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Dear Stella,
I must confess that your blog has helped bring positive advice and restoration of hope in various relationships,marriages and other life situations and predicaments. Thank you so much for creating this platform.
However, i would want a candid advice from you and my fellow sdkers on this personal issue that is tormenting me so much this past week.
I am a 34 years old hardworking dude and the only son of my parents. My parents really want me to settle down and of course i want to,the pressure is there but i want to settle for good and i thought i did. You can call me Ben and i work for a reputable oil company in port harcourt . My ordeal started from a female friend of mine introducing me to her girlfriend she called her 'bestie' and of course told me positive things about her like how she was a wife material and how she would recommend her for a wife if she had a brother or male cousin ready to settle down and so many good remarks about her.
I was so impressed and she works for an advertising company in port harcourt too. So we got talking and i was over whelmed and over impressed with her friend because we connected very well. She came to visit me every weekend and I grew to love her even though i noticed some stuffs about her and some lies. i decided not to let it bother me after all i wasn't yet married to her and thought she would change if i did marry her or show some commitment .
After several months into the relationship, her friend (my female friend) started advising me not to be serious with her friend again and to dump her because she found out certain horrible things about her friend like how she was sleeping around for money ,being a coded runs babe and abortion practices too.
I was dumbfounded and disorganised by all that she told me because i so much believed that i have already found the woman of my dreams. Of course i confronted my girlfriend and she quickly turned it around and also accused her friend of being jealous of her relationship with me because of the money and stuffs i shower her with. I always come back with a luggage of goodies for my girl friend and her friend whenever i travel to Dubai or the states for official assignment.
I stupidly believed my girl and avoided my female friend because i thought she was jealous and bad. Little did i know that they have been seriously beefing and not in talking terms for months prior to me confronting my gf. None of them told me what went wrong with their friendship when i asked.
However,My gf was loved and welcomed by my family members and i eventually paid her bride and did our traditional marriage in April 2015 .
Her friend [my female friend] was not invited because she told me earlier on that she would never associate with me if i marry her ex bestie because of her cunny deceptive way of life and wouldn't want me to be hurt or blame her in future for recommending her friend .
Anyway,We have fixed our white wedding[church wedding] this December and the court marriage too but i recently discovered that everything my female friend ( her friend ) told me in confidence about my wife's secret affairs was genuine and true because i secretly investigated,monitored and set traps for her which she woefully failed. I confronted her with all my concrete evidences of her past and current secret affairs,contacting and sleeping with her sugar daddy etc.
Last week,She admitted everything and is currently pleading and crying for forgiveness,she said it was the devil's work and wouldn't cheat again. I have not told any of my family members because they wouldn't tolerate this . How can i live with this deceit, shame and betrayal? Our wedding is supposed to be in December but no date fixed yet. I am so confused,ashamed and i feel like travelling outside the country to hide until next year . I have given her everything but yet she paid me back like this and thought i wouldn't find out.
Would people or society laugh at me or should i cover up by forgiving her and go ahead with the wedding plans? Should i marry her and go to my grave with this or expose her and end the marriage? Would i be the laughing stock among friends and family if i end the marriage or be the laughing stock forever inside me because i would never ever trust her nor continue loving her like i used to?
Please what should i do because the clock is ticking and i don't want my family or anyone around me to notice the tension between us now? How can i continue to love and care for a cheating wife if i go ahead with the church wedding ? I am so confused right now . If i forgive her and go ahead with the wedding, what if the thought of her sleeping around comes back to haunt me in the marriage? i am a very emotional person and so helpless right now. Has anyone experienced this before or know anyone that has gone through this hell?
Please help me out because this is weighing me down heavily . Thanks.
Hello?Please do not go ahead with the wedding until you sort yourself out.to be ashamed is better than to bite fingers of regret all your life.
Please get her tested as well.
Look for your female friend and ask for forgiveness as well.
Thats all i can say for now,let the others continue.
Brb
ReplyDeleteMr. Ben, is better they laugh now than you been imprisoned in hell forever.. You've seen the signs, what else are you waiting for?
DeleteWhat people will say? Ben, people must talk even if you do the right thing, they must talk. Please, wear your shoes and run, Na you wear the shoe and Na you dey feel the pain.
How sure are you she will change after tasting the frivolities of life? Chameleon can never change...
Is better late than late, quit the marriage biko make High blood pressure.
#Godwin
There are lots of girls that are into this same coded runs and the funny part is that they get hooked to really good guys. I know of so many.
DeleteBut the bitter truth is that ur wife is a cheat and she might not stop cheating. White wedding will not stop her from cheating. Why did she not own up the first time u confronted her? Because she knows that if u do there won't be any traditional marriage. Be wise and collect ur bride price cos this ur wife will still cheat at any given opportunity. Be wise and receive sense.
Abeg don't marry her because of what people would say. Follow your heart.
DeleteRelationship wahala, poster b wise wt whatever decision u choose to take.
DeleteBetter a broken heart & relationship than a broken marriage. Let her be, if you marry her and the marriage packs up. The so-called society will still blame you for knowing nd going ahead. Travel out and clear your head. Love will always find a way.
Delete#cece#
Sum (ladies)Hypocrite will say u shud forgive her. Only son? Bros u deserve better dan dat whore.
DeleteIf you know you can never trust or forgive her then dear you better not marry her , you haven't done the white wedding so just quite and let it go forget about what people will say your own happiness should matter most to you and not what people will say . Once you go through with the white wedding there is no going back there is no graduation in marriage it is forever but if you know you can forgive her and that she really is a changed person then you can go ahead and marry her . Trust is so important in a marriage if you can't trust her then I wonder what the marriage will be like please you both shouldn't make your lives miserableby marrying her and not being happy with her.
DeleteDUMP her like a piece of trash...if u go on with the wedding, u will never be able to trust her again and that marriage will be dead on arrival!
DeleteNobody will laugh at u instead, they will encourage you!
Talk 2 your people especially your mum who will understand better and do something b4 is 2 late.
That girl is greedy and may even kill your bcos of ur wealth.
Dump her now that u haven't committed fully.
Don't let what people will say bother you!
DeleteEmpty skull!
DeleteU must tink dia is a reward for being d first to comment.
People say runs girls marry the good guys or rather good guys marry bad girls. But I Oluwaseyi say only stupid men marry useless women. Look a runs girl will continue her trade the moment u don't have money. Those girls no dey repent. So many of them getting married this days and I look at the unfortunate men. Little wonder marriages don't last again. If u don't face the shame now, a bigger shame awaits you in future. Look at me praying here everyday for just one man that will give me 5 k. And there is someone who has a boyfriend that assist her and buy her things yet she is still cheating. I blame you men. You are all useless. You don't think or reason. If u check well the girl will be very beautiful and flashy. Probably use expensive things. Woman wey dey work for her money and relies soly on her work money are very prudent and don't spend on rubbish. No matter how she code reach, u must see expensive stuffs wey her own parents no fit afford. Tsheeeeeeeew. Na kuku people like us dey suffer man matter.
DeleteDo not marry her. After all u shower her with, she still continued with her ill ways. She'l send u yo an early grave if u marry her.
DeleteGod bless you @Anon 16:33 a.k.a Oluwaseyi. They like flashy girls. So that's what they get. With all the decent girls roaming the streets. Abeggy
DeleteLmao @ will people laugh at you. Abeg go ahead and marry a silly woman just people won't laugh
ReplyDeleteAnon you are so right. Mr man it is you first before society. Highest 1month another gist will surface. Good luck!
DeleteYoung man, it's funny how so many ppl are unable to take some simple but life shaping decisions. Ppl will clearly see the open beak of a bird and still ask where it takes in food from. Let me tell you this. When you marry no one and I mean no one (the ppl you care if they will laugh at you, your friends, relations everyone) will help you carry any psychological bsggagr with you. Take your decision without prejudice to what society will say and society includes the girl and her family and your own family. But be prepared to live with the decision you take. Ask yourself if there is a good reason to start a family sleeping with one eye open from day one. Now before some ppl begin to ask as they are wont to ask , if suppose it was you that was caught cheating in this manner, let all answer this question sincerely.....can you encourage your brother to marry a known certified slut, can you encourage a woman to marry your womaniser brother? You see no family will welcome a know slut as daughter in law except the man insists. But a family would accept a womaniser once their daughter decide to marry him regardless
DeleteThe ball is in your court but then what else does she want in her life.man, if you know you can't forgive her, it's better you move on. What will people say is none of your business,afterall they will be same pple to laugh at you when the shit happens again.Goodluck
DeleteMr Ben I think you should postpone the marriage n see if she would change n also if she comes clean with everything. Also note that it's difficult to trust again so if you can't trust her again just call it off. Society must talk anyways but within 3mnths talk will end but marriage if concluded will never end.
Deletepls come and marry me
Deleteleave ur wife plsssssssss
This is so messed up. Hw cn a gal hv evrytin and stil mess it up.. Please o sort urself out b4 weddin her. If u cnt 4giv her call off d weddin.
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Honestly I really pity the lady, if she can cheat despite the fact that you're more than average financially stable, so what then can ever stop her from cheating? If it's a female that bring such issue here, 99% will advice her to cut everything off. In this case, if you eventually marry, you will never trust her and she will be mentally, emotionally and physically tortured which will still lead to divorce in future. My honest advice is that, don't forgive her now in other to punish her in future, please cut the engagement off and collect the bride price you've paid.
Delete*Larry was here*
Hian.... pls Do Not Marry her if u want to be a happy man. She doesnt genuinely love u. A woman that does won't cheat on u unjustly.
ReplyDeleteShe's a bitch. I carried the comment over to the other post cos I want every runs girl here to know that it's doesn't pay. Karma is a bitch. Poster move ahead, u worth more than a bitch for a wife
DeleteBroken engagement is better than a broken marriage. I believe you still have a lot to find out about her, avoid her using your job and give excuses of a bein posted outta d country or something till u can find ur stand. And ur female friend I Tink she shud be avoided too, cuz she is a double edged sword.
ReplyDeleteYou took the words right outta my mouth. The female friend is evil. You may discover a man was the cause of their fight if u dig deeper.
DeleteYou already know the kind of person that she is.So,the choice is yours.
ReplyDeletePoster,the ball is in your court..,
ReplyDeleteYour woman is not wise at all...instead of her to stop all her RUNZ activities since you have paid her bride prize and face her new marriage...
Her village people is at work jare infact she need a serious deliverance mehn...
And that una mutual friend is a devil...
I hate friends like her...
Yup! I agree. I suspect the mutual friend
DeleteI'll wouldn't tell you not to go ahead, it's your call, but wisdom demands when you see the signs early enough, flee. And for me, it's still not too late seeing those signs now despite paying her bride price.
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But guy, u fucked up o...big time I must say!
ReplyDeleteWhy would u give ur source up? No one does that! If she asked, ur informant remains anonymous.
Well, since u've realised ur folly, cut her lose. Beta be safe than sorry. Gosh! The bitch lied to ya face. She felt no remorse despite the love & care u supposedly showed her. So i'd advise to cut her loose & count ur loses.
But then, Ghanaman could be wrong u know!
That was d part Dat annoyed me very well, giving up his source. This is why I can never tell on a cheating man cos dem go use u settle come sideline u. When my bestie asked if I'd ever tell her if I see her husband cheating, I told her a big No, so that dey will call me jealous and a home wrecker. I can only hope she catches him herself, as for me, I will just pretend I know nothing
DeleteLol. dude ain't street smart..... AT ALL!
DeleteAbeg abeg,ditch her immediately....get your money refunded because I know your type,if u end up marrying her,you won't trust her and you will make her wish she never got married sef.....please and please let her go now and save yourself the stress.
ReplyDeleteI pray u find peace wif Watever decision u make. All d best
ReplyDeleteSome women never change!
ReplyDeleteMy dear.I will wait for comments
ReplyDeleteIf u know within yourself that u cannot forgive n forget, call off the wedding n look n tell ur pple the truth, they will mot laugh at you.
ReplyDeleteBy the way if u were the one cheating before the wedding, and she sent in her chronicles, I'm sure everyone will advice her to dump ur cheating arse...u can also do the same.....dump her cheating arse....hahahahaahhahaha
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ReplyDeleteI support Stella's advice, please. Don't go on with the weeding till You've sorted yourself out. On a second thought it would be better you end everything with her because it would be difficult to trust her again and that alone if enough to kill your marriage. Go see your doctor please, it very important.
ReplyDeleteEyaaaa I saw u post this on that I wish post and u even look good join Nawa for some gurls sha
ReplyDeleteAwwwwww this is really tough o, hmmmm truth be told just follow your heart o don't start looking at what others think coz at the end of the day you will live with her for the rest of your life. Don't let pride stand in the way of love if u truly love her forgive her and move on. Your no saint either !
ReplyDeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteI pray God gives you the wisdom to tackle this..... if you forgive her and she doesn't change.... This really requires wisdom and prayer.....I believe you should apologize to your female friend....THis LIfe sha
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ReplyDeleteYesterday's post about letting go of an ex and moving d hell on is an eye opener that many people on dis blog dont take their own advice..They issue advice as is they will do d same should they find themselves in d same situation..
ReplyDeleteD comments i read there got me thinking..Almost all of them wrote they cant let go of their ex in d name of stupid love.Some are enjoying physical and emotional abuse but still held on to d said man all bcos of love..Even married women are still gbenshing their ex..
Chick Felix carried d matter for head like gala screaming that its not dat easy to let go bcos love ia deeper than what people think..Chai i SMH for all of u!
Now d big questions is,who are those advicing single girls and married women to walk away from an abusive marriage and relationships on dis blog?
Who are those advicers telling women to live with their head and not their heart?
Are u not d same people that are still chopping shit from ur various relationships but u hide under ur keypad and anonymous mode to advice a woman to walk away when u cant even walk away from ur own worse relationship?
I pity those taking advice from u liars..Take ur own advice first before advicing another.
Tpw, I don't think most of us were of the mind set that they shouldn't leave but we were mostly explaining why it's difficult to move on. Go back and read.
DeleteThank you very much.
DeleteGood questions.
May God bless you.
I just love you. Two faced people abound everywhere even outside the blogosphere.
Delete@president wifey , I didn't say dey should not move on ooo I only said its difficult to move on which is true. Den I advise dem to open dia heart for someone else to come in even if dey don't like d person ..... I ve been there thank God I found love, loving someone else was wat help me move on easily. ...... if e no dey hard to move on WE for no dey hear about heartbreaking story.
DeleteThe Presidents Wife hs spoken...gbam!
Delete#cece#
True change in people occur when they want to, and not when they were caught. In her own case, she's claiming to be a changed person because you caught her. That doesn't count to me. If she can continue to engage in her immoral affairs despite being engaged with her white wedding at hand, then you need no soothsayer to tell you that she's not gonna change even in the marriage. Its not a big deal to call off the wedding. People do it all the time. My mum once attended a wedding only to discover that it was cancelled on that day. She dropped the wedding gift she went with and came back home. Now, the lady that invited her to that wedding is married and currently pregnant. Its not how far but how well. Just admit that you've made a mistake, her bride price will be returned and life continues. You've not been joined before God. Finally, abstain from sin and pray the next time you want to make a choice of life partner. Only by the grace of God will you not make a mistake in marriage. You need divine guidance.
ReplyDeleteMr man please dump her silly ass. How can she still be doing runs after her traditional marriage? She can never and will never chang! I know some. "oneface " here will say forgive her because its lady dt is involve, hello will u forgive a male prostitute I mean a gigolo will u forgive ?
ReplyDeleteAm speechless but if our father in heaven can forgive us though
ReplyDeleteAbeg leave that your fiancee. It might be difficult but a failed relationship/ engagement is better than a failed marriage. Just tell her you can't deal with all that you found out and walk away.
ReplyDeleteTHE ADVOCATE
This life sha! Where we have single ladies praying for husband another still cheats upon say money dey as poster talk am, mtcheew
ReplyDeleteMy advise: don't marry her, if u go ahead cos of what people will say Oga u ll live with regret for the rest of your life, she can't change even if she had sugar daddy before meeting u she should have stopped when she got engaged but no she didn't u know why? She is covetous no matter what u do she won't be satisfied, just go somewhere far away from her and tell your family to hold on concerning the white wedding.
A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. With all the spoiling she still de waka then imagine when things are down with u. Hmmm alhaji go sleep for ur bed.
ReplyDeleteGo and marry your friend. She has been real with you which means she deserves you better. I have been there and I am fulfilled today.
Hoping and waiting for chronicles of hope from you. Wish u well bro.
Forget people here, most of them are living in had I know situation and wishing they have this chance u have now. It's still early to cut her off. Thank God no church wedding yet. Since u are feeling like this about her now,even if u forgive her, no trust again, u will never forget, Pls save urself and ur future sanity. If u happened to be my brother I will not allow u to continue with this marriage. I will campaign this for the whole family the marriage must not continue. Simple. Am so angry at this deception right now.
ReplyDeleteSome girls and runs as if tomorrow no dey. After every runs it's still the girl that is losing no matter the amount of money given.
Poster come here *E-hugs**
ReplyDeleteFor now pls call of that sham of a wedding , if ur girl couldn't stop it after u put a ring on it ...why would she stop it after ?
After her friend confronted her she ought to have stopped, u give her money and get her gifts... What does she need the sugar daddy for again?! Why couldn't she stop?
Personally I think she doesn't love you ... If she did , she won't stand another man who's not you,touching her . She's just marrying you to answer MRS...
Pls don't be a coward , don't run away ...tackle this issue head on as a man should - call of the wedding ... Till u can decide on the next course of action .
Good luck !
Dump her silly ass. Before any lady/holy holy here will say forgive her please answer dis question, can u forgive andmarry a male prostitute I mean a gigolo???? If not den stfo! How can a runs babe still be doing runs after her traditional marriage? She can never and will never chang!
ReplyDeleteA shore will not change unless God is involve. U r too young nd it's too early in ur relationship for such, I believe in second chance both honestly ur wife type will not ever change. It wld hv bn a different case If she had quit bf u met her. Biko leave her, you can also confide in your mother.
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DeleteDear Poster, since you are the man here, don't go ahead with the wedding please. Then again beg your female friend for forgiveness. And if you need a good friend and best friend for a wife, drop your number here. Let me wipe your tears away darling. I'm willing to settle down too.
ReplyDeleteGive it a try!!
Don't I love you? Sharp babe!! Hehehe.
DeleteIf he drops how would you prove you are the one? *thinking* you're not that sharp though....
I guessing this chronicles is coming from that bv that made a comment that he wish he never married a ph runs girl
ReplyDeleteUr wife is not likely to change like some runs girls do after marriage
If u can't totally forgive her don't go ahead with the white wedding
Have u cheated on her before?
If yes, just try and forgive her
Well I'm scared for the future that she may not change...just do whatever ur mind tells u to do
*I'm guessing
DeleteOga what are you exposing her to the world for? Are you less of a sinner? However, dump her for you own good; because with the way you're going about it, you may never forgive her or trust her...So save everyone the added, unnecessary, extended stress and resentment...When you men meet a good thing, you don't see it...
ReplyDeleteThere is no sense in this your comment abi na advice.
DeleteRunz girl is this you??
DeleteDont go ahead with the wedding. You are concern about people opinion. Think about yourself first, so sad you are deeply hurt. You perform your duties and obligation as her man, yet greed didnt allow her to live her stupid ways of life.
ReplyDeleteAbeg where in ph do u stay? I want to come and dash u resounding slap to reset ur brain. Laughing stock my ass. Marry her na and "go to d grave" wit d truth. 34 is close to 40 oh,u know what is said of fools at 40. Ur mumu dey stove dey cook small small.
ReplyDeleteMumu dey stove dey cook? Haahahahahaha.
DeleteChai.
Lmao
DeleteIf u take dat lady to alter and later divorce her with dis same reason God will not forgive u cos he show u all d sign! Am not against any man marrying a runs babe but dis one here is not ready to change.... I thought is lack of money that push dem into runs?
ReplyDeleteMarry wetin?! Bros, forget shame and dump that runs girl. Your job involves you travelling a lot and you can no longer trust this girl so the marriage can never work.
ReplyDeleteBen please call off the wedding. Here's my reason; you are rich and showers her with money and other goodies yet she keeps sugar daddies, it means that what propels her is not material things. She does it because it's her way of life. If she has not changed all these while she's been with you, and has continued even after her bride price has been paid, Bros she won't change after wedding. She claims the devil made her do those things; the devil has not been thrown into the bottomless pit, he is very much around and he will still make her do more.
ReplyDeleteStop bothering yourself with what people will say. It's your life. What will people say if you die early as a result of marrying a bad woman?
Forgive her but don't marry her.
1 million likes @d devil has not bin thrown into d bottomless pit!
Delete#MBG In SDK's Blog # #
Stop that wedding I rest stop that wedding or do you need a Restting slap?stop ladies have no shame !!! I mean what else do you want in a man??
ReplyDeleteMr poster u are just a small boy for talking this way.U called her a cheating wife? Did she cheat on u after traditional marriage? I gusg u snooped on her and at discovering her past u turn against her..
ReplyDeleteIf she slept with sugar daddies in d past why dont u forgive and forget? Its all in her past..
Ur friend dat revealed those things to u is not a saint..She is her bestie remember? It takes two to tango..She aint no better.If she is a sainr she wont have such girl as a bestie..
U never loved ur girl bcos if u did,u wont feel like cancelling ur wedding..Many men are married to worst women and they are enjoying their marriages.
If u dump ur wife and marry another,how are u sure that d next woman u will marry is a saint? If she aint a virgin then she could be worse that ur present wife..
Pls forgive ur wife if she is repent..U no holy pass..
And to those girls still gbenshing married men,una don see am? Sweet things dey purge for belle!
You sound like a runs girl
DeleteTrue talk, but if she continued her runs after trad, then no hope for her o. She'll never change. It's hard to know if someone is truly repentant when caught.
Delete@anon, she is not sounds. By their tot we shall know them. The prostituting wife.
DeleteTPW is a retired runs girl na. Is it today u know.
DeleteYou make sense!
DeleteDump that asawo. She wont change.
ReplyDeleteSend d bitch away
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm.... the people way get cap no get head to wear am,,, what of the one way get head nnko??? No cap for them... sir use your tongue to count your teeth.
ReplyDeleteIf she had confessed, then it means she is ready to drop her way of life... But the truth is that she is sorry because she got caught. Please trust me, miracle dont happen at the alter, she wont change until she wants to. A broken engagement is way way better than a broken marriage. So my brother, be a man and walk away from that situation u are about to enter. Forever is a very long time to care about people laughing at u. Talk to ur ex bestie and listen to what she will advice u to do in this circumstance... Its a pity u have been played... But it will get better. Cheers.
ReplyDeleteTrust in marriage is essential. If you can't or don't trust her now, you won't after marriage. You know what to do. Save yourself the headache before it's too late.
ReplyDeleteThey keep saying a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. We cannot emphasize this statement enough. Let the people that want to laugh, let them laugh. It is your life u deserve better from what I read up there.
ReplyDeleteDecember is still far, if you call it off now, they will talk about it, laugh and eventually move on. You still have ur sanity, happiness and peace of mind at the end of the day. Who have they not laughed at before. People will always talk, if u go ahead with the wedding they will still say things like *na ashawo this one go marry* u better call of that wedding immediately.
----Pesticide
Nawa oooo. Abeg make I use hand cover my toto. Na only she u dey fuck too. Bcos u catch her u want die. Re u a saint? Yeye dey smell. U should be happy u asked n she confessed to d crime,what she had denied it? She was just trying not to put her eggs in a basket as u guys know how to break hearts. Forgive her n give her another chance. Biko nnu
ReplyDeleteYou're a runs girl. We know your type. Olosho
Deletehmm..nawao
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Laugh at you??? Your problem is abt 'people laughing at you?' we talking life time thing you are talking laughter! Laughter that would last for months?? And a life time(except divorce) sh!t?... Pls! Don't use cos of what ppl (esp ur female friend) will think and remain in that dilemma!.
ReplyDeleteMove on! Search for good babes(true no one is a Saint tho). And I tell u, those two babes, are birds of a feather, they had a misunderstanding and let Shit out!...
This thing called marriage, no be only woman e dey hard for to find husby o. Man sef go wash eyes inside water find am!... ask the Lord to direct ur path.
guy just go ahead and marry her afterall you are not her full husband yet and you too dey steal small small from other toto. just make sure she will change and be a better person. goodluck to you.
ReplyDeleteWhat is full husband. Person wey Don pay bride price do traditional wedding no be full husband? Tell me where it is written in the Bible that u must do church wedding.
DeleteUWADIEGWU.Them h**s aint loyal.sips Palmwine
ReplyDeleteD truth is dat pple won't change until dey get caught, some pple deserve a 2nd chance...just pray, God will surely lead u tru d right path!
ReplyDeleteIf its a guy now all dis gwegwe will say u shud dump d fool... Let me chill and read wat our ladies wud say about dis now. Ure too good 2 marry a lady like dat, dump d bitch jare and look 4 sumone else.
ReplyDeleteIf u can forgive her and move on, then do it. If u can't, den don't. Don't mind Stella and others that will tell u not to, they r not in ur shoes o. Follow ur hrt afterall, if it turns out good, na u go enjoy am and if it turns out bad, na u go still suffer am
ReplyDeleteYour foundation is wrong. Marriage built on a wrong foundation can hardly last. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Take a break and sort out yourself and please don't be pressured to please anyone.
ReplyDeleteBetter end it now! It gets worse
ReplyDeletePls bro don't go ahead with the wedding I beg you. People will laugh at you? Let dem, you'll be ashamed? It's just for a while and time will definitely heal all those. But going ahead with the white wedding plans after u found out for fear of people talking is something you'll regret all your life.. remember it's till death do you and her part.. will you even mean that in d presence of God when u say it. Call your people and explain everything you found out about her and how she played you and all, they'll definitely understand. I know it's not an easy something, but it'll be worth d eternal regret and unhappiness you'll eventually face. May God guide and comfort you as u go forward.
ReplyDeleteThis is a train wreck waiting to happen. She's only following u for ur money. No iota of love for u...business as usual. She will give u HIV o. Tell your ppl and cool down for one year. Your wife will come
ReplyDeleteIf its a guy now all dis gwegwe will say u shud dump d fool... Let me chill and read wat our ladies wud say about dis now. Ure too good 2 marry a lady like dat, dump d bitch jare and look 4 sumone else.
ReplyDeleteWhat a chronicle! Oluwa help a brother
ReplyDelete@poster, even if her apologies are genuine u on your own can never trust her again. The worse gift is marriage is having trust issues. Pls back off!
ReplyDeleteMy brother you are an only child. You cannot afford to end up having a whore as wife, sister, mum, confidant??? MBA nu. Oga move on. Use your head. She cheated on you while in a serious relationship with you? You provided her needs. What exactly was she looking for outside. She must be the type of woman who isn't satisfied with one Dick. Nwanne RUN and don't look back. I'm a woman by d way.
ReplyDeleteAww,that u girl obviously does not value u,did u pray before and when u met her,some ladies are knives and not wives,my advice is for u to shift the wedding for now,pls don't let society and family pressure you.cause a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Thread wisely ,but don't allow ur family to know for now if not they would never approve off her if u eventually marry her.but d girl really fooled u and her best is,I'm afraid she is a very big liar and wud Neva have stopped if she was not caught. She is also greedy and won't be satisfied since u mentioned u we're even do in something things for her she still had her eyes outside, do minute u don't satisfy her dis kian geh go leave u.even if she was a runs geh she should have stopped wen she met a serious guy like u.Mr man shine ur eyes well.that's y as a man it's better u have someone before u have a good job,cause d most u wud get is a wolf who just wants to bear Mrs all because u look good on paper. I wish you the best poster
ReplyDeleteIf reverse was the case, am sure you will want to be forgiven, pls apologies to your lady friend, and work things out with your bride, no one is perfect, we all make mistakes, if she is really sorry and a changed person, just change the wedding date, move it forward, so that you can heal before the wedding.
ReplyDeleteThis will haunt u but nabbing her would make her humble. If u can, forgive her. If u won't have peace of mind, let her go. Nobody holy pass, forget the past n move on abeg. If she was in ur shoes, wl she forgive u?
ReplyDeleteThat bff tho, smh.
Well the signs are in your face.. Break soul ties focus on God . And hear from God for yourself. Fast and pray. Have you checked your instincts... Analyse yourself when your instincts warn you. BC emotions are tied you doubting yourself. Peace
ReplyDeleteHello Poster
DeletePrior to meeting your spouse, you ought to have a standard which you've set aside as the basis for your choice......a picture of what you envisage your wife to be; morally, psychologically n charcter wise which should match your personality. These values should never be compromised regardless of a lady's physical or outward appearance cos sometimes we are carried away by the physical, to the detriment of our values... If she falls below your personal values and your tolerance threshold has been exceeded/ battered then take a break and reflect.
Truth is, marriage is a lifetime commitment and from your write up, she would have continued her illicit ways if you hadn't caught and confronted her.....shows utter disrespect for the union you guys share and a lack of understanding of what marriage truly represents.
Regarding her actions, you cannot easily discern if its a case of nymphomania or just runs.....both of which are difficult to totally erase except she accepts God's divine intervention and deliverance. If she aint spiritually inclined then it would be extremely difficult for her to change her ways.
Final advice, take your time n search her soul for any sign of spirituality or inclination to the word of God, thats the only foundation a home can be built on. If she lacks this then you might just have to slow down on a whole lot. A wife is the pride of her man and vice versa......a marriage can make or mar the life of an individual......The word of God n morals form the foundation for the growth of kids. Donot compromise important values.
Li-yon Vls.
Wow.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, your happiness should be paramount to you, not what anybody says. Don't go ahead with that relationship because your future chronicle go be discussion continue, e no go end.
ReplyDeleteReally I wonder what women want. You have a guy taking good care of you without hitches and yet they. misbehave. please marriage is a life time affair. If you can't deal with it. den kindly take ur leave. Don't let any woman fast forward your death and those who'll laff at u if u call d marriage off will be d same set of pple to laff wen ur marriage hits d rock so let dem laff deir destinies away now
ReplyDeleteMarry or no marry...its up to you!
ReplyDeleteTo err is human.........
ReplyDeleteJust give yourself time to heal and grieve. You can decide to shift the wedding back a bit too to see if you can forgive her and if she truly is a changed person. If after the healing period and your heart still doesn't accept her, then do the needful (dump her cheating a**e)
ReplyDeleteIn all be prayerful so she doesn't use jazz to hook you. Girls are not smiling these days.
Good luck
**lululiscious**
Please forget about the relationship.She is a runs girl don't allow her to ruin you
ReplyDeleteHmmm, what is you marry her and she continues with the act?... think about it before proceeding because is better to regret for a day than a lifetime regrets. you still have a chance to decide now.#mypiecetho
ReplyDeleteEverybody get past na if she has assured u of change do u know if d next one u would meet be sleeping with ur friends or even ur dad love covers all things pls Let Love Lead
ReplyDeleteUntil you have peace of mind, do not say I do.
ReplyDeleteYou can choose to listen to the world or live your life.
Abeg ask for your bride price back. I nor fit shout
ReplyDeleteDo not call off the wedding, since she has apologized and u truly love her, what u need do is, change her, then bring both she n d friend that introduced her to u to reconcile, then the 3 of u in peace. Forgive her past n build a new person in her. Also do the test adviced by Stella, both of u.... U will live to enjoy your marriage afterwards. Bless
ReplyDeleteStories that touch. Such women will get pregnant for another man and pin it on her hubby. They never change. Don't encourage such when you have already seen the handwriting on the wall
DeleteMy dear, change what? Nobody can change any one. Change is a personal decision. What is he calling the 2 friends for? So they can continue their cat fight? It's best he takes some time off to think cogitatively. Cos he nids to make a decision.
DeleteOnly marry her if you have totally forgiven her and trust her. Marriage is no joke. If you're sure you can get married to her without resenting her last behaviour, go ahead.
ReplyDeleteIf not, please let her go. Marriage is too long to be unhappy. If the only reason you want to go ahead is the fear of what people would say then please end it. People will talk for a while and move on.
Please do not go ahead with the wedding until you sort yourself out.to be ashamed is better than to bite fingers of regret all your life.
ReplyDeletePlease get her tested as well.
Look for your female friend and ask for forgiveness as well.
Thats all i can say for now,let the others continue.
Stella has said it all
It's better you end the marriage now than to live the rest of your life in regret. She was a runs girl in the past some will say but what about her still doing the runs even after she was married traditionally? What justifies her wayward life and lies?
Please run to your female friend and beg for her forgiveness. Then call both your family and your wife's family and reveal everything to them as your reason why you want to end the marriage
please do not marry her
ReplyDeletejust go AND COLLECT UR BRIDE PRICE SHARP SHARP, THE Lord is with you
My niece cooked a delicious coconut rice that kept me drooling for more until I dozed off....
ReplyDeleteSorry for deviating...pls dump that ur woman abeg...u sef I feel like giving u a terrible knock on d head...y didn't u do all d snooping and testing before ur trad wedding...u just rushed tinz...are u frm Russia???
As soon as ur wife's friend told u all dis u would have swung into a big time investigation even if every accuse will always want 2 look or sound so innocent even when d crime is so glaring...as a guy u don't rush tinz when it comes 2 for better or for worse business o! Am tired of typing sef.
Money alone makes ur world go round women!!!
Make money and forget ur worries...life is not all abt getting married, popping babies and then being a PROFFESSIONAL HOUSEWIFE!
Hmmmmm, is deep.
ReplyDeleteLolah
My niece cooked a delicious coconut rice that kept me drooling for more until I dozed off....
ReplyDeleteSorry for deviating...pls dump that ur woman abeg...u sef I feel like giving u a terrible knock on d head...y didn't u do all d snooping and testing before ur trad wedding...u just rushed tinz...are u frm Russia???
As soon as ur wife's friend told u all dis u would have swung into a big time investigation even if every accuse will always want 2 look or sound so innocent even when d crime is so glaring...as a guy u don't rush tinz when it comes 2 for better or for worse business o! Am tired of typing sef.
Money alone makes ur world go round women!!!
Make money and forget ur worries...life is not all abt getting married, popping babies and then being a PROFFESSIONAL HOUSEWIFE!
But with all you claim to have done for her, she still found a way to cheat and be wayward! Just don't rush in marrying her yet, until u are sure she has stopped!! Also make sure u beg that ur friend oh!! She was only looking out for you.
ReplyDeleteThe thing is she won't change and that ur source too na d same thing but because she's ur friend, she genuinely was looking out for you. Your bride price can be returned.... that you know. So please man up and do The needful because if with how comfortable you seeming are and she still could not change and teriba, my brother it's not rocket science, shes a hooooooooorrray!
DeleteLMAO!!!!! GOOD FOR YOU MR MAN! LOL. When there are good girls up and down the whole place, you go carry runs babe. Im happy it is happening to you. On this blog they usually say runs girls make the best wives, lol, oga carry your best wife go.I am sure her fuck was out of this world, coupled with her brazilian hair and mac make up products, then her dressing na fire die! Plus how she made your family members fall in love with her, too sweet.
ReplyDeletekIKIKIKIKIki, I laugh in Spanish. Three of my guy friends that married "retired" runs girls don see am this year alone.They all found out that runs girls, prostitutes, ashewos and whores never retire.I would go and tell them I have found their 4th group member.When better girls would advise you and warn you, you tag them jealousy automatically! When better girls full everywhere, una no go gree, she no allow me do until marriage, I no fit, she like church too much I no fit.You have finally seen the one you fit na.
I WOULD WRITE IT SCREAMING, ONCE A RUNS GIRL AKA PROSTITUTE, AKA WHORE, AKA ASHEWO WILL ALWAYS AND FOREVER REMAIN ONE! It is only by God's grace few change and those ones you would see the glory of God written all over them. They don't resort to stupid tactics and they would tell their testimony anytime. Just to add a lady who finds it easy to open her legs for you before you are married to her would open her legs for others after you have married her.RUNS come in different forms.
YOU BETTER RETURN THAT BRIDE PRICE OR ELSE BONDAGE, SHAME AND DISGRACE WOULD BE YOUR MIDDLE NAMES FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.I never pity men that complain their wives sleep around, because that's how they met them, so they should live with them lik that! No God fearing, decent and disciplined lady would sleep with a guy that's shes not wedded to and she would stick to the one she married after marriage, no matter what.Abeg I don tire to they type. I have said my own
May God bless u. May your days be long. Don't pity all this men. They are foolish. Many runs girls I new back then in unilag. Just seeing them getting married. It's for this same reason. They are more attractive. Wear the best and have the best. The not so attractive ones will never find this good foolish men. I am no saint, but God knows o I have never slept wiv any one because of money. Na untop stupid relationship yet everything ends and I gain nothing. Imagine a guy telling me to bleach so I can look more attractive. Awon omo wobey! Useless someborrrries. Men keep marrying them oloshos, e go meet u for front.
DeleteLmao! Jhene pls take hi 5! A glass martini for u dear. The best comment ever!
DeletePlease do not try it. Don't commit yourself further. That woman may never stop cheating. Are u ready to live with such uncertainty and suspicions all your life?
ReplyDeleteMenn! This is dicey. I'll suggest you forgive her and go ahead with the white wedding if you are sure she didn't cheat on you with her big daddies all this while both of you have been dating and she has sincerely changed but if she has been cheating while both of you were dating then the ball is in your court...
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, your female friend deserves an apology.
You see this thing, na one chance. First she hid it from you, secondly when you confronted her with the after u spoke to your friend she denied it. Thirdly, she was in a relationship with you and continued in her runs life. See man this will not stop. When you travel, will she keep herself. You better let her go and reduce the divorce rate or else she will end up killing you and carrying your properties. You can forgive her but let her go and give the had I known story else where. Me no sabi wetin gals want again. If you are so stupid, go ahead. Many have survive to tell the story, but not all. Best of luck
ReplyDeleteWell, I know guys like you. With the good girls flying right left and centre, you are just attracted to these type of girls. You're just wired that way and you can't help it :)
ReplyDeleteAnyhoo, have you been 100% faithful to her? Not even sexting? If your answer is no, then you have no reason to judge her. But if your answer is yes, then I think you deserve better. And you should walk away.
Do Ask your female friend for forgiveness. But I can bet you that she knew ur babe was a coded runs chic from day one. She only got upset when your babe didn't stop runs after meeting you and getting all goodies from you. She might even be a coded runs chic too.
#IMO damn what anyone says. Put wedding plans on hold. Pray fervently about it. And don't listen to anyone but God. All the best.
Don't mind them. Looking for trophy wives. Idiots.
DeleteBut what do some women want? Incontentment is a big disease
ReplyDeleteThis narrative isn't a matter of things staying hidden. It's just pure greed. Once you've climbed that ladder, you'd keep wanting to climb higher until you get to the topmost rung. GREED!!
ReplyDeleteShe wasn't content.
Please don't marry her, cos marriage is forever, not just for few months ( meemee ).
ReplyDeleteThis is serious ooh,
ReplyDeleteIf she is still cheating after your traditional wedding(which ofcourse means you are married) that means there is a big problem.
ReplyDeleteI thought they said they do "runs" and date married men/sugar daddies because they need money to go to school,buy hair,cloths etc
Ask her the following:
Did she enrol for a programme you are not aware of? Wetin she dey find?
What is she using the monies she is getting from them to do?
Is her sleeping around a desire,a quest or an addiction?
Is the one you are giving her not enough?she needs more?
What does she really want?
Ofcourse I already know the answer to these questions,but seeing as you are still "emotional and confused" after seeing the handwriting on the wall,maybe asking her will give you closure. Thank you.
You two should iron things out before concluding necessary steps for marriage. Pray about it and talk hrt to hrt with her. Deep down your hrt if you know you can't forget about it or you can't love or trust her like you used to, please let her go and let both family know you cannot continue for some good reason. It is better to let go now than leave in a marriage full of lies nd deceits. Meanwhile ask ur friend for forgiveness and stay away from her too. I guess she's aware nd probably didn't know you guys will get these far.
ReplyDeleteOn a more serious note you two should move closer to God, if you love her ask God to help you forgive her nd her past. There's nothing new under the sun and everyone has got his or her past baggage. Even though I do not support are frivolous behavior. God will lead you right.
Na wa oooo shame os better than regret
ReplyDeleteForgive her!
ReplyDeleteMr ben marry me already... I have gone theu series of heartbreak.. u seem like a good decent man.wink. im serious... but biko dump her already...
ReplyDeleteMarry the wrong person is like a prison sentence, so better call the marriage off and start again. Who cares who will laugh at you? Perhaps they already are.
ReplyDeleteSome babes wld av evrytin anoda babe is lookin for and still be so dumb to appreciate. If u want to stay in an unhappy marriage go ahead. If not call a family meeting and END IT.
ReplyDelete"and thought she would change if I did marry her or show some commitment " The nos 1 mistake we human beings make. U aren't God don't believe you can change anyone. Dear poster please forget about society laughing @u society won't live with you. U just have to think deeply before doing this. Ehya sorry
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster u av to be at peace wit urself and ur wife b4 u marry her in church, and also talk to ur female frnd and apologise to her then u follow ur heart or guts I think they will be the best Frnd u can listen to...Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteHey I once called off an engagement cos I was gonna marry a monster who would have made my life a living hell. I called it off. Wasn't easy. Bore d brief shame n embarrassment esp after showing off my engagement ring at sch n giving clothes for asoebi out. N wedding ivs. Now it's a year behind me n I couldn't be happier. Was d best decision ever. Cos literally I would have married a beast n spent a life time crying. So dude let her go, won't be easy but u will heal. N learn ur lessons. N keep ur eyes open.
ReplyDeleteAre you still asking questions ni? I can't stand dishonesty and cheating. That's what is wrong with us, what would people say? Shaking my head.
ReplyDeleteAs far as I'm concerned..d fact still remains that she hasn't made up with her ex bestie and that still makes her a bad person..so don't marry her..tell her d wedding is off and watch whether she will turn a new leaf
ReplyDeletePls is that your female friend married if not,why didn't u date or marry her? Just my thinking. As for your wife call off the marriage and anybody that wants to laugh let them cos you own your life, if you marry her you would never ever trust her. Again and you would find yourself cheating. Whoever that cares to listen to what she has done. Which is your family and hers should listen. Pls do not make a wrong decision cos dis is a life time commitment, it's not something you should regret but enjoy. Pls my dear think about yourself not what people would say or think of you of which dat would just last for a while and case closed than you leaving with it plss
ReplyDeleteTHELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeleteAm so #speechless#
Cancel the wedding plans indefinately
And if u know u cannot bear the hrtache,please stay away from her. And don't live your entire life in regrets....she's a shameless cheat
She had gold (U̅) and was busy chasing after stones...
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeleteAm so #speechless#
Cancel the wedding plans indefinately
And if u know u cannot bear the hrtache,please stay away from her. And don't live your entire life in regrets....she's a shameless cheat
She had gold (U̅) and was busy chasing after stones...
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeleteAm so #speechless#
Cancel the wedding plans indefinately
And if u know u cannot bear the hrtache,please stay away from her. And don't live your entire life in regrets....she's a shameless cheat
She had gold (U̅) and was busy chasing after stones...
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Bros abeg Ben Jphnson... you paid her bride price and she is still doing runs? forget it man, she is going to continue. No matter how much love you shower on her, she is still going to continue. Will you be able to withstand it. Better forget the marriage and collect your brideprice back or yaffy it... don't dig your own grave...
ReplyDeleteOnly the strong forgives. But the person you forgive is she ready to change? Habits are difficult to change that's why you seek GOD in only you do. Since she continued despite paying her bride then she has to go dump her biko. Where she is from matters too
ReplyDeleteMy dear please prospone the wedding for now, look for an excuse to your parents that you are not financially buoyant at present and you have things going on at work. Please prospone this wedding for atleast one year. I know someone that did this bcos the girl found out the guy has a child before and dey needed time to convince the girls parents. You need to do intense prayer and fasting on this issue. Some runs girls make good wives , and turn out to be a blessing to dere husbands. While there are some that can never leave that lifestyle, they will continue after marriage and Kids. You need time n prayer to handle this. If after this time you are not comfortable in the rltshp, kindly end it. But you will regret just calling it off without proper investigation.
ReplyDeletePlease don't do the wedding by december.put her under probation till nextyear but don't let her know she's actually under probation. Try to find some excuse and also don't let your family member be aware of the whole situation.just tell everyone you want to put somethings together before doing the marriage.
ReplyDeleteDuring the probation period don't stop the way you use to love her,infact during the probation, don't stop the way you use to love her, buy her gifts etc so she won't notice something is on hot sit
So during this period try to make thorough investigation and if she fails again(even if it's just a cheat) please quit the relationship immediately..a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
I think you know what to do. I pray you have the courage to do it.
ReplyDeleteMenhh if she has ever cheated after traditional marriage then dont go ahead to
ReplyDeletewed her in the church cos she will always cheating in the future when ever the
marriage have settle,,but really you crazy?you should has investigated well be introduction or maybe her beauty carry away your brain to your manhood,simple
tell your parents what you have find out about her and listen there advice since
they are not the one that find her for you...,this what happen to men who dont know
how to find and talk to a woman for them........
from swiss
Mr Ben run for ur life,a cheat is always a cheat.white wedding will nt change a runs g
ReplyDeleteBaby
My brother,your wife to be is a very useless girl.She has a good job and you sort her out too,Ahhh!!!this one mouth too big.God forbid but if you hit a rough patch she won't be there to support you o.
ReplyDeleteWhat is the guaranty that she will not continue with distributing her pussy after marriage. My friend run for your life. Before she will give you disease. Return bride price and move on. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, tomorrow she might get pregnant for another persons child and pin it on you
ReplyDeletedunno what you mean by should you go ahead and marry her. You already married her the day you paid her bride price and did the trad. What you should be asking is if you should end the marriage. Well my advise... If you can find it in your heart to forgive her past (that is if her wayward lifestyle was in the past o) then go ahead, but if after the traditional marriage, she continued to be wayward, kindly get rid of her now that you can. A promiscuous wife can send a man to an early grave. What people will say shouldn't even be an issue at all
ReplyDeleteI don't think that ur woman loves you from d day one, cos if she does she would have ended all this nonesence the moment you guys made up your mind to get into something serious even if she is a runs girl... Pls take your, there is no need for you to rush into anything right now, @34, you are still young..... but your chick get long throat. If u no catch her, she for continue....
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all. Ask yourself if you can ever trust her again. Also ask yourself if you had not caught her would she have stopped. When her friend outed her, that was the perfect time for her to have confessed and changed but she lied and carried on. I also ask myself, people say forgive her past, no matter how bad. Can this be the cause of the state of marriages these days. Our parents never had "pasts" they behaved themselves and back then marriages meant something
ReplyDeletePresido wife, chop knuckles for your comment! A million likes!
ReplyDeleteJhene, i was liking your comment until you derailed! Why lay a curse? Who died and made you judge? How sure your mother did not open her legs before marriage? Please, zip up your sanctimonious mouth! All these e-virgins, primary and secondary virgins that will not let people hear word because they decided not to have sex, were you forced to keep yourself? Will it take you to heaven? Will it make you to have a rich and faithful husband?
Mr Ben, dump her stupid cheating ass! This type will give you another man's child to train!
My dear a brken engagement is better dan a broken ome...pls do not hold d wedding yet..take time to sort urslf out..i beg u..dnt do somefin u will regrt later dear..
ReplyDeleteBen! You need to tell your parents but find an excuse without exposing her true crime. If you want to be happy, you need to let go of the relationship, it's not worth it.
ReplyDeleteBest of luck with your decision.
The most painful part of your story is having to sideline your friend that hooked you up. You no try. Follow Stella advice and go and apologise to her. She could have covered up for her friend, but I see her as a good person that is why she tried to save you from eternal deceit.
ReplyDeleteSeriously I don't know what going ladies nowadays. A man will hustle hard to satisfy the girl. They will still mess up and come with crocodile cry "it's the Devils work!. Bro Pls don't go ahead with the marriage.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,forgive her but don't marry her.People hardly change.She is not a good woman.It's better you break this engagement and trust God for a good woman than marry her.
ReplyDeleteTalking from my own experience,I found out some things about my partner months after our introduction,I still went ahead with the wedding because I didn't want to embarrass my family.Fast forward to today,I wish I had called it quits cos those things still create issues in our marriage today.
You are lucky you found out.Please,be wise.
A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Once a runs girl always a runs girl, they NEVER change, She will bring in a bastard child , Why on earth will you even reveal the source of your info? Some men are just too stupid for my liking. SMH..People around you know she is a runs girl and are already laughing at you. DONT MARRY HER.
ReplyDeleteOnly MUMU men marry runs girls. God loves you, that is why you found out now.
ReplyDeleteBros are you sure you okay, This was the best advise Stella has given on a matter like this. Let her go. DO NOT MARRY PAY AS YOU GO. Must of diz 9ja whores ain't loyal be wise bruh.
ReplyDeleteThelma Enemuwe and her triplicate comments...
ReplyDeleteDear POSTER, I suggest u sit both friends together and hear what they have to say about each other in anger in ur presence. That way u'll know what's eating them up.
ReplyDeleteTruth is, there's no person that doesn't have a past. If she cheated while still with you, then u can take ur decision. But, if it's before she met you, then she may be a changed person. You also note that your female friend is no different from her bestie. They must have done things together in the past. Just investigate and know the source of the friendship gone sour.
Having done that, I'll advise u give both of them a huge space. It could even be that the whole thing is just a plan gone wrong. Your female friend may have wanted her to collect and leave, but u took her too seriously, and knowing the kind of prsn she is, decided to tell u d truth about her so u could back off, but u were still serious. On a general note, know what you actually need in a woman and go for it. Do not rush into marriage cos of family pressure. Better single than in a wrong marriage. It's a lifetime thing & u don't want to put your kids through the stress of a broken home. Note that a wife will also be a mother/role model to your kids. Think man...
All these PH oil boys, no mercy.
ReplyDeleteMarry her like dt, una like flash things. Once u see a runs girl, u will knw. Dy over dress & live above their means. How much does she earn? Dint u see her parents? Abegi.
Ur own hands re not clean 2, stop forming emotional guy. God gave her to u as a punishment for all d hearts u hv played with & d girls u hv cheated on.
As 4 dt ur foolish matchmaker friend, Do Not apologize to her, Na d 2 of dem dry runs togeda, only God knws y dy fought. She shudnt hv rat-ed her friend out like dt, jst to ruin her marriage. Babes be bringing dia fellow babe's down since d days of Sarah.
Go ahead & marry ur wide, she is Ur karma. No be PH boy u be? Abegi Na una bad pass
U av already married her by paying her bride prize and doing d traditional marriage. My ? Is,did she go for runs after paying her bride prize? Remember ur female friend warned u abt her but u didnt listen now u are now seeking for advice....my guy,follow ur inner instinct o.
ReplyDeletePoster get in touch with me I need to tell u "sontin".... call me 08060++++++
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ReplyDeleteCongratulations!
DeleteYou call her your wife, it means you are married already naaa...so u're now divorcing her!
DeleteYou are doing the right thing...wish you all the best.
DeleteGood to know.
DeleteStop looking for all these colorful girls. I'm not saying flashy girls are bad, cos I myself I'm very flashy. But look beyond the flashiness and search character. Shebi u said she was lying before? That was a red flag Bruv! In a relationship you don't manage! Are u in high school? Look very well in ur next relationship and don't manage. Once u suspect a rat, call it quits.
There are still good girls everywhere. So don't carry over this experience to ur next relationship. Take it as a lesson and believe that God will give you a good wife. And don't stop being a good man just because of one slut.
Lastly, pray about your marriage. Take it to God and he will show you your wife.
I don't understand why as soon as ppl fck up they start blaming Satan, let Satan be, even when he is on vacation and resting he has to take the blame for everything.
ReplyDeleteLook, DO NOT follow through with the wedding, it is one thing to have a past, but what is her excuse for continuing to sleep with outside men now that you are in her life? You are travelling and giving her money and wonderful gifts and she is still willingly spreading her legs for other men even though you treat her like a queen. You need someone to take a switch to your arse and beat some sense into you. If you can't satisfy her before marriage, how the hell do you think putting a ring on her finger is going to change anything, you are too naive about life and ppl. Your dick can't cool her, so let her go so she can fulfill her destiny. Ask you friend for forgiveness and consider the whole experience a learning experience. Sit your parents down and tell them the truth, tell her to tell her own family about the breakup or you will let everything out. Keep it pushing, your queen is still out there. Get down on your knees and thank God for revealing to you the deception and saving you from a future of pain and shame.
Good ending, thank you for bring able to talk to your family about it. You guys made the best decision. I guess she will have to deal with the shame alone. Hold your head up. You dud nothing wrong. You will find love again. She had it all but blew it. There are so many good girls out there who could have given anything to meet a nice guy but ashawo na ashawo. They never change. Did Alams son's wife not cheat. Guys stay away from runs girls. Please, go for the good girls whether they look glamorous or not. All that glitters is not gold.
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