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  NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

HELPING A FRIEND GET BACK ON THEIR FEET.

Hi Stella,

Never thought I would send in one of these but I just feel like I need a second perspective.

When I was an undergrad, in my last semester I met this beautiful girl from the Caribbean who also happened to be born on the same day/month/year as me. 

We became close really fast and her best friend became my friend too. They were a semester behind me so I became their mentor as well as their friend because I was in the top 95th percentile of my class. She honestly is a misguided human being due to her upbringing but still a sweet, caring and generous person.

People would talk about her all the time, most which I struck down to being rumours. But one story always kept repeating: Her father was an abusive drunk, her mother was a prostitute (thats how she pays for school) and her younger sister was not on speaking terms with her because her boyfriend at the time was once her younger sister's boyfriend (she stole her younger sisters bf basically).

I never asked her if any of these stories were true but I was always there for her. She always had problems with academics, relationship wise, socially, financially...

Her life seemed to be in shambles. It finally collapsed when she found out her bf was cheating on her with her best friend and she lost it. She nearly became suicidal and had to go back home mid semester because she couldnt handle all the stress. 

I gave her all the support she needed and became her crutch. We were tight as ever as I helped her back on her feet. 

Now what she did after is something I till today will never comprehend and endorse. Her mum kicked her out of the house. I did not know why, until I found out she had moved into her bf (now ex) house. She was sleeping with his father and her mother did not approve so she moved into the same house her ex lived.

 She did not tell me all of this because she knew I would not approve. This man did not allow her to go back to school even though he could afford it but bought her nice designer apparel and even got her teeth done professionally. 

So now he kicked her out for cheating on him after staying there for 3 years. She is now shacking up with another man who is verbally/physically abusive towards her. I know she takes drugs because she doesnt look as beautiful as before.

She truly needs my help and I see it on her face. I am thinking of letting her move into my apartment until she gets back on her feet and become more independent. I want her out of the situation she is in right now so that she can move on from her past mistakes.

My family thinks it is a very bad idea and they say I should leave her alone as she chose this path for herself. I really do think no one is beyond redemption and if I dont try, I might not forgive myself.

What do you think?

*SCREAMING* DONT DO IT!!!!!

She will mess up your life and you might end up becoming one of her lovers.

BTW this story is really messy!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
SPOUSE WITH NO SEX DRIVE.

Please I need your very honest answers and opinion, i'm really not sure where this falls in but I have been trying to figure things out as to what could be the causer, have been married for 2yrs now and my husband doesn't have sex with me regularly by regularly I mean it happens once in 2months and each time I always have to be the one to make the move.

 I feel offended and unloved by this act which makes me end up touching myself. ‎This makes me feel like his either not sexually attracted to me (note that I am quite an attractive lady) or his drive is very low. 

Even as newly wed, it was same thing and during pregnancy it even got worse.i have tried speaking with him about how I feel both casually n jokingly but it's all on deaf ears. Please how can I handle this situation? Am I asking for too much? 

Its possible your man is experiencing mid life crisis sex wise....Have you checked that he isnt gay?
He might actually have a problem about Libido,if talking and nagging doesnt it change anything,hmmm my dear i dont know what to do.
If i advise you now to buy one correct dildo,I might put myself up for attack,so what i would do is sit back and read comments.
This is not easy to advise one on oh.