm 31 today and I have only dated a guy all my life ( my first love) , I even find it hard to believe when i do the counting on the tips of my fingers.You can stay without a man, being with a man doesn't define you , you can love yourself first and it doesn't mean you are selfish, you can build your self - esteem and be who you want to be.you can meet fantastic guys where every other people believe there are no good guys out there, you can command all the respect a lady like you deserve and of alk you wont attract the bad guys but the best of the best of guys, why, because now you know your self- worth through God that strengthens you.
God bless you once again anon.15.05 and poster 1.
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteIf you close your toto, heartbreak no go come.
Try dating without sex.
Try smtn different from the norm.
You cant do same thing and expect a different result
Poster 2
I dey fear una wey dey skin-dive oh. shuoooooo
Yes, raw sex is sweet, but safety first.
As a guy, if I wanna feel raw, I will request for a blowjob and limit my exposure to orally translated diseases.
Although, to be frank, there are some people I will use raw for, even if I know they have HIV shaaaaaa..... hehehehe
Orally translated kwa
DeleteSee ur mouth like try dating witout sex..... Will ur type let her be?? U'd keep mounting pressure on her till she breaks.
DeleteFunny you
DeleteKikikikikikik no b small skin dive. I fear Dem pass u.
DeleteLooool.. ur love for kpanshing no fit pass ur love for urself jwo..
DeleteThere are some people i will use raw for,even if i know they have HIV
DeleteLike seriously?
Hmmmmmmm
I just don't understand this "if you no fuck. ..no heartbreak" fools like you say. Sex na be the love? My man and I have been together for 2 yrs without having Sex. If we break up today my heart no go fit take am o cos I love him even way more than the guy that gave me the best sex I have ever had. So bone that yeye talk of no Sex... no heartbreak.
Delete@Efe, dog wey go lost no go hear him oga whistle now.
DeleteLe'him make hin dey bragado
You do know you can catch herpes from blow jobs?. Herpes, though non life threatening, is incurable. Therefore you will pass it on to your poor wife.
DeleteGood luck with that
TRUE LOVE WAITS! Premarital sex causes chronicles, check it. Lack of trust, gbensh and run, broken hearts that can't mend, abortions or baby mamaism. Please don't listen to this Money makes guy, his type is the geek who's still a virgin and has grandiose dellusions of sex. " If you love me you go wait for me."
Delete@Poster 1, may God heal your heart, I think when you meet someone you truly love, you won't know how the feelings will come. Best of luck dear.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, after treating yourself, did you go for another test to ascertain you're free from the disease? Go for test and treat yourself again. But how to tell your man now is the issue
*Larry was here*
Wonders shall never end, these chronicles scares me alot. God please take control
ReplyDeleteWhat's so scaring about it?
DeleteHmmmmmmm
DeleteIt is 'scary' my dear. What is 'scaring' is your incessant gbagauns.
Very very 'scaring'.
Hahahahahaha, Anon you wicked gaan.My dear the gbagauns are just too 'scaring' mehn!!!
DeleteChronicle is here will be right back.
ReplyDeleteNawa o!
ReplyDeleteRaw Club people...how una dey do am???
Stella, I just think she should go and do thorough test and treatment and also use condom with the guy anytime till they both resolve the issue. I don't think is wise to tell him
ReplyDeleteLemme go with this ur comment since I don't have any
DeleteThe chronicles of life of Bvs hiding under Anonymous to cuss out. Jesus fix it.
ReplyDelete@ poster 1 you don't have any problem, u know what the devil does he uses ur fears to Mk things seem real, since u feel u have a problem, the devil will always Mk u believe so, pls have an open mind, love would find u, don't hold on to the past, let old things past, so u can forge ahead with ur future. U don't need any deliverance so don't think that, just work on ur self
ReplyDelete@ poster 2 some infections can be really stubborn, even wen u treat it seem not to go, the woman body is really open and prone to infection, try and go for another test to know what problem is remaining to take care of and know how serious it is before u involve him, u sure would be fine, its just taking the right medication and ur good.
Hmmmmm
ReplyDeleteLemme perch here.
DeleteMy advice,do not confess that u gave him that cos truth is he will think u cheated.its simple if he tells u abt it, tell him ok.Then,u tell him u both shud go to d hospital together to run tests n get treated.When u both do,d infection MUST be seen in both of u if rly it's btw u two.Frooooowwwwn cos it's possible he's also lying.Better play the victim cos some guys don't forgive women when they do wrong, forget all d I love u gist.
ReplyDeleteNa so
DeleteTrue talk
DeleteBest advise ever. Stella take time o. Tell him wat? U want to break the relationship finish abi?
DeleteHian...
ReplyDeletePoster 1,
It's not a must to have a boyfriend nau...the problem with you is that you don't meet the right people...
I think you should change your location...travel to another state and start up a new life there...
Poster 2,
You didn't state the name of the STD you have...
Don't confess anything...
Go to a good hospital and have your self checked!...
That's why I don't like Nigerian girls...the disease they share is 10 much...even the fine clean ones sef...
Ewwwww....
@queen : you think is easy 2 wake up and decide to relocate to another city?
DeleteYou 4 kuku tell am 2 change just location.
This is serious, but neva knew std differs? Anyway babe open up and explain everythg to him becos that's the best way u both can be properly treated. I wish u all best of luck
ReplyDeleteSTD differs.. it can be anything. . Std is jst a general name for sexually transmitted diseases
DeleteAt your age, you don't know there are different types of STDs, and I'm sure you're sexually active, na wa. Your phone is not just for sdk, Google is your friend, do some research.
DeleteI'm still baffled that you don't know there are different types of STDs!!!
Jenny
Hmmmmmmm,na wa o.Sin partners every where.People have refused to do things the right and godly way.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, please love yourself first and love will find you
ReplyDeletePoster 2, forget sustaining your relationship and tell him about it so that both of you can get treated.
@1, so u are one of d stupid women who lock up after a heart break, d guys dat left u are busy enjoying their lives with other women, no man wants to date a rigid woman like u, apart from ur body u do not ve any other thing to offer to a guy, relationship is not all about sex ok, keep mending ur heart break while u graduate to aunty gwegwe, I ve warned u girls never to keep one guy, u need 2-3 guys at a time to avoid stories like dis.
ReplyDelete@2, tell him u just noticed u ve toilet infection,u can say candida, but u did not mention the kind of infection u ve so how do we help u, keep nacking without condom.
Lol @2-3 guys. U be real werey. Hahahaha
DeleteIt's because of women like you I don't mind that all men are dogs
DeleteClassic bitch of life you be
ReplyDeleteGod I wanted to say something I swear but I broke down in laughter at Stella's 'I wonder the kind of STD you gifted him with'!!!! LMAO
@P2...no worry babe...there's luv in sharing!!!
ReplyDelete@P1...Do not give up until u've made ur last attempt. But more importantly, do not make ur last attempt...Until u've succeeded...my 7 Cedis on this!!!
Ghanaman signing out!!!
U don't always have hood things to say,ugly black goat shut up
DeletePoster 1 Hian, for close to 4/5yrs now, nne biko don't be offended o, are u ugly? I had to ask. U really to check urself out. And pls forget the flings jor, who no de do am.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 U are very stupid, are u a kid, HIV is seriously knocking on ur door. Pls don't ruin that wonderful guys life. Open up, talk to him and go to the hospital for serious checkup, they need to cleanse u abeg, the disease way u carry de very contagious....... make I shift
Imagine If na HIV u b don pass am on.... Sex is food! No one eat raw rice please stop playing raw and playsafe.
ReplyDeleteLol @ raw rice
DeletePoster 1 your life is at a standstill, you are still stuck in 2010 becos u never really got closure considering the fact that u still don't know why ur ex broke up with u, but like they say the way forward is forward so u have to love yourself like no one can ever love you even the bible says love your neighbor as u love your self that means for you to give love u have to be full of love, if u love and respect your self you send out the right vibes to guys and they knw they can't mess with this one. So my dear I think its time to move on as u have encompassed this mountain for too long, another thing is that having a bf or not is not the beigining or d end of the world you can always achieve greatness with or without a man.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 pls confess so that both of you can get proper treatment and remember Aids is real so abstain if not use a condom.
Y do girls still do skin to skin? What for? To keep ur man or Wat? Now you have infected the innocent guy. Rubbish u better open up to him so u guys will treat it together, u sef close leg must you do?
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1 CAN'T BE DOING "DELIVERANCE" AND DOING VAGINA AT THE SAME TIME. LOOK AT YOURSELF; YOU OPENED YOUR VAGINA TO GUYS AND THAT IS THE PROBLEM. ONCE SEX IS OUTSIDE MARRIAGE, THE GUYS GET FED UP SO EASILY. If you repent of these atrocities and close your legs, and get yourself occupied in learning the word of God about your being; reading your bible, you would find the reason why you are here on earth! You will find the right person that God has for you. But as long as you continue sharing your vagina, nothing girl; at least nothing godly.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: YOU SEE THAT THE PROBLEMS ARE SAME. SUPPOSING YOU CLOSED YOUR LEGS TILL THIS RELATIONSHIP YIELDED MARRIAGE; WILL YOU BE IN THIS MESS? That's one thing I learnt from LADY IGO on this blog. I closed my leg as soon as I entered another relationship. I made Christ my Lord and today, can you believe that I will be wedding in November. My bride price has been paid and we are having sex with every peace of mind; yes I am married as far as the law of God is concerned. If I get pregnant, now, nothing like abortion. I will wear my white with it. LADIES CLOSE YOU LEGS AND STOP SHARING VAGINA AND STDS; are you a distributor?
Abeg jor people have sex before marriage they still get married have kids and live happily ever after
DeleteSo if the sex is inside marriage dt 1 don guarantee say guy no go fed up abi wetin?? Na wash abeg.. if poster 2 had closed her legs till the relationship yielded marriage.. she wld still be in this mess.. just at a later time..
Delete@nina u just said my mind..u are so right
Delete@nina but her problem STI began from having sex outside marriage. So who's talking trash; aren't you?
DeleteNawa.
ReplyDeleteStella your advice to poster 2 just dey make me laugh. You go dey talk like say you be agbero yet your heart na puff puff.
ReplyDelete1. Nothing is wrong with you. You just haven't met yours yet. Believe God to give you yours and forget about the past. Move on! Your ex has already moved on so why are your still staying where he left you years ago? Babe be happy. Mix with people and feel good about you. All will be well.
Hmmmm no be small tin oooh, P1 so u havnt dated since 2010? I raise yansh for u ooooh. Damn I just got banged,I mean bad ass bang one of d best I av had. Can't imagin not dating for four years. I can't even see the keys on my fone due to how bad I got served. Lmao oya forget dat idiot and move on jare. Life is to short to live an unhappy life. #YGNL
ReplyDeleteShe said she haven't dated not that she haven't banged they are two different things
DeleteHope you dint forget to use a condom.. lol..
DeleteStella ko easy ra ra ooo, these posters are mentally drained they need advice and not bad words. Dear poster 1, please LOVE yourself without pity and poster 2, confess and get treated and move on.
ReplyDeleteposter 1
ReplyDeletelove urself and love will come to u in due time
lemme sing this celine dion song to calm u down:
*SINGING*
i can read ur mind
and i know ur story
see what u're going tru yeah
i'ts an uphill task
and i'm feeling sorry
and i know it will come to u yeah
don't surrender
coz u can win
in dis tin called love
when u want it the most
there's no easy way out
when u're ready to go
and ur heart is left in doubt
don't give up on urself
love comes to those who believe
and that's the way it is.
poster
poster 2 ,tell who????una dey try to dey open up freely o,you better deny
ReplyDeleteJesus,,, am tired of this StD too. This infection has refused to leave me alone... stomach pains every month. am tired pls anybody who knows an effective drug I can use should tell a sister. Am dying in pains.meanwhile have visited several hospitals and pharmaceutical shop but all has bn in vain. The last time I had sex was 7months ago because have decided to remain bfles untill am totally healed
ReplyDeleteTry using ginger and garlic
DeleteHow will I use that?
DeletePoster at late 20s u shud move on wit ur lyf and let by gones be by gone,pry to meet a gud persn n open up ur hrt for true luv wen one comes..Postr 2. evn afta gettin STD u stil do skin???TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeletePoster 1, move on already
ReplyDeletePoster 2, pls wait until you are asked then decide if you want confess. Don't add snooping to your list of sins just yet. He already knows he got it from you since you are the only one he is seeing so my dear lying is so out of it.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, u and only you alone can make yourself move forward. Babe 5 years is too long for you to still be killing yourself over a guy. Don't know what to tell you. Where are you from. Have a brother needing a wife. His specs: a lady from anambra, tall, working, age between 28-32. No cussing biko, that's what he wants. I consider him a good catch. Didn't want to send this here, but don't know how to help him anymore and he said I should help.
So snooping na SIN ? We learn every day oh
DeletePost ur email na
DeleteWorking-class wife abi? Kikikikikiki. Tell that your gold digging brother to remain single.
DeleteI'm interested, fit into the criteria, but ain't a 6 footer, drop an email, I'm recuperating from a heart break, I'm just sick and tired.
DeleteAnon 16:40, he is a very very comfortable that can feed his family without feeling it. No be bad thing if the lady get something doing after all na the reason we go skool be that biko. Na WA o
DeleteRichbee, am team snoop o but you know men hate it. That's why I called it a sin
DeleteI dropped it earlier, but I have done that again. If you don't see it, not my fault.
DeleteHmmmmmmm
ReplyDeletePoster 1, Since 2010? Y dwelling In The Past, Allow The Past to Remain In The Past, 1 of My X told me that, Anyway Love Has A Way Of finding Us, when the Right guy Comes knocking Every Part Of your Body Will Feel It, Just Relax And Enjoy your Youth.. It's Well
ReplyDeletePoster 2, just Try And Treat yourself, Finish
poster 2
ReplyDelete#AINTGOTMBFORU
continue fucking ur boyfriend skin to skin inugo
u want us to give u solution to an unknown S.T.D
Odinma!!!
Stella, we miss LADY IGO on this blog. Please call her out! And when you do, kindly tell her to get a blog ID this time. Whenever I read these chronicles I remember this lady's teachings here; ever consistent. a good look at these chronicles will reveal the fact that the problems of these ladies is simply "opening legs".
ReplyDeleteGirls, please DATING IS NOT THE SAME THING AS GIVING A MAN SEX. YOU CAN DATE A MAN WITHOUT SEX AND HE WILL RESPECT YOU. A MAN THAT WANT SEX IS NOT PLANNING MARRIAGE WITH YOU. YOU ARE JUST A "HOLE" WHERE HE RELEASES SEMEN WHEN HE WANTS TO.
If he practices withdrawal nko?? Atleast hes nt releasing in the hole.. lol.. #on a lighter note
DeleteI don't know who you are addressing. Is it people who already liky sex beyond comprehension. Is it ppl who want to go into marriage well armed with all the rudiments of sex both men and women. It they are criticised and made to carry the consequences of their actions rather than being pitied, they will learn
DeleteI have sisters and female relatives and I tell them the same things I say here. At the end of the day it is their necks at the end of the rope and so they run the risks not even the men
DeleteYoungman...you see the problem with we ladies is, we dont tell ourselves the truth and reality no dey for our dictionary. The day we start telling ourselves the truth (* not being told this time around*), then our problems are solved.
DeletePoster 2, the deed has been done okay, tell him about it n both of u should try n treat yourselves pls.....
ReplyDeletePoster 1, like what Stella said, try n love urself okay, it helps alot....... better man go come u hear nwayi oma.... hohohohoho
Lmaoooo.... "I wonder the type of std you gifted him" hahahahaha Stell's oooo
ReplyDelete@Poster if he hasn't confronted you, it means he's not sure of the exact source and if he's not sure, then you are not the only one he's sleeping with.
Una well done oo.
Poster 2,confess and seek treatment together with him.This is not the type of things u keep secret.
ReplyDeleteBut what were you thinking when u was doing it flesh to flesh?
Poster 2, don't let him know he got it from u. Just jejely go nd get treatment nd avoid sex wit him for now because even if u ask him to use condom it will look suspicious. Nd please next time u hv an STD go for confirmatory test after treatment.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm BRB to read comments
ReplyDeleteIf I talk now....please save yourselves chronicles and do *****************
ReplyDeletePoster 2: You & Le boo....una be learner? why skin 2 skin now? Since he has a broda dt z a Doc, just let him know BUT b4 u do, ope u'll be able 2 face d consequences.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Coupled wt Stella's advice, get up & walk out from ur past. Anytime d feelings come, listen 2 music, get urself busy n d rest will b history.
*****MhizDerbyViaIG*****
I will say she should mix with interesting people with great minds, I guess that's her problem and why she hasnt moved on yet. May God help her out, I pray.
Delete#look at me giving somebody an advice when I'm in the same situation but I know I will get there someday, ok bye.
Wetin be d name of the infection? If hospital cnt treat it,the name is staphylococus. Try yoyo bitters,gulp d whole bottle before ur menstruation,repeat it again in after ur menstruation. Make sure u do it. Thank me later.
ReplyDeleteWonders shall never end, these chronicles scares me alot. God please take control
ReplyDeletePoster 1, you have to let go of the past and move on. Sometimes we may not get answers to all our questions or understand why certain things happen. Simply learn from the past and move on. I have experienced what happened to you in 2010 before. Dude just woke up one day and said he doesn't love me again. Though we had our issues.. But I was willing to make it work and not take d easy way out. Bottom line is dude left. I was devastated, but I had to be strong and move on. Its been a year since then and I gat my groove back on. Your ex has moved on, so it no use being stuck in the past. Let go, love yourself and don't set your expectation too high. Quit comparing the new guys that would come into your life with your ex. Tie your leg like a mermaid.
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U can also try GOKO herbal drink if u dnt see yoyo bitters. Its d same prescription. This is for poster 2. Stop doing skin to skin oh! Its deadly. But its very important that u are clean of all infections.
ReplyDeletePoster1, nne love urself 1st, life's too short to be sad, someday u ll find love n happiness,
ReplyDeleteposter2. Pls open up to him n go 4 thorough treatment,
Dis our poster 2 gan! U broke up wit d first guy bcos of STD, u still went ahead to be having raw sex wit d new guy. Nawa o!! We all know (including all of una wey de form virgin for here) dat skin sex is heavenly but for someone like u who has had an STD, u shd hv been more careful. I hope dis time d case won't be dat he left u bcos u gave him STD
ReplyDeleteP1: I totally understand how you feel. Your ex broke up with you in such a way that left you thinking you must have done something wrong. Lemme break it to you: you did nothing wrong! He was a cheat, plain and simple!
ReplyDeleteI don't believe you need a man to be happy or fulfilled but the truth is, everyone wants to be loved.
You are in control of your happiness. You! Not your exes!
You need to make new friends, go out more, attend parties and weddings, join church groups etc. You need to believe that there's a man out there that God created specially for you and it's only a matter of time before he finds you. But please take note that Mr right is not a private detective and neither is he psychic! You can't be locked up in your house every weekend and expect Mr right to come find you.
P2. My dear, before you start a sexual relationship with a man, you both have to get tested. If you had , you would have found out that the infection wasn't properly treated. You both acted irresponsibly by not using protection. Did you ever stop to think that he may infect you the way your ex did ? Do you want more infections ? You should have learnt your lesson.
If you are going to be in a serious relationship with a guy it's necessary that you both register at a hospital where you can both get tested regularly. You need to use protection- Male and female condoms. You should always have yours with you whilst he has his with him.
Both of you should get tested again and abstain from sex while you receive treatment. It's bad enough you're having sex with your bf so if you can't protect yourself from infections it's best you go celibate. Don't complicate your life because of a man you may not have a future with.
No comment today bc am speechless!
ReplyDeleteOh Lord take control, i'm strong.
ReplyDeleteP1, dont worry just keep cool and be prayerful, love will find you. P2, Oh dear! How would you the tell your guy B this rubbish for crying out loud, damn......
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ReplyDeleteI don't think you have a problem.
You probably just need to take a step further in the positive direction.Love yoursef,go out,have fun, meet people,be happy,Live life! Things will fall in place. The right guy will find his way to you
Poster 2
I think you owe him that confession. Let him know u got yourself treated and u thought u were clean. I don't think this will cost u ur relationship. It's not like u were cheating right???
Btw,condoms aren't that expensive.
All ds break up stories don tire me.. what is with this 'I wanto die dere' syndrome.. poster 1 no be naija u dey oo.. abi dem dey freeze account for Nigeria??
ReplyDeleteIn all sha you avnt see some1 worth it.. imagine the guy you sed you met this year and hes sent you his invitation already?? Hin no waste time rara.. so please just chill so u dnt go bak to square 1..
Poster 1 let go and move on. It's 5yrs already and the guy will be enjoying somewhere. Try see a counsellor and know how it will go. Poster 2 sorry for yourself. Just negotdu . You are playing with your life and future. Please zip up till after marriage. You better tell the guy and don't let him know you saw his chat. Good luck to you
ReplyDeletep1,don't worry love will find you.Just be yourself,be happy and confident ok?
ReplyDeleteP2,babe did u do test after the treatment to confirm it? Anyway go do test sha make u confirm yourself...
This money makes you fuck a lot of women is a very big clown i swear..Hahahahahahahahahahaha..
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ReplyDeleteRather than agreeing to the truth and saving yourselves, women women keep on looking at the wrong stop. 'Why do skin to skin' tell me who this statement has changed or helped. How do all these narrator's and advicers alike jeep having pregnancies. For as long as women refuse to take responsibility for their actions they will continue in this vicious circle. The show you that men are ahead of women anyday anytime. Men know this but women refuse to accept. Now see this. The poster says she has std but didn't name it to know whether or not it came from her. STDs are gonnorrea, syphilis hbsg,HIV but go and check the lady in question has uti which anybody man or woman can get without sex. Although women are more prone to having uti because the their body nature having uti doesn't necessarily conote promiscuity. And so every man should rather see it as a sign if dirtiness for both sex's and have no one threatening the order. Babe if you asked them where you did the test mode of contact, you would be in a position to defend and free yourself. BTW when ppl they have not experienced this before I always ask it they have to experience something before, before experiencing it for the first time. So babe you may not be the source and 95% of you ladies out there have one uti or the order so chill.
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I want to ask you on behalf if other women.
1. If you have a relationship with a man and he dashes you a million and other gifts, you don't expect him to demand those when you break up but expect a man to pay to the last gift if he doesn't end up marrying you and you let the world know. Is it because for you as women it is not helping a friend but investing to make him have reason to marry you
2. When you want to enter a relationship do you always remember that the relationship might not lead to marriage and design means to avoid stories that touch
3. When you enter into a relationship, do also have the remote possibility that you may find him suitable but he doesn't find you suitable and so design a safety net in case he doesn't find you suitable eventhough you find him suitable. That is to say do you sew it as a 50_50 risk and so design a satey nest.
When you want to enter a relationship do you realise that as a matter of must all the goodies and niceties would not necessarily remain so downs the road either by design or circumstance and so design a safety nest.. If the answer to these questions and related ones in no then start to adopt them and see your agony at least reduce. If the answer is yes then you are the architect of your own misfortunes
Tell him u gave it to him nd u saw d chat nd ure kinda feeling guilty,dats d reason for d open up..... U can even tell him ow u got it nd treated it....
ReplyDeletePoster 2 my sincere advice to you is "DONT CONFESS" and if you do, it might cost you the relationship.
ReplyDeleteNOW WHAT TO DO;
Since he has contacted it ,now start complaining to him that you've been feeling /having stomach ache for 2wks(pls let the no of weeks be counted after the text msg you saw...let it be like 3wks or even a month after before you start complaining)...be worried,he might ask you to go to hospital or you tell him you wanna go see a doctor. if you go alone don't hesitate to show him your result,and by ths he would tell you he had same problem and if he didn't tell you just persuade him to go see a doctor too since it's an infection. And that you both needed to be treated.
May God heal you
Mschewww, how much is condom again? If it was hiv nko? Rubbish!
ReplyDeleteContinue to go for deliverance could be spiritual husband. And be open to other men.
Poster 1: My darling sister, please "get the shackles off your feet" it's time to mingle and have a life mbok, truly it's not easy loosing someone you've really loved but think about it, this guy is somewhere having the fun of his life.
ReplyDeleteSweetie, dust your shoes, go out with your friends, movies etc you'll sure find someone who loves you. But first, you must love yourself and be free...
Poster 2: Ngwanu STD distributor if you know what's good for you better don't confess.
Once you confess, your relationship with the guy is over. As advised try to know the kind of STD you gifted the guy first.
Poster 1. Channel your energy to Better things. .. relationship might not be for you.
ReplyDelete2. Na you sabi
P2. My advise is that you go to the hospital first for check up before you start confessing. My ex one day told me he had sore on his gentials and i was like wat?? but i didnt have any of such. we went to the doctor and dey said he had herpes. guy said i gave him , i had to go back to the doctor and the doctor ask me if i was itching i said no and he asked if i had pains and a sore i said no. To cut the long story short 4 days later i started itching. the doctor finally told us that my ex contacted it first and passed it to me.if i didnt go to the doctor the idiot would have pinned it on me. Unfortunately der is no cure. PLS USE A CONDOM ALWAYS. i learnt mine the hard way.
ReplyDeletePoster one, Once upon a time, I thought and behaved like you.
ReplyDeleteWhen I get into a relationship, the guys end up coming up with one drama or the other and it will lead to break up. At some point, I started believing something was wrong with me. Finally it resulted to me having low self esteem to the point that, I compared myself to a small kid. That was how worst my life became. Do you know what? I met this friend of my who started talking to me and advising me. The guy told me how nice, smart, beautiful, and charming I was. He said, why will you let someone treat you that way? You deserve better. I also got an advise from a married woman in my office. She told me, do you know how beautiful you are? you are so smart. why let just someone whose life can be taken at any moment treat you like trash. Please move on with your life and some day, someone who truly knows your worth will love and treat you better. I listened to their advise and started living my life from afresh though it wasn't easy. Not long enough, my hubby surfaced. His one man I will love to marry if I'm to return to this world again. He made me see the hidden talents in me and made me embrace my nature. (the real me)
Please, turn to God. His the only one that can heal and restore you. I did so much prayers especially fasting and midnight prayers. You have to pray against spirit of rejection, shame, disgrace, backwardness, frustration, and lust. You can't leave urslf empty if not, you will continue to feel empty inside of you. "If you have Christ, you have everything". Please turn to God now and see him do signs and wonders in your life. Embrace yourself and tell yourself you are better and can do better.
Wish you the very best....
Peaceful and Encouraging Wife.
Poster one, Once upon a time, I thought and behaved like you.
ReplyDeleteWhen I get into a relationship, the guys end up coming up with one drama or the other and it will lead to break up. At some point, I started believing something was wrong with me. Finally it resulted to me having low self esteem to the point that, I compared myself to a small kid. That was how worst my life became. Do you know what? I met this friend of my who started talking to me and advising me. The guy told me how nice, smart, beautiful, and charming I was. He said, why will you let someone treat you that way? You deserve better. I also got an advise from a married woman in my office. She told me, do you know how beautiful you are? you are so smart. why let just someone whose life can be taken at any moment treat you like trash. Please move on with your life and some day, someone who truly knows your worth will love and treat you better. I listened to their advise and started living my life from afresh though it wasn't easy. Not long enough, my hubby surfaced. His one man I will love to marry if I'm to return to this world again. He made me see the hidden talents in me and made me embrace my nature. (the real me)
Please, turn to God. His the only one that can heal and restore you. I did so much prayers especially fasting and midnight prayers. You have to pray against spirit of rejection, shame, disgrace, backwardness, frustration, and lust. You can't leave urslf empty if not, you will continue to feel empty inside of you. "If you have Christ, you have everything". Please turn to God now and see him do signs and wonders in your life. Embrace yourself and tell yourself you are better and can do better.
Wish you the very best....
Peaceful and Encouraging Wife.
@Poster 1: This is what I have to say:
ReplyDelete1. Own Your own Happiness: You need to learn to make yourself happy,by loving yourself first bcos nobody is going to make U happy until U learn to own Ur own happiness,be responsible to be the one to bring joy to Ur heart .
2.Challenge your own story: Change the way you talk to yourself, e.g, I deserve best and best the best, Life is beautiful, I am the best of God created for his glory, I stand out, I'm worth more than a one night stand, if you don't tell yourself that your worth something nobody will etc.
3.Enjoy the Journey: Like I always tell pple don't delay your happiness know matter the situation you find yourself count it all Joy. don't wait for a man to enjoy life. My dear single hood is not a curse, I tell you enjoy your single hood while it last,enjoy wat you do,and learn to have fun without a man, my dear celebrate all along the way etc.
4.Make your Relationship Count: the most valuable relationship is your relationship with God and it must count, then your relationship with others come,like family,friends etc.
5.Lastly, Balance work with Play; Always make out time for yourself to have fun.All the best dear.
if the std you had was herpes den there is a 100 percent chance you gave him. cause there is no cure for herpes. it remains in the blood, thereby coming and going. some people have it and it may not manifest for a very longggggggggggggg period of time. it is not deadly but it can be very annoying especially when it manifests. comes as a sore around the vagina but clears within days. when it manifests as a sore, is when it is infectious but after it clears you cannot infect your partner.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 move on already, let a past behind u..love urself & love will surely locate u..
ReplyDeletePoster 2 may Jehovah Elohim fix it for poster 2...
Poster 2, I agree with Salt E.
ReplyDeletePlease don't open your mouth to confess anything to him oh! Is like you don't value your relationship any more. Just go on your own and get treated asap.
I don't know your place of residence but if you live in Abuja, go to Path care lab at wuse2, Abuja to do swap test. I guess that's what they call it. Better still meet a doctor who will assist you in writing down the names of test you should do and bring it back to him for further treatment.
I would love to introduce you to our family doctor who can help you but I'm not sure if he will be comfortable speaking with a stranger. The guy is super good. He has been tested and trusted. Just in case you want to speak further with me, drop your email ID. I will pick it when I come back to read comments.
Play safe okay? Remember to play the victim, if not, that guy go use you do yeye. Form not knowing anything. Speak only when you are asked to speak and not speak when you haven't been asked to speak. Hope you understand where I'm coming from?.
Peaceful and Encouraging Wife.
Poster 2, I agree with Salt E.
ReplyDeletePlease don't open your mouth to confess anything to him oh! Is like you don't value your relationship any more. Just go on your own and get treated asap.
I don't know your place of residence but if you live in Abuja, go to Path care lab at wuse2, Abuja to do swap test. I guess that's what they call it. Better still meet a doctor who will assist you in writing down the names of test you should do and bring it back to him for further treatment.
I would love to introduce you to our family doctor who can help you but I'm not sure if he will be comfortable speaking with a stranger. The guy is super good. He has been tested and trusted. Just in case you want to speak further with me, drop your email ID. I will pick it when I come back to read comments.
Play safe okay? Remember to play the victim, if not, that guy go use you do yeye. Form not knowing anything. Speak only when you are asked to speak and not speak when you haven't been asked to speak. Hope you understand where I'm coming from?.
Peaceful and Encouraging Wife.
Anonymous with PID:I'm a Dr.Please dont go to any hospital.GPs and MOs at General hosp and spme private hosps mightnt know how to handle you.Please visit any teaching hosp or FMC close to you and ask specifically to see a gynaecologist.God bless
ReplyDeleteDat anonymous dat needs a fone between 15k I av a z10 hubby got me a new one won't b needing d z10 again if u r down lemme knw
ReplyDeleteDat anonymous dat needs a fone between 15k I av a z10 hubby got me a new one won't b needing d z10 again if u r down lemme knw
ReplyDeletewhere's your location and hope it's in good condition?
Deleteposter 1: you need Jesus!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: since I do not know the kind of STD you are having, am gonna prescribe anywaYS: GO TO A GOOD HOSPITAL!!
Girl please if my so called high horse take friend can call me a Prostitute. The fact she posed as a true confidant. That's the last lesson I learn in life. In my lowest moment she insulted me.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 love yourself seek for counsel in a clinic and God will guide you to the right wisdom. I mean the help I got at clinic and explanation brought me to tears . I was touched by their kindness and compassion. I am able to recover and be a better me. Please don't confide in your beau and how many body counts.
@ poster 1 life is too short to dwell on a heartbreak, shake it off move on and you will get the best. Poster 2 *speechless*
ReplyDeletePoster 2 it would have helped if you mentioned the name of the infection. If it is a viral infection they never go away; they only subside and can reoccur throughout your life time. Unfortunately they can be passed on this way too. Wait for him to confront you, only then should you mention it to him and then both of you can get treatment. Goodluck.
ReplyDeletelool poster 2 please you have to tell your boyfriend about the infection if not you do not love him and you are not concerned about his health and safety. Just do small drama, before he comes back from work start looking sad and gloomy, keep the act for like three days. Then on the third day when he is still begging you to tell him what is wrong, tell him your ex of several several months ago (long before you met him your bf) called you and told you he has been trying to reach you since the break up and you have not wanted to listen to him because you were truly done with him. Anyways you finally picked your ex call and he told you he just tested positive for some STD and STI and he was told to reach out to people he has slept with within one year so they can get tested. Make sure your acting is convincing and cry very well.
ReplyDeleteYou are welcome
Poster one I have forgotten you story. Oh about not been able to move on from 2010 guy. Sorry about this please date yourself for now. Take yourself out, spend on yourself, don't be hard in judging yourself, love yourself, buy clothes for yourself, buy icecream and make up yourself until you meet someone, and if it doesn't work go back to dating yourself. Even if it works sometimes spend time caring for yourself just to refresh things. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness.
Stella I have finally gotten my blog id clap for me
Baby girl doing baby girl things.
STELLA stop encouraging single /unmarried ladies to "part their thighs". Sex is within the confines of marriage. Sex outside marriage never brings peace it only brings chronicles for your blog; except that is what you want these ladies to do.
ReplyDeleteOh lawdddd....tired of chronicles
ReplyDelete@poster 1, nothing is wrong with u. Clear ur mind of that mentality. Deliverance kwa!!! My dear, don't be that desperate. Love urself like stella said and allow love find u. Stop worrying.
ReplyDelete@poster 2, B4 u fess up, go to the hospital and do test and find out what you have so u will know if u are the one @fault. Stop treating infections without knowing what it is. How can u just ask someone for infection drugs and start taking it like that. Go for test!!!!!
Poster 1 please stop looking for love in others when you have not loved yourself. The way u see and treat yourself is the way others will see and treat u. Fall in love with yourself...treat yourself right...surround yourself with positive people and think positive all the time....guide your thought careful. Just when u are busy loving yourself.....the right man will find you.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 hold on to God alwys pray nd love urself. H poster 2: go to hospital for Anoda test but don't confess cos it wil cost u ur relationship
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