Her Response was mind blowing...
Alex said''Yes i was pregnant and there was a lot of pressure for me to get Married''
The actress reveals her Marriage crashed because she and former hubby fell apart and he wanted something else.
This revelation by Alex is what some Ladies are going through - Getting married because they fell pregnant!
Lets turn this into a discourse....I would like to know if anyone reading this now found themselves married as a result of being pregnant and being pressured into Marriage?
Did such Union work out or you hurried out same way you hurried in?
About Alex Okoroji
Alex is a Nigerian Actress | Writer | Television Personality | Talk Radio Host | Mistress Of Ceremony | Voice-Over Artiste | Blog Author| Self-Help Mentor | Public Speaker | Podcaster | Creative Entrepreneur - The Expressionist, popularly known asQUEEN OF NAKED EXPRESSION for dishing out her unfiltered thoughts and straight talk to empower the minds of people....
She was Born ALEXANDRA ADAEZE OKOROJI, to a Musician, Alexander Tony Okoroji and a Fashion Designer, Queen - Mary Okoroji. ALEX started her professional acting career through the maiden edition of Amstel Malta Box Office in 2005 (AMBO) a Television Reality Show, where she won many admirers and constantly kept the viewers glued to their television screen as she impressed both fans and critics with her performance.
Some men prefer their women getting pregnant first before the proper marriage to avoid stories that touch...
ReplyDeleteAnd yes,most if them are waxing stronger...
You are correct @queen
DeleteIs even trending
What if the child dies and the woman can't get pregnant any longer. Hmm
DeleteVery true. In some cases the reverse is the case. The man might not be ready but will be rushed bcos of the pregnancy thereby causing resentment or even hatred.
DeleteTrue
DeleteVery correct!
Delete... The man might not be ready! Seriously? But he sabi fuck... And without protection? Irresponsibility of the highest order.
DeleteSo many pple do that and most of those type of union end up crashing!
ReplyDeleteStella Ukwu Sugar.. Send us the link to the podcast pllllls! Thanks...
DeleteI think a lot of parents need orientation on this too. That your son/daughter is pregnant doesn't mean you force them to marry the person. The bulk of this pressure comes from the family.
DeleteIf parents can express their disappointment without making it look like it's the end of the world. This issue would be curbed to a reasonable extent.
It works for some people, I heard it's the trend now sef...pregnancy before marriage.
HmMmmmMmmm
DeleteMeanwhile this Alex looks like Stella Damasus abi na my eyes?..
ReplyDeleteNo be your eyes. They look so much alike
DeleteNo be lie. They look so much alike
DeleteI even thought SDK used the wrong picture!
DeleteSame thing I thought too.The resemblance is just too much.
DeleteHmmm.... I know someone who got married because she got pregnant. The man got abusive later on with words n physically too. He obviouly wasnt ready n continuously got angry. She could not bear it any more so she left with her child. They are seperated now.
ReplyDeleteDoesn't happen to everyone tho. Ma elder sis got married cos she was pregnant. (twas d guy who de-flowered her tho) The marriage has bin xo blessed 4 d past 16yrs nw & d dude respects her xo much, plus he's humbly rich...
Delete#MBG In SDK's Blog # #
Some got pregnant at their wedding night and yet their horseband still turned them into punching bad..So its not about being ready or not.An abusive man is an abusive man whether forced into marriage by condition or not..
DeleteHe is not ready but his prick is ready to be sampling pussies without condom abi??
can't you just type so instead of so? same number of letters anyway.
DeleteI don't even know her
ReplyDeleteSDK will always show herself. Lmao
ReplyDeleteShe was interviewing but you turned it around and started asking her questions too. Choi. You be real amebo.
I dey tell, The journalist in her always rearing it's head.
DeleteChoi!
ReplyDeleteStellz, you got no chill oooo....
See sensational headline.
Make I wait for comments abeg.
#WhiteDiamondOut
She looks like Stella damasus
ReplyDeleteThis bears testimony to the fact that marriage isn't about child bearing, there's more to it, if you think you can tie a man down with pregnancy,, you are on your own.
ReplyDeletePlease ladies be wise, stop being baby mama, and stop allowing some guy deceive you.
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Some men prefer that the women get pregnant first.
DeleteYeah...u r right. There is more to marriage than just child bearing.
DeleteSo it always the woman who wants ro tie a man doWn...Typical african mentality. What about those men who ask women to marry them, cos they got them pregnant???...
DeleteShe looks like Stella Damascus. She's also blunt, love that.
ReplyDeleteShe looks like Stella Damascus. She's also blunt, love that.
ReplyDeleteAlex dey interview our very own Stella. She no know say aunty stella go turn the interview for her head,use am do post. The number one blognalist i hail.
ReplyDeleteAlexi alexia... yea many people married cos they fell pregnant, for some the marriage work for some it didn't.. bt one of my sex stil lingers cos he said he wan to get me pregnant before he can marry me. Stella dats the new trend with guys ooo they tell u point blank that if u r nt preg no marriage.. me I nor fit oo I gat future to protect cos anythg can happen
ReplyDeleteJust passing o! #TeamSingleAndNotSearching
ReplyDeleteNice Topic tho!
Pass dey go, who wan look ur ugly face?
DeleteHahaha haha anon chill biko life is not that hard
DeleteLmao.....Anony you wicked gan
DeleteFrustrated anonymous not everyone is as desperate as you.....don't pour your frustrations on another persons child...aunty gwegwelina
DeleteOkay.
ReplyDeleteEeeyyaaa, but she is well to do, why then did she jump into marriage because of pregnancy? Well, she didn't want to be counted among the babies mama bouhaha...
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ReplyDeleteSo why did you get pregnant? How much is condom and Contraceptives?
DeleteI got pregnant while still dating my husband. Funny enough he was having a second thought about us getting married because according to him , he received a relevation that he should marry someone else and I wasn't even bothered about getting married but when he found out I was pregnant, story changed. We got married and are still Married. Everything takes the grace of God, patience and understanding
ReplyDeleteHope he's not going behind to nack the "Someone else"
Deletelol@quicksilver,some women dont know their marriage is still existing because the other woman is rejecting their men.
DeleteObviously you are not married. Accept a married man and pray hard and endlessly, especially where children are involved. Rejecting, how many good men do you think actually leave their wives? Forget some weird celebrities i
Deletehttp://thejuixreviews.blogspot.com.ng/ Well, it's "The Naked Talk" so one wouldn't expect her to lie, however I salute her truthful nakedness.
ReplyDeleteGone are the days when ladies get married cos of pressure from folks or pressure from unwanted pregnancy @the said time. When people realise what marriage really stands for, they will take it slow and steady..... a lot of people I know that had same experience with Alex. Some worked and some didn't even live to see the supposed unwanted baby that led to the marriage.
ReplyDeleteAlex is no different from you when it comes to expressing her feelings and views. I read her column on fb regularly and I enjoy her write ups. She's very knowledgeable, bold and calm.
ReplyDeleteWell I must say I enjoyed the interview last night and stella kudos, back to main issue, alot of people get pregnant this days and they don't end up getting married to whoever impregnated them we got so many examples everywhere and for those who got married to the guy who impregnated them am sure it was a decision both parties agreed to, I don't belive in the I was pressured to get married story, men don't marry ladies just because they impregnated them at the same time I have seen men who marry because their girlfriend is pregnant and that because they choose to not someone somewhere forcing them to,besides why sleep with a man whom u know u don't want to spend the rest of your life with, or ur side bobo whom u know get original babe somewhere, use a condom next time like stella said and make sure the condom doesn't break hahahahaha*for the second question yes I av seen those who get married because they are pregnant and they are still married,the simple fact is they did the right thing with the right guy and there was no pressure,me no believe that Alex story jare bfr she answer one question na so so Errrm, Errrm do av a wonderful day stella.
ReplyDeletestill married doesnt mean happily married. sone dead are better than the living,same way so many marriages are filled with pain, if you try your best to obey God's rule,God wwill look out for you. i know a lady who got pregnant before marriage,years later her daughter did the same thing and when she scolded the daughter, HER daughter reminded her she did the same,the woman was so shamed, those of you boasting about immorality,keep boasting but dont feel sad when your DNA manifests in your kids in years to come then the world will not console you but will remind you of the useless life you were boasting about. kudos to yoruba girls on tthis blog ,THEY dont talk xrated talks compared to other tribes on this blog, bear in mind am not yoruba
DeleteThat's why single ladies should act like a mermaid,tie those legs till you're properly wedded.
ReplyDeleteMine was like this,Dh and I decided to get married because we couldn't just opt for an abortion and we didn't want our beautiful daughter growing up without 1 parent. It hasn't been easy financially but we are still a work in progress. We would still take that part in the next world
ReplyDeleteYes! Getting married while being pregnant has worked out positively for some,whilst a few others crashed along d way.
ReplyDeleteYea lots of ladies make dis mistake fnking d baby wil mak a man chg for d better ,no it just drives dem far apart,dnt evr pressure a man into marriagelet him decide cos he luvs u not cos der is a baby,evn married women do dis having more baby and fnkng it wil mak dem stay at home abi luv dem more
ReplyDeletena story you dey find stella
ReplyDeleteHmmm.
ReplyDeleteQuite interesting.
Women should always control their toto in order to avoid stories that touch.
I like Alex. She's a beautiful woman.
ReplyDeletePregnant and forced to marry make una share una story I will read comments today
Linda Eze's department.
ReplyDeleteNice one! Many ladies av suffered such fate. But that's so heart consuming.
ReplyDeleteI will leave this post for the married ones..
ReplyDeleteGod please speed my marriage
ReplyDeleteMarriage is all tolerance
Marriage is all understanding
Marriage is more than love
That thing on her forehead - can it be removed?
ReplyDeleteIs it dangerous?
Is it still growing
Yes it can,it isn't that painful
DeleteShe looks so much like stella damasus
ReplyDeleteI wasnt pregnant but I was pressured to get married by my stepmum, I just wanted to leave the house for her and I wasnt financially stable enough to be on my own. In less that a year of marriage, I am not enjoying anything about this marriage
ReplyDeleteJump out, d way U jumped in!
DeleteYou better make it work, lazy woman.
DeleteJuliet you are a stupid person and I hope you never get married. You think jumping out is the answer, jump out jump out everytime . Don't you know marriage is hard work? It's women like you who leave their husbands and start trying to convince others to do same , so if she has a child she will jump out with her child abi? Ignorant little girl, this is grown fold business so don't just interfere.
Rich idiot, you are more stupid. So because she has a child, she should stain a marriage that makes her unhappy? I tire for some women.women . It's women like you who advice other women to remain in abusive marriages and doe there just cuz they want to answer married women. Foolish goat.
DeleteJuliet n sassy fire u both r obviously not married. She never said anything about abusive relationship. In just one year she is tired n u advise her to jump out? That's wrong. She should try everything in her power to make it work before resorting to divorce. Do u thing those happily married couples u see and admire never had difficult times when dey doubt the relationship? Every marriage goes tru trials n difficulties and if u don't know this then u should just remain single. Or u think that passion u used to enter a marriage will be there 24/7 year in year out. Marriages just break down everyday cos nobody is ready for d hard work involved in keeping a relationship.... I can advice separation but never divorce unless there is risk to your health or life.
Deletei pray that i will never experience such depression
ReplyDeleteWho Are The Ten Virgins? Part 5
Ok. Good
ReplyDeleteOkay
ReplyDeleteI got married cos I ws pregnant nd I wish I never did seriously...am regretting it. We ar nt Compatible @ll.
ReplyDeleteAnd I'm sure you're among those who laugh at single mums who have chosen to bravely raise their kids on their own. Just because you wan dey inside horseband house by fire by force. Now the single moms are enjoying life and will still get married to wonderful men. You dey there dey suffer because you wan hide shame. E ku ise o. It is well. Pray hard your compatibility will rearrange.
DeleteAnd you will come here to abuse single girls, abi? Mschew
DeleteStella it's been over an hour and I'm still listening to the interview. Enjoying it though. Ehehe
ReplyDeleteOver to d married ones....but I don't think that's reason enough to get married
ReplyDeleteIt depends on what you and your partner wants.
ReplyDeleteI and my hubby got married bcos we love each other, and have children at the right time,then to spend the rest of our lives together. SHIKENAN
Haven't been married before, still in search of my Mr right and haven't given birth before so I feel these very question isn't for me, I will just sit back, wait to read comments to learn at least one or two things
ReplyDeleteStop searching and Mr. Right will find you.
DeleteI got married cos I was pregnate,but did not stay 2yrs in dat house cos I didn't knw d guy I was rushing to settle down wit. Thank God am out and happy.
ReplyDeleteGood for you, whatever makes you happy jare
DeleteI knw some marriages where d man was forced to marry d lady bcos he got her pregnant. Most times, dey end up breaking up, the reasons are many and d most common reason is lack of love.
ReplyDeleteI got married bcos i was pregnant just to cover up the shame.Even b4 d marriage i saw hell in the hands of this man,even on d day of the traditional marriage i was not happy but i had to do it to cover d shame for my family.Guess what i left him one week after the traditional marriage bcos i couldn't tolerate him anymore.Ladies please don't ever get pregnant for a man b4 marriage,some men will show u their true colour as soon as they discover u are pregnant. I thank u Lord for saving me from the hands of this premature and beat of a man in human flesh.
ReplyDelete1week after in this our obodo naija?
DeleteAnon, and so what? Don't be silly. Remain in your horseband's house and be his punching bag.
DeleteHmnn interesting
ReplyDeleteThis is very common in Nigeria. If u born the pikin without marriage, the stigma no be here. Baby mama, single mum - they pass thru a lot in dis country.
ReplyDeleteMethinks it's God that determines the way a child comes. Omar was bad choice for Alex and painfully so, the marriage lasted technically 18 months only. So sad for a nice lady.
ReplyDeleteI grew up with a chart hanging in the room with bold prints "Flee from all forms of sexual immorality..... 1 Corinthians 16:18-20". And all sorts of monitoring. It was a sheltered life. Hmmmm. Teenage pregnancy was a no-no. But shortly before I got married I was the last of 6 girls, they were all married already, so i threw caution to the winds, i was free and unmonitored. With my Bobo it's called Dating, but I wasn't properly convinced. Infact, I was doing "shakara" in Lagos not knowing that back home, Mumsie and my Mother-inlaw were already choosing color for aso-ebi( they had lived in 2 Staff Quarters in 2 different cities at somepoint but were not really close). They were excited knowing they were about becoming in-laws. More excited than me wen wan marry sef. And Mum and her younger sister were on my case forcing me to go MFM deliverance and all. Now my question is if belle had entered, wouldn't it be the same situation with Alex? It could be anybody,let her stop this pity story. Just love your son. Love is all that matters. When he grows he will understand abeg.
My own pain in all of this is "why didn't Alex marry Kalu Ikeagwu?". They had it all going for them. In all his weaknesses, she would have ' managed him' very well, especially his temperament. God why?
Mtscheeeeew.
Stella your voice is so lovely. I listeined for 50mins before network started messing up but trust me to go back and listein to the end. I remembered the 'Mercy Aigbe' story. In junior secondary school I could read Hints magazine for Africa. Now m grown I laugh at my self because the stories sound so fake now. Some blog ehh you need to see the amount of gramatical error. I begin to wonder.Stella you rock. Weldone
ReplyDeleteWell I got married cuz I fell pregnant last year cuz I was naive and stupid, if I could turn back the hands of time I wouldn't have. My parents said if I had opened up to them about everything from the onset I wouldn't have even gotten married cuz I saw hell in the few months we were married. Anyways I'm back to square 1, back to my parents place and I can't wait for the marriage to be up to two years so I can file for divorce. And no I didn't trap him with
ReplyDeletepregnancy cuz he intentionally got me pregnant, that was the first sexual relationship I ever had and I regret it. Memo to young ladies out there, it doesn't pay to be an introvert, always open up to either your parents, a sibling or a matured adult. I hope to send in my chronicle of hope to Stella someday in Jesus name.
A lot of guys now want their women pregnant before marriage which I see as nonsense mindset!!
ReplyDeleteWhat if she takes in and loose the baby after one year and goes into secondary infertility ?
There is nothing as beautiful before God as doing the appropriate thing..
I left my ex because of this mindset!!
Which one be get pregnant for me baby, you know I love you so much! !! Inukwanu bikonu!!!
Marry me because you cherish me not because I will birth your kids.
Marriage is for companionship first before procreation....
Its to maintain a stronghold of you. Nothing about serious commitment. If he truly loves you he would want his children in a home.
DeleteUna should help me o I'm a single mother to a son because my x and I planned to get pregnant and get married but then he changed, now I met this guy he is shouting pregnancy before marriage that it is what hey do in their family I told him never ever ever will I do such thing he should keep it moving. I can never get pregnant again before marriage, and this guy get bad behaviour on top o. I have carried my slippers and I'm running seriously. Idiot
ReplyDeleteKeep running! Such men are devil in disguise
DeleteI commend you for your courage getting away from another toxic relationship.
DeletePeople perceive you the way you carry yourself. In as much being betrayed by your ex. Looks like you tolerate things and cry wolf when its at its peak.
Work on yourself worth, meditate on God's love for you. Meditate book of John. A chapter a day. Ps 23 for restoration. Let His love work miracles.
You attract insult criticise what you got.
Only one person. .? With all dose aforementioned. ?
ReplyDeleteOk na
I know a man who pregnancy was a criteria for marriage plans to kick -off!
ReplyDeleteplease head to our brand new Mommy blog and join in the conversation on the new post...Pls share your tots on the platform http://www.ourminimes.blogspot.com.ng/2015/09/my-aunt-nene.html?m=1
Got pregnant for my boyfriend while dating due to one ish or d other, the marriage rites weren't performed. Had my baby in my father's house and he came for my hand in marriage 1 year after. We are happily married and still waxing strong...
ReplyDeleteBuhahahaha
ReplyDeleteStella bu agu nwanyi
First comes love, then comes marriage, after that comes babies. If you do it in the wrong order, you get the wrong results. SHIKENA
ReplyDeleteit depends on the people involved.
ReplyDeleteMen who deliberately ask dia intending spouse to get pregnant bfr walking down d aisle are selfish...
ReplyDeleteThere is no particular formula for these things. I think it's all about individual luck.
ReplyDeleteHave three kids n not yet married but am d happiest woman in d world .my guy I mean my husband by d grace of god will b paying my bride price did December
ReplyDeleteI think some BVs are mixing it up. Getting married bc one is pregnant and getting pregnant b4 marriage are two different things. The first being that there was no prior plan of marriage but bc of d pregnancy, they hushed into marriage; but the latter is when two peeps are dating and planning to marry but d man plans (some even tell their ladies point blank) to impregnate d lady b4 proceeding for marriage rites.
ReplyDeleteSo to d topic, I have seen some of these marriages work. Yet some didn't work for some reasons viz:
1. d man wasn't ready to end his gallivanting with several women
2. he feels trapped with a wrong woman (with d illusion that he would have married a better woman if not 4 d pregnancy)
3. d woman feels trapped with d wrong man (with d illusion that he would have married a better man if not 4 d pregnancy)
4. since there was no prior plan, d hushed marriage may have affected d finances of d couple;after which they start accusing each other (lack of cash causes chaos in many marriages)
5. d man feels deceived into what he didn't bargain for; etc etc
That is why it is always advised: Abstain from premarital sex OR don't have unprotected premarital sex ......Mrs. Eunice