I Wish Somebody Had Told Me - Part 3

It isn't only women who wish they knew back then what they know now as concerns Marriage....Guess who else wishes they had been told!

''Hello Stella, you are doing a wonderful job. My name is Mr K. I saw your post on "I wish somebody had told me" yesterday and thought to write in from a man's perspective, and share my own wishes maybe some men, or even women on your blog can relate.

I've been married for 3 years now and believe me when I say that it hasn't been easy adapting to my new lifestyle, and it's even harder for me since my dad didn't really educate me in that area before marriage so as to be very equipped and prepared. It's not like I blame him though because I've come to realize that most African dads don't.

Verily, now I know better when they say that marriage is like a school that you can never graduate from as they are always new things to learn from it.

But as I keep learning new things everyday, and new ways to better my marriage, here are the things I wish I'd known before marriage:

-I wish I had known that the "in love" experience is not enough foundation for marriage. No one told me this. I thought the whole thing was you fall in love with somebody, and it’s so wonderful and euphoric, and it’s going to be that way forever. Nobody told me that some years into marriage, you’re going to come down off the euphoria. I know it now.

-no one told me that the sex isn't always gonna be great or available whenever I need it and that it shouldn't be a reason to cheat on my wife.

-i knew that I wasn't gonna be able to hang out with the boys and grab some bottles of bear like I used to, but no one told me it would be this bad. Now I go for like 3 weeks without seeing any of my realest friends

-no one told me that my very loving and respectful wife would frustrate and hurt me sometimes for no reason, either knowingly or unknowingly and it's okay for me to understand.

-No one told me that I would wonder sometimes weather we are gonna make it as a couple especially because of the temptations I deal with on a daily basis. Infact it seems like they are some special group of young women out there who only take pleasure in chasing after married men.

-I wish I’d known that apologizing is a sign of strength. I use to have the impression that apologizing is a sign of weakness

-i wish I knew all the responsibilities that comes with the "man" title

-i wish I'd known that my wife's money (even thou she earns an attractive salary) is her money, while my money is  everybody's money

-I wish I knew that I would have to keep little or no female friends after marriage because I'm suppose to get all the friendship I needed in my wife!

-I wish I'd known how much changes my wife's body is gonna go through. After one kid and her body is.... *sigh*

I wish I wish I wish!

I wish somebody had told me part 1- here

I wish somebody had told me part 2 -here