You might learn a thing or two from this incident that happened overnight!
''Hello Stella,
Trust your night was good.
I had a terrible experience this morning with a couple that are my Neighbour and wish to say a word to ladies out there regarding domestic violence.
Kindly publish the attached article, probably a sane lady would learn something or muster the courage to save herself from beast of men.
Kind regards
ATTAH JOHN''
It was barely 15 minutes past 6 AM. Furiously, I kept typing away in other to meet the Friday deadline to submit this script. In that deep imaginative web, her scream echoes, jolting me back to reality. Was she being slaughtered or....? My thoughts flashed countless stuff, then I heard her weak voice again "somebody help!" Martha was being tortured again by her beast of a husband.
Just in my briefs, I start out towards my door which was almost open, as I reached to open it; a figure bursts in, knocking me down. The beautiful and virtues wife, Martha crying like a little girl on the floor, as I make to reach for her, a hand grabbed me from the back pulling and I turned to face the beast of a husband, Martins; a young man who enjoys every chance to abuse this poor woman almost on weekly basis.
"Its okay, Martins" I pleaded. He came furiously at me but I'm determined not to use any force on him. He hit me on the forehead with an object as I restrained him, he kept struggling and shouting. "This woman, I will kill you today, nothing will stop me" I shoved him out not minding the pains on my back and forehead.
I turned to see the helpless woman on the floor, half naked and sobbing weakly.
He threatened to kill her, but this woman right here has died several times in the hands of this beast of a man.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
Domestic violence is a menace that is still raging in many homes despite the campaigns against it. Most times the victims endure in silence, reason being that they want to preserve their marriage/relationships or are scared of how the society would look at them if they opt out- which is a very wrong mentality hence they must save their lives first, from these silent killers-abusive husbands/boyfriends before even considering public opinion.
These abuses that occur in marriages most times starts rearing during the courtship period but the ladies often disregard it thinking its "nothing" or he would change with time. Wrong, it would aggravate. Personally, no lady should remain in a relationship if her man ever raised a finger against her. It gets worse when you marry him. It is only a coward or a mentally deranged man that would raise his finger against a woman and I bet you ladies don't want to end up with a coward or a mad man.
In as much as marriages/relationships ought to be preserved, a partner/lady must not remain in such an abusive relationship as it may lead to a permanent injuries or fatal end.
SELAH.
Some women sef...
ReplyDeleteIf na me,one day i will wake up and poison the man's food...
The woman is a fool...
Instead of going to that length, why not quit the marriage?
DeleteLet me say something that most people fail to realize or just chose to ignore. Some women...turn men into BEASTS period!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is never excusable to hit a woman...but some women are the spawns of Satan placed on earth to destroy men...and absolutely know how to push men until there is no longer any alternative but the hit them..and they start acting like victims. Not saying there aren't some stupid guys out there. I know for a fact that a lot of men beat women to feel beta about their inadequacies...these kind of men should be treated like the animals that they are. But for every legitimate good guy that has met and married a destiny changer, may the good Lord give u the strength you need to do the needful
DeleteThat is how my neighbour beats his wife, even during pregnancy to the extend that he beat her she started feeling labour and was so weak that she had a cs. 2 weeks after delivery he gave her the beating of her life. One day she ran into my apartment only for the he goat to be banging my door that he wants to kill her. After some minutes I opened the door to see if he will after arming myself with my cutlass, broken bottle and dagger. He entered and charged towards her n I told him to dare touch her or wake up in the mortuary. He left and promised to still beat her. When hubby got back, I told him every and he went to sit him down and talk. He promised to change and I spoke with d wife and told her my piece. 2 weeks after, at around 9pm, he dragged her thru the stairs, beating and punching until all the woman came out( it's a 12flats apartment) and gave him the beating of his life. We beat him as if he stole from one of us pouring him water mixed wt cameroun pepper. He ran out of the compound that night. I warned the wife that next time I will call police on them cos if the man kills her, we will all have to first run outta the compound. Fast forward to today, they are busy doing loving loving
DeleteThe wife claims she is an ophan and has no where to go! The idiot have pushed her out of the flat severally at night. Beaten her and her sister on different occasion and she is the breadwinner, at 27 years and the guy is like 33yrs. Have signed out of their case till when next I hear them fight which will be me calling police on them.
DeleteIt's increasing by the day..
DeleteAre u sure u are married with kids? What example would u set for ur sons with this kind of a barbaric act...
DeleteI hope a woman does bit poison your brothers food or even that of ur son... Sighs #
I will just leave
DeleteI cant bear any man touching me in any violent way o
That is why it is good to be independent as a woman
This my precious skin somebody will just spoil...mbanu
Let she who has an ear listen and act. Pls leave before you die. Stop being paralyzed by your years of victimhood and shame. You have the power to change the equation in your relationship. A wife beater usually does not beat someone who is not his wife. Pick up your kaya and stop being his wife. Take a first step. Reach out for help. Rise up and take charge of your life. You are worth it.
DeleteThis is off point but BusyBody Corrector, you have been missing in action for too long. John Attah, unless I am mistaken you claim to be a scriptwriter so what on God's earth will make you tell us you where furiously typing away in "other" to meet a deadline? (The correct word to use is "order" ).
......with a couple that are my neighbour (since couple refers to 2 people, the word neighbour must be pluralized in this sentence)
....the beautiful and "virtuous" wife.
........my mind flashed to countless stuff--replacing "stuff" with "things" would have been a tidier way to write that sentence. Stuff is already uncountable and countless.
*omojeje*
The man that wants to kill her nko,why he no quit the marriage.
DeleteAND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER
DeleteHmmm two wrongs don't make it right. If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. I wonder what battered women try to preserve. They don't preserve anything. They rather give their abusers an opportunity to shorten their lives.
DSquare,oh you ladies tried. I hope Una drag the prick join.
DeleteAnony 12:22 you are a bastard and a wife beater....continu but your days are numbered....women turned who to beast? No man has an excuse....u tolerate all sorts of rubbish from outsiders but u are quick to beat your wives cos u think u bought her and you can do what you like....bloody goat
DeleteSo the ones that don't tolerate outside are free to beat their wives? The truth is if women were more stronger than men they will beat their husband....we may get all sentimental about it, throwing names around but a verbally abusive woman is the same as a physically abusive man!!!
DeleteAnon 19:37 your entire lineage are bastards. They individual was speaking the truth! It's usually bitter for idiots like you who are guilty of shit like this. Fucking bastard bitch coming here to talk shit. Fuck outta here with your smelly ass I hope u get beaten to death and dumped in a public toilet
DeleteNa wa!
ReplyDeleteThere is one useless women group I belong to on fb...all they do is advise women to stay in abusive marriage and pray that God should change d man. That husband is scarce ooo,that if u leave one sisi will take over,that God hate divorce,that u should see ur abusive husband as ur cross and carry it jejely and pray bla bla bla.. I tried to challenge their rubbish advice and they attack me. I was just like a lone voice in d wilderness. One woman even said she reported her hubby to police and they swooned on her and told her she did a very bad thing. That she should go and beg and grovel to her husband so that he forgives her and some even blamed her for being the one that provoked the man to beat her.I just tire for the group and left.
DeleteThank you ooo, Aunty Gwegs! I commented on that particular piece! Imagine fellow women castigating her for calling the police saying she was wrong! Na so I open mouth ok! Saying Shebi it's the first time! things wey we no go hear sha....
DeleteAndy Sho
Na all those yeye Adorable Mom's people dey sabi carry husband matter for head like gala. The only thing you go hear na LJ, LJ,.... LJ, like say na because of husband their mama born them. Very unrealistic set of women. Me I know dey bother comment there o, because my opinion dey always different from their own.
DeleteGod forbid bad thing group!!!
DeleteI am in one fb group n those ladies can pretend o. I always say my twisted mind n breeze out.
DeleteLol, really all those group can confuse som1
DeleteWhy you go call police for your husband? Then when he is arrested you will go and bail him and still hope to live with him! Why you no divorce am if you no fit take the beatings...
DeleteTill women begin to empower themselves men will keep on treating them like liabilities. Sad but true!
It is well.
ReplyDeleteI refuse to be treated like a piece of trash, whoever wants to enjoy beating from any man be it bf or hubby congratulations to whatever they sign.
DeleteI will rather walk away than stage a war.
It is well o.
DeleteLet me believe I am just lucky. DH doesn't like any atom of violence at all. Not even beating the kids. If not eeh, because my own craze got no barometer, he'll only lock me up in the room and force me to calm down before opening the door. If he beats me with these big fingers and muscle, and size? haaa, na I'm be say BVs don get funeral to attend. No be mouth.
Some women aren't that lucky. Anybody can be beaten. Whether the woman commit or not. He may even be drunk sef. Or undergoing some form of constraint. But I wonder why some keep it away from family. And it escalates before they start talking. It's trauma for the kids.
So so sad.
Women always cause it with their uncontrollable mouth.
ReplyDeleteThings like:
Telling the man of the house,
Wetin U go do ?
Follow dey cause these panel beating.
You are a senseless fool.
DeleteYou be OTOLO
DeleteShame on U
DeleteShut up, u fool. That is why a man should get mature in mind bfre rushing to marry. You should understand that women will always talk. It takes maturity to endure and enjoy women.
DeleteNothing you say about women surprises me anymore as I've come to understand that your stupidity is beyond human comprehension. It's incurable.
DeleteSpoken like a confirmed idiot
DeleteI've been following your comments on various posts on dis blog for sometime now and i'll say they are pathetic. A sane man should not lay his hands on his wife or any other female for any reason either called for or uncalled for. If i was a wife beater, i would ave killed my wife a long time ago. But i chose to always ignore her or report her to her family anytme im not comfortable with her behaviour. Thats maturity. I detest domestic violence the same way i detest jungle justice. Its only a weak and insecure husband that beats his wife. If you are married and you are doin it, stop it but if you are not married take note.
DeleteMoney "druggie " maker! Sniffing cocaine is dangerous to the human sense of reasoning. .pls STOP
DeleteTrue please!!..sone women are verbally abusive.
DeleteFoolishness at its peak
DeleteYour stupidity is so ripe, it needs to be plucked
DeleteAre you for real?
DeleteSmh
DeleteWho ever takes money maker seriously lol
DeleteSmelly talk. Try and have one personality biko. Today you go talk like better person,tomorrow you go talk like mad person.
DeleteLunatic
DeleteBut if a man like u dares you or says the same thing, u will chicken out and hide?weakling, na for woman body una dey get power!! Shame on your thought process.
Delete@Nora Nelson, when has he ever said better thing? This guy is tribalistic and misogynistic. Islamophobia come join on top. God save us from oga money maker.
DeleteNa mama wet born you I blame......she no use condom cos conji scatter her brain......back to the matter make e no lost....so a man talks anyhow and the woman should endure but a woman talks anyhow and the man should beat cos he has more muscles? Only weak, shameless, stupid men with low self esteem beat women....
DeleteStop commenting under his posts. You guys encourage him when you reply. The best way to treat such people is to ignore them coz it's the attention they want.
Delete@Dre ,
DeleteOMG!
Dr Dre,is dat u?
I can't believe this.
U are my second best rapper.
* sigh *
ReplyDeleteI don't know whether it's love that makes some of the victims stay.
Or the hopeless 'hope' that they'll change?
Domestic abusers are like serialists.
They get some sort of satisfaction, from their form of abuse, and they don't ever stop till the victim is running or dead.
I won't ever advice anyone to put up with a spouse /bf/gf that abuses them,no matter how hard or bleak being without them will look.
Better alone than dead.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Lol.. Sometimes it is the fear of building another home with a serial wife batterer.
DeleteSometimes it is way better to endure and let ur kids grow to intelligible ages for them to direct their hatred on their father...
I still believe that all mothers have 60% influence over what their child would become
Not good for kids to see their parents being abused. Whether emotional or physically. It damages you
DeleteTell them! I must remain married syndrome.
ReplyDeleteLol. Nma, I guess u are not married.
DeleteStaying single for ages only breeds frustration especially when uve clocked 40.
Sometimes endurance is key for a lasting marriage.
Most times, these women remain there cos they don't want to be tagged by society.
DeleteThis g pharm sounds like an abused person...wow!!! See the way she justified it.
DeleteEven if she isn't, you think it is easy for a girl to leave her husband? It's easy for a married man to get a new wife than it is for a woman to get a new husband...
DeleteThe reason women don't leave their husband easily is the same reason men don't give up on a venture easily. Because things aren't working doesn't mean you should run away like and lose all. I guess you aren't married. Its easier to make mouth inabeto
Thanks....say no to domestic violence!
ReplyDeleteJust painful what women go through in the hands of beasts and goats just to remain married.
ReplyDeletemy former place i stayed the man is an headmaster and married 4 wives, this man uses cane on his wives.
But one i think i know is that the last wife from Ghana (though late), the man cannot touch her talkless of saying bad words to her.
i think women have put themselves down too much to be abused.
i hope our women learn. Too many pains abeg
You have spoken well, but have u forgotten the part where some women are the causer of their current predicament?
DeleteDo you know some women are chronic gossips and what should remain a secret between Man and Wife is brought to Public by the Woman?
Common, which Nigerian man would tolerate such impudence
Bastard is that what your father taught you? Why don't u beat colleagues who gossip about you at work?
DeleteI'm a staunch advocate of women leaving and walking away from any marriage when their life and happiness is threatened by either domestic or adultery.
ReplyDeleteBut the sad thing is that, 80% of women will never heed to this advice.
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*violence*
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Mumu are u married?. Adviser
DeleteLol. Only 80?...
DeleteI think there is more
This matter tire me o, that's one of the reasons i want a true prophet of God, by that, i am covered...... and i know God will do it for me, amen!
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteO di egwu...You don't want to know what these so called Men of God do.
DeleteHmmm...you just need to pray for a God fearing man. Some prophets are worse o,my sister. Learnt a lot from the preachers wife on this forum... No need to be overanxious though
DeleteAndy Sho
My dear, some MOG still abuse their wives. Just pray to God to give u responsible man.
DeleteI Taya for ur matter o.
DeleteSome prophets of God beat their wives. My friend's neighbour, a pastor and his wife usually come out of the compound n scream abuses at each other. The pastor calls her ashewo etc and before u know whats up panel beating don start. D woman will just be screaming in d middle of the street. And people still attend d man's church cos his church is in another part of Lagos a lil far from his neighbourhood. Just pray for a good man. Prophet of God does not cover u. A good man + added adv of being a man of God is what u should ask for.
DeletePlease I can see dat u have this notion that if u marry a prophet u are automatically covered.are u not aware that a prophet is first a man,and dat being a prophet does not mean good character. Pls my dear sister I'm single as well,my only advise for u is to work on your own self and b d best you are and u will attract a good man,stop all dis I must marry a prophet matter.sorry to say but d few prophets I know are chronic womanisers, sotey one I knew an serial pregnator,deceiving both married and single ladies. So please shine ur eyes yr own will come,don't limit God,he will give u more than u want.
Deletethanks you all, but am still maintaining it that i want a. true prophet of God as husband!
Deleteall those prophets you guys are talking about are all prophets of baal, fake fake fake!!!
a true prophet of God can't do this, when married to a true prophet of God, you are sooo covered!
Better stop deceiving yourself and ask God to send you a man that truly has the fear of God.
DeleteMan of God ko.
DeleteSee the list of those Pastors that beat their wives in Ikeja zone alone:
Pastor Chris Okafor
Pastor Chris Oyakhilome
Pastor Chris Okotie.
Their wives quit their matrimonial home.
Oya choose one.
Chai
ReplyDeleteHummmm sorry ooo
ReplyDeleteI tire o, so discouraging.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm I pity that bastard that would raise his hangs on me or any of my sisters God punish devil that day.i don't know why some women would remain sound such a man who would degrade u and lower ur self esteem.....abuse u use u for what na all bcoz he has a di*k inbtw his legs and muscles to flex.
ReplyDeleteAnd there is this ridiculous one that some women actually enjoy being beaten,u would just die and he would marry another woman .
I rest my case .
Thank God u said HANGS...
DeleteWITH YOUR KIND OF ATTITUDE, I WONDER THE KIND OF MAN tHAT WILL CHOOSE YOU AMONG ALL GIRLS TO BIRTH THEIR CHILDREN... hmmm
What gender are you, please?
DeleteYou represent yourself as both genders. That's why I'm asking.
Yes o some enjoy it. Infact they see men that beat women as strong and those that dont as weak men.
DeleteWait o, GJ, u be female??
DeleteG_phrams people dey talk u dey talk .I do even know u but I certainly do know ur a stupid and very useless person am sure,it was the bad attitude u inherited that is causing al this issues I have alot of men alrdy when am ready to settle I wouid while u wallow in poverty.
DeleteIt's poverty that wouid kil u cont to depress ur self on it.
Let me not see ur diseased craw craw infested me self under my posts again
No I be hemephrodte since u dont know
DeleteGerman juice, I thought you were a lesbocat? What would a man be raising his hands on you for?
DeleteOr do you mean the man in the L relationship? You strike me as the man yourself. #justmyopinion
**lululiscious**
Froggie thank u! GJ, bia, coming out da closet is in vogue, u be lesbo? Yarn make we know how to properly address u o, as she, or shim, lol!
DeleteYour grammar sucks.
DeleteJesus Christ u people should go to Google and Google what a bisexual and a stem means God such dumb Ness I can't bear.
DeleteAnd yes am the man when am with my gf but when am with my bf and the woman kikikiki I bet I be doing snm while men be runing after me
DeleteOkokobioko!
DeleteDomestic violence is an abomination.
ReplyDeleteThat's why I hardly hear that any nice woman
was panel beated by her DH.
Panel beated? ??? A n'emenu. English ntor
DeleteU are an excuse of a man... U really do disgust me with ur stupid comments. Sometimes i wish i can shut it for u.
DeleteSo only women that are not nice that gets "panel beated"?
DeleteOdiegwu!!!!
It's like a write up,its not real anyway tell d desperado that wants to die answering d MRS title
ReplyDeleteUr head correct pass wall clock.
DeleteIts d way d poster wrote d story, like he is into a competition.
Define write up?
DeleteThe sad thing is almost 4 out of 10 women suffer this in silence.
ReplyDeleteIt all begins with a little quarrel,
Then it generates to a threat..." I ll beat u"
Then to a slap
Then the beating ministry continues.......
And most women are too weak ( both physically and psychologically) to fight back or fight for what's left of their self esteem
Infact, the words, 'i'll beat/slap you' is enough o,even if it was said jokingly.
Delete#WhiteDiamondOut
Happy belated birthday Awele .
DeleteThanks for the e-book.
Can't u fite a man one on one?
DeleteDear Pink shell(and others with such thought)
DeleteNever you think of fighting a man. Na your body go tell you. Instead, run and continue running before it reaches the fighting level. Fighting with him will only infuriate him and make him beat you the more.
If the argument is becoming really heated, by all means look for a way to lock yourself up in a safe place until he's gone out. Definitely his anger would have abated by the time he returns.
Silence in some cases is really golden except you want to use your body for experiment.
**lululiscious**
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DeleteDomestic violence is an abomination.
ReplyDeleteThat's why I hardly hear that any nice woman with good character
was panel beated by her DH.
U are stil talking this trash. U must be a bully
DeleteI try to read ur comments and be polite in my response but you are just annoying!
DeleteHow dare u say this?
Woman with good character gets no beating?
Did he tell me he was going to turn me into a punching bag before he married me?
How good is his sister or even his mother?
How good are his friends?
How many has he beaten?
You ll take shit from people outside and come home and start flexing muscle with me abi?
Why beat the weaker one who you know is no match for you? Why not pick on someone your own size?
Stories like this gets me angry koz I vividly remember seeing some terrible things in d neighborhood I grew up as a child.
A man who is frustrated with life will come home n pounce on his wife for no cause and Money Maker is here talking rubbish.........
U are not a very smart person.
Deletena by nice?
DeleteThis woman should better run for her dear life before ending up in the grave
ReplyDeleteAll manner of pain can be endured but not being pummeled by a horseband daily
olorun maje!!
*ScratchesHead*
ReplyDeleteShame...
ReplyDeleteSorry for your injuries poster but you will be amased to know that the abused is not even ready to help herself. As a counsellor ive encountered several of them n their stances always is what will pple say? You see except the abused is willing to be helped theres little any one can do but we as individuals can help by not stigmatising ladies who re bold to come out of abusive relatioships. My take shar.
ReplyDeleteAll i am saying, thanks poster. some women n dier mentality of "wat will people say' or i cant leave becuz of my child(ren)' keep it up oh till u die. We tend to please people by suffering in a bad marriage hian. WOMEN please marriage is not an achievement ohh to kill urself over. What is impt now is to love urself first, find happiness n peace with the inner you n please the CREATOR after all on the last day, nobody will remember his husband, child, father, mother,siblings,pastors,elders etc. Mtchew i cant take ds animore joo.
ReplyDelete'Please' fire
Deletena who wear the shoe know where he dey pain
Stupidity is when you keep enduring dv all in the name of what will people say
In most cases these issues could be avoided but whosai,
NB: if you are yet to marry and you are dating an olori'boo'ruku who derives pleasure in hitting you
dump him! The world will not end
Where is she leaving to?
DeleteY can't a man leave?
How many men av u hed saying, am tired, I want to leave.
Wld u follow ur own advice? E-advicer.
That's the rubbish thing my late mum kept saying till the wicked man that fathered me sent her to an early grave.
DeleteHe'd beat her and strip her naked. This was a woman who had daughters aged 18,20 and so on.
Yes he is dead too but if I see him on judgment day, (after I am sure I made it to heaven o), there's no reason why I wont pick a cane and flog him for what he did to my mother.
The question I keep asking these women abused by their husband is this" what happened to the piston in ur kitchen and the kitchen knives? What about the rat poison that is being sold by the traffic? What happened to strangling the man while he slept? What happened to luring him to bed and cutting off his manhood?. God help that useless fool that will one day try to lay his hands on me. Most women allow this yo continue. They don't even try to fight back by any means. Arrange soldiers for the beast let him fight them. Stupid men.
ReplyDeleteYou will never marry.
Deletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
For them ladies though... Those wey get ear yu better listen then..... #NowPlaying alobam: phyno...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Hian...d moment push turns to shove I carry my kaya wit immediate alacrity. ..i canno comman kii masef away by one oloribu sombori! ...
ReplyDeleteThe issue of Domestic violence cannot be overemphasised really. The problem is that most Nigerian women see marriage as their ultimate goal in life, so once they manage to get married, they do everything to remain. ...even if the man is a dog or turns them into punching bags. What's most important to them is the fact that they are married. Some of these women even insult single girls who are way happier than they can ever be in their so called sham of a marriage.
ReplyDeleteIt's really sad wot women tru in d name of marriage
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ReplyDeleteMen and their wickedness!
ReplyDeleteHave never crossed my mind to raise a finger on my wife.But the truth is that some women enjoy beating more than anything it gives them pleasure!
ReplyDeleteYou are right...
DeleteI know someone like that...
Demented much she must be.
DeleteGod thank you for saving me from one ugly woman beater that wanted to marry me. thank God for my mother that said no if not i was stupidly in love
ReplyDeleteThis one is normal thing in my hood now.
ReplyDeletemtcheeeeew
if i talk them go say what do u expect the poor woman to do, so i always keep quiet and lock our door .. e no consign me
May u no go enter jail the 2nd time. Hehehehe.
DeleteOK dats a joke!
Women always at the receiving end. May God help us all
ReplyDeleteSmh its women that take rubbish. Some women don't even believe its wrong to be beaten they'd tell you they are the cause. They are stubborn and the man is apologetic doesn't mean it blah blah. Love yourself women.
ReplyDeleteSay no to domestic violence!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend has slapped me once and also threw my bag in the 3yrs we have been dating. I really don't know if this is domestic violence. Since Iv been dating I have never had a man even try to raise his hand at me. He apologised straight after but the relationship has began to confuse me since that day. On a normal day he's the sweetest person ever, but I know he may have an anger problem. I have seen him beat up his houseboy a couple of times for being rude or possibly opening the gate for him late. We don't stay in same state so I just spend wkends most times.What even causes most of our fights is he likes keeping late nights, be it wkend or week day, returning 1am,2am. Friends have advised I should just swallow it, and don't argue because it's my argument abt his nite crawling that caused the slap. Should I keep quiet, accept the late nite's or end a 3yr relationship over a slap.
ReplyDeleteNo continue dating him...infact,marry him sef...I am always here to read your chronicles...
DeleteYou really don't know? Wow wow wow. Don't end the relationship yet wait till he. removes one eye or you're in your grave. Ewu Gambia
DeleteMy dear, if e slaps u bcos u complain abt him coming home late.
DeletePlz forget dat UV dated for 3yrs, believe me u don't want to tie ur destiny to a man who u cannot advice or who doesn't listen.
Its too much of a risk, cos its not just abt u, but ur unborn kids.
He is going to be making alot of unwise decisions weda financially or whateva, n it wld affect u on d long run.
Leave him for a desperate girl, don't put ursef in a fix.
there's fire on the mountain..... RUN RUN RUN
DeleteNow you see the signs you won't run. Just relationship and he's already slapping and throwing your things out. Ok oh, we dey wait your story
DeleteSee me smiling and reading your comment.
DeleteNo my dear. It is NOT domestic violence o!
You guys re only rehearsing for now. When the slaps turn to kicking and panel beating, u can send in your chronicles.
Women need to take a course or 2 on self esteem.
I say it and I mean it.
"Them never born the man wey go raise imm hand say e wan touch me. " either as a joke, practice or the real deal.
Mmba!
Hmmm...! You better think long and hard about this relationship. Bad traits tend to get worse in the confines of marriage especially with all the other stressors.
DeleteWhy does he stay out late?
Do not let desperation or the thought of starting all over with someone else, make you settle for something that is already making you uncomfortable. My 2 cents.
Forget the three years babe and move forward.
DeleteKeeping late nights during week days and week ends?
Trust me it will get worse when you are married.
I remember my first pregnancy, I was always begging my friend not to switch off her phone at night incase there's an emergency because the man I married will never come home until it's 1am.
In fact, you are lucky God showed you the kind of Man he is before marriage. Kneel down and thank your stars.
Be armed with your pepper spray or insecticide. When he starts,spray it into his eyes to disarm him then get his strongest belt and flog the hell outta his body. That would be the last time he would lay his filthy hand(s) on you.
ReplyDeleteP.s;Try this at your own risk.
Aeegurl...
Good one.
DeleteY write the story like u are in competition to win cadbury 1000 words essay?
ReplyDeleteAin't most Nigerian men violent?
From the local tout
The young man who pushes u aside at d bustop to jump into a bus.
To ur fellow male drivers.
Its a sad reality, but more than 90percent of Nigerian men are violent.
It all dpends on how u handle it, bcos a violent Nigerian man go enter US, marry oyinbo finish come mellow down.
If ur husband raises his hand to hit u for no reason cos e his having a bad day.
Its time to show him dia is no monopoly to violence.
My aunt is in a marriage she isn't enjoying,
Fine, her hubby takes care of his kids, n provides food(for dis sole reason my father tells her she shldnt ask for more, n can't leave d man)
But dis man doesn't treat her right.
My aunt said the day he was abt to raise his hand to hit her, she ran into the kitchen and picked up an empty bottle, struck it against the wall, n asked her husband to come close to her, if she wldnt redesign his face n spoil his fine boy.
She sed the speed at which the man ran back wen e saw the broken bottle. He told her, he never knew he wedded a mad woman.
This couples are living like flat mates, it gets so bad that d husband wld pass a msg of wat dey wld be having for dinner thru their kid, all in the name of malice.
If u can't confront ur husband like dis, after he hits u, allow him sleep one day, after u must av purchased a handcuff from a useless policeman.
Handcuff him to the post of the bed, clear the bed stand, and get a strong belt, to beat the living day lite out of him.
Tell him e tuk advantage of u. Cos he knows u can't match his strength, but do dis with self control, may u no go do d one wey go land u for jail, over murder.
Exactly...
DeleteSo living with her husband without any communication is better in your mind?
DeleteCheck the comment I left for you above.
**lululiscious**
Its better.
DeleteWhere wld she start from, a teacher with 2 kids?
Abeg she saw d man like dat b4 she married him. Na d garri she dey drink so.
Lol @'buy hand cuffs from useless policeman and beat the living daylight out of him'. Hmmm
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Pink Shell, you be craze girl aswear.
DeleteI have laughed finished here.
But what is it with men and violence in.this country?
Are they the only frustrated human being in Nigeria?
Mtcheeew.
Some men deserve an illness incurable!
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Poster did you leave the beast to go scot free? Even after heating you? You would have used the opportunity teach him a lesson, may be the wife should learn from you and wake up from her slumber.
ReplyDeleteI just remembered this. There's a huge block of flats on my street. on my way to work this morning, I could hear a woman screaming and crying like she was about to be killed and a man who I assume is her husband shouting at the top of his voice. I was just imagining what was going on in that house. How scared the woman would be feeling and how the man (who i'm assuming is her husband) would be feeling like one Tarzan (maybe beating his chest and shouting who's the man of this house! i'm the man)
ReplyDeleteI've been in an abusive relationship. i suffered both emotional and physical abuse. since I pulled myself out of that relationship, I told myself, no man will ever touch me again. ever!
People see woman who their husbands or boyfriends want to beat to death and they just stay there advising the women to "pray". Like God will send angels to come beat the man up so he'll get scared of touching them again.
Hmmmm!! Terrible men everywhere. That was how my hubby abused me, esp. emotionally, yet I was managing and covering up. But I received sense, after I confirmed he was also cheating with other women and my house help. Coupled with glorious testimonies of some DV victims (Ms Kay et al) on this blog; I summoned courage to walk away.
ReplyDeletePls fellow BVs, how can I go about a divorce when he seized original copy of our marriage cert. while I was leaving. Also, we did not go to the registry (did traditional & church wedding - with Anglican Church cert), and I only have a copy of the cert.
I really want to divorce the beast, to remarry and move on with my life. Thanks guys. .....Eunice
Get a lawyer first
DeleteAll I can say is all these ladies here commenting about what to do to fight back or that no man would ever try DV on them are not married. Annoyingly enough, when some marry, they may surely do same like all DV victims. D BVs assuming DV victims are not well behaved are just too ignorant to be talking about this issue. Talk is free!
ReplyDeleteWe tend to judge others when we cannot even save/help our own selves. The thing is, it's even our society that cause these my fellow helpless women to die in silence.
Pls. ask yourself today, esp Igbo ladies/gents - how do you see divorced/separated women? If your brother/dad/uncle/coursin/nephew et al, plans to marry a divorced/separated woman today, what would be your reaction? Be sincere in your answer.......Mrs. Eunice
Mrs eunice or whatever d Hell u call ur shameless self SHAME on u.u r not fit to be human.may d LORD make ur husband beat u mercilessly and almost kill u n may d same also happen to ur daughters in JESUS CHRIST Name AMEN.
DeleteMrs Eunice dat prayer is for u if u support domestic violence but if u don't GOD bless u n may ur marriage n children's marriage be free of domestic violence in JESUS CHRIST name AMEN.
DeleteLADIES FEEL THE FABRIC ! Make sure your MAN is cut from d right cloth..
ReplyDeleteHmmmm!! Terrible men everywhere. That was how my hubby abused me, esp. emotionally, yet I was managing and Hmmmm!! Terrible men everywhere. That was how my hubby abused me, esp. emotionally, yet I was managing and covering up. But I received sense, after I confirmed he was also cheating with other women and my house help. Coupled with glorious testimonies of some DV victims (Ms Kay et al) on this blog; I summoned courage to walk away.
ReplyDeletePls fellow BVs, how can I go about a divorce when he seized original copy of our marriage cert. while I was leaving. Also, we did not go to the registry (did traditional & church wedding - with Anglican Church cert), and I only have a copy of the cert.
I really want to divorce the beast, to remarry and move on with my life. Thanks guys. .....Eunicecovering up. But I received sense, after I confirmed he was also cheating with other women and my house help. Coupled with glorious testimonies of some DV victims (Ms Kay et al) on this blog; I summoned courage to walk away.
Pls fellow BVs, how can I go about a divorce when he seized original copy of our marriage cert. while I was leaving. Also, we did not go to the registry (did traditional & church wedding - with Anglican Church cert), and I only have a copy of the cert.
I really want to divorce the beast, to remarry and move on with my life. Thanks.
I heard from a pal that her neibo's wife who had suffered greatly in the hands of her hubby said enough was enough. When the guy started his shouting,she went to the room n wore her fight gear(jean shorts n tee shirt). The man sparked n said,oh you went to dress to fight me abi?. Gbish gbash,gbish. She ran straight to the kitchen n grabbed her container of Cameroun pepper. Fiam,in the hubby face. Then she ran to d room n brot that belt he uses on her n totally flogged him. He wasn't seeing so he didn't know where d blow was coming from. He was begging n she was crying n still torturing him. She later stopped,picked her sleeping child n left. Wicked co tenants,nobody came out as they were happy the man was d one screaming. The man later brought her back n d neighbour said he stopped beating her n they hv packed out sef.
ReplyDeleteHahaha. Dramatic. Melike.
DeleteThis is anon 13.11, thank you all for your advise. I know that obviously one slap is a sign,but he hasn't done it since then. I know what he did was wrong, but I am also partly to blame as I know I can be troublesome myself. I was trying to wake him up to take me to the airport and he wasn't getting up from his nite crawling of day before. so I poured abit of water on his face, not aggressively but I was definitely frustrated. How many men will I leave. I leave this one because he slapped me once then move on to the one that is a serial cheat and irresponsible. How Many of you can really swear you have never received a slap before. By the time my enemy turns 40 at home. It's you lot that will call me aunts gwegs. He is extremely caring,giving to a fault and loves me completely. We all as human beings make mistakes, shld I leave someone just because he made an error in judgement. I have just learnt to simmer down my attitude also and we haven't had an argument since then. Thank you all for your concern, I appreciate. Only time will tell..........
ReplyDeleteOkay aunty carry on but why did you bring your problem here, if you won't take the truth. I have never been slapped by a partner before and I am more troublesome than the devil. Your life, your bed sleep well. Keep making excuses for him you hear.
DeleteStay on. Just walk on egg shells around him and you ll probably survive
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