Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Becareful what you tell your folks,lest you break them up all in the name of helping one party snoop!I am out!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

GOING BACK TO AN EX

 Stella. Please hide my email address abeg. I visit your blog every day at work lol but I don't comment a lot. When I do, I usually comment as Chocomilo.

My story is a little bit long but u people should  just manage. I'm divorced and a single mom to a 4 year old son.

 My ex and I had a horrible divorce and it took almost 2 years before we were done with it. The problem now is that although everyone has moved on, I have but I don't really know if he has because we don't talk,I'm starting to feel like I want to try again. I broke up with my boyfriend of over a year recently because I didn't feel like I was being fair to him.

 For the last few months, I've been feeling like my ex and I never gave it as much as we could've. My question now is how do I even start? I'm so confused about the entire thing. A part of me tells me to just be patient and wait it out but another part of me feels like the sooner the better. I still have a bit of pride, don't we all, and the thought that he might shut me down makes me even more afraid to address the issue with him.

Aunty Stella, that your red pen must be put to good use today. No amount of slapping can help here and those dog pics dem no go help today. Sometimes we think the answer is obvious but people sometimes want to see/hear other people's perspective on the whole issue. Awon cursers and abusers, I take God beg una, just pity me and advice me. For once, don't insult.

Thanks a lot.

Hmmm...you are still in love with your ex and you think there is a chance of getting back together if you try?

You didnt tell us which one of you filed for divorce and why?

you didnt tell us why he doesnt talk to you,does that mean he has no contact with his child?

Anyways if the union was not a physically abusive one and you think you know what you are doing,then do what you have to do,if he rejects you,you will have the final closure,if not.....

Abeg mail us back to see how it goes.

I have seen a couple who remarried after they divorced.

All the best honey!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

CHEATING PARENTS

Good day ma'am
I want your opinion and that of BV'S on something pertinent my friend is going through.

Please what's the role of a child if he finds out that one of his parents is cheating should he/she go ahead and tell the parent that's been cheated on or confront the cheating parent or should the child stay out of the situation entirely and pray that the cheating parent changes or the cheated parent finds out?. 

Also in a situation where the cheated parent is aware of their spouse unfaithfulness  should a child snoop on the cheating parent's phone and also help the cheated parent in tracking messages, phone calls of  the cheating parent's whereabout and that of the partner without the cheating parent's knowledge.

This has been going on for a while and inspite of the snooping and the cheated partner's threats. Things are far from  getting any better.

I have told my friend and her siblings to stay out of their parents issues and pray instead of aiding and adding to the heart aches of the cheated partner anytime they find a message on his phone from one of the cheating parent's partner. My friend also feels that the cheating parent is beginning to suspect her and her siblings and they are all in the university except for one.

  They need the financial support of the cheating partner more than ever and it will be catastrophic if they lose his support because the cheated partner has no means to support them financially.

This family is on a keg of gun powder and my friend wants to hear your views.

             Thank you!

HMMM...This is very sensitive Judging from which parent the child loves most.

I would advise the kids to mind their businesses and let their parents sort each other out

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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE

WHEN LE BOO REFUSES TO VISIT

Dear Stella,

Hope you are doing great.

I am a 25 years old lady with a good job and a business by the side. Am writing because I am tired of relationships and I have never really been lucky with love.

I have been dating this guy for like 8 months. He is a good guy, responsible and okay by all standards. The problem I have is that since I started dating him, he has never left his house to come look for me, I always go to his place every time , funny enough we both live in Lagos. I have begged and threatened but he simply refuses to bulge.

I am frustrated and tired, am beginning to worry that if he can’t come to see me or meet me halfway, he will never be bothered about seeing my parent. Each time I ask him about marriage, he becomes stiff and says he doesn’t know. He once told me that he doesn’t love me yet, that love is not instant, that it grows with time.

The guy is never rude or abusive, he listens to me and helps when he can but even with all this, I have serious doubts, am I wasting my time or am I being impatient. Stella please, I need you and BVs advice, I can’t discuss this with people around me because I am too reserved and don’t like people knowing my business. Thank you very much

HUH?If he doesnt love you yet,on what premise did you both start dating?

MARRIAGE??? MY DEAR YOU ARE DATING YOURSELF!

If he wont visit stay in your house and face your work