Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

I just found a new way to chase away mother in laws who visit their sons to cause havoc...lol

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MATCH MAKING GONE WRONG

Hello Stella, thanks for the platform you provided for us, please help me post this as a chronicle and let me know the opinion of other BVs.

I was 'match made' with this guy late last year by my cousin, we
finally got to see during Christmas and started dating fully from late March. I am the very emotional type, hardly trust and I am wary of relationships because of heart breaks but the guy persuaded me and as he is already my spec, it kind of made things easier and i fell in love with him .He stays in Port Harcourt while i stay in Anambra.

Now the problem is that, even though he seems caring and gives me money, no matter how little, I don't know where i stand with him. He hardly says he loves me till i tell him first, he hardly tells me he misses me even though i tell him that a lot. The only few times he says it, is when we talk over the phone some mornings and he'll be like "I missed you last night", " I miss your body warmth"etc.

 He locks his phone like mad, when i hinted it, he was like "i am not allowed to go through his phone". At a point when i snooped earlier in the relationship as Team snoop would advise, i found his chats with other girls even one with a girl he was practically begging to go out with him, inviting her over etc, some with girls asking him out and when i confronted him then, he said he didn't know whether i was serious then (he was seriously persuading me to date him then).

He is always on Whatsapp but he'll never say hi. I feel he takes me for granted because he doesn't pick his phones most times when i call (I know he sees d call and he claims it is not convenient for him to do so but i have been with this guy and know that no call passes him by)and rarely returns the call except to call at nighty, that is the usual time we talk. Whenever he visits me, it seems like having sex with me is his priority after which he hurries off.

So on Saturday, i called this guy severally, he misses the calls and
didn't return it as usual. When i confronted him and told him
exactly how i feel and stated those issues above, he got bitter
and turned around to put everything on me that i am complaining about not getting his attention when i need it.

But BVs, why won't i complain? I am this kind of person that don't demand much from a guy but for the person to meet me half way, for me to love and feel loved too. I have trust issues and I always need reassurance of a guy's love for me if he does so and that day he couldn't even say anything when i asked him directly what he feels for me, he was just saying that it's not by words but by actions, that do i want him to tell me what i want to hear bla bla bla.

But i know that even players seems caring and get stuffs for their girlfriends and still end up cheating on them. Right now, we are barely on talking terms though i tried to apologize earlier and he was forming anger so i withdrew my apology and decided not to apologise again. We both can do the silent treatment thingy.

Biko my fellow BVs, am i on a long thing or am i just been paranoid for nothing, i am very emotional. Stella, biko don't wait and read comments with BVs today, get out your red ink. Sorry for the long epistle.

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Hmmm you are not just on a long thing you are dating yourself in a rare type of situationship!.

STOP giving him booty...Are you a warehouse for his blokos?

Note that the minute you tell him you no longer want sex,he might walk,so be ready for that.

     

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

MOTHER IN LAW WHO POKE-NOSES AND NAGS

   Dear Stella, I need your help. I love your chronicles section and now I have one of mine own. I never imagined I'll be doing this but some of the advise I have read from blog visitors to others make sense.

My MIL makes me uber uncomfortable in my own house. The old lady is a real piece of work whenever she comes to stay. She's not a bad person per se but she's a groaner. Please permit me to use that word. She complains about EVERYTHING. 

She complains about how often we turn on the generator, how much I pay for my hair,when we go to church, she complains about how short and simple my dresses look. She expects me to wear long wrappers or flowing gowns. I really don't like wearing native and my dresses are very decent. In fact I pick them carefully because I know she'd have something to say. She also complains about how many ACs and TVs we have in the house. She has once told me I don't know how to cook rice. .??? She likes her rice soggy and swollen. I don't and neither does my husband. I hate the way she nags. I try to tell my husband but he doesn't do anything about it. 

She gives him grief as well but she has such as strong hold on him. He listens to every word she says. It's so bad to the extent that if I want my husband to do something he doesn't want to, he'll say I'm being pessimistic about life but once his mother says the same, it's done. I don't know what to do with this woman. I have never shown her how I feel and I can never because I wasn't raised like that and I would hate my husband for picking sides. 

I'm too sure he'll follow his mother. There was something she did that I can never forget. It happened about 3 years ago though but whenever I think about it, I resent her more. It was one week of hell in my own house. I had a baby and no maid yet I had to be at her beck and call. She lifted no finger to even help with the baby instead gave me a timetable of her feeding. After that my attitude towards changed and I became a little distant. Even after all she put me through she had the audacity to get angry for not calling her when she got back home. She's coming to my house soon and will probably be here for 2 weeks. 

Fortunately I'll be at work most of the time so I'd have little interaction with her. I don't like her around. My spirit is always depressed around her and I don't know what to do. Her presence even makes me withdraw from my husband and I don't like talking to him unless its necessary because he just obeys her every word like a lap dog. I can't stop her from coming but I need my husband to stand up for us. There are so many other things I could talk about but my husband reads this blog. Please help me. She's not the kind of person you can sit down and talk to so that's out of it. She's very arrogant and condescending. 

Two weeks might seem like a lifetime but it isnt...Just bear her presence,ignore her stress and show her lot of love...You might chase her away by showing too much love.Become an actress when she is around...PDA with the hubby,Uber sexy looks,over feed her,pay her compliments and all.

chase her away with love.LMAO!