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Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Anita Oyakhilome's Inspirational Post + Says She Is Not Ashamed To Be Going Thru A Divorce.

She says ''DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR BY LOVING YOURSELF''






A life absent of love or care can be hard to bear. Abandonment and neglect in a relationship or marriage would be detrimental to anybody. The question is why did you hang on? People have different reasons for hanging on to an abusive relationship. However, if you are staying to keep the peace or trusting God for a change some day, when you discover the unbelievable truth, it will become obvious that you need to assess your value and self-esteem. 

Tolerating abuse can rob you of your identity and you can lose your own personality in the process. I had reached the point of exhaustion, but thank God for the courage to move on against all the odds. 


It is a great weight on your shoulders to live a false life with false impressions, possibly to get the praise and applause of people. I mean who do we impress with living a staged life for the world to see in public, but an entirely opposite life behind closed doors? 

To love yourself you have to accept yourself for who you are, not claiming to be Mrs. Jones when you are Mrs. Brown or Mr Peter when you are Mr Paul. Be happy to be you and let others accept you for who you are. 


I am not ashamed of saying I am going through a divorce and I have lived as a single mother for many years. I was never ashamed of it. Friends and family accept and appreciate me for who I am and they are very accepting of me as I am of them. Recognize you have value and you deserve to be treated with respect. You must first respect yourself to know when to walk away from people who make you miserable and stay with people who love, inspire and respect you. Feel beautiful without searching for peoples approval, appreciate yourself.


It is time to make something out of your experience, financial loss, the end of your job or end of a relationship, I might appear to have lost everything in one package but life goes on. I use this as an opportunity for growth, and self-discovery. To be put down by your parents in the past or a spouse should not control your future instead begin a life long venture of personal acceptance and self-love. 



It is not a sin to love yourself, recognise you are God's natural given brilliance. The moment you love yourself, your self-esteem will grow in leaps and bounds. Fall in love with yourself and never stop working on the best you can be.


Culled from pastoranita.org


127 comments:

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    1. I love this woman



      @Galore

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    2. Tell all this desperate girls on this blog and also the married women that their husband has turned 2 punching bag!

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    3. I understand her! Pipu would be say a whole pastor wife! Its well! Let's pray for divine direction

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    4. New one!
      Self love above love for God and his commandments.
      Issokay!!

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    5. Blogging about your divorce or marriage issues is very unnecessary. Bridle your tongue woman. Thought you counselled thousands of couples having marital issues as a pastor? What's all these ? This woman really needs prayers. Where is your faith ma'am? You are a spiritual head and so many people are looking up to you. Don't disappoint God. This is your own cross, carry is graciously. Which person in the bible didnt go through trying times ? No need for this divorce or ranting on your blog. Read your scriptures again. Can't believe this is the pastor Anita I knew and admired. For the fact that you have millions of women looking up to you is enough to stay strong and pray for God to touch your husband. Talking like someone led by the flesh. Omg devil is really at work here.

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    6. U must really be daft...can u read at all?? Did u understand what she wrote before spewing the trash out your mouth..friendly advice work in living your life n not coming here talking trash abt someone else...ur opinion doesn't count

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  2. Those shouting divorce is a sin please come out and tell me if thes men of God will make heaven.......

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    1. Some people sid that? Daft people then. Even the bible supports it but with conditions

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    2. Shallap.
      No mortal can judge a mortal

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    3. Heheheh@ click_u rock so much!@ G_pharm she wasn't judging #ewu hausa#

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    4. Divorce is with the condition of infidelity.

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  3. I love and admire her strength and courage.

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    1. i hope enugu guys don't beat their women o cos my fiance is from there!

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    2. Wow, from her write up, it appears that the Pastor C was abusing her. Oga o, it is well with all of us.

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    3. With such a name, permit me to say you deserve more than a beating.

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  4. I love the fact that she is open about it. God bless you ma.

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    1. Dear Anita,
      It is your life, your marriage, your blog, your story, etc
      But the people who look up to you are God's people and for that please keep quiet and keep this off social media.
      Pastor Bebby and his wife had a similar if not worst case and I don't remember seeing either of them running their mouth or writing epistles on blogs and granting interviews. They both handled it as reasonable adults koz of the sheep under their fold and also because of their children.
      I am not a fan of Pastor Chris neither will I advise a woman to remain in an abusive relationship BUT because of the young in faith, I think it's best you keep your opinion to yourself. Apostle Paul rightly said " all things are lawful but not all things are expedient". Also about him eating meat sacrificed to Idols, he said it wasn't wrong for him BUT because of those whose faith wasn't as strong as his, he would stay clear from such meat so he won't be the one to make them fall.

      A word is enough for the wise

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    2. Thank you Gifted hands.
      I wonder what they preach in their churches especially during marriage counselling.

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    3. Thank you @Gifted hand. I don't know why they feel they need to be in the news immediately they separate or run into crisis. They should take time out and heal .Nobody is a superwoman. It's only normaly emotions will overwhelm you, but giving us the superwoman attitude immediately is a wrong mindset. Especially for other women going through this shit and thinking they are not getting it right. They don't need to feed the public with wash .

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    4. Very responsible and upbuilding testimony by a woman who has walked the walk. Other women and young girls need to hear this to better direct their lives; whether to marry or not to marry; being happy and a genuine person with healthy self esteem and respect for self and others. QED@atm

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  5. Beautiful writeup.

    BLW members, stop defending your ororo fried hair pastor, and accept the fact that their divorce is real. He's not without flaws. He isn't a saint *shinesteeth*

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    1. We never said he was a perfect person,we are all working towards perfection.even though we xtains are saints.we love both of them and d things that are seen are temporal as d bible says. All things are working for their good

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  6. Hmmmmmmm na wa oh! So does the church(Christ Embassy) now approve divorce???

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    1. We are xtains we dont approve divorce

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    2. Don't approve until someone ends up dead, either by acts of omission or commission.

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  7. hmmmmm.....true talk sha...Only God knows best

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  8. The grace of God is sufficient for us all. Better to be a divorcee than remain in an abusive marriage.

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  9. nawa o, isthis for real? ... not good for the ministry at all#jojo

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  10. Anita it has do ooo. sorry for your husband and let the matter go. stay strong

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    1. It has do Wetin... No be her blog she write am.......

      No be @SDK bring am come here



      Leave her alone



      @Galore

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    1. You are not a wise woman
      You are foolish and judgemental. There is no shame in divorce. Even Jesus acknowledged the ground for divorce. Who are u to judge Pastor Anita?

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    2. Don't mind this Nwa amaka very judgemental bitch.......am sure your life is sick......what should she be ashamed of? Am sure your mum is the type who will send her child back to a home of abuse and battery so u have inherited her twisted sense of judgement.....it is your type who blame women for being abused and think they did something to deserve it.....na your type I dey pray to see trouble for marriage then you can shut up with your judgemental self......be ashamed of your sorry arse.....ewu

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  12. People hold on and pretend just for the kids to have an ideal environment. (Ie if they don't know or see the abuse).

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    1. U must b stupd for dis archaic opinion. Iy women like u dat stay nd die. May ur abusive husband kill u nd ur kids will move on wit der lives.

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  13. Everyone here are now supporting d lady and her husband but wen Chris okotie was facing d same problem u all almost eat him raw with hateful comments. ...... who divorce 2time and who divorce once all na dsame. Divorce na divorce

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  14. I am not ashamed of saying I am going through a divorce and I have lived as a single mother for many years. I was never ashamed of it;

    Madam, since you are uttely shameless, would you be nice enough to tell Aguba Ndieze, who has scratching your couchie, or were you celibate the entire time and I am asking based on this comment below>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>



    It is a great weight on your shoulders to live a false life with false impressions, possibly to get the praise and applause of people. I mean who do we impress with living a staged life for the world to see in public, but an entirely opposite life behind closed doors? 


    Btw, I loved your rhapsody of realities and it's a pity, going by your submissions, that you obviously lied.

    You make the Bible verse about all having sinned and coming short of the Glory of God very real but Pastors make it seem they were without blame but I always knew better.



    Mrs Korkus, what you did to that Modupe post wasn't cool at all.

    Mother in Isreal Ezenwanyi!!

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    1. Much respect to you madam. Wen peeps attack your comment and extend it to your person I just wonder if they really get your point. I respect your deep insight(almost prophetic at times).

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    2. Ezenwanyi, You are full of wisdom, although I disagree with you sometimes.
      Pastor Anita be careful how you are writing about this divorce thing as if God has changed and supports divorce. Many are looking unto you.
      I stand on Jesus teaching on divorce in Matthew 19.

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    3. Do u read minds........ Well said ma

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    4. So on point.

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  15. Very matured and very well written.

    I do wonder how she kept her sexual drive in this long distance stage rship/ abi single motherhood cus winter tough ooooo.

    Unless she get low sex drive like some of us sha...

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  16. So you know, I hate divorce and your reasons for a shot at single parenthood is ridiculous.

    I hope there's no new guy somewhere..

    Btw, did Apostle Paul ever got married?..
    Pentecostal churches should be scrapped and all should find their way back to Catholic Church.


    Birthday gurl, publish my comments o..

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    1. Ezewanyi mechuonu there.....hypocrite....you hate divorce but steadily committing adultery in your marriage.....thunder fire u there...how is Anita supporting divorce? So she should remain unhappy for the rest of her life to teach people what? The Catholic Church is not the church that Christ taught...stop worshipping Mary and bowing down to her image.....a lot of you just attend mass daily without any relationship with Christ so don't come here and play holy...

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    2. Ezenwanyi, you have spoken truly well.

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    3. Catholic for life.

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    4. Ezenwanyi is Catholic???? At this moment I'm truly ashamed to be Catholic...because a true catholic woman with a sound spiritual background cannot display such level of irresponsibilty .....for whatever it is worth to non-catholics please do not associate every catholic woman's character with hers..their are still true christian women who fear God and serve him in spirit and in truth.

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    5. BTW shame on you Ezenwanyi..and guess what? I'm not coming back to read your useless reply.

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    6. Hehehehehe.peeps just be working themselves up over nothing. Did Ezenwanyi even say she's a xtian? Take her points because they are very sound.Catholic for life.

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  17. Hello stella and bvs.please I need your help.i graduated with a 3rd Class from oau.i'll love to go for masters.Is their any bv that did masters without pgd?please help me out...

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    1. Not possible dear.u have 2 do ur pgd first,outside 3rd class if you are switching from one faculty to another u have 2 dO pgd first.

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    2. No school will take you on direct masters. Better submit yourself for pgd first. That's a must for third class students .
      * Chai, but why you come fall your parents hand naa with 'first from the back grade'?If you wan do masters, better get off the internet unless when you are doing your assignments.

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  18. It is not a sin to love yourself, recognise you are God's natural given brilliance. The moment you love yourself, your self-esteem will grow in leaps and bounds. Fall in love with yourself and never stop working on the best you can be.

    This is your Flesh speaking Madam Pastor. I suggest you get a copy of a purpose driven life by Rick Warren.

    You need to re -discover yourself because you are lost.

    NB; I mean no insult ma'am.

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    1. How is her flesh speaking Ezenwanyi.be sensitive biko

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  19. BLW will neva approve divorse, pastor Chris isn't divorsing her she is, I no it might b difficult as I personally don't like d idea of a pastors wife staying away from her husband. And yes pastor chris has his own flaws too no one said he is a saint. If you find peace and happiness being divorse who am I to tell you not to enjoy it. And yes I am a BLW member so I dey pain Me well well. YahooGalNoLaptop signing out

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    1. Yes now...we know your way....Yahoo people full una church

      Pick a struggle



      Let @Pastor Anita be



      @Galore

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    2. What's divorse?

      Na so dem teach u for BLW?

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    3. So far bible approves divorce #Lobatan

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    4. My friend's hubby na pastor 4 Una church buh na big time pastor n a heavy womanizer.i had 2 run away cos of guilt..

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  20. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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    Oky seen....
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  21. @nwa amaka,why should she be ashamed? will you prefer for her to die of depression? is marriage the certificate to heaven? people like you are the reason why the Nigerian woman majority stay in broken homes thinking it will get better ,sad ,crying,dying in silence(yes it does get better for some).Are you even married? She who wears the shoe knows where it pinches O.

    listen, to me marriage is not a by force thing, it only works when both partners are willing to make it work and work at it physically and spiritually and CONTINOUSLY. sometimes its just not meant to be.
    Been married is not a compulsory identity that must be acquired.ITS NOT DO OR DIE !!!
    Answer me these;

    can you cope if your husband cheats on you continuously without regard?
    can you cope if you are basically married but living single?
    how do you cope if your partner does not feed your emotions positively?
    how do u cope if you are constantly been put down and made to feel less or not enough or someone that was settled for?
    listen woman I can go on and on but I am gonna leave it here for now.
    I advice you consider these and more scenarios next time before saying such.

    People just come to Stella's blog and be bullying others taking charge of their lives when they cannot even take charge of their own ....fill in the gap.
    rubbish!!!

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    1. Oga read BTW d line, no one is saying she should not leave an abusive marriage but Den again she should consider her position as a spiritual head that has pple looking up to her(if u read rapsody of reality u will understand better) she painteD a picture Dat her present status is contradicting now. Am not judging her but I think she shld do her self discovery quietly..

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    2. Onyinma how is she painting a different picture? Who told you pastors only preach about what they go through.....God gives them wisdom for people's lives so she can give insight on an issue that she has no personal experience on....pastors also preach about issues cos they counsel people and hear a lot of stories......the mfm oversear we all run to for deliverance today had no child for more than 10 years yet God was using him to minister to childless couples....she is sharing her experience to teach others and she has no where said divorce is good.....if she does it quietly how do others who do not know her personally learn? It is this same attitude that makes women die in marriages where there is no longer hope...

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  22. The truth is life must go on and your peace of mind is important. It is well.

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  23. Her husband really made her a single mother for years.

    A woman can withstand it but can a man withstand that? #ajuju

    God help us to study and understand your WORD not to be quoting what people said.

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  24. It takes a strong woman 2 walk away 4rm marriage, whatever d case maybe it is well.

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    1. I agree! I have respect for women who can get up and walk away!

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  25. Where are those Christ Embassy followers. Oyakilome is a serial cheat and womanizer. God sees all. By their fruit ye shall know them. God is exposing him.

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    1. You dey mind them....


      @Galore

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    2. @ anon 16:13, don't mind them. They see no fault in him...at all

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    3. God forgive them for they know not what they do

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  26. Anonymous 16:13, who told you that pastor Christ is a serial womanizer, better be careful with what you say.

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    1. Sharaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaap!!!!!!!!!!

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  27. HUSBAND, LOVE YOUR WIFE AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH UNCONDITIONALLY + WIFE, SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBAND UNCONDITIONALLY = SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE. Na una sabi where all these una Oyibo mentality of intolerance come from. Judgement will first start from God's house. If una like, make una crucify me for this comment. Anita should understand the effect of her so called blog of 'hopelesness' on other ladies and families having marital challenges. Her blog and information derived from it, in relation to her marital woes and divorce, can lead to other challenged marriages falling apart, especially for those who see her as their role model. She might see herself as a voice, a strong lady, a victim and be hailed for speaking up against abuse, 'dumping' Pastor Chris' 'cheating ass' ( well, I don't know if he cheats), throwing in the towel, etc. But, her actions via blogging about her failed marriage may produce a negative effect on certain marriages. Women are getting more mentally empowered to walk out of their marriages and it's a pity that the modern Church has failed in this regards. And, I'm no Christ Embassy member, please.

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    1. Stupid comment hiding under bible quotes......stop misinterpreting Gods word with your judgemental self......so if the husband stops loving her she should remain there till he changes....how will it produce a negative effect on any marriages? A woman only leaves a man when she is truly fed up.....is it not here we read stories of women beaten several times or abused who go back to the men? Modern church is not to blame for women refusing to no longer tolerate the bullshit from men.....women are refusing to live the rest of their lives miserable in marriage cos society has still refused to teach the men how to love their wives.....it is the women who do all the work and that is not what the bible u brandish around says.....pastor Chris has failed to be a man and love his wife so don't blame her for getting tired and leaving....and pls stop the lies, your judgemental self is a member of Christ embassy.....

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    2. Shut up fool...is the being there the cause? You are not there, send her to stay alone abroad and on top of that be cheating with sisters in church.....are u mad? Did she fCe same issues with your mother? So your ugly mum is now more virtuous? In your stupid mind a pastor cannot genuinely love a beautiful woman? Where u there at the beginning to know he married her for her beauty? Gerarahia fast

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    3. Exactly! She's going about it the wrong way, her words will end up producing the wrong results.

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  28. I think the reason people are surprise about this is because Pastor Chris does not talk about his marriage to the congregations. I mean telling people a bit about it. Let me say something here, the day of my pastor's bday, the wife came out of the congregation and said you can be very very annoying, and you are also wonderful. My pastor stand on stage and tell us that no marriage is perfect, everyone is trying to blend. So I think that is where Pastor Chris got it wrong. He painted his marriage like they do not quarrel at all. I think our pastors should try as much as possible to let us know that it's not going to be easy, but it will worth it at the end and stop given us wrong impression about it

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  29. She damned the odds. I have lived as a single mother!!!! Chisos.

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  30. I am here mr anon 16 : 13 he hasn't screwed me yet so I don't bliv you.

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    1. Ask your other 'sisters'...your definitly not his type

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    2. Hasn't screwed you YET. Okay. Unless you no fine or get the attributes wey go attract am where you dey. Lol

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    3. Hahahaha anon go kill me with laugh!!!!

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  31. This is the reason why i dont have a lot of female friends and ill tell you why.

    Two people are going thru a hard time but its the wife now thats going abt talking and posting. Even the news publication was triggered by her.

    Im a member of CEC so darlings be very carefull what you say about my man of Good coz every tounge that rises against him in judgement shall be condemned. Calm down and hold ur horses.

    Im very critical about diagnosing issues that happened behind closed doors. Pastor Chris is a MAN OF GOD. i dont expect anyone to believe or accept it. His job description is way bigger than being a husband or a father. they were apart for a long time. alot is expected.

    She would go into bouts of depression. It wasnt easy. This "Abuse" shes talking about i dont know what it means. But understanding her husbands position and his effect in peoples lives she should calm down with her posts.

    Even david coverted another mans wife and killed him. It was soo wrong and he was punished. But that dint stop him from being the apple of Gods eyes.

    let he that thinketh he stand take heed lest he falls.

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    2. Im very critical about diagnosing issues that happened behind closed doors. Pastor Chris is a MAN OF GOD. i dont expect anyone to believe or accept it. His job description is way bigger than being a husband or a father.

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      My dear, his job description is NOT bigger than being a father and a husband.
      During my WOFBI call, I took a course titled " The Minister and His Family". These two ( your family and your ministry) goes hand in hand. Even Paul said in his Epistle that among the qualities one would / should look out for in a bishop, Deacon or whatever is one who is able to manage his household because if you cant manage a unit as small as a family, how on earth do you intend to manage the Church of Christ?

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    3. Were u living with them? Pls shut it! Ike mbe

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    4. Anon 17.38 are you seriously for real?
      Job description bigger than being a father and husband???do you realise a man's first ministry is his family.
      if a man knows he cant handle a family? He should not marry or have children so no one suffers...every child deserves a father not a visiting father.
      it is not compulsory to marry you know!

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    5. Thank you very much my sister. As a daughter to a mega church pastor,I know how extremely busy this pastors are.while growing up,my siblings and I saw my dad like 2 days in a week.sometimes once in a month,when the church was still growing. But my mum prepared her mind for all this. She's not the most beautiful woman in church,but she tries to handle flirtations from other women,and women trying to show they could be better off as the pastor's wife. Their marriage was not the best too.quarreling and fighting was the order of the day at one point,but with prayers and good counselling,they worked things out.When they advice these men,with hope of being pastors to marry a woman with a strong spirituality rather than beauty,they won't listen. Now look at what this one is writing on blogs. He can't be there for u all the time.He's a father to a million people. You can't come between him and God. Keep writing ok. Your eyes go clear when he marries a woman better of than you,not necessarily beautiful. You are just gathering strength because you think he can't remarry abi??. Some pastors wife are not meant to be abeg.

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    6. Anonymous 22:01 pls shut up....your mother chopped shit so Anita should do same.....how dare you judge her.....am sure your mum could not leave cos she had no dime to her name and must have been staying to save face......then again did she have the same issues as Anita did.....if your mum is the saint u claim tell us your fathers church make we open una yansh here......stupid girl, your mum suffered in silence so others must do same mcshweeeeeeeeeeew

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    7. Anon 22:01. Usu men that behaved like ur father and probably pastor Chris are selfish. Yep, I said so. Your first responsibility as a man is your family. Any other thng is secondary.

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    8. The bible said clearly that a minister that has no control over his household is not worthy to stand on the altar of God...don't even go there...Chris Oyakilome go and fix your marriage first!!!

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  32. Dear Anita,
    It is your life, your marriage, your blog, your story, etc
    But the people who look up to you are God's people and for that please keep quiet and keep this off social media.
    Pastor Bebby and his wife had a similar if not worst case and I don't remember seeing either of them running their mouth or writing epistles on blogs and granting interviews. They both handled it as reasonable adults koz of the sheep under their fold and also because of their children.
    I am not a fan of Pastor Chris neither will I advise a woman to remain in an abusive relationship BUT because of the young in faith, I think it's best you keep your opinion to yourself. Apostle Paul rightly said " all things are lawful but not all things are expedient". Also about him eating meat sacrificed to Idols, he said it wasn't wrong for him BUT because of those whose faith wasn't as strong as his, he would stay clear from such meat so he won't be the one to make them fall.

    A word is enough for the wise

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    1. Exactly! @ Gifted Hands. God bless you richly. I'm not a Pastor Chris / Anita fan. But, this wife of his and her so called blog will end up doing harm to other believers and their homes. This is to all Anita's advisers, Tufiakwa! Y'all subtly encouraging troubled women to walk out of their marriages. Now, other weak Christians will have a justifiable reason for divorce - after all Pastor Anita in her write up said ....... or did ...... Negative referal point. What happened to tolerance? What happened to forgiveness? What happened to praying in secret? What happened to strenthening others in their weaknesses? What of long suffering? Why have we taken for granted the death and suffering of Christ on the cross? The Bible is our standard. Why are we forsaking the Biblical standards for Christian living? Judgement day shall be shocking. Pastor Anita, God will hold you accountable if your blog or website and its contents lead people away from the way of God - his Word. I weep in my spirit for the current Church. We've gone astray. We have! Father, please forgive us.

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    2. You couldn't have said it any better

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    3. Gbam! @gifted hands. I was a member of CEC and a staff for several years, i heard and saw stuff that wasn't becoming of Christians and couldn't wait to leave. I certainly don't support her husband's attitude towards their marriage and I've always been on her side but certainly do not support all these irrelevant yansh opening, now I understand why her husband says she's a bitter person.
      It's over so get on with your life, make yourself happy and stop referring to the past.

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  33. This is the reason why i dont have a lot of female friends and ill tell you why.

    Two people are going thru a hard time but its the wife now thats going abt talking and posting. Even the news publication was triggered by her.

    Im a member of CEC so darlings be very carefull what you say about my man of Good coz every tounge that rises against him in judgement shall be condemned. Calm down and hold ur horses.

    Im very critical about diagnosing issues that happened behind closed doors. Pastor Chris is a MAN OF GOD. i dont expect anyone to believe or accept it. His job description is way bigger than being a husband or a father. they were apart for a long time. alot is expected.

    She would go into bouts of depression. It wasnt easy. This "Abuse" shes talking about i dont know what it means. But understanding her husbands position and his effect in peoples lives she should calm down with her posts.

    Even david coverted another mans wife and killed him. It was soo wrong and he was punished. But that dint stop him from being the apple of Gods eyes.

    let he that thinketh he stand take heed lest he falls.

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    1. Is he different from Pastor Adeboye?They should borrow small brain from these other pastors that have weathered the storm in their marriages .They should be shining examples for the laymen in their churches. You are not justified in what you say Biko. Then tomorrow can any of them stand in front of the congregation and preach against divorce?

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    2. @Anonymous: Did you say you are a member of CEC, and Pastor Chris never talked about the divorce?. I don't think you are a member at all or not a regular or committed one, because if you are you would have heard Pastor Chris talk about it on two communion services and how he spoken about his wife of over 20years and them mother of his kids. I am not supporting anyone, but the way he handled this from the start was bad. So before you open your mouth and comment get your facts. For those raining curses on the wife, I pray you, your Sisters and daughters experience what she experienced either good or bad, which ever one you believe she experienced. God bless you all

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  34. Lmao @ buying a copy of purpose driven life.That's rich coming from you.

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  35. I love you Pastor Anita
    My prayer for you is for God to settle your home amicably
    May the peace of God that pasteth all understanding fill your heart in Jesus name
    This is not about you and Chris but Christ Jesus
    Take note , whether you stay to fight for your home and the course of Jesus Christ or divorce him , it wouldn't change the fact
    that there's a battle fight , you are not alone in this . There's too much going on out there


    Pastors are human too , be mindful of where and how you meet a pastor/Husband
    Most of these girls who breaks peoples home are after any man of God that is alone in the office/Home
    These girls are ready to have quick sex any where without shame and a man is attracted to what he see
    It takes discipline for a man to stay focus , they are every where .
    Girls/women who are ready to get rid of the Pastors wife and take her place before members of the church
    All for Money

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  36. This member of CEC are the ladies who buys the pastor presents to sleeps with him
    Do not judge a woman in pain
    Shameless people with mini skirts

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  37. Ma,with all due respect to u,i feel u should keep ur marriage and all that happened of social media.ma,pastor is not talking,not because he also dosent have something to say,but cos he respect you!he dint file for divorce, you did!why dont u just respect yourself enough and sort this out of social media ma!.

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  38. They wrote rhapsody of realities feeding us with that. Now the story has changed. It is now an inspirational blog .Ana m anu. Akuko na egwu .

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  39. You better be ashamed.. you pastors set a bad precedence..

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  40. Even God will be happy that you left that deceitful man. Can that lady with Yoruba name take over now? Chris will never mess with that one because she knows all his secret. Including his do called miracle.

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  41. Pastor Anita,i love u. We love u. We keep praying for u. Pst Chris we love u

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  42. The truth of the matter is that God hates divorce!! However, since humans decided to become so selfish and wicked, divorce can be inevitable in some situations. Notwithstanding, all Pastor Anita has said above, is not founded in the word of God. If you choose to follow Christ, follow with everything you have got, it's not by force.

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