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Wicked Mother In Laws what do you stand to gain from messing up your children's Marriage?Mscheeew!!!

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MOTHER IN LAW DRAMA XXL

Hi Stella, I was the lady that called you from Canada, crying this morning. God bless you for the advice. I met my husband while we were doing our internship in LUTH and we are both medical doctors. He is a very considerate, nice and sweet guy. We got married in 2010 and luckily I got pregnant almost immediately.

His mum, who is rich was very helpful during our wedding and traditional marriage ceremony and when things were difficult, he always runs to her. She is very bossy and since the beginning of this marriage whatever she says is final. When we were processing our papers to relocate, his mum was against it from day one. His transcript had issues because his university mis-filled one of his results but we were trying to sort it.

She insisted that her son cannot follow me with our first son if he is not going to work as a Doctor. I begged, prayed and told him that we could call his school from here and get the transcript. I came first with our kids when his mother was on vacation. He later joined us and barely a month after he came, she had already started disturbing for an invitation to visit. People warned me against it but my husband had been complaining that the stress was too much.

Back home, we had two maids but it's different here, so I agreed. I was the one who got the information on how to send the invite; I even used my money to send it to her through DHL. We had already filled for her when I found out I was expecting our third child, so I was like help is coming because my morning sickness was terrible. Stella, since when this woman come, from morning till night, na tv.

We have dinning space in our house but for the three months she has stayed, na tray service I dey do. She doesn't help with the kids and she does nothing. I would go to work even when I am doing double shift, come back and my kids wouldn’t have had their bath or brushed. I will come back home to clean, bath them and start cooking for someone that had been at home all day. Before I forget, I am hypertensive and pregnancy makes it worse. When I am on the phone, she would start talking that I am always on the phone; I like running my mouth and all snide comments. When I cook and serve her, she will say this or that is wrong with the food.

The day I find little energy to clean the toilet, she will remark that she doesn't know they clean toilet in this house. When I am vacuuming, she shows me the spots that I missed. I am about five months pregnant and we have a small car that I bought with my money, when she came initially, I was like ‘mama sit in front, let me manage with the kids at the back because of the car seats’, since then, na back I dey sidon, squeezing myself with the kids because she no gree siddon for back seat again. She asked me to buy one medicine for her, before God, I forgot because I work so much at home after coming back from work. I am always wasted because I do only night shifts.

Yesterday, I greeted her when I came back from work but she didn't reply. I now smiled and said, ‘Mama, hope you are ok o’ and the next thing, she started shouting that I am wicked, I didn't buy her drugs. Stella, I don't drive, her son does and where they sell drug, you have to drive. I was busy apologising when she carried the old pack, tore it into pieces and when I wanted to pick it up and rush to the store, she said that even if I buy it, she won't take it, that I should thank my God she loves me but if I make her change, she will show me.

I forgot to add she is a white garment person and visits spiritualists like kilode. My husband was there when she was screaming at me but he said nothing. I had not even rested from work when I rushed out to look for the drug. I dey road dey cry, as police see pregnant woman dey cry, na him them ask if everything dey ok and gave me a lift to where I was going. I decided to clear my head so I stayed out for a while and my husband was calling me. By then, I had called my mum to tell her that this woman is frustrating me because when she does anything, I tell my mum who lives in the United States. 

When I cry to my mum, she will advise me to be patient but now my mum, who has had it up to here, said that it is too much and that she wants to call my husband to tell him to tell his mother to have pity on me. I am pregnant and working; I do more shifts than my husband and I take care of the kids. He should look at my condition coupled with my blood pressure issue. She no dey do anything but sit and order for tea after each meal.

That was when my husband was able to summon small courage for the first time since we got married to talk to his mum. Sometimes, if she don talk to me somehow, he will come back from work to see me crying and on one occasion, I told him that his mum told me something hurtful so he apologized. Well to cut this long story short, when I came back home with my eyes swollen, my husband called me and her, saying that he doesn't want any quarrel; that I forgot to buy the medicine and the next thing, my MIL started shouting that ‘sebi I can cry, I should cry blood, it's none of her business.  It is her right to send me anything; that she has suffered in my hands because my husband said he has seen me crying once and when he asked me, I told him that she said something hurtful.’ Mama started hitting her chest, saying that she has suffer and next thing, she begin cry.

My husband knelt down, started begging her and said I should apologize. Na so I begin dey apologise but I leave the matter because I was wondering who was supposed to beg who. Since then, me and my hubby have not been talking, he carries his face so I just told my mum and she said I should put it all in prayers that mama will leave before next year as her ticket reads May next year.

Abeg, I need advice cos na so so cry I dey cry. When I close from work dey go house, my heart go dey beat fast out of fear. Please, no cursing, just advice. God bless everyone.

*Advice already given on the phone....lol