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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE.

Dear Stella, 

I will summarize my story and bring out the points.

I met my fiance last October and by March we were engaged in a very dramatic way. I saw my ex on the way and he begged to drop me at home, I obliged cos I stood at Obalende for long without a bus.

 My fiancé was already on my street to pick me to where his friends had gathered at Surulere Mall for the proposal which I wasn't aware of. Long before then, he had planted people on my street to watch  my movements and they didn't fail in giving him reports. They had informed him that I just entered the street in a car which made him hasten to my house. As I was alighting from the car, I alighted into his arms... he shouted and gave me slaps and all. After everything, the proposal happened the next day at the hotel with just the two of us. 

Ever since then, he monitored my every move, planted more people to watch me, became annoyingly jealous and possessive. He had my driver's phone number at work and my other colleagues such that if I didn't pick once, he would call the driver and every other person to find out where I was and if truly I was closing late whenever  I informed him that I would close late.

Sometimes when he calls and I don't pick in time, he would cuss me when I pick that I'm the most foolish person he has ever seen, that God would punish me and it would not be well with me. 

When I'm in a meeting at work and can't pick, he would so cuss me out and keep calling ,leaving me with 50missed calls‎ or more. He would say that even if I am with the president, I should always pick his call. When I go for presentations with my boss, his phone rings and he doesn't pick, na me go come dey pick call cos I get fiancé. Mind you, I would have informed him that I ws going for the meeting. 

If I get calls, he would ask me to put on speaker and then put words into my mouth on what to say‎. He succeeded in chasing all my friends away and other good people around me. He accused me of sleeping with my church members and someone I don't even know on his street. We once went to a fast food joint and before you know it, he got upset and asked to leave. I had to rush my food and followed in silence cos he shouted when I asked what's up. On getting home, he said I was looking at a guy and wanted to sit close to the guy. I was dazed and dumbfounded cos I didn't even see or know the guy in question. 

Any time we had issues, he would go to my family and his to report that I sleep around and still dating my ex which is not true. He would call me a prostitute and every other insult he thought of. He had trust and insecurity issues. Most of all, low self esteem cos I had a good job that paid more than his, I had dreams and aspirations that I never failed to pursue (I supported him in every way). I have the largest share in the house rent. I spent everything I had putting the house together and habitable since we were getting married.

 When I mentioned that I wanted to go for my masters and write other professional exams, he got upset and said he was leaving that I should decide if it's marriage I want or masters. I told him that my life musn't come to a halt because I'm getting married that all I want to do will also benefit our family. 

On June 10th this year, 7 days to my birthday, he beat me to stupor over jealousy that a married man on his street was fu***ng me which wasn't true. I have only seen the man once in my life and cannot even recognize him if I see him. He begged, I forgave and we settled but kept having same issues which we settled as it came.

I had issues at work and my appointment was terminated last Friday. My ED wanted to get under my skirt and did not succeed, he then decided to set me up by lying on me which resulted in the sack.

Monday morning, my ex called to inform me that my boss said I should return the company's laptop with me personally and not send someone and I should bring it before 10am. Please note that My ex was the one who gave me the job cos he's my MD's friend and was also my guarantor (I worked there before, during and exactly one year after NYSC). My MD reported the case to him which made him call me. When my fiancé  saw the call, he picked and put it on speaker. 

when I spoke, he said he would call me back that he was driving and just wanted to try if my number would go through. I called back on my fiance's  instruction. My ex gave the info but my fiancé still insisted that that was not what he wanted to say that we had planned to see when he was off to work. My God! Before I  knew it, he smashed the same laptop I was asked to return before 10am and started to beat me that I should leave his house that I'm a prostitute. All because my ex called to give an information.

 I have injuries on my arms, ‎serious body pains and constant headache from blowing,slapping and pushing. He was dragging me by my hair and said he would kill me and know one would know that he did. Also, that he would bury me inside his room then run to Europe.  

He has his good parts which I love except for this anger, jealousy, trust and insecurity issues. Neither am I saying that I'm a saint too but trust me,‎ I am not troublesome, He testifies to that always.

The issue now is, He has been begging and wants us back but I'm deeply hurt cos of the two times serious beating, the allegations and lack of trust. He said I should take whatever legal sanction against him and report to the domestic violence agency if he tries it again.To be honest, I love him very much and our traditional wedding was slated for this month end. I do not wish to continue which  I've informed my pastor and my guardian. 

I need my fellow BV's to slap and speak sense into me. I had to go to my uncles place at Abuja to rest since I'm now jobless,  with no fiancé and wedding called off. Mind you, I have spent all my savings on the wedding plans.I need serious advice on what to do. Do I take him back cos of his promises or move on?

I've relocated to Abuja to search for better opportunities. 

Please don't cuss me out cos I'm seriously broken now, coupled with the fact that I've been orphaned since I was 18 years I'm now 28yrs and been the one fending for myself and sponsoring my younger brother in school, he's in 300l now.

Thanks for giving me this platform to fully express myself Stella Bae. I have not informed my immediate family ‎of this issue and my decision yet.

Warm Regards

You love him?then why dont you love yourself?if you didnt you would be hanging out with that 'Toilet paper' of a man!

Donr go back to him otherwise your life would be full of chronicles and you might not survive the next beating.

Any man who raises his hand against you is not a man but an animal,so why marry one?

Walk baby.....WALK AND DONT LOOK BACK!