Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Hmmm *side eyes sigh*

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

WALKING AWAY FROM A RELATIONSHIP THAT HAS FOUND CHRIST.

Good Day Stella, let me go straight to the point, my girlfriend of 2years all of a sudden came to me last week and said she was repenting after she read a book by David Oyedepo "Satan get lost"

She gave me the book too, which have just started reading.

Am happy for her, and I respect her decision and I don't want to lure her to sin anymore, I fear God and I don't want to tempt her to choose between me and God, because if I was in her place right now and I genuinely repented, I'll choose God...

I know so many people might say "repent too so both of you can be in same page" but like my sister will say "Salvation is personal" I want to repent when am ready to, not because someone asked me to.

And I feel instead of making her sin which I don't want her to do, I should take a walk, but if I do it going to change and give a wrong impression of everything, she might think I didn't try enough, but I feel I should respect God and allow her serve him diligently with all she's got...

So am asking for honest advice from BVs who have found themselves in same positions and how they handled it..

*side sigh*

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF A MARRIAGE ON A CHILD WHO SAW IT ALL

Dear Stella,

Kindly share my chronicle, I could do with the wisdom of my fellow BV's and your red ink.

My parents had a messy marriage, still do cos they are not officially divorced. My dad left us several years back but has sworn we would never know peace in our lives. He was a violent man and was nothing of a father to us, as such we don't miss him. My mom on the other hand is quick to temper and could not manage my father's excess. My father moved on with so many dirty tales of our family. He has told anyone who cares to listen that my mother is a prostitute and so are his daughters and that she has encouraged us to have series of abortions. My mother is nothing like that, she is a civil servant and worked hard to train us in school. We are all graduates now.

Here comes my problem. I am in my late 20's and relationships are hard for me. I am always so cold and emotionless when I enter one and I always fear they will leave me which they end up doing. Sometimes I don't bother at all. I haven't dated in two years now. I fear no one will want me or want to marry me because of my background (my father has sworn that none of his daughters will get married)‎. 

We have been introduced to certain people but once they hear about us, they run off. In fact I try to avoid the pain myself by not accepting advances from any guy whose parents are together or has a close knit family because most people do not support the idea of marrying into a broken home. I have locked up and become cold hearted. My mother is confused on why I am not seeing anyone but she doesn't understand the effects of her marriage on me. 

I am more attracted to older guys and loose patience with younger guys. As it stands I feel I might eventually not get married. I met a guy in his late 30's who I think is dealing with his own issues too because he avoids commitment. He told me wants a child which I rejected. But I am considering it now. Should just go ahead and have kids and forget about marriage and the issues that would come with it? I am working so I could manage with a kid. I am broken and damaged, how do I heal? 

Will anyone be willing to go through the journey of facing my father when the time comes? Has anyone been in this predicament before? How did you overcome it?

 Hmmmm!!!

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