NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
IS THIS THE RIGHT DECISION?
Hello Stella, I am addicted to your blog especially chronicles of narratives, in house news and I take your red pen seriously, I knew soon I would be sending my story and also need your red pen please, dont hold back. Back to my story, there is this guy I started dating May, although he had been on my case for 7 years, I finally accepted to date him May after my last relationship ended.
The reasons why I never gave him any chance was because he seems to be the ladies man but because of his consistency in toasting me...lol! I finally agreed.
The issue is I know his younger brother so well because we lived together in the university and he is a nice person, infact it was due to living together that my boyfriend saw me and started the chase. he seem so serious with me, he has played to my rules of no sex before marriage and he is also taking me to his parent this November, but the issue is we fight a lot because he seems to be short tempered and all. He yells a lot and we end up not having any meaningful conversation.
I have my faults too but I am very sincere and respectful,yelling is something I had never experienced while dating someone so you can imagine how strange and scary it is to me.we live in different states and I am afraid I dont really know him that well, and I have tried visiting so I can get to know him well but he would object or look for 101 reasons why I shouldn't come and he wants me to marry him.
Days back we had a quarrel and from talking about it he started yelling on top of his voice,meanwhile he offended me but instead of apologising he started yelling, I was shocked and told him I dont see the need for the relationship and I am not interested in the marriage since he cant talk without yelling therefore creating more issues instead of solving them, Only for the younger brother's girlfriend who happen to be my friend because I hooked them up called to tell me that he said I am behaving anyhow because he wants to introduce me to his parent November that is why I want to fuck him up...
***excuse the language,that was exactly what he said I was told.****
Right now I am angry and dont know what to do. please Stella and fellow bvs should I just forget about him or give him another chance as my friend says he really likes me and is broken,his brother too has begged that I should be patient,biko I have to hear from my family here before I use my hand and dig a pit for myself or am I being impatient already considering we are barely five months old?
The reasons why I never gave him any chance was because he seems to be the ladies man but because of his consistency in toasting me...lol! I finally agreed.
The issue is I know his younger brother so well because we lived together in the university and he is a nice person, infact it was due to living together that my boyfriend saw me and started the chase. he seem so serious with me, he has played to my rules of no sex before marriage and he is also taking me to his parent this November, but the issue is we fight a lot because he seems to be short tempered and all. He yells a lot and we end up not having any meaningful conversation.
I have my faults too but I am very sincere and respectful,yelling is something I had never experienced while dating someone so you can imagine how strange and scary it is to me.we live in different states and I am afraid I dont really know him that well, and I have tried visiting so I can get to know him well but he would object or look for 101 reasons why I shouldn't come and he wants me to marry him.
Days back we had a quarrel and from talking about it he started yelling on top of his voice,meanwhile he offended me but instead of apologising he started yelling, I was shocked and told him I dont see the need for the relationship and I am not interested in the marriage since he cant talk without yelling therefore creating more issues instead of solving them, Only for the younger brother's girlfriend who happen to be my friend because I hooked them up called to tell me that he said I am behaving anyhow because he wants to introduce me to his parent November that is why I want to fuck him up...
***excuse the language,that was exactly what he said I was told.****
Right now I am angry and dont know what to do. please Stella and fellow bvs should I just forget about him or give him another chance as my friend says he really likes me and is broken,his brother too has begged that I should be patient,biko I have to hear from my family here before I use my hand and dig a pit for myself or am I being impatient already considering we are barely five months old?
The people begging you to be patient are not the ones that will live with him and go thru what you just described.Follow your woman intuition and if its ringing a bell then you know what to do.
If you already have doubts,then give it sometime and dont rush it,this kind of situation might graduate into physical altercation.
I wish you the best honey!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
SHOCKING PROPOSAL
Remember Adriana with the Narrative that her former Boo used his right of reply to boast he used to eat her? read the Narrative here
Adriana has another Narrative.....
''Stella I don't even have a subject for the narrative cause I've never heard of this kind of situation before.....Stella and to the house.its your very own friend Andriana whom you helped move on from a cracky ex I would say.
I have been doing well and fine in school .
I've been here not up to a month and been having different advances which I see to be normal probably because of my looks and all,though I've been turning them down until now.
I met this guy a week ago he's nice caring,wonderful,spends a lot on me, just within this one week he gave me his other car (Range Rover evoque 2013)as a thanks for coming into my life gift,gave me his house key ,put up my pictures everywhere,takes me everywhere,introduces me to everyone,so far so good he's been faithful though we've not had sex,cause I made him promise to wait till we get to know each other better and he agreed.
Now Stella last night,in the evening he came to pick me to the beach house where I met a whole lot of people and he went on his knees and brought out a ring and proposed.
stella I froze like a chicken,I'm still in shock cause I didn't expect it,I love him yes but I don't think I want to marry him,not now,it's too early,I'm just 20,in my first semester.
We met last week Thursday,I just don't know what to do right now cause I actually said yes and accepted but as I write this narrative i feel deep guilt for making him think I've really accepted to be his wife.
Please fellow bvs i prefer you start cussing me now before it's too late, I don't know what to do at this point please I need your advise.
WOW!!!
I agree it is too early but when a man is in love and can afford it,he goes all the way.I dont know what kind of man he is and you didnt give enough info probably cos you dont know as well but study the situation before you react....This is probably a miracle that looks like a lie!
first of all
ReplyDeleteAt poster 1, please do not marry an aggressive man. He won't change, it get worse most times after living together.
Delete....go down low
Delete@poster1 : leave that nigga, he is a bad news
Delete@poster2 : hmmmmm,please take your time and study the guy very!
Don't be deceived by the cars,trips and money he is showering you will.
Pray about it and court him 4 like 6month #not enough in some cases #
A lot of peeps will advise you to marry him asap bcos of the money but my dear study him very well.
Atleast, you are still young.
Poster one look before you leap
DeletePoster two: l love stories. Aww, congrats dear.you have fine fingers
@aboki.. u dey collect prize...? Looool
DeletePoster one..
Couldnt even finish the story o.. especially when I saw the words fuck, yelling at you, can't have a conversation and introducing you to his parents. . This is your decision and if you don't feel comfortable then take a walk..Marriage no be by force..
Later you come here next here wasting my megabytes in another chronicle story on how he yells at you and beats you up...
Abeg its your life...
You ll find a good man out there like Poster 2 did
Poster 2
I think you should take your time out to discuss your fears with him..
@Poster1.. well, that very spirit that shielded you for 7yrs from getting into a relationship with this Oga-toaster.. is a good one and i pray that same spirit will come back to rescue u from urself now, before u get urself into the shackles u will spend major part of ur life trying to free urself from.
DeleteFirst of all. It is very unsual for a man who spent 7 good years of his life trying to woo a woman and when he finally succeeds. He willing agrees to ur terms and conditions of "NSBM" no sex before marriage.. well, that's easy maybe.. for people who are still virgins. but for 2 adults who have been sexually active since like forever? why do u ladies keep bringing that condition into a relationship, hoping to use that as a "determiner" of his genuine intentions.. either he is serious about marriage or not? .. well, just know either the guy is cheating on u comfortably or he is immune to KONJIFICATION.. which is not possible.. since he is no longer a virgin, then he is most likely to get KONJIFIED once in a while, and u and i know say konji na bastard.. e nor get respect.. with that being explained.. the guy has a steady pussy he is gbenshing wherever he is.. thats also the reason he has been giving u all the 101 reasons why u should not bother to come and spend some time with him.. i mean c'mon,who does that? a woman you claim to love and want to marry, offers to come spend quality time with u and u the guy dey form one thing one thing? haba! my sister.. don't do it.. nobody wanna marry a stranger.. u claim u want to take a woman home to ur parents in few weeks and u are not making any moves to want to know her better? i am sure he doesn't know your Favourite meals/ colors and etc.. which that could be vice versa.. make una dey listen to una inner voice.. thanks
@poster2.. well my dear sister, wonders shall never end they say. meeting a girl in a week and proposing? hmmm well of course everything is possible.. but then how old is he? if he is as successful as u portrayed him on ur narrative.. don't u think someone must have been in his life before now? i mean, IF IT IS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE it probably is.. u know guys, funny how far guys can go just to get a girl they want.. but this also does not dismiss the fact that it could be possible that the guy maybe genuine with good and true intentions.. since i am no babalawo.. my dear u need God for answers and directions now... remember to tell us the guy's age, what he does for a living and so.. don't marry a stranger oh! i wish u the best.. i don't even know whether to say congratulations.. but something in me is scrambling like DStv on a rainy day.. good luck
Ok I pull out my comment on that poster two in poster one comment o.. she just met him a week ago.. all this happen fast fast... girl be on the look out abeg
DeleteSometimes I wonder where all this bv's that are always rushing to be first to comment came from, and in the process end up writing nothing at all but just occupying space.
DeleteThe talk about first to comment has become too much.
Sometimes we can't help but say rubbish or be foolish when commenting, but we're only humans, so it's normal and expected because we ain't perfect, "Alloy Chikezie (SDK blogboo)" is guilty of that also, but it becomes appalling when it's all the time, and becomes a pattern.
There's no point commenting all the time when you have nothing to say, and blocking reasonable comments.
I really miss Ronalda's well written comments that always seem to hit the right spot and drives home a point, always educative.
Ronalda! Please where arth thou?
@narrative 1
I've learnt never to tell anybody I'm advising what to do, the decision to make, sometimes it isn't wise, but I've learnt to tell them the truth, and allow them the privilege of making the decision themselves.
So I'll tell you the truth, the truth is this;
One of the major thing to consider in picking the right partner is anger, it's always good and wise to get married to someone who's not easily given to anger.
Proverbs 22:24 says
" Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered"
Proverbs 15:1 and verse 18, and James 1:20 all talks about anger and hot temper.
So I'll tell you to please watch it, anger is always a danger sign, even the word of God recognizes that. Be wise my dear.
God help you.
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Narrative 1... Unnecessary yelling, early signs of future domestic abuse. Take your time and study guy well.
DeleteNarrative 2.... within 1 week all of these has happened. This is a miracle. I still don't believe it.wow! He proposed doesn't mean the wedding is next week naw.Let your mind be at rest. When a man finds what he is looking for and is ready he would go all out! So take your time,fix introduction to family and wedding at lengthy periods so u can get to know him more. Congratulations!
Alloy, don't I just love u?
DeletePoster 2 fear God please, do you know this lie can take you to hell? I'm not envious of the story you just told, but something in me tells me it's fallacious. I'd rather you just kept it to yourself cos you and I know you fabricated this story to make your ex feel bad, that said, dreams come true, I hope your fairy tale comes true someday. Kisses
DeleteChronicles!!!
ReplyDelete*******LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Foolish Emjay, use ur time and go and learn how to cook & clean
DeleteThis is no miracle babe.....i advice u pray first nd wait for God's direction. when i was in this kind of situation, i relaxed thinking i av conquered nd that its God's plan. when i realised my mistakes, we were already Enemies. seek God opinion first nd know if he is the person for u. one week, babe is for introduction. know my name i know your name not for engagement. too early. if its me i will pause first nd tell him to calm down oo. @poster 2
DeleteI want dis type of relationship.
DeleteJobless useless beggy beggy Emjay,
DeleteYou can never make a reasonable comment to save your miserable life.
I still remember the way I snubbed your dirty ass @ the Lagos Sdk party.
Poster1,u re d one wearing d shoe,so u knw where it pinches u,congraatsss poster2,just still dey observe.
DeletePoster one, my husband is short tempered but one of the nicest people on planet earth. We can b having a nice conversation and it turns to a yelling match. I do the withdrawal syndrome. He has never raised his hand and he will never. If your guy is all shouting but no hitting then I don't see anything bad but if he shouts and hits stuffs then run for your dear life. If you dont shout back, chances of your relationship surviving is very high. We all have our shortcomings. Analyze and see if you can tolerate. My opinion though.
Deletewho is this soulful bitter anonymous@15:52
Deletethat's always on Em-jay's case?.. first of all.. i know you are girl.. because there's no way in hell any guy could be suffering from a long term bitterness as this.. keep talking about snubbing someone who didn't notice ur presence in a party that happened over a decade ago.. haba! walahi fear allah.. and be happy.. Em-jay nor send u and ur anonymously miserable life i swear.. mtchewwwwwww
Wow!
ReplyDeleteReally wow. Beautiful.
DeleteLeave that mumu poster2, saying Yes to a guy she knws nutn about, ure evn proudly wearing the ring... Just pray that ring dsnt start lookn like handcuff on you.... Even if he proposed in the presence of crowd, u stl hv the right to be sensible and say NO, or u can say Yes jst to cheer the xpectn crowd, then kindly gv him back his handcuff.. Sori ring. He's using material thgs to blind u, and its working wella, this ur engagement is even faster than that of Chloe and Lamar, I don't mean to compare both sha, but its an insight.. Today now, Lamar is on my DP with a prayer point, so u better remove that blindfold and peep into reality.
DeleteCongratulations poster two I always tell women to know their self worth there are wonderful men out there stop settling for junk.
ReplyDeletePoster one, he is using marriage to manipulate you. Let him sort out his anger issues. If you like be desperate for marriage and end up with a manipulative abuser na here we go read ya narrative
So you really believe the second poster? People are gullible on here tho.
DeleteThose are not the hands of a 20 year old. That cheap ass ring cannot be given to a girl by the kind of man she described.
Her ex claimed they broke up for like a year when she travelled to school. So if she has been in school for no less than a year, how come she's talking one month now? People lie a lot on this blog.
True @Anon 15:03.
DeleteHe chased her for 7 years because no one else agreed to his advances because of his anger issues. He's been hiding, but now they're all out in d open. Poster 1 fash that guy. Forget about him. Throw him away like a bad habit.
Oga she said I her last narrative that shejust got admission o, she even gave us address of her skool.
DeletePoster 2 pls its too soon o. Am happy 4 dis new romance but tell him you need to be down wit skool b4 your married. Wit that you can both get 2 know your selves.
They won't listen oh Chikito,shebi upon all the shout and advice we have been giving one Doctor died from domestic violence today leaving behind two kids. Mak them continue
DeleteKronicles ti de
ReplyDeleteIna zuwa
*spreads dollar crested rug*
*sipping kunu ayan*
The Chronicles is here
Slim Shady is here to read comments
Lemme go bak n read d chronicles!
Brb
Slides In
DeleteMakes A Comment:
P1- Once a yeller, Always a yeller.
P2- 1 week engagement, 3months burial, 9months new house, 12months new girl, 1 week engagement. Do u follow?
Slides out.
Poster 2, I'm happy for you!
ReplyDeletewhen a man is ready, he is ready!
Mayb you need more time to know him, yes! It's fine, but pls be wise and don't throw away this opportunity.
Lips sealed.
ReplyDeletePoster2! No 1 knows how long u date for a marriage to last but 1week is a No no for me!
DeleteU berra make sure he has no AIDs/HEPB or C he wanna pass to u!
U berra make sure he ain't gay and just wants to get married to let his family off his back!
U berra be sure he wants to have kids and not cover up some false life.
Marriage is not about flashy things or 1week of spoiling!
Be wise darlyN!
Poster 1 if u don't want ur boo,free him for other singles to mingle with him. Beware of his temper! As long as he doesn't throw things around or hit you, u can decide if u can tk d temper.
Ok oh
ReplyDeleteEverything marriage.
Make una careful oh
Happiness resides in you and not marriage. If you are not happy being single or if you don't manufacture joy, then don't expect marriage to automatically give you these.
Not all girls are prepared to get married. Some do so because it is kind of a competition or social achievement.
Same women begging to marry, will be the ones disrespecting their husbands in the future.
You all should calm down and take it easy.
Marriage this, marriage that..... it is not heaven oh
Mr money makes ............,Well said.
DeleteMmufl..... i love ur write ups ...do u have any unmarried frnds that i could hook up with?just frnds lol....sombody to start ntelligent convos with and very humourous like u
DeleteLol@some women begging to marry will be d ones disrespecting their husbands!Mmyflaws,can u ever change?u talking abt respect,have u stopped cheating?if ur wife catches u now and says her mind,u will be yelling disrespect#rme
Delete...to the matter sha:poster1,one thing I know is that pple that can't control themselves in simple conversation,yelling impulsively always have a tendency to proceed to violence as their temper rises!my advice is run for ur life!u are at d verge of entering marriage dat will be marred in domestic violence!dont mind him oo!no be only fuck up,fuck down nko!#mtceew#
Btw know also that he's a cheat,he wants to marry u and keep u as sample wife while he continues his escapades in that region.
Poster2,there is something unusual abt d speed of that guy's acts!wats d mad rush abt?is any of u travelling to heaven that it can't give it time a lil?he seem like someone trying to commit u and seal it before u find out some things abt him.pls watch urself....he might even be a ritualist.#says and looks away#
U sef madam,now that u rushed and collected ring before coming to ask questions ?wat do u intend to do,return it?....smh
Gals and marriage sha.
Poster one,
ReplyDeleteThe signs are already there for you to see and decide what to do... I know you will say ''I thought he would change'' so I gave in and married him.
Waiting for your chronicles after marriage
Lmaoo seeing so many "dont o,its too quick" comments here make me realize how jealous people can be sha lmaooo what?
DeleteYoung girl I am fucking single and YEs I am very jealous of you BUT pls DONT throw this away, you dont have to marry right away..let this be your courtship period.. This is how life is when you think you lost it all thats when the best happens to you! You left an abusive relationship and see how God buttered your bread! Pls o girl dont listen to any negative comments abeg
Poster 1 ... you dont know him much. give him another trial but if i will say LEAVE HIM.
ReplyDeletePoster 2... lucky you. Marry him if you are comfortable.
I go jump this queue. All i see are the nice fingers.
DeletePoster 1: first off, a man yelling all the time is a mad man that is a red light, secondly u think he's faithful? U r forming no sex rule, only u is celibate bro is balling.Now, to my point marriage isn't a walk in the park and if he's already yelling now imagine what the future holds.His bro is only begging becos he wants to do and co not cos he cares, im dating ur friend u r dating my bro.Be careful.The narratives bv's say r fake or copied makes one not even feel like commenting again.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: is it the thrill that comes with '' Omg he proposed ''that's y u didn't know when u said yes? Kindly return the ring, tell him your parents said you should go and read your book.
Hahahahaha @tell him ur parents said you shld go and read your book. BV's ehen na wa
DeletePoster two read my lips. This comment is the truth! Just return the ring on the grounds that your parents want ur education first. That way, u take things slowly.
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteIs he short?...cos short people fight a lot..
I will advise you to leave him oh...
His type will even use you as a punching bag...
You better use your tongue to count your teeth...
Poster 2,
That's what I am talking about...
It's good to date rich niggas mehn....thank God you dumped that your church rat boyfriend but I think you sent this story so your ex will know you are balling....
Oriegwu!...
Linda that poster two is a very big liar
DeleteLolz. I think so too. Since most men are "bad" make I kukuma hunt 4 the rich and spending type. Igaghi awu ogbenye wuru amusu. Ori awo ka m rie nke gbara agba. I hate poverty!
DeletePoster 1...
ReplyDeleteGet out now while you still can! Before you start writing ur own chronicle!!
Poster 2...
You mean oo, you don collect gifts finished, now you're feeling guilty cos you see he is serious about you. What's wrong with girls btw...una no dey love the person wey truly love una....
If na bad boy wey go shatter ur heart into a million pieces now, you'll be dreaming of getting married to him! Na wah oo
Tell him now that you're not ready, so he can move on!
Today again, linda and sexy mother commenting @ the same time, abeg could it be true dat they are one and same person
DeleteHmmmm
ReplyDeleteAdriana u're hot oo
So what's d reason for ur narrative?
U know how u feel and what u want
It's not everything that bvs would decide for u
Infact both of u should go for whatever u want
What's all these narratives for ?
No be small miracle lie . Lmaoo
ReplyDeleteI met this guy a week ago he's nice caring,wonderful,spends a lot on me, just within this one week he gave me his other car (Range Rover evoque 2013)as a thanks for coming into my life gift,gave me his house key ,put up my pictures everywhere,takes me everywhere,introduces me to everyone,so far so good he's been faithful.
ReplyDeleteWhy won't you love someone who does all these?
This kind of relationship, I know where it is heading..,
Love ko,
It's too good to be true
DeleteLol
DeleteIs called the more you look, the less you see!
Lol
DeleteIs called the more you look, the less you see!
Poster 2- If something seems too good to be true, believe me, it isnt!
ReplyDeletePoster 1- A man so prone to anger will one day use his hand on u.
Right on point.
DeleteWow! @poster2
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteI think u need to slow things down with ds guy. A guy that respects his woman wouldn't yell at her at the slightest provocation. And one truth u should know is he won't change after marriage.The ball is in ur court..
Poster 2
I'm glad u've moved on.This could either end up positive or negative at the end of the day.He proposing to u doesn't mean u'r gon get married in the next few weeks or months.I'd advise u two take this stage as ur courtship period, don't rush into saying 'I do'.Take ur time and if it's worth it atd end of d day,no one will tell u what to do.
Poster 2 ritual thingy. all shades of a manipulative scheme to use you for his yearly sacrifice . what the hell does the nigga do for a living to give you ranger rover evoque in a week
ReplyDeleteI thought of tht as well. He wan use him for rituals
DeleteChai, must everything be jazz with u anons! Ahn Ahn. Be happy for other people for once. Na wa oo
DeletePoster 2...A week ago? Or did I read well? You come snap pics send to Stella? Stella, you sef you are saying Miracle? Bia, your Oyinbo hubby is rubbing off on you and clearing off your Naija sense...Lady, as much as I am happy for you, kindly remove the ring, keep it and tell the guy you guys are a work in progress...Just take your darn time..You are still young so why the hurry? Make you no come dey send chronicle later oo..Take youyr time dear, enjoy yourself, get to jnow him well and see if you really want to settle down with him...
ReplyDeletePoster 1, You better leave that kind of yeye man... He be lawyer? Raising of voice will graduate to raising of hand...That your friend must be a joker...Women are their worst enemies...
ReplyDeleteLolllll I laugh at the Irony of life.
One will keep oneself believing that it will make a difference and then you see others who have rolled out their pussy like a red carpet getting the best of it.
Tired of praying and not going to bother God anymore. Please live your life to bring you happiness. Don't deny yourself anything unfairly thinking it will matter. It doesn't.
Lmao @ roll pussy like red carpet choi anon
DeleteChai
DeletePoster 1, whatever happens, just be sure you are always (o.y.o) in any relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, wow! Again. A lot has happened in just a week enyim, u need to slow your parole down, don't be hyped. Take your time, u seem to have a long way to go as regards to school. What you should ask yourself is 'then what next"?
I love miracle o. Its not bad just be watchful. There are good guys just that the bad ones are much. Dont high your hope and don't reject him just let him realize you are in school and hope marrying wont interfere with your studies. If he's a good Man like Omotola Husband and you are a good girl too, it will work out provided you don't joke with your EDUCATION
ReplyDeletePoster 1,don't marry him.
ReplyDeleteIf you are gentle and you detest shouting and quarreling.You marry someone like you. So that the marriage go sweet u.
A mistake in marriage is a mistake forever.
Simple
DeleteP1-if you choose to kill yourself by yourself and for yourself,why not be my guest,but if not,abeg,jejely take a walk,cos marriage na just u go carry ur cross ooo.
ReplyDeleteP2-most times when God chooses to bless us we tend to think it's a lie.
When I met DH,he told me he is my husband but judging from my other experiences,it felt too good to be true,don't feel guilty,rather take your time,enjoy the moment while you open your eyes to know your guy well.
All the other guys wey u don take time know how e take end?
Abegy,help yourself cos prayer is free and God will always speak if only you ask him.
Good luck both of you.
Haba.
DeleteYour case n her case is different nah! Did ur DH propose in 1 week????
Poster 2: tell him u like long courtship. Hold onto d ring if u like but then, use that time to observe him wella. If na pretender, e go slip up. If not, nothing spoil.
Too many stories that touch abt marriage these days.
I don't know if I get you correctly but from a paragraph in your last narrative I quote ''...The thing is we planning on going to the altar as soon as he is back .... ''
ReplyDeleteyou were planning to marry ur ex once he is back... Question one: was he planning to come back in 5years time? Q2: if not, how come you are suddenly too young to marry the new guy?
Cos the entire story confuse me. I wish you well
Agent of confusion, you've succeeded in confusing me with this. Are you sure we read the same CHRONICLE???
Delete*Larry was here*
Me sef I wonder! Meet, collect car, propose in one week? I'm not sure what to make of this story
DeleteLarry ooo. Lols.
DeleteP1-if you choose to kill yourself by yourself and for yourself,why not be my guest,but if not,abeg,jejely take a walk,cos marriage na just u go carry ur cross ooo.
ReplyDeleteP2-most times when God chooses to bless us we tend to think it's a lie.
When I met DH,he told me he is my husband but judging from my other experiences,it felt too good to be true,don't feel guilty,rather take your time,enjoy the moment while you open your eyes to know your guy well.
All the other guys wey u don take time know how e take end?
Abegy,help yourself cos prayer is free and God will always speak if only you ask him.
Good luck both of you.
ReplyDeleteAm bak to drop comment!
Well I don't
Have anything to actually say cos Stella Nwunye Korkus" pen has said it all
This is actually d 1st time I wud agree wt Stell in toto
He gave you a range evogue and all he could afford is a fake ring. I hope the Evogue is in your name and not in your fantasy.
ReplyDeleteThat ring looks like the one Agnes bought from mallam to engage herself. Keep dreaming. When he gives you access to his bank account come back to ask for advise. Na small pikin sense dey worry you.
I tot as much o.that ring is so cheap!abeg story for people who don't knw what's up.
DeleteBad Belle.. Aunty Gwegs.
DeleteSometimes I get angry when I hear be patient
ReplyDelete#1...is his name T.O?
ReplyDelete#2...dats somtin I can do if I had dat much money...but know dat in my own case,I'l stylishly take d car back n change d locks.u can take d ring...I've actually thought of it b4..on one of those days I have nothing but evil thoughts. I hope he's real sha,congrats
Hummmm...Space booked
ReplyDeletePoster 1 don't go an meet his parents @2 u can never tell it's can be God at work in ur life just pray about it ,he alone can show u what to do.gud luck
ReplyDeletelol....its indeed a miracle that looks like a lie....
ReplyDeletePoster1 pls think deeply before you enter to avoid another chronicle.
ReplyDeletePoster2 now is time to pray over it, and also open ur eyes and watch him, he can propose but its left for you to hang it even if its for 6 months or a year so you can knw each other well. Just sit him down and explain what you want. It can be real dear I've seen it happen and am a living witness too.
Poster 1 - Run as fast as your leg can carry you from that man, he will definitely turn a wife beater soon.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- Enjoy yourself biko, eraze every form of guilt and bask in the euphoria of that love and luxury...wish you the very best boo.
Miracle that looks like a lie.... My dear, there is no formal procedure to know a marriage that will last or not. People date for 20yrs and divorce after 2yrs of marriage. Some date for few months and are the best couple. Did I hear you just met him last week??. He has given you all these things you mentions here?. hmmmm My dear, use your head. For me, Its too early. I wish you watch/date him for a while before talking about marriage.
ReplyDeleteWow...Stella's replies are just the best answers for both 1&2.
ReplyDeleteLMAO! Donno why, but I've been laughing so hard @ no 2 and d 1 week proposal. Beach house, e vogue and diamond ring. Owk!
ReplyDeleteThere is something odd about @poster2 story.
DeleteBut trust our greedy nigerian girls, they will die put.
I have a feeling that the guy is up to something, babe shine your eyes.
@poster 1,give him a 2nd chance and set traps for him to know if he's changed.
ReplyDeleteMake him angry and watch him...
@poster 2
I don't mean to be a "bad belle"but this sounds too good to be true.
What if this guy is up to something?
Pls don't jump into marriage with him without truly knowing his background,medical record,likes and dislikes.Most importantly,test him in bed!
Liar. Thunder fire you... all of you can lie now abi? bastard
ReplyDeleteSame advice to the both of you, look before you leap.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you are not too young to get married. He might be God sent to console you of what the other guy did. If he is faking it, he wouldn't have proposed in the presence of people. pls enjoy love and life.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: THE signs you are seeing are those of a potential wife beater. He has not beaten you because you are not close to each other. Visit him for a week and I bet he will belt you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 : he gave you a ring within a week? Am so happy for you babe. But don't you think he is rushing things and rushing you?
Poster 2,don't rush into marriage.
ReplyDeleteI ve money. And I can tell you that money is not everything.
U should continue dating him until you are absolutely sure that you can spend the rest of your life happily with him.
Poster 1 your boyfriend is still a child because only children reason the way he does. He doesn't sound serious. If you cannot resolve your differences without a third party,I wonder what will happen in marriage.watch it!!!!!!!!.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, am happy you accepted but tell him to give you some time. Congrats.
When it feels too good to be true it probably is too good to be true. Poster 2 pls be careful
ReplyDeletestella na lie, which kian miracle? this is so real to be true. babe av been in this type of relationship b4, though he didn't give me a car but under one month we became so close that we cannot do without each other. we dont quarrel or argue. just in a month i fell *yakata* for him. No sex o, cos i was scared of the whole thing. hehehe when gbege start, we couldnt control it oo. i can't deal with an insecured man no matter how gentle nd handsome you are. now we are Enemies. he hates me now eee but me no send sha cos i didnt dash him vjay..
ReplyDeleteAdriana congrats but you need to be sure he is the one and I like the fact that you are healing.
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteGive it time, ask that you move seeing his folks till December.
Poster 2
Adriana dear, love comes in different ways, 1 week, 1 month, 1 year, love still does exist. The wedding won't come in another month, so take the time to study him.
If our milky way turns round and round, between a circle of fire, Arianna, miracles still do exist. I'm happy for you cos I'm somewhat in your shoes.
I met this very awesome guy and in just one week, I feel like a queen to a man I'm just knowing.
Hmm...Adrianna..This is a miracle but thread with caution...
ReplyDeleteAdriana you are one lucky girl I must say o
ReplyDeletebeach house?do you school in lagos?
na wa o!
just study him alittle before turning down
his proposal
Poster one: from yelling, it will graduate to slap. Why will a man that wants to marry you come up with plenty excuses to stop you from visiting? What is he hiding? Be wise. Poster two: Congrats.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 na better catch u catch oh.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: When something seems too good to be true my dear watch out. You living on a fast track I mean na first class ticket o take your time o.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 ur chronicle is sweet but look well before vu leap.
ReplyDelete@Poster one, you have doubts and you really don't know that guy....... pls, put that introduction on hold and seek God's will until you find peace. Pls do not rush into marriage with a temperamental person..... they always have an excuse of their ill temper, and everyother person will say..... u saw it and still married him. You are a woman, sometimes all you want is a deep conversation and someone who can listen to you..... this kind of people might not have that patience.. Get to know him better, he is clearly not an emotionally intelligent person, since he can only express himself through outbursts. You need a mature person, who will be assertive enough, sensible,sensitive and can lead your home.Do not get carried away with family begging you and all,he might just be their baggage and you their potential final bustop for him....... families will beg even if their son is an imbecilic, sterile AIDS patient so long as he will be safely dumped to a wife.....so don't feel special or allow that affect your decisions.....it will be you living the life.....good or bad.... dont shortchange yourself with a potential abuser.
ReplyDelete@Poster two, beautiful ring, definitely mindblowing but....... pls watch it. You need to confirm from God to be sure this is for you. This could be your dream man or the distraction from your dream or a well packaged disaster,.....only God knows the answer..... dont get carried away with ring and range.... get to know this guy and carry God along...... Decision to marry is the second most important decision after Salvation...... so pls tread carefully. Success, goodluck and hearty cheers to you.
Poster 2. I would advise you to be careful with this guy. Get to know him first . Time will tell and reveal a lot of things about his character traits and all. In the mean time, enjoy your relationship with him, read your books and graduate in flying colours. In other news, dear God grant me a wonderful
ReplyDeleteHas landed!! Lol
ReplyDeletePoster 2,men like catching them young,marry him,I hope he has good motive? Pls try to study him well and investigate him.All the best. I did shakara wen I was ur age,I wish never did,now am 31,no marriage,I feel lonely,my prayer is that dis my present relationship works.
ReplyDeletePoster 2my dear is too early,it might be the guy has something he is hiding,that he does not want you to know about it.just study him first.
ReplyDeleteNa wah stella o, I sent you an email! And all I asked for in it were for prayers from bv family as I will begin writing my finals next week. And you didn't publish my mail in IHN.please did I offend you? If I did, I'm sorry.
ReplyDeleteMay God grant you retentive memory and make you come out in flying colors, all the best dearie
DeleteFirst poster: Stay Away from him...That guy is bad news,na person like am go marry finish dey flirt n also beat u blue black join am.
ReplyDeleteHold Firm to ur creator,trust him b'cus his time is d best.
Gudluck.
Second poster: I say A BIG CONGRATS! ur name should be STELLA,cuz u r a star!
Biko shine like a diamond and marry him asap.
The kind chronicles these days , dem dey makehnmapersin yawn, well... make e no be say persin wicked, so make we still advice .
ReplyDeleteP1: you dey see fire for your front and you dey ask us whether make you enter abi? Shey na when the man turn you to punching bag for inside house, you go send another chronicle come say make we advice you kwa? Abeg advice yourself now.
P2: after just one week, bros propose! Either you fine pass mammy-water or the bros get werin im dey hide. No be everything wey dey shine be original. Buh if e genuine sha, I happy for you o
it's is too early, please u need enough time to study him...remember all that glitters are not gold. Don't be carried away by the gifts he showers on you .. please don't hurry into marriage
ReplyDeleteto avoid future regrets.
These guys that give cars and house keys, biko where do girls find them? The guy might be genuine, who knows. Just be watchful and prayerful.
ReplyDeleteNarrator number one. More importantly, he yells at you at every imaginable excuse. His brother has begged, a girlfriend has begged please fell me who amongst them has ever borne the yell yet on your behalf. After your marriage and he graduates to hitting you would asks the blog family to advise you?. Less importantly, you proposed no sex and he knows he can only keep to it without problem by making sure you aren't left with him alone especially overnight. So what's your own insisting you go and spend weekends with him.
ReplyDeleteP2 propose early ,njo. Delay proposal, njo. Now considering what you believe you want,woman up and tell him clearly you aren't yet ready but accepted the proposal out of confusion. Give him how many years from now you will be ready and allow him to decide to wait or go since you say you are still to young to marry. Also do well to ask him if the proposal is to tie you indefinitely ore marry you to marry you immediately since from your account he has all it takes to marry then you decide if you want an indefinite suspension or you walk. Anything short of that then it means you two want to be enjoying spoils and believe me it would have a 50-50 chance of producing another chronicles
Another fine advice
DeleteCronicles of money making pls... I met this guy,I met that guy.... tired much!!
ReplyDeleteObare @ saying
DeleteSmiiile bro Money is just here
Peace
D guy may be desperate! Even if he has all d money in the world, he shudnt propose to a lady he's just strtd dating! Even if its God that told him u r d ryt person...he shud still give u time!
ReplyDeleteAs you don get the ring, Godu win!!! Just hold on to the ring and keep watching him.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,just try and study him properly before getting married to him. I don't want u to suffer again cos as a young girl, u have been through a lot. Pray and ask God for direction.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I tap into ur blessing
ReplyDeleteHmmmn.
ReplyDeleteAdriana take your time, pray about it, fast, don't have sex with him.... God will definitely show you if he is yours or not. You don't need to date a man forever before u have a good marriage. Bless you#
ReplyDeleteAdriana take your time, pray about it, fast, don't have sex with him.... God will definitely show you if he is yours or not. You don't need to date a man forever before u have a good marriage. Bless you#
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteI actually went through ur narrative a second time to get the relationship start date cos its quite important. Well, you guys started dating in May implying that your rshp is approximately 5months old. What you have described isn't strange at this stage although doesn't occur in all relationships. This abrasion/arguments occurs as most times there's an existing friction between two people as they try to become one/merge ideas/attain equilibrium.
The only major issue is that aggressiveness can easily transcend to violence but I would say you should put up with him and try to observe his tendencies towards violence. I know you cannot change a man but when a man is on the same tune with you, that's the ultimate description of a rosy relationship as both of you would sing on same key..This is only attainable with time as you guys develop that synergy, togetherness and comfort around each other such that both of you would speak as one.
I would also advice you to reduce arguments with him, you can avoid discussions when he is outraged cos it takes two to argue.....and arguements don't help anyone. Facts and points can be made in a subtle way....Work around finding an operating point to deal with his anger and you'll be fine.
***Please try and find out why he avoids you visiting....to me, that should be your greatest concern at this point. Cheers dear
Poster 2
Hello Andrianna and how is Cyprus?? Can see you've adapted nicely.....a lotta Nigerians are over there so you'll be comfy in no time especially as the aborigens are not too friendly considering the language n religious barrier.
To the main point, dearie...no one does all that in a week....You need to be careful when in a new environment cos you hardly know what some people over there do for a living. His source of wealth wld be a discuss for another day but Andrianna, you need to face your studies and work to build your grades...the secret to graduating with a nice grade is starting early....Work hard dear and the world would be at your feet, then you can afford the material things which might mean so much to you at this stage.
You can't say you love a dude u met within a week, shows that you are clearly getting it wrong(except you included that part to spite your ex cos u knw he is a BV).
My advice is this.....return his ring and tell him to give you time....Devote 85% of your time to yourself; Religion, studies, and adaptation especially...then manage to give him some part of the remaining 15%....evaluate him and his person; character, values, family background, means of income, lifestyle most especially then take a decision after a whole YEAR....if he waits, fine and if he doesn't then kiss him goodbye and give him a bottle of Johnny Walker so he can keep Walking. Please avoid any sexual contact with this individual as well.
If at the end, you wish to follow your intuition.....then I wish you God's guidance. Stay safe, focus on your books, hit dem grades and graduate to face a sweet world where you can work, earn and beat your chest in confidence. Greet ma sis for me tho..lol cheers
*pls ignore any typo*
Li-yon Vls.
As always.Good points.
DeletePlease o, is sex a big deal? Afterall, its between two parties. Why are women quick to say you shouldn't have sex with d guy? Why are women quick to feel used and feel as if they've lost their dignity when they have sex?
DeleteAriana also see this advice. Tread softly
Delete@Ano 17.22, Have u heard of STDs before? Empty head. Sleep with any animal you meet.
Delete@Ann 15:44, God bless you for speaking the truth.
please take down the ring picture, she may be traced with it. Poster 2 enjoy yourself jare but give it time dear. Poster one, the second story should inspire you too move on. Three men a woman should never manage are:
ReplyDelete1. Womaniser
2. Hot tempered man
3. Drunkard.
Traced with ring ke? What nonsense are you talking? Is the ring exclusive that only one will be available for sale? Abeg that ring looks cheap and will definitely be common.
DeleteHnnnn for poster 1 I hate it wen am yelled at besides u not married yet, are u his child?its left 4 u.poster 2 way to early girl but on d other hand he might be 4 real.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:a short tempered man is never good even the bible said anger is a bad thing and for the fact there is no tangible communication ild advice you to move on,all those begging he does to your friends is acting biko you are the one who know where the feet hurts,if you guys continue uld keep fighting and won't last...Selah
ReplyDeletePoster 2:one week is quite a short time to engage someone but like they say when a man knows he knows but you aren't too sure of your feelings for him,tell him to give you time atleast people get engaged for years before marrying,study him and snoop lol...wish you all the best,you deserve a good man...
Adriana looks like d guy is serious nd is not a time waster.just tell him to negodi.
ReplyDeleteI feel like am reading a novel poster 2. May God give you the wisdom to make a good decision. Try to know more about the guy. Who knows, my uncle met his future wife and within three months they got married and hv been married for over 20 years now and things just keep getting better for them. I felt I was too young when I met a wonderful man like you and lost him. May God help you in your decisions.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, look before you leap. I'm still traumatised from those stories about domestic violence biko.
I think I only have advice for narrative two. Babe keep the ring,do not tell him anything yet. Just go with the flow. See, forget all those people dating for decades,if he loves you,he loves you.
ReplyDeleteKeep the ring and get to know him for atleast six months before accepting to meet his people.
Love in one week? As old as you are you never get sense yet? All peeps are asking her to do is take her time to know him. Na your type go enter one chance because man flash money for your front. All that glitters aint gold hunnay
DeleteShut up you blind bat. Didn't you read the part where I said she should wait for another six months and get to know him more?
DeletePoster 1: I would advise you to start thinking of how to get out of that relationship if you know you don't have the patience to give him a chance to change his way. Relationships are hard and need to be nurtured so you need to analyse what you can and can not tolerate and stick to your guns! Your gut will tell you what to do.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: no offence but from your narrative you strike me as very materialistic and Narcissistic. You seem very naïve and carried away by things money can buy, and your new boyfriend had latched on to this discovery and he's taking advantage of that! . For goodness sake you're just 20!! I'm sure your new BF is very much older (for his financial capabilities you've described) and taking advantage of your lack of sense. You need to get your priorities straight... You're not the only pretty girl around so use your brain.. Think before you leap. You're in no fit state to be a engaged, let alone be a wife! But congratulations all the same. Nice ring!
1000likes. Sensible advice for poster 2. Some are asking her to marry him like that because they heard range rover evogue.
DeleteMy tired I'm just tired lol
DeleteStella so cause you worked with hints nd them soft sell trashy mags, you think you can always make up stories anytime, anyhow and expect silly bvs to swallow hook, line and sinker!... In ur bid to be relevant and create traffic as a good blognalist!..... Better chill on the concocted lies! Narrative 2 is apparently made up by u!
ReplyDeleteAhan!! The level of bitterness in your life tho!! U r so bitter that you didn't notice the poster had sent in a chronicle before this one, her bf is a BV and she even snapped her ring cuz of people like you. Get a life pls, Jesus loves you.
DeletePoster 2 thread carefully, pray and fast about that man.
ReplyDeleteAh poster 2, ur story sounds like mine only difference is the guy was abroad. I met him when he came to naija for hols and my gf hooked us up. The omata in him was on high level. And i cldnt cope, bt i tried to persevere. And give it sometime,to see if i cld adapt. at least am igbo shldnt be hard. Bt 1 week after he had to travel back so there was nt enuf time. Omo the guy travel and as an experienced girl who had learnt from other peoples experience, i just tell am bye bye. I dint put my mind on his side. This guy went there, no call, no text. Though was seeing him online on whatsapp. Bt then i was like, well his nt obliged to call me since we dint really date and we dint have sex. Although the guy pester me. No scope e no use. I use to drive his range sport like it was mine. He even told me i cld have it when he traveled. Hmm me am like this is too good to be true, after like plenty months, he called and said he was coming to naija and wld like to see me. U dint ca me for a long time and now u want to come to naija and u r calling me. Anyway he played the victim. Saying he expected me to have chatted him up if i cared to see if he arrived safely. I was like if u dint, wld have see the plane crash on tv. Lol. Well he came back and that period I had just gotten a job at the bank which made it hard to see him. finally one weekend i went to see him and he proposed to me with dis huge rock. I was suprised. Cldnt bliv it. Was so carried away that for the first time after all the hussle i gave in to sex. Then i went home and trust me that was the end of the relationship. The bros no even behave like person wey engage girl. It felt so strange, no emotions. Comminications dropped and finally stopped. My only happiness was that am nt a social media person. Cos i for don put hand like poster 2, share pics for fb, bbm etc and den pple go wait for marriage till eternity though am married now to my sweet boo. Just writing my story, to let poster 2 know that if its too good to be true, it surely is. Stella am new eh and my blog id will be for the people.
ReplyDeleteU see why i say, girls shldnt be forming hard to get. All this no sex no sex....... see the level a guy has to go thru to collect sex. Lol. All the same, am still a team taste once to confirm and then no sex till after marriage. Lol. Kpele. Tongue out.
DeleteThat is the scope to use if a girl is forming hard to gbensh. Just propose to her or take her to see your parents. She go hang let for burglary for you. Women and their fish brain.
DeleteThanks for this eye opener ma'am. But all the same it might be real for poster 2. My only advice is for her to shine eyes well well and go with the flow.
DeleteMadam team test once wait till after marriage. I must say ur thinking is shallow. Once u ve done it, it's done abi what the point to trying to replace the head after cutting it off to avoid headache?
all that glitters aint gold.i dont believe in rush hour..there could b more to this..life is in phases.u are too young...ur first semester...why dont you focus...have clear cut goals...ask urself if you truly want to b married at this age and at this phase of life....my dear....dont be surprised if in the next 15yrs all this affection dies..trust me u not the most preety girl in the world,and with his money others girls are equally hooked up to him...so b sure if thats what u really want...take time and study whats happening...ah wish u the best
ReplyDeleteIts only an engagement na so its ok, if anything goes sour you can return the ring and please don't rush into marriage. You 5cam tell him you need more time, 2 or 5 years sef..
ReplyDelete@ poster two;A man can spend so much money on you and show you to the world,yet he isnt in love with you...most men use the delay tactics so as to win A woman's heart completely and by the time you must be thinking you ve found your dream man;GBAM!! he eats and clean his mouth to his satisfaction and then Dump you...
ReplyDeleteThe thing is men have now realized that the easiest way of getting the heart/trust of A lady is by Engaging her or showing her off to the world;or perhaps getting her different gifts on a regular basis and giving her the little attention she is always fantasising about..
But alldsame;this Guy could be serious with you so all you ve to do now is follow your "Woman Intuition" and if you think its really too good to be true,then talk to him about it and explain to him that you really accepted the Engagement then simply because you know he has been too good to you and perhaps it would be too embarrassing to say No in the public then;but that you really need more time with him to really get to know more about his personality et Attitude...
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Poster 2, I dnt believe your shit@ll.he gave u a range rover and he can't afford an expensive ring.that ring is silver sterling.very cheap as low as 20k.just say u want to flaunt your engagement abeg.lie lie.am into rings so I knw what am saying
ReplyDeleteGbam
DeleteThey are in eastern Europe not Nigeria abeg.can you tell platinum ring when you see it? Abeg chill.you are used to selling gl and cheap rings hence your comment.park well biko
DeletePoster1:plz take a chill pill don't let him rush anything
ReplyDeletePoster2:u really need to wear dat ring for a while to study him,cos if u turn him down nw u won't knw who he really is.
Yes! Some miracles look like a lie @ poster 2. I got mine last month, my miracle that sounds like a lie. Sometimes I even pinch myself just to be sure i'm not dreaming...
ReplyDeletePoster 2.. Fear catch me sef but then love sometimes can be crazy.. U see someone now and d next minute, you're in love.. My hubby of 15 years was love at first sight and we're still counting.. You never can tell.. But I'd advise you to watch carefully.. Take your time to find out more about him.. His family.. The kind of business he's into.. Et al.. Then u can decide whether to move on or not. And please.. Don't rush into marriage.. If its about love, you'll fall in love deeply with time.. Love grows..
ReplyDeletePoster 1.. Anger na bad thing.. Very bad one.. Abeg go on recess and see if he'll change.. Na from clap dem dey enter dance.. Watch am well well to prevent stories that touch tomorrow.. I wish u all the best.
God bless you both!
Stella the second lady in the chronicle section is a LIAR. It is not a miracle that looks like a lie but it is a LIE.
ReplyDeleteI wonder why she's doing this but at the end of the day, this is why some of them die of depression because of the high standard they built in their fantasy land.
The image she used exposed her.
It is disheartening to see idiots like this lady coming here with lies. Many ladies will read this and fight their boyfriends tonight. LMAOOOO.
Dear Andriana, if you don't stop lying enh, the thunder that will fire you is doing press up.
She lifted the image she used from the following links below.
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(2) http://www.yelp.com/user_details?userid=U9rRgcFBrrIZbKrBFNOUlA
Lmao
DeleteMayowalemi,but the link looks jaga jaga...
DeleteTo poster 1 listen to your inner mind and don't act based on what his brother or your friend is saying. At the end of the day you and you alone will stay with the guy forever. Think well and good luck to you. Poster 2 God moves in a mysterious ways. Just pray and be watching. Good luck
ReplyDeletePoster two. Hmmmmmmmm, be careful ooooooooooo. Look very well. Take ur time, study him. Dats if dis ur story is true.
ReplyDeleteChristie.
Poster2:jst follow up wt him nd use ur sense 2 follow him+ snoop if u can keep up wt him fine nd if u cant 'u can always break up wt him @lest he has neither seen ur parent nor taken u 2 d registry.enjoy ursef yle it last
ReplyDelete@Poster 1-Give the guy some time, he may eventually grow up...Dont go for the introduction in November. Ask God to reveal Him to you, he definitely will.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2-Someone said its a lie...Lol. Don't know about that but please dont forget y u re in the uk.. Be careful. I remember the story my hubby told me abt a guy dat used to engage girls and even go to the girls house with lots of goodies for her parents, promising to marry their daughter just to sleep with the girl. And when he is done he dumps the girl... Abeg shine you eyes ooooooo. Love u hun
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poster 2, my situation was not different from yours. i and my husband had a long distance r/ship too. he was in PH city and i was in makurdi. the major reason i married him was because he had d fear of God. when we got married i started to learn alot about him, if he yells, u wld hear his voice 10 houses away. i was not used to that, i felt embrassed and most time withdrew into my shell. i had to have a heart-to-heart discussion with him that i was not used to someone shouting at me and d embrassment that came with it. his defence was that he had aa loud voice
ReplyDeletehe changed, though not instantly but gradually nd now he does not raise his voice at me again.
Poster 2 you are a very big liar
ReplyDeletePoster2. ..I see what you are trying to do. Classical abused girl syndrome. All these fake news and show is for your Ex.
ReplyDeleteGirlfriend. ..you are not engaged, you don't even have a man. Stop with all these and get some counselling. You are still pining for your ex , that is why you feel the need to give us these fake news.
XOXO MYSTERY
Poster1, believe me from experience yelling is a sign you shouldnt ignore.I use to be in same situation or shld i say i still am. I too had never met a guy dat wld raise his voice at me, talkless of shouting. When i first met this guy 1st 6mths he was d most loving person, still even is loving, dats the complicated part. I just started noticing when d rltshp was like a year he started raising his voice and shouting at me, then started calling me mad,stupid etc in arguements. The next thing she shoved me during an arguement, shoving turned to slap one day.
ReplyDeleteWe also dont live in same town so i didnt even notice these things when he comes to visit me. Until i started travlln to meet him and we would spend 2wks together and long periods. Thats when his real behavior came out.
I am not saying all guys that shout lead to physical abuse o, but most times thats how it starts. Atleast thats how mine started. Since the day of d slap there has not been any other abuse from him,but we are on a break till i decide if i want to proceed with the relationship.I dont want to marry sm1 that will be using me for pinching bag.
My advice to you, dont marry him yet. Take minimum a yr to study him. Take time to visit him, be with him for 1wk straight. You can spend time with him ur next leave from work. Afterall this is ur future and potential husband.
Poster 2, dont let people tell you you are too young. have a long engagement for atlst 1yr to study him,dont let him rush you into marriage. Yes everythn is moving too fast even for my liking, but this might be a good man for you, dont throw him away.
ReplyDeleteMy senior sister also got engaged at 20, and married by 21. My parents objected that she needs to serve and start working. she said if they dont allow her she will never marry. Today shes been married 20yrs with 2kids to a doctor based in Atlanta. Though they dated 2yrs before then.
My advice, have a long engagement,get to know about him, his family etc. Inform your mum, let both of you pray about it. I REPEAT, do not let this man go like that o, except if you feel he has bad traits and wont make a good husband. There is nothing like too young o, people dey marry for school o.
poster 2 that guy is married take it or leave it.
ReplyDeleteHmm,i don't usually comment but poster 2 na small pikin dey worry you,your previous narrative and this doesn't flow. First of all so you are 20 yrs and have all this drama in your life? Clap for yourself, now you are saying all this activities happened in a week? Seems like a huge lie my dear and if it is true why not keep it to yourself, I think you are more man hungry than brighter future hungry. Anything or Any story that seems so good to be true is usually so good to be true. Focus on more important things in your life. Seems like you just want your ex to be jealous and trust me it's not worth it.
ReplyDeleteAdri baby congrat!
ReplyDeletePlease don't reject your God given blessing (direct tusk)lol....
Well, I will encourage you not to be afraid okay? Just take it to the lord in prayers. I remembered vividly sometime early last year when I broke up with my ex who gave me a horrible and miserable relationship. I told him the day (Feb 14,2014) I broke up with him that he will never find anyone like me bec I'm the best of my kind and we can never be multiple anywhere.I said to him, God who sees us and knows our hearts will reward us accordingly. That as I leave his life today, God will send a man who is much better than him and who will know my worth and appreciate it. Someone who will love me and show me what love truly is. Feb 20, 2015. My hubby surfaced... at first I thought it was a joke. March 4, 2015 we started dating. April he told me I want to marry you. I don't want to be your boyfriend, "I want to be your husband". I couldn't believe it. He called his dad immediately and told him, I've found my wife expect us soon lol... July, I travelled out of the country for an official trip, my hubby said, once you come back, we are going to see your parents and the rest were history till date.
Genuine love will meet you when you've given up or about to give up on love. In conclusion, experience makes us wiser.
N.B Please don't let love becloud you. Tell him about your past life if he accepts it, fine. Because karma is always a bitch. Don't get too excited yet. I know why I am saying all these so that when time comes or karma arrives your door step, he will be aware and call it nothing. Be strong okay.
Enjoy your new found love. I love to hear good news especially from people who passed through hell in relationship like me. Be super happy so that your ex and his family will be dying in shame. His mother is not the only mother on earth. If she doesn't accept you, others will. Who knows the daughter inlaw her son will bring for her will be worst than yourself. " The devil you know is more better than the angel you don't know".
I rest my case.
PEACEFUL AND ENCOURAGING WIFE.......
Adri baby congrat!
ReplyDeletePlease don't reject your God given blessing (direct tusk)lol....
Well, I will encourage you not to be afraid okay? Just take it to the lord in prayers. I remembered vividly sometime early last year when I broke up with my ex who gave me a horrible and miserable relationship. I told him the day (Feb 14,2014) I broke up with him that he will never find anyone like me bec I'm the best of my kind and we can never be multiple anywhere.I said to him, God who sees us and knows our hearts will reward us accordingly. That as I leave his life today, God will send a man who is much better than him and who will know my worth and appreciate it. Someone who will love me and show me what love truly is. Feb 20, 2015. My hubby surfaced... at first I thought it was a joke. March 4, 2015 we started dating. April he told me I want to marry you. I don't want to be your boyfriend, "I want to be your husband". I couldn't believe it. He called his dad immediately and told him, I've found my wife expect us soon lol... July, I travelled out of the country for an official trip, my hubby said, once you come back, we are going to see your parents and the rest were history till date.
Genuine love will meet you when you've given up or about to give up on love. In conclusion, experience makes us wiser.
N.B Please don't let love becloud you. Tell him about your past life if he accepts it, fine. Because karma is always a bitch. Don't get too excited yet. I know why I am saying all these so that when time comes or karma arrives your door step, he will be aware and call it nothing. Be strong okay.
Enjoy your new found love. I love to hear good news especially from people who passed through hell in relationship like me. Be super happy so that your ex and his family will be dying in shame. His mother is not the only mother on earth. If she doesn't accept you, others will. Who knows the daughter inlaw her son will bring for her will be worst than yourself. " The devil you know is more better than the angel you don't know".
I rest my case.
PEACEFUL AND ENCOURAGING WIFE.......
Some comments are longer than the chronicle itself.... hohohohoho
ReplyDeleteOMG!!! PLEASE JEALOUSY AND LOOKU LOOKU PEOPLE PLEASE LEAVE POSTER2 ALONE.
ReplyDeleteIf she lied, it is her problem not yours. No be your mouth she carry lie. At least there is happiness in lying. You guys should go get a life biko.
Adri baby, please if lying makes you happy, please with all pleasure 'LIE'!! kindly grow your talent in anytin that makes you happy.
I love cooking and cooking gives me so much joy just that it could be a bit stressful atimes. Please be happy in whatever you feel makes you happy.
I'm outta here...
PEACEFUL AND ENCOURAGING WIFE.......
OMG!!! PLEASE JEALOUSY AND LOOKU LOOKU PEOPLE PLEASE LEAVE POSTER2 ALONE.
ReplyDeleteIf she lied, it is her problem not yours. No be your mouth she carry lie. At least there is happiness in lying. You guys should go get a life biko.
Adri baby, please if lying makes you happy, please with all pleasure 'LIE'!! kindly grow your talent in anytin that makes you happy.
I love cooking and cooking gives me so much joy just that it could be a bit stressful atimes. Please be happy in whatever you feel makes you happy.
I'm outta here...
PEACEFUL AND ENCOURAGING WIFE.......
Poster 1: I don't know how to beg but please o beg u with all that you hols dear run! I wish I had this opportunity 6 months ago, I saw all the signs, the yelling, shouting manipulation making me feel guilty when I'm not and all that. Trust me it's a battle and it won't stop. He will hit you with time, the scars on my body can tell! I wish I can have last year back, people like that are emotionally draining, I look no where near the pretty lady I use to be. Don't make same mistake please. RUNNNN
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Congratulations, but at the same time i advice u to be very careful. Although i believe in Love at first sight but 1 week is too damn fast for a proposal,car and spare key to his house. i advice you tread softly and please be care ful
ReplyDeletePoster 2....please study this guy, b4 you make a terrible mistake.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: IF YOU "OPEN YOU LEGS", YOU ARE FINISHED! (IN "LADY IGO'S" VOICE). oN A MORE SERIOUS NOTE, SINCE YOU ARE NOT SURE (THOUGH YOU SAID "YES" FOOLISHLY), STAY AND WATCH. THAT GUILT IS REAL. WATCH, WATCH, WATCH! BEGIN A FAST 6-6PM TO BE ABLE TO TAKE THE "REAL DECISION" WHETHER "YES' OR "NO". Remember that this man has not paid your bride price. He has not married you. So there is no "divorce here". Engagement can always be broken.
ReplyDeleteRelevant questions:
1. What does he do for a living?
2. who are his exes?
3. Has he married before?
4. what does he worship?
5. Why did he rush?
6. What is his sex life like (yes, he definitely has one)
ALSO REVERSE THESE QUESTIONS AND ASK IT TO YOURSELF AND ANSWER THEM. tHE FINAL ANSWER ("YES" OR "NO") WILL STARE YOU TO THE FACE!
Remember that parable in Mathew 21:28-32 about the two sons that one promised his father that he will work in his vineyard and eventually refused to go? Read that please.
Poster 1: No sentiments; this matter is already a "graduate"; from yelling to beating. Fast and pray and watch.
Poster 2: (and poster one): Since this whole issue bothers on "Yes" or "No", look at these scriptures:
ReplyDeleteMatthew 21:28-32
28“But what do you think about this? A man with two sons told the older boy, ‘Son, go out and work in the vineyard today.’ 29The son answered, ‘No, I won’t go,’ but later he changed his mind and went anyway. 30Then the father told the other son, ‘You go,’ and he said, ‘Yes, sir, I will.’ But he didn’t go.
31“Which of the two obeyed his father?”
They replied, “The first.”h
Then Jesus explained his meaning: “I tell you the truth, corrupt tax collectors and prostitutes will get into the Kingdom of God before you do. 32For John the Baptist came and showed you the right way to live, but you didn’t believe him, while tax collectors and prostitutes did. And even when you saw this happening, you refused to believe him and repent of your sins.
Mathew 5:37 Just say a simple, 'Yes, I will,' or 'No, I won't.' Anything beyond this is from the evil one
The things that are "beyond yes or no"
1. swearing by blood or any part of your body
2. taking any form of oath in an idol's
3. sexual covenant in agreement when you are not married to the person.
Anything involving these comes from the evil one; Satan.
P1, dude is so so aggressive o, watch your back. P2, just a week relationship and here you are? Car, money, now to marry! I thought Kloe Kardashian yo Lamar was fast then I saw this. This is a whirlwind romance please be careful. I wish you all the best
ReplyDelete#1: Darling, that a man was on your case for 7 years, as flattering and romantic as it may appear, doesn't mean he has good intentions. A marriage proposal could as well be laced with emotional cyanide, you accept at your own peril. The ubiquitous societal pressure on young ladies to get married, dulls the originally keen intuitive facilities God, in His awesomeness, so lavished on us, women. The second a man feels he's doing you a favour by marrying you, rest assured that you are about to board the marital Titanic. That union is already doomed before it even starts.
ReplyDeleteHow can a man, who supposedly chased after you for 7 years, tell his brother that you are misbehaving because he wants to introduce you to his parents barely 5 months of inter-state courtship? Shouldn't he be too giddy with excitement to even notice any negative attitude you may exhibit? He yells at you and you guys end up quarrelling, this is a man whose younger brother is within your age range, I'm guessing he's more than a couple years older than you, yet he can't treat you like his baby girl? Sweetie, his behaviour is incongruous with that of a man in love but consistent with a man who has a sinister plan.
You started dating in May, you live in different States, he doesn't want you to come visit him, he does the visiting, he's already exhibiting violent tendencies, he claims he wants you to meet his parents by November. Darling, please tell me why you are even considering this aberration or phantom relationship as a prelude to marriage?
That he agreed to no sex before married is not a plus in this case. He can be getting his freak on with someone else. The relationship is an inter-state relationship, he hasn't personally taking you to his house nor allowed to visit him. So what or who is he hiding from you? Isn't it curious that he doesn't want you to know where he lives but he is planning to introduce you to his parents next month?
I'm sorry, my love, but this is a mess! I don't care if his entire village comes pleading with you to continue with this abusive relationship, it goes to no issue because the principal players in this relationship are both of you. I don't care if he looks like a wet puppy because he is "broken" from the breakup, let him go. There are too many inconsistencies and red flags.You deserve a better man. Patience in any relationship is only desirable if that relationship already has a solid foundation. No sane person exercises the virtue of patience in a caricature relationship.
#e-bearhugs.
Honey do not disappear again.
DeleteWelcome!
Wisdom speaking. Gbam!
DeletePoster1 ....pls dont marry an aggressive man! He will only get worse wit d see finish dat comes with marraige.
ReplyDeletePoster one that is how gals on nowadays behave dey don't have manner for lady again. Just follow ur mind or av little patient with him.
ReplyDeleteAdriana opportunity comes but once u can marry as well go to school coz no guys ready to marry now and pray about it as well. Good luck
Poster one.... abeg I don forget your chronicle.
ReplyDeleteLet me go back and read.
Poster two..... Praiseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee the Lord. :_))
In courtship, never ever leave any stone unturned....open your eyes, ask questions, be sensitive. People pretend a lot while still dating/courtship but like the common saying...attitude is like smoke, u really can't hide it. Poster 1, this guy is giving you hos best attitude now and clearly one need to raise an eyebrow over it. What you see now is just tip of the iceberg...expect more. If you ignore what you see now, be ready to bear the brunt later. Poster2: Ask yourself....what did he see in you to have proposed to you within one week of dating? What did u see in him to have accepted his proposal? Truly, you can't know your spouse even if you date for 5yrs and the longness of dating or courting does not guaranty success in marriage....just take your time to know him and try not to get blinded by the gift, care and attention tou get.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 : I smell a fraudster around you. Don't know why sha. All the big car and big house story, they always rush you so that you quickly marry them and don't check their background. Please check very well sha, don't know why. Sometimes when it's too is to be true, then it is not true. Date him longer please.
ReplyDeleteStella, where is my comment?
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Hmmn.Madam Adrianna. Sha dont come back in two Years and start talking about how your huaband cannot sleep until he sucks on a strangers clits.. This ur story is weird bruh.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you are a liar stop making up chronicles pls
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