Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

Hmmmmm pouring kerosene to fire only causes more fire....Do you wanna burn down the house or seal the holes?..Your call!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

...THAT FEELING AFTER THE BREAK UP.

Good day Stella and my fellow Bvs. My story goes thus:

I'm from a home that's practically below average. In my final year in the university, I met a guy that's comfortable. He did a lot for me and honestly, my final year was my best year in school. It got to a stage I stopped looking forward to the money my dad sends. But the problem I have with the guy is that I never got to like him, He is the one that actually disvirgined me because I felt that was the only way I could appreciate all his efforts on me and the fact that I never saw myself getting married to him.

I'd like to refer back to the narrative about the lady that says she doesn't love the guy that God told her to marry. Though back then I didn't know anything about this blog, I'd probably have stayed back based on all the things I learn from this blog daily. I am not a prayer warrior though but I used to think that God would never give me a man that I cannot get to love.

 We dated for about two years and I never got to like him talk less of love. People usually advice me to settle with someone that truly loves me that its better for the guy to love the girl than vice versa. its been about two years now and I haven't met anyone that loves me as much as this guy. I know he still loves me but is it advisable to go back to him? I must confess, he irritates the hell out of me and I don't know why. I don't like seeing his pix because I'd feel like puking. I try to think of all the things he has done for me and how he put smiles on my face countless times but it still didn't work. Although, back then I usually pray to God that if he is meant for me I should get to like him even if its just a little bit because the guy really loves me to the extent that he wouldn't even allow me cook. 

His plan was to even make me a housewife that he doesn't want me to work at all.

Sorry for my long epistle...love you all and thanks in advance for your wonderful advices...

If you feel this way two years after the break up then you already know that you let a good man go...you miss the way he used to treat you right?

Why dont call him up to say hello and open an avenue to be friends again,if he is not in a relationship....IT'S YOUR CALL!

You know what?Marrying a spouse who loves you,really love you makes the storm in Marriage a little easier.

All the best..and stop biting your fingers in regret.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE IN MARRIAGE.

Hi Stella, please permit me some space to let this out. I am a young woman in my late twenties while my DH is in his early thirties,by God's grace we have 3 kids together. 

He was a good husband until he met this lady whom he claims helped him get the job he has now (only God knows the truth) through her uncle. He cheated with this girl, I found out, he pleaded that I should let go, that he would cut all ties with her including deleting her contact, he never did, he only deletes her when he is close to the house.

 There was this day he forgot to delete her name which he saved with the first letter of her name. The thing is I know he is not a womanizer but having one particular girl gets me worried. When I asked him why he still kept her number, he told me he never promised to delete her number but only not to have any affair with her..

 Dear DH how do you expect me to believe you, when you are 24hrs on whatsapp flirting with her, why must you both be online @ the same time, all the time?. 

Whenever they are off for a long time, I know they are together, the next time they come up, he is close to the house, probably to let her know and stop sending messages. He feels he is smart and can cover all his dirty deeds but nah he can't outsmart me. His luck is that we are married with kids, I would've walked out a long time ago because I believe a cheat will always go back to his whore. 

DH I know you will  read this, well just know that I am trying hard to put up with you, each time you come back from work, I see a liar, a cheat, an irresponsible man facing me, my love for you is fading away, and hate is taking over. I never knew I would find myself in this position. I promise you that the solution to this will not take long. I will cheat back on you and not with a low class as you did, I will cheat with someone you can never face. 

Trust me, I keep my words,except God intervenes real fast. . . . The sad wife.

 Okay he might be messing up right now as a hubby but your attitude towards handling this is so wrong...You sound almost like a monitoring spirit in his life.

Now let me tell you some of the reasons side chicks are winning....

*They make your husbands laugh his worries away.....you wives nag all day and remind him how only of how you suffered with him.

*Most side chicks are faithful to your husbands..look at the threat you just made up there,tomorrow if he finds you in a situation that tallies with your threat,even if you are innocent,he will not believe you.

*Side chicks do not nag,they understand their situation and even give your husbands advice on how to handle you wives at home.

*Side chicks make their homes comfortable and warm for your husbands,they massage his feet,listen to him talk about his worries and offer advice whilst massaging his tired back...

You are smart to have discovered the problem,instead of throwing back threats,look for a solution that will not break up your home...USE THE SOLOMONS WISDOM IN YOU!