Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative.

Love is too complicated abeg!

STAND ALONE NARRATIVE.

CAUGHT IN A WEB OF LOVE AND DRAMA.

Dear Stella ,

How you doing? You've been doing a great job and it's really amazing how much I've learnt through your blog. God bless.

I usually give sound and reasonable response to Bv chronicles, I think I need same now.

Here is my chronicle: it's quite long though but please bear with me.

I met this guy who lives in the US in 2011 through my sis, he's been an old friend of my sis before he travelled so I guess they reconnected and my sis being the best human she is felt she should hook us becos I was single then. 

The guy and i got talking gradually and in months we became very close, I am not someone that likes distance relationships so I had my reservations.

One day after few months he suggested we both meet in Dubai for vacation since getting US visa is always hard and I was in school couldn't go thru all the stress. I accepted and we making plans for when I will be on break.  My sister was ecstatic!!!

One night in 2012 after almost 5months of us talking everyday.. I found out he was getting married few weeks to that time! I saw pictures, wedding invitation, bridal showers pics etc. I was devastated I cried for days not because of anything was just wondering how someone could be so deceitful and thanking God I hadn't made the Dubai trip. I confronted him and he didn't deny it, he told me the girl was pregnant and her family insisted on marriage plus it's gonna help him secure his papers. But he met me(even though we haven't met in person) he loves me and wishes everything could go back.

I summoned courage and let him go, he tries to make contact but I just push all behind me and move on. But since then he still tries and I reply maybe once in 6-8months. Oh! And my sister fought with him like a crazy lion for lying to me

( she's like that got my back always)

In mid 2014, he called me and we talk for a while, he said he wants me and his marriage isn't working, he can't get over me and am gonna be the best woman for him, Stella he professed endless love jargon but I wasn't interested cos he's  not married to me.

Now in 2015, I am 31yrs moved to the US,am comfortable but still single, doing my Msc, working too, I don't know how he got my contact but he called and said he's been trying to reach me and when he heard I've moved to the U.S. he was excited,I asked what he wanted, he said he was looking for me to tell me he's in d middle of his divorce so we can be together now! part of me was happy but another part wasn't . He later told me he has two kids and d divorce is turning out to be messy becos the wife wants a lot which he can't give and also he didn't get to do d papers becos he's filing for divorce.

 (Yes if your spouse is filing for your papers and divorce comes in, it gets suspended or terminated if the spouse reports it)

We have finally met! But never had sex he said he wants to wait to prove to me it's not about sex. We live in different states and he's planning on how to move to his state.

Now am scared if I really want him coz of all these drama I think the wife knows I exist from d start so it's a lot of legal drama and am still young to be a stepmom to two little children. We have different religion too but he's wonderful and hardworking.

My sister said she doesn't care if we date or not. But I shouldn't cry to her if he messes up hmmmm. My other siblings are indifferent, my mum says I should do what will make me happy.

I used to say I can never marry a man with kids but now I don't know anymore?

Please my dear matured BVs  you guys are part of me in a strange way, please what do I do? Should I go ahead with him or just go elsewhere? I love him(I realized that I sincerely do)

Ps: I have couple of prospective single suitors with no drama and care for me.