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SLEEPING OVER QUESTION
Hi Amazing Stella,I would like to say you are doing a a really good
job and touching lots of lives. I have a question I will like a to ask
blog visitors;do parents ever allow their female children (like 23 yrs
and above) sleep over at their fiance's place?.
The issue is this, my fiance just got his own place and said he would really like it if I came for weekends sometimes.I really do not know how my parents will
react,I do not have an elder one who has gone through this phase
before and I don't really know any of my extended family.
My fiance thinks its normal and my parents would not mind...I think they would
though,I don't think they will succumb to idea until we are married
sef. The funny thing is my mom used to spend weekend at my dad's while
they were dating.
I really want to spend some weekends with him but I don't know how to tell my parents.
P.S-we are not having sex,we started dating in year 2,he had his own place then and we never had sex..so its not about sex.
At 23yrs and above,you are assumed an adult and should make your own decisions.You should be able to know what is right and wrong without the interference of your parents.
If you spend weekends with him,the temptation might be stronger now that you are engaged.
Good luck.
The narratives folder is empty again.Those i sent back asking questions,please reply so that i can post your chronicles.If you have,send in an edited well composed version with enough details for us to be able to advise you.
Say whatttttttttttttttt?
ReplyDelete**********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS**********
It's not a sin dear,@23 most gurls re already married,and some ve kids,@23 most gurls re graduates,so wat d ishh,ain't u close to ur mum,talk to her,she will be d one to explain to ur dad,as stella said just ve it in ur mind that d temptation will be stronger,so be ready!
DeleteEnjoyy.
Lmao. I cannot ask my father to let me sleepover anywhere not even with family members. When I travelled to meet my fiancee's family, my dad paid for my hotel. I could do whatever I wanted but I am a good kid & dIdnt want to mess up my life and the fear if my father is the beginning of wisdom.
DeleteIt depends on the kind of parents u hv though. U can jokingly talk about it first to know what they think of it b4 asking officially.
Praise Jesus. Em jay commented in meaningful lines.
DeleteWhen they ask my cousin when will he get married? He says why buying a cow when you can get milk for free. His girlfriend regularly spend weekends with him, so he didn't reason why to marry at least for now.
DeleteIf he want you to be sleeping in his house he should marry you.
Use your head!
ReplyDeleteWhat do I know. Let me read comment.
ReplyDeleteOkay! Il send in my chronicles soon
ReplyDeleteThat's your decision to make and left for your parents to agree to it or not. You're an adult and since you refer to him as fiance then it means wedding plans are in the works. What will you be doing though all through the weekend alone with him hmmm. All the best
ReplyDeleteWow three months to my wedding came to naija to prepare n all... my folks wont even let me sleep at my inlaws.. mind u my hubby was not even in the country o..my parents refused for me to sleep at my inlaws.. i was soooo burnt cus my mil begged me to come..n im 25 o.. hmm i doubt ur folks will accept
DeletePoster, ask your parents and not us. They will guide you accordingly, whether they are right or not.
ReplyDeleteStella, I get chronicles oh. But e too long.
My chronicles will detail my top 10 quality fucks this year and why prostitution will never go out of fashion bcos 90% of sexually active women engage in it ignorantly
Hehehe. I can't wait
Ur chronicle wey no dey ever come. Just STFU Abeg.. girls this, pussy that.. u prolly are a frustrated broke ass..empty vessel making the loudest noise.
DeleteBring it onnnnnnnn!
Delete....._u said they engage in it ignorantly?nope!i doubt,rather it's greed!greed!greed for material things!
DeleteMehn,you guys are adults and there is nothing wrong in sleeping over to your man's place....
ReplyDeleteI'm 23 and a graduate, ma parents do not even wanna hear I got a bf.... Tho he's coming to pay ma Bride-price soon... Ma parents do nt even let me leave d house to see him... And dey sed he shudnt smell ma house except he comes wt his family for Intro....
DeleteMFM parents tho... Chai...
Juliet, but he is gbenshing ur something already privately.
DeleteQueen Queen. Sleeping over to? I hail thee.
DeleteTessbaby, abegi shut up there. Fake shameless English teacher
DeleteHouse girl of this blog....what is sleeping over to? Anyway na your way......always claiming staunch member of SCOAN yet never gives any godly advice.....anyway am I surprised ? Synagogue na church?
DeletePoster if your parents truly have any self respect they will not like it......if u don't live in the same town fine but if u still live with them then go visit and go back home......wait till u are married, if u are engaged then no biggie
Am more than 23 and I no bold tell my papa that shit,, mummsy can understand not my dad... he will skin you alive, you will have to tell a lie to get the permission or if he travel that weekend.
ReplyDeleteIt's wrong to spend weekends at a man's house who isn't ur husband yet. My dear, tell ur fiance not to be in a hurry. You guys are going to spend countless weekends together when u get married. Nothin to rush about. No need playin husbnad and wife yet. Besides, spendin weekends with him now will take the fun of you looking forward to marriage with him.
ReplyDeleteIt is NOT wrong my dear.
DeleteIf you've got self control, what's the sin in it or do you think every meeting must end in the bed?
Mtcheeeeeeeeeew
Sharaaap there,swear say u Neva sleep MSN house,forming self righteous. Plus these are real things day happen to people no dey form on top blog
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DeleteKwana gida things.. Lol.. They will tell you NO.. but we don't really know people till we start sleeping and waking up with them.. How you go do am???? Our Seniors here will help.. Lol
ReplyDeleteSeconded! It's true, we don't really know people till we start sleeping and waking with them. That's how to confirm compactibilty of behaviour and lifestyle.
DeleteNa wa o! This kind question sef!
ReplyDeleteLike seriously
Deleteit depends on how you were brought up,
ReplyDeleteMost parents frown at that
and then babes start cooking up all sort of lies to get away for the weekend.
"am going for a friend's wedding" bla bla
while some mothers allow their daughters but keep it away from their husbands.
mother/daughter lil secret.
Speak to your mum about it. but then again, play safe oh!
you can hear stella, chronicles box is empty.
hennn!
I cannot judge matter of I am pregnant and my boyfriend is not ready
@ blog Lord. Lol @ "I cannot judge matter of I am pregnant and my boyfriend is not ready". Abeg help me beg poster o. The guy should do the needful and get married to her. All those sleepovers na temptation
DeleteLol.. this post reminds me of the tantrum I pulled last nyt.. after errthin sef I no con commot. . Hes ur fiance afterall.. ur parents know him already. . Atleast dey knw where u wld be.. I dont think t shld b a prob... is his bday past?? I fink td be better to start like dt.. he wants to av frnds over on the weekend. . U av to help handle Fins bla bla.. all this parents be acting like angels..
ReplyDeleteAccording to you since you said he is your fiance who are we to say you should or you shouldn't go spend the weekend there. Please lover girl do as the spirit of relationship leads you
ReplyDeleteLOL..aunty Stella begging for Chronicles??? hehehehe
ReplyDeleteIf I hear say my mother agree... not Iya titi.. some babes are lucky sha.. their mother's help them buy weekend bags. No sleep overs.. be back before 7... stay indoors.. when I am 30 and single please they should not come with solution. I guess I will meet bae inside my papa house.
ReplyDeleteHahaha. You sef you need to help yourself. Use church and work to meet new people and make new friends. That way you could always tell your parents that you're out with a church member or colleague. Or move to another city to gain freedom
DeleteIts wrong for u to spend d weekend with him cos u still live with ur parents, if u were living alone it would have been a different case, plz show them a little respect,if ur fiancee wants you badly at his place, tell him to do the needful, forget this fiancee thing cos men cannot be trusted.
ReplyDeleteU'r gud
Delete"It's not about sex"
ReplyDeleteXo U mean oda pple engaged spend weekends together cos of sex??? I knew U made dat statement xo as not to be lashed by Stella....
There is no harm whatsoever wen u try. Do ask your parents and know their notion. Though some parents are strict about that, still ask.
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So this one too na chronicle?
ReplyDeleteLafresh ,send ur own naw.Abi u no sabi write?
DeleteStella what are you saying?
ReplyDeleteSo she should take decisions like sleeping out abi? When kasala burst now na you go still say why was she rebellious.
Listen up,i don't support the idea of sleeping in a fiancee's house as long as you guys ain't engaged. You can visit talk,tidy the house cook him soups and stews pack them well and put in the refrigerator let him microwave it whenever the need arises.
...i don't support the idea of sleeping in a fiancee's house as long as you guys ain't engaged......
DeleteWhat is this one saying?
How can he be a fiancee if they are NOT engaged?
Abi engagement don get different definition?
waiting for SnM like this.
ReplyDeleteI am not engaged..don't have an elder sis.lemme read comments
ReplyDeleteSome parents will never agree. Just tell them u r going for vigil and go spend one night
ReplyDeleteWell tell yiur parents first
ReplyDeletePoster,as long as you are living under your parent's roof... sleep overs to me is not allowed. Especially if your parents disapprove.
ReplyDeleteThese days people use the word "engaged" loosely. Have you started marriage class? Has he taken wine to your father? Are his parents and yours in communication at this point?
When is the wedding date?
Please visit for now.
When you get your own place,you can go for weekends if you desire. If you are living with them,not working,and eating their food... please don't add that waka waka to the list before they start asking you when you will get a job and leave(that is if you are not already working),then you send a chronicle telling us how your parents "hate" you!
I am just imagining him dropping you off every sunday/monday morning in front of your house and your parents keep wondering if he pressed your boobs or if you gave him a blow job. Or will he be dropping you two streets away like a thief?????
I support.
DeleteLmao. Lol@Wat her parents will imagine. D funny thing about this chronicle is dat she use her mum to set example...
Delete@phie dearie,
DeleteLmao at dropping her 2 streets away like a thief.
No mind them.When they carry belle now and the say he no marry again. Na baby mama be dat ooh.
Hahaha yes she no get respect for her mama
DeleteWhen I was 23 I was outta school don with nysc and living on my own
So I could go to anywhere without my mum being worried or even aware they knew I could handle things on my own.
She stay and depend on her parents and wanna live like an adult as well
One ode guy will bring out a ring to act a script n d mumu girl will cover her mouth wit her mouth n shed crocodile tears...dats wat dey now call engagement...smh...if ur parents r responsible,I don't expect dem to allow u sleep over @ a boyfriend's house
DeleteNice one Iphie dearie. You commented like a matured married woman. Nne, can we be friends?
DeleteIphie deary, uv gt brains and I wish to imarry you for my brother, poster don't go!
DeleteLol @ how many blow job from Friday to Monday
DeletePoster, He will start gbenshing ur toto anytime u start sleeping in his house.
ReplyDeleteTrue! But I don't think anything is wrong about dat!
DeleteIt depends on your parent o, I have a friend whose parent never allowed her to sleep over even after their Introduction, maybe u stylishly tell your mum about it first.
ReplyDeleteStella, na naija we dey o if one is not careful parents will continue to influence ones decision even after marriage, u hear naija mums say things like I gave birth to u, it's so annoying cos they may be wrong but u dare not argue.
Well, it is your decision. Your parents may not like it but decide how to go abt it.
ReplyDelete4 where my parent will nt agree to such.tell him to come nd pay ur bride price.To me its no big of a deal bt ur parent know wat they were doing to eachoda den so dey won't want u to go except u tell dem u won't sleep in his ause.You re d only one dat knows u are nt having sex.
ReplyDeleteSince you are engaged to be married, then you can make your decision. at leaset your parents won't make any decision for you when you're married. You may inform your parents out of respect for them and hear their own opinion.
ReplyDeleteHummmmm
ReplyDeleteYou this pretty fine ass chick felix, where is your man?
DeleteI also have this similar problem, mine is that I stay with my sister and she seriously gets angry whenever I sleep over @ my boyfriends house. Said DH always queries her when I'm not around in the evening (although I know sey na lie, he doesn't even have time for that)
ReplyDeleteWhen she dated her husby, she slept in his house oh when my parents were not around and left only me in the house. We've quarelled about this on several occasion when I don't sleep in her house. My bf on the other hand always begs me to stay over and why should't I catch my fun.
The thing is that I've come to realise that both my sis and bf are right for their action and thought, so I've come to the conclusion that I wouldn't sleep outside again so dat she would't dislike my bf and if he soo loves me and misses me, then he should make it official and marry me.
I would've cussed u out but reading ur last paragraph made me change my mind.
DeleteWhy parents are siblings get angry wen u sleep out is cos they feel disrespected!just as u said ur sis did it but only when ur parents travelled,so it's better dat way.dats why her hubby will keep feeling slighted wenever u do it.
Delete@poster,for me,dont tell ur parents anything like dat.just make up an excuse and connive with a cousin,relative or family friend,say u are going to visit them or they have a bday get together or something..only at dat u will go in peace and come back in peace. Cos African parents no dey understand dat one at all..u can tank me leta!
Sometimes big sisters did it,but it didn't make it right.
DeleteYour sister knows it is not right,her refusing to let you sleep over is because she loves you. You will do same for your daughter.
She just doesn't want to legally give you the right to do so,least you decide one day to move in with him,human beings take freedom for granted.
Please be absolutely careful dear,look out for yourself.
I always say,abstain or use condoms. The day you take in,that is when you will see the true colour of that boyfriend,you then realise your elder sister is the only one you have in this world. Cheers.
@queen Bee. You have a point there.
DeleteIphie, God bless you.The fact that i did something probably because I was ignorant and didn't know better or there was no one to advice me doesn't make it right.
DeleteHe is your fiancé but shit happens. People call off engagements and even weddings. Be careful and sleeping over should not be every weekend.
Whirlwind
Lol stella you think say this na obodo oyinbo. Babes don't dull, you can't tell your parents. I think it's disrespectful. I lied to my parents, the last time I did such and I'm in my late twenties. Not proud though.
ReplyDeleteDon't go to his place overnight, visit him, spend the day with him. When it's getting dark, pack your bags and vamoose.
It depends on d kinda parent u have. If they are understanding,they will let u go buh if they are not u knw d result already..btw Stella some parents don't wanna knw if one is an adult or not ooo as long as u living under their roof. If I hear say I go see bf for my papa huz
ReplyDeleteA responsible, decent and Godly lady will never spend the weekend with a man she is not married to.Respect yourself young lady and live a very responsible life.
ReplyDelete@lilian.
DeleteVery nice.
I never know we still have some decent women here.
After my husband came asking for my hand in marriage, my dad allowed me 2 visit him even thou he stays in another state. And wheneva he is in abj and he wants me 2 stay over,he calls my dad and. Ask for permission bt we go add jara inside abt goin for office function or lots of stuffs.jst ask ur guy 2 call and ask for permission.
ReplyDeleteGbam!
Delete@martha
DeleteSmh.
Ask for permission to go and sleep over in another man s house?
2 years is enough courtship. He should wife her if he want fuck toto.
This poster na rebellion go kill you. Born your own pickin or allow your siblings be sleeping out in the name of engagement that doesn't involve his family and yours. My I live alone. I go out and stay as late as I want but never even sleep out.
DeleteI pay my rent and I live in a state 8hrs from my parents. That's why body dry catch me. But that doesn't make your request sound reasonable in any form. If you were visiting another state maybe we for consider your childish rant. But in essence I'll be blunt with you.
STAY AT HOME. RESPECT YOURSELF RESPRCT YOUR PARENTS By perishing the thought before it even grows.
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ReplyDeleteAfter my husband came asking for my hand in marriage, my dad allowed me 2 visit him even thou he stays in another state. And wheneva he is in abj and he wants me 2 stay over,he calls my dad and. Ask for permission bt we go add jara inside abt goin for office function or lots of stuffs.jst ask ur guy 2 call and ask for permission.
ReplyDeleteYou're so lucky
DeleteStella are you on transit too like Linda? Which one be your own na? Better employ someone or better still post comments. Mtcheeeeeeeew today is Sunday and am bored already.
ReplyDeleteOpen your own blog then or go find something doing.
DeleteShikina
Anon 15:26,
Deleteare you a lonely aunty Gwegwegwe?
To me I don't think it's a big deal the fear most parents have at times is that once u start sleeping over at a man's place there is a good possibility pregnancy can occur and some will love their children to be properly married before this but at your age 23 n above ure matured enough to know how to take care of yourself
ReplyDelete@seun,exactly.
DeleteTo avoid unwanted pregnancy.
You mustn't sleep at his place. Visit him, you can even spend the whole day just don't sleep over to avoid stories that touch. The flesh is weak!
ReplyDeleteLmaooooooo! Na on for night e dey happen?
DeleteLol @the flesh is weak.
DeleteHe will gbensh her toto when they finish bathing 2geda in d nite
Hide or cook up one excuse go? When he ducks u, don't complain sha.
ReplyDeleteHide or cook up one excuse go? When he ducks u, don't complain sha.
ReplyDeleteLet the comments begin to roll in..
ReplyDeleteYou people should stop disturbing our sight wit rubbish questions. So dis one too follow 4 chronicles? Hissssssssssss
ReplyDelete@tessbaby
DeleteAbegi go and sit down.
Send ur own chronicle naw.
U just wan read say husband cheat on wife.Smh
It's not right . You can visit but not sleep over.
ReplyDeleteStella dnt forget u once lived in Nigeria and that no responsible Nigerian parent wud let deir female daughter pass a nyt wit a man. Poster, r u nt a student, u can go pass som weekend @ ur bf's place wen u r in schl or lie dat u r goin to a relatives house, dats wat I do.
ReplyDeleteIsn't she better than you, at least she want to tell her parent, people like you who lies just to go and sleep your boyfriends place i pity you coz if something else happens to you how do you think your parent will feel when your location is unknown
Delete@pretty.......,
DeleteContinue sleeping over and gbenshing skin to skin.But We no wan hear stories dat touch in d future .
Poster,na wa for u,so u mean u cannot look for lie to tell ur parents,I don't think it's wrong going once in a while to spend d weekend but please don't make it a habit if not see finish go enter and hurry up with d marriage thingy,I don't like long engagement, no parent wants to hear her child is going to a mans to sleep wen u are not married.
ReplyDeleteMehn! We r in d same shoes!...though I aint engaged! I av started thinking of excuses to give my parents bos dey dnt like to hear d truth! Give it a try...if dey know d guy in question, it shudnt be a big deal...Gdlk
ReplyDeleteFiancé or boyfriend?
ReplyDeleteIf engaged, your parents MAY permit you but if na all those "under mango tree" waka, I doubt they would
Besides, na everything una dey bring come Stella blog?
Hia!
I wonder o!
DeleteNa everything una dey ask Stella?
My mama will NEVER agree to that.....if u don't want to have sex with him yet, I wouldn't advice that.....don't go looking for temptation yourself...you both are but only humans.
ReplyDeleteI don't tink there is anything wrong wit spending d weekend wit ur fiance at least he is not ur boyfrnd anymore,and am very sure ur parent will allow u Go visit him if u ask for their permission.
ReplyDeleteYou can always tell them that you want to visit a female friend and that you will be sleeping over.........provided that you have introduced the guy 2 your parents.
ReplyDeleteIf there is no sex then i don't see the need of u spending the night with him......wot would u guys be doing all through the night, don't know for others, but when i spend the night with a girl without sex, i would be restless throughout the night, trust me the feelings would be stronger than u can imagine, u are just going to give ursef sleepless night for nothing, but if u guys are fcuking then hell yeah spend the night with him, and pls worry less abt ur parents, they are secondary in this case
ReplyDeleteHenry ,u are young.
DeleteBut u get sense pass most people wey don old finish for here.
If there is no sex then i don't see the need of u spending the night with him......wot would u guys be doing all through the night, don't know for others, but when i spend the night with a girl without sex, i would be restless throughout the night, trust me the feelings would be stronger than u can imagine, u are just going to give ursef sleepless night for nothing, but if u guys are fcuking then hell yeah spend the night with him, and pls worry less abt ur parents, they are secondary in this case
ReplyDeletelov ur honesty
DeleteAbeg I'm tired of all dese dem small pikin chronicles. I no fit advice, if you have sex or don't have sex, ow dat one take concern me. Is it not ur pussy.
ReplyDeleteAnon 15:39, please stfu.
DeleteU just wan read sey husband beat or cheat on his wife.
FYI, this is the best time to seek counsel ie b4 pregnancy or marriage.
Not after the deed had been done.
Then about the narrative please get a mind of your own. You would soon be married if you can't make the best decisions for yourself and accept responsibility for whatever actions you take pls rethink getting married because being married comes with many many responsibilities.
ReplyDeleteComplete strangers can't tell you whats best for you neither can you justify using your parents decisions as a yardstick for your bcos what works for them may not do same for U
This is not about your parents, this is about you. If you don't want to have sex with him don't go but if you don't mind then you are free.......about asking you parents just ask them the worst they can do is say no
ReplyDeleteU will need to spend weekend once in a while since u r married but trust me it not a good thing when I make it an everywknd thing..this a man u are spending the rest of ur life with so enjoy it time as a single lady now and give him room to miss u and appreciate you the more by not going every wknd. Cos to me I think it reduces one respect and self worth cos u are not yet married.and also it will give plenty room for temptation..
ReplyDeleteYou is an adult....Make your decision...at this age...Yo parents aint post to be making no decisions for ya...
ReplyDeleteYou is an adult???? Lmaoooooo
DeleteSunday laughs da?!!!
ReplyDeleteA weekend, is too long to stay with him especially if you are not having sex. A Friday or Saturday night is enough to spend with him if you must.
ReplyDeleteR u justifying ur journey cos ur mum did so?n by the way who told u she did?#umu ogwugwu oge#
ReplyDeleteNa we u dey ask?...ask ur parents na
ReplyDeleteI tire for d poster o
DeleteOk
ReplyDeleteu v got no problem.
ReplyDeleteWould love to hear views on this too.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
Why do u want 2 spend d wknd wit him since sex is not involved?it doesn't make sense
ReplyDeleteBecause her mom used to spend the weekend at her dad 's place while they were dating.
DeleteWe stayed together and nothing happened, okay I greet you...advise yourself it's up to you. What does your inner spirit tell you? If you are not ready to go to the next level don't give any room for temptation if you are Goodluck...and don't come back here crying wolf, cos it's best to wait till your wedding day like most people will say or you can decide to go the other way. Be ready to take responsibilities for whatever action you take.
ReplyDelete*singing* if u ask us na who we go ask... D matter u drop f here e no concern US. *singing* dear poster I think ur mother shud b d best person t talk with abt ur sleeping over. If u can't talk t her then make ur fiancé talk t her by himself.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm may be d guy shud do introduction first then u can go & do Imaru ulo(I dnt knw wot dey call sha).There is no way responsible parents wud allow their daughter visit ordinary fiance abeg.He shud do d needful.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm may be d guy shud do introduction first then u can go & do Imaru ulo(I dnt knw wot dey call sha).There is no way responsible parents wud allow their daughter visit ordinary fiance abeg.He shud do d needful.
ReplyDeleteStory for the gods!...
ReplyDeleteHappy Sunday blog visitors!!!
ReplyDeleteWho defined normal and abnormal?
ReplyDeleteWell, nothing ventured, nothing gained ask first but like Stella said, don't shoot yourself.
Oya eyin mama e wambi. This is a matter for you. Lemme sit and learn.
ReplyDeleteSee question o.Some people sef.
ReplyDeleteWhy not speak to ur mum first bc mothers understand such things more than men. Then hear what she av to say n make ur own decision.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, its totally wrong for you to sleep over in your fiances place, wait till u get married, since u said no sex so what's the rush for
ReplyDeleteWell, it's not about sex. What is it about then?? It's unnecessary if u ask me. And it's very natural for your parents not to agree . I wouldn't agree for my child whether 23 or 30 sleep in a mans house until she is his wife. Except of course she does so without me knowing. Lol. Poster tell him to chill NA. At least till the traditional wedding , when he becomes your husband.
ReplyDeleteSometimes sex just happens especially if you you opened the door way. However, you are sure it's not about sex may be so...what if it happens? Don't spoil a good relationship if you can help it. It doesn't matter that your mum use to spend weekends with your dad. You are not your mum, and your fiance is not your dad. Their time was different from your today.
ReplyDeleteBe wise, use your discretion.
If you are so sure and ok about it, you should be able to talk to your mum about it especially if there is nothing to hide.
It depends. Mine lets me- not weekends tho, just a night and its usually when my dad isnt around. You know mothers cover for their daughters. And it was usually hard for her because you know what they say - a spoilt child is for the mother,the good one is for the father! So i heard endlessly about not having sex and not getting pregnant. As i am out of the country now, my mother is happy! Lol. Nomore lying to my dad. So if ur mom is a free purzon, no shaking. If she is a devout christian, my sister lock up! You kent go there lol.
ReplyDeleteUr mum is a whore
DeleteIn other words, ur mum isnt a devoted Christian. She's just a 'bench warmer'......and that's d only reason she can aid you in doing what is wrong. Imagine her helping you to lie to ur dad.
DeleteWhat a mum!!!
Like Iphie said earlier,,only God knows what goes on in her mind while you pass d nite with ur bf especially when she knows she also encouraged you.....like 'maybe, my daughter's legs are wide apart courtesy of a man gbenshing her'....hmmmm,,maybe she doesnt even care what u do behind closed doors cos of d 'aye n se iru e' mentality.
My dear,u are already engaged!why not wait?u dnt have to spend the weekend,since u will soon be spending the rest of ur life with him?food wen person go chop till death,he no dey smell am o.#my 2cents#
ReplyDeleteNne you can tell your parents if they did the same..as for me I prefer to spend the day in his house and the night in my house.
ReplyDeleteAda
I feel it depends on how understanding a parent is..I'm engaged too but I won't come right out and tell my parents I'm going to sleep over at my fiance's house..ofcos not. ..its respect for ur parents. .I have been alone with my siblings since and I do sleep over at his place but once my mum got back 3wks ago, it stopped. ..I lied to her last weekend tho and dressed up in d evening that we were going to see a movie. .I no go any cinema oo. .after sometime I called back and said d movie will start late and I might get home very late and shey she knows it's not too safe at that time to come home. .that was how I spent d night at Le boo's house. .when I got home d next day, d woman catch me live. .that shey I think she didn't do all these things when she was young. .that hope d movie was very interesting. .I couldn't even lie again..I started laffing. .
ReplyDeleteSo my dear, it's not about sex but sometimes these things are necessary. ..If u feel ur parents won't understand, get one of ur closest female friends that is well known in ur house to come over and she should come tell ur parents that dey r having a get together in her house and she wants u to come help her. .Make una commot and from there, go ur direction. Get back home around 6pm on sunday with some drinks and fried meat wey them share for ur 'get together'..hehehehe. ...
That's all I can tell u sha..Make una no vex for d long story.
Poster I really hope u r engaged oo and no be cos of boyfriend u make me write this storybook. .cos some of u will lie so BVs won't bash u..
Choi!
DeleteCaptain angel you badt gan! Lmao@ "Get back home around 6pm on sunday with some drinks and fried meat wey them share for ur 'get together". I can't laugh abeg
DeleteIt's empty no wonder,you decide to post this mtchewww
ReplyDeleteHahahahaaaaaa@ Tayan
DeleteIt is not normal! And no parents will give such permission, until he has done introduction.
ReplyDeleteYou can visit him early morning and leave late in the evening.
Nothing to comment.
ReplyDeleteBut you just did. Lol
DeleteGet a job, contribute positively to the fam. Acquire some responsibility at home. Be it, gas, fuel, light...bag of rice etc. Then it will be easy. Spending time in a man's place means sex. Are u ready? Make sure ur man contributes to your life one way or another (positively) a contribution that people will see and appreciate. If the man is lashing thee for free, momsy will disgrace you when u even ask.
ReplyDeleteNothing to comment, Stella have said it all..
ReplyDeletewhat do you mean it's not about SEX? hey @Stella, don't you just hate it when these kids just throw lies at your face like what da heck? children of nowadays tho.. o'girl.. tell ya parents u're going to spend weekend at ur beau's place.. but be rest assured u are also going to have sex.. #period
ReplyDeleteyou arr very wrong
DeleteI doubt if a Nigerian parent will allow u spend de night or weekend at ur fiancé's place oo. He is just ur fiancé, not ur husband.
ReplyDeleteSeems to me like u stil have some innocence in u.u haven't really gone wild well u didn't tel us abiut your self.
ReplyDeleteAre u Done with school?are u working or what do u do with your self.
That wouid enable me know if they should allow u or not,that wouid determine if u won't take advantage of the situation and become wayward.
I sincerely think the decision is yours to make poster. It all has to do wid trust sha. If ur parents trust u then it won't b difficult 4 dem to see reasons with u. I'm sure they know ur fiance since u re engaged...since ur mum also slept over then it shouldn't be difficult for her to bulge. Like I said earlier tho, it has to do with trust.
ReplyDeleteYou wana ask yo parents permission to sleep outside, probably have sex? You are mad.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind her.. u can ask ur mum, but it'll be an insult to ur dad. As long as he hasn't paid ur bride price u av no right to sleep there.if u must, it should be a hidden thing.
DeleteCan't stop LOLLING at all the people saying she can ask her mum. The way I grew up, my mother is even the no-nonsense parent. I can't even dream of asking either my mother or father something like this.
DeleteInfact, I never even get liver to tell them say I want to hang out during the day o, with a guy.
The most I can do is just go out and return before my curfew.
Anyway, this is easy for me cause I school in a different state from where my parents live and I live alone.
I just respect myself when I'm in their house and do what I want when I'm back at mine.
Poster, just follow Iphie dearie's advice. It's the only one that makes sense to me.
Lmao @ you are mad
DeletePoster, you mean your mom told you how she used to spend weekend at your dad's place while they were still dating? How did you know? Good luck to you.
ReplyDeleteYour mom is in a better position to give you advice.
DeleteCome ooo stella
ReplyDeleteWhat happened to that side chick post? Make I just read comments na so you delete am abi I dream am? Chei! I raise yansh for you ooooo
Again with putting the cart before the horse, treating your boyfriend/ fiancé as a husband.
ReplyDeleteI know the love is intoxicating at this stage and you both really want to spend as much time as possible together but just remember you will get married to him soon and will spend most of your time together then.
You will probably even get to the stage where you will need a break from each other's company.
My opinion is that you wait till you're married to spend weekends at his place. Don't start having sleepovers just yet. You also know in your heart that your parents might not approve, and you also know there's a good reason why you think they won't, or else, you wouldn't come seeking for the opinions of strangers.
Please do what you know deep down in your heart to be the right thing. Don't just do what everybody else is doing.
Don't be afraid to stand out for what is right.
You are already engaged, I dont see the need to rush into dese things, in a few months you'd get to sleep in his bed all day every day. please dont ask your parents anything and ask ur fiance to understand, afterall whats the rush?
ReplyDeleteLet he that thinks he standeth take heed, least he falls. Avoid the temptation, avoid the weekends till u get married. The flesh is weak and can't be trusted. A word is enough for the wise.
ReplyDeleteSee-finish syndrome in relationships set in when you start sleeping over at your boyfriend's house and start performing wifely duties he has not duly paid for. If he's your fiancee as you claim, then why the hurry? Dear poster, even if he has proposed to you, it doesn't guarantee he will marry you, so let him do right by you without assisting you to shame your parents before their neighbours and friends by carrying you around town before their eyes. If he decides not to marry you tomorrow, you'll come here and cry wolf. Respect yourself. Cross your legs and wait till he does the right thing.
ReplyDeleteI believe you know what is right. Take safety in good advice.
ReplyDeleteDo you Agree? Couples that sext have better sex
I think u should ask ur mother, she will be in better position to ur question.
ReplyDeleteSo I slpt in my x bfs house wen we were dating.he dumped my sorry ass.......hes married to sum1 else n he alwz tells me"MY WIFE NEVER SLPT OVER IN MY HOUSE"chimooooo,since den,no sleep overs.even if na 10pm I dey go ma papa house mbok.
ReplyDeleteEya. Pele @ crouching Tigress. Your ex is mean. Don't mind him
DeleteWell, you may be an adult but you still live under your parents roof, hence there's need to understand their views and their as much as possible not to lose your respect. Spending nights with your fiancee is an easy to put your finger in the fire and expect not to get burnt. Best of luck.
ReplyDeleteShe wanted to ask him "why is he making such promises." But she felt too far away and that made her panicked. She could feel it as it rose through her blood stream. She wanted to shout for God's help. She needs him to loosen the tight knot of nerve endings that seems to define her very being. And why isn't ......
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I don't understand what u all are saying .am I the only one that go on luxurious vacation with my Boo?
ReplyDeleteSee how everybody don turn S.U ...as if they ddnt sleep over in their bfs house before they got married .... Stella u have the biggest hypocrites in the world right here in ur blog
Poster just lie to them.. Why must u say the truth ?