If you know any Lady getting married today,please pass this on...
HEAR WHAT A MOTHER TOLD HER DAUGHTER ON
HER WEDDING DAY
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My daughter,you are now a wife and soon you'll
be become a mother too. God bear me witness
that I taught you how to cook and do other house
chores. I taught you to respect men and to
explain your anger when necessary but if you do
otherwise,i know you,not as a daughter but as my
fellow woman.
My daughter,you see this your husband? He is a
gentleman but don't take advantage of that. Don't
bring out the beast in him. My daughter,you see
this mark on my forehead?
Your father gave it to me.He tolerated me
every time but on that day,He came unexpectedly.
It wasn't his intention but i dared him and he hit
me just once
My daughter,Men hate it when you use the word
"YOU CAN'T DO IT".He sure can do more than but
he's just protecting you from harm.
My daughter, whenever there is an arguement or
misunderstanding, try drinking water.You can't
talk when you have water in your mouth.
Now,you have two families.You are very
lucky.Tolerate and appreciate them just as you
did here.
Learn to welcome other people's kids and soon,
children will surround your table with love.
You see that my big pot? I bought it when i still
had no child but i always cooked with it to feed
those children who had nothing to eat.
Learn to show hospitality. Welcome a visitor and
at least,offer a glass of water.Don't discriminate.
Don't shatter your husband's family. instead,
bring them together.
Learn to appreciate little efforts and soon,they'll
learn to do more.
Today,you are wearing a wedding gown and you
look so beautiful in it but there is still another
gown you need to wear.That is the MATERNITY
gown. I wore it and you shall wear your's too.
When you have a misunderstanding, don't come
back here.Sort things out and build a happy
home.I built mine and your father enjoyed me.
Men like food.They like both the kITCHEN food
and the BEDROOM food.Don't deny him any of
the food all because you had an argument.
If the ones i taught you are not enough, learn
more!
Preach!
ReplyDeleteBlablabla and more bla
DeleteMy step daughter nko?
Mtcheew
WHat people dnt know is that there are no fast rulesin marriage.
Stale
DeleteMen hate you can't do it, but they hate nagging the more. It's so irritating when a woman nags to much, even the Bible don't approve of a nagging wife.
DeleteBut what about my son? Advice for the men...
Your comment will be visible after approval.
Sometimes is not only good behavior and everything listed above that keeps a marriage. Some people no matter what you do you can never make them feel good. It takes God for some marriages to work.
DeleteI like this....it makes you think of how to make right what's wrong in ur marriage/ relationship.
Delete@Alloy dunno the exact date but one post was put up about a father advising his son sometime ago.
DeleteAbegi, marriage wey go scatter go scatter finish.... No amount of advise o prayer will help.
ReplyDeleteNo hope 4 u with such a mentality
Deletelol but some people help their marriage to scatter,na wa na marriage we come do for this world, people respect married girls to single succesful ladies.
DeleteBut you can at least try your best for it not to 'Scatter'....
DeleteNo amount of advice or prayer wil help
DeleteLike seriously?
Hmmmmmmmmm
Lmaooooo..
DeleteHopeless human everywhere.your comment shows you have lost it way back.
DeleteIt is well.
I see.
ReplyDeleteOk oo. But it is not every time a woman is ready for the bedroom food.
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Carina, if are the one that wants, how Will you feel if he says no to you? It's good to give atimes even if it is not Cheerful giving. Lol
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ReplyDeleteEven if my sis inlaw sees this, I don't think she can decipher it. She goes to church but I don't think she hears the preaching....can't wait for d day I don't have to listen to her nag all night long..and when she's home during d day (from d other flat o).
DeleteNa for her hand I for know say na man dey buy bathing soap, cream even tissue or dem no go clean yansh that day...even though e dey pet u anyhow..U claim to have money but won't wear ur daughter cardigan when it's extremely cold cos hubby no give u money take fix d zipper..but u dey work o....ur own child, if u don't take care of ur kids, who will?
I've told God that anything that would make me live like that with my future hubby, uproot it b4 I even meet him.
Who dey talk of marriage now , I just dey look am with side eyes cos that babe put the fear of d Lord in me......All because ur hubby never send e mama go village make u dey control her dead hubby properties..
Anything that will make me value material things more than my r/ship with people, O God, send it into the hottest and darkest place in hell...let it BURN.
If u don't treat them like d Shyt they r, u will welcome a lot of rubbish, shd I name some? Heartbreak, HIV,Infections of all kinds,DAT his money will go to his Mistresses... NNE I wan b like ur sis...Zero love to no 1, they r his kids, if he can't fend for them, na my money I wan use? Kitikpa gbagbo Ekwensu!!!!! U know all those worn DAT hire kids and take them under d sun to beg? If he is not carefrul ,na d money dey pikins make, we go use buy that cream et all... Rubbish
DeleteMy dear gimme your sis in law contact I want to be her friend...... U never marry u be jjc when u marry ur eye go tear!!!
DeleteMarriage blog
ReplyDeleteE tire me. This is one of the many ways the society puts pressure on ladies...
DeleteBwahahahahahahaha@Quiksilver no be small marriage blog...
DeleteIts becoming too stereotype...
***Bunny****
GBAM!
ReplyDeleteStellz dis one u no add red ink at the end? Hmmmm, hope u concur with d advice?
Some clueless BVs will support this advice yet will be d ones advices some clueless bvs on how to challenge their men, forgetting that marriage is for better for worse, and how u lay ur bed na how u lie on top of it.
I strongly support this woman especially d area she said "don't bring out d beast in him" and that men hate the word "you can't do it".
Uche Onye Adighi ya Njo.
Go Jor.... Lol
DeleteNice...
ReplyDeleteAnd where is the advice for the men?
ReplyDeleteyou be bv so? that of d men was posted her last week or thereabout
DeleteNice words and nice advice, seen before
ReplyDeleteWise advice
ReplyDeleteNice
ReplyDeleteWoow..dis is beautiful.. For us who are motherless.. We will cherish dis...wedding loading..next yr..Lord I'm so grateful for everything.. For putting new songs in my mouth each day..
ReplyDeleteWow, I feel you dear. So sorry about your mom. I can bring heaven down because of my mom. I love her so much.
DeleteThanks dear
DeleteChoi all dis duties just to please a man? Women I troway salute for una ooooh, will all dis make him faithful? By the way I need to settle down fast tooo oooooh any responsible man tinking I dat same direction should comment under mine. I no dey look for rich man oooooh so if you dey ricj abeg pack well.
ReplyDeleteI don comment...*side eyes
DeleteU arnt looking 4 a rich man? Wat r u looking for?
All these singles girls get mushroom inside their head, this last SnM proved it..... Godforbid, I no do SnM again, no normal gal there.
DeleteGo post your pix on OLX!!!
DeleteWith this your foolishness??
DeleteYeye dey smell
DeleteOriegwu oh!...
ReplyDeleteIn marriage,what works for A might not work for B....
My husband hates soft women...women that don't have a voice of their own....
Since I notice he likes me being stubborn,I have been exhibiting my madness and he is enjoying it without complaining...
The only thing I tell newly married women is to learn their husband...shikena!!...
Word......You're just so right!
DeleteKikikikikiki!!!
DeleteI always say; if you want me sane,i am sane most of the time....until my other side gets triggered! Hehehehe
Lol@exhibiting madness....Linda!!!!
Let's be soft biko. Oriegwu,i can't even do dube dube even if I tried! Ayam loved like this.
you are right o.my cousin complained to me that his wife always agree to sex anytime he wants it which makes him detest her that he wish she will say no sometimes so he can at least beg. human beings are unpredictable.
DeleteWell said. My hubby hates it when I try to be good and soft. He loves me being independent and opinionated. Know what works for you early enough and abide by it. These rules don't apply to everyone and can't guarantee a happy marriage.
DeleteWomen / mothers should also teach their sons how to be better husbands/ men. A good marriage also depends on the man, so men should also work on themselves, that way you would have a happy wife and home.
DeleteI agree with you, my hubby is not a fan of soft and oh-yes ladies, he wants you to have a mind of your own and say it when needed. I make the home comfortable for him, always and he runs back all the time.
DeleteNow I c Why u exhibit ur Madness evry where.
DeleteYeye dey smell.
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I concur linda. That is it! Just learn ur man and know what works for both of u simple. Men differ alot. What one man likes isn't what another one wants. So all this advice sometimes don't work.
DeleteWell! I have no choice but to agree with you. There can is no general advice for couples because all couples are different. As a woman, you have to study ur man ND know what best works for the relationship.
Delete1st tym ud make a reasonable comment Eva! !!
DeleteInsightful!
ReplyDeleteSo what about my SON
ReplyDeleteOK mum. Thanks
ReplyDeleteMy Woman should read this beautiful post bcos one day my calm side go vanish and then I will dial an etisalat number on her face to reset her brain.
ReplyDeleteJust don't the hit the one that will bend you like crayfish.
Delete"Bring out the beast in him",even women can also bring out the demon in them.
The keyword is understanding and tolerance from sides.
nonsense talk.... meanwhile, i strongly disagree with the write up.... marriage na two way thing, except the mother of the man can advice jis son on how to tolerate and please his wife... then i agree, if not... the write up na superrr storrrry!
DeleteI hope you have been dialling that etisalat number on your boss's face???
DeleteEasy with the Etisalat number on her face!
DeleteJust negodu wife beater in the process. Loool easy man
DeleteOrieqwu!!!
ReplyDeleteWe haff hear
Nice.
ReplyDeleteIt is only God that sustains the matrimonial home. By the time a woman does all this in her marriage she will become deaf and dumb. If she marries the wrong man he will never be satisfied
ReplyDeleteWell said..
ReplyDeleteI agree with all except this:
My daughter,you see this your husband? He is a
gentleman but don't take advantage of that. Don't
bring out the beast in him. My daughter,you see
this mark on my forehead?
Your father gave it to me.He tolerated me
every time but on that day,He came unexpectedly.
It wasn't his intention but i dared him and he hit
me just once.
That's total balderdash!!
Mark ko,tatoo ni!
A gentleman should keep his temper in check and his hands in his pocket at all times!
Abuse can never be justified in my books.
Whether your partner was verbally abusive or nagging,or whatever,nothing justifies raising up your hands to hit/inflict injuries on your wife or husband.
And yes,women are abusive too..
People focus on domestic abuse by men and ignore when a woman slaps/designs a man's face with her nails.
Stop domestic abuse!!!
Lmao@""""whenever there is an arguement or
ReplyDeletemisunderstanding, try drinking water.You can't
talk when you have water in your mouth."""" Nice write up, well written and well thought out, hope it was not written by a man sha. The problem is that this our 21st century ladies no dey ever gree, education and advancement in age have turned everything upside down
Nice one
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So many write up. A man that will stand by his wife will always over look her weakness and bring out the best in her. Marriage is not for the fainted heart
ReplyDeleteThe mother should have also added men will always cheat, do not carry their matter for head like gala. You will just die young. That is why you should never marry a broke man, money makes the cheating tolerable. You can't be living in 1room and be hungry and he still cheats. Live in comfort, take care of ur kids and hope for the best. I believe if every woman has this at d back of dere mind, that possibility of him cheating at some point is very high. We will stop killing ourselves. I concern myself with looking after my kids, looking good and sexy, my job,enjoying his money, loving him and praying for the best. The day I snoop carry oga phone early in the marriage. I almost die. Let him continue working and let me suck him dry spending his money on myself and our kids. He know say I dey mad, probably he's still cheating but he carrys it far from me. And the day I catch any of dos bitches na war. But I will enjoy my life. Women just have this at the back of ur mind, it's a sad situation we are living in when our Nigerian men can't just hold dere dicks, but what are we to do. Divorce any cheater that comes our way? How many will you leave? I only advice divorce when there's physical violence in a marriage.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous how do you cope when you know that your hubby is cheating? It's difficult to ignore these things now even if there's money. What if he infects you with HIV. What if he impregnates one of his side chics and marries the girl as second wife? Even ordinary bf that I had, he told me about one girl that was chasing him and I snooped and what I saw nearly gave me heart attack. From the chats they exchanged it seems more like a two way thing rather than just the girl chasing him. Omo, I broke up with him o. All the trust was gone.
Delete@ Tee Hills: someone is talking about husband, u're here talking about a boyfriend. Abeg comot for road make I pass
DeleteFact
ReplyDeleteSome women tried so hard to be submissive to their man, it just unfortunate they got married to the wrong man and wrong families. If only I could turn back the hand of clock.
ReplyDeleteNot just about getting married but marrying rightly...
ReplyDeleteHe that has ear,let him hear!
ReplyDeleteThe application of these in ur marriage doesnt make you a fool.
Points noted
ReplyDeleteNo two marriages are the same. Every couple have their modus operandi so please just follow whatever works for you and your spouse.
ReplyDeleteWhen there is love, you will need no formular or laid down rules to make your marriage work. Everything will just fall into place effortlessly. So let love lead guys.
Oh please enough about women making sacrifice to keep a man abegi!!!!
ReplyDeleteAwwww! I feel so gud reading this post, now I wish I had a mom to tell me how cute I will look on my wedding dress.
ReplyDeleteHappy weekend bvs.
stella post comments oooo am so bored here
ReplyDeleteOk
ReplyDeleteRubbish advice
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteNice.. I love this
ReplyDeleteWell said...HML to all those married today
ReplyDeleteLovely write up...
ReplyDeleteWhat of my Son's advice...
Waiting oooo
Good advice. I wish someone said this to my wife
ReplyDeleteAnother day another 100 million advice on how a woman shld appease one man, where the advice for men? She say her husband enjoyed her , did she enjoy her husband too? Everyday I just realize in this country it is generally agreed that the woman is one person responsible for making the marriage work and she loses herself in the process . Sad that we teach this crap to our daughters and circle continues. Meanwhile the men folk is gallivanting with self entitlement , even ones wey no fit satisfy one woman for house dey go join form looking for mistress to do what ? Lol abegi
ReplyDeleteAnother day another 100 million advice on how a woman shld appease one man, where the advice for men? She say her husband enjoyed her , did she enjoy her husband too? Everyday I just realize in this country it is generally agreed that the woman is one person responsible for making the marriage work and she loses herself in the process . Sad that we teach this crap to our daughters and circle continues. Meanwhile the men folk is gallivanting with self entitlement , even ones wey no fit satisfy one woman for house dey go join form looking for mistress to do what ? Lol abegi
ReplyDeleteFor the groom nko?
ReplyDeleteAdvice from father to the groom was on this blog last week
DeleteWaoh,good one but reading all these made me feel like a virtuous woman.I dey try meyn
ReplyDeleteWords of wisdom..
ReplyDeleteOdiegwu! Women this, women that. Must our lives revolve killing ourselves to please men. Abegi, park one side. Men can't even show a quarter of these, yet expect a perfect woman. My own advice is, be yourself. Don't over do okpari!
ReplyDeleteHmmmm,marriage is not easyooo cos it is a circle,infact a vicious one too,those inside wants to jump out of d circle and those who ve not entered the circle will do anything to get in.The above advise is very goodoooo,but first your hubby has to love you for him to see and appreciate all this listed advice if you start displaying them,if not forget it ooooooo!
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Inpoint post no doubt....
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@Tuscany I have suffered enough in d hands of dem rich guys abeg I av had enough. Now all I need is a guy who is educated, hardworking with a vision. Is dat too much to ask?
ReplyDeleteMy dear, the funny thing is; when you eventually come across such a guy, you won't find him attractive enough to date him. Most gals don't really know what they want
DeleteAll I see is *dont bring out the beast in him* that's spot on! And the anon dat write abt cheating husbands mehn ur head is der!
ReplyDeleteVery thoughtful. Although you can do the above mentioned but with God's help.
ReplyDeleteThese were the basic recipes our mothers, and grandmothers used to make their marriages work. Unfortunately, this indomie generation ladies just want 2-minutes marriage recipe. Marriage, just like all lofty endeavours requires hardwork, and dedication for it to work
ReplyDeleteA man without GOD and self discipline na error
ReplyDeletePrincess abi Slave dee,shattap my friend. I is your type that hubby will be beating like goat yet you'll come to blogs and be forming lion.
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