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MOTHER IN LAW AS FBI OFFICER

Dear Stella,

I am sure by now you are aware the whole world loves your blog, no need for emphasis. I go there every minute but comments sparingly. Please i need your counsel on this matter; please don’t sit and read any comment bring out your red pen.

Ever since i got married i tell my husband everything about me, my family and friends, you know they say your husband is your best gossip partner. But he hardly tells me anything about his family. The few things i got to know i heard it from people who presumed i already know as a wife. I will just maintain as though i do not know.

Recently I was chatting with his mother, my MIL who stays in the village, she was asking me things about my family that i was shocked to know she already knows, Please note, my MIL is not my friend, i just give her respect due to her we only exchange pleasantries and she will ask after her grandchildren that it is all. I was not really her choice when i married my husband so we do not get on well but we do not quarrel either. 

We respect each other‘s space. The one that pained me most was her asking me update on my younger sister’s marriage. My sister’s husband is in court with his ex. My MIL was asking update on their case if it has been resolved. Not in this world will i want my MIL to know that type of gist about my family more so when there is no love lost between us. Also that type of story is not what i am proud to be telling people that my sister married some else’s husband you know, even though they are in court to dissolve the marriage already.

 They were already having problems before my sister came on the scene. Well i simply told her that they are working on it, she went ahead to ask me other things like an FBI who is on an investigative mission. I was not forth coming with elaborate answer.

Stella, I am a private person and it is only my husband and my best friend i gist with, i don’t have energy  for women and drama. That same weekend my husband also asked me what is the update on my sister’s husband’s divorce case with his ex, still reeling in anger that he is seeking an update to give his mum, since she did not get much from me. 

Meanwhile he overheard me speaking with my sister 2 days before the day he asked i am sure he was expecting me to open up as usual, but i did not. I just told him i don’t have an update have not spoken to her in a while on it.

My question should i confront him on why he is sharing my private information about my family with his mum, when he does not talk about his own with me, or should  i ignore him and zip my mouth going forward about anything and anything. 

 I am so pained, i never knew he had that type of time to talk and he does not find it worthy to talk anything with me. Any BV in this situation before and how did they handle it?. Please do not reveal my identity o, he comes to this blog too. And please no cussing, this can happen to anyone.

  

I had the same situation in the beginning of the marriage but i sat him down and told him how i felt exposed by his actions and he stopped it...Well he officially stopped it,he might still be hiding behind me to do it oh but as long as she doesnt behave as if she knows anymore its fine by me.

You are a mother and one day you will also try to poke nose in your Children's lives,it's factory reset in every woman,so how you deal with your mum in law now is very important.

Dont make a big deal out of this,have a heart to heart talk with him on this,do not be confrontational or abusive,if he doesnt see that he has done anything wrong or refuses to stop,just ZIP IT and he will get the message.

Zipping it should be limited,do not use your hand to ake up a sleeping Lion in your Marriage please.
Good luck love!