Are there any born again's struggling with sex issues on this blog?Please step forward if you conquered.
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
UNDER PRESSURE TO CONCEIVE BEFORE MARRIAGE.
Dear Stella...
I met Mr A through my friend in school. I actually accepted going out with him because I was lonely and thought it would just be a fun thing as I was not ready for a serious relationship.
We started dating, he stays in PH while I school at Owerri. Things started getting serious oh. My guy carry me go see him family and they were nice to. Lol... The whole thing looked like a format to me because guys of now a days can not be trusted. I really didn't take seeing his family serious because I didn't know his plans of marrying me.
Far gone in the relationship Mr A started asking for my hand in marriage but I didn't give him any reply. Here the problem: his character can be so unpredictable most times, when he offends me he never says sorry Stella nah me go use my mouth tell myself sorry, He snaps when angry, makes decisions without me, he doesn't give me money(not that I complain)
please dear bvs to crown it all he wants me to get pregnant.
He is the first son and it seems they are pressurising him to get married. He loves me a lot and admitted to me that he never planned on falling in love with me and I love him too but with these signs I am confused about marrying him, I don't know if he may change or become worse in marriage.
I am in my early twenties. Please dear Stella and SDK bvs I would appreciate your advise and for those that want to cuss me out remember diaris god oh...
Do not accept any proposal until you are sure of his character.Do not get pregnant with your two eyes open until he has put a ring on it,enough of baby mama's already.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
TIPS TO STAYING OFF S*X AS AN UNMARRIED CHRISTIAN
Dear Mrs Korkus, i will like to share this with fellow BV's to know what they think and will like it to be posted as anonymous.
I am a single lady in her mid thirties and I became born again few years back.you know how it is with trying to stay righteous and avoiding sex.several times, I stay away for like 2 years until a great temptation comes that I couldn't overcome.
Generally, because of this belief, I can say that for the last few years ,sex as been like 4 or 5 times a year max cos I avoid men and I can recall that even this few times ,they were not pleasurable because of guilt .
I have to be persuaded over and over and most of the time during the action, am so guilty and after the show I am so sober and full of regrets and I will have to fast and pray for mercy.
I am sharing to know if anyone is going through this and how can it best be handled because it's really not easy.and I fear that it might even affect my performance later when am married because a guy once complained that I wasn't good in bed and I really was surprised because I know I used to be very good and skilful.
How can we handle this our faith issue of bed undefiled without loosing your enthusiasm and vibes as we wait on God for a partner?
CHRONICLES!
ReplyDeleteWhere is chizoba?
Hmmmmmmmmmm!
Gimme popcorn
********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Pls na, I don't have a problem wit ur being 1st to comment, but say sumthg meaningful at least, so they'd stop seeing u as a dunce or jobless girl, evn if its the truth... At least try n hide it small na.
DeleteSorry!
DeleteEmjay each time I see ur comment I lose 10mb frm my data, I don't knw hw it happens, it must be ur gbaguans or ur face
DeleteEmjay, you're above 30, and u still don't have sense, Single and stupid, jobless and without an ounce of shame, carricature of SDK, na wa o..... Only you, hian.
DeletePoster 2 u can't be having sex n being a Christian. It is wrong. Sex is one battle Christian singles face and can be especially hard when you are single from your mid 20s to 30s and I'm one of them but by the grace of God I have been celibate for 3yrs and I used to be very sexually active. You too can truly be celibate. You have the Holy Spirit in u. Ask Him to help u. N flee from men who want sex. You can tell. Let them know upfront your stand on the issue. You have to stop this cos u won't have great sex cos of the guilt u feel hence the man won't even be satisfied so what's the point of having it in the first place. I feel horny as times but I don't dwell on it. I move on to useful things. When u r married, u can have all the sex u want. Be patient, pray, n continue in the faith. God bless you
Delete@poster 1, please don't get pregnant for him o, all he and his family needs is the child and once they have it, u can kiss the dust for all he cares. I hate men that can't say sorry when they're wrong.
DeletePoster 2, all u need is determination and like the Bible said, "FLEE (not catwalk) from all appearances of evil" don't stay with opposite sex behind closed doors. What actually worked for me might not work for you. I know when to stop and the few guys that I've been with understands that. I don't make out with a guy that I don't trust to stop when I want him to stop. I get naked with guys a lot but that doesn't mean I'll have sex with them. I'm 28, and d first and last time I had sex was when I was 21 and I vowed never to indulge in it again until wedding night. All u need is determination and know when to stop. I have a friend that made a covenant with God that he should go mad if he ever have sex with any lady except his wife and we dated for months, he never for once made an attempt to sleep with me (I won't accept it even if he did). So if a guy can make such vow and stick to it, a lady too can. Just be determined, pray, pray and pray more
Poster 1,don't just try and get pregnant for that guy..let him marry you first.this one that you're not even sure of the guy's character,better get out now before you'll start what you can't end..
DeletePoster2,the lord is your strength, don't worry about how poor your skills will be when you get married,your husband will teach you..
Dear poster 2, take your mind off men who have nothing to offer u other than sex, get busy....VERY BUSY. Keep reminding urself that your body is NOW THE TEMPLE OF GOD, most especially be FERVENT IN PRAYERS. YOU ARE NOT YET DISCIPLINED ENOUGH TO KEEP YOUR BODY UNDER SUBJECTION. Learn to think the right thoughts and learn to say NO. Your life will be better and you will turn a new leaf!
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteThe signs are well written on the wall and you are there asking questions...
You think marriage is child's play...abeg run as fast as your legs can carry you...
Poster 2,
Hian!...
Since you are a born again,sex should be the last thing on your mind...
Biko pick a struggle and stop deceiving your self...
Go and get laid joor....
Am sure cobweb don full down there....
Lol!!! Linda e no hold for mouth, ojionu, poster 2 if you can't stay away from sex, that means your Christianity is still at the weak edge. Go for real deliverance. Don't be like sister Deborah na eme church na ackwa iko
DeleteThe sad thing is thrs no guarantee her marriage will deliver satisfying sex oh... Christians can like to deceive themselves sha
DeleteP1, if u marry that guy ehnnn, na sufferhead go be your last name.
DeleteP2, pick a struggle, hot or cold?!
Poster one so you are prepared to be walking around egg shells all your life abi? He has a nasty character which will be worse when he sees you are pregnant and at his mercy. Oya marry oh low self esteem woman
ReplyDeleteDon't mind poster 1. She can see that through manman's behaviour is bad yet she's asking us jamb questions. The handwriting is boldly written on the wall but she has refused to see it. Women and low self esteem. Na wah.
DeleteDon't mind poster 1. Low self esteem is this woman's problem. She can see that the man has a bad character yet she is asking questions. I don't understand some Nigerian women with their I-must-marry syndrome.
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeletePeople wey need children for marriage no wan hear stories that touch oh. Them no wan hear "waiting on the lord" or any form of hope. So as a result of this, some wan check production capability before serious investment and commitment. So no be e fault. In Nigeria, children are so important to a union.... and i dont know why.
So, let him show seriousness before you open up your supposed fertile field for him. But then again, it might be against your beliefs and you are conditioned to choose. Life is all about choices.
Poster 2
Same here oh. I am a struggling christian. I cant seem to avoid pussy, especially the one that i have spent money or time on..... and the initially rude ones. So we are in the same struggle... buwahahahahahahaha
Bwahahaha!!!! the only sex man in this blog, i've always known you started planting sex seed into you life since you were young, now you want it to disappear just like that? Bwahahaha go for deliverance biko! Next time stay away from tasting different soups.
DeleteLmao
DeleteLol
DeleteHonestly I have a crush on u!
DeleteYou are just weird!!!!
DeleteLoool.
DeleteWeyrey
Nigerian girls and their 'he doesn't give me money' syndrome. When will it end? Sex has been 4 or 5 times a year because of this belief? What will u call my 2 sexless years? Hehehe
ReplyDeleteOnly 2 sexless years and you are talking what people who have been celibate for 5 years? Biko work more on that.
DeleteCelibacy
DeleteAm a girl of 26 virgin will be getting married soon by His grace. Pls I need someone to gv me hint on sex as all my friends nv knew am a virgin. How do I knw if am good or not, strength to engage in it $ the likes.
ReplyDeletePractice wif a girl @anon 15:10
Delete*dat messed up silly girl*
Okponnku! !!! Bwahahaha nne what where you doing all this while when your mates Don be profi for the thing, sex bus Don leave you behind naughty contact Kehinde Ake for private classes, ask Stella for his contact.
DeleteStart now to know,how do u expect us to teach u,sex means that prick finds its way to Toto. Kapish!
DeleteGo watch porn abeg
DeleteBuy the art of love making by Tim and Beverly lahaye.
DeleteAnd learn all you need to learn
and also communicate well with your husband during love making so he can tell you what he wants and you can tell him what you like too
God's grace hun
Lemme help u out:
DeleteFirst of all, dance infront of ur close friends, if they consider u a good or okay dancer, thrs high chance u'd be good in bed in terms of flexibility sha.
Secondly, try running up & down a staircase aimlessly or use a skipping rope to do some hoops, that'd help u know ur stamina.
Thirdly, watch porn with really sexy guys, search for the name CJ wright, gals are known to click his name often, I guess he does it for them on video, iff u watch him for 10mins fully concentrated and u don't get dripping wet down below, u probably hv problems with reaching orgasm, goodluck....... Ehe b4 I forget, pray ur hubby dsnt hv poblems oh.
Don't worry, you should be fine. Its better you learn on the field. Watch porn with your man.
DeleteIf u can use frog jump to climb up a stair case then my dear, u are good in Bed
DeleteGet into marriage first and just flow with ur guy. Dont worry, he will teach you how to satisfy him in bed and you will also get to know ur erotic zones. If ur hubby is well experienced, he should also know those places that tickle u most when he caresses ur body cos of d way u respond when he touches those places. So just be patient and co-operate with ur hubby to give and get the best.
DeleteNawa
DeleteYou just go with the flow.
DeleteSuck his dick too
Google is your best friend. Better still, talk to your mum about it.
DeleteQuechion for the godss....
DeleteLolest
DeleteI strongly believe that even if one doesn't have sex before marriage, its only a matter of time before they become perfect in the act. Its in-built. Go on google and read as much as you can. But pls, never you watch an adult movie to learn about sex. They corrupt the mind and sex is not meant to be commercialized. I even thank God that I've forgotten the few ones I bumped into in the past.
DeleteP1, if you carry out a research on baby mamas, you'll find out that about 60% of them were proposed to and at the verge of getting married before the guy absconded or his parents refused. You must know that some men casually take girls home to their parents. It doesn't make you special until he meets yours and pays your bride-price. Besides, you're still in your early twenties. Pls, stop thinking so much about marriage. Now is the time to be whatever you can be in life.
P2, the only thing I deduced from your post is that you're celibate (should I even call you celibate?) not bc you love God but bc time is no longer on your side. If you want to settle down, you can do whatever you feel lik doing to catch a husband including keeping numerous boyfriends, but if you want to serve God, you serve him unconditionally and not bc you need something in return. Remind me what Christ said about being lukewarm again? A born-again christian does not KISS, not to talk of sex.
Poster1....dont marry him,it ll only get worse trust me
ReplyDeletePoster2....just leave it all too God,he knows the answer best!!!
Na lie, poster 2 need deliverance.
DeletePóster 1, wait o! U said he doesnt apologize Wen he is wrong,snaps at u,doesnt give u money,he doesnt carry u along in decison-making and as if Dats not enough,u dont understand him. And yet u say he loves u.
ReplyDeleteOya,Biko define Love nne.while u are at it,let me remind u dAt love is a DOING Word o.
Biko free urself from dat guy.he doesnt sound good.Upon dat he wants u to get preggers before marriage. Inukwa!
Poster 2,what d mind wants,it can achieve!.
I wont lie it wil be Very easy.Buh u can do it.
Stay away from romnatic vids. Stay away from romantic and sexy discussions.
dont cuddle o!
Avoid plenty visits to dose men Dat weaken u and if u must go,meet in d company of people.
Always remember want u want and stick to it.
Pray for Strength too.always remember dis goal u have set to achieve and remind urself Wen tempted dat u can do it.and dat d power lies in u.
God's Grace!
Jisike!
Poster 2,read this advice given by The General's Wife very well. It is the best advice I've read so far on this issue.
DeleteBy His grace, I have been celibate since 2009 which makes it a total of 6 years.
When I struggled, particularly in the early years, I always re-examined myself and found out that watching a lot of videos or even reading stories with sexual connotations is the major thing that leads to temptation.
If it is thrown at you unexpectedly, switch the video off or leave the place. Take a leaf from Joseph flee like he did from Potiphar's wife.
Avoid dirty or suggestive conversations with males and even females (like those talking about what they did with their men).
Focus on wholesome things and focus on God. It is not an easy decision you have made but I assure you, it is one of the best things I've done.
You'll be fine.
Above all, remember if u fall,repent and get back up again.
Poster 2 isn't asking for how to dodge sex but for how to still be good at it when the time comes...I have lil adviice to give but to say when u like something u'll like it so just wait till u start having sex to worry, cheers
DeleteMuah! I love ur comment the General's wife. Wish dir was a like button.
DeleteMehnn she really need to define love ni. If d guy lacks all those quality she listed dia.
DeletePoster 1 didn't talk about the sex, it must be damn good, that's wats keepin her there, she wnts to die there.... She's confusin it for love
DeletePoster 2 has tasted the forbidden fruit, conji must come knocking, she better find a way to quench it, conji no know prayer oh.
DeleteExactly! I don't see any sign of love there...how do you even define your love sef? Smh!
DeletePoster 1 don't get pregnant poster 2 watch porn with your husband
ReplyDeleteLmao! !!!! This one don miss road. Ife gist na eme
Delete@ poster 2, its not only Christian that can stay away from sex before marriage, I'm a Muslim of 26 and still a virgin. I've never masturbated in my life and I think its a mind set decision. Maybe its because I haven't done it before that's why it's more easier for me. Also, I pray you find your husband on time so that you can settle down as soon as possible
ReplyDeleteAnd because your homone level is low, you don't feel it. Go to hospital kaji kwo?
DeleteUr right because I think is easier to say no to sex when ur still a virgin than when u've been sexually active.
DeletePoster one.. you are still young so why the rush? After all the chronicles you've read here you still want to enter one chance with your eyes wide open. Don't get pregnant until he puts a ring on it and that is when you're sure you wana end up with him. For me I would say you wait and explore other men,as u are still young and have probably not met a lot of men hence your wanting to settle for this.
ReplyDeletePoster two.... I'm no born again so I can't help you on this
You had better repent before rapture takes place. Be warned
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ReplyDeleteThank you Olori for that comment, and get well soon.
Delete*confused face*
DeleteWetin you dey yarn ???
He should give you money oo, that's very important. And please ask, even if you have, nmo matter how little, that way when you guys are married he should not be strange to him when you start asking for money .
ReplyDeleteI hate guys that are too proud to apologise, you are still young if you can't do shakara for him to beg you now, when will you? Why must you beg him when he's wrong?
Lastly don't get pregnant yet. , he should pay your brideprice at least.
U deserve a kiss for this!
DeletePoster 1 if you get pregnant before a man properly marries you then you will be the architect of your own destruction.
ReplyDeleteYou're uncertain about his behavior and you're contemplating getting pregnant, so what if he is the first son? How does it stop him from marrying you legally before knocking you up. Do not use another person's time cos in the end you'll face your problems alone.
If you like be 30 years or over, do not get pregnant for any man till he marries you.
Poster 2 the Lord is your strength.
The Queen Yama Yama of this blog will come out now and call poster 2 aunty gwegs... my dear...pls hold on with all your might,me know I can't do it oo,,,i am very very sexually active. God is your muscle.
ReplyDeletePoster 1... I am allergic to stingy people biko..even if I have my own wealth it doesn't mean he shouldn't surprise with cash gifts. You better go one corner,sidon and think bout this matter very well. Good luck
.... You just called her that yourself. Oshisko Nigeria Limited.
DeleteNarrative one..... he doesn't give u money and makes decision alone, that is enough to give him space. I don't like stingy pple, ur man must be able to at least give u something once in a wyl. And again if he want u to become a mother, he should first make u a wife. Poster 2...... I think you should go celibate to avoid further temptation. It is well
ReplyDeletePoster 1: you said he loves yet he wants you to get pregnant, that's to know weather u fit born naa akwaya? What manner of love is that. upon say him stingy, biko nne shine your eyes oooo to avoid part 2 chronicle.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I don't know what to tell you.
P1, don't get pregnant before marriage. Love has no condition. P2, no temptation can make me break the rule. Its not easy but its a decision.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Never be alone with your boo. Go to public places and Parks. If possible, get a chaperone.
ReplyDeletePray always, all day, for strength from Holy Spirit to resist temptation in any form.
Avoid reading or watching any pornography.
Have self-control. Keep your body under subjection-. 1 Corinthians 8:27
Know that God cannot and does not tempt any man- James 1:13. However He has assured us no one will be tempted above his capability. So know that you can overcome this, by His grace.
Finally, do not worry if you are still good in bed or not. Trust our God to make everything beautiful in His time. He is our loving God and knows what's best for us.
God bless you.
I sit down cross leg to read comments, being an Atheist, lemme read comments from christians, wetin concern Ashawo with virginity?
ReplyDelete1 word 4 p 1; "RUN"
ReplyDeleteUr are in ur thirties,unmarried and wana stay off sex? Pls go and be a whore cos no guy will wana date u without sex! Gwegs
ReplyDeleteHehehe...
DeleteThus saith the Queen of gwegs....
DeleteYour need to format your mentality.
DeleteMy husband is non religious, but a nice father and husband, we'v had our ups n downs like any union, but to crown it all I can say we're happy... He always assures me that prayer is useless, he evn goes a step further to prove it, in such a scary way, he wins wen he says I should pray about somthing, the exact opposite happens when I pray, he always laughs at me, tho he dsnt prevent me from going to church, I keep praying for God to touch his heart n turn him around, but he says I'd be the one to abandon christianity, I always decline him saying that. -amaka.
ReplyDeleteDid u see these atheistic signs b4 u entered d marriage? Or frustration led him to it in d course of d marriage? Pray better,God is hearing ur prayers but d devil is still playing tricks with ur mind,which can result to doubts, and doubts scare answers to prayers away. The Lord is ur strength Amaka.
DeleteUr hubby must believe in something n is playing spiritual games with u. I pity u, better go to MFM. Cos when it backfires, d storms will overflows.
Delete1 cor. 7:13 and if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to love with her, she must not divorce him, for the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife.....it went further to say in verse 16 that, how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband?. Read this Scripture on your own and continue to pray for your husband
DeleteI knew from the beginning I must admit, but he's so nice, even his charity work to strangers and activist roles got me hooked, anon 17:30 he's nt playin any yeye spiritual games, he's jst a freethinking person, I don't have a problem with him o, since he didn't lie to me, my problem is iv startd questionin my fragile faith, I need intervention lord.
DeleteWow!!! With all due respect ma'am plz forgive me for saying.....you are married to a very wicked spirit. Jesus Christ! Cant u see?? Dis ur husband is a strong man that d devil is using to scatter ur prayers whether he knws it or not, and d fact that he laughs about it to ur face is very very scary and creepy. Remember how Daniel prayed and d prince of Persia held d angel sent to answer him for 21days till angel Micheal came to d angel's rescue?? Yea there's a prince of Persia that Hz layed a siege to ur house and unfortunately seems to be manifesting thru ur husband. Those prayers u pray will most probably Neva be answered for as long as ur husband continues to shoot them down with his mouth! U are obviously weak spiritually hence why he can confidently brag that u will be d one to leave religion for him. Wow!,ds ur own is deep ooo so deep u dnt even realise. He is stronger than u spiritually and u have no idea, ur spirit man cannot grow in d kind of setting and thus d deep things of d spirit cannot be made known to u. May God help u and ur family madam. U obviously did not take ds marriage to God before going into it. I pray we dnt read ur chronicles here and that God will deliver u. Stella please post my comment I beg u, she needs to knw that ds situation she's in with her husband is not as casual as she's making it sound. She is in d middle of a warfare and she doesnt even knw it. Plz post it Stella.
DeleteI feel you cos when I pray seriously is when everything starts going wrong.
DeleteI feel guilty not praying everyday but I feel it's works better for me when I don't.
P 2; Am still a virgin pls lol
ReplyDeletePoster 1-Some guy with anger issues and a big ego who you dated for play is asking you to conceive even without marriage and you are considering? What is your rush? Is he giving you money? Because apart from money, I can't see what a young lady will be doing with a man with so many red flags. You are good enough to carry pregnancy but not good enough for him to wed. So what happens if you hear he has a fiance or is married and keeps his people in the North or abroad? You will be a baby mama at this age for no reason. Then you said he snaps, while courting he snaps when married he will snap you in two.
ReplyDeletePlease respect yourself, face school and do not be anybody's baby mama. If they can't wait to marry you for you to carry their child...they are not worth it.
Don't mind poster 1. The man has only red flags. She hasn't mentioned any good character. After listing all his wicked traits, she ended by saying that he loves her. No be only love? P1 wants to enter one chance with her eyes wide open. Tomorrow now she'd start to write more chronicles.
DeleteP2. Pray about it and avoid occasions of sin.
Poster2....im in d same boat
ReplyDeleteIv not been able to overcome it nd it weighs me down...its ma major issue now and I hope I can learn from this too.
Le Boo z so sweet,nd wf perfct flaws I can cope with. Truth is he wouldn't mind if I wanna stop.he would not force me.
Sometimes it's my fault, sex with him is soooo awesome I wanna do it again...no mata hw much I try,i jst fall again...I even strt d sex sometimes.I end up feeling guilty and sad
God help me o !!! I nid to stop...
Poster 1, Be sure of his character first girl, pls don't make the mistake of settling for less becos u think u love him. If you can do with the character after marriage Then marry him, but don't get pregnant until you say I Do. God bless u hun.
ReplyDeletePoster2 seriously I don't know. God bless u too
We all have our diff challenges were sex is concerned. I think sex is the greatest battle against flesh any human being fights. I am a married woman who doesn't get sex much from my husband and having to resort to masturbation which in itself is a sin. I die a little every time I do this. I have prayed, fasted and made promises to my self and God and still failed each time. Each time I am able to withstand the temptation I feel like I have won a gold medal. This is an ongoing fight within each and everyone one of us, its personal and should be fought one day at a time. Lord have mercy on us all.
ReplyDeleteIs ur hubby cheating on u?
DeleteWhy masturbate? Get a coded sex partner that won't tell to satisfy ur urge,both is sin. If u want to commit sin,commit it well. Good luck.
"This is an ongoing fight within each and everyone one of us," No Its not once you begin to accept then the battle is lost even before its started. Speak with your husband and resolve your issue, get on your knees
DeleteMasturbaginiì?
DeleteGet a man abeg
Narrative 1.. Talk to Mr A about your fears!
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2... Try and stop dating men that want sex, from the onset let it be known that it's no sex till marriage and pray to God to help you stand by ur decisions! The right guy will come along and understand soon!
It's not easy for everyone to tie their legs and pretend to be mermaids, Temptation is real!
Hope Y'all had a wonderful weekend?
Narrative 2- Am not judging but 4/5x a year? And u claiming born again? That's much for someone who is trying to abstain.
ReplyDeleteI am not a "born again" but I haven't had sex in a year and half and before not bcos I am not pretty or no toasters I just zero my mind and want to wait till after marriage and don't go hear guys that would tempt me.
Am 32yrs
I date but dont stay together in a confined place with d guys. Rooms or sit in cars etc
I channel my focus elsewhere
If I am really in d mood,I use a clit vibrator
Life doesn't revolve around sex ive learnt.
Too many holier than thou on this blog... they all will be forming scripture reciters hisssss acting like they don't do anything bad or even worse. Born again but 4,5x of sex in a year with different pple or just one person?
DeleteTie your legs, case closed!
ReplyDeleteFuck is fuck, whether na once a year or not.
E don enter, e don enter!!!
Lol@ E don enter, e don enter.
DeleteExactly.
DeleteSo far you plug n unplay,you don do
Poster two, so you don't even have a partner and you are having sex upandan?!! Who r these people you are dashing sex to? Yet they don't wanna marry you? And you r playing for a partner? Nah. You r on a long thing. Try genuine repentance. If that don't work, try evaluating your self worth
ReplyDeleteNarrative one, before embarking, have a serious one to one with your fiance, go for counselling before marriage. This helps as well. If ur mind and what u see now if affirming no, think twice. People do not change after marriage.
ReplyDeletePoster two, ask for grace. If u know u r goi g to do it, do it and enjoy. What's the point of doing and being frigid, two way loss be dat. Ualready know the taste and enjoyment it carries. Lord help u as u learn to hold on. Sshorry
@poster1 : ask him to give you more time so you can know him better.
ReplyDeleteStart demanding 4 money ooh,dis is the time 2 know if he is stingy ooh.....dats one exam you have 2 give him.
Make sure he doesn't want to marry you bcos his family want him to settle down but bcos he has seen his wife in you.
Make sure he pass all the necessary test.
Don't make the mistake of getting pregnant 4 him.
A guy dat loves you won't give you such condition.
@poster2 : hmmmmmm, I don't know what to said....ask 4 d grace 2 over come all the temptations.
Inform any guy u are in a relationship with dat sex is out of it n avoid inside room bible study.
Good luck!
1. You said he loves you then why is giving a problem? I know loving and giving are always together except he doesn't have and when he has little he should be willing to share. Hnmm are you sure he's not asking for marriage because he's under pressure to marry as the first son and not that he truly loves you? Don't even consider getting pregnant before marriage cos he might change his mind and that means you'll be added to the list of baby mamas. I'll advice you still watch him closely and prayer before deciding. Ask yourself if you can cope with all you listed above that he's doing now in marriage, the answer lies with you.
ReplyDeleteIt is well
2. Will read comments on this one. Make I learn new thing.
Narr2) I will just wait and read comments about ur chronicle.
ReplyDeleteStella, this your "putting ring to it and having sex" will create problems. How about guys who "put rings to have sex?" How about "Marriage; then sex"?
ReplyDeleteFor Poster 2: "No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God's seed remains in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God".
That is 1 John 3:9. If you've been born of God, then fast at least three times a week like Jesus taught and discipline your flesh so that the works of the flesh like fornication does not deprive you of eternal life. Joseph in the Old Testament was pressured; did he have sex?
Poster 1:Marriage is not a walk in the park.Take ur time to study dat guy before u accept to say " I DO"....2ndly,do nt ever get pregnant for him.
ReplyDeleteEven if he says,"lemme just put the tip,i won't pour inside u",no gree ooo. Except u wana send in anoda chronicle tomorrow.
2nd poster:Sex is sweet,very sweet.Its hard to stop once u've tasted it...It's even sweeter if ur doing it with smone you love.The pleasure thrills u and drives u to cloud 9..*pauses here* (story for anoda day)
My advice:
*Stay away frm porn.
*Occupy ur mind with the word of God.
*Dont masturbate
*Never look at a guy's trouser for too long cos u might start imagining the size of his "blokos"
*pray hard and ask God to be a DH provider...Nothing beats the peace of mind u have wen u're fucking ur legally wedded hubby.
Ps: U have a right to disagree with me buh do nt eva cuss me out.I repeat do nt eva cuss me out cos i'll come back and insult ur destiny and ur generation. Lmao
Poster 1 Marriage before pregnancy. Poster 2 The Bible says,abstain from all appearance of evil.If u are alone with a man in a room,u should be wise enough to know that something might happen.The scripture is totally against sex outside marriage that is why,the word flee was used to coution you.Flee fornication.I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteP1: If I were u I would diss him.
ReplyDeleteP2: It's so difficult to abstain from sex especially after u have tasted it. So it's better not to stir love cause when u do, and love awakens, it's not easy to stop, but there's nothing impossible with God.
U said u are trying to stay righteous and avoid sex, it sounds to me u are trying to do it on ur own. Sounds more like self righteousness to me. Ur strength is limited. Get rid of that self- righteous mindset and get God involved else u will continue to have sex.
Sexual immorality includes fornication/adultery, masturbation, pornography etc and all these are things God's Word instructs we stay away from.
Now God can't ask u to do something He knows it's not good for u and He always gives u the grace to obey His Word but first must be ur willingness to obey Him.
So the question is: do u wanna stop this sin cycle? Like really? It's not easy but u just have to resist the temptation when they show up.
Empty urself before God and tell Him how u feel, how much u want to stop and ask Him to help u, then take a step further by avoiding anything that seduces u to sin.
Do u watch porn? Do u read sexually graphic books? Do u have friends who talk nothing but sex? When u surround urself with things that wreak sex, how do u think u can overcome this struggle, this pressure? Because all u will be thinking about is sex! And when sex fills ur thoughts, it's impossible not to give in to it when it shows up even for the slightest moment.
So stay away from them and rather fill ur mind with God's Word, read books, listen to clean music, distract ur mind from sex thoughts, keep filling it more and more with God's Word.
Another thing, do what Joseph did to Potiphar's wife: She kept pressuring Joseph day after day, but he refused to sleep with her, and he kept out of her way as much as possible.
Joseph practically resisted and ran from Potiphar's wife. Potiphar's wife is a symbol of sexual immorality and Joseph was a young man who was driven by his great love for God.
If u truly love God like Joseph, then pls do what he did also. It's not easy but u must do it, with God's help cos u can't do it own ur own.
Don't try to be righteous, simply desire it and allow the Holy Spirit work it out in u. In ur own puny strength, u can do nothing.
I have so much to say but I have one or two topics on how to be sexually pure in my blog www.mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com. Why not check it out and possibly leave me a question if you have any.
Sexual sin is one sin that had crippled so many Christians but still God's Word can't change because almost everyone is giving in to this seductive sin. What is sin is sin but God has provided us a way out through grace by Christ Jesus...
Choose righteousness
See my latest topics:
Dear young couples, what u should know before u say I do
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Awww I just love ur response ...so apt and very insightful . God bless u
DeleteWord!!! We need many Chrisrians who would speak up for Christ and wouldn't change or twist the bible to suit them. Thanks for saying it the way it is without sugar coating it.
DeleteNarrative 2:
ReplyDeleteYou have sex few times in a year and the encounters are not great?.
My dear,as a Christian,pick one. It's either you have sex or you DO NOT have sex. Pick one.
You are in your 30's so you know what to do.
Good luck.
Poster 1,you are still filled with youthful exuberance. I also felt like that when my hubby took me to his family house. Before then,I skipped two dates we set to go meet the family. If you love the guy ,you can get pregnant after traditional marriage. But bear in mind that he may delay the white wedding for years. Btw,he sounds like a stingy guy.
Good luck
Irene! Why kind of rubbish advice is this? So if poster 1 was your younger sister, you'd behave like this?
DeleteI am a porn addict Pls it is bad??? Am a woman
ReplyDeleteYes,it is bad.
DeleteFind a man to straff.
* straight face *
But seriously, are you happy, when you're done seeing them?
I think you know the answer already.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Yes dear, porn is bad and there's a demon behind it. Please flee from it because the devil has held many people captive through porn and from there it leads to masturbating and then to many other sins. Phil 4:8 "Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honourable, whatever is just, whatever is pure,whatever lovely, whatever is commendable -if there's any moral excellence and if there is any praise-dwell on these things".
Delete1Corinth7:2 "but because of sexual immorality, each man should have a wife of his own,and each woman should have her own husband"
Please tell God to break every porn addiction in your life and let the blood of Jesus Christ wash your body,soul n mind from every porn addiction and make you a new person in Christ. Please rededicate your life to Christ. God bless u.
Anonymous 16:08(porn addict)&Poster1&2 that's for you.Job 22:21-23a Come to terms with God and be at peace; in this way good will come to you. 22Receive instruction from His mouth and place His sayings in your heart.23 if you return to The Almighty, you will be renewed. Porn is bad and it us the devil's tool, please tell God to break you loose from the grip of the devil.
DeleteThere's nothing wrong with watching porn...afterall,it's not written anywhere in the bible...
DeleteBut the things that watching it make you do and imagine are written in d Bible
DeleteHmmm. Poster 1, I aint married yet but I know marriage is not a thing to play or joke around wiv. U can be leading a guy on and still be forming it's a joke. I went to his house, met his people, and know u can't stand his xter deficiencies, yet u saying u are joking. Odiegwu! Now he wnts u pregnant and u are still asking for advice. My dear, tell d guy ur mind and stop playing wiv him. Communications fill d gap and makes things easy to b dealt wiv.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, your case is a case that only you and no one else can decide on. No matter hw one pressures you, bin celibate is a decision that only YOU can conquer...
P2: stop feeling guilty. U are trying to live by the standards of people who never had the issues we now face. For example girls in Biblical times were married at the age of 12 or 13 when there were just entering puberty. Now society expect you to get an education well into your twenties. By this time your are over matured and it will be strange to see the woman who can contain her instincts for that lenght of time. Forget it. Even ur pastor who is preaching is not celebrate. Enjoy yourself just remember you are not a dog.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 - No marriage until you know him well, but you don't sound in love with him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - I do not consider myself a born again Christian, yet I have sex only when I am in a relationship. When I am single, I don't have sex so basically this year I have sex once. I don't know much about all these born again things, but for me it is more a spiritual thing.
However don't get it twisted, am currently single and my ex is working abroad. When I am ready for him... he gives me lastly pleasure both with his tongue and d__k that I have multiple organism to satisfy me and I honestly enjoy it.
You don't have to sleep with random men and feel guilty afterward, try and make a friend... remember not all relationships lead to marriage. If that doesn't work then invest in a really good g-spot vibrator.
Don't be worried about losing your bedmatics... its really about the pussy. The less guys you fuck, the more you notice they never really go away but will do anything for another taste of the bomb pussy (winks winks).
See your life?
DeletePoster 2, STOP MEETING MEN IN 'KORO' .
ReplyDeleteP2: stop feeling guilty. U are trying to live by the standards of people who never had the issues we now face. For example girls in Biblical times were married at the age of 12 or 13 when there were just entering puberty. Now society expect you to get an education well into your twenties. By this time your are over matured and it will be strange to see the woman who can contain her instincts for that lenght of time. Forget it. Even ur pastor who is preaching is not celebrate. Enjoy yourself just remember you are not a dog.
ReplyDeleteYou are just justifying sin. OMG you need to love God and agree to His words because when you do, you wouldn't advice anybody to go against God's principles. Pls go and read Job 22:21-23a
DeleteYou are just justifying sin. OMG you need to love God and agree to His words because when you do, you wouldn't advice anybody to go against God's principles. Pls go and read Job 22:21-23a
DeleteWhat proof do u have that the women married at the age of 12 and 13?
DeleteRev.22:18
For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book:
19And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and from the things which are written in this book. Know your Scripture before u quote.
Wow! Are u trying to insinuate that d bible is outdated and as such its laws and guidelines are impracticable thereby declaring them void???!!!! May God forgive u. D rubbish pple will say just to justify their immoral ways is as alarming as it is appalling. May God help us all.
DeleteHell is real my dear Anon. Repent!
DeleteOh shut up. Nonsense advice.
DeleteYou can do it if u make ur mind to, it all has to do with discipline, God is not an author of confusion, he wldnt have admonished you according to the scriptures if he knew it was sumtin u can't handle. The right man will come along n he'll respect ur wishes. Keep Faith
ReplyDeleteIt's not easy as you're rightly said, but it only takes grace..... Ask for God's grace and be determined and discipline yourself..... you can achieve it if you truly want to
ReplyDelete@poster2
ReplyDeleteStella abeg make I sip dat drink wit u
ReplyDeleteposter 1:una no go hear word how many times have we treated related cases
ReplyDeletepoter 2:go and marry.
Less i forget Stella where is this girl that use to say Stella u must enjoy me its been long i read her comment.Abi una BV don pursue her.
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteone chance things.
poster 2 :
I am very ready for you.
Get an amplified bible and read the book of John 14 .
notice the explanations give to the word 'comforter' . Helper , intercessor, standby, advocate , strengthener , counsellor.
Listen to me , you can't do this on your own..
but then you have the Sport of God dwelling in you and you have the word of God.
Spend time with the word.
It prunes
don't think getting born again stops you from sinning just like that.
No
you have to renew your mind with the word and ask your helper to help you whenever you feel under pressure
avoid men and friends who don't bring out the best in you
keep on relying on the Holy Spirt.
read the book of Romans 6 and have some confessions written down about yourself
you would make it.
immerse yourself in the word.
build your convictions
build your faith
love God more
Talk to God always
btw....what's with your worrying about you sexual performance???
Ibiakwa!!!
Oya
remember God is your helper in this
I wish you the best.
Poster 2, you just have to be more disciplined. It's not just sex if you torchlight ya physical life as well. Could include a little laziness, procrastination, being soft willed etc.
ReplyDeleteI'm in the same shoes with you, but I can stop myself from having sex. It's porn that sometimes I can't help.
It's something we all need to work out. Salvation should be worked out with fear and trembling.
As for poster 1.
It's you decision to make at the end of the day.
Lmao stellz biko sell popcorn n coke for me o
ReplyDelete@1, he will not change stop deceiving ursef.
ReplyDelete@2, u are a hypocrite, christian my ass, fuck off cos I hate ur likes.
You suck, who are you to judge?! You should hate yourself too
DeleteHe without sin should cast the first stone. Your bitterness is so pathetic. Pele ti e.
DeletePoster 1,what if you become pregnant and dude decides not to marry ya anymore,what then?you become a baby mama is what.be wise.
ReplyDeletePoster2,the only solution to your problem is to get married,or stay off sex completely.you torture yourself with the incessant guilt trip.its unhealthy and not neccessary.
am here t read comments as well.
ReplyDeletePoster 1...its a NO 4 me.. Poster 2... 2 fuck dey hungry u die. Hahahahah
ReplyDeleteStella my case is hopeless. I used to be platonic friends with some guy who is now married and a deacon in church. We met again and became the very best of friends as usual. I can't explain how we suddenly started developing feelings for each other. We fought it for quite sometime and our feelings over powered us and the rest is history....we have become inseparable. I'm so scared. I love his prick so badly and he fucks me like his whole life depended on It. I love to make him scream madly as I suck his sweet prick. We have been together for several years and I just don't know how to get away from his big and sweet prick. He has become so obsessed with me and can even commit suicide if I leave him. We spend several hours everyday with each other. I'm his best friend now. I don't know how to forcefully get out of this relationship. It's okay to cuss out dearies if that will actually help
ReplyDeleteRe u for real?
DeleteU need jesus dear.
Ewo! Married deacon!
DeleteAhahahaha. He can "commit suicide" if you leave him yet he will NEVER EVER marry you.
DeleteI got horny reading this. Chai, boo come back from ur trip already,I nid u badly.
DeleteYou guys are falling deep into sin and you are loving it. My dear the devil has a grip over both of you and I hope u guys wouldn't let go off each other after d trumpet blows because it will be blown very soon! Or I hope you guys don't die in your sin during one of your sexual act. You are leading him on knowing fully well that he's married(adultery ) Gal 6:7 DON'T BE DECEIVED GOD CANNOT BE MOCKED, WHAT A MAN SOWS HE/SHE SHALL REAP . Adultery plagues our society and it is one of the 10th commandments of God "Don't commit Adultery " so madam you are a big partaker of that sin. U better repent and stop being the devil errand woman because he won't let you stop sinning until he destroys u totally.
DeleteI know there will always be a phony chronicle like this....see the way the anonymous is even scribbling sweet everywhere..
DeleteDon't forcefully get out....whine you waist slowing out and forcefully get in
Ewuuuuuu!!! Njuor nkea kwuor nwa!! This sin pass normal sin, this sin carry pikin for back.
DeleteHahahaha..
DeleteHope he pays your bills too abi you dey do osho free?...
All these church people sef...
Mtcheew...
Lol madam are u a porn writer?? No be small thing oo. See all d explicit description. I'm sure u were imagining it as u wrote that comment and by d time u hit 'publish' u were alrdy aroused. Continue oooo. When u guys noticed ur feelings were becoming uncontrollable common sense did not tell u to avoid each other, after all out of sight is out of mind. Continue dearie....u are living d dream life. Enjoy
DeleteLmao!
DeleteHa! I think I'm doing d same guy oh. Does he live in abuja? Work in central?
DeleteSoul Tie. You better ask God for mercy,cus what you are Doing is going to have Consequences. As for the deacon who should know better but is participating actively in adultery, I leave him to God to handle him. We humans have learnt to take God for granted because he's slow to anger. If there was immediate and devastating consequences any time we sin,we'd be careful to avoid it. All this destiny aborting moves is not it o!
DeleteHehhehehehehehe
DeleteAll I kept reading was big and sweet prick.
Nne you need Jesus.
So if I understand he is married n u r single, n u have tied ur life to another woman's husband? While u waste away your life he has his family later u will go and be crying y me, bring chronicles of cheating husband forgetting there's karma. u need deliverance, both of u
DeleteI am also very confused and it seems there is no one to advise me. just as aunty Stella has also kept quiet on this matter. In school, on blogs,tv,etc fornication is normal but in church, in the bible it's not encouraged. Abi are there two meanings of fornication?
ReplyDeleteAnd if you try to talk about abstinence, people will tag u Hypocrite or pretender or something.
What people say shouldn't really influence your decisions but the pressure is just too much. I wish I had someone who would really advise me.
Youngster
Deletelisten
the world is anti Jesus and anti Biblical standards
follow God whole heartedly and love Him
don't listen to what people say
premarital sex is now justifies
but guess what dear. ....The standards of God do not change . Never !
So stick to the word
You had better keep yourself intact, since you've not started sharing, stay as you are o, may the holy spirit lead you.
DeleteBlogs, TV and school don't necessarily teach about God most times. They are not governed by the word of God so you can't demand high morales from them.
DeleteFollowing Christ is a different thing entirely hence the difference in the definations you spoke about.
Following Christ means you become a true born-again Christian who will have to depend very closely on the power of the Holy Spirit, the Word of God and a strong relationship with God to help you surmount all the challenges and temptations that will surely come your way.
Knowing God on time also helps you leave a more fulfilled life.
For instance, as a man it will help you avoid sex before marriage which will help you enjoy sex better when you get married to the woman you will prayerfully get from God.
Bomb p#$$ies will not confuse your sexual appetite in marriage as a result of fornication and adultery.
You will not need to lie to your wife about fake trips just to get with bomb p@$$ies with which the devil will intend to pull your marriage to the mud.
You will find your purpose in life if you are truly close enough.
You'll save yourself a lot of regrets.
Difficulties will definitely come your way, but you'll weather it better cos your hope is not based on yourself but on a force bigger than you.
There is just a lot of benefits to trying your best to follow Christ. It really does reduce the pressure to please anybody. It makes you cut off from people who want to burden you with useless pressures.
Cheers.
Can you drop your number or BBM contact let's talk........
DeleteSweety there's something I always tell my friends while in school, people who are all up in your case because you are keeping yourself are only trying their best to drag you to be thesame as them, deep down in their hearts they wish they where like you. There is pride in keeping oneself. stand out,God's word is your standard not the world, do not conform to the things of the world. I would like you to read Romans 6,7 and 8 from 1 to the last verse. I would like to be there to encourage u, do not let any1 make you think you are missing out on something, Noooo u are not,its devil's strategy. You should be the proud one not the reverse. Don't let any1 intimidate u. Keep yourself for your husband.
DeleteAdults keep on confusing the young ones. Especially the so called 'influential' ones.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind them.
DeleteThe best blog ever
ReplyDeleteThat's right
DeletePoster 1.
ReplyDeleteFor once I'm agreeing with Stella. Don't get pregnant before you get married and have it at the back of your mind that most of the time, undesirable traits in a partner ( both men and women) usually get worse, not better after marriage.
If you cannot stand it now, take a walk. If you can handle it, good luck.
Poster 2.
There's been a trigger for everytime you caved in to the urge to have sex with these men.
Identify what the trigger is - hormonal stimulation (wrong/right time of the month), visual stimulation ( erotic pictures, videos, stories ), physical stimulation ( being held or touched/ caressed), mental stimulation ( thoughts, memories).
Cast your mind back to every occasion where you gave in, there must have been a trigger. You have to identify ways to counteract your triggers, like avoiding visual stimuli, not allowing situations that could lead to physical intimacy ( being alone together in seclusion) and filling your mind with the word of God each time your memories threaten to derail you. Always keep busy when you sense a mental trigger coming, an idle mind is fertile ground for the devil's antics.
There's nothing much you can do to change the feelings caused by hormones, your best bet then will be to keep busy as well during these times.
Don't let anyone erode your self confidence as to how 'good' you are in bed, that you were already feeling guilty during the act is enough to spoil the mood and make you act "stiff". If you were a guy, you'd probably lose your erection in the process, remember your mind is your most powerful sexual organ.
Good luck and please enjoy the days when your body is yours and yours alone. Time will come when between your husband and your children, you will feel like you don't own your body anymore.
and i thought i was the only one dear i dont even know what to do self
ReplyDeleteGo for deliverance, simple. Sex is a spiritual thing, it takes spiritual to to understand it's spiritual contenter.
DeleteP1. He doesn't give u money and u don't mind?? That's how it starts oo. Don't be surprised that after marriage u'll be the one catering for ur home, urself n children wen they start coming. U don't mind shey?? Set ur standard, know what and what those qualities ur spouse MUST have! No one is perfect but know those things u can and cannot tolerate. Personally, I can't deal with stinginess!!
ReplyDeleteP2.. Not being sexually active is not same as being sexually naïve. U know what the Word says, the Lord's standard does not change. U know what is right n what is not, the choice is urs. Good luck!!
N2: Discipline, principle and above all the grace of God. Even though GRACE means "God doing for us, what we cannot do for ourselves" there's need for corresponding action to back up our prayer, or better still to bring our prayers to past.
ReplyDeleteWhen you determine to stay celibate, keep away from the environment that Will make it difficult for you to keep yourself.
Poster 1 just go with stella's advice.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: u are not the only one, there are many pple going through this. I would rather wait and read other pple's comments, and learn as well. Guilty is the fatest thing that can kill the pleasure to be derived.
Poster2 I am always very guilty too when I go against God, it is better to feel that way than to come to a point where sin doesn't make u feel bad there by making u offend God without asking for forgiveness. There's this belief I have... When u stay off sex until marriage(bible being our standard &marrying God's way) God will make sex sweet and not just sex everything about ur marriage as long as you carried God along and married rightly. People would say, test it to be sure it is sweet and d marriage still fails even with their doctorate degree in "sexiology" so pls poster 2 just make sure u carry God along in ur quest to get married and I bet u He won't let u down. NEVER LET THE WORLD BE YOUR STANDARD BUT LET THE BIBLE(GOD'S WORD)BE YOUR STANDARD. The foundation of a marriage is very important. The devil knows that God values marriage and because of that he is on a last minute rampage to destroy d ones he can lay hands on.
ReplyDeletePoster1. U better close ur leg because getting pregas for d guy doesn't guarantee marriage, some of these men d moment u take in they develop hatred and sometimes change their minds, you better look at the future not the now, you don't want to tell stories that touches the heart or start blaming God when the fault is from you. You are in your 20s where are you rushing to? If you want to get married, get married properly. Let the bible be your standard not the world(trends e.t.c).
N1. That's how you open your eye and marry a STINGY man. You're not complaining about money now but after marriage it'll be another story.
ReplyDeletePoster 2....am going through d same tin o....I made a promise to God n I kept it but i made a mistake...ever since i cnt tink well always full of guilt.... Really need help before I die
ReplyDeleteWhy the guilt
Deleterun right into the arms of your father.
tell him your sorry and tell him how much you love him
his love is unstoppable
ask him for grace to please him
dont run away , run to Him
He loves you so much
I have the same issue with poster 2, I'm not up to twenty yet I've had a lot of sexual partners. I'm so addicted to sex that I can't do without it in a week and it's really hard to stop. I'm from a strong Christian home and most times I pretend to my family and friends. I love God and I always ask for forgiveness after the act and feel genuinely sober but I always see myself going back. Struggled to be celibate for 3months but I went back. I can't even be faithful to one partner and I don't do it for money or any gains. Sometimes I don't even want to pray because I'll end up going back to my sin. And I'm too young to get married especially just because of sex. I've just decided to keep trying to stop(at least I have been commited to one partner since january) gradually and beg God to help me with the belief that one day I'll finally stop ... #NoBashing biko, just move along ..
ReplyDeleteSee pussy bonanza *salivates*
Delete#nobashing. ..lol..who really cares like my caring would make you still not do it to night..
DeletePssst. ....
Blame it on ur libido hun, come get a hug. *hugs*
DeleteYou committed to one sexual partner honey ????
DeleteThat's still fornication
spend time with the word of God and prayer
tell God how you feel
buy single and sex life by pastor bimbo odukoya
GOD is your helper and He never left you.
leave that boy friend and ask The Spirt of God to prune and cleanse you
Fuck on jare...
DeleteNothing do you!...
Your case is serious... Prayer is the key
DeletePoster 1 don't get pregnant for him until u r sure of his character.
ReplyDeleteEnough of baby mamas pls..
Sake God's opinion.
Poster 2 I pray for God's wisdom..whenever I find my self in did kind of ur situation I ask God to take charge & I wl find my self in
d church..or I WL keep my self busy..
May God help be our portion in Jesus name..
Poster 1: Look before you leap?
ReplyDeletePoster 2: How best to handle it?
Abstain from pre marital sex.
I suppose the enthusiasm and vibe isn't
there because your feelings of guilt
overshadow them.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Wait on God for d right man that wont pressure u into sex b4 marriage. And wen you're married u will re-learn all d lost skills. No one was born with sex skills or with a pre existing knowledge of all d doggy styles or wheelbarrow or hooded-maiden-in-distress styles....Na one day we begin learn am. U will learn again. And in d meantime stop dwelling on d issue so much. Sounds like you're alwyz thinking about it. Remove ur mind frm it by getting busy with other things and occupying ur mind with scriptural and other beneficial things. Btw why are u practising abstinence?? Is it bkos of a vow u made to God as a result of ur new found dedication to him?? Or its bkos uve been heartbroken one too many times ND as such u think abstinence will keep d men and u wont cry to much if dey eventually mess up.....tell urself d truth. If d former is d case den go to God ND tell him to giv u His grace to keep ur vow to Him, for d bible says...."by strength shall no man prevail"....and God "will not allow u to be tempted beyond what u can bear". But if d latter is d case.....i can only wish u well in ur endeavor. D Lord is ur strength.
ReplyDeletePoster1: Let him wife u first before u take in
ReplyDeleteDon't go and enter one chance o!
Poster 2: Sorry I got no advice for u
To be a born again christian ain't easy
I'm Still a learner when it comes to that
Lyndy MK and Mma cee ur attention is needed here
Lolllzzz
DeleteYou seff
happy sunday jare
P 1: if the guy neva blow till now, then he's using the pregnancy before marriage ish to get into ur Graceland. My 7 Cedis on dat. If u like, follow am go see his ancestors in the great beyond, na O.Y.O. Things o!...
ReplyDeleteP 2: U're already used to fucking, so why the fucking pretence?? Barnies always forming victims with sex issues since 1957!
Ghanaman signing out!
Poster 1, never ever think of getting pregnant for a man before he marries you. Its very dicey.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, no comment
Lmao stella this your popcorn no be Here ooh.
ReplyDelete@ poster 1 don't even make that mistake of getting pregnant before marriage its bad enough that girls can't close legs anymore, and never assume that a man will change after marriage, his character is who he is, its only by the grace of God that some change so its either u accept him or u tolerate him.
@poster 2. Hmmm where do I start from.....Ok. When God made rules/laws for us, its not for him its for our own good because when we disobey it is to our own detriment, you see the rate of heart breaks and abortion In this generation, they are all a consequence of disobedience, I strongly believe a girl wil not feel as much pain as she feels when she breaks up with a lover If she doesn't sleep with him, believe it or not, one the things that causes that excruciating pain is the fact that she has given her body. I am saying this so u know that that it is for your own good that you abstain, when you begin to accept facts like this it becomes easier.
The Bible says do not be yoked together with unbelievers 2 cor. 6:14, so ask yourself this men you date are they believers? Because when u mingle with people that do not share thesame passion as u, two things happen its either u convince them or they convince u to believe in what they believe. A man who wants to get into your pants will say anything to get there. So you have to dissociate yourself from men who do not share in your believe .
Romans 6:13 therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. These shows that you have total power over your body, the power to actually resist this it all comes down to you, I think you are not yet rooted in the word, when you make God's word the standard for life and most importantly surround yourself with people with thesame standard you have overcome sin.Romans 6:14-15 says for sin shall not be your master because you are not under the law, but under grace, what then shall we continue to sin because we are not under the law but grace, God forbid. We Christians have done nothing but abuse the grace of God in our lives. You may feel that its difficult to abstain but believe me its mindset and who you associate with, and the level of your love for God. By the time you see fornication as more of a spiritual battle than physical, which is aimed at doing nothing but making u lose fellowship with God you will overcome, its because our generation see fornication as the new way of life, a form of civilization (has the Bible changed?) that's why its appearing difficult to resist. When your hormones rise( when you feel aroused ) pray,meditate,or look for something to keep you busy and your mind off that thought,an idle man they say is the devil's workshop, avoid putting yourself in compromising situations, like being in alone with the guy in a place that such could possibly happen,.the Qur'an says when a man and a woman sit alone, the third person is the devil, n this is true. There's a point to which your strength takes you and the grace of God takes over, always have that in mind, so never depend on your strength but on God. I could go on and on but..... I will leave you with this Scriptures that have answers to your questions,pls make sure you read Roman 6:1-23, 7:7-25,8:1-27 , 1 cor.6:9-20.God bless you.
Poster 1: don't marry him yet
ReplyDeletePoster 2: just abstain. No tips biko
Oooooooooh my...!
ReplyDelete@ poster 2 wipe it away from ur mind cos it comes from mind and whenever u feel like having it pls pray quickly by rejecting d evil thought. (It's working for me dunno abt u o)
Hi poster 2,i identify with everything you have said. I was going through the same struggle..lemme share what helped me.
ReplyDelete1. Prayer: I pray like crazy, asking God to protect me from defilers,ppl who know that u don't want sex,yet won't leave you alone. They see you as a Challenge, and refuse to respect your values,they say everything you want to hear to seduce you,then once they get you they run off.
2. Any man that tempts me into sin,is not from God. Once I meet a guy,from our first Conversation I try to know his mind set,and once it doesn't align with biblical principles,im off. No hanging around, no "just Friends",nothing of the sort. Na from Clap dem Dey enter danCe.
3. I fast once a week..helps subdue fleshy desires. As I fast,i pray about myself,my sex drive,anD ask for God's help to abstain from premarital sex(amongst other things) .
4. Don't stop asking God for a partner..when he comes,he will not seek to defile you,but rather dignify you by courting you properly,and you will find peace and fulfillment with him. Remember,"those that trust in the lord will never be put to shame". Pray a lot,cus it's prayers that will separate the wheat from the chaff,cus some men agree to no sex because they know they have issues with sexual performance or reproductive health,and rather than being honest about it,they decieve the girl into marriage with the "no sex" thing. Pray well o! Ask God for a discerning spirit,make sure you obey his laws about dating,keep ur body holy,anD believe me,it will all end in praise!!
God bless you!!
Poster 1.....God fix it but its all written and clear to u*be careful and don't be stupid
ReplyDeletePoster 2..u are not a born again christian..but if I may advice u..just kepp away from sex by not visiting ur partners in crime....
#am single and searching#no jokes here pls#
Pst 1...
ReplyDeleteHe loves u very much and he dosent give u money, he makes decision without letting u kno, biko what is ur idea of love sef? Hian!!
Pst 2... That guy says u aint gud in bed bcos while doing it u were feeling guilty already!
Try to askk the holyspirit for help. And get married u will overcome, It is well.