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Thursday, July 23, 2015

It Is A Man's World .


 ......So I have been keeping up with the articles on the blog for couple of days about 'men are wired to cheat' and the two responses from Michelle and Joseph. While reading the comments, I noticed someone say 'It is a man's world, and I wonder how and why it is this way'. I got inspired by the holy spirit to search for answers to this questions.






 I found some answers and I would like to share them with you all. First of all I want to acknowledge the fact that it is truly a man's world. Okay now that that has been established I want to go to how it came about. There are a lot of factors like physical strength, economic power etc. But I want to focus on what I think is the biblical beginning of why it is a man's world.

In Genesis chapter 3; the snake tempted the woman, she ate the food and in turn she gave it to her husband to eat. Then God came and the man and woman ran away because they were naked. God asked them how they knew that they naked? Have they eaten from the forbidden tree? 

The woman replied that the snake tricked her, God punished the snake.
Then God faced the woman, and gave her her own punishment “I will increase your trouble in pregnancy and your pain in giving birth. In spite of this, you will still have desire for your husband, yet you will be subject to him.” ( this is where it was ordained!!! 'Yet your urge shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you!!!!'). Urge as in she will not be able to control it, it will become instinctive like sneezing when you are cold.

Then God faced the man and said '' Because you have listened to your wife and ate from the forbidden tree cursed is the ground because of you! In toil you shall eat its yield!


The woman's punishment is to be subject to her husband, this is a fair punishment because the woman has already shown that her mind can easily be carried away with ideas and she can choose the wrong part because it seems so shiny. This still happens to women today, I am a woman and sometimes I just get swayed by somethings that sound so brilliant, I am telling you that Eve did what every woman would have done on earth ( if not we will not all be here, some women will have remained in heaven). 


The snake really did a convincing job saying ohh you all will be wise after eating this fruit oh. I am sure the woman already started calculating, so there is a way we can be wise hmm, so our eyes can open, hmmmmm this is a good deal oh. That is why God in his infinite wisdom subjected her to her husband (I said her husband not all men) so that the husband can analyze the matter and have the final say in the decision.

Please also notice that when God was asking the man about the situation, Adam said, 'it is this woman who you put here with me- she gave me fruit from that tree'. This is another reason why God has put the man to rule over the woman. Because God does not want any more excuses from Adam, how would that grown up man be saying oh oh it is the woman's fault. God is giving Adam a chance to vindicate himself so that in future if anything happens in the family, God will question Adam and Adam will not have the woman as an excuse.


Okay now how can this be translated to modern life. It is a man's world because most men (married or unmarried) think that God's instruction in the garden of Eden applies to alllll women (married, unmarried) they come across and this is NOT so. Also women's own is worse because it is instinctive, so if they are not conscious about this issue they will naturally become subjected to allllllll the men they come across. 


Please men and women be conscious of these things. These rulings were given in the context of marriage (i.e between Adam and Eve) and NOT some other kind of relationship (lover or boyfriend aka playfriend aka marriage-tester) or friendship, be it your boss, employee etc. I am not saying you should not be obedient to other forms outside marriage but do not do it in the same level as in marriage (total submission). Just be respectful and courteous.

To the married people please do not abuse the stands that God has given you especially men because women feel their punishment from God more because it is an instinctive punishment, it is an urge, it's not something that can easily be controlled that is why it is easier for most women to be submissive to a man. God gave you (Men) this standing so that you will vindicate yourself and lead and so that you will not have excuses for him when things go wrong in your family. 

And to the women please because it is instinctive I will suggest that a woman should be with a man that she can respect his decisions and leadership on issues. A man who will listen to your counsel with respect, but analyze it before making the final decision. Forget it we women our brains can sometimes overtake us, that's how we will want to do sharp sharp thinking like Eve which sometimes comes out well. After all the fruit DID make mankind wise (know right from wrong), and DID open our eyes to nakedness. But God is telling us to quench so the end result aren't disastrous. Let the men dull our ideas small so we don't get kicked out of the garden of Eden, Hehe

We all need to be true to ourselves in whatever judgement God has posed on us because it is not to condemn or kill us but to vindicate us. Men! Be true to your calling as men, God gave you punishment to tilt the earth and lead! That is why he equipped you with muscles and strength for the job, not to be raping, beating, bullying, and harassing women. Most problems with society especially martial problems, are because men are revoking and abusing this identity God has for them, and this chance to vindicate themselves. Women! Be true to your calling as women, God gave you the cross of childbirth and submissiveness, stop all these feminism 'I will never submit to a man!(husband). 

I believe most women say these things because of the men they encountered who used their positions as men to oppress or violate them. Please if you want to be married, find a man worthy of your submission (true to his God given identity as a man) and then submit. Do not revoke your true identity from God because you feel weak or vulnerable by it.

It is a man's world because Adam gave a silly answer in the garden of Eden, and God is giving him (all men) another chance to vindicate themselves. And this time men can not say 'it is the woman you put for me that caused this' because that excuse has been overruled.

Everybody should correctly play their part of God's judgement on the issue because at the end of it all we will stand before him to answer questions.


This is my insight, but God's word is infinite and contains more wisdom than I can comprehend.

BY BLOG VISITOR.




I am so sorry but I TOTALLY DISAGREE WITH THE ANGLE YOU TOOK THIS FROM......This it is a mans world belief is what has given birth to Domestic violence,abuse,Rape et al.
A man's world?...Yes,it used to be a man's world..USED.
They lost the front seat.





75 comments:

  1. Aarrrgghhhhhh!!!!!
    Another article on this men are wired to cheat nonsense.

    Gerrarraahiaaa mehn sheetttt!!!!

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    1. Is not a man's world again because women have have taken the mantle.
      If men are wired to cheat,it den means that women are born 2 cheat!
      That means everyone is allowed to cheat irrespective of the gender.
      If a man is allowed to cheat,women should also have the privilege.

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    2. 80 shades of tizzy23 July 2015 at 16:45

      Dear poster, Thanx for this info. Thanx for explainin what happened between adam and eve. However i do not agree its a man's world. I like all yur explanation, it really taught me some things...but i am still a feminist. And i hope this post will teach some super macho men a few things.

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    3. I wrote this some time ago with thesame Biblical quote to answer a bv who asked similar question but I don't see how its a man's world relate to men cheating

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    4. @Optimist sayin it's a man's world is vast, it can also mean they can get away with anything like cheating

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    5. LMAO at Folarin!

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  2. Yes,it is a man's world but that does not give them the right to cheat.

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    1. If u want to be sincere with life. All men cheats except the few blind ones. We men cheat with our eyes from morning till night. But if u hv control u can then refuse to go finish it with actions but all men really cheats with EYES.

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  3. It's a man's world in Africa only not in the western world

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  4. Who has time to be reading nonsense...when it's not about making money...

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  5. @the writer, lemme sit back as the feminists on this blog tear you apart.

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  6. Who has time to read dis epistle?

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  7. I'm here for the comments.
    *yawns*

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  8. This long episode all because of MAN?

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    1. Nne help me ask the poster ooo...
      Didn't even bother reading it...
      Enough already!!!

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    2. Enough already with male dominated issues!!!!! Grrrrrrrrrrrr!!@@@!!!!##!!!

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  9. It's a man's world doesn't give them the right to cheat at all! Madam, your explanation does not hold water at all! Yes women should be submissive, but the men should protect them. God will not reward a cheating man and punish a cheating woman! Abeg!

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  10. rubbish.....there is nothing like mans world.....he made man(man and woman) in his image and likeness. God is a God of order that is why he made man to be the head and accountable to God for the family....for a woman you are stupid....so yourmind can easily be carried away with ideas cos it is shiny? what does that even mean? cant deal abeg, u just wrote rubbish and sorry this aint the holy spirit but your messed up mind talking mumbo jumbo

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  11. I can only respect the man in my life but I can never submit myself to him totally!
    If only men could see or miss their periods ,get pregnant,go into labour for hours/days,bring forth a child,go through post labour pains,raise children and still raise and tolerate their husbands(yes, some men act like babies),then they(Men)will understand that its a woman's world....I rest my case!

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  12. I don't understand wat u wrote up there. I'm really confused. Biko, explain in a few sentences, the message u are trying to pass. This gave me headache abeg.

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  13. I like the part where you said "Yes,it used to be a man's world..USED. They lost the front seat. "

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  14. This write-up is very crass.
    But at the end of the day,we all have our opinions.I'm different cos of my opinions and principles,and so is the next person.
    Whatever maxim,or saying works for you, apply it.
    If "it is a man's world" that aptly describes man's sexual nature to you,then by all means promote that.
    As for me,I'm indifferent to certain things, and this is one of them.

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  15. Dearest bv I'm actually confused
    Your point ???its ok for a man to cheat?? Or not???

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    1. Thank you o na ma question be dis


      #richbee#

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    2. I think he is trying to convey d fact that men get away with adultery even when caught pants down unlike d women. Well,its true especially here in africa.

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  16. I kinda like this article.......makes so much sense if you are taking it from the religious perspective$

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    1. Oya explain to me cos i dnt understand


      #richbee#

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    2. They have used religion to confuse half of you. Meanwhile the God we serve does not condone the lazy, irresponsible attitude of African men.

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  17. Abg all these over righteous ppl way dey dis blog, Una sabi sabi don dey three much everybody sha won write something!! Pls dis is 2015 wakeup and smell d coffee 🍵 gaskia.

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  18. Stella.. shut up abeg.. it would always be a man's world...

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    1. And u, shut down. Mtchewwwwwwwwwwwwww

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    2. You are to crass to reason properly, why should she shut up?

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  19. Stella I disagree with u and agree with the poster. Bt I have a question Why is it that when a woman cheats she is sent to park out, humiliated and al sorts but when a man cheats the wife still remains.. it's just a world we met to live in and we should deal wiith it.

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    1. We met slavery in the world, is it the right thing? Please stop contradicting yourself

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    2. I also disagree with Stella, and agree with the poster. Believe me if this write up was written by stella, most bvs would have supported it. Smh# believe it or not, it's a man's world. The poster never said cheating was right, neither did s/he say other forms of abuse should be condoned.

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    3. The poster is 100% correct...the problems today had its origin in the curse after the fall of man...that is why u see men who show remorse after cheating can't explain why they cheated...the men are the women's portion of d curse.

      Well articulated write up, but men this is not a ticket to immorality, you will still be held accountable for ur conduct or misconduct.
      One of the ten commandments from the same God says "thou shall NOT commit adultery" another commandment says " thou shall not covet thy neighbours wife". It means that fidelity is very important to God, that's why as much as God hates divorce, He permits it ONLY on the ground of infidelity.

      It is not about how many escapades u had with girls that your wife did not know about, it is about answering questions at judgement as to why you defiled ur marriage bed....remember the Bible says that "marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled, but adulterers and whoremongers, God will judge".

      FOOD FOR THOUGHT! God will judge every adulterer, whether u were seduced or not, whether u were drunk or not, no excuses.

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  20. I disagree to agree with u stella, the writer/poster is on point.

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  21. You for kukuma call us slaves na..I don't even see how this write up supports cheating..
    If you're a woman,I think you're the type that her husband will bring his mistress to your house,and you go enter kitchen cook for them,and even wash their cum-soiled sheet..all in the name of na your punishment from God....The God is serve is not a mugu. He's not a wicked and insensitive God. If you're a man,SHAME ON YOU for trying to use God's word to ur silly advantage. Even sef,this ur mumu write up just show how irresponsible men are. They can't take responsibilty for their actions or the actions of the women that are subject to them. It is the woman you gave me that told me to eat the fruit. She force am for your mouth? Abeg abeg if you no get what to do ehn,go boil stone..
    Quicksilver dey your lane o

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    1. Madam quick to comment! Did you and the other bvs running to comment as If its a competition see CHEAT in that write up?
      Her points are clear I over agree with her.
      That why they say when you read (either novel, Bible, school book or any thing you sha read) you digest/meditate on it to get full understanding.

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    2. Indomie brained Nora "if u are a man shame on u for trying to use God s word to ur advantage" before na Satan's word we for use??? Shallow woman

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    3. Anonymous I don give u work today o..

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    4. @Tolu, jeez! Thank you! I am so appalled at how everyone, including Stella did not understand the poster's write up. My God! Too many illiterates. It's sad. From the responses I am wondering if they are responding to the same article I read.

      1. Poster expressly indicated that the man's world she means is 'IN MARRIAGE'. Not to every man in the world. Only in marriage is the man in charge.

      2. The authority given to the man in marriage is so that he can answer to God for himself and his family and not blame the woman. Honestly, any man who reads this should be very afraid. It's ur world, yes, but U have a lot to answer for. Iam a woman, and I don't want to be in your shoes. Many men will go to hell for missing the point. When you were instructed to love your wife like Christ loves the church, you thought it was a joke? Smh.

      3. In marriage, women are to submit. Ho ha. That it sounds bad to you doesn't mean it is not a valid instruction.

      4. Poster nowhere said it was OK for men to cheat. Or that it being a man's world is licence for men to cheat.

      Thank you poster. One of the most sense making write-ups I have read in a while.

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  22. Hian!!! Enough of these bullshits already.

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  23. Hmmmm, i am done with this issue, we are beginning to overflog it.

    Whirlwind

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  24. Live and lets live and the world would be a better place

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  25. Stella i dont concur with u, I agree with the angle of the writer.
    Its a mans world and they are equipped with d strength but shldnt use it 2 rape and violate women but rather to lead.
    And women, find a man u can wholly submit to, thats d koko.
    One of the best piece av seen on this blog.

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    1. When you are done with your 19th century mentality. You can join us here. Strength has nothing to do with anything. You have not met men stronger than you or animals...are those animals superior to you? How many men esp in our setting actually act like "men", more women even from the days of our mothers took care of families, struggled to feed their kids when the men could not keep up. Small stress a man encounters and na to cheat, lash out meanwhile women carry the world on their shoulders and continue to live. Abeg, take your drivel somewhere else. Maybe to SS3 girls who don't know themselves yet.

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    2. You think to submit means to enslave

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  26. Maybe it is a man's world in Nigeria. *longest hiss*

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  27. Some people are just daft. Can't you see that this was not written by Stella? In fact, she disagrees with it!

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  28. Poster, you looking at it from a religious perspective, what if I am not a christian? Try to be liberal and open minded in your approach when next you decide to write whatever.

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  29. Whether man/men's world all I know is - God does not recognise that, whatever you sow that you shall reap and judgement awaits everyone.

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  30. stop the rubbish talk this is not from any religious point of view....quoting scripture out of context...cant deal abeg

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  31. Dear Poster, your stupidity is beyond human comprehension. This crap came from a woman? Nonsense! !! This is why women like you would remain slaves to your male imagine the rubbish? ? Nigerians are just too religious for their own good. Women always making excuses for men.This really pissed me off.You don't know men are more gullible than women generally?

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  32. Leave the African man to want to use religion to excuse their stupidity. It is only a man's world to those who don't know their rights. It used to be a White man's world but we have overcome that, men wake up to the fact that women is equal to you. Sex roles differ but we are equal. If we were not equal on the last day, you would be judged harshly than us. Guess what, before God we are the same! So leave this talk for the women who don't have bearing. The rest of us will raise our sons and daughters to know that they are not lords of anyone. People are moving forward in life, African men are still looking for how to dominate a woman.

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  33. English Mistress23 July 2015 at 14:59

    Okay. Can we now move on from this discussion. It's not a global issue that requires constant deliberation.

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  34. Men...especially African men are so lazy sorry to say. African women have excused their rubbish for so long that they believe the hype. That's why they go abroad, marry foreigners and can't stay in the marriages because those women know their rights and know that submission is not slavery. These ones will want to use Bible or Koran to justify their irresponsible behaviours. They will use it to justify cheating, beating and all sorts of abuse. Heads who can't take responsiblity. I thank God for the men in my life and the sons I have who will not have this useless mentality. It is very sickening and our women are so blind. Condone all sorts in the name of man's world. Our women can't florish because we are too scared to be ourselves. It is sad when you are limited because a man will not want you. Our Lord and Saviour did not die , He did not give us brains for what Nigerian women are doing. It is a shame. Our marriages are an eye sore because you have a bunch of unhappy men and women, women who are enslaved and men who were raised wrong so they can't manage their lives let alone others. All they do is demand respect all over the place. They have poor examples of fathers because their fathers did it's a man's world and left parenting to the woman(same woman does everything else). It is ok. God will help us,

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  35. Load of toss! A man's world yet they expect their wives to go out there, work hard and bring something to the table....and if you don't, they will label you a gold digger.

    Again, loaf of cobbler.

    BANK

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  36. Thanks a whole lot but one error that is the cause of t all the brouhaha is the later day introduction of girlfriend and boyfriend relationship courtship dating ect by man. When God talked about man and woman he meant husband and wife there is no boyfriend and girlfriend in God's world. The introduction of boyfriend and girlfriend led to loss of submissiveness from woman and love from man. A man who loves his wife who in turn suits to the husband would live a happpy married life. Husband love your wife it said that she becomes wife first before love because love is built in a daily basis but man said love a woman and then make her your wife. Ditto woman. Man invented these things to have access to sex before they are ready to marry. Every elder in your village would tell you that nwoke na nwanyi a naghi akpa uri translated to mean that man and woman don't mingle

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  37. Tl;dr yea it's a man's world, duh. Women need to stop trying to emasculate men. Women should submit to their husbands because they are weaker vessels, what is wrong with the Christians here trying to override the bible. Hian.
    Yes it is a man's world. Does that give him a right to cheat? Or do you think he won't cheat even if it's a woman's world. I'm even confused. Next?

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  38. Nonsensical .....what a twist of God's word...so God punishment to the woman was to submit cos he wanted men to vindicate them self( I disagree ). .. God said a woman should submit cos adam was created first and eve was from adam.
    Let a woman learn in silence with all submission.  And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence.  For Adam was formed first, then Eve.  And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.   Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control (1 Timothy 2:11-15
    Dear writer, don't come here interpreting the bible to us when u barely even understand it.

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  39. Y do women throw this shit like its supposed to scare men? Women too can cheat if a man can cheat. So! Why announce it? Cheat naaaa! Who hold Una?

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  40. Chai, Nigerians are dumb o. Ordinary simple post like this, they don't understand. O chi m o. Either U guys don't read, or U read with an answer in your head .

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  41. Stella, ur point is like saying, Gay marriage USED to be a sin. They gained the upper hand now abi? Nonsense!

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  42. Food for thought - what an interesting piece

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  43. hahaha.. Aunty Stella Sister Stella... you said it all.

    anyway to the writer. Anyone with discernment need to note whatever is inspired by the "Holy Spirit" is subject to the author. The Lord maybe ministering to you the writer in your own situation. it's not subject to everybody.

    Anyway my take on it's a man's world. yes it's a man's world.
    Adam was first created. And God said he Needs Be a Companion. Eve was created. The first thing Eve heard was words.
    The devil used words to convince her. Shebi you see all women at the for front of fake churches ehmmm na so so women... God help us.
    Adam was the head, he ate the apple. His eyes open. If Adam didn't eat the apple all will have been well.
    Adam didn't take responsibility he quickly blamed the woman when God asked.
    He didn't say I ate the apple. Shebi wen eye don clear e say yawa don gas. Eve na weti you give me so.. Ehm that was the begining of women wahala.
    Yes we are subject to our husband and husband has to analyze the matter and make a decision. Very correct on that.

    Adam doesn't take responsibility for his actions. Blames the woman outright. Tries to save his own skin without being accountable. That's why your husband has to be a man accountable to God.
    Adam bases on his own needs, save my ass and leave the woman to dry.
    From then on it's all about Adam.. have as many wives etc
    Lets fast forward. Notice why Jesus ministered to alot of women. bc e be don do. Women taking the bullet for alot of crap.
    The prostitue
    the Samaritain woman
    the adulteress
    The above ladies couldn't be doing what they were labelled on their own. Where were the men involved in these acts. So Jesus Christ ministered to them. Woman you made whole, I am the well, the water you looking for to quench your thirst for love and acceptance.
    Back to the ladies all because e be don over do it's a man's world had taken effect.
    Read Chimandi Ngozi book on feminism yes, covers all aspect.
    Even men have written on this blog and stated that same crime committed by woman, men are forgiven women are punished.
    Most men progress in life because no one condemns them for their acts. They steal from women with their numerous dubious acts but society will praise them for their wealth and some women have succumbed to follow suit. As far as they are getting something. Lord not happy with these.
    It's of my opinion that this saying is a LIE FROM THE PIT OF Hell. For men are the head of the family and the forces against building a society via family.
    The LIE in regards to man can easily cheat but women they have to be emotionally invested before they cheat. IT'S A LIE.
    IF YOU WANT TO CHEAT YOU CHEAT. IF YOU HAVE A GREEDY OR LUSTFUL PERSONALITY YOU WILL CHEAT IRRESPECTIVE.

    Lie goes on to say that's the reason why men can't forgive a woman who cheats.
    LIE as men haven't been disciplined and allowed to grow resistance, the ego at all levels high. They put this lie out there to justify their selfishness.
    Women have been enduring right from girlhood to adulthood oppression. Imagine in days of Jesus Christ they still suppressed women and Jesus Christ corrected this.

    It's a man's world were you can use your resources to help a man but yet he wants you to crawl and beg for you to help him.

    Life!!

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  44. In addition.
    Another LIE
    is that men are babies men should be treated like children.
    was it a child that asked your hand in marriage?
    Please stop believing those lies and treat the man like the leader he is meant to be.

    I just watched an epic couple who need divine intervention. You can't be playing house and force the guy to marry you? The guy still feels resentment and also treat him like he is a child bc you are older than him. please it gets annoying. I bet you proposed and asked him out too.
    Ladies lets learn from people's mistakes and hopefully build a better society.

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