Where are the singles in the house that are hoping to be in a defined relationship? Please step forward and learn some of the things that might let you know whether you are in or out...or in the friend zone corner!
So you've been dating your boo (or so you thought) for sometime now and you thought he/she is "the one"?
Or you are friends with this person and you are thinking that you can win them over And then he/she ends up telling you"I like you... but, not in THAT way. You're like a brother or sister to me..."
Sound familiar?
Have you ever liked someone so much that you thought the best way to get him/her is to be their friend? Maybe sneak in through the back door and win them over later...
Read my lips......YOU - ARE- IN- THE - FRIEND- ZONE!
Here are the common signs that show that you've been friend-zoned.
**Sign 1: You're In The Friends Zone if they call ONLY to ask for a favor...
Do they ONLY connect with you when they need something? Like, ask you to drive them around, pick up some stuff at the store, or even ask you to go shopping with them so maybe you'll buy them something? (Girls do this more).
And you do all these things for them...thinking it's their way of spending quality time with you. You're getting closer...
WRONG. They are only using you - and you're a handy "orbiter" that they can depend on because they know how you feel - but won't reciprocate.
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**Sign 2: You're In The Friends Zone if you get a late reply. Again and again.
You send them a message on the phone, Facebook, or Twitter and they don't reply. You wait for hours, resend your messages and still no reply.
And when they finally do, you get a short one-word responses like "yep", "okay", "fine". That's a sure sign - you're friend-zoned!
C'mon, if they were hot for you, they'd be excited to hear from you. They'd use any excuse to communicate with you. They'd jump on it and reply QUICK because they are excited and anticipate hearing from you.
If they don't act that way, then that means that they're not thinking of you and don't feel that rush when you contact them. And that's not a good sign...
***Sign 3: You're In The Friends Zone if they tell you about someone of the opposite sex they like...
If they talk about another guy/girl they like in front of you, that's a sure sign that they see you as only a friend. And if you're thinking that she/he is doing that to make you jealous... then think again.
What you'd want is for them to know that you're there because you like them. If they really like you back, they'll try to get to know you – and you'll NEVER hear about any other guy or babe.
Next time this happens, take a deep breath and decide if you belong in this zone and if it is worth it,if not please cut your losses and walk before you begin to look like a chump.
***Sign 4: You're In The Friends Zone when they introduce you as a "friend"
This is pretty much the clearest signal that they are not attracted to you.
You see, a woman tells her girlfriends about the guy she likes whenever she talks to them. And when she introduces that guy to them she'll never say "he's my friend" - because she wants that guy to like her back! NOT think of each other as just "friends."
If they like you, you'll see their friends giving you that look and will even tease you both about being together.
That's just how straightforward everything is.
So, if you hear the words "Meet my friend Joe or Vicky" then you are just a friend!
**Sign 5: You're In The Friends Zone if they don't flirt back...
Have you ever noticed her treating you like the way she treats her girlfriends? The way she hugs and kiss them when she greets them.
Do you try to flirt with her? Touch her arm, her hair - and she's blind to everything you do? She laughs and teases you just like she does with everyone else? Friend zone alert!
Remember that that most important indication of interest from a partner is their BEHAVIOR. If they are aren't doing the things people normally do when interested, then they are just not into you.
It's up to you to treat them like a stock on the market that you're investing in. When they refuse to give you the return you demand, you need to "sell" and go find an opportunity that's going to pay you dividends.
Anything less than this is only going to leave you emotionally bankrupt at the end of the day. And you deserve to get a partner that wants you just as much as you want them.
''Put simply, people value what they work to obtain and invest in. They have more attraction and respect for individuals for whom they perform favors (Jecker & Landy, 1969). They also find relationships more valuable and commit more fully''.
In Conclusion: The friend zone can be avoided. All it takes is a little personal development to be more attractive, finding better partners who "fit", being a bit more assertive about what you need, and/or motivating others to give back and invest in you too.
Are you in love with someone who has put you in friend zone and you are hurting or pretending you dont know and wishing for things to change?..Do you give them sex as a bait?
Honey put on your running shoes and cross over to the next Boulevard!
Easier said than done right?Well you are the one who is in a friend zone,not me!
*Side eyes to all those in friend zones right now*.
Nor be small frnd zone ohhhhh.
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
My heart is too cold, no tym to love who hasn't shown enough love.
DeleteAs a guy i hv been there 1 or 2 times until the real opportunity calls. If you have never been there then you have not prolly been with much ladies. You can't chyk all the ladies in the hood. Just be friend zoned n attack from the zone.
DeleteHonestly some are even in parent zone. You'll hear something like 'hey, meet John, my school father or campus father.' The guy too will be smiling like mumu
DeleteFriend zone! Isn't that bad.
DeleteMe likey!
The F-Zone is more of a backup plan zone to fall back to.....
DeleteI personally friend-zone, sister-zone or aunty-zone any lady I come across no matter how attractive they might be. It helps concentrate on one's marriage.
DeleteDo it at the very beginning. It gives peace of mind.
I gladly recommend it to the married brothers in the house.
Aww @d'arc that's so awesome. ...!
DeleteNever been der n never will.
ReplyDeleteSide eye 2 all the single ladies........
DeleteShine your eyes ooh 2 avoid ending up as gwenz!!
Don't keep hoping for nothing,the earlier the better.
Friend zoning guys is my talent...... its like a superpower. Hehehe
Deletegood to know
ReplyDelete#GODWIN™
At dis my age, if I can't tell when I'm being friend zoned, then I need to go check myself. Never encountered dat tho.
ReplyDeleteHow old are you o? 50??
DeleteMstchew
Thank goodness nobody is friend zoning me Neither do I have who to friend zone.......
ReplyDeletePls I need the ihn mailing address plssss
ReplyDeleteEveryday same story, ihn mailing address.
DeleteBelow your comment box,u wld see the mail there
DeleteThumbs up
ReplyDeletee get one girl way be one put me DAT side omo I comot body o no be small
ReplyDelete#GODWIN™
lmao danny fisiye sorry u just have to be told d bitter truth.... My dear you'll keep being in the friendzone till you grow up nd achieve. No offense meant hun.
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ReplyDeleteAm here too read comments cos I hv neva been friend zoned
there's one lonely rich man who has insisted on being my friend and I have friend zoned him.
ReplyDeletewhenever dh is at work we shop n shop n visit beautiful places since the beginning of the summer.
I've used this man so much that I even supply him with unnecessary gadgets from my ."plaza" and he pays double.
if a woman is beautiful she can get away with just anything especially from African men and did I mention he's yoruba?
na only demo dey plan chop another person wife.
lol
igbo sense
Clap for yourself. Achievement.
DeleteM- Amie , welcome back ooi ! Where in the world have you been ?? I missed you ooi
Delete@M-amie, but you forgot to tell us that he also pound your toto.
DeleteTrust me Ma'am one day monkey go enter market to come back go be wahala. A lady has put me in that zone and whn i found out i decided to play along for a very long time (distance myself from her but i kept the channel open) waiting for opportunity to avail. Till one day she had issue with her bobo and felt i was the right guy to talk to(tho i am), i thanked goodness i was in town so i invited her over and she later delivered me from the zone she kept me after i had provided a shoulder to lean n cry on since then we have been in a zoneless friendship. Zone or no Zone Persistence is the charm.
DeleteNa from village dem do you strong tin.maaaaami
DeleteBiko who had the address if DAT Pastor that delivered a madman at a bus stop in Lagos few weeks ago.
DeleteWe need his prayers on did blog.
Dem boku for here.
Married woman friend zoning .. I call dat ashawo in disguise ..watchout 4 sd outcome..sha send chronicles den and condemn ur DH.. Smh
DeleteOponu, continue with your hatred towards Yoruba and let your people continue to run to west for survival.
DeleteDis is so true.. It happened to me once and I will never allow it happen to me again... I will never be friend zoned....
ReplyDeleteYou are in the friend zone if he didn't officially ask you out simple. Don't assume you're in a relationship with someone because you're straffing yourselves regular.
ReplyDeleteThat is the mistake most people make.
You might be good for bedmatics but you're not good enough to be a companion of heart matters.
Well, the asking out part, not always even though I'm traditional oh! You have to clearly state your intentions to avoid yam no done talk.
DeleteWell said.
DeleteWhat if when he asked you out you were in a relationship with some1 but you both kept in touch
DeleteNow u guys b straffing your self n he has not said if are his girl but keeps saying he wants a long term thing wif u
Anonymous 16:01, stop straffing him till he commits and says exactly what he means by long term cos it could mean long term bedmate or long term side chic.
DeleteSee men will say anything to keep pounding that hole, they can even tell you they'd kill their mother for you if you ask them during the process.
Do not be carried away by the sweet nothing's of men.
Anon 16:01, he is just using u oh,men are full of lies and tales woe.
DeleteWatch ur back,fuck him wen toto scratches u,use condom bcos of infection from his dirty prick.
Good luck side chick.
Word. He who has ear let them hear.
ReplyDeleteAbi oo.
DeleteIf only they will hear.
Seems a very painful and disheartening zone to be in.
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ReplyDeleteHaha....thunder will help me fire any idiot that wld want to friend zone me in the future
ReplyDeleteYawns.
DeleteGod help us abeg. All these relationship matter tire person. It is well.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I guess it hurts admitting you've been frndzoned that's why most people choose to just remain there than facing the reality in it
ReplyDeleteHello somburry,
DeleteFrom the little comments i just read on this thread, it seems all of us have grossly misunderstood the word "Friend Zone" or it concept as this thread tends to accentuate.
Friend Zone is not a bad street to live. It only became bad and may eventually turn to a raging destructive volcano if you that reside there is IGNORANT and oblivious.
Careful analyses of the concept has shown that i can only be Friend Zoned due to my actions and inactions as they reflect my excess and overtly fantasies about my Subject.
I can choose to be Friend Zoned if am so beclouded with false fantasies not to notice the tilted affections.
calabar dog detector..Empress Ekuke
DeleteI'm Allergic to friend zone, like I get weird rashes when a girl is tryn to friendzone me
ReplyDeleteNobody go gree say them done friend zone am b4 now o. Na the way na. *just kidding jare*
ReplyDeleteMy sister the thing tire me ooo. Everybody forming "I hv never been in the friend zone" yet na them dey "mugu zone"
DeleteWhy do you have to say "just kidding"? For once you were bold enough to speak your mind abi you forget yourself? When you come remember your character you quickly add JUST KIDDING
DeleteI like you Cynthia but no one is this perfect ok?
Thank you Olori
DeleteOlori,thanks for replying cynthia..i pray she lets her guards down one day and truly say what she has in her mind.. The over goodgirl is already too boring.
DeleteVery true. Simply put...Be assertive without apologies.
DeleteMy bae is not in town and konji na bastard !
ReplyDeleteI have this formal SD that have huge massive dick, my body is calling ooooo but I want to surpress the hunger cos I'm more than this! ! Offer a prayer not a curse.
Stek
Are you married? If you are not, you better go and fuck the living day light out of that your pussy and stop the pretence because you go still go do am
DeleteGOD strengthen you to overcome that which threatens your morals and relationship , in JESUS MIGHTY NAME, AMEN
DeleteI no kukuma get anybody that is or wants to friend zone me. Friend zoning someone is very easy to know and most of them come with the intention to chop and clean mouth.
ReplyDeleteNever been in such position...
ReplyDeleteMe too
DeleteAnd I've never put anyone is such a position either.
It's either I want you or not.
Bvs will now come n be forming oh nah!ive never been friendzoned b4*anam anu! Hmm stells wht of wen uve been in a r/ship for over a year and just wen u feel u guys shd be thinking of d next step he goes 'ooh babe I love u n we r compatible n shii bt I'm confused'...#murderfucker!!!
ReplyDeleteLmao dat No 2 sign, I do dat a lot hoping 'dey' will grab. But for where? Hehehe
ReplyDeleteTo be friend zoned
ReplyDeleteis like window shopping
your dream outfit.
Seen but can't have.
A very lollipop SituationShip!
True that.
DeleteA situation ship it is.
You see, sometimes we don't set out to zone them, they zone themselves..
ReplyDeletePoint 4, very valid. In fact if your partner introduces you as a friend, you're not even in the friend zone, you're in the OYO zone.
Lmao@OYO zone
DeleteThe #Sign 2 is so common. Not just friends but family members.
ReplyDeleteIt's well. God will surely perfects all that concerns me.
*my palm oil concotion rice is ready* back to read comments.
@manna bee, so no be only me dey cook palm oil concotion sometimes. Lmao.
DeleteBack in da days on campus we called it WIN-DA-WAR, over hunger. Hehehe.
DeleteHappy munching.
Friend zone? Lol. What about neighbor zone or church member zone?
ReplyDeleteBwahahahahhaahahhaahhahahaaha!!!!!
DeleteA girl tried it with me but regretted it so badly because I ended up dating her bff, by the time she confessed to me that she was only trying to play hard to get it was already late cos I was deep into her friend.
ReplyDeleteNice one, i like that.
DeleteTo think the nigga I have been friendzoning just opened his eyes ....nawa oo ! Poor me . Now I have to take myself to work and come back myself . No one to drive me around while I stay there and take selfies !! KIKI DEAR I MISSED YOU OOO ! #sobs#
ReplyDeleteGood husbands comes from Allah.
ReplyDeleteFinally, we ve our 1st SDK Taliban
DeleteMk I sit down read comments biko, but haven't been friend zone b4
ReplyDeleteIt is well.
ReplyDeleteyeeeey i am finished ooo,am in friend zone,just realised from that writeup o
ReplyDeleteWow...soo true
ReplyDeleteChildren's talk.
ReplyDeleteAs innnnnnnnn?
DeleteSee them claiming that they've never been friend zoned. Liars
ReplyDeleteHave never been friend zoned.TRUTH
DeleteOR HAVE I #thinking#
#richbee#
Some guys deserve being friend zoned cos dem no dey hear word...I can uncle zone, brother zone and father zone sef
ReplyDeleteOnce beaten twice shy,been there done that.
ReplyDeleteAll of them will claim I've never been friendzoned.
ReplyDeleteOriegwu.
Just like when thers a virgin post, everybody claims to be a virgin.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
ReplyDelete.
I have been frnd zone and that experience changed me totally.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Which girl even wan take u serious????
DeleteHmmm Ws there once, not a good place to b buh if you know ur game u can b elevated from friend zone to main chick then wifey, like moi, Ws friendzoned for 3mnths after our fucking sections I bcame the main chick he left his grlfrnd for four years and married me now we blsd with 3 lovely kids. Pls holy Mary Dem keep ur sermons to yourselves. Thank you
ReplyDeleteBabe Abeg give us the gist first hand.
DeleteHow u do am? Which native doctor prepare d charm?
DeleteI have been friend zoned ohh
ReplyDeleteLet's keep been in the friend zone my legs are getting ready to take a hike jor
The ish is that females pretend to be in a relationship that doesn't exist, if a guy doesnt respect its a problem, using sex as a bait worsen the whole issue cos you will end up in depression after you have scared him aware with your pu**y, ladies, hold on to your integrity that is the respect a man would not take from you, be focused, hold on to your God, do the right things, take the right steps and bar, trust you will get the man that deserve you .....the word is celibate
ReplyDeleteThe ish is that females pretend to be in a relationship that doesn't exist, if a guy doesnt respect its a problem, using sex as a bait worsen the whole issue cos you will end up in depression after you have scared him aware with your pu**y, ladies, hold on to your integrity that is the respect a man would not take from you, be focused, hold on to your God, do the right things, take the right steps and bar, trust you will get the man that deserve you .....the word is celibate
ReplyDeleteA lady has being friend zone me for long she dont reply my call or sms but i still
ReplyDeletecalling her and she even say she love me but i no worry becos i wish her to be
my wife but her problem with me will start any day i sex her and she start to nagg how i dont call her again or she call my phone i refused to answer and she nagg,na that time she go sabi say karma no good as i dey suffer for her hand today cos i go travel outside for one month without calling her on phone
Ur grammar sef don friend zone u, choi
DeleteThe reason u are being friend zoned is OBVIOUS!!!
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