What would you do if he asked you to hit the sack with someone else and come back home after the act?
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CONFUSED WOMAN
I Am a 30yr graduate, I am earning the salary of 120k and I have this guy who really wants to settle down with me but his age is scaring me. His 45 years old, though he looks quite younger than his age.
We went for a function where I met his friends, and guess what, all his friends are all married except him, they were even begging me to settle him, but I think his problem is that he does not have money to settle down; he has a farm and a poultry and also does some small business.
Aunt Stella my challenge is his age, i am just considering when my child is 20years how old he will be, he does not have money like many girls who marry older men because of money, nobody wants to suffer….
I Am soo confused, I don’t know if I should break up with him, I don’t even any serious guy coming and considering my age too…please mature minds should talk to me,no insults, just a confused mind; problem shared is half solved. Thank you all.
My dear you do not love him so it will not be wise going into that Marriage in the first place...If you loved him you would be preaching age is nothing but a number which most people who marry older people preach.
You do not love him and he is not rich and his age is confusing you,why do you wanna settle for less.So if we tell you to marry him now despite his age you will do so and later send us chronicles blaming us when the age issue springs up again?Its a personal decision you have to make,most of the people who will advise you might not like older men and will tell you not to do it,those who like older men will tell you to do it...The decision lies with you honey!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WHEN LE BOO ENCOURAGES WIFEY TO CHEAT
Hello Stella I am a regular visitor of this wonderful family.kindly hide my identity, my story goes thus;
I have been with my husband for 9yrs married for 2yrs with a child. While dating he use to complain about my low sex drive he suggested i tried another guy just to know if he's the one that cant satisfy me i refused ,i know my husband doesnt have a problem sexually because a lot of his exes wanted him back then.they claimed hes supper in bed and can go 7rounds before morning.
He complained i was too rigid and spiritual ,i usually thought it was because i wasn't previously active sexually,he's the only man i have been involved with sexually. I kept assuring him i will get better, i felt his penis was too large cos i usually feel pains as i dont get moist easily so i lubricate ,i was hoping after child birth i will widen a little and enjoy sex more still no difference.it annoys my husband that i dont initiate sex at all. I can stay sex free as long as possible he feels its not normal i saw a gynaecologist and a counsellor they both said its my mind set.i have never been sexually harrassed or assaulted.he got adult films for me to watch they just irritate me.
Now its not getting funny anymore as my husband now insists i try another man . I cant see myself doing this as my faith doesn't support such and i feel its wrong especially as a married woman but hes saying he's the one asking me to do it and promised not to use it against me in future. I refused as usual now hes really acting strange and cold towards me.
I know my husband loves me to a fault and i love him too and he is not a cheat, we are so close that we discuss everything.i dont want my sex issue to destroy my happy home and make my husband become a womanizer.Please i need help. For a year now we don't stay in the same town because he got transferred temporarily from work but i spend at least a month with him quaterly and he comes home too.
God bless you for this wonderful platform.
*sigh* Seems you married someone you are not sexually attracted to,he probably thinks this way and that is why he is urging you to try someone else which if you do might prove him right or wrong but do not do it oh.
You have made your bed so lie on it like that.I would have told you to pretend to climax but that might increase his urge for you,meaning he will ask for more and for you double wahala.
Why dont you work on yourself and let him also start by being very gentle and spend a lot of time fore-playing.
Good luck oh..The sexperts here might help further.
chronicles........
ReplyDeleteIt's my birthday today. Yippee!
DeleteJesus is Lord.
Poster 1, the only challenge I know you have is because he does not have money. If he's rich you won't be talking about this.
DeletePoster 2 please don't try sleep out. Just work on your mindset.
Poster 1: the choice is yours, forever is too long to be unhappy
DeletePoster 2: pls don't do it even if your husband reminds you again. It seems your husband is very patient. Try to improve on yourself, rebuild your marriage. Don't let this issue tear your marriage apart.
Why does everything in this chronicles have to be about marriage, and sex dis sex dat, am so getting tired of it. Every time sex sex sex. What is it sef
DeleteWow as jealous as men can be and yet your hubby said u should open for another man? Am beyond speechless mehn.... poster 1, he is old and he doesn't have money. Why will you now marry him? Love? Gerrarahia
DeletePoster 2, we can be friends. I was once in your shoes but now my husband gets tired of me. It's not easy for those of us that have only been sexually involved with our hubby. I can't put my number here so reply by leaving a contact even if it means creating an email address that you won't use after now. I'm very willing to help cos I learnt the hard way and don't want you to go through same.
DeletePoster 1, you already know the answer to your question. Poster 2: no matter what your husband tells you,please don't sleep with someone else to prove his point.
DeletePoster 2 you just described me to the tee except for the fact that I was actually molested which is what has affected me till now. All I do is consciously free my mind during sex because I notice that most of the time I am uptight during the act. So I take a deep breath and release all my inhibitions. Also when he is away I send him text messages and act all horny and initiate sex when he returns. This gives him an ego boost and makes him feel better. I have accepted the fact that I am not always going to enjoy sex.
DeletePoster 2 try reading romance novels (harlequin, mills and boon, etc), it will help put u in de mood. Then also try woman on top position, u ll cum. Wear sexy lingerie, bum shorts, g string pants, they'll help to put u in de mood.
DeleteNarrative 1.. U never old , u hear.. lool.
DeleteNarrative 2.. see what over spirikoko causes. Better go watch lekki wives and see what happened to the babe like u. Try and work on your mindset don't go try anything outside oo, your hubby is just joking with that part.
Nawaoooooo..wonders will shall never cease
DeletePoster 2....This is the story of my life...d difference here is that DH isn't complaining so much tho it gets to him @Anon 16.46....pls I need help also.....jeeeez.....since I got married, I can't remember initiating sex, I feel sorry for DH most times, sex hurts me sef, abeg I nor like am.
DeletePoster 2: Never try it as your hubby will never forget it n will forever use it against you. Just work on urself.
DeletePoster 1:::: stop being desperate for marriage....hate when women talk about age running out...says who? U are desperate.....stop it
DeletePoster 2::: stop fooling yourself...ur husband is having an affair.....long distance for one year and u vain he is not cheating when he is sex starved....wake up.....he needs to be patient with u that's his cross.....marriage is about tolerating ur spouse...it's not only women who should endure in marriage....it's a mind thing, work on yourself
@poster 2,sorry to hear abt what you're going thru..You could tell your DH to invest more on foreplay,as per use his fingers while on your tits until you cum,then he penetrates as soon as u orgasm.Cos it lubricates and widens you simultaneously..It helps me,might do same for you..
Delete@ poster 2... am in the same situation with u. The only difference is my hubby wasn't my ist. We have been together 4 19yrs and married for 6yrs. For the past 2 yrs I have been having issues with sex. I can go months without thinking about. But, it's beginning to affect my marriage. I don't even want him to touch me. I no he loves like crazy, but, am not sure about my feelings. Maybe bcos we have been together 4 2 long. I became so relaxed
Delete19yrs together kwa????? Is he ur relative??
DeleteToo tired to write anything...
ReplyDeleteCalabar, but u juz wrote something
DeleteCommenting isn't compulsory naa.
DeleteHahahahahah funny chic
DeleteChronicle! May Jesus fix it!
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Its all you girls thatll be doing spirikoko before marriage and won't have sex with anybody, you mind and body will get so used to it that when you finally do marry, your mind and body would have been so used to it that it'll be difficult to change. Carry on o, na your husband I pity.
DeletePoster2 were you circumcised? That could be the only explanation for your inability to enjoy sex, something wey sweet pass kai kai. Hmmm.
DeleteAnonymous
DeleteShut it
Decency is NOT a crime
Just negodu!!
ReplyDeleteJust negodu what emjay?! What are we just 'negoduing'? Daft fool
DeleteAnonymous calm down na.....
DeleteNo be Em Jay write chronicle na
Na WA oooo bitter people
Em Jay, wetin happen? A whole fourth position...
DeleteThis is not acceptable in the committee of nations..
Am just negoduing ur miserable life dear,come take a hug.
DeleteAnno so u ve resurrected, and still did bitter??? Didn't u see anoda "just negodu"below this comment? Did u ask emjay out and she turned u down,or did she snatched ur bf????
DeleteSo u don't come back ni??? She didn't comment first yet u want to die on top her matter,use ur id coward,bloody bastard!
DeleteReally daft comment. Must you use 'negodu ' for everything? Before it was 'fix it Jesus'. Its ok to not comment on a post if you have nothing to say you know?
DeleteShinningstar
Carry on emjay,luv u too much,e royalty stay off her.
DeleteChineke... see attack o !! Lol
DeleteWhy are u taking emJay's comment personal? ..... na wah 4 u oooooo
DeleteStop the insults abeg!....
DeleteEm Jay, ur reply is so funny.
DeleteEm jay darling, how's presentation going for your wedding? Anonymous go hug transformer.
Delete@Anonymous 16.03......I wonder when ur brain wl work fine..seems u are operating on expired drugs..u r too full of ursef.anyway..I think u need re-orientation about what *minding ones business* is all abt
Delete@Emjay.I so much love u..continue negodeing jare and let dem carry ur mata for head like casket
@sexy momma,wedding?How come am not aware???
DeleteNegodu! Just negodu
ReplyDeleteSecond Emjay abi
DeleteHe probably married poster two because she was " wife material " to the outside world while he enjoys freaky sexual females he will claim they are too spoilt so marry the " good" unspoilt one and keep the freaky mistresses. You are incompatible even if you learn it will cause wahala as he is a hypocrite who wants good sex outside and a presentable wife inside.
ReplyDeletePoster one don't marry out of pity because you were begged marriage is hard enough already
You nailed it there for poster 2 @ Anonymous 15:04.
DeleteLol, you actually made sense. Plus he is cheating hence him wanting u to cheat to, to give him freedom.
DeleteU better get ur groove on my Lady.
Poster 1- ask ur self, what do u want?
Giant possibility
DeleteGbam!!.....he is not cheating really?he can't eat his cake and have it
DeleteHian!!
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Had a distant relationship, dz dude came visiting n i refused him sex, while taking his bath one day i went visiting at his hotel, i snooped in d bathroom n saw he has a small PiPi. He left for another state few days later n cheated. The lady became pregnant as a result of his infidelity.... 9 months later she birthed a baby boy.... d baby is barely 1year and 3months i saw on her facebook page she's pregnant for bby No2. Could she be enjoying his small pencil PiPi or what.... moreover he wifed her whenn she was 6 months preggy with d baby. He doesnt stay in naija so his ppl wifed her for him.... mtshew.....
ReplyDeleteLol. See story.
DeleteShinning star
Lol @ small pencil pipi.
DeleteMy dear, size of pipi is not some people's problem oo.
So what is your own? It's not always about the dick dumb dumb
DeleteHeeya, congrats to her. The magic sm pple can do with smal pipi will amaze u. I thought its a lie but seems like dey work harder cos of the inadequacy of the physical pipi. Vry old exp
DeleteYou saw his dick relaxed. My ex has a very small relaxed dick but when it is erect, it is huge. Don't judge until it is hard.
DeleteHe's an ex, so i can still snoop into his business till m married
DeleteI think I know they guy. He isn't in love with the wife. He has wealth as per seen by man. He just wants to settle. Rumors has it he can cheat for Africa with that small pepe .
DeleteLmao Mo darling...achoooo!
DeleteJesus fix both posters!
ReplyDeleteP2: he is very active and u have been apart for a while and u are convinced that he is not cheating??? he is just very good at hiding it..
ReplyDeletePoster. One, you dnt love dt man nd even if u love the man, money is d issue. I am 25 yrs old married to a 42 years nd he doesn't even look it sef even thou he is nt a billionaire sha. U were saying sometin of hw old wil he be if your child is 20 abi, there r some pple who's husband even died with 3 yrs of marriage. If you love him very well tell him to look for a. Job so dt he can b able to tkia of you.
ReplyDelete@1, u want to marry a 45 yrs old guy who is broke, what's wrong with women anywaz, if @ 45 he's still broke, when then will he make money, maybe when he's 80, I pity u in advance and i will be waiting for yr chronicle 2 yrs from now.
ReplyDelete@2, u ve a spiritual husband if not how do u explain ur problem, stop making love in d dream u hear.
She didn't say he's broke o, madam I too know, you skipped the part where she said he's into small business abi.
DeleteJust because u have spiritual husband doesn't mean everybody has..ewu
DeleteHahahahaha, sweetness how u take know? Babe is always bitter
DeleteSweetness God bless you for that
DeleteN2, maybe d size is d problem. Do enough foreplay like oral sex, u know what I mean?, before d main act. It will make u very wet n horny n ooops u won't feel a pain. Goodluck in fixing year marriage. N1, u don't love d guy, u are just worried abt ur age, but pls don't marry bc of age or what ppl will say. U are d one that will live with d man, look b4 u reap.
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ReplyDelete1.
ReplyDeleteWell, dont marry cos no 1 is coming to marry u. Dont settle 4 less no matter what. Just live ur normal life and an amazing person will come along.
2. Lmao. Are u sure ur hubby doesnt have a thing for swinging? Cos moat times, even if a man cant satisfy u, he wldnt still want sm1 else touching u except thats his thing. I know sm expatriate that derives pleasure in sm1 shagging his wife...thats his thing and shes cool with it. So talk with ur hubby to really know what it is.
I really dont think ur prb is attraction, i think u just arnt into sex. Now both of u shld find out wat u r into...(i just hope it iant girls). So try every single thing out there and keep doing those u end up liking. And if u dont, then keep lubricating and become a beast inbetween the sheets but no matter what, dont shag sm1 else.
I go with the suspicion dat he's into swinging,u will only confirm if u try it and give him feedback,den he will ask dat u and a group of friends switch partners,and dats how u will be initiated into d freaky perverted group,..all at ur own risk!
DeletePoster1,its cos dat man is broke dat u remember his age!money would have hidden it.but him sef,wat was he doing all dis while? Was he waiting to be rich or wat?watch him sha,cos a matured friend once told me dat guys dat stay dat late before marriage usually have crious character flaws that made gals to keep running away..
A man asking his married wife to go and cheat then brief him afterwards?
ReplyDeleteEven an ordinary boyfriend to A lady cant stand seeing his girlfriend cheat on him;so am wondering what this is all about..and to think you two are married,hhhmm!!
Madam abeg respect yourself to avoid future embarrassment from your said husband oooo...
ThingsArentAlwaysWhatTheySeemToBe..
@MARTINS ABOY
Poster 1,the problem is not his age.He is a poor man.
ReplyDeleteI don't think you will have any problem with his age,if he is Dangote.
Don't mind poster 1. Her problem is the money joor.
DeletePoster 1 please stop deceiving yourself and leave the poor man alone.
P2 Don't do it o!!!
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't mean it.
That's what men say when they're not gettin their desired s*x needs.
It's a confusion statement no mattter how much he says it.
Do it n tell him, that's when U will know ur marriage is crashed.
Bye!!!
Women!....complaining since the days of Adam!
ReplyDelete1. A man who earns honest wages with a potential to do more, u despise him cos of his age. Wait till u start arranging chairs at Shiloh for all the wrong reasons.
That he does extra side biz should tell u that he aims to achieve & earn more. But ur greed & selfishness won't make u see beyond ur long throat. OYO will be ur case soon!
2. I hereby volunteer myself as ur scape goat in the experiment ur hubby suggested. Our sexcapades will be highly confidential. Mstcheeww!
Ghanaman signing out!!!
Hmmmmm serious kasala, madam don't do it oooooh
ReplyDeletePoster 1.....stay away dear...you don't love him and again seems you have more money than him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2... Don't try it.pls go online and search for how to improve your bed matic skills oooo. Educate your self before you send chronicles of a cheating husband.
P1...I think ur problem is,u don't love him.don't force ursef.go with ur brain and don't delay dis man if u have no love for him
ReplyDeleteP2...u nid prayer ooo.if u try it then consider ur home #daru#u know wat I mean now..is beta u ask him to tell u wat u can do to satisfy his sexual wahala dan doing dat marital madness
@poster1 : if he is 60yrs and rich, his age won't scare you away abi? And you won't be calculating the age difference between him and your child 2 be?
ReplyDeleteThe problem is not the age but the fact that he doesn't have money!
But as we normally advice on this blog......"don't settle for a broke ass nigga"
@poster2 : there is nothing wrong with you and please don't fall 4 that trap ooooh cause he is looking for a way to divorce u or chase you out of his house....
Or probably a gateway to cheat with different ladies......
He will blackmail the life out of you if you try it.
Nawao. Poster one. Age is just a number what matters is love and understanding
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Dont try any man outside. Try to work on ur self. U re lucky you have a good man and not all those chronic cheaters out there who doesn't care. Pray too
The problem with p1 is that she doesn't love him and she's just scared that she might not find another man due to her age. I will not advice you to settle for less, but again I can't assure you that your own man will come. But if marriage is so important to you at this point maybe you should go ahead bearing in mind that you'll always wish for someone better. It's your decision to make
DeletePoster 2,Two of you are deceptively in love.
ReplyDeleteWELCOME TO DE CHRONS OF LYF..GOD BLESS SDK AND DS FAMILY....POSTER 1 ITS UR DECISION AS WAT U LYK MAY NT B WAY OTHERS LYK AND WAT OTHERS LYK MAY NT B WAT U LYK..ITS JST LYK WAT STELLA SAID..POSTER 2..DNT DO IT OOH IT WIL DEFINATELY BE USE AGNST U..D PRBLM IS U NT UR HUSBY AND HES BEGININ NT TO B COMFORTABLE..LIV SPIRITUALITY WEN IT COMES TO SX WIT HUSBY,BE FREE WIT HIM..U STIL THNK U R IN COURTSHP DT CHUR WARN U NT TO COMIT FONICA..LOSEN UP URSLF,SINCE HES UR ONLY MAN WIL U LYK TO OR FEEL COMFORTABLE LYIN NUDE WIT ANODA MAN???TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeleteYou know nobody reads this nonsense you write here, right? Because I don't know how a sane human being can not exhibit common courtesies...
Deletewe've been saying this here again and again.-- You don't use caps on the internet. It's rude cos It means you are shouting..
Plus, you jumble everything together, no paragraphs, nothing. Pls learn proper etiquette or stay off!!!
Please write like an adult
DeleteNOBDY READS NOW I KNW U R A GHOST OR MERMAID..IF MY SHOUTIN AINT ENUF USE MIC ON MY BEHALF.
DeleteNA IT U GET F9 FOR ENGLISH AFTA ALL UR ITK??..IF MY POST PAINS U DEN TEL STELLA NT TO POST MY COMNTS OR U GO HUG TRNS4MER...
@Angel..have so muched liked and admire ur conviction as a lady but this time,u making me to breath in carbon instead of oxygen....I hate when pple complain abt other ppls error or mistakes.it is wrong. You need to understand the fact that,not everyone knows half of what u know.
DeleteInspite,some pple r just lucky to have literacy and numeracy skills.your idea is needed when reading anything in here.I'm putting this to u cuz have read ur comment times unnumbered where u kip complaining abt vocabs,tenses,etc...please don't take offence to this but adjust..
So sorry if I have wronged u in anyway....Love u so much like a sister
#Pinky#
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteDon't bother putting that man in a loveless marriage cos it's obvious u don't love him enough.If u did, this ish would be the last thing on ur mind.
Poster 2
Why not try making yourself better, I'd advice u look 4 other means asides ur hubby's suggestion tho.Read articles on getting better in bed.
It seems like u'r not making any move at all or are u just lazy?
Poster2 pls change ur mindset, sex is d sweetest thing in the world, biko stop dulling ur hubby,
ReplyDeletePoster1, abeg his old n poor, no marry am biko, poverty is not romantic,
Gbam! Poverty is not romantic rara!
DeleteChyadaAsslicker
DeleteMy fellow BVs,please I need a good job
ReplyDeletePoster one:
ReplyDeleteIt's your decision to make o.
Poster two :
What ever you do,do not give in to his request.
It's delivish, to start with.
Again, he'll certainly use it against you in future.
Reading chronicles here daily, would have made you wise enough to know that men are unpredictable.
If you agree, tomorrow, when he's using it against you, the way you'll hear it being told, won't be the way it happened.
And then,what if you agree and nothing changes?
Then,giving shoulders will be an understatement of his reaction.
Work on your libido abeg.
I abhor cheating, but it is better you found out that he cheated, than agreeing to what he's asking.
#WhiteDiamondOut
@Narative Two, Does He Suck Your Punani?? You Better Spread Your Centre Of Excellence and let him suck, eat and wash it with his natural Morning Fresh aka SALIVA.. Try It Dear, it'll go along way I swear..
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of d pussy addiction chronicle, sigh.
DeleteHew.... without brushing?
Delete
DeletePoster Two : Why don't you try anal.It"s the best.Thank me later.
Poster One : Why don't you try anal sex with your boo.If he's good, forget his age and pocket and marry him.Thank me later.
DeletePoster Two : Why don't you try anal.It"s the best.Thank me later.
Poster One : Why don't you try anal sex with your boo.If he's good, forget his age and pocket and marry him.Thank me later.
DeletePoster Two : Why don't you try anal.It"s the best.Thank me later.
Poster One : Why don't you try anal sex with your boo.If he's good, forget his age and pocket and marry him.Thank me later.
POSTER 2 FROM YOUR STORY, YOU ARENT SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO YOUR HUSBAND AND THATS NOT GOOD OH. BIKO FREE YOUR MIND
ReplyDeletePoster 2, ur mindset is not allowing u feel anything. U have a good man but his approach is wrong. U dont have to sleep with another man for him to feel adequate. Read books to learn more about sex, try new stuff. Sex is pleasurable, u just need to relax.
ReplyDeleteDid N1 say she is a graduate? With what she wrote i am tempted to ask how many lecturers she slept with before she left uni. WTH! Nigerian mentality, everyone want to answer graduate. Mtcheeew.
ReplyDeleteYou are a fool
DeleteWhat is Uni? Olodo busybody corrector..Just read d nonsense u wrote up there.
DeleteDid N1 say she is a graduate? With what she wrote i am tempted to ask how many lecturers she slept with before she left uni. WTH! Nigerian mentality, everyone want to answer graduate. Mtcheeew.
ReplyDeleteP1you need love not money. P2 No man in his sense will ask his wife to cheat
ReplyDeleteAnony, she needs love n money. Kapish!
DeletePoster 1, pls don't rush cos of ur age ooo, unless u are ready to bear the consequences, ,, poster 2,,, try n free urself pls because u are now married, he's ur husband not ur bf
ReplyDeleteNon of you have problem here.....
ReplyDeleteIn Wm jays voice ******just Negodu*****
In Miami voice ******* Maybe be your hourseband is too black,tell him to bleach up and turn his dark coffee into Nespresso attractive right? yeeeeaaah!
and poster one,gerrat from here jor!..... Does he workyahole well?if yes,die there...
Poster 2,
ReplyDeleteIf u decide to try someone else, dont u dare tell.
Poster 1
eni ba fe arugbo, loma ra posi
On d oda hand, ul always be his tomapep
Poster 1.... Dont convince yourself to settle for less, because it seems youre with him just because you dont have another alternative. And trust me, the Deveil is a bitch....those guys that dont seem to give u attention now, it would be funny how they'll start swooning over you when youre married...which might lead you to commit adultery, a marriage built on pity would hardly last. You only have a choice while youre still single, once youre in..youre in.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...I think there are hormonal drugs that increase sexual drive for women. If he's so keen on u being hyper in bed he should think towards that direction that asking u to commit adultery, thats just insane. Please dont do it, we dont want you sending in another chronicle "betrayed even when I was just being obedient"
You should also take it to the Lord in prayer, He is there to help us in all things..If you can to talk to common humans about sex, then you should be able to talk to Him- he created sex himself. May He help you and lead you away from this temptation your husband is posing...
My 2 Cents
P2, I have a chewing gum that increases sex drive, your husband would fall in love again if u use it n you'd beg me for more. :p
DeleteOgbanje tins! Chewing gum ko, swallowing gum ni! Olosho
DeleteV heard abt it....emotional gum or something😁😤😂
DeleteMyopic idiot! If u want to know, ask kindly I would help expand ur shallow knowledge, blady twart!
Delete@ poster 1 you don't love him cos if u do you won't be counting his fault. Well all I can say if for u to follow ur mind.
ReplyDelete@ poster 2 pls work on urself so you won't push ur husband into womanising
Jesus pls fix it
Chronicles is here...
ReplyDeletePoster 2 na holy holy go kill you,better get comfortable asap
Poster 2: This is not love; Love seeks not his own, love is patient, is kind does not envy etc. Let's see;
ReplyDelete4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. IT DOES NOT DEMAND ITS OWN WAY. IT IS NOT IRRITABLE, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, AND ENDURES THROUGH EVERY CIRCUMSTANCE. 1 Cor. 13
Did you see the UPPER CASE letters? Is this the love you said you husband has for you? If you fall into this trap, you lose your peace with God and be sure that your marriage will scatter and he will fail another test of love; he will KEEP RECORD OF THIS WRONG and will do more; have the leverage to browse every skirt in town. Already, living apart temporarily due to work, he might also be browsing already (nothing to worry about or probe but pray and fast, he will give himself up); he might simply want to balance the conscience issue about his randy ways. Lady fast and pray since you are spiritual and ask the Holy Spirit to teach you love making; did not the Lord promise that the Spirit will lead us into all truth? Is love making between husband and wife not part of this "all truth"?
POSTER 1: One question: If this man wins a 50 million Naira contract now, will his age remain an issue? Be sincere with yourself. What you should do is to pray and investigate to know why all his friends are married but he is not.
Poster 2, don't do it please.
ReplyDeleteYou can surprise him, loosen up a little.
Watch adult movies,it shouldn't irritate you and also read erotic books.
Stop seeing sex as something sacred,you guys are married and should enjoy sex.
All the best but Do not sleep with another man.
N2, your DH stay's in another town and you are sure he doesn't cheat…Ok..Madam don't do what he is asking to do o, he will use it against you in future. Nah wah o! A man will knowingly want to share his Otu??..Hia!
ReplyDeletePoster two, u will end up pushing ur husband into d arms of someone Dat will not only love him but also f**k the hell out of him and no one would be right to blame him. You better start faking it till u make it or find a solution asap. Maybe he's already sleeping with someone else outside sef and he wants to lessen d guilt hence his suggestion Dat u do it with another man.
ReplyDeleteP1 its obvious u are bothered about his financial status more than the age thing & i don't blame u cos there are alot of irresponsible men out there. What u should consider is whether he has prospects and is a hard worker.
ReplyDeleteP2 u are not alone in this. Seek professional medical help. It has to do with hormones and your husband should support u rather than him resort to such underhanded tactics. There are drugs to improve sexual libido and u would be amazed how many ladies out there have this same medical problem.
Learn to satisfy ur man b4 sm1 takes over from u OK, Even d good book encourages it.. Try getting tipsy
ReplyDeletePoster 1...So Aunty gwegwegwe like u is complaining about a man's age? At 30yrs u are no different from him.What were u doing when ur mates were getting married at 20? U think u are a small girl?
ReplyDeleteDo u even think of how old u will be when ur child is 20yrs? U will be 50yrs..My elder sister is already a grand mom at 44yrs..Yes daz d truth..
U should be happy dat u found someone who will take u out of aunty gwegz league.
How old is Sanusi's new wife again?
Nasty Shemale
DeleteThank you. As Old as she is she's insecured over a man's age.
DeleteShut up fool! So she should rush into marriage because she's 30,aint you stupid! Mind you I'm married with two kids.
Delete@poster 1, you better jump at him,cos if at 30 you can't decide what is right for you continue waiting for a guy that is as young as you. You will wait till when you reach menopause.@ poster 2,please don't try it but you can step up your game or you tell your husband to stimulate you with dildo to get you in the mood before the real action.
ReplyDeleteGod fix ur home. don't sleep with someone else
ReplyDeletePoster 1: If this man wins 10 million in lottery or wins even American visa lottery, will his age matter again. You too are getting younger sure?
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Your husband want to push you into hell. Tell him no and pray and fast for your family.
Stella please, I beg you in the name of God. This is very important to me personally. I have been praying to this lady who touched my life in a very special way. No pastor or church did what the word of God and counsels she shared here ever did to me. Please father, I hope lady Igo is not dead. Please bring back that lady here. Each time I read these kind of stories I remember her. I came to this blog because, a friend that visits here shared with me a story she shared that was just what we both were passing through and once we followed what she shared we got it resolved. Since then I've been stuck in this blog and boom, she stopped coming on. I know she mentioned that her husband brought her here.
I read the chronicles first.
Poster 1: the truth is that you don't have any feeling for him, because if you did, there's nothing that would have stop you from marrying him. Make your choice yourself before you bring another chronicle tomorrow.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: everything is about your mindset, try to free your mind during sex and ask your husband to engage in enough fore-play before sex. Wish you all the best
Poster two...you are rigid because you see some sex related activities as being disgusting. It is just your mind playing tricks on you. Let go of this and you will see what you are missing. Allow your husband to stimulate you properly..suck you well and make you wet. Research and read sex articles to improve yourself. Dont see porn as being irritating. Focus and learn.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. Most times the way virgins have managed to remain virgins is to think of it as a bad thing. That's why they have these sex problems when they get married especially older virgins that would have had to lots of pressure from suitors for sex.
DeletePorn is rubbish and ridden with demonic characteristics (it inspires lust and other related spirits)
DeleteThere are educational videos designed SPECIFICALLY for that purpose
Find them and get educated
Oya over to u all
ReplyDeleteposter one, leave him and let him go. be with a man that u love, forever is too long to be unhappy.
ReplyDeleteHad a distant relationship, dz dude came visiting n i refused him sex, while taking his bath one day i went visiting at his hotel, i snooped in d bathroom n saw he has a small PiPi. He left for another state few days later n cheated. The lady became pregnant as a result of his infidelity.... 9 months later she birthed a baby boy.... d baby is barely 1year and 3months i saw on her facebook page she's pregnant for bby No2. Could she be enjoying his small pencil PiPi or what.... moreover he wifed her whenn she was 6 months preggy with d baby. He doesnt stay in naija so his ppl wifed her for him.... mtshew.....
ReplyDeletePoster 1: You can't get married to someone because you just have to get married. If he is not what you want then move. Stop complaining about age and all. In the days of our parents women get married to far older men. If he is wealthy I don't think you would have considered the age.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Don't even consider it. With all due respect ma'm, for your husband to suggest such nonsense doesn't speak well of him all all. He should indulge you with lots of foreplay and let he try to find out what excites your body by taking his time to explore it.
Confused woman because the man has no money you are now thinking if your baby becomes 20 how old will your poor husband to be become. You no get sense at all. Is it not Sanusi that is over 50 years marrying 18 year old girl. Yeye woman, go and marry Dangote.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: your husband is very crazy. may God help all of una with chronicles.
anyway happy anniversary to all. see you all Friday. Enough grooving for me to enjoy. those that are being pained by my comments, make una come take honey i dey sell to sweeten una life small.
Poster 2, have u ever tried masturbating on ur own? Its a way of finding out what turns u on, where ur soft touch buttons are on ur body and what makes u climax. Go on and try it! Paint beautiful pictures in ur head while u explore ur body with ur fingers. Caresss ur clitoris gently, while touching ur nipples, ur inner thighs with d other. If this makes u come, then u are one of those who do not 'get there' by just penetration. If u discover urself following these tips, pls lovingly tell ur hubby what to do to u to improve ur performance in bed. Hope this helps.
ReplyDeleteP2 is too holy for this o
DeleteI'm learning things! #eyes wide open#
DeleteParental advisory please!
DeleteMasturbate is self provision, fantasy wen you climax you open your soul up to the realm. Now no male is on the giving end.. On the other end is cousin lust and perversion... Don't be surprised if you have an inclination to lesbianism, female problem fibroids, spiritual husband... Its consequences are myriad
DeleteChronicles is here. Poster 1 the truth is you don't love him final cos is age is perfectly okay for your own age and men don't get old on time, if it's dangote you getting married to will u even consider the age diff. #Money rules the world# poster 2 another reason you r nt sex drive mite be the size of he's dick. But I will tell you the truth NO NO NO don't Eva try to sleep with anoda man even if ur husband is pushing you to. Just work on ursef.
ReplyDeleteposter 1 age is nothing to me what matters is what you feel for him, if you don't love him don't marry him out of pity. poster 2 do not do what your hubby ask you to rather look for ways to improve your sex life.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: If this man wins 10 million in lottery or wins even American visa lottery, will his age matter again. You too are getting younger sure?
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Your husband want to push you into hell. Tell him no and pray and fast for your family.
Stella please, I beg you in the name of God. This is very important to me personally. I have been praying to this lady who touched my life in a very special way. No pastor or church did what the word of God and counsels she shared here ever did to me. Please father, I hope lady Igo is not dead. Please bring back that lady here. Each time I read these kind of stories I remember her. I came to this blog because, a friend that visits here shared with me a story she shared that was just what we both were passing through and once we followed what she shared we got it resolved. Since then I've been stuck in this blog and boom, she stopped coming on. I know she mentioned that her husband brought her here.
I read the chronicles first thing every afternoon; that is one thing that makes my lunch break appealing.
Please share the solution that Lady Igo shared.
DeleteI also hope joined in fasting and lots of things happened and happening.
She did counsel me also.
God bless
P1
ReplyDeleteKettle is calling pot black. A 30yr old woman who is 100% okay but has not had her first pregnancy would find it harder to conceive from a normal 25 yr old man than a 45year old man 100% normal would impregnate a 25yr old normal girl. Your problem is that you see him as 'if you can't find a suitable place to rest your hands, you rest them on your knees. Did any one stop you from marrying early like your own friends or are there no mates of yours married with 3 or 4 kids already. You are talking of a 20yr old child when you are not sure the day you will get pregnant in the first place. That man would make the mistake of his life marrying you because he doesn't know you see him as ' instead of losing my escaping cow let me cut and retain the tail. You have the opportunity even to day to get yourself a younger man, at least you have the means. Talking about his age when your child hits 20 yes, haven't you seen 60yr olds ravaged by I'll health while 70yr olds are healthy and kicking.. Haven't you seen a girl who lost his young husband after ten yes of marriage while the lady who married an old man lost him after forty yes of marriage? Save him and yourself future agony now by leaving him and getting yourself a young husband because we now know that his reason of late marriage is finance but no one knows whether your own reason of late marriage is sinister.
P2
If you do it he will definitely use it against you. He may abuse you with it in future, he may abandon you for other girls in future citing lack of affection for him. If such happens can you boldly tell ppl that it is because you fucked another man? Even you may do it and discover el Dorado in another man. What do you think would follow because you will also accuse him of lack of affection. In this case too can you boldly tell anyone that cares to listing that you found another man mor sexually satisfying. But if you don't do it, what ever pranks he comes up with you will bodly fight him. But your husband seems to me to be selfish and wicked to suggest such thing knowing if you do as he said and you come back and tell him how sweet the man is, how beautiful his prick is how genre and patient he is how sweet you now know sex is and all the glowing tributes he will for Eva resent you and you would find solace in the other man's embrace. So what will happen to your family and who will support you when he denies being the one that sent you. Finally both of you need psychological reorientation. You should know that the mind controls sex. Hence a prostitute would have sex with ten different men a day but would enjoy sex with only one man that she even doesn't collect service charge from
Poster 1- I am 33 and dating / courting a 52 years old divorcee... before I met him, I was engaged to a 37 year old single guy. The single guy impregnated another woman shortly after we he proposed, his son is now 1year and 2 months old. He cheats, hardly calls, and has sooooo much pride. He's still on my neck for marriage. In my pain and heartbreak I met the divorcee... calls me like kilode, quick to say sorry, cares a lot about me and my family. I'm sooooo ready to marry him but mum said no. I love him... I don't care how long he lives, I just want to be happy! My younger sister died last month on her 30th birthday and left 2 kids. Her husband is 45... so you see, you don't live/ die according to your age. If you are not happy, just leave. Older or younger, richer or poorer, happiness should be paramount!
ReplyDeleteWow please try hard to convince your mum. Form sickness
DeletePoster 1, please follow your heart, you alone have the solution to your problem. I think you have a bipolar attitude. Poster 2:please do not do it, practice safe sex and pray
ReplyDeleteP1, tell yourself the truth its not the age, P2,Your husband opening his mouth to beg you to go and cheat because of your low sex drive, yet you come here and write he loves you! Where is the vow of matrimony? I have never heard of this before.
ReplyDeleteP1, he's 45 & unmarried?? Hian, biko find out why first of all. It's so unusual for a man dat age ......
ReplyDeleteP2, lol don't mind ur husband. Just try n relax yr body n mind during ibe okwe & he will enjoy u n u him
Poster 1, the decision lies with you o no be we go help you make am.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you really do have to work on yourself try to be open minded and willing to learn and most of all ask the Holy Spirit for help and I bet you God wants you to have an awesome sex life with your husband so depend on Him and He'll see you through.
Poster 2 ...there are two things involved in your matter
ReplyDelete1. You are yet to come off your 'virgin-y' mindset and learn to get freaky with hubby. In that case, na God use you punish am cos he had girls he enjoyed sex with but when he wanted to get married, he wanted virgin....and God gave him the kind of virgin whose sex drive will frustrate the hell outta him..😃
Truth is, girl, every man wants a hoe in the bedroom. You need to put your 'mind in the gutter' when it comes to pleasuring a man. Start thinking of sex as the best thing ever!! Better than best!...find erotic websites and read stories while imagining them in your mind, relax your body and use your hand to learn about your body. What pleasures you, what gets you in the mood etc.
2: you might just have low sex drive!! In that case, again you need to consciously think of sex. Read about it, find out on the net if your symptoms fit ' low sex drive in women', maybe you aren't attracted to him, maybe you like girls, maybe the sex is boring, you would like rough sex, to be spanked, to be licked, maybe you'll like sensual sex, candles, ice cream etc....get scented lubricants
Again, try learning on your own first to see what excites you...and then practice on him
3) your hubby is into swinging / creampie etc...there are a few men who get sexually aroused at the thought of their women being ducked by another man, it makes them feel like they are cuckolded or that have something desirable. It turns them on. Some would even want to watch that man slide in and out, some would tell their wives to come back home with another man's vim dripping out of their pussy and they would lick her like that and that's when they get their biggest orgasm...and yes, most times these women agree cos it's what makes their man happy....find out if that is what your man is into. Be careful, you might be shocked at the answer!!
I would advice though, as a Nigerian wife, do not give in to the temptation of pleasing your husband this way, cos he will definitely use it against you and yes, we will be among those who will say ' how could she have been so stupid?'
Now get on with it , girl, go learn how to please your man
Poster 1 you don't have any issue,it's just small pikin sense dey disturb you. Poster 2 please ooooo don't try what your hubby is suggesting. Try work on yourself and pray about it.
ReplyDeleteP1, honestly you dont have a problem.
ReplyDeleteP2, For your husband to ask you to try sex out withanother man outside marriage really speaks volume ot him o...not asking you not to trust him but please shine your eye. It appears your husband may need to be extremely patient with you. He needs to engage in a lot of foreplay and find out those spots that turn you on before the real deal begins. If he is really patient while turning you on with his touch, you wont have need for any lubricant. Also remember, sex is good within the confines of marriage. If i may ask, were you circumcised at a tender age? If yes, that may be the cause but if not, you've got to learn to love it ...this is your husband and not a stranger. Goodluck.
Asking you..
ReplyDeleteLET HIM FORE PLAY FOR LONG BEFORE ENTERING
ReplyDeleteAND YOU RELAX
30 year old lady does NOT love the 45 year old man. PERIOD! If he was earning well, she won't have cared about his age or if she loves him, she will have settled for him because of her age. His friends begging you to settle down with him knows he has been dumped several times by women because of his financial status. What are the chances that he is not wanting marriage with you because of your income? Have you looked at it from that angle? He might not love you that much either, but wants to settle down with a career lady who will contribute to the home because income from farm and poultry business is not steady and the money is not much, you will end up spending more in your matrimonial home. If you know you cannot cope with such stress, let him go. If you decide to settle with him, have just 2 kids and make it clear to him that you will only spend 40% of your salary in the home while you save very well for your kids future.
ReplyDeleteWoman! Your husband DON'T love you PERIOD! No man will want another man to touch his woman especially as he was the first! He is CHEATING! He covers his tracks well! ARE you a victim of FGM? If not, you are not attracted to your husband. DON'T ever sleep with another man because he will DEFINITELY use it against you someday. I am advising you as a man.
Poster 1, if this man was rich like Dangote, you wont have sent in ur chronicles. You will be jumping to marry him. My advice for you look beyond his age, my only concern is at 45 he's never been married with no kids. Men that age that have never been committed even with a child scares me. Some of them are very set in dere ways and its hard for a woman to live with them. Pray about it, that's all I can advice.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, stella This ur advice is not right. I don't think its a case of her not being attracted to her husband. Some women are not just so sexual plus she's not experienced, this is her 1st sexual partner. Poster just keep trying okay and let ur husband know ur trying. My only problem is this ur hubby saying you shld try outside. When men suggest such, most times they are also doing smthn by the side. And this one hes been posted to another city, just be watchful.
Poster 2-- read books..Y are some women nonchalant about sex? Save ur marriage jare...put ur mind into it, Learn to moan, talk dirty, give a head, etc. Have an open mind nobody is born an expert
ReplyDeleteposer 1
ReplyDeleteare you crying for love at your age.You're lucky you see person that wants to marry you and people are even begging you, will a 30 year old man marry you?
listen to reason: what is love?
when you marry your age mate.....
you dye your hair regularly,
you make every effort to show your are younger even to a ridiculous level.
na you go enjoy the age gap when you are 40 and above
leave the children dt one is not even an issue
Poster 1: You obviously don't love him cos he is broke. Just think well and remember age isn't on your side anymore. God help you make the right decision.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Pls and pls work on your self. I wish I had a husband who has a high sex drive. Been married for 10 months and my hubby has not touched me 10 times.
Poster.1, u can't marry out of pity,.U DONT live him, otherwise u won't even write this chronicle, so stop the self pity and go find your man.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. U better start learning and stop writing chronicle
Hmmmmmmmmmm today chronicles pass me oooooo
ReplyDeletePoster one thanks for being candid. Fear and doubt is your problem. The first point of contact is when you met this guy initially what did God or your intuition say b4 you dated him.
ReplyDeleteIts good to listen to your intuition and wait on the Lord
your emotions make your ears deaf.
I would say I don't worship money. Someone was interested in me
I asked and God said no
To the world he is rich young and hardworking.
To me and God he is a vampire,wizard and crocodile. Unless he gives his life to Christ he be redeemed.
The world throwx stones at me that I miss bx married.
Guys, guys, reasons for vaginal dryness are not always psychological. it could be hormonal. I have the same challenge and I love sex. My husband does it right. I could have an orgasm and still be dry. My husband just keeps the lubricant close. What Poster 2 needs is her husband's patience, understanding, love and attention not trying somewhere else. You can't rob Peter to pay Paul. You'd be doing the opposite of saving your marriage. It also helps to read wholesome and clean articles about sex in marriage. Pls leave pornography alone. Are you a Christian? Pray, pray, pray...God is interested in your marriage, even your sex life. Check out hotholyhumorous.com. God bless.
ReplyDeleteAge is just a number as they say. I am sure if he earns well you won't bother about the age. It's your choice to make tho. I wouldn't advise you to go for a jobless man. Atleast he has what brings food to the table. my hubby is 10 years older than me and you will never know. I used to think of the age difference before but now you will think we are mate, infact he looks younger than me. I am loving him by the day.
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I don't believe a 45 year old man is "too" old for a 30 year old lady...you are 30 not 20. If truly his age is your only concern then you don't have any problem..
ReplyDeleteNa wa o, stella no post my comment cos i told poster2 to have have an opem marriage. The truth is that her husband is in to swinging and would get turned on more knowing his wife that he loves is a freak in the sheet. I know people that are like that. Just study the kind of man he is, if you both have to sign am agreement on it thats fine or dont tell him when you go creeping outside you home. If you cant buy sex toys and do it infront of him to watch you get your freak on.
ReplyDeletePls poster get multi maca from forever living product to improve ur performance in a very high altitude. Thank me later. You will be the one demanding for the show.
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