Na waaaah!!!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
A VICTIM OF ABUSE AND HUMILIATION
I am 31yrs of age, I had a terrible experience which has left me deserted ever since.
I met this guy in 2005 when I was in my year 2 in the university, he proposed marriage to me which I rejected and told him only if he can wait till I graduate and he waited.
We were just courting on phone, I refused to go to his place (Rivers State) just because I didn't want to have sex with him. I didn't really know him or anything about his family till 2009 that I agreed to marry him after graduation. He took me to his village (Ikwerre) to meet his mother and she accepted.
We got married in 2011, but immediately after wedding, I started seeing strange things. I had 4 miscarriages, he started beating me and humiliating me in the presence of his family. I thought may be its because I was not from their tribe but its much deeper than that.
One day, the mother called me to leave her son because she owns him; I got scared.
I informed my pastors and my unit in church and we all started prayers. I got pregnant again and this time, the mother challenged me why I should be pregnant because that was not her agreement with her son. But I insisted I will stay and fight the battle to finish.
Three months later, the guy had stroke; the family rejected him for me and I was single handedly taking care of him with pregnancy.
I took him for deliverance in my Church, a week later his mother had stroke. The guy got well and my EDD passed but baby refused to come out till 11 months.
I was delivered of a bouncing baby girl, few hours later the baby died. After a month, the guy threw me out that his family doesn't want me. I left empty handed. It's been over a year now but I can't get over it.... The pain is so deep that I cry everyday.
I need love, I need care but I'm so scared I could get hurt again. Please what do I do to forget the pain of the past and move on?.
Thanks Stella for giving me the privilege to relieve this burden in my heart. God bless you.
You will find love again,just be open and allow yourself heal
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP ISH AND MARRIAGE ULTIMATUM
Hello Stella, I have been trying my best to forget this but I can't just forget. I got engaged last year and le boo refused to see my parents for further introduction and marriage rites so we started having cracks and finally I left because it wasn't working out. Fast forward to later, my friend introduced me to his friend and he was so sweet and nice that I couldn't help but go back on my promise of staying off guys. We started a relationship(distant) even when I expressed my fears of having such(my ex was also distant) but he assured me that love is what matters most so I gave in to him.
After months, I started noticing the reduced calls nd chat which he told me about that he was passing through a phase so I started praying for him and assuring him that it would end well. My dear, it didn't change o so I decided to travel down to see him and really know what he is passing through(wrong move) I spent almost all my savings on the journey infact I almost got involved in an accident just for Love o, I finally got to see him after almost two days of arriving in his town and at night, he begged for sex (i did it for love again o! Silly me) .
I left back to my base the next day and le boo no even say take dis 5naira add to ur t fare o! I no talk.
As I am typing this, it's already two weeks he called me last even when I call he picks it randomly and talks reluctantly. I try chatting him(we chat like 22hrs daily before) he replies reluctantly. I complain he tells me to calm down nd understand him bla bla bla. The time I was in his place I wanted to snoop but his phone was tied to his chest so no access.
What do I do with this guy please? I am trying to get my mind off him but I can't because I love him, should I just hold on till he comes back around or delete him completely? I ve always been a good lover but I am never lucky with love(na on dis same busy busy ish, I had to separate with my ex).
I have never ever ever been lucky with love and my mum has given me a sort of deadline now. Please I need your advice.
You saw all the signs and you still gave him booty?I hope you have learnt your lesson that booty does not keep a guy.
I dont know but your mail sounds like you nag a lot...?
I dont want to judge you darling but this relationship is dead on arrival,move on and tell the next one that comes your way no show until he puts a ring on...that is if you are looking to settling down..
I pray u get d what u want!
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile make I read comments first.
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Emj jay, so u mean say upon all the insult them heap on u yestrday, e no evn shake ur cloth, u stl get mind comment aimlessly without reading, jst to be 1st, hian.... I admire ur thick skin tho, but I don't need such thick skin in such aspect, I need it to achieve my life dream.... Ure truly shameless I must admit, a disgrace to women, tufia
DeletePoster 1, na wah o, things dey happen. Be grateful to God for delivering you from such diabolical family, what you passed through was serious all in the name of marriage. Live your life, love shall surely come your way, it came before, it shall come again. Take care.
DeletePoster2 if your mum has given you deadline why not tell her to find a man for you. Even you can see the writing on the wall that man isn't interested. Finito.
DeleteNo price jare, na mumu she be.
DeletePoster 1.
DeleteYou have already started the healing process by talking about it, that's why you feel like a burden's been lifted already.
First of all, take your pain to God and leave it there at his feet. He will comfort you. Please don't pray for the downfall of anyone at this point. Focus on yourself.
Immerse yourself in whatever it is that you do, for now you need to heal and thinking will impede healing.
Get more active in your church activities, focus on improving your performance at work/ business or whatever it is that you do for a living.
Take up other interests like getting fit physically ( this doesn't refer to weight loss, although that helps if you need it), offering support ( not necessarily financial) to a charity organisation, volunteer at an orphanage home, join a sports club etc.
Anything that takes idle time off your hands now will really help you for now and the pain will fade with time.
If your activities involve working with other people, that will help you heal faster and trust again too.
Poster 2.
Una no de hear word. Don't underestimate the power of soul ties.
You noticed he was distant and wasn't calling and chatting like before and your solution was to sleep with him?
Women will no longer be heart broken when they start thinking like men.
Now you're in love with him ( all of a sudden!)
Let him go, if he fights to get you back, good. If not, take it as a lesson learnt and go into your next relationship with your head, not your heart.
@poster2 : you are dating yourself.
Delete@poster1 : Give love a second chance but use your brain. God will give you your own man at the right time.
Loool don't I just luv u em Jay lol. Ur a strong girl keep it up. But pls don't insult my boo again oo 'money maker'
Delete@poster 1 y dint u go 2 d hospital 2 get checked wen u dint fall in2 labour afta 9 months it's risky 2 leave a baby in ur womb past 9months sorry abt ur situ bt in future go 2 d hospital nd get checked prob induced 2 save d life of ur baby.
DeletePoster 1, God will take care of you. Just thank God for delivering u from that evil family and NEVER go back, go closer to God, study your Bible more and pray more, attend Church more, true love would locate you
DeleteAnony16:39,Dream achiever she is here to stay,wat re u doing here,where is ur own comment concerning d post,u re a compound fool,u came here just to cuss her out,i pity u,u can't bully her outta here,give up already oloriburuku olosho! @anno19:09 ohhh u didn't see wat ur useless mumu boo wrote yesterday?
DeleteEm jay dear,i luv u more for this,let dem hate as long as they can,keep d fire on.
#iluvemjay.
Anno u didn't call her monkey licking lime today,now I believe u re really a blind bat,bcos of dat ur line I checked her pix,mehhh u re a fool,if u call dis pretty gurl a monkey,wonder wat u will call ur miserable self,thunder fire u dia. I hate bullies,especially d annos.
DeletePoster 2. Ur relationship isn't going sour because u had sex with him. He started the behaviour before u had sex, so it's not like he 'used and dumped' u I like most of u like to say. Which I do not agree with. Cos sex is enjoyable for both parties. .
DeleteHowever, the issue is with the guy's state of mind, and I don't think it has anything to do with u. He has something bothering him that's why he's shutting u out of it, cos he doesn't want to, or cannot share it with u. Or he thinks that he cannot give u what u want (not money but commitment).
It could also be that he has financial crisis, which was why he couldn't give u a dime when u visited. Or, he could be in an emotional entanglement with another babe that he loves, which is affecting u. Dude can't make up his mind, and he's prolly healing from whatever his issue is...and I suspect he'll come back to u when he has cleared his slate. But know this, u are not the problem, he's the one who's undecided.
You can choose to calm down and wait a bit.. YES, wait a bit.. but don't call or contact him unless he does. Give urself a time frame that u can wait for.. after which if he doesn't change, u can then tell him to bounce..and u move on. Forget ur mom's pressure biko.
On behalf of emjay, Jesus fix it
DeletePoster 1, please just commit everything into the hands of God..... It will surely end in praise ..... Poster 2, your narrative reeks of desperation. Work on your self esteem ASAP...... I wonder why you would want to stay put in a sinking ship
ReplyDelete"...I couldn't help but go back on my promise of staying off guys" really???
DeleteWowza! So you were going to marry a tree...rubbish!
You can't stay off guys because you eventually are to marry one.
Just forget about this guy. It's clearly written on the wall,it's left for you to see it or buy Rayban glasses to see it clearly of which I doubt is going to work for you as you need a brain to figure it all out..
Sad sad stories everywhere.
DeletePoster 1: God will comfort you and heal your heart. Talk to him when you feel sad. He would make you smile again.
Poster 2: cut him off joo...delete number, block him from all social media...you don't need such in your life. You deserve much much more than him...you will get over him sooner than you think. It is well.
Where is Lady IGO. Miss her comments..
Eya....I just feel so sorry for these two posters
DeleteGod heal them......They are really hurting
@Galore
Poster 2 chronicle speaks perfectly of me' i have committed it in God hands o... Let him have his way!!! Poster 1 i really feel for you , thank God you came out of this' God is ur strenght
DeletePoster 1: so so sorry about the failed marriage. Time heals all wounds. With time you will be fine. Free ur mind and let it go. If u do, you will heal. Tell urself the dunce ain't worth it cos of the troubles u faced when with him. Assure urself u will be fine and God will help u heal. Listen to gospel songs often and engage in stewardish right in church.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: he's just not into u!
Peace... Unto u.
DeleteAnd unto u too!
DeletePoster 1. Gimme d guy's address, I wanna help u kill him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: as we say here, u are in a situation ship and not a relationship. Stop calling him. He has prolly fallen for someone else. Stop calling, if he misses u enough to be calling, fine, if not, move on with Ur life. Life's too short.
Ikwerre.... One chance
DeleteHahahaha, Eka Joy yaff vex
DeleteHahahahahahaga@ Joy u just made me faint.
DeletePoster one pls come here and get E Hug.
You will find joy and Happiness Soon.
poster 2. Eka joy has said it
Poster1, your ex husband is under spiritual influence, probably from his mom.
Deleteeka joy, u sef fey follow say "prolly" lmao... dey struggle to form porsh. mumu. lokito like u.
Delete@anon 19.08, so me using 'prolly' is trying to form porshe???? Chai, u must be really local. I pity u sha cos u no get hope again.
DeleteP2 u r a side chick or a fling!
ReplyDeleteHe's going through nothing!
Guys can lie their way into ur bra n pant..
They will do introduction just to spermatize ur private part..
Don't be sad about giving him Ur booty, nobody forced u, u cum he cum..finish.
Girls keep walkin into crooked situations with their eyes open & end up blaming the devil, when they narrowly escspe with their life they say God delivered them.. Issokay.
DeleteI like this blackberry babe oh.
Poster one, i really thank God for u,thank God uv not giving birth to any child bfor u realise d kind of family u got married to,definately ur chance of getting married again is very high. I already got 3kids bfor i realise d kind of devilish family i got married to,am already at d point of bcome a single parent bcus its now a matter of life and death. Imagine! Who is goin to marry me wth 3kids.i jst av to face the consequences alone with my God.tmrw am goin to be 35.hmmm! Single parent with 3kids at 35.so my dear u a veryluck,may God give u a good and caring man.
DeleteAfterall both of them used each other
DeleteLmfao
DeleteNawa oooooo......fix it jesus....
ReplyDeletePoster 2
ReplyDeleteDude collected good bye sex from you.
If you go back there again,trust me,he will sleep with you again.
You are not in a relationship dear. You "is" SINGLE!
You are luckier than poster one because you have not entered,infact you should thank God.
Poster one
Wait,11months? No option of CS? I don't understand!!!!!! The baby will not agree to come out through surgery? Haa!!!!!
Move on with your life...That family got a lot of nasties going on there.
Am telling u poster u married into a very devilish family . God saved u sef
DeleteU came out wth ur life.
Iphie,dont u know that such pregnancies after 9months become so delicate CS can lead to death?infact some will say d babies disappear in d womb once a CS is scheduled.its usually spiritual affair.had a colleague that carried dis kind of pregnancy for almost two years,after a long spiritual battle,they were just able to remove a creature from her womb:half male,half something else,dead on arrival!
DeletePoster1,u should tank God he saved u from such an evil family.if u force urself to that place again,they might take ur life dis time.respect ur remaining time on earth and stay away from them.hold urself,Loneliness will pass.
Poster2,u have just being duped sexually'!seem u are not a mean gal like yesterday's poster,try and be mean esp with ur pussy.best of luck next time.
@ChyAda..Devilish indeed.
Delete@Queen Bee...Omg@babies disappear!! I have not come in contact with someone with this kind of issue ooh,just heard about it.
I hate unexplainable spiritual things(evil)
So sad@poster1,but dear be happy,i believe God delivered u frm d hands of dat ur wicked ex husband's family,do u knw d agreement d mother was talking about? No I guess,so dust ur ass and move on,its not easy,but try to get busy with,time heal all wounds,with tym it's will be in d past.
ReplyDeletePoster2,a guy was behaving like dat,u still slept with him? Anyways d deed has be done,he said he needs tym,so give he time,just expect d worst,so dat wen it's comes,its wouldn't shocker to u,i for one believes wen u truly luv someone nothing will make u distant urself frm him/her.
********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Em jay please come again, you say?
DeleteSee this monkey sef de give advise, chai... This world don spoil....
DeleteI been wan ask who type for u till I begin see time bombs all over the english..... Make I help u, THE DEED HAS BEEN DONE.......SO GIVE HIM TIME.......SO THAT WHEN IT COMES.......IT WLDNT BE A SHOCKER TO U..... I FOR ONE BELIEVE......
DeleteBiadi this chic, owu na okpu isi amaghi akpu ka obu na blade di nku? Is it that you can't speak or write good English or the problem is from auto correct? No I ain't hating
Deletelol, em jay dont worry, even if u dont comment for the remaining days of the year ur december 20k will still get to u. u have paid ur dues... lmao
DeleteSweetheart sufry with d gbagaun u hear!bless u
DeleteFool,since u ve decided neva to see anytin gud in wat she writes,u will be blinded forever den,if she didn't use unto correct,can't u correct her without hate,anno now I believe u re one person,keep spreading ur hate,so where is ur comment,since u read? Useless goat.
DeleteEmjay shaa wants to be commenting first..den later reads d post and comments again
DeleteLmao... Em jay?
DeletePoster 1 sorry about all you went through but please however hard try to leave your past behind and focus on your future with your child. The Lord is your strength.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you don't even know the breeze that is blowing you. What do you want us to do now? We should help you beg the guy or what? He never liked you and you gave him free booty better move on and open your eyes next time.
Number 1,that is strange,you will find love.
ReplyDeleteNumber 2,did I hear u say ur mum is giving u deadline??? Forget that guy and get wise,take things easy,pressure will make you fall into wrong hands.be wise oh!
Poster1
ReplyDeleteTry not to dwell on your past pains.
Poster2
You are too desperate. Try to take things easy.
Poster.what kind of family is that
ReplyDeleteOMG
Put every thing behind you and move on
The right man will come looking for you
Stay strong
Poster2.dude is not good enough for you
Open your eyes
Poster 1: ur husband is a devil together with his family. Move on, u'll find love again.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: u still gave him the cookie? Hian!!!
Narrative1 God is ur strength. Narrative2 giving ur body to a man u are not married to does not make u a good lover infact it's a sign of weakness.
ReplyDeleteIt is obvious your in laws does not want you again. You just need to move on with your life. You need to put whatever has happened behind you and looking forward for a better days ahead.
ReplyDeleteYou may need to cut long distant relationship as I can see they are not working out for you. This time you need to be very careful and don't throw yourself over a man.
@poster2;are you asking if you should move on when the guy in question here don "chop clean mouth" ?? Oriegwu ooo!!
ReplyDeletePlease just kindly move on if you still wanna live your life peacefully;and just get it to your head now that sex does not guarantee A man staying with you..it only adds more flavour to A relationship but yet who wants to stay with you will be patient with you regardless of you tying your legs together and pretending to be A mermaid or not;unless definitely the guy wants you in his life just for fun and not as a "Wifey" material..
#enough said,so just play wise next time..
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N1. I'm so upset with you! How could you marry into a family you knew nothing about? How could you marry a man you didn't know well? I'm upset because you sound like such a good woman but a silly one. Be wise my dear. Relationships these days dey see road very well. Imagine the strain all those miscarriages put on your body!! Why did you keep trying to get pregnant?
ReplyDeleteN2. The second guy sensed your desperation. E don chop you dump you. Don't be jumping into rebound anyhow without identifying what went wrong in your last situationship. I say situationship because it seems you've been involved with very immature insecure men. It's not by deadline o it's to marry well and stay married happily. It's the pressure you are putting on yourself/letting people put on you (your mother) that's manifesting in your relationships. Easy does it o. Ehen.
P1, please let go. God has saved your life and your complaining. Go and do thanksgiving o... That family no be am at all. Hold on to your God and he will make a way for you. Its well.
ReplyDeleteP2, nne bcos of family pressure you turn keziah? Kpacha kwa anya gi there! Na wa for you o.. You don give the guy chop na, d guy don bone. You better count your losses and move on. Im sure people are asking you out around u, pick one . Tie ur legs together bcos its obvious u dont have bomb pussy.
Hahaha
ReplyDeleteWho else noticed how that keyboard warrior's hateful comments on em jay were swallowed yesterday.
The thing sweet me
Say no to cyber bullying and keyboard warrioring.
Dead guy!
Em Jay, we love you
Word!!!!!!!!!
DeleteSay no to cyber bullying
1luv Em Jay
@money makes...I luv u too dearie,and every oda person dat said no,una far too kind,luv luv u all.
DeleteI de suspect say u too de jobless like the emjay, so that's ur contribution today? Well, ure beginning to be part of the solution nt the prob, bettrr than u demoralizing women all the time.... Emjay dnt let ths sex freak fool u oh, I sense he's coning for ur ass.
DeleteYes,we love emjay..money makes...... I want to love you but na this your moniker dey stop me..I can't be loving a guy that disrespects females na.
DeletePoster one..so sorry about your ordeal..just be patient,God will mend your broken heart and send you the man of your dreams..it's not the end of the world..I think you should be celebrating you got out of that occultic family alive.Just be calm dear,the lord has special plans for you,his work is not done yet in your life..e-hugs and kisses
DeletePoster2,you are dating yourself, do you need a prophet to tell you that that relationship is over? I hate it when girls make their whole life about a particular person.tell your peeps to be calm,when the right time and man comes, you will be married.marriage is not something you should rush into because you feel Time is no longer on your Side..
Poster 1....just have an open mind,time heals. U will be fine swty n love will find u!
ReplyDeletePoster 2....are u serious? Ok let me spell it out to u....HES IS NOT INTO YOU! Move on jare!
@1, sorry for ur loss but u are d architect of ur misfortune, I don't know y women like to gree die for marriage, was it not obvious dat he's mother was a witch, he beats u, he's family torments u yet u stayed, u want to fight people who are bigger than u,is not by prayer and fasting, common sence is very important, hope u ve learnt ur lesson in a hard way, as for me, I no get body Wey man go beat.
ReplyDelete@2,if u like cook chicken in a gold plate and do monkey style in bed, a man knows whom he's heart truly belong to, y won't men use u when u are desperate for marriage, tell ur mother to give u a husband, it's bitches like u that make men disrespect women.
Poster 1, I cried reading your narrative. Jesus will fix it for you just believe. Be happy you left his home alive. Channel your time to church activities and work and pray. God will definitely remember you.
ReplyDeleteWe don't believe you, send us a pic of you crying. LOL
Delete#1 - Thank God you're alive to share this story. Hope you're working if not, get a job. Never give up dear, love will soon come.
ReplyDelete#2 - Are you still waiting for his calls/chat, if yes, you've entered one chance. That guy has a babe which he wanna marry and probably looking for a way to discharge you. If he comes with more promises, babes no gree o. You better tie your two legs together.
Poster 1... Did I hear u say ikwere.. Hian.. No go area. Poster 2.. Pls and pls free d guy. Take ur self out and make ur self happy again. No time
ReplyDeleteYou want to judge Nkwerre yet you guys are known for turning your wives into drum that you beat at will. If we judge you as you judge them would you be happy...no? So please stop.
DeleteAbeg pple should stop getting tribalistic. It's all about individual personalities.
DeletePoster 1. You're a typical example of I must marry. U didn't knw a guy much n u married him? And y name d tribe? It has notin 2do wit ur stupidity.Date guy on fone nxt tin na marry am. Abeg find love soon.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 another case of mama don say I must marry before 30.Oya kip loving him n go fuck him again.
I pray she posts this. I bind every spirit of swallowin post.
Poster numero uno: ds ur story is really sad. It almost brot tears t my eyes. Frm all u wrote, one can categorically say ur MIL is nt only a witch but she must b sleeping wt her son. Wot a world. Sorry dear, u will b foine. Thank God d demon infested marriage dint even produce any viable offspring. God wanted u t move on but u were nt seeing d signs all in d name of trying t make ur marriage work. You will definitely find luv again but for now dnt rush into any r\ship f now. Try t heal 1st n forgive dt HoRsEband of urs n evryone who hurt u in dt home.. Self love is important; no one except Christ can luv u more than u luv ursef. Its well wt u. Cheers
ReplyDeleteP1, your ex's case is deep and spiritual. Only the power of the Most High God can deliver him. Please dear, don't cry again. Go to Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. He wil see you through. Read your bible. Pray. Confide in your close church brethren so that they can give you a shoulder to lean on. Go out. Mix with people and take good care of yourself. Stop pitying yourself. It'll be alright at the end of the day. Hold on! Hold out!
ReplyDeleteP2, you're desperate. No man will ever take you serious.
Narrative 1.... Sorry oh! You would find love soon enough! Just keep your spirit high and keep praying God never fails.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, remover ur mind from him kpatakpata! Let him go and marry his mother. If actually what you said is the truth, it shall not be well witth him and his family. Pull ur self together and move on. Poster 2, forget that guy ho-ha! He has collected his share and park you! If you like, go and visit him again, he'll still collect oshor free from you without given you T-fare. I hope you've paid them the money you borrowed to go and visit him.
ReplyDeleteIt is well with all of you
ReplyDeleteStella, u are wrong to tell her she nags a lot. My dear u don't nag but God has showed u all the signs and u are still there. Ur mum gave u a deadline..... Wtf!!!! why should u care? Will she live with u when u enter and start seeing fire? OYO will be ur case o!!! U sound desperate!!! Love urself first and move on fast like Stella said and please, if u see signs and wonders next time, please leave!!!! God will not pull u out. Only u can! Success!!!
ReplyDeleteThe two posters have one thing in common- DESPERATION
ReplyDeletePoster1- you don't need a soothsayer to tell you that, the guy isn't really into you. Move the hell on!
Poster 2- you caused your problem yourself. Marrying a guy you know technically nothing about.
Lord fix it for both posters by giving them brains, even if it's as little as a pea size. Amen!
She doesn't nag a lot but always clingy. That's poster 2 problem. Chatting 22hrs daily are you both jobless?
ReplyDeleteTHELMA ENEMUWE said..
ReplyDeletePoster1--you ought to have fled immediately your mum-inlaw said she owns the son,na dia u supos know say she be winchy winchy,you come still carry ijoko siddon for sux family..efiam!!...thnk God say she nor see you kill Oo...Receive healing and move on...it is well with your soul..
Poster2---move on like a moving train and don't stop rara,the guy is fake!!!!
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
THELMA ENEMUWE said..
ReplyDeletePoster1--you ought to have fled immediately your mum-inlaw said she owns the son,na dia u supos know say she be winchy winchy,you come still carry ijoko siddon for sux family..efiam!!...thnk God say she nor see you kill Oo...Receive healing and move on...it is well with your soul..
Poster2---move on like a moving train and don't stop rara,the guy is fake!!!!
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Poster numero deux:
ReplyDeleteDs life, one will hv lots of guys begging f her attention n anoda will b praying t b able t kip one guy.
Anyways dear poster,
1stly» I think u need pray n break evry soul tie u r enmeshed in. Then free ur mind n forgive these guys dt hav wronged u.
2ndly» look inwards... N do some self analysis- character wise. Ask ursef if u were a guy, if u wud date somone like u. If ur ansa is No, find were u r lacking n adjust probably hygiene wise #justsaying
3rdly» be ursef! Lyk I always tell my frend- dnt Eva change f anyone cos person wey go luv u go Luv u except if d change is a positive one n not t lose ur identity n fit into anoda person"s own.
4thly» ask ursef wot u really want in a guy. Write dem down. Yea its gud t hv expectations as human beings so dt we don't settle f less but ur expectations shud b reasonable.
5thly» be positive. Love will find u, just relax n wen d next man coms dnt play wifely roles abeg. Also if u knw u dnt wanna sleep wt him Pls close ur leg tightly. Sex can't keep a guy n conji no dey kill.
Then as for d hediot who hasn't called afta u slept wt him. My dear, he's bad news. Delete his number n move on. Wot is dead is dead. U were a side chick inugo. Its well wt u. Cheers.
postet 1; Move on already. Life is too short to be tagging someone who doesn 't deserve u cos some one else loves u. Forget him n give another guy a chance.
ReplyDeleteposter2; marriage ultimatum like seriously? please don't get married bcos of d pressure cos it will make u overlook d things u shouldn't all in d name of answering mrs somebody. Tell ur mum u 'll get married at God 's appointed time. Gosh! naija mums ehnn . As for d long distance r/ship, i hate it. I ' ve tried it b 4 but had to quit later. pls remember to tie ur legs aswell till u know wotz up.
Help a sister in need. I am hungry
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postet 1&2 move on already
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you've really been through alot imagine 4 miscarriages with all d morning sickness n carrying a baby to term only to loss her after birth, only Christ can comfort you dear please pour out your heart to him and try to be happy. As 4 ur MIL, watch n see how her end will be.
ReplyDeleteMschew!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 1 one thing I know is that there is no peace 4 d wicked, please leave both of them to God.
ReplyDeleteWahala dey everywhere
ReplyDeletePoster1. Thank God u came out of dat marriage with ur life intact. A very dear friend of mine had this same issue. God rest her soul. She did not survive it. Apparently u were married to a man who is married to his mum in d spiritual realm. Yes ur ex mother inlaw is a witch. Finding love again shouldn't have been d reason for this narrative. In fact this should be rewritten as a testimony. God bless u as u start again.
ReplyDeleteSome mothers and sisters inlaw are just from hell, imagine mine advised my hubby never to petition 4 me to join him in d states but he did not heed their advice n am now with him, they now want to have a good relationship with them accusing me of not calling these are people who never cared how I was faring o when i was in naija, never asked of their nephew, hmmmmmm God is watching o. Poster 1 this too shall pass please hold on to God.
ReplyDeleteIje love, o dikwa risky ooo. God pls fix it for them IJN Amen
ReplyDeletePoster 2,you saw the handwriting in big bold capital letters & you still jumped inside that relationship with him.You will do yourself a lot of good if you start forgetting that "wayo" you called a relationship.
ReplyDeleteIf thrs a special price for first commenters, sum1 shld let me knw na... Ths gal keeps maintaining her position.
ReplyDeleteLook @dead on arrival
ReplyDeletePoster 2, get a job! Cos if u had a job u won't be travellliing all d way to God knws where to see a guy dt issntt ur husband jst to knack! Wen u ve a job ur mindd wud be tto occupied u won't ve timee tto be worrying about a dude! Poster 1, give ursellf ttimme to fully heal, u ve been thru a lot going into anoda rship nw wud jstt end in disaster only God n not MAN can heal u.. Goodluck tto u both andd poster 2 receive sense in jesus name
ReplyDeleteNarrator 1:I don't know why whenever a lady is going to her man's house to pass the nite,the next thing the lady thinks is I must have sex with him.Ladies,pls!wake up!No true guy will rape u if u don't give in when u are with him.Though as a correct man,u most make move to tempt her,if not,that same girl u are trying to honour will go out to dishonour u that u can't perform. U wanted ur dream marriage of no visit or sex before marriage ,and u had one.Have come to learn this in life,that in any choice one make,one shud be ready to stand by the results,whether gud ooo or bad.U took that decision of not making findings about him and his family, by being stubborn not to visit him,so enjoy the consequences of ur action. Not until most ladies are ready to face the 21st century relationship dictates and demands, they will always have problems.
ReplyDeleteNarrator 2:Visiting a man doesn't mean u shud have or must have sex with him.It is an avenue to know the kind of man u are dating;whether he can control his sexual urge or not,does he respect ur emotion or feelings when he is horny or what?Is he sexually active or not.I think u should have learnt ur lesson now,just move on with ur life.I think people shud love with their head and not heart.
With all due respect....what are you even saying? 21St century dictates what? That you should sleep with a man. You think that would have solved her issue? Biko think please think
DeleteWho do we have here? Ismail the ibo hater and lagos owner lol. Biko take your advice to hell. Ewu ibadan
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ReplyDeleteYou mean you paid your way to and fro just to get fucked??
Well as Blackberry talk, you cum, he cum. Don't be sad.
Now forget about the dude and move on.
Poster1
May God heal you of every pains.
Dear poster 1, sorry that you went through all that. You didn't know a lot about him or his family. God has delivered you from something very deep. But there is hope for you.
ReplyDeleteLamentations:3:25-26. The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to those who seek Him. It is good that one should hope and wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord.
Isaiah 61:1-4.
Isaiah 54:10, for the mountains shall depart and the hills be removed, but my kindness shall not depart from you, nor shall my covenant of peace be removed, says the Lord who has mercy on you.
Isaiah 54:4
Isaiah 49:15-16
Isaiah 58:8-9
Isaiah 46:4 Even to your old age, I am He, and even to your gray hairs I will carry you! I have made, and I will bear; even I will carry, and will deliver.
I didn't write out some of the verses but please read them. You seem to pray even though I know it will be tough for you to right now. You can talk to God, like you are talking to a friend. Ask the Lord to heal you and remove the scars. Only He can do that. Pls do not despair.
Poster 2, you don't have a relationship, leave him and please sex doesn't keep a guy. Go into a relationship with understanding.
Poster 1. The Lord is ur strength, move on with ur life try to socialize and you will find love again. If u ask me I will say is too sudden to start finding love, heal first and God will fix you. Poster 2 pray harder God will grant u ur heart desires.
ReplyDelete@STELLA DIMOKOKORUS; Dem go "put ring" . . . yes, na knacking ring be dati ooo. Dem go knack every hole. Dem go dump join. @LADY IGO will always say; "close your legs until bride price is paid" . . . AND YES, I BELIEVE HER. NA BIBLE BE DAT. Kai, wey dat woman sef?
ReplyDelete@poster 1; yours is a spiritual battle and fasting and prayer is the rule. don't stop.
No there is no spiritual battle. She has left that evil family.
DeleteNigerians and everything "spiritual battle!!! "until they die there. What of God dissapointing you so as to save your life?
DeleteIt is well with both of you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you were just a desperate side chick.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, accept the goodbye sex and move the fuck on.
See your mouth like "I love him"
Have you finished loving yourself?
Receive sense!
Sad sad sad sad!!!!
ReplyDeleteWhen will babes learn to take the signs seriously and walk out of bullshit?? No man is ever so busy for a woman he loves. Poster 2 biko move on with ur life before I vex ooo.
ReplyDeletePoster 1......its such a sad situation u found yourself....but thank God you won the battle! You will most definitely find love again, the way we women are programmed gives us the ability to endure pain like in childbirth and relationships......have and open mind and pray abt it.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.......I feel your pain!! Society pressure on us when we at a marriageable age and we still single........its not easy to get over hartbrk but believe me when you take so much bullshit from a guy it will get to a point dat u will tell your self to move on......I think you are at dat junction, so dust yourself up get pretty go out meet pple....ur man is out dere and above all pray.
Both Posters it is well.
ReplyDelete1. Forgive yourself and accept the Christ has forgiven you. He remembers your sin no more
2. Repent and don't repeat what makes you feel guilt or shame. Poster 1 meditating on the past and Poster 2 fornicating.
3. By His Grace we are all saved. Meditate on Christ love by reading the Bible. Take quiet moments to talk to Him. Your disappointments or anything your hurt everything.
4. Fast and pray. Be consistent in praying your psalms and read the love story of Esther over and over until you see the Love of Christ for His children.
5. Consistently break every soul ties. During your prayers you can even say this 10 times 20 times 21 times daily. Until you will know when you don't even meditate on that guy or even talk about your story with hurt in your voice or cry.
6. God will always provide your needs.
7. Every disappointment is a blessing.
In all we all look for love. And No one knows our story but the Lord. When we accept his Love we recognize what Love is and don't compromise or make excuses to get attention from men who want to use us.
Look for Lady Igo's advise on this blog. There is also 7 day fast she did. Follow it and you wouldn't be disappointed. It's to seek the face of God and get direction.
God bless you all.
In Jesus Christ Name Amen
Poster 1 please do not make this mistake again. Investigate and watch a man before you marry. They always show their abusive tendencies. A man who is too quick to fall in love, controlling, wants you alllll to himself, is too much of a people pleaser. Shouts at you and,insults you...he will be abusive 90 percent of the time.
ReplyDeleteP2...You are too desperate. Men can sense it from a mile away, I haven't spoken to you and I can sense it through your words. Leave that man alone and face life. Build up your esteem.
Poster 1. You don't need to find love now. You need to take sometime to heal and get your life back together. And then u can think of being with another man. Poster 2. U need to relax and pray and let God take control. If men sense that you're desperate, then they will treat u like crap.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Am feel for u ooooo. May Jah see u thru.....
ReplyDeletePoster 1, The signs were there but u went in anyway we can't cry over what has already happened. I am so sorry for all d pregnancies u lost but don't woryy time heals every wound and tell God to heal you totally. I suspect d guy must be dating his mum in d spiritual realm or they are in a cult and there's a covenant binding them.
ReplyDeletePoster2 love is not by force, I don't know why people like to force things at the end of d day, they start regretting, now u are seeing d sign, u won't run.
Poster 1; so sorry about this. Please you have to heal. Please do exactly this. Go for spiritual cleansing, that family is very diabolic . Please do not be sad but praise God that you did not loose your life in everything. Remember that when there is life there is hope. Please you just came out of a very bad relationship please don't start looking for another one. Try and pick up the pieces of your life. Become close to God, read the scripture and pray, fast pray and cry (1 year ccomplete undistracted lifestyle change). The Bible says that there is time for everything under the sun. This is your time to hide under God's wings. Psalm 91, 51, 55, 35, 54. You are a child of God and you have been bought by the blood of Jesus! Repeat! Whatever ties you got yourself into by marrying that family has been broken! Please The battle is not over you need to cover yourself with the blood of Jesus. You are a testimony please don't look for man now focus on yourself spiritually, pray and cleanse yourself. Those babies that died it's not a small issue spiritually. Don't mourn that you left that marriage, worse could have happened so be glad. If you still feel lonely go to motherless baby home and serve those children, love will grow in your heart. It's also good for you to be around children because children bring children. It is well with your soul. You are victory and power and might in Jesus name. Amen
ReplyDeletePoster1. It's well with you. Your joy will definitely come soon. God will make you to smile again
ReplyDeletePoster2, sorry, you saw all the signs yet you offered him your honeypot thinking he will change after drinking from it. Story!!!Abeg, check the next door, the guy has moved on.
Poster 1...Thank God you are alive.Be dedicated in church,God will restore all you lost in amazing ways.Your ex husband's family is evil.Thank God you didn't loose your life while you were married to him or during childbirth.Be strong in the Lord and he will fight your battles for you.Please stop crying and start praising God instead.You have every reason to thank him.You have life which is the mother of all gifts!
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