NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
TIPS TO FALLING IN LOVE WITH LE BOO NEEDED.
Good day,Stella Kork and my BV's. I have learnt so many lessons on
relationship on this blog through people's advice and it has really
helped me. My narrative goes thus: I am a lady in my middle thirties.
No man has ever wooed me despite the fact that am petite,dress very lovely and am an ok lady.
I am calm,but I observe that the guys that mostly woo me are
very low grade men like hooligans or artisans but never graduates like me
(am not proud). A guy that I really love who's a graduate was a
liar,he professes love but he had someone he's been dating and God told
me he's not my man. I have prayed,fasted and even gone for deliverance,still no changes. Last november,a church member connected I and a guy(40yrs),so we went on a blind date.
This man is very cool,nice,calm,calls me even if I don't,buys me things I need, loads my data bundle, though he's just Ok.
He's a literate,well read and very focused man. I even tried using another
line to call him and sent him love text(pretending like another lady ),this guy still told me about a lady disturbing him and even showed me the text message. I don't just love him though he loves me.
He tells me that bit I don't tell him.I tried everything I could but its not working and funny enough I don't have anyone still.I prayed by myself
about him,and God showed me in my dream that he's the one for me
(was really shocked). Now,our wedding date has been slated for this
month but I'm not happy because he's not my dream man.the first time
we met,I was like this man is not bad,but later on,I didn't feel
anything for him again.
I hope I don't have a spiritual problem.Please,I just need any form of advice on how I can grow to love him from those that have had my kind of
experience. Thanks all
*Chewing bitter Kola slowly and frowning...*
You need to take a seat and think well ...you meet a man who treats you right and you are confused.You need deliverance!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
UNDER PRESSURE FROM BAE TO MEET HER PARENTS
I am worried and I need advice. I Am 28 years old, a business guy who was doing very well before I had problems and now I am financially unstable.
So..... i met a 22 year old girl who's still in the university, not been more than 3 months we've known each other, though this girl met me during this my trying moments and she's always encouraged me cos she sees the zeal in me to get back on my feet again financially.
The girl's family is pushing her to get married and be able to ease the burden of paying her school fees, and some men been coming for her hand in marriage but she's been turning them down. She's asked me to come see her family and I have been feeling bad since then.
The pressure to go see her parents is on me, though i love her but i am not ready to marry her now and she knows.
Should i go see her family? How sure that the girl is not using me to stop the marriage pressure coming from her family? I don't know if she really loves me. I really need advice from the house.
If it is just to go and see them and introduce yourself as her Boyfriend,not a bad idea but if you are not ready to marry now and you go and see them,the pressure on you will intensify and the next thing your bae will tell you to carry yam and say hi to them.....
If you aint ready,dont do it!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE
OATH TAKING IN MARRIAGE
DONT DO IT!
NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE
OATH TAKING IN MARRIAGE
Stellakork sweetest, please help a sister in confusion.
I travelled with hubby and our 48days old baby to his village to see his parents on their request. Yesterday night the parents called us for a chat and i'm yet to recover from the shock.
I can't remember everything he said, but the one that is still ringing bell in my ears is that I'm to take an oath. Father inlaw said its the reason they invited us. He said is their tradition and compulsory for every woman married into their land.
I told him I'll like to inform my people.
Hubby is claiming innocent on the whole thing and is not doing anything to stop it.
My father has been on top of the matter since today with our parish priest.
I'm so disappointed with hubby, in fact I don't know if I'll overcome this feeling of disgust at the sight of him.
Still I'm curious. He's from Emuhe village in Ishan LG. Edo state
Please, blog visitors from this village, and state I want to know more about this oath taking. What is it like? How is it done? Is it in front of a deity or what? I dont want to say what has been going through my head since last night. I'm just tired of this ishan people and the constant reminder( we dey forbid this, we dey forbid that) as if an only dem get tradition.
Please i need urgent answers today.DONT DO IT!
May d gud lord in his infinite mercy fix it for u in jesus name,say amenn.
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
I'm speechless! P3 pls don't do it!
DeleteEm jay I AM SORRY
DeleteThis EmJay girl has mucur and cobweb in her brain, lack of usage.... Keep on disgracing urself on dis blog up and down, atuocha.
DeletePoster 1: marriage is not for all, ur intiution is telling u u'd be bored in the marriage, he's the man for u dsnt mean he's meant to be ur husband, ehe b4 I forget, emjay, go and learn hw to cook.
DeletePoster 3, Hmmmm Ishan people no be here o. I am an igbo lady but married in Iguenben, Ishan but I wasted 4-solid years of my life but I thank God I escaped with my life. Before I got married, prophesies left and right that boo will sacrificed me but I played daved ears cos I was in love. They even said boo charmed me. Against all odds, we married. I started seeing a strange woman in my dreams with blood in her mouth warning me to leave or she will kill me. As a spiritually rooted woman, I was able to overcome most of their attacks. They tried to put python inside me severally but God saw me through. He wasn't coming to church anymore after the marriage, wasn't bothered about having children, I was not cared for yet he showered me with all sorts of love while courting and was following me to church. I was sommoned countless times in front of their deities and greatest dibias but God sustained me. They toiled with their womb not mine though but couldn't touched my life. I was told the python visits our home and make love with him. My elder sister took it as a commitment to fast for that marriage. My family got terrible dreams of me. At a point I decided to leave. I summoned the two families and my diary was returned to him. Boo confessed he knew I can pray but he will hunt me (lol). Just as my sister was told by a strange Pastor on the road, that 6 weeks from then I will finally leave the marriage myself and my own husband will locate me immediately and things will be right from day1, it was so. At exactly 2yrs, we to tied the nut. it wasn't easy for me bcos I was a woman who hated and preached against divorce. It wasn't easy to forgive myself but God came calling. He gave me the grace and a second time. Yea, some marriages can tampered with ur destiny, success. Things was upside down with me those years but when I came out I had a one on one deliverance with God. God restored my glory. I am not saying this to spoil Ishan people but this was my experience. In choosing a life partner, we need to be careful. Love isnt enof. There are things we shouldn't over look.
DeleteWhat is he going to fix? Your eye lashes? Nawa
DeleteWhich one is 48 days old baby...simply say 4 year old child. .. .and u better not take any oath.may be ur husband dey suspect u of infidelity ..goodluck
DeletePoster1: Get married to believe n pray to God for d Grace to love him..... Remember ua growing old n child bearing ain't gon be funny soon.
DeletePoster2: Do not meet her parents yet..... You could Tell her to tell her mom about you.... And then communicate with her mom once in a while.
Poster3: Never Ever try It..... Dats Y v refused to marry any Edo Guy Whether pastor or Pagan.
Are you for real? Fix what?
Delete@poster1 : spiritual husband is on your case.
Delete@poster2 : let her go if you are not ready.
@poster3 : Don't you dear swear an oath!
I fear who no fear benin people as a whole.
Don't ever do it,all else you are stalked 4ever.
Prisca, you stupid gaaaaaan, so 48days is 4 years. Lol.
DeleteEven u Aunty gwegwegwe,i observe u self dey rush for first to comment these days,why u dey sorry? G-ghram jealousy oloriburuku oshiii leave her alone.
DeletePrisca, u see where itk has landed you? Bring out your calculator. Does 48 days=one year?
Delete@ Narrative 3, I'm from Edo, Ishan to be precise. Do not take part in any useless oath. Don't do it. Ur hubby is a wicked person. How could he not tell u what his people's intention was wen dey asked u to travel down.
DeleteDon't do it. Nonsense. Who does such in dis day and age?
I know some oda tribes dat do dis nonsense. Don't Do it I beg u.
Thanks poster 16:15 annony. For encouraging testimony. I keep praying and all these fakers keep rising. Some complain you are resisting me, you are prayerful. In general pray for who I your spouse and neighbours.
DeleteNow from anon 16:15's personal experience,then someone will tell me that God hates divorce?#clicks tongue#
DeleteAnon,i am happy for you that as u were using ur heart to pray to God,u used ur head to reason and tell urself d truth.dats why he God gave us both!
Had an Ishan toaster back in the day,cool guy,nice,generous,but he believes his dieties like the air he breaths!well,hes not even ashamed of it.any lil thing he will say he's going to Edo to go and collect charm(hoha!),used to say that nobody can succeed in life without charms and I will correct him that God is all u need to have ur needs met,(it's good to have a godly upbringing) ,it wasn't hard for me to know this person was a disaster around me,and I ran!i remember he will always tell me;'leave that thing,God own no dey fast'!lol!till today it's not like he's rich and famous nyway,d money goes as it comes of course,satans gift.
@ anonymous 16:15.
DeleteWHAAAAAT!!!!!!
Poster 1: emotional issues are the worst u can ever have in life. Were u molested as a child? If yes, that could be a source of why u are having difficulty having feelings for a man. If thats not the reason. Then u need to look into ur past very well and find what might be the cause of ur emotional detachment and work on it
Poster 3 you are a big fool, ask me why!
DeleteThere is no such thing as ishan LG in Nigeria. You must ne a total idiot for not knowing where your husband hails from. As for oath taking, it is only your dumb type they will ask to take oath. As if you are the first person to marry ishan man.
Ewu togo
Very interesting
ReplyDeleteIdiot,u self wan comment first?
DeleteBusinesses,lolzz.
Ishan people! Hmnnn...
DeleteMy dear, do not take any oath you know nothing about I take God beg you.
Tell them you are a Christian and will not participate in such.
Namsense!
Poster 1- the love will come, marry him. This is your opportuniity knocking otherwise those agbero boys may come ask for your hand in marriage.
In this present time, it's better a man loves a woman more than she loves him especially if she is a good woman. Be wise! Marry him.
Poster 2- go see your girlfriend's folks, assure them of the love you have for their daughter but let them know you are still trying to find your feet. If they feel their daughter can't wait for you, it's up to them t o find her a suitor.
Shying away from them makes u look like a coward or a player or an unserious fellow.
wow first poster- cant remember. 2nd poster- If u go, d pressure will intensify for u to pay bride price. Poster 3-All these Edo people sef. I fear them. winshi winshi. Better respect urself n dont take any oath. U are a christian n should not involve yourself in such act. Your husband knows about this very well. Dont believe any crap he is selling.
DeleteSomeone's chronicles is very inter resting? Shiiit!
DeleteI won't even lie. I find today's chronicles interesting too.
DeleteHmmmmmmmm if u see snake with ishan person u go first kill d ishan person before u kill d snake!!! Ishan man almost destroyed my life! I will send my story to u stella soonest..madam poster 3don't take any oat ohhh na trap
DeletePoster 3 don't take any silly oath. Arrant nonsense.
ReplyDeleteOath koor oat meal ni. Madam don't take any oath. D repercussions tlr deadly. Its a trap. Pls for d sake of ur life,don't try it. Dont try it. Dont try it. A word is enuf fot d wise.
DeleteShe probably will take that oath as we speak it seems she has already made up her mind
DeleteBlog analayser: Poster 3 please don't do it. It has a grave consequences it will end up destroying u both and leading to death. @ 3 u need deliverance its a spiritual curse or an ancestral thing or husband. If not u won't marry @ 2 better follow Stella's advise
DeleteDear poster 3...I got happy when I got to d part u said 'they should let u inform your people'....it shows u are very intelligent...why did they tell u abt d oath b4s u got married?pls don't do it...summon your hubbie to your own family meeting also so he can explain the Koko behind d oath!but it all boils down to using your brain as a single lady!ask and over ask question...if u and d man need sign on d tins u both agreed on,do it...me no wann hear story after wedding mbok..
DeleteHmmmmm
ReplyDeleteStill on poster 3 women stop being so stupid because you are in love, the same husband will never agree to take any oath in your own village because men love with logic. If you like carry your stupidity and swear to an oath when nonsense starts happening let me see your narrative here
ReplyDeleteWat is wrong with u?? Y re u calling her stupid now. What did she say to warrant that
DeleteHow is she been stupid? Na wa for ur sense
DeleteY'all pleas ignore this Annoy. So many people are frustrated and nothing good can come from them.
DeleteWhy would you say she is stupid am sure you did not read her narrative very well, you are the senseless one ozuo like you.
DeleteYou are certainly brainless, can't u read her story ewu
DeleteWaiting for comments.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: please go ahead with your wedding, you said it yourself, he's nice, generous, loves you and refused to be tempted. What more do you want?
DeleteSee ehn, it's better for the man to love you more, than the other way round.
A friend of mine married very very early, about 10 years back, because she got pregnant for her BF. She wasn't really in love with him then but he was crazy about her and very comfortable financially.
Now she's the one who wouldn't stop talking about her man wherever she goes.
Don't worry, when you marry, the Jazz that is worrying you would clear from your eye cos your village people go see say dem don fail.
Poster 2: Clarify from your girl what the nature of your visit is. Is it for them to know you, or to lay groundwork for marriage rites?
Let her know you're not in a position for concrete marriage arrangements now cos of your financial state. If she's good with that and can reason it out with her parents, then you can go ahead with the meeting.
Otherwise, bow out quietly.
She's quite young, I wonder why they want to sell her out so desperately.
Poster 3:
Hmmmm. I grew up in benin and had many Esan friends. Yes, they do have some trad rites performed for wives married into different families, depending on the particular village.
Your hubby most likely KNOWS about it, they advice the men to pretend like they didn't know, so as not to cause quarrels between the couple.
Let me not waste your time. DON'T do it. It's occultic.
Edo people, I hail oooo
ReplyDeleteWonderful set of Nigerians with orishirishi oath taking....
Poster 1, you need deliverance they are doing you from your village. You're looking for a knight in shining armour, wait well.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 babe just want to know you're not playing her,nothing wrong there shebi it's just to meet her parents.
Poster 3 any oath that is not to God or of God don't FUCKING do it. How many oath has God required of you that you've taken. Don't go and do Ruth abokoku style and trust me your man knew.
Oh, no!
ReplyDeletePoster1: spiritual husband alert....
ReplyDeletePoster2: Don't start what you can't finish...
Poster3: it is well with u.
Poster 3 Don't ooo all them ancestral spirits looking for who to enter and start claiming right that you willingly gave yourself to them...Secure your future now jare before you start saying had I known tomorrow cos of an oath you took...
ReplyDeletePoster 2 Find yourself first abeg what kind of marriage tie is that one ..at 28 sef..
Poster 1 ..If He treats you well with time you will learn to love him...Nothing sweeter than marrying a man who spoils you silly sha!!
Poster 3: Don't do it.
ReplyDeleteNo 3...pls don't do it, even though they will claim it's to prevent you from sleeping with other men, that the day you try it,you or your child will die. I'm from edo state and a christian, my sis husband tld my sis the same thing but my sis refused to tk any oath....she got pissed and traveled bk to the u.s...yoruba call it magun or something..its not good
ReplyDeleteStella doh nke gi kwa lol
ReplyDeletePoster 1..
You'll learn to love him my dear, it's gonna take time. I think what you're looking for is a player that'll show you excitement and break ur heart.... Hehe beware
Learn to love that man!!
Poster 2...
Don't go if you're not ready to marry her!
Poster 3...
Nne plz I beg you DO NOT TAKE ANY YEYE OATH!!! Let their son take the oath first nah... Rubbish
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteYou are possesed with a marine spirit and a spiritual husband...
You need proper deliverance!!...
And they are very stubborn spirit...
Poster 2,
You are not ready to marry her but you are ready to be fucking her abi?...
Mtcheeeew...
Wish I can tell the girl to dump your sorry ass...
And why is she desperate at 22 to get married?...
Hian!!!...
Poster 3,
Please don't ever take the stupid oath without your husband doing the same...
You can't cheat on your husband if you take this oath..
I have heard so many stories like these about these Ishan people...
Wicked nonsense tradition....
You will take the oat while your husband will be walking freely fucking any girl he want!!..
Yeye dey smell...
He is fucking the girls sacrificx them to their deity and taking their wealth destiny.. So all that money roll in it.. Money deity that's y you have to destroy the covenant and spiritual spouse
DeleteEnglish is a problem
DeleteQuiksilver u aff killi moi...lol
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteYou don over select men tire. Shuo! This your God is powerful oh. Can he show you the solution to Nigeria's problems, especially the fact that oil price is going down and Iran, a big player, will soon enter the market, and Nigeria's major lifeline is oil.
@35 can I call you aunt gwegs? Or not yet? Ok, but in your 35 yrs, u didn't say anything about your tohtoh being in service or in sabbatical oh. Anyways, since God showed you, then that is him. Madam God showed me, I hail oh
Poster 2
Marry to pay school fees. Poverty na bastard sha. What am I working for? My children.
Dear Lord, I know I am bad, but pls continue blessing me for my wife, children and parents. I owe all this people. May I not be so poor not to be able to make my children comfortable. My son should have so much money that he would be fucking pussies 10yrs older than his ass.
Poster 3
It is an oath that you do not disappoint their son. If you cheat, you will get sick and maybe die. If their son catches you cheating and he forgives you, the sickness will pass to him. Na my pipo, I get many as friends, I know them like the back of my hand.
Sometimes tho, the jazz no dey work, if ur spirit strong. But if u no know urself, no scratch tohtoh for outside oh. A word is enuff for the wise
*clears throat*
I need to have bomb-ass sex this weekend. Preferably threesome.
*looks at contacts*
i'm Ishan and a Christian,please don't take the oath,don't even think about it,talk to your husband let him understand that it's against the word of God,stand your ground and don't let yourself be intimidated by your in-laws...
ReplyDeleteP1 how did God tell U he's not ur man?
ReplyDeleteIt's only an ajao dat usin a different line will catch o!
Oh! God showed U that d present is ur man!
CASE CLOSED
P2 No! Don't go! Woman issue no be beans...
P3 Don't do it o!
Desperation is real mehn
Hmmm Edo state... The only tribe ma mum won't allow any of us go no matter how gwegz we turn.
One scum on first meetin said I shd promise her...
God forbid me chop wetin go enslave me
Poster 1: u've prayed and he's the one for you? Ok o. Marry him then
ReplyDeletePoster 2: she might be using u to stop the pressure
Poster 3: u said Ishan??? *sealed lips*
Stella na only you go siddon for that seat! Lool
ReplyDeleteNever never never never never never do it.... Don't know what it's for but don't do it.... Instead carry your pickin wake, marriage will not take u to heaven.... Even if it's for a woman not to commit adultery I don't care.... U should men sleep around like dogs and a woman will suffer in silence.... I hope u will take advice and don't succumb to pressure from even your husband....marriage is not the end all be all....shine your eyes
ReplyDeleteMay God help u all in whatever decision u decide to take but u need to pray for God's direction. Poster3 Don't ever take any oath.if u do,it will surely have a negative effect on ur children.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1.
ReplyDeleteSomeone is treating you right and you don't know how to reciprocate. You need deliverance jor.
2. My nicca if you ain't ready to marry now like u said, please let this girl go moreover marriage is another responsibility on its own.
3. Oath for what exactly, madam don't do it period. They can say all they like but they won't shove it down your mouth.
What rubbish,...don't try taking any oath,unless your hubby is taking the oath too,...and why do I sense he arranged this? Insecure man
ReplyDeletePoster 1, u r looking for that kind of M&B romance abi? Siddon there. Love is like a ghost, everyone talks about it but few have seen it. Thank God everyday for the man He brought u, he might not give u butterflies in ur stomach but he loves u and he is loyal and he respects u. Everything else is not important. Trust me on this one cos I know. All the best.
ReplyDeletePoster 3, tell him your parents want to see you guys. Go to your own village and let your parents tell him he has to take an oath never to look lustfully or even sleep with another lady or man (incase na homo.) then never to leave you. Include all you want and he must take the oath before you will take yours.
ReplyDeletePut him in same condition and watch him react.
But no matter what it comes to, never take the oath.
Love,
Oma...
Poster 1, My younger sister graduated from the university and while in Church, in "Prayer Band" one of the brothers proposed to her. He was not a graduate, didn't have a car but was very gentle, prayerful, had a job. We were all confused. My Mom could not believe her daughter will marry someone like that. No car, No degree? I told my Sister to follow her heart. Today, that same man has a Masters Degree, several cars and will be conferred with a PH.D in a few months. Marry him o because he has a good heart. There are very few men that will show such texts to their babes. You have tested him and if na exam, him don pass. Be happy and encourage him to do summer programs if that is your headache otherwise keep waiting.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I will not advise you to go see her family but if it's just as a boyfriend, I think someone in her family should know who their daughter is hanging out with. No big deal but find out on what level. Is this on boyfriend level or husband to be level.
Poster 3, Some of these things sef na wa! Your Husband should have told you about this "oath" before you said I do. He should have told you about their tradition, etc. Me I nor go take no "oath" You will be yelled at and called all sorts of names but you need to hold unto God tightly. When possible, don't go to the village with hubby no more and if they are coming to see you guys, pray hard. Good luck because those people are nice people but some of them are not that nice oo. Good luck!!
Hian, poster 3 very easy now, tell ur hubby that u just consulted with ur family, and ur father said d oath taking is ok, but that in ur own tradition, if a man insists that a woman from ur side must take an oath, the man has to be the one to take it 1st. Tell him that the agbara of ur village has put a mark of ownership on all the women from ur place, and so to break that mark of ownership ur he must take the oath before u take urs. And Pls be serious when telling him. Nonsense.
ReplyDeletePerfect response. Chop kiss
DeleteNikky Baby....your head dey there my dear....i dey trip for you and suspect you at the same time!!lolllzzzz
Delete1000 likes! She should also tell him to take an oath. He should swear he'll never cheat on her too. Mtcheew!
DeleteDis got me laughing. Like seriously
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteYou have spiritual husband, go for deliverance again.
Pst 2
Na child's play you dey. If u aint ready tell her abeg and don't go.
Pst 3
Why did he wait for you to give a baby before telling u about this silly oath taking. If I hear...... Don't try it! If he wants to go let him go.
*Datrudegirl*
Poster 1- please wait cos Jesus is coming soon in his shining armor.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- DO NOT GO. Its either your being used or its a trap.
Poster 3: if Jesus can love you truly without any oat,then don't do it,if the case is turn around,your hubby will remember his religion doesn't permit him.
I am frm Emuhi,my dear na lie no oath is cmpulsry oh, I guess thy jus want assurance(d oath is if u cheat,u run mad)but I must warn u sha,our ppl r FETISH as hell,so prepare yursef fr a spiritual battle,d oath is in front of a native Doctor,long n short dnt do it(ps yur hubby was aware)
ReplyDelete"The man no be my type, the man no be my type" that's how my Aunty died alone at 65, Poster 1 take note
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you can go and visit her parents, just buy bread on your way
Lmao!
DeleteLmaooo please be serious
DeleteLolz can't stop laughing Stella u too much with ur response. Truth be told eh this one. Pass Saturday laugh.
ReplyDelete
ReplyDeleteNarrative one: Love isn't just physical, its beautiful, it is a fruit of d Spirit. Like evry oda fruit in d real sense of reality, u nuture it, water it, manure it, prune it wen necessary n in due time it will blossom into sth very beautiful. The God dt confirmed He's ur hubby will GIve u d grace t pull thru. Ask d Holy Spirit t take over ur heart of stone(insensitivity) n replace it wt d heart of flesh(sensitivity).
Its well.
Cheers
This is the 1st time I am dropping a comment here even tho I am an ardent reader of the blog...poster 3 I am esan too and I have never heard anything like that...all my uncles that got married their wives have never had to do that....the only thing I knw is if u d woman cheats on ha husby she is advised to confess n she will be taken to the villa for cleansing.
ReplyDelete1st time commenting, so we should catch fish with M-net?
Delete@quicksilver ur life is dull, I hope depression wont kill u, so negative, so shallow!
DeleteI am from ishan ur husband's village, maybe is jux ur husband's family.... I haven't heard any of my inlaw's taken oath.. please don't swear to any stupid gods.
ReplyDeletePoster 3, I'm ishan by tribe and I think the oath they want you to take is the AWA oath (adultery oath).. If you take this oath you sleep with another man, you will die mysteriously (that's what I heard). It's possible your hubby or his family suspects you.. hope you've not cheated on your hubby before?
ReplyDeleteAll tribes have one thing or the other that they forbid not only ishan but am yet to see anything my family forbids. As for the oath, your husband people are wicked or they are pagans.. My mum is Ibo and has not in anyway been subjected to any form of oath taking since she married my dad...
I suspect it's the adultery thing too.....if u love yourself don't.....men are selfish...if he starts having affairs and frustrating you y will a woman not also have an affair? Must women continue to be subjected to every shit men dish out? 2 wrongs do not make a right but sometimes you just need to be happy...I detest all these stupid African traditions that only seek to oppress women...we need love attention and care like men and if your husband is not giving and someone else cares y not....marriage is not a do or die matter
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ReplyDeleteNarrative 2:
@ 28 u aint too young to settle down, its just a pity dt financial instability is taking its toll on u but guess wot its nt d end of d world cos a man may fall 7 times but he will surely rise again. While waiting t rise again, marriage shud b secondary on ur mind till u can stand on ur feet again. I dnt buy d idea of being coerced into going t see ur bae's parents. For wot exactly? U wanna go book space? U think going to c dem is lyk d way bvs book space on SDK"s blog n we get t laff over it. Nooo. Its a life time affair, once u go to c her parents now, dey will hand over dia daughter to you indirectly to cater for. If u were my broda I wud advice u to move on since u can't dance t d music ur bae's parents are playing 4u @ d mo.
When u r ready financially, d Lord will bring ur missing rib who will fit perfectly into ur life. Babes no dey finish f mkt inugo.
Its well!
Cheers!
Poster 1 : since you said God showed you in the dream he's your man I think you have to go back to God to teach you how to love him u can as well pray and fast about it. Your narrative needs divine intervention. Poster 2: I think you just been scared going to see her parents because you feel the parents will place her burdens of school on you. Go see the parent nothing wrong. Poster 3 don't, I mean don't ever think of taking "OATH" be wise my dear. Men will never do this
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I don't know ur problem o, since God has shown u he's ur husband what else do u need????
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Don't go and see any parents o if u are not ready to marry
Poster 3: Don't take any oath o and please be very prayerful
God bless u all
ReplyDeleteNarrative 3: ur story is a wake up call to young ladies who think courtship is a period of lovey-dovey alone.
Ladies intending t settle down shud use d period of courtship t ask pertinent questions especially abt d custom n tradition of d place\family dey r abt to b married into, pray wella n seek d face of God.
Its a pity cos ds advice is are seeking for is lyk medicine afta death. U don enta b say u don enta. Dere is lil or nothing u can do now. Ask ur MIL questions n ppl in dt locality as regards d oath. I put it to u dt ur hubby isn't innocent on d whole matter and is lieing if he claims to hv lil knowledge abt d oath u r abt t take. its just dt he can't fight tradition dts why he's chosen t sit on d fence.
Kindly give d Caesar wot is Caesars then u can go n break.d oath afterwods @ MFM except u dnt want peace t reign f u in dt family.
Its well!
Cheers!
Dear Poster 3, never ever u listen to this type off advice @slimshady on this blog. Tell ur people. Meanwhile I will advice u not to make d mistake of getting pregnant for him at least for now. Secondly u need to make up ur mind fast. Ur husband knows. If u don't do it with ur clear mind, u will do it thru manipulation, u no go even know. No be Edo,lol. So as I said, make up ur mind fast whether u want to remain in that marriage. Women we too dey old quick.so if u don't want again, they should come and collect their bride price so u go see road marry again ooo sharp sharp. Good luck!!!
DeleteSlimshady your daftness baffles me.
DeleteNonsense what the fuck do u mean there is nothing she can do about it.....will they force her? If u are forced to make a choice with taking the oat and your marriage then by all means choose divorce........no marriage is worth living under spiritual bondage for....gf
DeletePoster No 1.....You need to pray and fast about this, the devil doesn't want anything good, so be prayerful and everything will be alright.
ReplyDeletePoster No 2......I believe she just want to use you to ease the presure from home, you can visit as a boyfriend and prepare yourself with the answers to the questions you'll be asked. I wonder why parents will be presurising a 22 years old.
Poster No 3.....DO NOT take this oat, whatever it is meant to be. OKAY LADY, YOU HAVE TO COOK UP A A SIMILAR STORY THAT BOTH OF YOU NEED TO TAKE A BLOOD OAT TO SECURE YOUR MARRIAGE, JUST COOK UP SOME RIDICULOUS AND FRIGHTENING STORY TO SEE HIS REACTION.
Stay bless all
Poster 3: Those ishan pple and deir devilish traditions..d one iknw is ; if u take an oath and u cheat on ur husband its either u or ur 1st child dies, d one ure abt to take might be different..pls DONT do it and be very prayerful from nw on cos dey wld surely attack u
ReplyDeletePoster 2..u need a resounding slap for a reset botton, now i bliv d sayin dat women luv d bad guys..most pple dnt fall in luv @1st sight, they fall inluv gradually..u can stil holdon wiv d marriage tin 4 now and try to see if u wld fall inluv wiv him..jst tell him ure praying abt d whole tin n put it on hold..wish u d best!
Poster 1..if ure nt ready 2 wife her, abeg let her be cos am sure by d time u re now stable financially ur eyes wld be lookin sumwhere else, if u meet her pple d pressure wld be double trust me.
Poster 3
ReplyDeleteI am from Emuhi, though female and I married outside my state.
Since you're already married to the man and you just gave birth to a baby(48 days old you said), hmm......prepare for what I will say next cos you might not like it ooo...
The oat is probably for two things: one is to ensure that you don't ever cheat on their son, if you sleep with another man, your husband will die or something drastic
I'm also considering your baby..... maybe your husband feels the baby is not his , hence the reason for the oath.. ....your husband is just forming innocent, dude is in on it....
Meanwhile it's not everyone from Emuhi that takes that oat, my father's people didn't try it with my mother cos my father loves her scatter... My dear, your husband is in on it.. ....talk to him, cos if your husband refuses, his family can't do anything
Of course he's in on it
DeleteOf course he's in on it
DeleteNo man has ever wooed me despige blablabla. The only men that I obser e that woo me are low grade men. What grade are hour brothers that woo other girls?. Just go and jump into the Lagos lagoon and perish you badannered woman. Or worse still go and manufacture your own grade of man and let him come and woo you
ReplyDeleteP1:How I wish u would read one of my relationship topics, 'Ahem! About ur marriage wish list... ' Pls pls read it.
ReplyDeleteU may be one of those ladies with a well laid out wish list in their head that they refuse to accept nothing less. So they bar their heart from giving in to any man who doesn't fit into their dream man criteria.
Dump that ur 'dream man' criteria and open up ur heart to God's leading. Until then, love for this man may not come bcos u are still so caught up with ur wish list.
Love buds gradually. It's not always automatic. Open up ur heart and try. Marriages are solidified by love and if truly u are convinced in ur heart that this man is the man for u( like u said God showed u), then ask God to teach u to love Him.
Tell Him how u really feel and watch Him teach u to grow in love with this man. U are d one stopping urself from loving him becos he doesn't fit into ur 'dream man'.
Pls just read that topic in my blog mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com. I believe it will help u.
God bless u and pls don't feel sad. U don't have a spiritual problem. It's just d way things are, so brighten up! Can I see a smile? *wink*
U have a good man. Happy married life.
P2:Have u clearly laid out ur intentions towards this girl? Do u hope to marry her in future?
Besides, ur relationship is still so young and its rather too early for all of this cos u don't even really know urselves.
But if u feel u like her and feel there maybe something in d future for both of u, sit her down, talk to her that u both need time to know urselves and build ur relationship.
And also that u won't be settling down till so and so time. If she still says its okay with her, then just go and see her parents and get introduced.
The parents may want to know ur intentions towards their daughter so tell them u both are still getting to know each other better and of everything works out, u intend to marry their daughter. That's all u have to do.
It's rather a tricky situation given dat d girl's parents need her to be married to ease their financial burden and u are definitely not up to it while dating their daughter.
Anything more than being introduced, pls back out. If d pressure continues, advice d girl to move on or sort it out with her parents.
The only reason u went to see her parents is to show d girl dat at least u have tried. Don't get roped in with all of this.
This advice is only if u feel that she is a girl u may want to settle with. If not, don't bother being introduced. Just tell her u aren't interested and let move on.
P3: dear, didn't u ask questions about their traditions before u married him?
If not, then dis problem is partly ur fault. Not trying to judge u dear..
When u are going off into a strange land, it is wise to ask questions concerning the people u are about to be part of.
Oath taking is definitely before a demonic deity , what do u expect? And whatever pact they intend u make with this deity, will have a huge toll on d spiritual part of ur life and only God knows what it is.
So ur answer is simple: Don't do it. The family will pressure u, even threaten u into doing it but if u know what's best for u, resist them. Stand ur ground. U have every right to refuse.
It's good u informed ur father about it and d parish priest. They will back u up in d fight.
Some people may say it's just a harmless ritual and all, but with d devil, nothing is harmless. There is always a price attached.
This is a fight for ur life.
Always Choose righteousness.
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Poster 1: Spirit husband alert.
ReplyDeletePray your way to breakthrough. You're obviously housing some wicked spirit in you.
Poster 2: Biko,don't marry her out of pity or pressure. Before she'll start sending narratives here.
Poster 3: Are you still asking?
That is how generational curses and 'spirit of the father's house ', are birthed.
I'm sure your husband knew all along.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 2 simply go and deposit her tuition fees for the remaing perod and you and the girl will be fromher parents presure to handle the girls problem. Didn't I tell you that women should stop struggling for equaljtg with men because women live off men
ReplyDeletePoster1:so u have a nice man who treats u well and everything u still don't love him.hmmm nawa.just marry him before u miss your destined husband.
ReplyDeletePoster2:forget her never be pressurized into doing anything especially marriage.
Poster3:God forbid take which oath.so when anything goes wrong they will claim u went against the oath. No husband's parents can push me around.them never born them.
#Just Glamour
Poster 1 sounds like me buh m nt yet 30.pls I need d tips too.
ReplyDeleteN3 don't take any stupid oath o. Weather it's in shrine or church, God said we shouldn't even swear with his name, let alone other things. N2 n 1 may God help una.
ReplyDeletePlease what ever you do, don't take that oat. My husband tried it with me and my dad said to his family he should take the oat first, my dear, they all made you turn!!! Let him take the oat of fidelity first before you, simple what rubbish!
ReplyDeleteI have never heard of such oath taking in ishan land. Am an ishan person and I kw dat village tho am not frm there. Ask ur hubby wat d oath is all about,there is more to it than d eyes can see. If u kw was good for u don't take d oath. Stand ur ground.
ReplyDeleteI honestly don't know why non edo natives still marry pple from the area when they know how fetish those pple are. Madam u better pack u and ur baby's things and run from that place. Oath ko oats ni.
ReplyDeleteP1, I had to scroll up to check for your age. At middle thirties, you should be grateful to God to have found a good man who treats you nicely. Since you've also confirmed from your prayers that he's the right person, pls start loving him. Try your best to change the things you don't love about him, and with time, you'll see him transform into your perfect man. Many girls have married men they didn't love but realized in the union that he's the perfect man for them. I hope same will happen to you.
ReplyDeleteStella's comment for P2 is hilarious... lol at carry yam and say 'hi'. Pls don't marry her yet. Marriage comes with a lot of financial responsibilities that will have you guys hating each other the moment you can't meet up. Sit her down for the last time and explain things to her. If she refuses to wait for you, bid her farewell with her suitors. Believe me, she will remain single till you marry.
P3, don't take any oath. Anybody can be tempted, and anyone can yield to temptation
Poster one- I'm really sure u do not want to end up with someone who is a tout or hooligan as u had mentioned and then get beaten up every now and then?? I think u should just settle with this man who treats u right and is open to u. Meanwhile, I hope u have asked questions about why he also isn't married till now? If he is as clean as u described him, GO AHEAD! Love on its own sef, isn't enough to sustain marriage. U can grow to love him as long as he treats u right.
ReplyDeletePoster three--- pls I beg u, stand ur ground and do not take any oath o! I just wonder why women are always at the receiving end. It might cost u ur marriage or the peace in ur home, but stand ur ground! I've read that most Edo people have a culture like that which prevents women from comitting adultery. And lemmi say, ur hubby is only pretending! He knew about this all along! The Bible says ' let ur yes be yes and ur nay be nay' DON'T SWEAR TO ANYTHING!
Poster 3: Don't take any oath ooo, abeg. Useless people with their rubbish culture, tell them NO that your tradition forbids it. I have a stupid friend a married man, that can sleep with fowl and I asked him one day if he find out his wife is doing same and d stupid Edo man said Never, that the wife will die cause she has sworn an oath and she will never do that. Can you imagine? If they want to confirm if your baby is theirs they should go for DNA cause they might say you brought a bastard into the family. My sister Don't take any foolish oath.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 , only live will sustain a marriage. Look well, it might be God trying to save you. I remember there was this guy that has asked me out for 4 years, good looking, good job, great cook, looks like a complete package, every time I make a move to see him, as not so religious as I am, I get a clear DONT DO IT in my spirit. If he is yours , you will know it, leave all these your small pikin tactics, marriage is a very spiritual affair and until you can connect with someone on that level, you should not be marrying the person.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 she is 22 and a student, she is not ready for marriage, if she can't do girlfriend and boyfriend, move on. What kind of 22 years old girl in university will allow her parents pressure her into marriage then she is turn will start pressuring her boyfriend. Think, use your head, 22 years old students don't care about such things.
Poster 3, don't swear anything, pack your things and go back home, when your husband is ready he will come and meet you in the house. Iru rubbish wo le eleyi? Ogini by oath? O ga ekwe duru gi ga na ebe gi ga me e oath? You better leave the esan people with their esanness, only their people can marry them. I hope you are not igbo? If you are, na you do yourself.
Poster 1.your wedding is this month,and you don't love him.its better you don't marry out of pity ok
ReplyDeleteLike you said this dude is so nice to you
What's else are you looking for
Poster2.I don't see anything bad going to see her parents
Things will pick up back for you by his grace
Pressure on 22 years old to settle down,she is still young though
Poster3.say no to that shit ....period
Poster 3*** Do not take the oath if you love yourself nd ur children. I be pure Ishan gal married to a Benin man. I know what am saying. Do not even think of it and pls be very close to God cos u married into a diabolic family. Get ready for battles. God be with you dear
ReplyDeletePoster 1*** You have spiritual problem. Go for deliverance before your wedding date.
P1, your spirit husband has tied wrapper on your case, aaahhh see talk? You no see you deh complain you see now you no wan do! Abeg leave the guy na. P2, just show face as a bf. P3, oath kwa in this age and time
ReplyDeleteGod forbid
My dear I always say ishan they are the worse people on earth to get married to yes dy take oath but my 2 cents don't do it! Self centred people please don't do it
ReplyDeleteAm an Edo guy too abeg who oath don help??as dem thse things r demonic.
ReplyDeleteWomen hmmm. Seriously women should consider themselves lucky because men are magnanimous enough to indulge them. I am tsiking s out yesterday's chronicle but talkig to women in this blog universe. Please stop comparing yourselves with men becos it's unrealistic. First let me say that people give advice here that they won't take if they were the ones involved. Also people always side with complainants here. Everybody seemed yesterday to forget that apart from the woman her husband and the innocent son, gwi other people are involved here. These are the ex and his innocent wife. Now if the truth comes out one way or the othet and the boy has to be taken by the real father who by now has a wife with her own sons. This ex could be the husband of one of you or your sister. Now what advice would you give the the second Woman when she comes here complaining that they are bring a son to become a first son over her own first son. I want to here because that chronicle will come at the same time the end of this one which hoh all want to hear will come. Remember this ex may be your husband or your sister's. All of gou boasting imagine you are the inheritor of this son. My final point is that this thing women call a mistake is no mistake as Mr money makes always say. It is deliberate and each one should bear their cross without anyone's advice, both men and women. However, remember that no woman has e er and would ever throw a man out of the matrimonial home for sexing or father a child outside except the woman is the owner of the house as we see among our celebrities. It is always the woman that is thrown out if caught.. When a man is putting his prick he tells himself that if push comes to shove he would take the child and my wife will not be silly enough to leave just because of the child. Now ask me if women also at the time of opening their vj they tell themselves that if push comes to shove they will calmly take the child and leave the man's house or l will force my husband to retain both of us
ReplyDeleteWell all of that say if men can do why not women please wait until the burble burst and let's see who will cry and search for help.
Seriously! Which universe 're u from?
DeleteP1, u need to pray cos I dont know why u r double-minded about this.
ReplyDeleteP3, like Stella said, DO NOT TAKE IT.
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Poster 3. Don't swear any oath, I know a woman who did the mistake of swearing that same oath. She is a Yoruba woman married to an Edo man she is regretting it now and seriously wants to break the oath because she wants out of the marriage badly.... don't swear any useless oath
ReplyDeleteDear poster 3, please don't take any oath in that village. My sis in law is married to Ishan man, but I don't know if she took oath or not. Nobody can love you as much as you love yourself, and if you love yourself, you will not do it. Think about it this way, when you take that oath, you're giving youself to the idol, totally, both physically and spiritual. And why I said idol, no Christian in laws will tell you to come take a oath. That is for traditional idol worshipping people. Don't give any man made gods access into your life and destiny, it is always destructive. Your husband knew all along, but just playing the ignorance game with you. How do you even cope with ishan people and their traditions? And the fact that their men are controlling, always wanting their wives to do stuff for them, that they cannot do for their wives. Dear poster, you better find your way out of that village fast, with your baby. And when you get to your base, trash things out with your husband. A word is enough for the wise.
ReplyDeletePoster 3, I am from Edo state...esan to be precise and I have not heard of such before, do not take any oath at all abeg...
ReplyDeletePoster 3: which stupid oath. Ur hubby alone should take the oath. Thank God you told them you need to get back to your family. Stall and waste their time. When you get back home, ask your hubby the type of oath. If it is traditional,tell your hubby straight that you have discussed with your family and will take the oath but it must be in church and done in the open.
ReplyDeleteThat way, when they ask you respond that you didnt say you wont take.
Poster 3, please don't take any oath. You need to stand your ground since you were not informed before you got married to them. These people sef, their Christianity no dey stop them from idolatry. It's best to make proper findings b4 saying I do o so as to avoid stories that touches the heart.
ReplyDeletePoster1. I really feel concerned for you and I pray you won't marry wrongly in Jesus name. You are very spiritually sound and that is my concern . After you have received a spiritual leading and he has committed himself through his material and financial support, more importantly in the area of trust by showing you other lady's interest in him, what else do you want?
ReplyDeleteThere are different schools of thought on the concept of love. Some believe love grows while other believe love can flow naturally on its own whether at first site, without seeing, any how. The issue that I believe you have is self over-rating. You have over-priced yourself and your value. You also have some elements of pride or arrogance in you, thereby you have some few sets of people or groups or categories of people that you don't want to marry and those you can marry.
I am sorry for you, if you lose a man that loves you deeply at this point in time, if you pray to God again having arranged this lovely, loving ma for you, God may laugh at you because as great as God is, he respects the humble and hates the proud.
Humble yourself, appreciate your man and you will grow to love him. The best thing for a woman is to marry a man who loves her more, he will never beat, cheat or maltreat you.
Shalom .
Poster 3, never ever ever ever take that oath. Don't let anyone sway you or you may wreck yourself. Now you know the type of man you married because I believe he definitely knows about the oath. If he cared enough for you he would've shut the whole swearing thingy down without you even getting to hear about.
ReplyDeleteAhahahaha @ ask you to carry yam and come.
Poster 3 don't take the oath it sounds very fetish. Poster 2 there is nothing wrong with meeting the parents however if the girl's parents are trying to marry off their daughter it's not advisable to meet them, they'll probably assume that you've come for marriage. Then the pressure will be on!
ReplyDeletePls don't take any oath. Will ur hubby also take an oath?
ReplyDeleteYour husband knew o! 100%. Abeg poster 2 be wise.i know of vow taking at the altar during your marriage.i don't know of oath taking in the village.stand your ground and tell them your christian religion forbids oath taking of any kind.lastly, be full of prayer.God help u.
ReplyDeleteI'm from Benin n we fear pipo from ishen, those pipo will use their hand to beat their chest dat de can fly in d afternoon, my sis just be prayerful cos u nor fall for better place. My frd dated a guy from ishen n she ran mad after dumping d guy, abeg make i stop make u nor come de over fear. God pass them
ReplyDeletePoster 3 the one you took on the alter is what?
ReplyDeletePoster 2 u really have no problem.
Poster 1 if you don't love the man, have tried everything to love him even opinions you will get today, free him. Not everyone will marry.
my dear don't take any oath because you don't want to have regrets when evil visits your home. some men are soo selfish. they want women to take oaths so that they will remain faithful while they the men go about swinging their penis at any woman without fear.Something similar to this happens in my state, Akwa ibom. when a woman cheats,her husband dies. DON'T DO IT
ReplyDeleteJayEm you are needs here...
ReplyDeleteChoi
DeleteN2, don't go and see her parents since you are not ready for anything serious. N3. They want to stop you from cheating, your hubby believe you may cheat on him, if you don't trust yourself don't swear o. ( i may be wrong too ) If your ways are not clean i beg make you pick raise.
ReplyDeleteSorry, race.
ReplyDeleteposter 3 tnx for the information.
ReplyDeletePoster 3:the oath is dat if u cheat on ur horseband u will die...esan pple nawa..even d benins fear dem
ReplyDeletePoster 3 pls don't take any oath Oooh! Its a type of "magun" dat they r trying to pin on u. If d pressure gets too much insist dat it must be in English and ur husband will swear first (dat may discourage them) but pls don't try it. I'm married to an Edo man and have never taken any oath, by d way Ishan people are very diabolical. Ur hubby has d authority to dissuade them, but obviously he doesn't trust or love u dat much. A broken marriage is better than a dead wife oh! Don't do it!
ReplyDeleteNarrator 3: whatever the advices you are given or conclusion you personally arrive at, please do not be a part of that oath. Pray to Almighty God to vindicate you in this situation and be very watchful of your husband near your baby. The Lord is your strength.
ReplyDeleteNarrator 2: Tell your baby about your true plans for her. Also, there's no harm in meeting her parents but let her know you are not coming from an introduction. You can take it up from here.
Narrator 1: Stop doubting yourself and comparing what being in love ought to be like, just go with the flow and enjoy your relationship. Your fiance seem to be a nice person from your write up. Try to appreciate him back and think more about loving him instead of reasons why you don't love him yet. If it's still possible, you can shift the wedding day forward, please and please stop punishing the gentleman.
Poster 1 you are in ur 30''s and a dude is in love with you and you have the guts to say u don't like him don't worry when you get to shiloh and overflow u go know say khaki no be leather. Age isn't on ur side ooo better arrange yasef. Poster 3 please do not take any oath. It's an everlasting convenant oooo d repercussions would be dangerous
ReplyDeleteLmao @ make your heat stop. She's been reading too many romance novels.
ReplyDeleteEven if you will not cheat do not take any oath, You took vows and that's that.Let your husband do his worst. Unfortunately, you will do it as we are all here running our mouths so good luck. To the lady saying 48 days = 4 years...it is a shame.
ReplyDelete#3, Say, you won't do it!
ReplyDelete#2, Don't marry out of societal pressure!
#1, Don't go and see her parents!
Stella I love d way u adress issues bt d way u responded to poster 1 isn't 9c @all.tins like dat happen. I av smone who loves me nd I used to love him,he treats me well,kind caring etc bt I jst dint love him,i tryd to so so so hard,bt I dint find myself loving him.nd nw new le boo is ishan,abeg mk I ask am dis oath tingy oh..
ReplyDeleteAm Edo, Auchi buh my Mum is Ishan and I jut told her your story nd she said 4 them 2 tell you 2 take the oath, it's mean that your husband do not trust at all nd he must be suspecting you r that the baby is not his, that's the only reason. So madam you have 2 check your self but my dear do not do it nd esp if your eyes they outside oooo
ReplyDeleteP3, your dh doesn't trust you. Are you a cheating wife? If yes run for your life.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm,emuhi ukpenu road.them get pinneaple wella.lol
ReplyDeleteLol! Nice one babe! Pineapple dey sweet, 😉
DeletePoster 1: Please don't marry someone you don't love, not attracted to or you don't want your children to look like. It's seems you are attracted to the 'crazy' ones and the current guy is not on your Prince Charming list. This might or might not be spiritual. Put the wedding on hold while you settle the matter by praying and possible going for deliverance. Since God confirmed him as your husband, pray that the Lord will make you see what He sees in him and that your heart should go beyond what you can see now(temporary) but see the eternal(permanent qualities. Not all beautiful gifts come in fine wraps I married one of the nicest guy on the rebound. Though I do not miss my ex boyfriend who I felt was the love of my life, even after 13 years, each I still wish I had waited and marry not a necessarily Mr Nice but Mr compatible or Mr Best Friend. Saying love will grow after marriage does not work for everybody. Wishing you the best.
ReplyDeleteP3: You need to find a way to leave that village ASAP without antagonizing them. You were smart enough to give them that response but it's time you decide if you are ready to continue with hubby or not. The oath, no matter how harmless they tell you it is will have repercussions. Even if you believe you can never cheat on hubby that is irrelevant. Don't make a convenant with the devil. Tell them your parent wants to discuss it with you face to face and you will assure your parents it's safe. You need to pretend you will take it after convincing your parents so they will let you leave the village.
ReplyDeleteYou can then decide how to deal with you deceptive hubby who knew all along but concealed that info from you. Again people should try and research on boos background before marrying them. If you asked bvs and the area and the tradition, they would have informed you but I guess you wouldn't have believed that educated boo will support such. Anyway please never take the oath. It's better to move on than to do it.
P3. PLEASE don't take any yeye oath o, stand your ground and do not be intimidated by your in laws biko
ReplyDeleteP2, if you are not ready don't go
P1, you need prayers
@poster 3, that's why it's good to do a background check on who one is getting married to cos it's totally different from relationship/courtship. Do not take that oath!!! I always ask questions before dating, questions /answers will either make you kill your feelings or bond you both together...ladies be wise!
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