Most teenagers try sex without even knowing of the consequences or that STD's exist until they become victims
Some parents will NEVER sit their kids down and tell them what they need to know..you think they are too young to know?They person who is molesting them sexually doesnt think so!
Wouldn't it be nice to include sex Education in the Primary/Secondary school syllabus?
Teaching this kids all they need to know and all will go a long way.
I may be wrong though but i am talking from experience..My son said to me the other day
''Mama sex brings a lot of babies and problems and i dont want anything to do with it till i am an adult''.he was very shy about this but i am happy he knows.
Read what this blog visitor has to say
''I've been wanting to send you this mail for a while now but for my busy schedules. It's all about one important duty that I feel all Parents must perform and that's giving Sex Education to their children /wards. This is something I and my sisters never had as a child and now that I'm also a mother, I wouldn't want to make same mistake or should I say I wouldn't want mothers of this generation to make such mistake. Forgive my long epistle Stella, but I have to share my experience and how it's affecting me now as a mother.
When I was about 5 or 6yrs old, I had elder sisters and none of us were ever taught about Sex Education. One day, my dad's uncle's son came to Lagos all the way from the village for a small Vacation. I never knew what a penis looked like not to talk of anything that it does. So one fateful evening, I was alone with him in the sitting room and I was playing with my toy on the floor while he was sitting on the couch close to me. Then he joined me and threw my toy under the couch so that I can crawl inside to get it, only for me to feel something warm on my waist. I quickly came out and looked at him and behold he was withdrawing his penis back into his trouser.
I didn't know what that was and so I asked him but he simply smiled and threw back my toy under the couch again for me to get it and same repeated itself so when someone came in, he asked me to go play with my sisters outside. When I got outside, I explained what happened inside but my sisters only laughed at me and said I shouldn't mention it again if I don't want our parents to beat me so for that fear, I kept mute. For days, anytime I did something to my sisters, they'll just tell me that if I don't take time, they'll tell dad and mum so that they'll flog me. Later on, they all forgot about it but till now I haven't forgotten. I'm in my 30s and I have a daughter now. Because of that experience which I keep wondering how that he-goat would have deflowered me and I wouldn't be able to say anything due to no Sex education.
Today, I look at my daughter and I get scared to leave her with even her dad or brothers or maybe whenever we get any male visitors, I get so uncomfortable because I don't trust them. This is really affecting me as my baby is still a toddler and cannot speak just yet so I keep checking her private everyday to make sure she's safe. My mind is always not at rest due to this past experience''.
Sex education is also risky if not handled properly, eg teaching your teenage son/daughter about masturbation is almost as good as introducing it to him/her if it's new to them, he/she will surely try it out out of curiosity, but the advantages of sex education is more
ReplyDeleteMadam, what and how will you possibly speak to a child who can't talk yet and expect she understands?!
DeleteI think you should just chill till she glows to that age she can comprehend what sex really means. I mean like 10years or there about. If you must start the sex education with her at an earlier age than the one mentioned above, it shouldn't go behold warning her seriously or pet-talking to her on 'what not to allow anybody (male especially)' to do to her. You know what I mean?!
While you do all of that, take a step of faith and act like what happened to you as a child then will not be repeated on your daughter. And stop worrying yourself on what will go wrong on her.
Awww
DeleteSee how the experience has made you an overly paranoid mother
I wasn't sexually educated by my parents, and if not for God's grace, self control and determination,I would have made many avoidable mistakes.
I'll give my children sex education o,and quite early at that.
They need to know what every orifice and organ is for, and the difference between touching and touching.
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Sex education is sure important but must be delivered right. Don't just tell them about it or u may still be sparking their curiosity even more. Couple it with God's Word. Let them also know what God says about sex. ( Train up ur child in d way he should go, even when he is old, he will not depart from it).
DeleteParents should be real with their children about sex matters or they will get d perverted info from somewhere else. The world is filled with it.
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DeleteMasturbation is not part of sex education.
DeleteIf we fail to teach them they will be thought outside,and that'll be too disastrous...I'm in charge of teenagers in church and you'll be amazed what they know. They know more than we adults,some even have direct experiences...start talking to them from an early age,I fear for boys pass sef...
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DeleteSex education should be taught early in life.
DeleteI remember when I was about 8 years old, my father just finished building his house and was wiring the house to bring electricity. One day I was playing alone at the uncompleted house when all of a sudden the dog that was wiring the house (the electrician) started coming down from his ladder. At first I thought nothing of him climbing down, until he came to me and started touching me all over, asking me to follow him to the toilet of the new house that he will show me something. I knew what he wanted to do then cos my mother has told me all about it. So I ran away and told my parents. I never saw the man again after that day, another person completed the wiring. And this is a man I was in the same class with his daughter in school.
Thanks to my mother for teaching me when she did,without that sex education given to me so early I wonder what would ve become of me that very day or how the whole ordeal would ve affected my life today.
Parents if u don't teach ur child, another person will in a disastrous way
Madam, what and how will you possibly speak to a child who can't talk yet and expect she understands?!
DeleteI think you should just chill till she glows to that age she can comprehend what sex really means. I mean like 10years or there about. If you must start the sex education with her at an earlier age than the one mentioned above, it shouldn't go behold warning her seriously or pet-talking to her on 'what not to allow anybody (male especially)' to do to her. You know what I mean?!
While you do all of that, take a step of faith and act like what happened to you as a child then will not be repeated on your daughter. And stop worrying yourself on what will go wrong.
wait till she is 3 b4 then jst keep praying for ur child
DeleteI don't know why most parents think that sex education is for girls, they are assaulting boys too. How do you think most Nigerian are becoming gays? Somebody did it to them. Talk to all your children about it.
DeleteHmmm. May God help us.
ReplyDeleteJesus is Lord.
Children as little as 4/5 are getting assaulted today so the earlier the better. It is well. May God almighty help us in delivering this timely message at the right time and the right age.
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ReplyDeleteMay God protect our little angels.
ReplyDeleteHmmm biology and the learning of reproduction in school is more or less like sex education
ReplyDeleteSexual education is not the same thing as learning biology of the reproductive organs
DeleteReally?.....that's from senior sec school.....when they want to experiment.....u teach from a younger age madam.
DeleteBesides, they only teach abt reproduction and birth control methods...what? U want to teach them hw to have sex and not get "stomach".....to chop clean mouth??...or u want them to learn morals and to report to u even at a tender age when someone asks or forces them to do something vile??.....u sound like u r from d 1960's.......u better teach ur kids when u start having them and dont expect biology to teach them.....cos that will be too late...what with their friends experimenting and them wanting to belong......when pheromones and testosterones control their actions.......infact u just make me vex.
The Only sex education I got from my mama was if you let any man touch you,you'll get pregnant. I took it literally for a long time, I wouldn't sit next to a boy in class.
ReplyDeleteYes it's important to teach your kids and let them know.Let your kids be your friends so they would be free to tell you anything.
Some parents make sex such a touchy subject they don't expect their kids to ask them questions about it.
Sex education is as important as teaching these kids how to pray.
ReplyDeleteBefore I became a mother, I had eagle eyes on my only niece. I was extra paranoid ( I still am). I check her privates as often as I can and ask her questions as often as I can. Since her parents have decided not to educate her, I took it upon myself to do that.
Now u ve got my own kids, I need a househelp BUT the fear of these perverts in human skin is terrible. Most of my male friends have on one or two occasions told me how they were abused by their Househelps as kids......
May God help all Parents.
Sex education is major aspect of up-bringing that parents shy away from., But I think sex education should be Paramount in the upbringing of a child...I had my experience when growing up but thank God I didn't fall victim
ReplyDeleteVery very important topic especially now that you hear cases of rape here and there everyday. Can somebody teach us how to go about this cos as much as I'll love to, I for one don't know how to teach it to my kids. Please somebody help out
ReplyDeleteWell...i wasn't taught sex education and heck i didnt turn out bad.
ReplyDeleteMost of what i knew bout sex @a tender age,i learnt from watching movies.
I find it hard to believe dt one wld see a penis @age 5/6 and not knw what it was.
If ur a toddler,its understandable cos u know virtually nothng @dt age.
Well I wasn't molested in anyway bt i doubt if someone had brought out his penis,i wldnt know what it was
Even b4 this post,i already made up my mind long time ago that I was gona have d sex education talk wv my kids. I ain't gona be as tight fisted as most parent cos it wld only mk ur kids keep things from u. I want my kids to see me as their bestfriend,some1 dey could aswell confide in.
So mothers,i urge u to have the talk wv ur kids bt do it logically unless u might tip off their curiosity,making them want to explore or act out what they'v heard
I can so relate with ur ordeal,we were stayin with our grandmother in d village nd a boy usually visits my granny,would u believe dt whenever no one is around,dis boy will come around and sleep with us all,we would even be fighting dt he stays on lagbaja than tamedo,d boy fuck d living day out of all of us then(3),it was when i grew up i knew it was a bad experience,u dare not tell anyone,wafeku,now i am married with 2boys nd a girl,d fear for dt girl don dey give me hbp cos d last time her cousin came(female) i saw my baby sleeping on her back nd i ask why she did dat,she said, she ask her to,they are just 6 nd 4 respectively
ReplyDeleteBlood of God!.
DeleteHow old were you then? Fifi
DeleteSex education is very important, plus this poster needs to speak with *Praise Fowowe* he is a sex education coach..you can follow him on FB and twitter. Send him questions or concern, my church once invited him for a talk, and that encounter was mind blowing..
ReplyDeletePoster I have such fears daily.
ReplyDeleteInfact hubby and I have this conversation all the time! I do not even trust female relatives!
I think sex education starts by firstly ensuring that gradually your toddler can identify his/her body parts and name them. Then we explain why no one is allowed to touch their "peepee"
You continue educating them as they grow using terms they can easily understand or relate to,adding more information as they enter their teen years,hit puberty etc
Sex education is very important. The knowledge we dish out should be age-appropriate. Mothers, if you are reading this please please teach your your sons and daughters that there are parts of their body no one should ever touch. It helps.
ReplyDeleteVery important
ReplyDeleteSex education to me should start as early as 5yrs. Teaching ur daughter not to allow any uncle to touch her weewee. And ur sons not to allow both uncles and aunties not not touch him Down there will really help to curb this child molestation. 6 out of 10 girls today will tell u that they were molested by their uncles at the ages of 9_12yrs likewise the boys.
ReplyDeleteParents should not be ashamed to educate their kids concerning Sex because if you don't someone else will misinform them. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of .
Hmm 5 years is too late oo. From age 2 when they are starting to have sense. I keep telling my daughter her front bum bum is private
DeleteI am a masterbator till today because i was introduced to it by a friend when i was still a teen boy and it has being affecting me seriously
ReplyDeleteAnon 17:32
DeleteYou better stop it
God help u...amen
DeleteNo one taught us while growing up o. Thank God we know better now tho.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
Very tight corner ,i honestly dont know how to start this sex education,i notice from 6 years old girls child are being abused daily .
ReplyDeleteFor me no age is too young as long as the child can talk ,my lil girl I 4 now ,from 3 years I ve started telling if anyone one touchses your bum bum say to the person stop it I don't like it and I will tell my mommy and we rehearse it most nights when m bathing her and she hasn't forgotten it ,mothers it's really sad the world we live in today has left us paranoid we can't even trust anyone round our kids
ReplyDeleteMadam Poster, you are afraid to leave your daughter with her father and brothers bcos of the fear of sexual molestation? You have a dysfunctional family.
ReplyDeleteShe does not have a dysfunctional family please. Parents should take .... education serious and endeavour to not only teach but check n interrogate the kids everyday especially when they are out playing or visiting n had people come over.
DeleteWe had returned to Nigeria for vacation ; barely 3 days to settling in my son then 7 got severally aroused by a friend's son he's 7 too.. My friend later confided in me she's done everything to help her son nothing has worked on his psyche!
Few months in, my boys again narrated how the house keeper(boy) 33yrs after bathing them kept stimulating their *zizi* sacked him same day..
Left the kids with nanny mum n dad for 3weeks business trip returning I noticed my daughter 3+ rubbibg her clits while sucking her fingers. Ask questions no answer, apparently the househelp(girl) may have..
Fastward to our return n very recent a family friend I had trusted so much.. corned my daughter behind the door and rubbed on her. This is a summary of all cases and off course actions were taken, lessons taught..
Bottom line is, YOU CAN'T TRUST NO ONE!! Mothers watch out for ur kids oo honestly this is where I pity working mums. teach them everyday repeating same line always not only to ur girl child, also to your boys. Teach it sing it give instances lie sef join.. I told them once if you let someone touch your blokos it will be sooooooo big the doctors will cut it lol. If you see them don dey catch am change d lie form another one. Back up with scriptures n bible studies.
SHB
My family is awesome and not dysfunctional as u think. It's just that it's hard for me to trust males generally
DeleteSame here. Trust no one.
DeleteAnonymous 19.07 Lord help us. Really worried for my girls. You can't be with them every minute of the day. What is 1 to do
DeleteAnonymous16 August 2015 at 19:07 a little girl holding her wewe and sucking is veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy common, even babies do it. That does not mean she has been abused. I am sorry for all your other experiences but I just thought to inform you that holding wewe by a little girl and sucking her thumb is very natural. It is now left for you to remove her hand and tell her not to do it. As bablies little kids, they know at that age that stimulating that place is a nice feeling. I vaguely recall knowing that as a kid. don't add to your life what is not there. enough said! fifi
DeleteNo idea till I get married
ReplyDeleteEveryday I keep waiting for my daughter to ask me questions and she keeps mute. Maybe I should just go ahead and discuss it with her. She understands that sex should be in the confines of marriage that's what I made clear to her.
ReplyDeleteDon't wait. Go ahead and tell her everything she needs to know. She may have the questions in her head but is too shy to approach you. Make her your best friend. Open up to her so she can tell you her fears, her worries, etc
DeleteHa!! You are waiting she ask you questions???? You better start asking ooo.. Told my daughter if u let someone touch your weewee no prince for you.. She loves Princes and Princesses lol
DeleteGod guide us (parents) IJN!!!
ReplyDeleteLet me just read comments
ReplyDeleteLet the comments roll
ReplyDeleteYour kids should know that no one is allowed to touch them below the neck and above the knee. It's very important that they know when danger is approaching in the form of an adult, male or female, known or unknown.
ReplyDeleteGod will give parent wisdom to teach our children right. How best to say it that they will understand but the most important thing is God in our home, let them have the fear God in them. Parent should not just focus on girl child alone but the boys too because those rappers are also train by someone or society by this out daughters will be safe.
ReplyDeleteI started receiving my own sex education from age 6. & it has helped me till date. I also read books. I read "every woman" at a very young age. Wen I started menstruating, I knew how to take care of myself and count my cycle from my teenage age. The truth is, children know more than we think they know. Close relatives are abusing children under their parents roof and they can't speak up. The earlier the better oo especially female children. My friend's cousin was always touching her younger sister back then cos he used to bath her. That was almost 13yrs ago oo not to talk of nw that kids are bn more exposed to different things. No restrictions. Mothers should shine eyes oo. D earlier the better oooo.
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooooo alll dese bad experiences nawa oooo uh me kn saaay na arnd 5yrs I begin touch touch ooooo 4 area dat tym me nd some neighbour's kids we knew what sex was buh didn't really knw how to go about it.
ReplyDeleteomo thoughts of all these makes me cringe..i kip asking my 5yrs old daughter oh if any 1 touched her pant or tried to put thier hand in her bumbum..may God help whoever tries such cos hell should be ready to receive his soul dat day!
ReplyDeleteWill start teaching my 'about 3 years old son". The rate at which things are happening in our society, one shouldn't think they've small small girls/boys at home again.
ReplyDeleteWith God by my sides, I will raise godly kids in this ungodly world #Amen.