Hmmmmm...Na wah!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
TORN BETWEEN TRAVELLING OR STAYING
Hello Stella,I am an ardent reader of your blog,although a passive one I hardly comment but am addicted to your blog.Great job you are doing and thanks for the platform you created to share to pour out our minds.
I will try to cut my long story short.Am a young girl from a broken home.My mum works her ass of to see we are doing fine I and my brother,but she remarried.She badmouths my dad so much calling him all sort of names that he left us,his irresponsible this that.
I will try to remove sentiment from this post as much as possible.Despite all this I don't hate my daddy.He comes to see us once a while,his irresponsible though but still gives me little money at times but he lies a lot.
Have fought and grew strong not having my two parents around living from house to house.I battle with low self-esteem.
My mom just provide that's all and lately she has developed an habit of telling me to meet my dad.I find it difficult to feed at times because she tells me she doesnt have,unless am dancing to her tune like she sent me to learn a trade I don't like...Ehnehn!she can give me transport at times when am in school she says no money for the month.It takes the grace of God to be contented.I have suffered a great deal.
She always said my daddy left us but my dad said she took us away and he was financially handicap and could do nothing.Its a long story I don't want to bore you with.The issue now is i am to travel to meet her abroad in few months time and am confused.The terms are I will deny my biological father at the interview because my step daddy is the one that filed for me.
I think that will be the end of me seeing my daddy and who knows if I will change my name too.Note:my step daddy is financially okay and a nice man but what if the tables turn tomorrow,am not his blood.Maybe am thinking too far what if am molested sexually.I think my mum is being shortsighted.what if things go wrong am not praying for that but what if?
The second one is concerning my career,I wanted to be in art but I was forced to go to science.My mum wanted me to become a doctor because of the prospect and money that comes with it.I was doing well but secretly switched to art.She rained fire and brimstone and later finished by saying I will come to abroad and go back to science.Writing for me is my life,I want to study English and literary studies,but in my Jamb this year I was forced to pick law by her threatening me she won't pay my fees if I don't do law.
I can't run to my daddy but he supports me doing whatever I like because his irresponsible.He calls once in a while,at times I call he won't pick.
My question is should I travel,deny my dad and succumb to her wishes being a miserable doctor or lawyer?or stay back and follow my heart.Take note I don't have any financial backup except my mummy.
She might disown me if she gets to know of my plan.You know the way jobs are these days in Nigeria.I aim to be a successful person but your certificate this days is not the yardstick anymore.Even if you have a first class where is the job.Stella and fellow readers please help your confused younger sister.
Smally relax,your mind has been so messed up...Concerning your father,if he cant help you now,i think you should accept whatever help your step dad is offering for a better life.You can always go back to look for your dad later when things are okay with you.
Just accept your mother's terms for now and start saving from the little you are given,you can always change later and follow your dream but right now you are dependent on her and if you follow advice that backfires no one will be there to suffer with you..just play along for now..this is my two cents oh.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE EVIL THAT MEN DO ......
Good day Stella,
I'm an ardent reader though I comment under anon most times. I have an issue (don't we all?). There's this guy I've been seeing for about 7 months and he's crazy about me. He's a good listener, a good friend and a strong Christian. I actually met him in church. He wants me to marry him and keeps making me know how important I am to him and how special I am.
The only issue is that he confessed that he used to be a dreaded cultist when he was in school, and even though he never murdered, he had been involved in gang wars and that scares the crap out of me. Now he's born again and has denounced all that and I know that if God has forgiven him.
Who am I not to?
But I need to know, do people ever get away Scott free from cultism?
Are there generational curses attached?
Advice please, I'm drowning
Bae make i read comments on this one!
Just Negoduuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!
ReplyDelete**********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS***********
Poster 2: Let me say yeah it is difficult to completely denounce your membership.
DeleteLet me share my sincere experience without bias. Two years ago, a dedicated Muslim brother was murdered in our area by unknown gun men.
We later heard that he was a member of one of the cult groups back then in school.
I keep wondering why can't he be forgiven, haven graduated from school for the past four years, married with a daughter.
We do all see him as q committed and dedicated someone, but they never spare him of his past wrong deed in school.
So kindly sit back and read people's opinion.
See: Deadly Mistakes You Must Not Make In Life
That second chronicle was brought here sometime ago!
DeleteAre we in recycling era?
No comment jare!!!
My bff that married her cultist husband just died. Reasons unknown and undisclosed. Best wishes!
DeleteNB she has had children for him. Just saying.
Poster one haven't you heard the saying that he who pays d piper dictates d tune?
DeleteYa mama holds d mullah now so dance to her tune.
Beta negodu at poster 2
DeleteNarrative 1... Please take the opportunity given to u now. If u eventually study abroad u can major in law and still take courses on your writing and all. Please dont let this opportunity pass u by. Your father will always be your father no paper can change that !
DeleteNarrative 2... Pray with him and let your mind be at rest. Even people that weren't cultists have their own battles to fight. At least u know what you are getting yourself into , what if he didn't say anything .
First bv...plz follow ur step dad and stop being confused
DeleteSeconf bv....pls move on and forgive and marry ur bae
Here is how immigration system works! Do not lie that your step father is your real father. First of all 1. You will get denied. They will request DNA sample confirming he is your biological father. If you fail, you may be banned from that country for Life
Delete2. In the future, if you get through using your step father as your real dad, you can never come back and say this is your real dad and you want him to visit or you file for him. Once you make that admission, your papers can be revoked for initially Lieing on your first application and it will lead to DEPORTATION.
Now: Honestly, you have to follow what your mum wants for now but it has to be done in Honesty and Truth. The best way to go about it is since your mum is now living abroad I assume legally and has already been filed for by your step father. WAIT FOR HER TO BECOME A CITIZEN and then she files for you directly.
DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT do things illegally for the sake of your future. it might take longer but trust me you don't want any thing that will backfire later on.
In the mean time, keep peace with your mum, dad and step father. Compromise and meet your mum half way, study one of the options she is requesting for, when you reach the country they are trying to file for you, you can do whatever you want and there is nothing anyone can do then, go back study English or whatever, live where you want. You don't need to worry about being sexually molested trust me, there are severe consequences that your step father would not be willing to loose so much. He is only offering to file for you out of the goodness of his heart and the love he has for your mother. But diplomatically turn it down and request that they should please wait till your mum becomes a citizen, mean time you will be developing yourself in the direction your mum wants until she is ready. You will remeber this advice in the future
#Based from my immigration experience
Rubbish advice!
DeleteVery Very RUBBISH advice!
DeleteI noticed that too Potable Viv. I remember the 2nd chronicle vividly. It actually felt like a dejavu experience while reading it.
DeleteHow is telling someone not to lie a rubbish advice! that is her step father. Except if he legally adopts her and she has to been below a certain age to qualify
DeleteWhich kain yeye advice is dis anon 17:24 giving sef?!!. So she shld wait till when her mum has a citizenship permit till she accepts?!!! What if it takes years before she gets it..
DeleteI can agree with you small on the part of her not making her step dad her father paper wise But in a situation where that's the only way(not too sure how they are going about her own case) out in bringing her, why shouldn't she take it..afterall its all for a better life and like u said both her step father and mum mean well for her and making her life meaningful. ..
Pleaseee poster ignore the "DONT DO IT TILL UR MUM HAS HER CITIZENSHIP"part this anon mentioned and the "DONT ACCEPT HIM AS YOUR FATHER PAPER WISE"..everyother one u can take with a pinch of salt.
Meanwhile if I were u ild take this opportunity, do as ur mum says, knowing that uld get a better chance of studying what you love when u get there (maybe after some years sha), get a better life and help ur dad in any little way u can in the future...good luck
Stella is repeating chronicles?
DeleteEnh?
ReplyDeleteMy dear just tag along. My parents cldnt do anything for me when I was in school. But Today there is so much love go round.. Just stay focused and determined.
DeleteThis immigration officer up here,stop scaring this lil gal jare!there are always ways around these things,haba!see as u dey cut warning like chief judge.#rme
DeletePoster1,inasmuch as u try to portray ur mum as nagging and domineering,i feel she means well for u!abroad,nursing occupation is abt d most lucrative,and u should tank God she remarried a gud man dat is ready to help,so?all these ur talk is cos u feel u will miss ur biological dad, obviously u have a bond with him already from d undertone of ur writing !hes semi_responsible so all he can offer u is to bad mouth ur mum and make u feel he can always let u have ur way!but wat u should ask urself is does he care abt wat happens after u have ur way'?he doesn't give a phuck!abi is he not d same man dat picks ur call wen he likes?hehe!becareful my dear and reason with ur head and not emotions.
Go make something out of ur life,den it's ur dad dat will look for u before u look for him.remember Delish of Bigbrother africa abi?...a word dey say is enuf for d wise!
Negodu! Just negodu
ReplyDeletePoster 2, what sin does not have repercussions? Have you not committed sin before? He has repented and that's the main thing. We live by grace Romans 6:14. He has reconciled with God so His grace will keep him.
DeletePoster 1, for now you're under your mum so just obey her and get a good life. When you're of age you will go back and look for your father
N1; you really need that English and Literary studies in your life. Considering your dad won't be responsible for your upkeep you just have to follow your mum. N2: if he has left the cult completely, turned to Christ and is now a new being, then you can go on with the relationship. What if he didn't tell you about it? You guys can relocate sha, leave the town. If he is sure he didn't "hit" anyone, no one will hit him.
Delete
ReplyDelete*spreads dollar crested rug*
The Chronicles is here
Slim Shady is here to read comments
Lemme go bak n read d chronicles!
Brb
Poster one you are between the devil and the deep blue sea. Sadly most adults are so childish and you ended up with two kids as parents.
ReplyDeleteYou don't have a choice that I see now except do what your mother wants your father is unreliable as it seems.
Poster two don't you have your own past? People like you make honesty a crime
Poster 1: Tread with caution. Use your education as much as possible to manipulate your mommy and daddy. How harder would it get before you use your BRAIN!
ReplyDeleteerrm poster 2 LoL... The dude is even open minded with you. Can u imagine? And you still don't trust him? Why are their so many females cat walking with trust issues... Hmmmmmph.
Lmao @catwalking with trust issues...males self are dogwalking with trust issues even more than females.I've pledged never to be 100% honest ever again!
DeleteThere*
DeleteP2, he who has not sinned should cast the first stone. You are afraid of the consequences of being a cultist, whatbof the consequences of fornication, lying, gossiping, hiding under anon to abuse bvs?All na sin. My sister, nobody holy pass abeg. Marry him if you are sure he will give you peace and will not go back to his former ways.
ReplyDeleteDo u even think at all? Cult and fornication na the same? Belonging to a cult alone attracts enemies. Ha! Use ur brain biko
DeleteYou should read and understand..she isn't talkin about it being a sin,she is asking if it can come back to hunt him.
DeleteIt's not about him going back to his former ways. It's about his life. He may be killed long after he has denounced. I know a guy who was killed on his wedding day. Long after he graduated from school. It was later gathered that it's was his former cult members that killed him. Cultists never take likely to their members denouncing.
DeleteNo hun they ain't dsame. Now let me tell u something, there re some sins that attracts instant punishments while some might not be instant but surely not avoidable. Murder, Rape, Stealing etc which re all found in d daily life of a cultist.
DeletePoster caution is the word. Always remember that sometimes love is not enough. Goodluck.
Poster 2...No No No No don't marry him. You will regret it, you will live in fear throughout your Life with him. It's in your Head....it won't go away. Remember 'Karma'
DeleteReading comments today.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you have sent in this chronicle before. Either you or Stella made an error in sending it in again.
ReplyDeleteU right, I thought I was the only one that notice it
DeleteI thought i was d only 1 dat has seen dis before o. Stella abi you don 4get say you don send am?
DeleteI noticed it too.
DeleteMeanwhile, the comments of BV's in the post of President buhari's speech is just 40! While IHN is 200 plus still counting. Hmmmnn Negodu o!
U r very right about sending this same chronicle before...
DeleteIts not the Same one!!!! Similar but not the same....
DeleteIt's the same, but the last time people didn't understand the posters questions and were telling her to forgive him. Whereas she was asking if she would be safe if she goes ahead to marry him
DeleteIt's the same, but the last time people didn't understand the posters questions and were telling her to forgive him. Whereas she was asking if she would be safe if she goes ahead to marry him
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteThis should serve as a lesson to everybody that marriage is not for everybody. It is for those who understand it completely. You are suffering from a broken home with an irresponsible father and a mother who could not hold during the broke times. For those of you who want to marry because your friends are marrying, please completely understand what you are getting into. Even marriages that still stand may not even be marriages, but endurance rides. So please, consider the marital decision very well.
I am not talking to poster 1, I am talking to everybody.
Poster 2
All cultists have not killed directly, but they have ALL either run intelligence, or some sort of support, both direct or indirect that must have led to the death of someone. Trust me.
As for karma, it doesn't work linearly. Some of the most wicked individuals lived long lives. While some good people die early. Nobody actually knows how well these things work.
Happy independence ma pipo
Ur comment is just perfect 4 me... Nice one bro
Delete@Money makes whatever : wow! So you have some sense at all to make a non derogatory comment that one can relate to?
DeleteMore of this please...
Choice wise words are better than celebrated profanity.
Good piece, I luv your comment.
DeleteI always look forward to ur comments, still waiting for ur chronicles, hope I don't miss it
Delete...
ReplyDelete*still dat messed up silly girl*
Why do always sign out like this? Why not speak more positive things about yourself?
DeletePoster one, do what your mum wants since she's calling the shots for now. You can always go back to your true calling when you get older. I know many people who studied the courses their parents chose for them, but later went on to pursue their dreams.
Poster 2 I know a well known former cultist who is now a pastor. As long as your guy's repentance was real, there's nothing that God cannot forgive.
Pastor Fatoyinbo of COZA. Yes I said so.
DeleteWhy mention PB. Here are u..............i celebrate U
DeletePoster 1, I can imagin how it feel but if you stay back with no financial back up you neither study your English and Literary studies nor your mum's Medicine/Law...so I advice you play along with your mum.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Once a man be in God, old things are pass away...
Poster one I agree with stella..if u stay here u ll suffer more o...so go n do her wish first. God help u..just av it at d back of ur mind dah ur father ll still remain ur father no matter what..wn u old enough no one can stop u frm doin wah u want
ReplyDelete
ReplyDeleteEhen......m...........mmmmmmmmmm
I hav gone back t read d two chronicles
Hmm awon kronicles yi gidi gannnnn o
Na to read comments na im sure pass!
*chewing cooked groundnut*
Hahaha.... O gidi gaan..
DeleteStella Kork...throw some of ur pop corn my way biko & pass me that ur juju stool to sit my flat ass down...I gotta listen to the in-house experts for today's episode!!!
ReplyDeleteGhanaman signing out!!!
Poster 1,Sdk don say wetin l get for mind already. Good luck to you.
ReplyDeleteYesso same here
DeletePoster1 smally something is wrong with your head upstairs
ReplyDeletePoster2 leave him alone and go and look for a spotless brother to marry
Poster 2 find another man biko
ReplyDeletePoster one:
ReplyDeleteHmm.
Your mother is one tough cookie maynne.
Prospects and money kwa?
The prospects aren't that mouth watering or much anymore,because of the thousands being churned out of med school looking for jobs too and the money is just enough to keep you comfortable, unless you have a booming private practice. It's not a profession you'd love if you don't have the passion.
Since you love arts, go for the law.
Get a law degree. No one says you can't get an English degree later on, and from your story,i'm assuming that you're quite young.
So,you have a lot of time ahead for both degrees,and again, you can't fend for yourself, neither can your dad.
Why don't you explain the situation to him, and let him know that you'll come find him, when you are independent enough.
This is your future on the balance and no knowledge is a waste.
Poster two:
From the little I know about cultists,if he truly never took a life, nobody will come looking to take his.
About generational curses,i don't know.
Waiting to read from those with the experience.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Please tell this Smallie to stop being a spilt child. Let us tell the truth. You can be advised by your ma on course to study and I doubt she just refuses to give youoney as a hold. Money is hard if you won't want to be advised and you can't give a convincing or superior arguement them why expect her to waste it.
DeleteI'm training my siblings and I know how hard it is for me when I can't even feed and do what I'll like for my self but people out there all see glossy. All this your rebellion to study law?! ENGLISH&LIT is a HARD ciurse to study. Law doesn't stop you from writing and yes to travel and denounce your father is bad if it'll lead to you changing surnames but in sure you can bear a compound name and he can adopt you if he likes so please stop wing rebellious and dramatic.
Poster 1 pls dance to ur mother's tune. Wen u r mch older nd can stand on ur own two feet den u can do watever u like. U can even take extra studies der, atleast dier system makes it mch easier unlike here. Pls dnt pass on d golden opportunity to study abroad. Take stella's advice nd save nd do oda menial jobs. God bless
Deleteif he soiled his hands in blood pr joined in gang rape, then u should worry buh if not , then relax but make sure he is realy born again.
ReplyDeleteSomeone go and read the story of Paul in the bible to poster 2
DeleteAnd please read it all. Not just a verse or passage. Paul's life wasn't an easy on either or was it? D question now is, Is poster strong enough? I've come 2 realise that no matter d "holiness" or repentance once in a while d past will come crawling and trust if ure not strong u will perish.
Delete@1, for now forget about ur dad and travel cos dats d only option u ve, y do u care so much abt ur irresponsible father, if it means changing ur name to get what u want from ur mum then do it, what are you doing with d name of a man that cannot meet up his responsibilities as a father.
ReplyDelete@2, sometimes repentance is not enough, do u expect him to tell u dat he has killed, no cultist will ever admit to ve killed someone, don't expect too much when u marry him.
Exactly
DeleteUr brain dey function well today. Kudos n pls keep it up.
DeleteNow let me read comments
ReplyDeletePoster 1 follow Stella's advice. Poster two. God has forgiven. You too forget.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 ....ignore Stella's advice...life presents us with challenges.....come on its ur life...u don't let situation deny u of disowning ur dad n doing courses u don't like...what happens to the fact ur mum n step dad assist without giving u conditions...is that a crime?.... Lady be strong...take a bold walk...go meet ur dad onece a while....make him feel loved..and tell him what u need...don't b surprised his gonna assist...sometimes we assume without giving a try...dad loves their daughter....forget anything happening now....my advice is this..u are a strong lady....if ur mum that loves u as she claims is the one giving u condition..just b calm make ur feelings known to them..and hear what ur mum and step dad have to say..I also advice u try visit your dad...sure his gonna welcome u...give it a try...
ReplyDeleteStupid advice listen to this and end up with nothing in life,
DeleteVery stupid advise. Imagine!!!
DeleteMumu advicer.Didnt u read where she wrote that sometimes her father doesnt pick her calls? How is she gonna go and meet him when he doesnt cooperate? Where is d irresponsible man going tp get money to train her? U want him to frustrate her finally when her mom eventually turns her back on her?
DeleteD poster should follow her mother bumper to bumber...Her future is more importanr than bearing a useless man's name.
My bf of 2 yrs keeps talking to the girl he cheated on me with, I always find out when I snoop and he keeps changing the girl's name. He keeps saying they are just friends, should I be worried?
ReplyDeleteHe cheated on you
DeleteHe is still talking to her and changing names
You are still snopping and calling him your boyfriend
You will probably continue snoppy fighting and marry him
You will come back here with more chronicles
Nigerian women una no dey hear una no dey learn
If he doesn't respect you enough to bw faithful he doesn't love you. Stop being desperate abeg. When youall stop dating shitty men they will be forced to change their attitude but when you keep dating them fighting over them and snopping this is the nonsense you get
U have to be worried my sister, look for other guy so it will not be too late. May God help u
DeleteYou are already worried.
DeleteHe is going to marry her and not you
DeleteWhat are you still doin with that fool?
DeleteBe worried leave d cheating bastard he is hooked
DeleteBetter be worried
DeleteYes, you should be worried, but not paranoid please.
DeleteIf you're snooping, it means there are still serious trust issues that go beyond the cheating issue you discovered.
On the other hand, I hope your hands are clean?
You should know best how to handle it. Best wishes.
Please no need to worry. Don't fight him. Be a good girlfriend Infact invite the girl sometimes
DeleteMaybe a threesome?
Lololol kiks u cray.
DeleteAnon please ignore whatever he says and leave him immediately. Why do you want to die there never stay with a cheating boyfriend
Lol see kwekshion. U r asking us whether u shud be worried instead of u to carry ur two left legs nd run. Keep snooping o, until u discover that dey ave done introduction. Namsense
DeleteIs ur boyfriend's name emeka oramadike? Maybe he has a twin,ur name don turn sori,better leave him. I left emeka because he is bad news,now am hapi.
DeletePoster 1------> follow stella's advice
ReplyDeletePoster 2-------> will read comments too
Poster2 Just pray then no remember the guy someday...the game doesn't end....take note
ReplyDeleteIf u truly love him...no problemo....u should ready to accept whatever comes but hope n pray for the best..... On a second tot.....seek advice from ur parents or pastor......they are there to protect u as well....if ur parent gives a yes...u cn go ahead..if then say no...biko just quit..
Poster 2,
ReplyDeleteFirst of all,
Being the only authority on English language on this blog, it behoves on me to tell you that it's scot-free not scott free.
Now regarding your question, I think
U ve to hear from retired cultists. I ve always been a God- fearing all my life.
'a God-fearing' indeed. No be small authority on English. Please try again!
DeleteNa wao, becos she missed just 1 t. English teacher congratulation .
Delete*in English*, a God-fearing? Wow! who gave u d "authority"?
Delete*in English*. A God-fearing? Wow! Who gave u d "authority"?
Delete*A God- fearing person.
DeleteTessbaby,"on English....'is very correct.
And "authority' is also very correct.
Yes.
My English language is impeccable.
Anon 15:39 aka Anon 15:48,
DeleteYes .I was busy.I did not proof read.
I am a very successful businessman.
U should also know that I am a literary icon,and a seasoned prolific writer
sorry to burst your bubble but there is nothing like 'U ve' in English language
DeleteEnglish Authority!!!! It is "it behoves me"not it "behoves ON me".
DeleteMoney maker, Oloyinbo. The man of 'impeccable' English! Lol.
DeleteDis money maker u be clown!
DeleteHahahahahahaha
A god fearing..........professor
Deleteposter 2:a cultist will always remain a cultist
ReplyDeleteThats not true.
Deletenow he is in christ old things have passed away and all things are new...... it is well @poster2
ReplyDeleteposter 1 do what ever your mum says now but tell ur dad.. that u are only doing it to make life better that once u are ok.. u will come back for him
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Poster1 for now follow ur mum since she's the only helper you have. Stop over thinking sef and let God handle things himself. When you are matured enough and independent you have the right to come look for your father. You can talk to ur mum about the course, sit her down and have a discussion with her on it.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2. I remember a cultist who left school after like 5 years he came bk to collect his certificate abi transfer for masters but was killed eventually that same day. Am just saying atimes they are hardly free, just pray and ask for Gods Direction before getting married to him.
Poster1 for now follow ur mum since she's the only helper you have. Stop over thinking sef and let God handle things himself. When you are matured enough and independent you have the right to come look for your father. You can talk to ur mum about the course, sit her down and have a discussion with her on it.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2. I remember a cultist who left school after like 5 years he came bk to collect his certificate abi transfer for masters but was killed eventually that same day. Am just saying atimes they are hardly free, just pray and ask for Gods Direction before getting married to him.
I think u shuld listen 2 ur mum and do as she said since ur dad can not help u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 i would have said all things have passed away buh seriously don't be decieved,
ReplyDeleteFirstly, every cultist is a cultist forever expect he lives by death thats the oath they take,secondly,that guy must have killed,every cultist is required to kill a member of a rival cult or get killed buh since he is still alive,bet me,he must have murdered someone.
My advice,bae run for your life.
Poster 1 listen to stella's advice before you add to the number of runs girls roaming the streets.you are still dependant on your mum
#NEWEST BV....
#HUMILITY IMPERSONAFIED
#CAREER DRIVEN.
Newest and coolest BV. Luv u already. Good advice there.
DeleteI think u shuld listen 2 ur mum and do as she said since ur dad can not help u.
ReplyDeleteJehovah elohim fix it for dem
ReplyDeletePoster2, if he is really a changed man, why not give him a chance? And pray for God's guidance.
ReplyDeletePoster1, I will read comments.
Poster one- do as stella advised
ReplyDeletePoster two- I think I've seen this here before, thats by the way. I know of a dreaded cultist who later became bornagain and even became a pastor. He's been happily married with children and no problems. If you truely love him, my dear go ahead with your marriage plans and leave the rest to God.
POSTER 1: for ur own good, I advise u stay with ur mum & take whatever helpnur stepfather is offering. Stop thinking dirty. Just be open minded. Put ur headset down & allow them invest in u. Afterall when u make it in future, ur dad will be also proud to call u his own. Take d opportunity & make smtn gud of h
ReplyDeleteUrself.
POSTER 2: everyone has a baggage they're carrying. There's nobody who doesn't have a story. U won't know except they tell u. He's a changed person, take him as one.
Poster 1: Its obvious that there's no future for you with your dad (at least for now), so why don't you make use of the common sense that God gave to you and stick with your mum until you make something of yourself. You just admitted to us that ur dad is truly irresponsible, so what's the confusion? Also I like to advocate you opt for a change in career because you can't want to be a writer without knowing the difference between, he's and his, I'm and Am and so forth.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Since you're sure he's now a changed man, I can't help but tend to agree with you. Reason is this: It really takes a very sincere person to open up about his/her past life. It shows love and respect because he wants you to know exactly what you are getting into. I actually share your sentiments and fears of if the past will come calling or not. Your best bet is to take it to God in prayers. #My2cents
lmao
Deletemy bobo...
Poster 1 take note
P.1, u won't get missing abroad, ff ur mum n get a beta life so u won't end up lyk ur father. P.2, haven't we read dis story here b4??
ReplyDelete@poster one;better use your number six..
ReplyDeleteThis is A time you need to build up your career and the shortcoming help you have as at now is your mum and your Step-Dad...why not dance to the tune of their music and build up yourself now??
A friend of mine would tell you "zaba mugu ma nweta ife ichoro" meaning "Answer A fool if required and get what you need"....
You can get your degree in art which is "writing" later in the future(optional) ie after you have built up yourself now and specifically get/gotten all the basic help you need from your mum and Step Dad..
Better think well my Dear;if you dont do this now,you lose on every side which is:
1)you dont get to study anything at all
2)your Dad wont help you financially cos he isnt capable for now
3) you mum might disown you(who happens to be your source of help for now)
4)you become stranded with life...
Think,think,think!!
@MARTINS ABOY
P1,You have your whole life ahead of you. Just make the necessary decision of staying afloat by listening to your mum for now. You'll be fine. P2, one can never be too sure about such things but since there was no murder, he might be free of the 'curses'.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, do what she wants for now. We had a family friend back then, his dad wanted him to study accounting, he wanted Law. But he read accounting to please his dad. Got a job in Oceanic and worked his ass for several years. Then he resigned, relocated to US, studied law has been called to bar and its married with a child. My point? get your independence first!!! On the side, take classes on writing, don't use sentiments to make a choice that will affect you for life. Good luck
ReplyDeletePoster 1: how old are you? Nobody can make you deny your blood. I think what your mom meant was denying your father's involvement in your life has a better chance of them issuing you visa. Accept the conditions and go and better your life. Once you get there keep intouch with your father. It is not as complicated as you make it out to be.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: nobody knows the heart of God. Just pray that your portion is full of favor. No sin goes unpunished.
Poster 1, listen to your mum and travel abroad, since she is the one responsible for you (financial and other wise). I think with time as you grow up and mature, you will be able to take your decisions with out her interfering. All in all, don't forget your dad. Good luck.
ReplyDelete@postter no 1 STICK with your mother oooo otherwise you go SOAK garri taya! I was brought up by mum. My papa was never there even when I see him bad things he was always bitter and will always say bad things about my mum but my mum would never allow us say anything bad him instead she was always defending him but today I am an adult I know he MESSED up and am eternally greatful to God for the mum he gave me. So my dear stick with your mum you will be grateful later trust me Wishing you all the best and God bless you
ReplyDeleteI HATE holidays and weekends. I can't go nude because hubby would "devour" me. Kai,plate washer,veiny n fat D. I will soon send in my chronicles
ReplyDeleteMy dear.... im worried too o. I have a boyfriend with a really huge D. I am terrified to have sex with him and he's been patient...really patient. Does it ruin the vagina? Im terrified.
DeleteChoi! Na only you waka come? Easy with plate washing sha, before it will turn to chronicles
DeleteShhh anon16:50 don't be terrified. Free ur mind nd let him do sweet things to u. Enuf foreplay so dat u can be well lubricated. After constant dicking ur vagina will adjust.. I used to be like u, but not anymore.. I enjoy it so much now *shines teeth
Delete....at least 3rounds in a session. I was tieing my legs after 2 abortions with ex.
ReplyDelete2nd chronicle has since been pondered on,on this blog.
ReplyDeletePoster 1....go and be with your mom because she can support you right now and your dad cannot. Do the course she has chosen for you especially law....
ReplyDeleteLots of artistes and actors today did what their parents wanted had their first degree and now they are following their passion.
So follow her biko... Naija de tough now..
Poster 1:
ReplyDeleteLife is tough at every stage. Some have it easier than others but there is nothing worse than being coerced into wasting years studying for something you have no passion for.
Whilst I understand that you didn't ask to be in this situation of coming from a broken home, you need to ensure first of all that you don't come out bitter as an adult.
My advice is NEVER to take sides when it comes to separated parents because they never really tell you the truth about what really happened. Please be as objective as possible. Trust me.
I can't shake the feeling that you're not telling us everything. I say so because of this statement you made:
"Maybe am thinking too far what if am molested sexually"
What made you think this way? Has your step dad shown any form of interest in you?
May the best happen.
I love this. The only sensible advice so far. You touched the right spots
DeletePoster 1. ..Its like you prefer your irresponsible father who does not care about you. You better listen to your mother. You have a flair for writing and you sent this horrible writeup with horrible punctuation to Sdk.
ReplyDeleteYour mother should just face her new life. When you are ready, you will be the one begging to join her.
XOXO MYSTERY
Poster 2:
ReplyDeleteThe confraternities stretch way beyond the 4 walls of the school. They are also very active in society and have always been, but it doesn't mean they are harmful.
Truth is that no one can help you decide on ANYTHING in life because everyone will give advice based on personal experiences and sentiment.
However, as a woman you have God given instincts that are hardly ever wrong. Please follow then and ask God (not pastor or prophet), for direction.
Best wishes.
Make I read comments today
ReplyDeletePoster 1' My dear you better follow ur mum. If you remain in dis country, u are on ur own. Don't expect help from ur dad. My dear believe me no one has a perfect relationship with their mum. A lot of ppl including me use to knock heads with my mum on a daily basis. But guess what push cums to shove, she is all you have. When you get older and living apart ur relationship gets better. Now I'm married wit kids , my mum and I are best of friends, she helps with my kids, she respects me. I have my home, she has hers ,we respect eachodas space. You better take the opportunity to have a good education. When you are established you can cum back and look for ur dad. I mean can't you call him from abroad and keep contact. When there's fone.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:Do what your mum wants that you say your step dad is your dad during the interview doesn't automatically make him your biological father.I am happy you know the repercussions of going against your mom's wish.Do eat she says for now, you can do your preferred course during your master's study, can't you?
ReplyDeletePoster Two:A man honestly tells you about your past and you are still not satisfied,? If he is really born again,that's quite good, you can also advice him to go for deliverance if you are worried about his past rubbing off on the future.
Poster 1: Ur mum wants u to deny ur dad so u can have a better chance in getting a visa dumb head.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: even if he has never killed b4, he was involved in gang fight? And u say what all things av become new? Do cultist forget? My dear, follow ur heart o but be prepared for what will happen next.
Dear poster, you can be a writer and a doctor. The GMD of NNPC is a writer as well as a lawyer so, do not limit yourself . You are young and you can branch out as far as possible. Do not throw away dis opportunity that ur mom and hubby have for you. You might never get it again once you let it go. You can come back to your dad later and thanks to phones and d Internet, he is not really far away from u.
ReplyDeleteDo not limit yourself.
Follow your mum's plan, she means well. You are lucky to have a step father who cares enough to file for you. You are an adult, you cannot be molested without putting up a fight except he puts a gun to your head and police is your friend over there and you will get justice,fear not. The main thing is that you know who your father is, your thoughts are beclouded with sentiments for your dad.
ReplyDeleteThe second matter has been treated here before.
Poster 1 I agree with stella 100% please go with your mum and be useful in life u can always look for ur dad later
ReplyDeletePoster2 karma is batch know that even in the Bible it is written you will reap what you sow even when you repent so don't get yourself mixed up in what you will regret later in the future All the best dearies
Poster 1, pls jeje go n be with ur mom at least there is a bright future with her...... ur father is ur father any day any time... Poster 2, it's a biggggggggggggggggg risk, thank God he told u... pray for God's direction okay..... good luck... hohohohoho
ReplyDeleteAnon 15:20. Y ou should be very worried. He still with her.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Go along with your mom's plan and you don't have to change your name.. It really doesn't matter.. Have been in your position and am doing good for myself. Am abroad, I work and go to school. I don't need my dad anymore. When you get here things will change so brace up..
ReplyDeleteP1, even if it wasnt your step father anybody that wants to file for you as a parent or family, you have to change names. Your mind has been messed up truly you are just a victim here but i guess travelling out would make you better. P2, same chronicle again?
ReplyDeleteI have never commented but I have to because of poser 1.Immigration always I repeat always carries out a DNA once you claim you are related to a person. If you claim your step dad as your dad it'll back fire and spoil your chances.pls do not do it.u have already gone through a lot in life.You can also verify this at the embassy
ReplyDeleteHe is..
ReplyDeleteposter 2
ReplyDeleteWhat really happen when Christ asked that any body among you who has not sinned
to stone the woman?
if you love him then make him live better in Christ...shalom
from swiss
poster 1: kindly take aunty Stella's advice .
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Even if he was an armed robber, a murderer or something worse...who God has made clean, none can make unclean. If you genuinely love this man, then you shouldn't be scared to go d nine yards with him, except you are not a christian yourself.