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KNOWINGLY MARRYING A DEAD BEAT BROKE 
ASS UNREPENTANT BEGGAR AND THINKING HE WILL
CHANGE.

Stella

I hope this mail meets you well. please i want to remain anonymous thank you.

Stella and my fellow blog visitors please i need help asap.

I met my husband in 2010 and we dated for a couple of months and broke up,reason for the break was i heard a lot  stuff about him like baby mama so i couldnt deal and i left. 

Now my  nightmare is ever getting back with him, this was in 2012 and he begged me to marry him. This husband of mine is from a very responsible well to do family so with that i thought the goat i married was responsible as well. 

I blindly  ignored the confirmed gist about him having a baby mama with a son as at the first time we met in 2010 later in 2012 when he came back asking me to marry him this same woman was in her 3rd trimester for baby number two for my boyfriend then now husband.

My fellow bv's i saw all the signs but i ignored, My family members tried stopping me from marrying this man i didnt listen, my hubby's older brother called my sister's hubby, my sis,my older brother( they we all in same primary school) even my dad asking them if really they want to give me out to his brother that his brother doesnt have a steady job and he is not good enough and not responsible to run a home, that we should chill .

I called hubby he got really mad and told everybody in his family what their brother has done,they fought and still we went ahead with our plans o...., i didnt marry him because i was old or broke , i was 23years when we got married in 2013 and  my family is very ok.

Now i started seeing things for myself when he didnt buy me anything for our wedding not even our rings, bride price ,you name it( then i wanted to run but i kept thinking of what would people say),his family paid for everything i mean everything. 

After the wedding i told bros oya make we dey go your base now (which was Uyo i visted him there twice b4 we got married)

I didnt take note no house again cos he was always in his state doing his business, where i schooled ,house rent expired he couldnt renew and i just discovered one of his sisters was the one that paid for this same apartment and gave him money to start a business he didnt do well so he left everything and came back home.) 

Now back to matter,  he said  i should chill that he wants to move to another state ,we were in ibadan (villa) for 2weeks before his brother gave him money to get a place in lagos,paid our first year rent battled to pay half for the second year , when i was pregnant this man  didnt give me any money to buy stuff for the baby his brothers and sisters did, always pestering me to take loan from my friends for him,pay back is always an issue.

 Now i got a job this guy is always calling me stingy for not bringing my money for him to spend and always borrowing money here and there, he cant even pay my bills and his friend are nothing to write home about,totally out of my league,he fights in public and i am suffering and this guy got well placed siblings in this country but the goat keep saying he cant work for anybody .

he once stole my jewellery worth 3million  and sold them, he is just roaming the streets of lagos from one end to anther always waiting for his sisters to send us money, i am tired i dont think i can do this anymore , as a child i lived a way better life than what my child is living now. house rent has expired his sister gave us a dead house in one dead area in Lagos because the goat can not pay his rent and is so excited about this gift and not seeing anything wrong in moving to this dead area, he cant even keep a job.

Now he cant even renovate the house still waiting for one brother or sister to send him money,now he took the little i have this morning from me that he want to fix the place, schools are resuming upper week he doesnt even have a dime on him to pay fees , how long can i do this?  this man is making me play the role of a man and a woman at my young age. Anytime i complain to his sisters they keep telling me to pray for him that they thought he would change when he get married ,meaning they knew the guy was bad news. now i just called that my bro-in law, the one that called my family to warn them against this marriage and the only thing he said is ''i told you but you were foolishly in love ''

 he said ''i gave up on him a long time ago''. 

please my family what do? please advice me.

My dear what do you want to hear?...''As you have made your bed,so will you lie on it'' honey.

Manage him the way he is ,after all you knew the way he was and was even warned.If you cannot change before,you can most times NEVER change it After.