Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Narrative number one is so annoying...why throw stones when you live in a glass house?

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT......
HUBBY SAY TO WIFEY ''YOU ARE BORING IN BED''
WIFEY RETORTS ''OH YOU HAVE A SMALL ONE''

 Dear Stella, please I need your sincere advice on this issue. I also need my wonderful BVs’ advices too.

I am a 27 years old mother to a wonderful boy. I also have a good husband by God’s grace but last week, we had a very big quarrel. Before I go into details of the cause of the quarrel, let me give little details of my husband. Just as everyone has a good and bad side, my husband has his. He is a loving father, infact, a wonderful father to his son but dear Stella to me, I don't know.

When we got married initially, he shouts at almost everything done wrong but I will not argue or respond to the extent that he will ask why I wasn't responding and then say he was sorry. Whenever we pray, I do the praying.

Stella, each time we have an issue, my husband will cuss the living hell out of me. Tell me things like, ‘you are a bad wife’, ‘you are not my motivation, my son is’, ‘you are not tush’, ‘if I didn't marry you and clean you, you will look like a maid’ and so many other hurtful words I can't remember.
Now Stella, believe me, I am not bad at all, I don't even look like a woman, I look like a girl. Dear Stella, I bring all my salary and give to my husband. I mean all. He brings his too and we use together. He has never given me money to shop; he gives me 2000 naira to make hair, takes charge of foodstuff and feeding.

 I don't have a help and my work is stressful. I come back by 5pm every day. I wash his clothes and take good care of the house. Stella, am I not trying?

Now one of the major problems I have with him is that my husband watches too much porn and sex related films. Now, he expects me to behave that way. I try my best, Stella because I don't have any experience. I give him head, I do most of the foreplay, but still my husband complains. He doesn't give me head or do those things he watches to me but wants me to do all. And no, I don't smell. I take my bath thrice a day, shave when bushy and wear one cloth per day.

Now to the main issue. I confronted him on why he wanks most times he is taking his bath. He claims to always poo each time he is taking his bath. He takes so long in the bathroom and always puts on the DVD player to the highest volume before going to bath. So that was how I got to know. We all know masturbation reduces one’s sex drive so we end up having sex like once a week. Hmmm.

Dearest Stella, when I confronted him, he started to cuss me out saying hurtful words but the one that got to me was when he said that from day one I have been boring on bed. I couldn't take it anymore and I also fired back telling him it is because he has a very small dick. He was very hurt and wanted to hit me but he stopped and said I am doomed for making that statement.

Dear Stella, I know I hurt him but he did first. I think he loves talking down on me to validate himself. Please Stella, was I wrong? How do I remedy the situation? He's been acting so sober and covers his stuff unlike before.
Please, dearest BVs help me. I will do anything to have a sweet marriage. Please sincerely tell me where I went wrong and what I can do? God bless you 
all.


Well if you ask me,all is fair in love and war.
Some men cannot take being called small down there,so you have dented his rotten ego and now it looks like you will be mouth folded into apologising right?

Have a husband and wife talk ....If he is a normal human being he should take correction and both of you reach an understanding to stop hurting each other with words before it graduates into physical abuse.



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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

THE PAINS/FEARS/CONFUSION THAT COMES WITH LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS

Sweet Stella how you dey....please I have a problem I will want you to throw as a subject of discussion please...... 

I met this fine guy via singles mingle season some months back but distance seems to be having its toll on us...he resides and works in Lagos and I in Uyo,there seems to be so many issues coming up due to distance...

On my part I feel he has someone already over there though I haven't seen a sign of it...on his own part he doubts if I love him that much,i am so confused. 

Should we stop this relationship since physical interaction is very important to me. Please bv's who have handled successful long distance relationship should give tips on how to go about it becos i am beginning to have heart ache after closing all communication point with him which I still find myself having thoughts of him each passing day...I love him(I just have to let it out)!

You have closed all communication with him?
You are either right or wrong but how will you know ?
He has probably moved on,men move on quickly.Move on as well and since you cannot stand a long distance,next time you meet anyone who lives far from you,please think twice.