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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
BORN AGAIN,PREGNANT AND CONFUSED

Hello Dear STDK, I love you  a lot because i have learnt a lot from your blog, may God keep blessing you and your good work.

I have a very big challenge that sometimes i wonder how much harder life can be to some of us. I am a  girl of 23 years and I am the last child of my parents and because of hard times in family, I decided to put my education on hold 6 years ago to learn a hand work which i am happy that  I have now as it helps me and my family a lot.

Now my challenges: Early this year, I asked God to help me to be contented with what ever he brings and to give me a man of my own because i had lots of married men disturbing my life for past years and faith has been helping me to avoid them because I know they don't have anything to offer me.

To cut the long story short, I started dating a guy that has been my friend for years and I was really happy I had him, though he wasn't rich nor didn't have any job but I believed he still has a future. Things went well for few months and I help him also from the little I make, sometimes I even ignore my family needs just to make him happy and he  promised that as soon as things gets better he will go and see my parents.

But things really changed so well when I found out that I was 6 weeks pregnant for him even though I didn't intend getting pregnant at this stage, but I really don't want to offend my God again because he has been so faithful to my needs since I decided to be a born again so I decided to keep the child. I believe that since God made it possible for me to take care of my family, He will help me to raise the child too but He decided to make the life more miserable for me. First, he insisted I must abort the child by all means like beating me whenever I go to plead with him and telling me that i am a bad luck to him but I refused to abort the child.

I remember he always use to say that his father  is a pastor so i took this father's  contact, called him and told him everything but he said he will discuss with his wife and call me back but that was  like 5 months ago now and he never called back and their son on the other hand, has been tasking me to give him my little savings.

On different occasions, I have given him some huge amount of money to start up something, even the kind of amount that I never dreamt that I could get when I was going for training years back.
He used some of it to fix his car, the remaining to do what God knows best and tell me afterwards that he has to fix his car because he cannot enter a bike (okada) because people will think that he is deadly broke meanwhile he is really broke which I never complained about, while I don't even have wheelbarrow to boast of. 

He has been threatening me that since I decided to keep that child and didn't give him more money, I am going to be a single mother for life.

He said that he won't marry me and that he is sure that no guy will because that I am going to be a single mother. He even uses text messages to wake me up every morning reminding me of how much harder I will suffer since i have decided to be a single mother.

Right now, I am almost six months pregnant and most times, I am always depressed because I can't help stop thinking about the whole thing. I know it's all my fault because I let him to have unprotected sex with me but currently I have a job that I am still thankful for. My family doesn't know about this yet because I have been covering up with work, I don't how bad they will feel when they hear the news of me being a single mother and right now, I really don't know what could happen to me in this condition. My dreams of becoming my own boss is what I don't even think of anymore.

Please my dear Blog visitors I need your advice on how to handle this issue and please be a bit polite on your judgement because of the child in my womb. I have High BP already and I just need your honest advice, thanks and God bless you all.

Ndi born again,na una nack pass!LOL.

keep the baby,keep your BP in check and let God handle the situation you hear?

Please inform your family of your condition,there is no shame in carrying a child.you have made the mistake already but you shouldnt punish yourself for it.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

THE WORRIES OF AN OLDER LOVER IN LOVE WITH A YOUNGER

 LOVER WHO HAS NOTHING

I am a 32years old lady, very hardworking and an Entrepreneur, I met a 29years old guy who claims he loves me, he is into Event services, he fears God, even  ministers in church, he is everything I want in a man, but the bottom line is that he isn't well to do to the extent that I pay our transport fare and pay for our bill most of the time we go out and he Never demand for money or sex from me, only just once we had sex and we asked God for forgiveness, but he gives me super attention and respect, we pray together and attend church programmes together.

Stella my main worry is this, my dad sees  the guy not good enough for me, he said he doesn't want me to Marry a guy that don't have, that after suffering with him,he might leave me when he makes it in life. Stella i have got super rich suitors, but they don't give me attention and all they want is that we go out, they spend and they start demanding for babies first, and they aren't God Fearing, most of them mock me when i am going to church, even call me iya Jesu.

I have friends that married their spouse when they had nothing, not even a car but stayed in one room, and the ladies provided for them and today they are super Rich

Please Stella and blog visitors advise me, cus my Dad is saying that for my status, I need a guy with a car at least and with a very good job! Stella should I move on with Dad's advise or I stick to this guy.I Am not in a hurry or eager to marry, I just want to be happy and loved. I Am so confused!

HELP!!!

Hmmm.....Your Father might be right,and then he might be wrong!

you will never know until you take the leap.

The decision to stay and love a broke ass brother or to leave lies with you.

I cannot advise you in this case becos life happened to me and my mindset has changed concerning loving men who do not have.

I have seen friends who stayed with men who had nothing and these men changed when the monies came in,I have had friends who married for love and they aint happy.

Just take whatever decision gives you peace of mind and stand firm to bear whatever consequences come with your actions.

I wish you well honey.