Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

 ''It is a wah!''

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

AFTER THE DEED IS DONE...

I am 26 years and with a job though still praying and hoping for the best.I met this nice guy last year ( or so I thought). We would talk and chat for hours. Four months into our friendship he asked me out and I agreed thinking he liked me as well. He always reminded me on how he wanted me to be successful career wise and spiritually too. 

Not knowing he had ulterior motives , he started asking for sex and would get angry at the slightest instance that I was being manipulative and playing him. That if we eventually got married I would use sex as a bargaining tool . He insisted that I was torturing him mentally. Was it wrong to visit him at home when he wasn't working? 

Finally, I ended up giving in. He started showing his real colours and eventually told me he just wanted to be friends and that his ex is the ideal and perfect woman he has always wanted but now she is married. The height of disrespect was the day I cooked at his house and he was moody in his room throughout saying that he knows that by this time next year he would be married and he should even get a ring but he had no idea who the lady is ! I just quietly packed my stuffs and told him to drop me off. 

I had already started crying on my way . I just stopped picking his calls, ignoring his text messages and he has been calling saying that I have a strong mind and that I cannot be submissive. It's been 6months since we saw and he is trying to apologise . I am emotionally down and finding it hard to move on. What do you guys think?

Remember that Johnny Walker advert? #KeepWalking.

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NARRATIVE TWO

TO FOLLOW PASTORS INSTRUCTION OR NOT?

My story is not quite short.. I'm in a relationship for about 8 months now and I'm noticing some abnormalities about my Boyfriend. I forgot a fashion ring in his washroom and after like 2 months I went to his place and asked for my ring he checked his wardrobe at first and then went outside his room to bring the ring. 

Though I didn't ask him at that moment when he brought it out from, I called and asked him when he called me later that evening  and the response he gave me was that I should go and ask God & for like a week he didn't call or text me at night(he does dt always) and he's always online on whatsapp and not chatting with me, when I complained he told me he was chatting with some friends and that he gets home tired and that's why he doesn't call, I just decided in me that he's cheating and started giving him attitude too cause of his response that I should go and ask God,only for him to message me one day explaining the ring incident that he was washing his washroom and when he saw the ring he kept it in his trouser and the trouser happened to be in another room .

 I told him that if he has given me this explanation when I asked I would have believed him but he telling me after 2weeks doesn't look good to me and that I will just think in me that he's lying & he said that he doesn't like the manner in which I asked that why didn't I ask him when he gave me the ring and now asking him later that evening;ever since then if I try to talk to him about my doubts in him he will tell me he doesn't want to talk about it because I have already believed in me that whatever he says are lies. 

Two weeks after the ring incident I realized I'm pregnant(something I always avoided coz I use pregnancy prevention pills the morning after sex). I was confused and told him, he was also confused. We already planned to remove the pregnancy. My pastor called one morning and told me not to abort if am pregnant that if I should forget of ever getting pregnant again. I said to myself every servant of God will say such. And told my cousin who's a Muslim,he told his Mallam and the mallam said the same thing but that some prayers can be said to avert any problem if I insist to remove the foetus(called it foetus coz it's only 5weeks).

My fear now is That I don't even know how to Tell BF what the pastor said because he might think I'm trying to force him into marriage, Secondly should I just remove the foetus and move on with my life with the hopes that nothing will happen to me or WHAT? I don't even know how to tell my family they will be so disappointed.  I'm not idle or in a hurry to get married, I'm still planning to have more outlets for my boutique and BF  is also comfortable.

    Please use your red pen STELLA and I don't want to be cussed out. Thanks

N.B: Though before the pregnancy issue came up we have been having issues and whenever I talk about it he will say I should learn to know him more since I think I'm not the only one he's dating. And in one of our conversation I told him that I won't remove the pregnancy,that after I birth the baby and he wants to be part of his/her life that fine and if he thinks he still want us to be together it's all good but that I'm not going to abort it again. He didn't give a reply about that till date.

OMG..Your story is so messed up....

You sound like your mind is made up but if you are wise,whether a pastor told you anything or not,you will keep that baby..Did you hear me?

KEEP THAT BABY!

 All the best.