A Woman's Response To ETCETERA'S Article In Defence Of Men Who Cheat

Etcetera you don buy market and at this point,i step aside,you are on your own oh......

Dearest Stella, 

I would love you share this article on your blog if you find it worthy. I write as a woman to every man out there who, like Etcetera, believes that men are justified to cheat because they are 'wired' to.

Etcetera really stirred lots of emotions with his article by defending men who cheat. As I read through it, all I saw was a representation of the warped mentality most men have when it comes to justifying their infidelity instead of tackling it headlong knowing that there is a woman on the sideline ,called his wife, who is being hurt by his loose lifestyle.

When we learn to apply the Golden rule, 'Do unto others what you would like others do unto you', this world will surely be a better place. 

So for every man whose heart leaped with joy at Etc's exposition, gidi up, I have something to tell you. I speak as a woman, a wife, a mother and a lover. I speak up for millions of women who have endured your infidelity for so long and yet held on in hope for the sake of her love for you and the children she berthed for you.

No woman likes her man cheating on her. It's just that today's society has forced them into believing that men are wired to cheat just as women are wired to nag.  In fact it has become a common a belief that all men cheat (which isn't true because there are still faithful men out there who wouldn't dream of cheating on their wives. The 'all men cheat' ideology is just one of those Satanic lies to make men continue in this sinful act without a tinge of guilt).

Cheating is not exclusive to men, just as nagging isn't exclusive to women. Women also have the capability to cheat on their men. It's purely human nature. But it's only few who, despite the temptations, chose not to give in to this powerful seduction. 

Yes, man has the power to say no if he wants to. It's all about self control. It helps you keep your feelings in check so that you can do the right thing. 

If a man thinks he has high libido and no self control, consider this scenario where a man wants to get down with a lady only to discover she has STD. Would he go ahead and sleep with her or would he stop himself immediately no matter how wild his desires may be at that time?‎ Of course he will back out sharp sharp.

So let's stop hiding under the guise of men being ' wired to cheat' in order to justify their infidelity.

If men crave variety, women also crave variety (not familiarity,like Etcetera put it). After all they, like men, are human.  Who likes eating the same type of food everyday anyway?  Naturally nobody wants to eat the same food day in, day out. So this particular example is inappropriate.

One day, I read an article about a man whose wife caught him cheating, again. In tears, his wife told him that she will also cheat on him if she ever caught him again cheating on her in future. The man wrote in saying that he can't stand the thought of another man being on top of his wife!

Now, I ask: What gives men the right to think that they can cheat on their wives yet their wives can't cheat on them? If this man can't stand the thought of another man sexing his wife, doesn't he know he is traumatizing his wife by having sex with another woman? If you know you will be hurt by exactly the same thing you are doing to your spouse, why would you even want to do it? It's pure wickedness.

When we learn to put ourselves in other people's shoes, we will not be doing certain things that we do. Etcetera, by his infamous opinion is simply promoting sexual lawlessness thereby deceiving gullible men ( and women) and fanning the embers of their sinful activities. It's a pity.

Imagine a society where every man cheats on his wife and their wives retaliate by cheating on their husbands; what kind of family will they build? What manner of society will they create? A free for all society where anything and everything goes!

When a man craves variety and desires every single woman he fancies and wants to sleep with them, is it not animalistic?

What is wrong is wrong and saying men are 'wired to cheat' won't make it right.‎ If their women decide to tow the same line, it's going to be disastrous cos both of them will have multiple partners and multiple partners result in increased risk of contracting STDs, unwanted pregnancies, abortions and all manner of evil. Choosing righteousness always, always pays. God's Word is given to guide every sphere of our lives.

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‎What would you say then about men who are faithful to their wives? Are they not men? Do they not desire variety? No. It's just that these are 'real' men who truly love, respect and value their wives and have chosen their wives to be everything thing to them; their fantasies, their variety because they believe infidelity is immoral and has its consequences.

 A creative man can create variety out of his wife. You mustn't sleep with every woman you find attractive because you want to experience the wonders and pleasures of her feminity. You will only be a slave to lust, an animal with intincts, sleeping with everything in skirts. What kind of life is that?

So take it or leave it, infidelity is wrong. If you are a man please do unto your wife what you want her to do unto you. If you will be happy when your wife cheats on you, then please by all means do the same!

 Like you, your wife is human, with feelings. If she stays faithful to you, it's not because she can't cheat on you but its simply because she chose not to cheat on u. You can do same and choose not to cheat on your wife. Stop hiding under the farce of being 'wired to cheat' because you can 'chose' not to cheat.

Cheating is purely human nature incited by lust. But when a man truly fears God and applies self control, he is able to bring lust to subjection. He becomes in control of his body, not his body being in control of him.

So, dear men, treat your wife the way you want to be treated if you were in her shoes. A word is enough for the wise. Do the right thing.

Mitchelle O. (Writer and relationship blogger)

Etcetera's article in defence of men who cheat HERE

Joseph Edgar's Response Cussing Out Etcetera HERE