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Two hot narratives to engage your Saturday!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

THE CONSEQUENCES OF BEING FRIENDS WITH RUNS GIRLS.

Stella, thanks a lot for your platform. It has really helped me and it has taught me so many things about life. Kindly keep me anonymous as you publish this please.

My story goes thus. I was in a relationship with the wrong person for over 5yrs of my life and this caused a lot of damage to me emotionally, I was young but I am glad God opened my eyes and 2yrs after the relationship I am glad to say I am in a much better place now. Thing is, when I was in the university, I walked with certain people I should not have walked with.

 To me it was fun but looking back now I could have done better. I wont say I regret being friends with them then because I learnt a lot from them that has helped me make better decisions now. But recently I met this awesome guy and we started to talk and things were great. I was so happy and I felt like he is the man for me, he went to do his findings about me and he heard really nasty things about me being a runs girl and all that (please bear in mind that I HAVE NEVER done runs, drugs or any other thing), yes some girls i was friends with used to that but I never did. I am not saying I am better than them but God and my mother's prayers just saved me from that path.

 I had a boyfriend that period and I was so focused on him, he was my life then. Now this new guy stopped talking to me because of this. After a week that we stopped talking I called him to explain and tell him all he heard is not true. The good thing is that he believes me but he has told his dad which is his best friend all he heard before I was able to talk to him and he says he cant go back on his words to his dad. I quite understand him because I am very close to my mum too and when I tell her something and I change it, she sticks to the first version I tell her. 

Now, the problem is I am in love with this guy already and a part of me wants to talk to him but I dont want to beg him to be with me, I know he feels the same but he is a man of his words and he promised his dad to let me go, but I just cant see myself letting him go, I think about him everyday, I pray for him to come back everyday and I am even stuck now. Please Stella what do you suggest I do, I am about to call my pastor to talk to him because I am running out of my mind. Please say something Stella, and I dont mind being cussed out by my fellow bv's, that never really affects me because I know who I am.

Hmmm his family will never accept you cos of what you told them and i really dont buy that dog shit that he believes what you told him...if he does he would fight to keep you,if he is letting you go,then let him go....when a man really loves a woman he would turn his back on his best friend just to make her happy!...Oh,that is true honey.

Let hm go abeg,if you have suffered so much as you have explained,why do you wanna bargain for more suffering lovewise?

LET HIM GO,HE AINT YOURS!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

GETTING RID OF A TROUBLESOME EX

Dear Stella, kudos on your good work. Thank you for this platform to receive advices and opinions from several  neutral(not involved in the matter people).

Apologies my chronicles is really long but I don't know how to shorten it further without missing out too much information.

I'm one of those girls that graduated from university early and luckily got a good paying job immediately after. 

My car broke down one evening, I called my mechanic locked up the car and was flagging a cab to take me home when a car stopped and offered to give me a ride which I reluctantly accepted. The driver of the car, my ex, started talking. We gisted like we had known each other since like forever. He was easy to talk to, chatty and funny. We exchanged numbers, and from there became friends. 

He started talking about dating me not long after and even talking of marriage, but I refused because it was too fast and I didn't know him well enough. He later confided in me that he had money troubles, failed business and deported from abroad, in fact the car he was driving was a friends car and he was living rent free at the friends place. He told me stories of how he was an orphan and kicked out by family after his parents dead. 

I was moved by all this and I started helping him out financially, he moved into my apartment and we started dating. In time he was able to get another visa to one of this European countries. I assisted financially, and he was able to travel. Before he left he started the marriage talk again, I accepted and he came to meet my parents. But my parents refused, citing numerous things state of origin, religion( I'm catholic he's not) and upbringing. 

I felt all those were not his fault and stubbornly insisted that I would go ahead with the marriage. Besides he had started attending church with me and promised to continue.

Planning for the trad marriage, excuses upon excuses, my parents and I funded the whole thing, but my dad insisted the traditional things must come from his pocket as he wasn't giving his daughter out for free. 

Few months later I travelled to Europe to meet him. First shock he lived in a crappy one bedroom in a shared house, this is someone claiming big house. 

I said fine after all he lost so much when I met him he's rebuilding. To eat wahala. I got pregnant. Some days I go hungry no food. Shame to call my parents no gree me, I just kept managing. 

He would sleep till noon or later daily, dress up and go out in the evening claiming he's hustling in the streets.

After I had the baby I started job hunting. But whenever I have an interview he would come up with something and leave the house. In a strange land I had no friends and no one to mind my baby. Found out months later that he says i would never get a job as that would give me independence. This guy can lie for Africa, and he lies so much he starts to believe it as reality.

 Church matter, he told me that he was just following me to church so that I could marry him as I am too good to loose as a wife, as we are now married he dictates where we worship. Church wedding nko, he tells me that it cant happen as he doesnt believe in it, this is someone that swore a wedding within a year. Then the issue of womanizing and having his side chicks call me to insult me. I went through his address book and called a number of a chics name saved as his cousin, mistake, it was a side chic who knew who I was she cursed me so bad.

 When my husband came home I told him, imagine he too started cursing me. Team snoop, I snooped and found he was communicating with an ex girlfriend and begging her to marry him, denying he was married etc. I cried but that day I decided enough, I called my parents and told them. I got a ticket and returned  home. In Nigeria, I started rebuilding my life as a single parent. Got a job. This guy would come to Nigeria and demand I come to see him for his rights as a husband imagine. 

He would tell me that with my child no man can ever look, talk less of marrying me. I went to court to dissolve the marriage, he was invited to consent at the court but refused to show up and the court gave me my freedom. 

Two years later I left to the US for masters degree and again luckily a job. My daughter and I doing fine without any input from him. He says my daughter is not his as long as I refuse to be his wife, he would only contribute towards her upkeep on that condition. My parents supported us until I got my job. 

Fast forward to five years after I let him, I met a decent guy, started dating, we got engaged and then the devil shows up. 

He went around threatening my fiancé and his family, telling them that they can't marry me as I am his. We called his bluff, got married with heavy security at the occasion. I am happily married to a very kind, understanding and God fearing man, infact God used him to dry my tears, and we had a lovely baby boy in April. 

But this guy has refused us peace, he goes around saying disparaging things about my family and I including my husband. In fact some of the things he's saying are so embarrassing. I pretend it doesn't affect me but it honestly does and I know my husband isn't as unaffected as he pretends to be. He calls the phone of my family making threats. I have changed my number several times but still he gets it. Sends us Facebook requests under different names and post insulting comments on our wall and  pictures. Called the police to arrest my parents that they are kidnappers, kidnapped his daughter, case was dropped that its a family issue.

 A friend called the other day that he swore I would have no peace and that he has taken my name to a deity in Nigeria. This guy is now married o with a daughter sef,  and another daughter with someone else. Details would just lengthen this some more.

Please advise me people, how do I remove this person from my life. 

WOW!....You were saved from a one chance life but it seems the driver of the bus is still chasing you!

Take his matter to GOD..I dont know what else to say but maybe for starters your parents or family he is threatening should get a court injunction that he is threatening their lives?I really dont know!lets see what the comment section says!