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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

SAD WIFE

 Hello Stella

Please i need your advice and that of my fellow bvs regarding this issue that has been bothering me. I know most women think its only natural for men to cheat but its better imagined than experienced. My husband has been acting funny for the past one week and is always so quick to call me stupid and what have you at the slightest provocation and that made me really sad cos it was getting too much and most times uncalled for so i just decided keep to myself and give him some space. 

So two days ago on my way to use my bedroom bathroom i overheard my husband talking on the phone with another woman,sounding so sweet and telling her loving words that i can't even remember the last time i heard such from him to me.I didn't even act like i heard anything at first but i coudnt take it anymore and decided to confront him and he said does it mean he's not allowed to have female friends and that he wasn't cheating but since i was accusing him falsely he would show me what its like to be with a cheating husband and that he would make me pay for stopping him from making love to me (he was on top of me trying to slide it in before i confronted him). 

To my surprise the next morning when i greeted him he said i shouldnt bother making breakfast for him or ever cooking for him again,and ever since then he's been living on noodles and eggs which he makes himself and has not spoken a word to me. Last night he didn't even come back home which he has never done before,even as i type this mail this afternoon he's still not back.

The most painful part is the way he keeps malice with ease,i have begged and begged him that no matter the issue he shouldn't keep malice as this really breaks my heart and makes me sad but all to no avail,he even includes our 3 month old baby in the malice and acts like the child doesn't even exist. In all honesty i am fed up but whenever i remember its my second marriage i just keep calm and tolerate it all since am so scared of people laughing at me and also don't want my little child to grow up without a father. 

I know what it took me to walk out of my first marriage after all i passed through from him and his family,i was even labeled barren not knowing the fault was from him ,if not for the fact that i had no child in that marriage i probably would still be there dying in silence. Please fellow bvs that have gone through this kind of experience from a cheating arrogant husband how did you handle it?

HIAN!...Let me pass this cos i have no idea!

But the time you confronted him sha is the time they refer to as blowing whistle during football match..hahahahahahahhahaha

He was about sliding it in and you shocked him....lol

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

BECOMING AN EMERGENCY SINGLE MOTHER

Hi Stella 

 To the point I have been married for 6years with 3children now. I got married early my hubby wasn't an angel but he made me the envy of all he took good care of me even b4 we got married. After our wedding all was well but he lost his Job 3years after our wedding by then we had 2kids and I wasn't working my parent were all at home when I say all I mean all from house rent to kids fees to feeding to hospital bill etc my hubby started having low self esteem if I complain about any thing like him coming back late at night, drinking smoking etc he will feel am challenging him or complaining because my parents are the ones taking care of our home which isn't true. 

Fast forward to the fourth year my parents felt it isn't proper for a father and husband to stay jobless they gave him money for business 2months after he closed it down complaining its not moving and till today I don't know where the capital is because he doesn't pay for anything at home, he had an accident ,my parents gave him enough money to fix it till today havent seen the car or know what he used the money for.

 Stella if I want to write the things he has been given money to do and he hasn't done it and also can't account for it you'll read till tomorrow our major problem is (1)physical abuse beating and choking me at a slightest provocation even when am pregnant or nursing a baby I have marks everywhere in my body as proof,(2) heavy drinking, (3)smoking, (4)keeping late nights (5) not being able to account for money(6)overboard jealousy.I suspects he gambles but I don't have proof because this year I realized his people have been given him huge amount to support our home and he has never told me about it nor spend it at home nor spend it on himself.

During this period I realized I was pregnant and since abortion wasn't an option I kept the child it was pains from day one story 4another day. During this 6years of our marriage have gone back to my parents house countless time. My parent feels am too young to be a single mother so the always call for a meeting and settle when I go back he gets worst.now he threatens me with machete anytime we have an argument and promised to keep a permanent mark on my body.

Two weeks ago I went to buy something when I came back I saw him on the street in front of our house with machete he dragged me from the road to the house he choked me but thank God he didn't use the machete on me, 2days after that he poured sand on every corner of the house at night, I knew something was wrong that was when I knew I had to leave and never look back.

 I moved to my parents house and i am still there but checking for an apartment to stay because its too far from where I work. Out of fear I met a lawyer told her everything because I want a restraining order so that he won't harass me where ill live or at work because I know he will do it. 

To the single mothers on this blog please I need advice how did you do it because am not gonna lie am afraid because since he's not working the lawyer said if he were to be working the court would have ordered him to paying me a certain amount every month but now nothing can be done on him to provide and my job isn't paying too well am so afraid raising this children alone but i will never go back because life is one and he believes I don't have a choice than to go back to him because according to him I have 3kids and no man will ever look at me again but the funny thing is I don't even look like I have a child .

please I need advice on how to move on with life because I have thought about suicide countless times but the pity and love for my kids won't let me.

 I need advice no insults please 

thanks.

stella please don't post my ID thanks.

Single mothers or anyone ever gone thru this please advice her..or anyone else who has something tangible to say.